Do women enjoy sex more than men?

Notarandomencounter · 2017-09-03T15:41:30+00:00

An ex of mine used to blackout from orgasms. Not joking. Full-body shaking, intense moaning and screaming, you name it. Women dont just want sex. They want sexual experiences and when they get them its more wild than ecstacy or acid. Im - not - kidding. She was puddy in my hands because she knew i could make her come like no one else ever did, and she wanted me to. I like to think of it as: the better the sex is, the more she wants. So yeah. I think comparing a womans pleasure to a mans is like comparing a hydrogen-bomb to a handgrenade.

Phixer7 · 2017-09-03T23:02:35+00:00

When you have an itch in your ear , and you stick your finger in to scratch it, does your finger or the ear get the pleasure ?

Bad-Wolf- · 2017-09-03T15:57:44+00:00

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TheLimitlessMale · 2017-09-03T21:28:49+00:00

Great sex (rare) = more pleasure for the women

Average, poor sex (common) = more pleasure for the man

It's really hard to have bad sex as a guy. It's really easy to have bad sex as a girl.

afiefh · 2017-09-03T16:58:31+00:00

They certainly think about sex more than we do. In fact they think about it all the time, though not necessarily the mechanics of it. They think about guys and relationships a LOT.

As for orgasms, they can have different kinds. My GF has clitoral orgasms, vaginal orgasms and tends to have a series of orgasms in a row with aftershock type of twinges.

Guys tend the have the single volcanic eruption type of orgasm, kaboom then they're done.

2017-09-03T16:20:00+00:00

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ThorLives · 2017-09-03T16:30:32+00:00

No. Women do not enjoy sex more than men.

I already heard it from Todd and Julien

They have motivational reasons to tell you that women enjoy sex more than men: they want guys to close. Many men feel restricted in their sexuality based on things like: if they are trying to get a girl to have sex, they feel like they're being pushy and selfish because men believe that sex is more pleasurable for men than for women, hence, trying to have sex is about pleasure for him and work for her. That can lead to men feeling guilty about wanting to have sex; they end up not trying to have sex because they fear being a burden.

When Todd and Julien talk, there also a selection bias going on. Imagine this: you go to a club to pickup some girl. Imagine that 10% of women there get a LOT of pleasure from sex (and therefore have a high sex drive), 60% have an average sex drive, and 30% have no interest in sex at all. Imagine you take a girl home. What is the likely traits of a girl who went home with you? It's more likely that the high-sex drive girl goes home with you than the girls with no sex drive. Now, you discover that 50% of the women who went home with you have high sex drives and 50% of them have average sex drives. You conclude that, in the general population, these same percentages are also true - that 50% of women get a LOT of pleasure from sex and 50% enjoy sex. You'd be wrong. Todd and Julien are experiencing selection bias. It's sort of like saying, "100% of the people who ordered spicy food at my restaurant love spicy foods. Therefore, I conclude that 100% of the US population loves spicy food."

As far as the original question:

First, quite a few women have trouble even reaching orgasm. Many women can cum from oral sex, but not PIV sex: "According to Planned Parenthood statistics, as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex. And as many as 80 percent of women have difficulty with orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone... Female sexual dysfunction (FSD), which encompasses the inability to orgasm, is very common—as high as 43 percent, according to some surveys" (Source) I've been with a few women who had a lot of trouble orgasming, or couldn't orgasm. One ex-girlfriend of mine says that she's never had an orgasm - not from sex, not from masterbation. Another girl I was with said it's really difficult for her to orgasm, and she would usually just give up during sex. She said she used to get annoyed at her ex-boyfriend because he would keep trying to get her to orgasm long after she knew it wasn't going to happen that night.

They say that women have more nerves in their genital area than men do. I'm not sure if that's true, but studies have long shown that it takes the average woman much longer to reach orgasm than the average man, so apparently those extra nerve endings aren't getting women there any faster: "During intercourse, on average, it takes women ten to twenty minutes to reach orgasm, while men, on average, take seven to fourteen minutes including foreplay, and two to three minutes after intercourse has begun."

I think there are plenty of information which indicates that men like sex more than women. For example, men masterbate more often than women. Men report that they'd like to have sex more frequently per week than women do. Women with low sex drives is a lot more common than men with low sex drives: "For women, low desire is one of the most common sexual issues, and it can affect you in many ways...In a recent U.S. study of 2,207 women between the ages of 30 and 70, researchers found that 36 percent had low sexual desire. About 8 percent had hypoactive sexual desire disorder, defined as having distress about having low desire." (Source) Also, large numbers of married women report that they'd rather read a book than have sex: "Sixty-three per cent said they would choose hitting the pillow straight away, putting on the TV or a opening a book over sex... However, it was not all bad news with 37 per cent saying there was 'nothing else' they would rather do than make love to their husband." and "the poll revealed that an overwhelming 40% of the women surveyed would rather go shopping than have sex. In the survey of British sex habits, 37% revealed that they would be happy in a sexless marriage, with the figure rising to half of women if they had been with their husband for more than 20 years."

Here's the thing: as you can probably tell from those last quotes that not all women are the same. Some women really do want sex ("37 per cent saying there was 'nothing else' they would rather do than make love to their husband"). Some women do love it. I'm convinced that there are a lot more men who have medium or high sex drives than there are women with medium or high sex drives. However, those women do exist. Not all women are the same. Don't make the mistake of thinking, "Oh, this girl fucking loves sex. Therefore, all women go crazy for sex." That's simply not true. The opposite is also true: there are women who don't want anything to do with sex, but that doesn't mean that all women are repelled by sex. Further, a woman might change over time - she might love sex now, but 20 years from now she might be that woman who sees sex as a chore or vice-versa.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-09-04T03:57:24+00:00

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Generalizing according to gender is pointless. There will be variation between any members of a population. Some people enjoy sex more than other people.

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Do women enjoy sex more than men?

Short Answer: No.

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I already heard it from Todd and Julien

Realize that they could have had many reasons for saying this. Often, PUA coaches say things to encourage guys to venture outside of themselves and do things they are uncomfortable doing. Visualizing women as wanting sex even more than they do, while inaccurate, is motivating to a lot of guys. Like the whole "assume attraction" thing. Are all women really attracted? No, of course not. But some coaches have phrased it that way just to get guys motivated to take action instead of sitting back and overthinking.

Really, the truth is more complex. Women and men enjoy sex. But while men are celebrated for being sexually liberated, women frequently face social consequences and shame for being the same.

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She was moaning, screaming, writhing, almost having a convulsion, while me was "yeah, it's feel good".

Sometimes you just end up with a girl who lets loose. It also sounds like she was either really in touch with what turns herself on and was working herself up, or you were hitting her spots. Probably a little of both.

But there are also women out there who are dead fish.

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I don't know if it could make sense since I have far more testosterone than her.

Again, since both men and women enjoy sex, this is irrelevant.

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Out of curiosity, is there anything in particular that you are looking for here? What utility do you see in exploration of this idea?

atomiswave2 · 2017-09-03T18:23:30+00:00

Then why is it so hard for men to get laid, even if they are decent looking? Oh its because women only go for the top 20% even if they themselves are not part of that group.

DuckDodgersIV · 2017-09-03T14:31:06+00:00

Women's orgasm is in the mind, men's organsm is to ejaculate..

souljabri557 · 2017-09-03T18:25:24+00:00

Slightly

Title	Do women enjoy sex more than men?
Author	Bad-Wolf-
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Date	September 3, 2017 1:40 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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