I am new to red pill and know this is a bit oneitis related post but I still hope can be helpful. And to be honest it feels therapeutic to write about this.
So before I even knew about red pill a couple of months ago I meet this young girl in her early 20s. I am early 30s. So long story short we made out a couple of times. But she was also shit testing me a lot and acting very disrespectful also showing a lot of red flags. At the time I was really anxious, tired and depressed so I didnt do very well to say the least. I wasnt masculine enough and my interesting self I just had a lot of worries. I told her I am not good mentally but ofcourse women dont care about that. So one day she blows me of with lets just be friends text. The simp I am I agreed. I was in full in oneitis mode. I didnt see her for a couple of months.
I got familiar with red pill. So I decided to pull a move. I visited her in the place where she works after work with another attractive girl. We drank a couple of beers and talked. She was feminine and submissive as never before. I got a feeling she wanted me to stay. Well I left with a girl I came with. I wanted her to punish her. A couple of days later I visited her again alone. She was cold, sarcastic but still kinda submissive. She didnt show any affection. Well a couple of days later she got herself a boyfriend.

I am not trying to get her back even though I admit I still regret it. I just want to learn from this experience. So the questions are.
Should I stay with her after the girl I came with left? Did I hurt her? Did I blew my chance the first time and you cant really get back from lets be friend text? Was I just backup plan this whole time? What happened here looking trough red pill lenses?

Thank you.