Background: FWB upgraded to dating and fucking exclusively.

I have always had a problem with setting fucks/dates with this one. After going exclusive this has somewhat intensified. Part of this has to do with her hectic schedule but I know if a woman wants to fuck you she will find a way. While setting up meetups she would always insist on having specifc dates that are often more than a week away (sometimes even two). This really pisses me off. Further, I have stated it to her that this BS is stupid. She would often tell me she will try to fix a quicker date (which sometimes happens) but a lot of times would drag it closer to the original date. She fucks really well once she is there so no complains there and is overall non fussy and happily pays for her own meals and goes dutch on everything else. I am sure she is not cheating (atleast yet). What is the best way to handle this? My issue is that we end up fucking on her terms (dates) a lot of times.

Addtional Info: Earlier she used to have this problem of always being late. I got pissed once and just left instead of waiting so that led to her correcting her behaviour. So, I think somethig along that direction should work.

Here are a few options I have in mind:

  • Take some other chick to the place we were supposed to go. Upload pictures where she can see them. Pictures of me and the place (maybe not the girl). To make her hamster spin.

  • Start spinning older plates again. I am trying hard not to cheat here. But the options and lack of her consistency are really tempting me. Then deny when she plans to setup meetups.

  • Meet as planned by her - but deny sex and later tell her that I am turned off by her atitude of creating so much drama before every meetup.

  • Some sort of softnext. I don't know when to put this in action though and how to make it clear what this is for. These days I have been working hard on my mission and have decreased my text communication with her. This has resulted in numerous messages like "Why are you so busy...", "I want to hug you..." and similar crap. I am not sure if she would even know if she is being soft nexted and for what reason.

My main issue with all the above is making sure she does not miss the point of what I am vexed about. How do I do it properly?

Important: She isn't a plate anymore. I would like to keep it this way unless no other options. The problem is her behaviour fucking other women doesn't solve it. Let's rephrase this - How would you point to a plate/gf/fwb whatever that a certain behaviour is not okay with you and what would you use to send the message instead of just using your mouth to blabber.