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Moral alignment
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:50 AM
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I prefer a convent
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:50 AM
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I'm certainly not complaining
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:39 AM
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I prefer virgin men. Our morals and values are way more likely to line up than a dude who has had sex with a ton of women of any kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:26 AM
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Preference =/= kink. Kink is explicitly about sexual gratification. I think that it is very romantic that my partner and I are both virgins and that we will get to share the experience of losing our virginities together. Specifically taking his virginity is not what arouses me. I have dealt with guys who did have that particular kink, not just preference, and quite frankly they were repulsive. One told me in explicit detail that he was looking forward to making me bleed and feel pain. Yeah I fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:12 AM
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I think that "spiral of silenece" theory is more appropriate. "Virtue signaling" suggests that the person is not actually taking action. A person who happens to live in a specific way that garners social approval, and talks about it on the internet, is not virtue signaling. So where are all the people who don't live like that? They're probably just not saying anything, because they know they'll be shit on for it. That's spiral of silence. That leaves the people who, while perhaps being truthful,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:40 PM
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It's basically a massive crossover event where chronically online weirdos are colliding with the normal people who are now getting recommended that sub for reasons that aren't clear
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:27 PM
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Pray tell how being submissive and agreeable is "boss babe" behavior? The word "boss" is present in that term for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:05 PM
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An example from my own life is deciding where to spend the holidays. My BF and I are both close with our families, and we both spent 100% of every major holiday with our families prior to meeting each other. Now we spend the afternoon with my family, and the evening with his. We have made sacrifices in terms of getting to spend the whole day with each of our respective families, but we each still get equal time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:04 PM
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They always take an unripe or undeveloped attitude like ‘boss babe’ or ‘girlboss’. Do you know what these terms mean? Because the attitudes/behaviors you go on to describe aren't really compatible with it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:58 PM
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Have you ever read O. Henry's Gift of the Magi? That is probably one of the most iconic examples of wholesome, mutual sacrifice in a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:23 PM
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Eh as someone who grew up in wealthy conservative-leaning Bible Belt suburbs, there are definitely attractive people who care. Granted they generally aren't on dating apps, they meet through their likeminded circles of similar economic status.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:47 PM
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Fear of imminent death and feelings of arousal are not compatible for me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:12 PM
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Definitely. I have pointed this out to certain male users here with more extreme stances on female modesty. But then you have a scenario like a bikini car wash, where the explicit attention is for the participants to sexualize themselves as much as is legally possible for the sake of raising more money than they have in previous years. I would absolutely not blame a dude for drawing the line there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:10 PM
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Oh you're not alone, there's no way in ever living fuck I would expect my spouse to be okay with this, but I acknowledge that my personal values can be a bit out of step with some of these threads
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:05 PM
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Type in "date night [insert your town/area]" on Instagram, look for stuff that's quirky and aesthetically pleasing. There are literally accounts solely dedicated to that sort of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:01 PM
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The chill spouses of Reddit strike again Excerpt from one comment: From my point of view, the only "drawback" is that men will have a chance to ogle your wife. I don't see why that is an issue so long as your wife is comfortable with it. I'm married and don't give a shit if someone looks at or hits on my spouse. At the end of the day, I trust them and know they're coming home to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 08:55 PM
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Funnily enough my BF fit a lot of these early on in our relationship, but I was very much attracted to him anyway. Granted I like to take things slow as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 08:35 PM
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As a middle schooler I was so invested in their relationship. Literally the first episode I saw on Nick at Nite was the one where she has a shopping addiction and they kiss, but she faints and forgets it. I was hooked from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:53 PM
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Minutes ago. I am an elder Gen Z who much prefers calling over texting. It used to stress me out more when I was younger but thankfully I grew out of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:45 PM
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There's a shot of a Charizard in the first anime opening that specifically comes from an episode about giant Pokémon. They aren't always consistent about his size in the anime but if you were thinking Godzilla size it was probably because of the opening.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:54 PM
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You know that meme that's like "excuse me, he asked for no pickes"? That was very relatable for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 05:43 PM
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I prefer gentle and passive men while being the opposite of those things
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 05:30 PM
