Need help regarding several issues, maybe experienced members can help

Granite_Pill · 2018-10-21T23:50:25+00:00

The Art of the Power Nap. Coffee. Energy drinks. Uppers. A quick exercise to get the heart rate up. Discipline and will power to push through it.
Over the course of my life, I went out and did a lot of different things, tried a lot of different things, had a lot of experiences, experimented, took risks, read a lot of books, watched a lot of videos, listened to a lot of podcasts, and took a very serious and deep introspective look at my life and the world, and figured out what's important, what matters, and what makes me happy. Reasoning, trial, and error.
No, I changed my strategy.
I was clinically diagnosed with depression at age 15. I was prescribed different meds for ADHD and depression over the years. I had a rough time growing up. I went through some major shit in my adolescence and young adult life. Hell, I just clawed my way out of another pile of shit that blindsided me a couple of years ago. It never ends. A lot of stress and trauma. Exhausting. Circumstances beyond my control and my own fuck ups, bad decisions, ignorance, stupidity. I screwed things up. Despite this, I still managed to live an eventful life with lots of lessons to be learned. I still had my fun. I just didn't have any good guidance. I wasn't exposed to truly beneficial information. I probably wouldn't have listened to it anyway. I was crazy back then. Multiple times I thought I had it all figured out went down different paths only to have them end in disaster.

It was from those moments of crisis when I first began to experience anxiety. I will never forget that terror. That fear. It's as real as any life or death situation. It's like being in combat. The visceral terror of knowing the rug of life has been pulled out from under you and you're caught out in the open, under fire, nowhere to hide. Sheer terror. You're operating on pure adrenaline. Your entire existence is compromised. All hope is lost. You're fucked. Now I can see it was from those moments I was actually able to pinpoint the origin of my anxiety. I never had before my early-mid twenties.

I was 25 years old when I took my first red pill. Five years. It took five years to straighten out my life, get my shit together, eat more red pills, and make something of myself. I started out my working career life doing back-breaking labor and worked my way up to be the the number four man in small company. And then, just as I got all my ducks in a row and was living the dream, getting ready to make my next move, catastrophe struck and my life was ruined, yet again, and I lost everything and had to start all over again. It was rough. My only saving grace was I pulled my head out of my ass and equipped myself with the tools rescue myself. Now I'm doing even better than before. My anxiety is going away and my depression is severely diminished because I'm not worried, I'm not scared, I have a plan, I have the mental, physical, and material resources to make it happen. I am confident. Mountain fortitude. The most important advice I can give you is in three parts.

Number one, outside of yourself, your family is your most important asset. They are the only ones who are going to be there for you. Nobody else cares. It is the family unit that is the source of internal strength. If you do not have a good relationship with your family, then I am sorry, you are at a severe disadvantage. It cleared up a lot of anxiety knowing they're on my side, so if they haven't done anything too fucked up to you, you should rebuild the relationship with your family. I didn't have a very good relationship with my family, not since I was a kid. I had to rebuild it. I owe a great deal of my success to them. I will not return the favor by self-terminating. If you don't have a family or can't rebuild that relationship for some reason you're just going to have to try harder and work harder. Plenty of people don't have a family or come from a good family and they're doing fine. However, weak and broken family units is why most people are so fucked up to begin with.

Number two, you need to get a realistic understanding about how the economy works so you can make decisions that are going to pay off instead of just bumbling around from one bad decision to the next or drifting aimlessly through life without any sense of purpose. That right there is the greatest source of your depression. It's not that complicated. Read Economics in One Lesson by Henry Hazlitt. Read Basic Economics by Thomas Sowell. The most important take-away from these books is that resources are scarce and demand is infinite. The most illuminating bit of information you're ever going to learn is that your success is inextricably linked to the Law of Supply and Demand.

The Law of Supply and Demand applies to everything, including to people. You, your body, your time, your labor, your talents, your skills, and your knowledge are all resources. The problem is you either don't have a lot of resources that are in high demand or you don't know how to utilize those resources effectively. There's a lot of you's out there so it's not hard to replace you. When you have a high supply of something, prices are lower because there are less consumers of that thing competing to acquire it. It's just there for the taking. But when something is more scarce, consumers who need that thing will offer to pay more for it in order to get it. They compete with other consumers of that thing which bids up the price.

Your value as a man is determined by how useful you are to the group. Outside of your family and your closest homies, nobody gives a shit about you or your feelings. They care about what resources can you provide for the group. This doesn't mean that you can't make friends or everyone is out to exploit you. It means you're going to be judged first and foremost by your productivity, not by who you are as a person inside. The group will be very forgiving as long as you're providing those valuable resources. Right now, you are not valuable. You are worthless. You are not in demand. This is another reason why you're depressed. If you want make money so you can get all the girls, you need to possess those resources that are in higher demand. The scarcer a resource you are, the higher your price. That's all there is to it.

And third, a large part of your anxiety stems from not knowing what to do, not knowing what actions to take, not knowing how to get from point A to point B. Just like anything else in life, when you want to go somewhere or do something or operate a device, you have to follow the directions. You have to have a plan. Plan out your life and write it down. January 1st, I write down in a journal all the things I want to accomplish for the year. Realistic goals. And I just formulate a plan and take the steps necessary to accomplish them one by one. I have a plan, a regime. I try to keep up with it in my journal, but I usually forget to update often. Just writing it down in the concrete material world is enough to get things started. It is such a relief to have a plan to follow, to have a firm foundation from which to base all my decisions and actions. It's up to me to stick to it. I never have to wonder or worry about what to do next because I've already planned it out. Through trial and error, successes and failures, triumphant victories and humiliating defeats, I just figure out what needs to be done and do it.

I wish I could have discovered, comprehended, and understood this when I was younger. It would have saved me so much trouble. My depression is not 100% cured but it is drastically reduced and kept at bay by utilizing the information above to systematically remove the things from my life that would cause me to feel depressed. Funny thing is once my income level rose back up to a certain level, POOF! my anxiety disappeared.

CalvinRichland · 2018-10-21T20:00:02+00:00

The only one that matters is your depression and anxiety. You treat it with exercise, normal sleep patterns, hobbies, Doctor, meds

Fulp_Piction · 2018-10-21T19:39:21+00:00

Get more sleep, stop eating shit food, see a doctor.
By realising nothing matters so I can do whatever the fuck I think will make me happy.
Yep, but then they stepped their game up.
Stop giving a fuck, do what you want, stop caring about anything except yourself until you're happy.

christophertracy92 · 2018-10-21T21:35:36+00:00

Take a break. Vacations or smthn. Stop whatever you are doing for 1 or 2 weeks in order to focus on yourself.
By taking the red pill. Made myself my own mental point of origin.
Hell yeah. But you are free now to focus on yourself. Sky is the limit. You are not confined by society lies anymore.
Take the red pill. Read the rational male / the way of men. Do what you love. Focus on yourself.

P.S it seems bleak now , but you are really close to break free from all the shit 'they' are throwing at us. Keep it up turn your depression into fuel for success.

Title	Need help regarding several issues, maybe experienced members can help
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Date	October 21, 2018 7:31 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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