“No contact rule”

Kenic_In_MD · 2019-02-26T18:45:00+00:00

From now until the end of time, regardless of what your feelings say. SHE IS AN EX FOR A REASON. KEEP IT THAT WAY.

It's time OP, delete her number, block her social media, move the hell on!

hunterpua · 2019-02-26T19:40:43+00:00

Don't wait. Never contact.

If they reach out, don't do anything, just hear out what they have to say and if they don't have anything to say about getting back together then move on.

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This is believe it or not the best way to get your ex back.

When you're in a relationship with someone you become part of their life, they become so used to you and they are in a way "addicted" to you.

Breaking up causes all kinds of painful fucked up feelings whether you're the one that got dumped or you're the one doing the dumping.

Yeah getting dumped sucks but just being separated from someone that's been a large part of your life sucks a lot too.

I have to tell you, you already lowered your chances of getting her back.

The best way to never get an ex back is to allow her to wean herself off of you.

That is, to gradually get used to being without you.

Key word being "gradually".

When you break up, you have to disappear.

The separation has to feel abrupt, sudden, and out of nowhere.

"But I don't want her to feel worse than she already does...." is what some newly dumped guys would say.

Fuck that. She should hate how she feels, she should emotionally feel like crap because that crappy feeling is the feeling that will make her want to get back together with you.

You're weaning her by contacting her within some sort of interval because for 30 days you're gone but then you show up and then gone again then show up again.

You just have to be gone completely.

Never show up until she makes a real effort to see you again.

What does a real effort look like?

It looks like you ignoring her indefinitely.

Her being the one who reaches out to you completely out of the blue.

You seeing her message and getting back to her after a day or receiving her call and not picking up and waiting to see if she calls you back many hours later or keeps trying to contact you.

When you get back to her you should just be sitting there paying attention.

If she says she just wants to see how things are going you say, "I'm good" and then say you're busy and can't talk. That's it. No clues of anything, nothing. Hang up or stop texting immediately.

If she says she wants to see you because she wants to talk, you say, "I'm busy".

In order to secure that meet up with you she should bend over backwards to see you.

She should figure out your schedule and completely accommodate you.

That means she should see you at most convenient time for you, and in the most convenient place for you.

Theres no meeting in the middle, she has to go all the way to your side.

If its a great inconvenience to her that would be even better.

To make it easy on yourself tell her to meet you in a place close to your house at the most convenient time for you.

Doesn't matter how out of the way it is for her because getting her to earn that meeting with you is the whole point.

If she doesn't do that. Ignore her again and move on with your life.

If she does, be cordial but just basically look at her and wait.

Just listen to what she has to say.

No, "How are you?", "Its been so long" business. Don't talk about stuff you used to talk about, don't get into a nice friendly conversation either.

Just sit there and see what she has to say. Almost like you're interviewing her for a job.

If its all fluff, i.e. nothing about getting back together, just say you have to go because you have something else to do.

Remember, be polite, don't sound like you're bitter in any way but just be aloof and disinterested until she brings up getting back together.

If she does bring it up are you supposed to light up and engage with her?

Nope.

Be like, "I don't know....there are gonna have to be some changes for me to even consider that."

And then lay out your list of demands.

She has to be this and that if you get back together...no more jealousy, no more of her friends you don't like, (insert the things you want her to change).

And she has to agree to all of that or you're out.

When you handle everything in this way its not only very likely that she will get back together with you but when you do get back together, you're the boss because you made her work to get back together, not the other way around.

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For the people who think that her fucking other guys while you're apart is enough for her to get over you, they clearly don't have the ability to get laid immediately after a break up because if they did they'd know that it wont matter how hot the girl they rebound on is, they'll still miss their ex.

So if you find out that she's seeing another guy, don't worry about it, a rebound never works out.

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JinTheUnleashed · 2019-02-26T18:45:27+00:00

You're not supposed to wait a bunch of time then ask them to get back together lol.

You're supposed to wait a bunch of time then hit her casually like you're just checking in to make sure she hasn't got hit by a bus, then have casual conversation where you ask her what's she's been up to in a "prove yourself that you've grown since back then" kind of way.

THEN go for casual coffee and during that THEN you seduce her all over again.🔥

But by no means should you ever, ever call her baby or break first or mention how things used to be or any of that lame weak shit

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL4kMVvKvmH2AEk0A_BS_WfPCoaHgI0XdB

I did an entire playlist on ex girlfriends/no contact rule on my free Dating/Self improvement channel.

I literally just linked another dude to this playlist but I'm gonna do it again because I think it could seriously help because I think you may have the wrong idea what the no contact rule is.

Keep us posted brodie 💪🔥

Title	“No contact rule”
Author	bojanglez34
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	February 26, 2019 6:38 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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