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[–]ChoppedBelAir 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like she is making herself available and can't figure out if you like her
[–]Educational-Ad-6197[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (8 children) | Copy Link
She told me she’s not the type to cheat, and offered her IG instead of number, I ain’t gonna be one of her followers so I declined. I asked her out, and flirt a little bit. What more does she need? Shouldn’t she be coming to me?
[–]ChoppedBelAir 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Well if she's leaving the dude then she needs to finish that process but girls have a habit of monkey branching relationships. Where they don't leave one until they have another lined up.
I'd say keep flirting but don't take it past that unless she's left that relationship. Set your boundary and maintain it that you aren't interested in being a side piece and that if she is interested she needs to be single first.
If a relationship starts from cheating it sort of okays cheating later on.
[–]Educational-Ad-6197[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
She’s been avoiding me the last week now, we work closely together at times. Should I just act like everything is normal or wait for her to say something to me?
[–]ChoppedBelAir 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Hard to say. You might just have to feel out the situation. Either of those could lead to feelings going cold. You could try talking it out if you think she has enough interest in you and you are interested in things with her. Or at least talking it out to a point of friendship if you think you'd rather go that route so it's not awkward at work
[–]Educational-Ad-6197[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Left her alone again today the entire night, she didn’t say nothing today either. Than she happened to pass by at end of the night and asked how my night was going if I was “hanging in there” I just kept it cordial.
[–]ChoppedBelAir 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Nice. Take the pressure off yourself but don't be afraid to chat a bit to keep things warm
[–]Educational-Ad-6197[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Last thing. Do you think I should let her intitate again? Because that was kind of weak if you ask me. I want her to invest more
[–]ChoppedBelAir 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Getting her to chase more is going to depend on her personality and her level of attraction. She obviously has her fall back that's she's holding onto incase things don't work out.
You could wait until she initiates and then reward that with more of your usual banter and light flirting.
You could take a riskier tactic by keeping it low key like you just now. This has a higher risk of her thinking you aren't interested and she gives up though.
You could also just continue as you originally were but build a strong emotional connection. Eventually she'll believe you're the better option and jump branches but she may need some assurance that you aren't going to leave her hanging if she does. This is more of a relationship oriented approach.
You could do a lot of things but it'll really come down to her personality and how she views you
[–]Educational-Ad-6197[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Obviously I’m biased but I really do think we have a connection. I’ve been played before, but I get the vibe from her that she likes me a lot. Honestly I want a relationship with her anything else isn’t good enough for me. I was hoping she would Initiate again and then I was going to ask some more personal questions about the situation with her boyfriend lol. Basically just asking about how they met, how long she’s been unhappy, does he know , does she have a exit plan etc. Either she ignores me again and I can move on, or I can get some answers and decide from there… it’s a messed up situation but I could see myself falling in love with her, like if marriage didn’t work with her idk who it would work with id just become a bachelor
[–]Far_Box_5547 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
Man honest advice play the role she needs. Just be super chill she confided in you Because you played the part keep playing that role and lay the frame trust me it works
[–]Educational-Ad-6197[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
She told me she was trying to make moves of leaving too like getting a new car/apartment , I was going to ask her a little bit more about the boyfriend situation but now it’s pretty obvious she’s avoiding me, so I didn’t even look at her today when passing by at end of shift. She needs to come to me, I can’t be pursuing, already done enough
[–]Far_Box_5547 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
I didn’t say pursue. I said play that role act like you have options. Don’t be a dick but just be open and comforting to her. She has to want to leave where she is and feel that she has comfort waiting
[–]Educational-Ad-6197[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Gotcha. Yeah I was doing that but she pulled back. I could tell she liked it, her face was always lit up and blushing/smiling. It seems she’s done a 180 tho. I tried to make a little small talk yesterday but she didn’t seem thrilled to talk so I just left it
[–]Far_Box_5547 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Focus on her make her feel as if your there think back to school days you gotta court her
[–]Educational-Ad-6197[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I’ll see how it goes later in the week. I do think a little distance is good. I asked her out 2 weeks ago (we just started getting to know each other 3 weeks ago) so it is moving pretty quickly, I’ve tried to remain as mysterious as possible and just give her glimpse for now. It’s tricky because she has a boyfriend and I see her at the work place lol
[–]Far_Box_5547 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
This is day 1 work husband role you gotta play that’s all just how’s your weekend hey what’s up wanna get lunch enjoy your night those kinda vibes
Gotcha, idk it just feels off now, like she’s avoiding me a bit, we hit it off great last week good get to know you convos and lots of flirting , I said how ya doing yesterday and all I got was a hi lol then she got embarrassed cuz she dropped something and I teased her about it but kept it moving. She been ghost since. I know I’m overthinking, kind of feel bad about avoiding eye contact today but for all I know she did the same. I feel like if I try to say something now it’s gonna be me trying to hard, maybe I should wait for her to initiate… she got to want me too… honestly I was getting the vibe that she does really like me but is holding back due to respect for the bf… I know the situation with her boyfriend is really complex
[–]Far_Box_5547 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Play that role in telling you don’t ignore or pull away show her your “there”
[–]Educational-Ad-6197[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
So just respond to her, or still initiate a bit like what I’ve been doing ?
[–]Far_Box_5547 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Think workhusband role
[–]Thin_Protection5616 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's open to the possibility of branch swinging onto you, and you could easily make this girl your gf if you wanted to.
But tbh, this is the type of girl you should fuck a few times but never be exclusive with.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Until she’s free and clear, don’t get involved with her.
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