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ADVICE--cunt/r/RedPillWives30/10/16 10:11 PM
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Just try to be there for him and extra loving. in my experience what it very helpful for me during difficult times (talking about the problem lots, coming up with solutions to the problem) is very unhelpful to my fiance. Don't know if that's a man thing or just my man. But I have a bad habit of he wants me there just to cuddle and relax and take his mind off of all his stress and I bring it up to try to help, and he just gets stressed. so I would just try to destress, make your home as peaceful …
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/18 05:32 PM
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I know this is a bit old of a post, but just chiming in to say that's actually frequently quoted but totally inaccurate info. (Fertility declining at 30.) I was terrified and wanted to get pregnant a few years ago but my fiancé was not and is still not quite ready- I'm approaching 26. I got super depressed, convinced it was pointless after 25 as most people say. Apparently the studies that the information are coming from are 300+ years old. With today's modern medicine - not just IVF but even si…
/r/RedPillWives08/03/18 01:01 AM
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Okay , to be fair.. Nothings impossible, but some things are pretty unlikely. If I told my fiance I was going to go rock climbing , I would expect a chuckle out of him. Same if he told me he wanted to take me dancing. Now if either of us said "No wait like I actually want to learn to do this, dont discourage me plz" our tone would change. But my fiance and I know each other's skill sets & realistic capabilities pretty well and we would laugh and say "good luck buddy lol" to something out of the …
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 03:20 AM
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Plus I feel like most boyfriends say they just like your looks. I went from dramatically underweight to normal weight. Fiance raves about how sick I looked then and how hot I look now. But back then he was all over me too. Same with hair color. I think even if your man says "I love you plus sized" and you lose weight, youre not going to hear complaints.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 04:23 PM
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I think dual income families have a play in this too. I think women (and I suppose men) who never have a whole and healthy upbringing seek a parental sort of love from their partners as adults. And of course if both parents are working 40+ hours a week, you cant parent the way a child needs. But that is expected nowadays.
/r/RedPillWives22/11/17 06:56 PM
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I can sympathise with both sides. My fiance is a night owl. I am a super violent sleeper with a strict sleep schedule. We don't often sleep at exactly the same time. I dont care about that... I'm asleep. But I like nights when we snuggle in bed in our pjs and then fall asleep next to each other. Thats like what married couples do right? So even though I understand why he doesnt want to do that every night (some of it my fault) I get sad, and when I bug him about it a lot he gets mad, and of cour…
/r/RedPillWives22/11/17 04:51 PM
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Alright possible long-winded rant incoming. I don't know where I find myself politically. Personally I like taking on traditional roles, I know that it is best for me. I simply dont know whats best for society at large. I read here, I read gender critical stuff as well, because I strongly disagree with the liberal feminist mindset that seems most prominent / that I agreed with in my younger years. But I think the rise of starting kids on hormones & puberty blockers is awful. I think maybe it is …
/r/RedPillWives22/11/17 02:25 PM
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Ive tried it and lasted about 3 days? On strict keto. It was HARD as I barely eat meat to begin with. I did notice on day 1 my energy levels were a bit better so while I dont count my calories (I'm at a good weight) I am more conscious of my sugar & carb intake now.
/r/RedPillWives10/10/17 06:15 PM
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I disagree that its irritating. I have been seeing the concept of emotional labor come up A LOT frequently from more liberal women. And it comes up more frequently in my home then i'd like. (From my fiance, as "Please stop doing that.") Emotional labor is more than just thinking about when the chores need to be done. Its always being the one to notice you're low on milk and having to get it or ask your partner. Its being the one to remember to send out holiday cards. Its feeling responsible for …
/r/RedPillWives09/10/17 03:13 AM
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My therapist said I am codependent as well, and my fiancé agreed. I think it's less about the specific actions that you do than the thoughts behind them. If you want to do things for another person to make them happy bc you love them that's normal. If you do them bc you need their approval and validation to exist that's unhealthy. I struggle with the second sometimes. Probably isn't your friends place to judge though.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 01:13 PM
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I was a bit sad at first that my fiancé & I don't have an actual anniversary day, because our relationship was a bit messy at the start, but I guess most relationships just happen sort of organically and don't officially begin as "Will you officially be my girlfriend now?" and when that does happen it's not really a momentous occasion tbh. But we reflect on that often throughout the year! Plus we use holidays to celebrate as a lil family thing, you could do that. Then it's nice to say "wow it's …
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 10:45 AM
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Anniversaries are for marriage, unless you are still in high school IMO
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 06:19 PM
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This is something that took me awhile to learn but same. Not so much my emotional needs but my .. talking needs? Sometimes I like to just tell a half hour long story about my day. Or describe in detail the new chopstick I bought. I've started calling my sister because she is always interested in my very detailed pointless stories. I used to get mad because he was my partner, how dare he not be interested??
