Have a LTR for almost 3 years now. For most of the time i have been also spinning plates, but one plate stood out and we have been meeting quite exclusively for the past year or so and somehow developed feelings. At the same time, things became dull in my LTR - on the verge of breaking up. I think it's time to reflect and make a decision/change.

My LTR (23) is quiet/shy, has a good family background, stable. She is the kind of girl that would stay at home, etc. The other girl (27) is the direct opposite of her - we go for parties/drinking together, fun, talk about anything, great sex, like the moments we shared are good times.

I know these are just phases in life and it won't last forever, I see my current LTR as someone stable but does not have the same type of feelings i share for the other girl. The other girl do not have the same qualities as my current LTR in terms of education, family background. She's more wild, hard to control, etc. Seems like i'm almost breaking frame whenever when I'm with her. I also stopped spinning plates that much after i met her for the past one year.

I really do not know which is best for me, should i let go the fun and go with stability or the other way around. Need some advice.