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Yes that is how I would define "involving someone", not just asking them a question about where you can sit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:02 PM
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Yeah we're gonna have to agree to disagree that this brief, ambiguous interaction indicates this woman expected OP to help her
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:48 PM
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There is no indication any woman tried to involve OP while the incident was unfolding. The "bus stop lady" talked shit about him after the fact. Again, I find it really strange that this woman was hyper-focused on chastising him for not stepping in when this kind of stuff happens a lot on public transportation and he could've simply not noticed or needed to leave and come back for any number of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:38 PM
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Glad we've come to an understanding
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:32 PM
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I'm sure they appreciate your concern
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:31 PM
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Oh, hello again. I stand by my position that nobody has to stop giving a piece of advice because randoms on the internet don't like it/say it didn't work for them personally. I'm sorry that this concept deeply offends some of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:19 PM
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Good thing we don't have to relate to each other!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:13 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:11 PM
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I feel like the wildest parts of this story are that A. you threw off your schedule by 20-30 minutes to avoid some typical public transport BS. Seriously I've been the woman in that situation and I still didn't retreat for 20-30 minutes to avoid the dude. B. This "bus stop lady" has mind reading powers. There is not nearly enough information here to indicate how she knew exactly why you left. She probably also witnesses similar stuff daily, so it is also pretty surprising the one dude who could …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 11:39 AM
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The only evidence you've given is your personal experience. And I'm sure other men could chime in and say "this didn't work." But then, for any piece of advice regarding literally anything under the sun, the same thing is true. So should no one ever give advice? No, that isn't reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 10:53 AM
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Interesting. I thought tenderloin was one of the leaner cuts
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 06:11 AM
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What cut was this, ribeye?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 06:01 AM
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Yes. One of the most memorable episodes was when one of my friends from high school was having a bad day so she literally ran up to where I was sitting on the ground, dove on me, and sent us both rolling like something out of a cartoon. She wanted me to hold her and comfort her or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:11 AM
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If you stopped giving a piece of advice on the basis of "it didn't work for someone, somewhere and that person is now sad" there would be no advice to give anyone at all
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:52 AM
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The great thing about taking someone's advice is that it's not a permanent life commitment. If it doesn't work you can always try something else. I have gotten a lot of advice from many people in different areas that did not work for me personally. What did I do? Agonize over being "lied to"? No. I just adjusted my methods accordingly and accepted that there isn't a "one size fits all" key to success.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:24 AM
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She's mixed (Asian) but white-passing, baby looks white, he looks white. So...probably?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:20 AM
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For a sex worker, which brings a very different kind of connotation to this discussion than doing the same for a standard romantic/sexual partner
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 09:14 PM
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Doubt it. She has a job and I presume the parents are also helping her out financially. Didn't ask what her BF does for a living. Doesn't seem like the type who's working in a profession that could support a woman and child, even modestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:54 PM
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You really fucked up this analogy with the virtual sex worker part
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:43 PM
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In my experience yes. I must be the one person on Reddit who has witnessed shorter than average women mostly dating shorter than average men and people with similar sociosexual views mostly dating each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:32 PM
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I've met someone like this through mutual friends. Early 20s. She's attractive, has done pageants and modeling, no noticeable weight gain from the pregnancy. Last I checked she was dating an attractive young working class guy. Her parents watch the baby when she wants to go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:14 PM
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There are two styles of argumentation I have noticed on PPD and even Reddit at large when it comes to discussing dating preferences: the voice of the collective, and the anecdoter. Ultimately, the two are not very different. You can infer that both of these people are speaking based on their personal observations and experiences, the sole difference is the presentation they have chosen. My theory is that the collectives feel some innate desire to be a part of the mainstream consensus while anecd…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:57 PM
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Honestly just the fact that she's married disqualifies her from the conventional understanding of what a "cat lady" is. It is literally just culture war BS that isn't persuading anybody and is mainly used by the types of people who were never going to vote for a Democrat anyway. It would be like thinking that any number of random ad hominem attacks commonly used among liberals are going to dissuade Trump voters.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:17 AM