/r/RedPillWives25/08/17 03:48 PM
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I agree 100%. Fiancé & I both flip flop lately on whether or not we want kids. Maybe I'll become a housewife. That's the goal but who knows, maybe I'll get bored and keep working. All I know is when everyone in my life tells me to get a better job, go back to school, etc. it seems so irrelevant and unimportant. Maybe that's childish. My bills are paid my finances are relatively in order. There's so many more important things to work towards and enjoy honestly.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/17 01:49 AM
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My fiancé is like this as well, it used to frustrate me a bit. I've learned to just accept that this is how he is, and I want him to take the reigns when it comes to big decisions so I shouldn't micro-manage how he does it, or how much he involves me in the decision-making process. For example, I'm feeling REALLY broody lately, and while I know now isn't a good time to have kids, I want to know exactly what each of us need to do before that happens, when we will do those things, how we'll do it,…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 08:21 PM
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Divorce rates have been declining since the 1980s. You seem really bitter. Marriage can actually work if you put effort into yourself and your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 05:08 AM
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Most marriages dont end in divorce actually, but many do sadly. I just don't see how bashing relationships / marriage is helpful to a woman who seems to be (understandably) jealous about not being at that level of commitment yet. Again, it just seems like a bitter way to try to make yourself feel better. Like a little kid throwing a tantrum. "oh well they have something I want but don't have. Well NEVER MIND what they have is actually stupid and dumb!!!"
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 04:53 AM
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I don't know how you are interpreting RPW as condoning lying to each other, or faking happiness in a miserable relationship doomed for divorce. Maybe Ive misunderstood what this community is about because I couldn't do that. I understand the unwarranted feeling of being unwanted, as it's something I've dealt with in my relationship at times. But that insecurity is a very personal problem, and the solution isn't to lie to yourself and put down your friends. That kind of attitude is very ugly and …
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 06:06 PM
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What about this post makes you think that OP's friends' relationships won't last? Simply because they got engaged before her, or am I missing something? So everyone who is happily married is secretly lying to themselves and everyone around them, but OP definitely has a great relationship and deserves a rock ASAP? That all just sounds bitter and jealous and weird to me.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 05:18 PM
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Or in some cases just solve the problem on yourself. I don't know about anyone else / anyone else's partners but I struggle with bringing every little problem to my fiancé and I don't think he really wants to be my "knight in shining armor" all the time
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 03:40 PM
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1) I would absolutely trust a doctor less if she was making an effort to appear more feminine. That is not an appropriate place to be overly concerned about your appearance, and if my doctor seemed to be, I would assume they just had no idea how medical professions even worked. 2) You can't give 100% to your personal life, your home life, and your career. One or two of these things is going to suffer if you want to be completely devoted to any of them, and that's a decision you have to make.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 12:32 AM
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I see this IRL a lot too. Sometimes my friends / family post on Facebook "sweet" things their men do, like surprise them with a pet terrier they neeeeded or have babies before they are ready and I have a moment of wait why doesn't my fiancé do that?? Then I remember the 8,000 passive aggressive posts bullying their men and remember I got a man who doesn't put up with that crap. I think it's sad women would rather settle for a man because he worships the ground she walks on and does anything she …
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 07:33 PM
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I can kind of get behind what she's saying, it does come across as very entitled, and I think asking for maternity leave for non-mothers is taking it a bit too far. But I think a lot of women don't want to be career women, and unfortunately have to in today's economic climate. Me personally I've read a little bit of surrendered wife and got to the bit where it said you shouldn't be afraid to ask for less time at work. Now my fiancé cherishes his alone time, and working 16 hours less a pay period…
/r/RedPillWives13/05/17 12:45 PM
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I'm sorry you had to go through all of that. I had a similar upbringing. I used to be very shy and not speak. Now that I am in a comfortable environment where I feel safe I can't shut up lol. Get to therapy. Even if you have to "shop around" for a therapist you feel comfortable with. Distance yourself from your family, they sound toxic.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 02:16 PM
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I'm the opposite!! I "hear" the love language of words best (which I don't do often or too eloquently) but I show people love with lavish and /or thoughtful gifts, which don't mean much to me.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 12:12 AM
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I'm confused.. would you rather a man with dirty clothing?
