Alright there are two recent situations that I can't seem to get clear on, or rather would like to get some feedback on:

  1. Met a solid 8/9 at a party. Got her number. Went on date on a Friday. Walk, dinner...my place. We watched a movie and I think I should have escalated, but didn't move in until late and she was getting Uber. Made out for a bit. Seemed positive. Probably could have F-closed, but didn't. Uber arrived. Felt like I'd be solid for next encounter.

Couple days later, I text her to set up follow up. Say something jokey, that might have been taken the wrong way (called her bro instead of Bri, which is her name...carrying over previous joke.) Nothing. Text one more time a couple days later. Nothing again. WTF?

  1. Met a 6/7 whose bike was locked up next to mine. Built a ton of attraction really quick and she basically gave me her number without my asking. Tonight (when we were supposed to go out) she texted me if I was meeting a friend at the free outdoor show I had invited her to. I asked why and she said that she wanted to bring a friend. I told her not to pawn that decision on me (that was the phrasing I used, which might have been misconstrued), that I was thinking we'd grab some dinner alone (we'd interacted for less than 5 minutes), but that I'd be fine either way.

She wrote, "Have a great night" and that was it. She didn't meet me as planned and I tried calling as this might have been one of those text misfires. No answer.

I don't think I said anything offensive. The "pawn off" remark might have come off as angry, but if attraction was strong enough, I wouldn't think it'd matter.

I'd like to get some feedback if there's enough info to go off of here. I looked on some of the flaking threads and they didn't really apply so far as I can see. I made a strong last impression on #2 and to a lesser extent #1.

I am just getting back into PU stuff after separating from my wife a year ago. I'm 41, attractive, lean and fit, 6'3", know how to dress, know how to carry myself, and I write for a living, so don't have trouble with words. But something isn't all there for me and these women, and I want to get to the bottom of it.

I have two more dates lined up with two other women I met in last 72 hrs and would like to safeguard myself as much as possible from these sort of situations in the future. Thanks!