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In the weeks following mainstream pundits will be shocked by the number of blue collar Democrat men who will vote for Trump over Harris simply because they hate liberal women. The much more plausible scenario here is blue collar Democrat men simply not showing up to vote, not suddenly switching to Trump. Yes it could still cost Harris the election but not in the way you're describing. Harris is a childless cat lady This is straight-up conservative culture war speak, trust me this is not going to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:32 AM
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What the hell is b*******l
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 11:57 AM
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I became very careful about mentioning my lack of sexual experience specifically because some men are very quick to fetishize it and say extremely weird/inappropriate things or behave in ways I wasn't comfortable with. I would respond truthfully when asked directly. I would be very upfront about being a serious Catholic. I never believed in asking a man to share his sexual history with me until well after we had established some rapport and trust, around the same time I would be comfortable talk…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:36 PM
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I find that one of the biggest issues I have with discussing loneliness as a societal issue is that it's not necessarily something that an outside force can rescue anyone from. If isolation is the problem...nobody can break down your door and force you to come outside. That's a choice the individual has to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:49 AM
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Plus some of us are simply not sexually active yet, are basically horny 24/7, and can't even conceive of turning down sex for any reason once lawfully married. Not gonna name any names. Just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:05 AM
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Can't get more concrete than binary. Binary =/= concrete. Concrete refers to physical, observable phenomena. You can frame abstract ideas (like love and hate) as binary.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:12 AM
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I'm sorry to hear that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:07 AM
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I don't think this is a gender difference so much as people who have self-esteem vs people who do not
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:47 PM
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Not everyone can run or jump as fast as each other so why is it any different for love. In the same way that nobody is obligated to send someone who doesn't do those things sufficiently to the Olympics, you are not obligated to be in a relationship with someone who is a shitty partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:34 PM
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When she is not showing enough love, we assume that's all she has to show. Are we supposed to judge her on that? That seems mean. She just love us, she says as much ... Why would anyone lie about that. No, having standards and not tolerating the bare minimum isn't "mean." Please make it a mantra and repeat it in the mirror every single day if you have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:26 PM
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And others simply associate safe with "protection, security, loyalty" as in "safe haven." Is anyone right or wrong? No. I am not the final arbiter of what this incredibly vague term means. Op asked for our personal opinions, and that is mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:24 PM
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"How does she view you" is an incredibly vague and abstract concept. How you are treated is concrete. Let's say you're not the hottest or most talented or whatever man she has ever been with. If she's treating you like she genuinely values and cares for you, obsessing over being these superlatives in her life makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:14 PM
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You don't have to. Let's say she shows up an hour late to every date and refuses to put in any effort whatsoever for your birthday. Those are behaviors that can be assessed in a vacuum. If respecting your time and being thoughtful are things you value in a romantic relationship, the who what where why and how behind her not meeting your needs is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 10:02 PM
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Did you see the last part of my comment? No effort is no effort. I'm not magically okay with subpar treatment as long as every other woman he's dated got the same subpar treatment, or as long as he's dated no one else at all. Imo by the end of your post you are fixating way too much on the woman's experience as opposed to how she is actually behaving in the relationship. Virgins and inexperienced women can have flaws believe it or not. We are not perfect unicorn creatures who never let anyone do…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:35 PM
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Ironically, you left out the most important part of the "context" that matters: How are you being treated in your relationship? Are you satisfied with it? What makes you feel valued? What makes you feel appreciated? Is your partner doing that? I'm genuinely not sure some of you know how to feel that way unless you're comparing yourself to some other dude. Under another post a user tried to use the comparison with me "you know he did more for other girls." No effort is no effort. I'm not magicall…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:14 PM
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If it's any consolation, I have never said that ever to anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:31 PM
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Didn't have my awakening until 19 when I basically got stuck in the museum equivalent of a mosh pit trying to see the Mona Lisa. I understood the basic mechanics of sex. The kissing and skin-to-skin contact made sense, but I never really got the appeal or desire for the PIV aspect until that day. Stranger's pelvis got stuck against me, and something finally clicked. Still not sexually active because I'm insistent on waiting until marriage, but I've been very aware of an increase in my overall in…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 07:39 PM
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That is a connotation that specific people have assigned to it, which I disagree with. We are fundamentally not going to see eye-to-eye on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:04 PM
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This is just straight-up not being treated well by your partner, the inherent issue here isn't being seen as safe. I think a mature adult should be perfectly capable of seeing you as safe while also not saying they would leave at a moment's notice or putting in zero effort. What he did with other girls doesn't even matter, if he has no romantic experience and treats me like he doesn't give a shit, I'd be out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:50 PM
