Where did I mess up?

Reformed65 · 2017-07-08T17:25:29+00:00

She sounds like too much work.

FuckboyAWALT · 2017-07-08T17:43:33+00:00

What do you mean by 1 and 2?

About the ride thing, if it's on your way alright pick her up but if not she should find another way to get there.

You are not a taxi and you value your time over hers.

GuestsGetGreens · 2017-07-08T17:45:54+00:00

Not a bad texting game. Here's a few notes

Tighten it up. Don't text too much. One or two short sentences max. Remember you're a busy man, and your time is valuable. You don't have time to read her long excuses. Don't text back so quickly.

You're making yourself too available. Don't be so quick to offer a second date/option if she declines the first (abundance mentality. You should already have other things scheduled)

A date that ends at 5 pm before she goes to work is not going to get you anywhere. Push for a night setting, or something after work.

[deleted] · 2017-07-08T18:34:46+00:00

Mentioning going to the gym was a minor thing, but it did start to smell like tryhard.
The birthday suit line was fine.
You don't have any basis for this whatsoever.

Your biggest mistake is the very last thing you said. She said she couldn't come and you were like "oh uhh yeah I can't come either." You could just said "Alright" or "gay" and leave it at that. If she offers another time to hang out, then cool. If not, then she's not that into you, and you won't be wasting your time.

wflores4 · 2017-07-08T20:41:57+00:00

DadOnDabs · 2017-07-08T23:06:54+00:00

Here is where you went wrong. Too many words. Replys should be one to two sentences max. Don't say shit that kills the surprise of what you're going to do either.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-07-09T00:18:14+00:00

The answer is number 3. She's selling you the idea that there is hope. It's her job to reel men in.

plasticslug · 2017-07-09T01:02:57+00:00

When people ask these kind of questions I dont think people realize the sheer amount of cock women have at their disposal. Were not talking 1 or 2 cocks on demand, but maybe a dozen... two dozen? Hell lets scour the 900+ Facebook friends, old phone list and not even consider the fact they can bring home ANY desperate fuck at a given time.

You didnt fuck necessarily fuck up, but rather underestimated the power she caries between her legs.

asotranq · 2017-07-09T02:46:11+00:00

This could all be overanalysis, but I digress:

Right off the bat, she doesn't seem to be that into you, honestly. All her replies take at least 1 hour, ask yourself, would she really react the same with Chad? In 5 hours, she didn't have time to send you one message? Sounds like she wasn't thinking about you or replying during that time, universally a bad sign. She's not really falling into your frame or going along with your suggestions.

Don't mention to a girl that you go to the gym, if you have to bring attention to that, you're clearly not there yet in terms of the physique girls like. So carry on with training and eventually let the results speak for themselves. Do you think Zyzz ever felt the need to tell anyone he worked out? It can come off as sounding insecure which is the absolute cancer of frame.

Something genuinely might have come up, it happens. I thought a girl went cold on me one time but her dad actually died the night our date was supposed to be.

You have an emoji in almost every message, personally I think this makes anyone (but especially a guy trying to establish a meetup) look a bit immature. Having a fun side and all that shit is great and pretty important, but there's something about it here that makes you look like a bit of a beta for some reason, kinda hard to pinpoint.

You made the right decision by not seeing her that night, keep it on your terms at least a little, if she doesn't respond then let it go. Never ask for a reply, that also makes you look pretty desperate in my opinion and completely undermines abundance mentality which is super important in the dating world.

Remember that since she's a girl (working at a bar no less) there are likely tens if not hundreds if not thousands of thirsty guys asking her for her number and messaging her daily. Standing out is going to be near impossible over text. Gaming over text is a pretty arduous task is it is anyway.

My main takeaway would be just talk to a lot more women and continue to improve yourself. I actually think you could've pulled off the birthday suit line, if only it was worded a little more tastefully and she was more initially attracted to you.

Apologies if this comes off as way too in depth or whatever, and I could be wrong about all of it, but this is what I can surmise anyway.

Title	Where did I mess up?
Author	wowitsme123
Upvotes	3
Comments	13
Date	July 8, 2017 5:17 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/6m261t/where_did_i_mess_up/
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