Tomorrow I am meeting up with a girl (HB7) I met on tinder. She’s a year older than me, and seems kind of average but that’s what I thought about my ex girlfriend which eventually became my oneitis.

I’m not too nervous, she lives an hour away from me so we’re meeting half way. I was planning on grabbing a coffee and talking, eventually moving to a park or something of the sort. I’ve gained some experience these last two months and I’m feeling confident in my abilities.

I have three other plates but the thing is two of them I met at parties through friends, and the other one is a girl that I use to work with, I haven’t met up with a girl from tinder since my ex girlfriend.

I know what most of you will say but I quit lifting, instead I run 10 miles every week day and swim three miles on the weekends. I’ve only been running for a month and swimming for like 2 weeks but it’s already starting to pay off. I’m not huge (6ft 150) but when I taken my shirt off I’m shredded and I’m feeling better than ever. One of my plates (HB6.5) has one of my shirtless pictures as her lock screen wallpaper so I know I gotta be lookin good.

We’ve been talking for about a week, I usually take a couple hours to respond because I’m either working out or doing something else. I sent her a shirtless picture but I didn’t get much of a sexual reaction and she hasn’t sent me any photos, not even a selfie but she seems interested. I even ignored her for two days because I didn’t have a phone and couldn’t reach out but as soon as I messaged her she texted back right away. I know I need to get a photo just to be safe.

I’m in need of advice regarding escalation and keeping things moving. My biggest fear is coming across as awkward or shy, I want to portray myself as the man I know I am, I’m just worried my beta will show because I’m not perfect.