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/17 02:57 AM
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OkCupid!!!! I met my fiancé there, and I've seen many women on Reddit say the same!!! I used Tinder for like a day back then, I found it was really impersonal and I think it's just a hookup app. No idea of other sites except match.com which a coworker told me was crappy and needed to pay for
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 12:09 AM
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I'm not suggesting that I or anyone should try to control people's parenting decisions, or any decisions. But if it's an objectively stupid decision, no one is infringing on your precious liberty or forcing you to stop just by pointing out the fact. And I don't really care to come off as kind to someone who is suggesting that having white babies is a higher priority than putting a bit of effort into their health and motherhood.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/17 03:00 AM
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Yeah you're probably right. It's not like things have ever been proven to be harmful to children besides letting them die. The consistent facts of countless studies on the matter are just like, a matter of opinion, man. Besides, who cares how they turn out, all that really matters is that they're white.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/17 12:33 AM
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Haha I like it!!! Made me think too! I like to think I'm somewhere between the 2 extremes lol
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 11:46 PM
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It's possible to be a bad parent even if you don't beat or severely neglect your children. Meeting the bear legal minimums- keeping them alive and healthy- shouldn't be an aspiration. I'm not talking about extremes either, sure "nobody's perfect, everyone should just do their best, blah blah." I don't know, I feel like that's being lazy but I guess I just hold myself to higher standards and wish more people would as well.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 11:45 PM
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That's fucked up an selfish, sorry. It's smart and mature for OP to wait. I had a narcissistic alcoholic mother, and as much as I hate to admit it I picked up some of her neurotic traits. I will not have kids until I am 100% rid of them, because they deserve the best mom, not just a fat lazy anxious mom because she reaaaally wants a family right now. Sometimes I feel shitty because we're waiting like OP, not just because of me but fiancé needs to get his life in order to. Neither of us are matur…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/17 07:25 PM
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Agreed. I'm a little drunk so sorry to be blunt, but I think OP is just a lousy man so his wife doesn't feel threatened by the possibility of stealing him away. I get the general message. I think it's true of most women with good partners- they feel a little worried someone will steal him away because he's so fucking awesome, but feel safe and secure and loved because he wants HER. OP your wife feels safe and secure but doesn't feel threatened by other women. The solution isn't to dangle other w…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 04:28 AM
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I work with a few women who are constantly moaning about needing to find a husband.. horribly unattractive, overweight, and awful entitled personalities as well. To add to that, they think they can get a 6'5 breadwinner who's strong yet loving. Of course you can still find a man if you're too lazy to put any effort at all into your appearance. But you're going to have to have a winning personality and lower your standards a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 07:54 PM
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I think generally speaking competition is a big part of female sexually. Definitely mine. It turns me on when my fiancé makes teasing comments about other women. But in reality my trust would be so broken if he made it a point to spend time with other women just to make me jealous and turn me on, that I couldn't really feel close to him in any way. I get what you're saying... I think in a lot of marriages/LTRs, men focus so much on making their partner feel safe and loved and cherished that they…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 06:49 PM
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This is interesting, I didn't read the whole article but skimmed ahead to the video. I stand by my point that Hilary and Donald (sorry) were both unlikeable. Hilary seemed professional but cold and uncaring. Yes Donald seemed passionate but also very rude. I didn't watch the debates, I'm not too into politics... but the woman in the video seemed just as unlikeable as the man just in a different way IMO
/r/RedPillWives12/03/17 06:59 AM
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Realistically most women don't deserve that top 20% of men, but they think they do. I know a handful of women who are out of shape and have awful personalities, but want the perfect man. Those women should just "settle," because they don't have any other option.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 03:12 PM
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Pretty sure that's a woman thing (He's a prize to compete for, getting jealous over instagram pics etc) and I don't know how well that would work on men especially if you're not fucking them.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 04:14 AM
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The sex tips are awful, and always involve putting something else on his dick- a scrunchie, a donut, pop rocks, ice cubes.... why?? My mouth works fine.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/17 05:27 PM
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Met my fiancé on OkCupid too!! We were something like a 96% match!! :D
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 04:11 AM
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He is wonderful in every way!!! I don't nag as often as I used to, luckily I found you ladies and this helpful community!! I've just hit a hiccup lately and these comments repeated a lot of negative thoughts and worries I've been having. I'm telling myself "it's really not like that," but having a hard time recognizing if maybe I'm just rationalizing it. He's started to pick up on my annoyance and we've had a rough weekend cuz of this so it's good to get some outside perspective, thank you!!!
