When uncomplicated sex gets complicated...........

2012-02-21T04:39:07+00:00

I learned nothing, but found it decently entertaining. P

Level_75_Zapdos · 2012-02-21T03:22:32+00:00

So...how attractive is this girl anyway? I'm pretty sure guys would not be flaking on her if she was a freakin bombshell.

edit: found a pic

She does look kind of crazy, but that wouldn't stop me. Guess the guys in Ireland are too busy drinking.

oshkoshalosh · 2012-02-21T00:46:01+00:00

OMG, I'm fucking dying. I can identify with like 90% of that post.

oshkoshalosh · 2012-02-21T06:07:04+00:00

To comment again, from a girl's perspective, why I found this so astute/hilarious, especially this part:

"Unfortunately, all the sexual frustration that wasn't getting released was instead building up and up and up. And rather than trying to forget about it, all I could think about was how I was supposed to be getting the ride and yet it wasn't happening. I kept reverting back to the classic 'he's a guy, he should be up for it all the time, IT'S BASIC SCIENCE' rather than chilling out.

And then the crack happened when I talked to some friends and they all said the same thing. 'He probably doesn't want it anymore because you're making it too easy'. Even though he hadn't said anything of the sort, I decided 'that's it, that's fucking it, fucking double standards, he thinks I'm a slut, he thinks I'm a slut, WELL WE'LL SEE ABOUT THAT!'"

I was seeing a guy, not serious, but emotionally closer than just friends with benefits. Especially at the beginning, he liked me a lot (I could tell), I liked him, all good -- we had the talk of neither of us wanting anything serious (though critical for me was still having his respect). And that was legitimate on my end. Anyway, I'm pretty damn open sexually, way moreso than him, and comfortable with asserting myself. So I feel like he misconstrued both my openness and assertiveness as me being not only easy, but way into him emotionally (when really he wasn't that great, but I loved the sex). Aka... loss of interest/him freaking out that I wanted something more when I didn't.

So like... wtf? I think he personally was just not a good match, because before him I was in a great situation: really close friend, really compatible sexually, mutual and fairly strong feelings, but mutual agreement that neither wanted to commit/be in a relationship. So I know it can work out for me. But in regards to this guy, and for me going forward: wtf is wrong with a girl being sexually assertive? How does that make you slutty, easy etc. while in the confines of a relationship or quasi-relationship (we weren't "official" by any means, but neither of us was seeing anybody else)? Is it not attractive to know that the girl you're seeing really wants to fuck you?

point: DAMMIT SOMETIMES GIRLS JUST WANNA HAVE SEX (and be respected) lol there are not always ulterior motives!!!11

2012-02-21T01:39:26+00:00

What was supposed to be the interesting part of that article?

Title	When uncomplicated sex gets complicated...........
Author	MartiniSmyth
Upvotes	17
Comments	9
Date	February 20, 2012 11:27 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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