I can tell you the result of this problem is I can't seem to get a date with the kind of woman I want to date. If you could help me understand why that would be great, I'll just run down a lot of things I think are relevant.

  • I am a decent looking guy. I'm not going to say I'm super good looking but I'm at least normal and I'm clean and put in some effort to be presentable. Some people say I look like Manuel Neuer.jpg the soccer player/footballer and I see the resemblance. I could easily pass as his brother. I'm also predominately interested in "everyday attractive" or girl next door looking women who also interest me as people. I don't think looks are much of an issue because of who I'm going for and I feel I'm at past the minimum threshold for most women. IDK if that's how it works though.

  • I have a lot of friends but I'm not attracted to the vast majority of them. Most are men or women who I just think of as "bros" and then they have their female friends who are about the same. The few I would be interested in are dating other people or aren't interpreted in me. I'm not complaining about having friends but it seems just meeting people "organically" isn't working.

  • When I go to pick up women I don't have a lot of success. I don't get blatantly shut down but it just doesn't work out. This is to the tune of me seriously hitting on 2-3 women a month and having next to no dates, maybe one every few months. I'll get a date with maybe 1/15 single women that I actually go for. Is that normal? Should I just go meet more people?

  • Not going to lie I can be awkward at times. Not in the creepy kind of way but more in the nerdy introverted kind of way. I feel this might be the biggest thing I need work on but I'm not sure. I'm a friendly and sociable guy but I do feel like I'm on a different wavelength at times. I'm not Sheldon from Big Bang Theory or anything that extreme.

  • I'm not in a hurry to be in a relationship and I don't hate being single. I really don't have trouble waiting if that's what it comes down to. I just find it a little unsettling that I can't seem to get the women I want and I feel are an appropriate match when I find them.