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 11:52 PM
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And normally I focus on those things, but sometimes when I really think about it, it worries me. I very rarely bring it up anymore because it's not my place. Besides it would be hypocritical- I'm not 100% where I want to be career-wise, financially, and I don't keep on top of the chores as often as I should! So I let it go. But of course it worries me sometimes But this is what I tell myself most of the time!!! He does so much for me and he's had a rough life and deserves a chance to just do wha…
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 09:56 PM
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I don't mean to hijack your post but I have the same problem. These replies are depressing the hell out of me. I love my man dearly, we are engaged and plan to marry, get stable careers, buy a home before we have kids. I worry that won't ever happen. It's been 6-8 months since fiancé has done something truly productive (work, school.) He helps me out around the house, but I work full time and I feel if he's home he should take care of the home like I will when he works. He has a lot in savings a…
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 08:46 PM
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I am very much pro-choice, in any situation including late term abortions. I've become less liberal as I get older, but this is the one issue I feel I'll never budge on. The majority of third-trimester abortions are wanted pregnancies. 20 weeks is when you find out about many birth defects, and for some women it's a choice of "Do I carry this baby to term and have a stillborn baby/ try to carry to term but definitely have a spontaneous miscarriage; or do I spare myself the pain in the future and…
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 06:24 AM
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Sorry if this isn't very helpful, but my fiancé and I have had the opposite problem. My dad was/is a good guy, but my mom actively turned my against him throughout my childhood. She's a piece of work (not just by RPW standards, she's is genuinely a toxic person.) That being said, I didn't really have a stable solid family foundation growing up and was trying way too hard to find it my entire life. My fiancé on the other hand also had a pretty toxic upbringing, but rather than desperately seeking…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 06:15 PM
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It's easy to talk about compassion as a concept, but hard to practice it in everyday life, at least for me personally. I find myself sensitive to the struggles of others that I may not be aware of, until I'm faced with those people in life and I catch myself thinking judgmental thoughts. Something I'd like to be more mindful of!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 06:12 PM
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I think friendships are super important and I wish I made more time for my friends - I talk my fiance's ear off about things I should talk to girlfriends about... work drama, new nail polish. I usually get a reminder to shush and call my sister. But I have some older single friends who expect me to still hang out every weekend like when we were in high school, not understanding that my weekend off is my time to spend with fiancé, meal prep, clean house, me time. Priorities change as you get olde…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 06:37 PM
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Idk I feel like I've read it here more than a few times not as a rule but generality, maybe not though. Definitely not the case for my man lol
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 04:59 PM
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SAME. My fiancé lets me take care of him, do the whole "Aw you're having a bad day here's food here's coffee here's a hug I LOVE YOU MY DARLING" if he's not in a terrible mood because it makes me feel good and that makes him feel good... but it doesn't really help him. Also it seems we like to push the "men's love language is touch" here but my man is NooOooot a cuddler, even when I do a reassuring touch on the shoulder, he is like ".... What is that. Please stop. I am annoyed and that is more a…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 02:07 AM
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Completely disagree. I'm not a man so I could be wrong, but my fiancé is very open about his issues with me when there are issues to be addressed and sex has never been one. Editing to say I understand what you're trying to say. Early on in relationships everyone's bringing their A-game, and for women with a lower sex drive that might be acting more sexual, dressing in more sexually appealing ways, being more desirable; as well as keeping some flaws under wraps (which is normal and OK for both p…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 07:42 PM
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I'm not at all trivializing this community (which I read religiously, but have only begun to comment and participate in!) or that blog which I'm not at all familiar with. I'm not saying that RPW is shallow at all, just that the article seemed that way, as in it was lacking well-articulated ideas like the points you made.