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Has he literally said that or am I just making up his lack of enthusiasm because I assume that desire is mutually exclusive with appreciating competence and maturity? I would see a far bigger issue if he's turned off by my ability to cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:33 PM
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I would envy top pro golfers a lot more. Apparently the highest paid right now makes $218 million a year and he's not risking brain damage every time he swings a club.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:43 AM
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Thank you. It is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:09 AM
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A guy told us his kid said "they're going to be together forever." That one was kinda sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:10 AM
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I remember having similar feelings as a teenager in high school. Grown adults fretting over their SO admiring them for grown adult traits? Yeah no I can't relate to that as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:07 AM
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To me, it's all about patterns. Almost every person I know, male and female, who has had at least a couple relationships had that shitty one that may have at least crossed the line into emotional abuse. They learned from it. They didn't have that issue again. And then there's the ones with a pattern of ending up in these sorts of relationships with terrible people. My own sister is unfortunately a prime example. I love her, because she's my sister, but I would definitely hesitate before calling …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 06:49 PM
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Feminist discussions often focus on how male-dominated media objectifies women or how men fail to respect boundaries, but they don't sufficiently address how narratives created by and for women can also perpetuate problematic dynamics. Specifically, they overlook how media that resonates with women can condition boys to push boundaries in pursuit of women. People on this sub have a tendency to conflate "I don't look for this/am not personally interested in this" with "doesn't exist." I Google se…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 06:37 PM
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Does he drink/do drugs? Is he okay with waiting until marriage? Does he get along with his family?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 05:59 PM
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I consider my BF to be the most romantic out of the three guys I've dated. I'm also his first SO, and he admitted he spent a lot of time fantasizing and daydreaming about the kinds of romantic things he'd like to do with his first partner. Some stuff that particularly stands out to me: -He kept detailed notes on his phone about all of our major milestones as a couple. He'll often remember/start coming up with ideas for occasions like our anniversary and my birthday before I have even started to.…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 05:54 PM
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I think a disconnect here to be cautious about is how one defines "friends." In terms of men I am closest to, communicate with often, and hang out with regularly one-on-one, that is mostly my BF and my brother. I'm friendly with just about everyone, and I've been in friend groups with men. Would I be having prolonged direct text chains with them or meet up just the two of us? No. And if that is what one considers a "real" friendship to be then yeah I guess I don't really want or need that with g…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 07:53 PM
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I wonder if they are also using it as evidence that normal women find the idea of a dude removing her tampon with his teeth sexy (yes according to a review I saw this is literally a thing that happens in the book) Edit: The teeth part is actually wrong apparently, but the actual scene is still...something He reaches between my legs and pulls on the blue string… what! And… gently pulls my tampon out and tosses it into the nearby toilet. Holy f***. Sweet mother of all… Jeez. Yeahh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:49 PM
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Ranked from most to least concerning (with some notes where applicable). I just left out the ones that aren't dealbreakers for me at all. has done a violent crime has done a non violent crime (e.g. fraud, tax evasion) does illegal drugs does legal and socially acceptable drugs single father and raising the kid knocked someone up and bailed out 5.5 has extreme political views Note: Forgot this one and didn't feel like editing all of the numbers, so 5.5. it is. bad relationship with his mom no col…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 03:00 PM
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Yeah that makes perfect sense but I've known guys like that who were still expected their fiancée to go half on everything
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 02:15 AM
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Ah. The classics. I was in high school when that song came out. That beat drop lives in my head rent-free to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:52 PM
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Now that's a proper motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:48 PM
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I appreciate it, but please don't fight with them on my behalf. If they have any questions about the source of my observations they can ask me directly. But they probably won't, because then they don't get to make up stories in their heads that suit whatever they wanted to believe before they even opened up this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 06:58 PM
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🎵Sipping from your cup 'til it runneth over, Holy Grail🎵
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 06:41 PM
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Yeah sounds about right. Dudes with money are some of the most tight-fisted you'll ever meet. You'd have an easier time getting a broke dude to spend his last money on you, as counterintuitive as that sounds. Or a dude whose parents have money. If I had any concerns here it would be the demands and risks of being in a relationship with someone who has that occupation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 06:22 PM
