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approaching and reputation

PotatoWatt · 2019-01-31T15:46:05+00:00

so im in a college town, where when its vacation time the cities pretty empty besides tourists. Im kinda afraid about approaching, I never approached and one...

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January 31, 2019

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Title	approaching and reputation
Author	PotatoWatt
Upvotes	1
Comments	13
Date	January 31, 2019 3:46 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/alqql2/approaching_and_reputation/
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[–]MGRaiden970 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]1PotatoWatt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]SorryBelt-1 points0 points1 point 7 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link

[–]1PotatoWatt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link

[–]SorryBelt 1 points 7 years ago [recovered] (13 children) | Copy Link

[–]1PotatoWatt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link

Isnt that what TRP preaches? Just approach like a normal person ask a few questions and get their number?

Honestly, my mindset of aproaching in college is either she gives me IOIs or I strike up a conversation cause of the situation, like for example, a class we have for extra doubts/help, I showed up once there was only 1 girl there and the teacher was nowhere to be seen, I talked to her asking for the teacher and then we actually had a good convo but I was too retarded to pick up on the IOIs there and didnt do shit, but this is an example of what my mindset is like, if the situation allows it great.

Im nowhere attractive, I got a different style, a dope haircut, a nice social circle, a good attitude but face wise im a wreck, crooked teeth ugly ass glasses, weird ears, patchy beard, and not to mention my noodle arms. So yeah random approaching forget it, but if I just have a nice convo and then spot some IOIs sure i'll go for it otherwise i'll just leave it at a random conversation.

[–]SorryBelt 1 points 7 years ago [recovered] (11 children) | Copy Link

[–]1PotatoWatt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

[–]SorryBelt 1 points 7 years ago [recovered] (9 children) | Copy Link

[–]1PotatoWatt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

She could’ve been staring at you because she recognized you or thought you looked funny. Just because a girl stares doesn’t mean she’s into you.

Thats why its called ioi indication of interest and not indication of wanting to suck your dick, it means that something about you gives her the feeling that you are a guy she wouldnt mind to date or have sex. Its called hamster, its like when you see a girl with tatoos, piercings everywhere, forked tongue and purple short hair you get the impression that shes bat-shit crazy, she maybe even drinks goat blood. This is what IOIs are, its something that you have or do that she likes and her reaction to that is called a IOI, maybe after you date her she sees her idea of you was not what she was thinking and she flakes on you.

There is no science to IOIs like people think there is. Guys who don’t know shit about game or IOIs or any of that crap get laid all the time. My roommate claims he gets IOIs a lot but he’s still a 27 year old virgin who hasn’t kissed a girl in 10 years.

You think they dont know shit about game. The difference is, TRP is basic nature. If you start 'gaming' girls at 14, when you reach 20 years old you know how to handle them cause you failed and learned a lot. Your 27 year old virgin friend probably never failed, if he never failed he never learned thus he doesnt know what he is looking for.

Trp works by being a boost on what you should have learned by failing, and its someone telling you "GO AND FAIL YOU RETARD" and it works cause you go and fail and learn and use some trp basics to help you not make basic retarded mistakes and eventually you make your own world that works.

You think they dont know nothing about game just cause they never learned TRP but they do dude, they just went by trial and error. At 14 he treated girls like princesses, didnt work, so he tried being something else and it worked so he learned.

And its not natural yes but if you do it in in a socially acceptable way like "Hey, can you help me with this?" or something like that and if she engages in the conversation and you like her you can say continue the convo later and ask for her number, nothing wrong with that...

[–]SorryBelt 1 points 7 years ago [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link

Thats why its called ioi indication of interest and not indication of wanting to suck your dick, it means that something about you gives her the feeling that you are a guy she wouldnt mind to date or have sex.

Just because a girl looks at you, it doesn't mean she's interested in dating you or gives her a feeling. Sometimes people look at other people.

its like when you see a girl with tatoos, piercings everywhere, forked tongue and purple short hair you get the impression that shes bat-shit crazy

This is not the same thing. Your comparing an IOI to someones outward appearance. Makes no sense.

If you start 'gaming' girls at 14, when you reach 20 years old you know how to handle them cause you failed and learned a lot. Your 27 year old virgin friend probably never failed, if he never failed he never learned thus he doesnt know what he is looking for.

This is not true. Game doesn't do anything. My roommate is a virgin because he's unattractive and was rejected by girls all throughout high school. Thus he became a gamer and never learned how they interact with them or others normally. At 27 he's still unattractive so no girls show interest in him. Of course he isn't going to be confident around them.

treated girls like princesses

Guys in my fraternity do this and get laid more than every guy on the sub.