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 07:51 PM
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I agree completely, but at this point for many women in becomes an issue less of "what they are conditioned to do," vs "what they have to do." Yeah, I think most women would be happier if their husbands could be the breadwinners and they could focus on the marriage, children and domestic pursuits. (Not every woman.. but most, I would say.) Unfortunately most men and women can't survive on one income alone, which is why I say it's a bit naive to look at things and say "Huh... why did we stop surv…
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 02:17 AM
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Yeah this 'article' feels a bit naive to me. "Golly gee, couples are so much happier when one person makes enough money to support the whole family! If everyone did that, then women would be so stressed out from working like a man!" Like yeah... probably. Utopia indeed if every boy fresh out of high school could get a factory job and buy a house and support his nuclear family on that income. Stupid blue pill women - just do that duh! /s
/r/RedPillWives28/01/17 11:16 PM
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I definitely agree with /u/MsSadieDunham that RPW is not one size fits all!! Yes it's about traditional gender roles- i.e. putting your partner and relationship first, but that doesn't mean you need to be a 1950s housewife. I'm a fairly liberal pro-choice purple-haired, RPW. Some of you may look at me and my interests and think "Ew slutty SJW with her DARK LIPSTICK!" Well my man LOVES it and that's all that matters!! How does your hubby feel about you being a housewife? Did you go into this marr…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 08:52 PM
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Masculine is different from traditional IMO, traditional is just what you're used to generations before you and you're going to have a harder time finding that in a different city than you grew up in. "Masculine" in my eyes as a child in bumblefuck-nowhereville meant driving a pickup truck and wearing camo. My fiancé who lived in more urban places growing up isn't into cars and that kind of crap but he's still into traditional roles. Like other people suggested, open your mind to business type m…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 06:04 PM
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Because that's no fun!!! I've even heard ladies here say that they get their vicarious "drama fix" through TV, and while I'm not a fan of desperate housewives-Type reality shows, I feel the same way. I'd get super bored watching TV shows where the couples just sat on the couch watching TV shows lol
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 08:59 PM
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For my whole life (I'm talking like back to my very first "boyfriend" in middle school) I have dated only children. I remember when I first met my now-fiancé, I was gushing over him to my best friend, and realized he has a younger sibling. I was convinced that because I had broken my pattern he was totally different and he was "The One." Turns out I was right. :p I'm an oldest as well, and I have a bit of bossiness and my fiancé is the only man I've ever met to stand up to me and get me to back …
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 02:26 PM
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I have a Mirena IUD, which if I get pregnant while I have inserted will likely result in an ectopic pregnancy, which the fetus would not survive anyway- on the near impossible chance I were to get pregnant. Actually it's more likely that I would get pregnant if I were to get sterilized! (Failure rate of female sterilization is .5% while hormonal IUDs have a failure rate of .2%) Sex for me right now is not for reproduction at all- it's about intimacy, pleasure, providing pleasure for my fiancé, c…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 12:27 AM
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Unpopular RPW here, I am all for abortion. If I got pregnant right now it would literally kill me. Even if I could have a healthy pregnancy, fiancé and I are not financially or emotionally ready for children. I wouldn't put that stress on our relationship, and I don't want our children to feel resented. It's not my place either to say "Well my situation would be okay.... but abortion is not good." Nothing is worse than a broken marriage and a broken family, and unwanted children cause that. I do…
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 02:13 PM
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Whenever I read stuff like this I find it hard to believe that means I'm as hot and smart as my fiancé :p
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 03:26 PM
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So why shouldn't men do that as well? You think less of your boyfriend and it's affecting your relationship, but it's okay for a woman to have sex as she pleases with no thought of future consequences and not a man? I disagree btw. No one likes a slut whether it's a man or woman, as your post proves. And that's okay... I mean my fiancé and I both slutted it up in our college days before we met, but his number was much higher than mine. When I found out I felt shitty like I wasn't very special so…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 01:18 PM
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My experiences have been sort of different. I was on ortho tri-cyclen (combination pill) for YEARS and while I did experience some anxiety and mood swings, I think that can be chalked up to anxiety running in my family & living in a bad environment. Being on no birth control at all (for a brief period.. haha.. period..) dulled my emotions a bit but not in a way that I like. I felt stoic and silent and numb. I then got a Mirena IUD which if you're not familiar releases a small amount of progester…
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 05:41 PM
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Talk to your dad, maybe by saying you were the only one invited he meant that in response to you bringing the kids and wanted it to be no kids? If he definitely meant no hubby allowed I wouldn't go. I've been to many family events without my fiancé because he HAAAATES getting dragged to family stuff whether it's his family or mine, but if they would specifically tell me he's not invited I'd say fuck that and not go, or bring him anyway
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 06:22 PM
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My man is definitely the type to not notice a new lipstick shade or throw pillow lol and I'm fine with it! We live in a tiny little studio now so I've done what I can to make it feel like home, but I know that's just for my sake... any conversations of "which do you prefer the all white minimalist home or the cozy cabin" all end in "idgaf that's on you," which is good bc I have strong opinions on that sort of thing !
