Where did I go wrong?

MrAgamemnon · 2019-02-06T12:36:18+00:00

After a few months being close to her and being good friends

If you don't escalate, you get friend zoned. ALWAYS BE ESCALATING.

I got a bit mad like why did she block me everywhere all of the sudden.

The one decent thing she does, blocking an orbiter instead of continuously stringing him along. And yet you become a little bitch who wants to orbit his unicorn for maybe that once fucking chance that will never come.

Lee has a cancer growing on her face and I get that. But, by time Lee is getting annoying to me and I don't like her having around me. So I thought might as well block Lee the same way Nadia blocked me.

Well social convention says be nice to people who have cancer, even if you don't fucking like them. How is it not obvious that you would be shamed for this?

I'm sure if you had cancer, Nadia would have entertain you a little too out of charity.

Now you're just an assclown who was mean to a girl who has cancer and creeped out another one after being rejected.

I usually say never apologise, but I don't know, I would consider apologising to cancer girl.

DiSysmic · 2019-02-06T13:33:10+00:00

Everything went wrong. Drop them completely and read the sidebar.

yungbuck19 · 2019-02-06T11:53:36+00:00

Where did you go wrong? Well you got friend zoned basically and continued on, there's a lot of bumps in the road in this one. Hard next both of them

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2019-02-06T13:18:24+00:00

You went wrong when you had a crush.. Crushes are the least useful feelings and situations. Oneitis is bad hmmmk.

Moving on: You seem to have wurmed your way into the friendzone by thinking that you need to know her before you "confess."

This only, *I repeat* Only works in movies and in the few situations where she just hit the wall.

She blocked you cause she realized that your attraction to her was the only reason you were around and obviously she found a better orbiter. One who didn't confess, kept paying and giving her his undivided attention.

WHY THE FUCK DO YOU HAVE FEMALE FRIENDS. THAT'S YOUR PROBLEM. Stop simping around, keeping them as friends or trying to get back to this Nadia girl. Are you even a fucking dude? Or are you a pussy?

SeasonedRP · 2019-02-06T22:52:04+00:00

Why in the hell are posters on here assuming there is some reason to "confess" to a girl? This isn't the first time I've seen one mention "confession" or "confessing" under the premise that it's somehow necessary or a good idea to do so. I'll be as clear and direct as I can: don't fucking confess your feelings to girls when you ask them out. It is a guaranteed attraction killer. They need to wonder where they stand and view you as a challenge. If you blab out your everlasting true love for them when you ask them on a date, they'll be repulsed and think you're a loser with no options, like Nadia did. She as much as told you that when she said you talk too much. G-d only knows what you were saying to her in texts and through social media, but it clearly wasn't good since it got you blocked. Next time, don't bombard girls with messages through text and social media.

There is no reason to be angry about either of these girls. Use this as a learning experience and don't repeat what you did with Nadia. Move on with your life and forget about them. If you see them, be polite but aloof. Don't send them any more texts or messages on social media. And read the sidebar. When you do, you'll see there is nothing on there recommending "confessing" to girls.

RunawayGrain · 2019-02-06T12:00:45+00:00

Nadia: You should have escalated instead of spilling your guts to her. If you get rejected don't hang around as an orbiter, either. You are done.

Lee: She knew Nadia, so now both of them can take up the mantra of making the bad beta creeper go away. That way Lee gets rid of someone who reminds her that her SMV is taking a hit because of the growth on her face, and Nadia can justify brushing off a good guy because now he's obviously horrible because Lee said so.

With Lee you should have faded rather than blocked.

Lessons learned: Escalate. Don't make beta gestures. Most girls don't handle rejection well. Most girls will try to rally helpers to ostracize you.

jamesbond8181 · 2019-02-06T17:20:22+00:00

Hard next. Find a new cancer girl

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-02-06T13:55:48+00:00

Women get all fucky on friends who confess they like her, and then try to hang around after she's rejected them. There is something they just find really creepy about it.

And don't have 'crushes', bro. Crushes are like, school kid shit. They serve no purpose. You either escalate and things begin to happen, or not and you move on. Crushes are just scarcity and putting someone on a pedestal.

Fuck all this shit...hard next them. There is nothing good here

jailbreaker010 · 2019-02-06T14:22:11+00:00

Your answer is in the sidebar. And everything went wrong, btw...

akq0 · 2019-02-06T15:19:18+00:00

Remember my brother, the power of walking away is an hella of a weapon and bitches will bitch b/c rejection it's not something they can handle properly.

Also, never confess to a grlll.

It's your job to escalate.

It's her job to make the confession.

jamesbond8181 · 2019-02-06T16:17:08+00:00

So the other people are right, but the real problem you’re having is that you are a nice guy.

Now, not a nice person, a nice guy. You make covert contracts with people.

By thinking that if you gave attention to Nadia, and your time, and love, that she would love you back.

Obviously, that’s not the right way to approach things and you should have let your intentions know from the get-go. Now that doesn’t mean saying I love you first say, rather flirting etc.

With the other girl, Lee or whatever, she likes you. She likes you because you are indifferent to her! Girls love that! It means you are not giving them special attention.

And see, Nadia blocked you because you were obsessing over her and she found that annoying. Well if we think about it, Lee was obsessing over you and you found that annoying and blocked her.

You wanna get a girl? You gotta behave like you did with Lee with girls like Nadia. But you gotta escalate.

Good luck

[deleted] · 2019-02-06T19:19:45+00:00

Can we design some type of test or some shit where you have to prove you are at the very least in the process of reading the sidebar before you can post questions? What the hell is this...

Title	Where did I go wrong?
Author	ikerin98
Upvotes	6
Comments	14
Date	February 6, 2019 11:36 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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