Trp works by being a boost on what you should have learned by failing, and its someone telling you "GO AND FAIL YOU RETARD" and it works cause you go and fail and learn and use some trp basics to help you not make basic retarded mistakes and eventually you make your own world that works.

TRP actually doesn't work in the long run. It might help you get laid a few times from crazy girls if your decent looking but you'll start alienating yourself from others and get people to hate you. The only reason why a lot of people on this sub resort to these methods is because they were shy, unattractive, insecure virgins growing up. This makes them attack others for being beta when in reality guys who get laid the most no nothing about trp, game or holding frame bullshit. Getting laid is 100% on looks and popularity and red pillers possess neither.

I went to the gym earlier and noticed a girl staring at me. When I passed her she smiled at me. Eventually she went up to me. I happened to meet her after one of our parties at Dennys when she was with one of my buddies I approached. So she recognized me and thats why she kept looking over. I'm not sure if she was interested and don't really care.

[–]1PotatoWatt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Exactly, frat guys get laid cause they have idgaf attitude, they just wanna fuck and they have status. I dont really know how frats work since im not from the US but from what I know this is what I conclude.

And you are right, some methods here are too extreme and will get you kicked off some social circles but the thing you dont understand here is that there are people here that are COMPLETE and I mean COMPLETELY clueless how the social world works. Like imagine your worst scenario, there are people below that. And those people need extreme help, that comes with extreme measures.

If you read the sidebar, it clearly says TRP is not a recipe but rather a toolbox, you get taught a lot of methods and you apply the ones you want to apply.

You are right, not everything here is affirmative, there are people who make random FR up just for the sake of it, and people who come say "I read 1 week of TRP and 4 chicks appeared knocking at m door, wow it works!" this is why this sub has flares and a sidebar, you should stick to the sidebar and use what you need and ignore the rest.

There is a excess of information here and with people not taking action they just come and share their views here, it seems right so they get upvotes. You gotta use what you think is right.

For example my case, TRP actually helped me out why, I was out of high school nerd fat guy, didnt know anything about socializing or fucking girls. I had a year of nothing to do after high school cause I had 1 class to take during that time (my country works differently from the US in terms of educiation) before being able to join college, and on the first weeks I found TRP, I joined a gym, started reading self help books TRP recommended and it really helped me out, I went from fat to skinny and right now im starting to get my gainz on, I went from whatever clothes I had to actually having a fashion sense, I fixed my hair, atm going to put on braces, atm changing from glasses to contacts, and best of all those books gave me motivation and confidence that I needed, once I got into college I was able to make a lot of friends and become a out going guy, I finally went to my first parties, and best of all I had girls actually talking to me instead of just recoiling when they see me!

TRP saved my life, now I dont follow it to the book not by a long shot, but because of my non existing social life during my middle and high school years I have very limitating ideas set inside my brain that affect me.

Now I improved A LOT over the last year, now my issue is closing with girls. Im still a virgin at 21, but not because I dont have chances to lose it but because I was so fucked up mentally that im afraid to actually kiss a girl, to make a move, and TRP is helping me with that, I come and cry here when I do something wrong and I get slapped in the face and a wake up call. My latest case was a girl I went on fucking 30 dates with, if you check my post history you can see it in detail, but to make it short she wanted to suck my dick I wanted to fuck her, all I needed to do was make a simple move. I couldnt do it, I felt like I had a voice in my head saying "you were not meant for girls, give it up loser" and so I lost yet another girl.

With each experience I improve myself, with every girl I lose I actually test my comfort zone and go further.

As you can see, there are people who really need help in social terms like me because if not for TRP I would still be the same loser that couldnt even talk to anyone without feeling like I was a burden, it was thanks to TRP that I changed and right now im improving a lot. Thanks to my confident attitude that TRP teached me how to have and to my style I got girls 'interested' in me like this last case of the 30 dates but I just need to make a move, but im getting there. Everytime im closer and if not for TRP I would be worse than I am now.

And the thing is TRP teaches you how life is biologically, so you see how things work in nature the human way, and instead of being like "well that worked... i dont care how just it worked great" now you can go like "well that worked... now I know that X makes Y that came from Z, great"

TRP saves you time and helps people period, if it aint working for you just stop because for many people including myself it was a life saving choise.

Now you are 100% correct, you gotta apply common sense to some TRP teachings otherwise you will look like a complete and utter social retard.

In regards of your girl, yeah most likely she was somewhat interested just go talk to her and say "Hey, im sorry this is weird but werent you at Dennys the other day?" and make a convo and if she seems interested why not go for the number, you dont have nothing to lose, if she seems distant then cut the convo short without asking for a number or anything and leave, this is just an example btw