Pretty much all of the women I meet are from cold approach. I describe my style as playful, charismatic, mysterious, and teasing rather than hardcore masculine with a deep voice or gay best friend. So right now I am in Costa Rica, and I am getting much better looking women out on dates(seriously get out of the US terrible girls that aren’t interested or interesting).

The culture here is 2-3 dates then sex, however I usually go for one. I do not consider myself beta bucks, but there may be some confusion. There have been some times where I got girls back to my place but didn’t have sex, or get quite touchy with them like grabbing their ass while they say “noooo” but really want more. But usually, these girls do not want another date.

As an example, I got a chick back to my place last Thursday but no sex. Before anything started, she told me no sex right I say “yes” but ofc I’m still gonna go for it. We make out, I suck her tits, she starts grinding her pussy on me, but doesn’t let me finger her or of course have sex. After the date she is like I would appreciate if you stopped after I said no(become logical, why did I go to his place and do all that and wants to protect her ego as not being slutty). I don’t think she wants to go on another date.

Now my question is this. If it is alpha fucks, and beta bucks, then why would there be a problem with me behaving so sexual on our dates if she perceives me as alpha fucks? Perhaps, in order to build comfort I come off as more beta, but then I confuse her with how sexual I am acting, and she she places me into one category as a provider but I behave differently from her expectations and so she doesn’t want to see me again. If I am alpha fucks in her mind, why isn’t she fine with my being so sexual? This isn’t one girl, it’s happened quite a few times. Lots of girls I make out with and grab their ass a lot on the first date, they enjoy it in the moment, but don’t wanna see me again afterwards. If I was seen as alpha fucks, why would that be a problem?

Please let me know if you have experience with this and what you recommend. I have gotten laid from cold approach, and gotten lots of dates here, so I have experienced a lot. But I’m still learning. Appreciate your advice, thank you.