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Ah yes, the "one thing." I feel like people need to come to terms with the fact that one thing is indeed sufficient to make two people incompatible. It's like a jenga tower. There are individual blocks on the tower that will not disrupt the stability of the tower. There are individual blocks that will send the whole tower crashing over if disturbed. Those are the blocks players try to avoid. I don't really have much to offer on your particular situation. I would personally never do that sort of …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 02:28 PM
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Black leather jacket. Mmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 10:11 PM
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Doing that kind of shit would be an absolute reputation destroyer in my social circles and even if anybody is they're probably taking it to the grave
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:21 PM
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No problem at all. And thank you very much as well
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 04:56 AM
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At a bookstore. I thought I was being rude and standing in his way so I kinda stepped aside and glanced over at him. And that's when he asked me if I liked Tolkien, since I had been looking at LOTR. On my end, it just felt like a pleasant conversation with a guy who seemed a bit nervous and shy at first. We talked about fantasy novels, and then we bounced around topics from there. Especially as I got him to loosen up, smile, and laugh I thought "wow he's gorgeous." I was actually a little nervou…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 04:36 AM
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You're a sweetheart sheila ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:40 AM
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Jessica wears it! <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:17 AM
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Thank you <3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:15 AM
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Hello Sarai <3 Ever since I swore off relaxers I keep it braided lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:04 AM
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Funny you should say that. That exact jacket is actually worn by one of the main girls in 13 Reasons Why. I looked it up and apparently they had some kind of collaboration with Urban Outfitters, which is where I got it. Not Disney, but it is a high school show.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:03 AM
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Sure. I don't see much of a point in fixating on potential outcomes when we're literally going to know the real, concrete outcome in less than a month. Unless you're genuinely into betting and have money on the line lol. But not wanting to deal with that stress is precisely why I don't gamble.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:02 PM
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If betting odds were magical prophecies Trump would still be running for his first term right now
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 10:34 PM
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You can choose not to date anyone for any reason. What is the alternative even? You date someone you're not attracted to and not happy with because it would have been "wrong" to reject them? Who would even want to date someone choosing them out of obligation?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 02:04 PM
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I appreciate the clarification and sharing of your personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:44 PM
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According to this sub I sound like I'm from the west coast. In reality, I was born and raised in the Bible Belt.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:59 PM
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I think the heart of the discourse is essentially "what human beings owe to one another." That often gets wrapped up in "need" language for better or worse. I would feel obligated to give a stranger dying of thirst water. I would not feel obligated to fuck a stranger who hasn't had sex in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:57 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:41 PM
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Some of these scenarios are just textbook sociosexual orientation stuff and isn't simply about "hot guy vs. average guy." Do you really think hot guys never encounter women who don't want to fuck a stranger within hours of meeting? The difference is having options; for every girl who doesn't do XYZ on a first date he can find others who will.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:51 PM
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Even as a devout virgin Catholic I never heard anything about that article until I came to Reddit and have never heard it mentioned beyond Reddit. I never really thought of preserving my virginity in terms of my desirability to men. My decision not to get tattoos was based entirely on simply not seeing the appeal of them in the first place. I do have student debt, "but what if this makes me unattractive to a man" certainly was not on my mind when weighing whether to take a full ride at a lower t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:31 PM
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Dad?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:37 PM
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Then I know you're a lucky lady
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:06 PM
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She adores my father. They've been together through thick and thin since she was in her late teens and he was in his early 20s. She can't really stand for him to be unhappy, or to be wronged.Their 30th wedding anniversary isn't far off.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:06 PM
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I always appreciate your kind words!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:42 PM
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I think that people are free to apply whatever semantics they want to the arrangement. I just know that having a happy spouse running the household while I bring home the gravy sounds way more satisfying than the alternatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:42 PM
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Nah. I was never really conditioned to see physical strength as an intrinsic part of my value as a human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:55 PM
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Yes. My dad was SAH for a good portion of my adolescence and those were some of the best years of all our lives. My mom could see that he was exhausted, jaded, and underappreciated in his workplace. So as soon as she got a major promotion and raise she asked him if he wanted to leave and stay at home for a while. So he did. My dad is a very organized and internally motivated person. He cannot leave chores undone and he cannot half ass them. Having him at home was critical to my mom's career prog…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:49 PM