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 02:21 PM
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Reading it again I still kind of get the vibe "Dad does what mom does" and that isn't the way I would raise my children
/r/RedPillWives02/01/17 08:04 PM
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I have to disagree with some of the points being made here actually. And maybe I'm not qualified to talk on the subject- I have no children and have been firmly childfree up until recently; my partner and I have changed our minds about starting a family in the future. So thinking about kids is new to me. But it's actually RPW and implementing those ideas in our lives and embracing rather than rejecting traditional gender roles than have opened our hearts to the idea of parenthood. I personally d…
/r/RedPillWives02/01/17 05:53 PM
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Maybe it's a maternal thing? Because the advice was appreciated when I was 4 and didn't have the foresight to realize I might get cold. Adults especially men and husbands don't appreciate it as much
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 02:17 AM
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My grandmother does this too, I love her dearly and she's been more of a mother to me than my own mother. But god is it annoying when she nags. "Put on a sweater." I'm not cold. "Well what if you get cold" I'm not. "Well do you want my sweater?" UGHHHHH I know if I'm cold and I know what to do if I get cold!!! I'm not incompetent!! Love her dearly but after a few hours with her I nag a lot less with my fiancé because I get it lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 01:12 AM
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Men have a hard time accepting help from people. They are self- sufficient.Don't force your help on him. If you force your love in the form of helping, he might give in to make you feel good, but that's not helping him now is it? Offer help and if he declines than just accept it, or he has to deal with the chore of making you feel better about yourself by reluctantly accepting help that he doesn't want, which to him is obviously more of a hassle than laundry. If you've only been with him a few m…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 03:43 AM
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The cost and time of doctors appointments throughout the entire pregnancy? The hormonal emotional mess that my fiancé will have to deal with? I'm not a drinker, but avoiding alcohol on holidays, taking special care to avoid any kind of harmful foods or anything for a little shit machine that neither of us want anything to do with? Why would I wreck my vagina and body, go through pregnancy and childbirth, be a disgusting fat emotional mess for almost a year instead of just getting rid of it in th…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 01:23 AM
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We've been together 3 years and lived together a year and a half. Since like day one of living together he has been this way and tried to explain to me that he just wants me out of the house sometimes because spending time truly alone just feels different than spending time "alone" but I'm sitting 5 feet away on the couch. It made me sad. I love spending time with him! Every second!! And I'd get paranoid... why doesn't he want me there, what's he hiding? My married friends told me that would pas…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/16 06:32 AM
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Yes I think that's normal and natural like everyone else said it's important to find your own hobbies and personal space. But even then you're going to have periods of wanting more closeness/more distance. Last few weeks I've been feeling a bit annoyed not at my fiancé but his presence... which sounds awful but we're cramped in a tiny 300 sq ft studio and I just want him to go away sometimes!!!! I love him dearly but I just physically need space. Last night he went to bed really early and I stay…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/16 02:23 AM
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My opinion and maybe this is an unpopular RPW view, but whoever the initiator/ person with higher sex drive is going to hear no sometimes. I have the higher sex drive but I usually leave it up to my partner to initiate because he's not in the mood as often. If I tried to initiate every time I felt horny I would be rejected 5 times a day because I'm just constantly turned on and he's usually doing things and not thinking about sex lol. He's an anomaly when it comes to men I guess??? I think it's …
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/16 01:03 PM
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Well that didn't work. He's the worlds heaviest sleeper, his alarm can go off for 10 minutes straight. I decided to trust him when he said "feel free to do what I want when he's sleeping, watch TV, clean, talk on the phone, if it wakes him it won't bother him." I'm still getting a bit sick of doing nothing but sitting on the couch day after day, so I figured I'd trust him, I just decluttered a bit, cleaned off the kitchen and coffee table, and stuff. He just woke up and is pissed at me because I…
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 01:16 AM
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I also got Negotiator :) 29% explorer 74% builder 31% director 79% negotiator So I guess I'm a feminine serotonin-seeker??? Not sure what that means though lol
/r/RedPillWives02/11/16 06:41 AM
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Jeez no need to be so harsh. After a 10 hour work day most of the time all I want to do is nothing. I have hobbies, I've had a tendency though to think something's really fun and then get a bit bored in a few months. Financially right now I can't do that, so I was just looking for some solitary inexpensive hobbies, but yeah I guess that's what googles for lol
/r/RedPillWives16/10/16 11:08 PM
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That sounds so badass and awesome!!!
