Anxiety

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-09-11T08:57:47+00:00

Guys gotta do jump through a lot of hoops so he can “sell” himself and girls can just spread her legs and barely does anything. I think this subconscious mindset is a major reason why lots of us have anxiety when approaching women.

Have the table turned. For example if a girl is boring in a convo or talks superficially just call her out “damn you’re so boring.”

norwegiandoggo · 2025-09-11T05:51:39+00:00

Just continue talking to them more. It will get better over time.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2025-09-11T16:12:50+00:00

Hey,

tbh you can get past this. You should just keep having pleasent conversations with women and dont expect anything to come out of it. it sounds weird but a lot of times men struggle to talk to women because deep down they are hoping to get that number, or get a date but dont know how to do it so their anxiety kicks in.

It's a ll exposure therapy. Even the guys you think are good at talking to girls are not. I remember when I was in college, I befriended these two girls and they loved hanging out iwth me. I had no idea why I was just casual. There was one girl I was kind of into but she was dating another guy and had a weird "will they/wont they" vibe with another guy in my group so i just never tried and accepted it wasnt worth ymy time to chase her. I even got in my head about it. I remember I told them how i was near their apartment and had to wait like 2 hours for a haricut and they said "why didnt you text us and wait at our place?". And to me I just got in my own head about that friendship. Like I didnt think i was good enough to have 2 female friends and didnt understand why they wanted to hangout iwth me. But im sure to other people it seemed like i was this super social guy when i wasnt.

For me college is about learning, even the things you dont think need teaching or learning from. You should use it as a way to better communicate with girls, learn hwo to flirt, learn how to talk to them and how to have a good time of ryourself, not because yo uwant to get a girls number. If you start thinking at every interaction with a women "how do i get her number?" or "how do i get a date out of this?" girls will notice and yo uwill come off as desperate. Instead be yourself and the moment will come on its own. Dont be afraid to get someone's number if you need it.

Dependent_One_8131 · 2025-09-11T14:09:53+00:00

Well to get comfy do compliment game.

Level 1: Compliment in your head Level 2: start complimenting them and walking away Level 3: start engaging in short conversations

AppleDisastrous1350 · 2025-09-12T00:15:28+00:00

homeschooled until 16 then community college at 16... that heart racing thing when talking to girls? basically took me 2 years to stop analyzing every word i said afterward lol

SirChodicus · 2025-09-14T14:19:05+00:00

The only way to get rid of the anxiety is by getting rejected.

Then you learn that you are exactly the same as you were before, no love lose

Soft-Car9110 · 2025-09-11T11:34:23+00:00

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Sometimes anxiety around women comes from overstimulation or stress — and one of the best ways to manage that is through physical activity, like hitting the gym. It not only makes you physically stronger but also improves your mental clarity and confidence.

Another helpful approach is to simply talk to women the way you’d talk to a friend. The more you do it, the less pressure you’ll feel to impress, and the more natural it becomes. Like any social skill, it gets easier with practice — it’s not magic, it’s repetition.

And yes, while women may have certain natural traits like looks or voice that attract attention, men typically build their appeal over time — through character, confidence, and how they carry themselves. So there’s really no need to stress — just keep showing up, improving, and engaging genuinely. The rest follows

Title	Anxiety
Author	Recent_Virus_1935
Upvotes	9
Comments	15
Date	September 11, 2025 5:41 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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