How to prevent falling in love/developing oneitis?

adipt · 2014-10-02T10:23:46+00:00

From a life perspective, and not the sometimes narrow seduction perspective, it's ok to fall in love. Fantastic, even. Just try and make sure you're as interesting and valuable to her as she is to you.

Secol · 2014-10-02T15:18:17+00:00

Stay in reality. Don't fantasize or imagine her to be something that you want her to be but actually isn't. Love is blind but try to see what's actually there.

youlovethisish · 2014-10-02T20:13:14+00:00

Don't allow your happiness to be derived from her. This will make you needy - you'll be seeking to please her and it won't help your cause. Make sure you keep a strong sense of identity, keep it "me, myself, and i... oh yeah, and her too." don't let it devolve into the "her bf."

Stay in touch with your own passions and morals. Don't let your views change because of things she says or does (unless it's something mind-expanding and she actually is helping you to become a more open-minded individual). BE YOU, and let her be your partner. Don't be codependent.

Corastin · 2014-10-02T06:53:46+00:00

Also see other girls and don't let her be your only focus.

2014-10-02T21:26:53+00:00

Nothing wrong with developing feelings for someone, just always remember you are your own person as she is her own and to not derive you happiness from her. Keep your usual friends/activities and stay focused on your own personal goals- basically be your own man.

Here's a pretty good video on the subject. Cheers mate.

nihozumi · 2014-10-02T11:52:57+00:00

Only allow yourself to like her up to a point that remains less than how much she likes you.

Title	How to prevent falling in love/developing oneitis?
Author	forcefulentry
Upvotes	6
Comments	8
Date	October 2, 2014 6:37 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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