/r/RedPillWives16/10/16 03:22 PM
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We've found a good balance with that dynamic (d/lg), sometimes he's feeling more protective and caring, and I get into that "mode" then and he doesn't mind it if he's feeling it. The problem was (well and I guess is) sometimes he feels like leading more, sometimes he wants me to be more independent, sometimes he wants me to be vulnerable and childlike. And of course sometimes I'm feeling all of those ways and want him to accordingly act paternally and protective, or leaderly and strong, or any o…
/r/RedPillWives16/10/16 02:16 PM
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I may not be awful but some of my behaviors are tbh. Thank you though :) we don't scream and fight anymore. I've been through dbt and finally am on medication that works for me. Any problems I'm having now are manageable i just struggle with managing them I guess -_-
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 11:49 PM
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Also this makes sense. He's said things like this to me but not quite in this way. It's not that I didn't trust him or respect his decision... I guess I just didn't understand??? When he says things like that to me, I think the alternative is to be one of those "I'm a strong independent woman who don't need no man! You play by my rules! Etc" and that's not me!!!! That will never be me no matter how hard I try!!!! I guess there is a middle ground, and I can still submit to him without being a doo…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 11:46 PM
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I'm not making excuses but I do use Reddit as a place to vent rather than a journal. Looking through my posts of course you see some "He said he hates me, I was being a nagging jealous bitch he wants to leave help!" but I post here when we fight and I'm upset and I need someone to talk to and I've never been the kind of woman to go to my friends and vent about my relationship so I talk to strangers. It looks bad because it's a fight and I've been acting like an ass and he says hurtful things, an…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 11:43 PM
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Blah I don't want to bring that weird shit here bc I know it's weird and honestly embarrassing. We found a way that dynamic fits into our lives though. It just kind of worked it's way in there, he enjoys and initiates taking care of me in that way sometimes, I get to feel vulnerable and childish, he gets to feel protective and take care of me in ways he likes IDC. I don't think it's incompatible. He likes that I'm vulnerable and innocent and such. It makes him feel strong and important bc he is!…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 11:23 PM
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I know all of this :( I have been reading tons! That's literally all I've been doing in my spare time! I'm actually getting a little obsessive and weird and it's all I can think about so I have been reading. It's just hard to change your behaviors overnight. And I have been, but I'm not perfect, and it's new to me! I'm here to learn!! This isn't something that started a fight or a conversation, as soon as I wrote this out and posted, I realized how silly I was being. I have a hard time just keep…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 11:13 PM
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OP back on main account... sorry for the rude username :( it's just easier on mobile to use this account, don't know why I made a different one lol I don't think there's anything wrong with being a feminist and being here!! It's my choice to submit to my partner but I would never want to force what works for us on another couple :( I have been reading- nonstop! Every minute I'm at home relaxing, I'm reading up! I was going to buy books, but I spend too much money on stuff so I'm just reading and…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 10:52 PM
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Maybe a poor choice of words, I guess what I meant was that I want to submit to my partner, but he doesn't want me to submit to him. For the first year of our relationship I submitted to him mainly because I had no choice- we did not have a healthy relationship. Now I do feel that he is in "control" of our relationship, and he agrees. Sometimes I seek a lot of validation, and we have too many "honey let's talk about us" talks, but we both know he is #1. I've been reading here- every bit of info …
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 10:34 PM
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