Hi, long time lurker, first time poster. First up, theredpill changed my life. I went from a beta boyfriend who's girlfriend was cheating on him with her ex to spinning 3 plates over the course of a year.

This is my first experience in spinning plates so I need your advice. I have a favourite, a petit blonde who is charming and pretty. Quite low maintenance. However, the red flags are she has a lot of guy orbiters around her. Low attention span. Cannot be alone and always needs validations from guys.

There are two incidents which make me want to ghost her. The first time was when we were supposed to meet up after she sees a "guyfriend" for a drink one evening. 30 minutes before our appointment, she messages me saying her meal is arriving late and she cannot make our date. Later she told me the drink with this guyfriend turned into dinner. And they stayed up till midnight together talking... Didn't think much of it because she is a plate and I made it clear I do not want exclusivity but the way she broke the date vexed me.

Second time around we were in a dance club. It was midnight and we agreed to leave. She was packing her stuff. And I went to my corner of the dance floor to get my stuff. Then I headed to the exit to wait for her as she was saying good bye to a friend. 3 mins pass by and she doesn't show. When I looked up, I find her dancing with one of the best looking guy on the dance floor. So much for going home immediately. I stayed cool and just voice my concern about the disrespect. She did not understand it was a big deal. So, soft next her for 4 days. Broke the soft next involuntarily as we move in the same dance scene and met up on the next dance floor. She was sorry about the whole affair and all the excuses came out as to why she did that. We fucked after that. Later on I come to learn that since we were not meeting up during the weekend, she made plans on the weekend to meet up with guyfriends (going out alone with them). She does that quite often. Normally does not bother given the nature of the relationship. But this time it did also given that the guy she dumped for dinner was one of the guys she is meeting up with.

I think she is jerking my chain and a hard next is in order. I am far from being alpha and have been a beta bitch sometimes. Writing the above out made it clear to me that she is indeed about to next me. However, I would appreciate your thoughts because I do not was to be over-reacting. Thoughts?

Thanks a lot guys.