I wrote this post a few years ago. I basically took a bunch of posts (mostly from a Q & A I did on social circle game) from two private forums and edited them all into one long post. Things have changed a lot for me since, but this is where I was at a few years ago when I wrote it. Also please excuse the poor writing, I just quickly edited it all together.

Disclaimer: Social circle game is not for beginners. If you are not comfortable escalating with women, then you need to practice with cold approaches, where you can push your comfort zone without social repercussions. Also most of this is geared towards developing open and casual relationships.

In a social circle, there are different risks for the girls compared to girls you meet through cold approaches. If a girl hooks up with a random guy and she ends up not liking him, she can just never answer his calls. If that guy is in her social circle, then she has to see him again. Awkward! Especially if the guy is needy and refuses to get over her. Every attractive girl has had many guys in her life that have gotten obsessed with her and became very annoying. So it is extremely important that you demonstrate that you are not that guy. Never show any neediness or jealousy towards any girl. Your frame is that you like to date girls, but no one girl in particular. You will enjoy having great sex with her, but you don't need it. One way I do this is in a conversation with a girl, I will express sexual interest in multiple other girls, in a very casual way. examples:

"What do you think of her? I was considering bringing her home." (while pointing at a random cute girl.)

"Damn your friend is cute, bring her over for a threesome sometime."

"This girl just sent me the dirtiest text..."

"yeah this girl I went on a date with last week..." (then go on to tell a funny story)

You are also demonstrating preselection (without bragging), sexual confidence/comfort, and generally framing yourself as a sexual being. You are also disqualifying yourself from being boyfriend material, setting the frame that you just like to enjoy yourself with girls and aren't looking for anything serious.

Another way to demonstrate this non-neediness is takeaways (Braddock is the man for takeaways. read his stuff to learn more about them). Since you're in your social circle, and you know you'll eventually see these girls again, you can go crazy with the takeaways. When flirting, and things are going well, give her a smile then just walk away without explanation. This will give her a feeling of loss and build attraction, as well as frame you as a scarce commodity, and convey that you aren't going to be relentlessly chasing her. When you run into her again that night, give her a smile with a sexualized look and an excited "oh there you are" as you pull her in by her waist.

Another reason for takeaways is that the girl is there with her friends. She is eventually going to want to get back to them, so I leave her before she can leave me. This also sub-communicates that you will give her space and don't need constant validation from her.

I used to do a tour around the party when I was leaving to say bye to everyone, now I just leave and only say bye to the people I happen to see on my way out. I know I'll see them again, I think it's a bit more mysterious and less needy to not find them to say bye.

It usually takes me at least 2 to 3 (or more) interactions with social circle girls to get them home. This is because girls are a lot more cautious about sleeping with social circle guys, if you come on too strong they may think you are going to be the needy guy that calls them all the time and that they want to avoid. To prove you aren't going to bother them, get obsessed, jealous, you need to establish yourself as being non needy, and sex not being a big deal, and takeaways convey this well.

Keep in mind though, that if the girl is all over me, showing signs that she wants to come home with me that night, I won't bother with the takeaways. Because these are social circle girls, and lots of mutual friends are present, they are rarely all over me in the club. In fact sometimes I won't even get a decent IOI at all, I'll bring them back to my place and get a ton of LMR. I find LMR is worse with social circle girls. If a guy gets a rep for sleeping around, he's a stud. If a girl gets a rep for sleeping around, she's a slut. This is totally unfair for women, and is a huge reason why girls tend to be so selective in their social circles. You ever find out a hot girl you knew slept with a dirtbag and you instantly lost a bit of attraction for her? Well that's what she's afraid of; if it gets out that she's sleeping around, it could ruin her chances of hooking up with a high value guy. This is why demonstrating discretion (good at keeping secrets), is so important, especially in social circle game. You cannot ever mention the name of someone you randomly hooked up with, do not let it get out! Also you need to actively demonstrate that you can be discreet, verbally, and with body language. examples:

-Ring routine; "Look you have a ring on that finger, that means your good at keeping secrets, like me." or "You don't have a ring on that finger, so if we do anything naughty we'll have to pinky swear to keep it a secret." (Check out Captain Jack for more great sexual framing)

-pinch or grab her ass where no one can see or when no one is looking and whisper into her ear "shhhh... its a secret."

-do under-the-table style kino. This is kino where no one can see. Either under a table, when no one is looking, grabbing her ass when no one can see. Since you you are keeping it hidden from everyone else, you are showing that you know it is a secret and not to be talked about. While doing these, make sure you have a sly, mischievous grin on your face, that you only show to her and hide to everyone else.

Start by expressing interest subtly, mostly with body language. I do a lot of teasing and accuse her of trying to pick me up. But more body language than anything else, I give that sly look with the "I know something you don't know" smile (credit; Cajun), with a slight tilt of the head, and slightly leaning back (your body language should subtly convey that you are qualifying her). The frame is that you can have your pick of any girl, but she arouses your interest, and if she is cool and plays her cards right, then maybe you'll take her home. Don't get stuck in this frame though, there is a time to escalate, and I've even bounced a flaky girl (after she was receptive to kino) by grabbing her by the hand and saying "you're coming home with me tonight" while pulling her towards the door. Her reaction was asking "are you serious?" I gave her a serious "yes" and it was on. I also tried this with another girl and she said "no, I'm going home with HIM tonight" as she pointed at a guy. I replied "it's probably for the better, I would have ruined you for all men" (credit; DaHunter) She then asked for my number, texted me a few days later, we hooked up, and she's been chasing me ever since. Key is to only be that direct in social circle if she is receptive to sexual kino. It's all about the calibration.

Another great way of setting a sexual frame is making an SOI (or giving a sexual compliment), followed by a disqualifier. Example: Say "damn you look sexy tonight, if only we weren't such good friends" while shaking your head "no" and giving her a "damn your sexy" smirk. Another example is "Your breasts look amazing in that shirt. Put those things away you're turning me on" (While putting your hand up to block your view of her boobs. Basically a sexual compliment, then a disqualifier OR a takeaway (just walk off after the compliment). The disqualifier or takeaway, on top of building attraction by sending mixed signals (push-pull), also demonstrates that the compliment came from a non-reaction seeking frame. Being non-reaction seeking is the key to giving a compliment.

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