I did the dumbest thing prior to discovering trp and shat where I eat. Got into a brief "relationship" with a girl I work with. Things went South. I don't want to get back with her, not the goal. After adopting the mindset here I can see how poorly I allowed myself to be treated. I cut off all possible avenues of contact except work related.

Whenever she's nearby she draws a lot of my focus and I experience intense mixtures of emotions. I'm having trouble sorting this out and remaining logical under emotional distress.

Anyone have tips for withstanding oneitis presence when it cannot be avoided?