This happened a couple of days ago, but w/e. So, I had fun the night before, but I decided it could be better. So... Round Two, FIGHT!

Thursday Night

SLC has some awesome summer concerts on Thursday nights, so I start by hitting up the weekly concert around 7pm. There's tons of women, yet again, but tons of high schoolers so I'm pretty hesitant about approaching. Should I be? Fortunately, the 21+ people who are drinking get wristbanded, so I guess I could work with that. Unfortunately, this is largely day-game and I'm pretty weak in this area.

At one point, I'm walking past a hot girl (HB7.5) with her phone in her hands. I accidentally bump into her and she drops her phone. I pick it up and hand it back. I should've used this for an opener, but I didn't since I was heading to the bathroom. On my part, I should've stayed!

I head back to the the crowd and see some people from the previous concerts. I chit-chat a bit with them before the band starts playing. I also talk to some other guys near me so not all hope is lost (with regards to AA). People keep squeezing past me and I keep giving them shit about shoving through the people around me. I'm entertained and they're entertained, so it's all good. The concert eventually heads and I head over to a club around 10pm.

I've never been to the tequila bar/club that I bounced too, so I wasn't sure what to expect. They had some go-go dancers but otherwise it was dead. I grabbed some chilled tequila and looked at the 10 people or so that were in the club. Several older women (no-go for me) and some college girls with several guys. Yet again, I'm not big on approaching mixed sets yet because I never know the group dynamics (just friends, couples, etc). I need to work on this. I leave for my usual bar since this place doesn't seem to be a big hit tonight.

The next bar wasn't as bad. More people? Check. Beautiful women? Approaches? No. For some reason, I didn't feel in state. I've met some great girls at this bar, but I just wasn't feeling it. Fuck. I need to work on getting into state more easily. I see some sets that I told myself to open but I didn't. As per my last FR, I just need to remember: "I won't see these people again anytime soon." Opportunities lost, again. Throughout the night, a lot of people were talking about a bar that I've never been to before, so I decide to try it out. I walk over and pay the cover. Let's try this out.

This bar is pretty sweet. Lots of outdoor patios with nice bars and some cool inner rooms + dance floor. I'm loving it so far. Yet again, tons of beautiful women. So, at least that should motivate me. I'm kinda through with drinking at this point (3 drinks in or so) since I want to maintain a clear head, plus I need to drive home later. I hit up the bartender for water and give a tip to get him on my side. So far, so good. Ideally, I like to look for 1 or 2-sets of girls, but I didn't see much out there. I end up heading over to the upper level patio and find a convenient ledge to lean against. Chilling? Fuck yeah. Several girls swing by me but I don't open. Sigh Eventually a 2 girls and a guy lean next to me and start chatting. I kinda quip in and gain some rapport, but I don't feel like I open them. At one point, the guy is standing next to a really tall guy (6'8") since the girls are giving him shit about how he's shorter (6'3" or so). After a while, they leave and the tall guys' friends show up. They great another in a foreign language which makes me interested since I love foreign cultures/languages. He's from Serbia and has actually been to my hometown, so we kinda bullshit and joke around. We exchange names and then he disengages from our conversation. At this point, I'm kinda hitting a low spot in my energy, so I head back to the indoor bar. I find a nice perch at the bar near a large mixed set of 8 people. It gets better!

I head over to the bar some another water. I see the mixed set from earlier (tall guy...) and it seems like they all know the 8 or so people behind me. The girls are hot, but I just lack the know-how to get into the group. Need to work on interacting with larger groups.

One of guys leans next to me and he looks wasted. We chat a bit. He keeps saying he's fucked up then continues to take more shots. I'm kinda laughing, joking about how I've been there before. He disappears then another girl shows up and orders some shots. I say what's up and see tells me how she had to explain to the bartender how to make her drink. I ask her what she's drinking but she tells me she doesn't want to say. I joke with her and eventually she caves and tells me some random vulgar phrase. I don't remember it but I thought it was hilarious since she was so coy about it. She disengages and heads back to her friend(s). Oh well, I'm feeling better now. Eventually the drunk guy from earlier shows back up. Another girl he knows shows up between us. I engage her and she remarks about how she wants a water. The bartenders are busy so the 3 of us just BS a bit. She's busy talking so I order her a water. Eventually her friend shows up on my other side and she bitches about how a guy behind me is flirting with a tall, skinny blonde. The girls near me, both brunettes, proceed to bitch about how brunettes are better than blondes. I go along with them and throw down some kino by putting my arms around their shoulders like we're conspirators in some crime. The new girl disengages and I continue to chat with the girl and the guy. The girl and I continue to rag on one another. It's pretty playful and light-hearted, but I'm enjoying it. Nothing like some laughter.

I never close _failure to isolate, lack of cojones--pick your poison... _

but I head out shortly after they leave. I'm behind them and the one girl, my target, says "Are you following me?" I'm thinking Fuck no, I gotta better things to do than that but instead I just laugh and say no. Could I have ended this better? Oh yeah. I still enjoyed it, so I call it a success. Another nice night.

What I've Learned

  • People are pretty open to random chit-chat. Just man up and talk to them! This is pretty obvious, but it needs to be emphasized!

  • Practice, practice, practice.

  • Reiterate: Open people (not just girls)! I can do the follow through conversation, I just suck at the open.

REQUEST: Any other sedditors in the SLC area? If so, hit me up with a PM. I need a wing