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Anecdata can be useful and very necessary because many people on this sub do not understand data, particularly when it comes to translating the numbers to real life. For example, some seem to think that anything short of a majority is an irrelevant, tiny group of barely existent unicorn people. A 30% minority is still a shit ton of people when you're speaking on the level of a large population. A group doesn't even have to come close to 30% for you to encounter it on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:06 PM
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Mother and wife if and only if my current BF and love of my life sees it through with me. If anything were to happen to him before we make it down the aisle and/or have kids, I'm not pursuing it with anyone else. I would devote my life to other pursuits, work being one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 09:54 PM
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But they wouldn’t make eye contact with me, they would talk over me to each other, they wouldn’t ask me a single thing about myself even though I kept asking them questions about themselves Yeah if I invited women over and they treated my SO that way they wouldn't be getting another invite. These are basic respect and civility issues, not "getting close."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:59 PM
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Ah yes, dannyphantom.exe I may or may not have had a massive crush on him in undergrad. And also Brandon the Lover.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:21 PM
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I think a major issue with these conversations is people treating the concepts "majority", "many", and "a lot" interchangeably
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:16 PM
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That is a really strange claim to make especially when you are talking about an era where comedy movies had way more pop culture influence than they do today. And we all know that the male leads in these movies, who were in fact comedians, were not nearly as attractive as their female co-stars. Unless we are going to sit here and argue that Adam Sandler, Kevin James, Vince Vaughn, and co. are top 1% men, which wouldn't surprise me on this sub at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 03:23 PM
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Didn't the same user literally make a post saying that age gaps are fine and it's just jealous older women trying to restrict men's options?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:28 PM
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Yeah two big problems here: It wasn't asking for advice, it was asking women what they would do in the hypothetical scenario, so you're just blatantly lying about that. This sub doesn't even allow advice posts. That post was literally the opposite situation of what I commented. The respondents would be relationship material in the dude's eyes while the 19yo was not. I specifically said that our values would not be compatible because I don't believe in having casual sex. It had nothing to do with…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:38 PM
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And then later on, you found out he did the exact same thing, the exact same way for women before you; but simply way earlier in those previous relationships We can try every single analogy under the sun and it won't change the underlying reality that this isn't as viscerally upsetting to everyone as it is to some people who obsess about it constantly on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:19 PM
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16k. We'll get em next time
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 12:11 AM
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Can anyone in that store explain what pot of greed does tho
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 11:50 PM
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For me it's my dark magician girl shirt lol. I don't play the card game but I'll nostalgia binge the anime every now and then.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 11:37 PM
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I went to see the first 3 eps with my BF in theaters! They really need to chill with the 30-minute mini documentaries before every anime showing. That's getting old fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 04:58 PM
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But, sometimes you notice how not nice people have everything and you start to wonder. Wonder about what? This is children's storybook level morality. Did some of you truly not discover that there can be material benefits to not being a good person until adulthood? Or how to weigh those benefits against personal values?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:35 PM
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Believe it or not some of us are in fact nice even when we don't stand to gain anything from it and prefer people who do the same. I don't understand people who interpret every opinion stated on the internet as a command.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 03:18 PM
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First and only. I wouldn't marry again.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:17 PM
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My husband will be my first and only sex partner, so no
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 12:37 PM
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There is literally a dude who claims to be worth 7 figures who regularly makes posts here about how he still struggles with dating despite his income. I personally think it would be a dick move to tell him to shut up and enjoy his money because others are starving. But that's just me I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:52 PM
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Nothing good comes from following your exes' lives
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:48 PM
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Yeah I bet plenty of people might look at UMC redditors arguing about their dating problems and wish that were the hardest thing they were experiencing. So what? People are allowed to talk about their problems. Their problems do not magically cease to exist because someone else has worse problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:44 PM
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You have this woman's permission to call out anyone who tells you should be grateful to not be lobotomized, institutionalized, or locked in a basement
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:41 PM
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Why are you specifically directing this question at women?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:26 PM
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That is so fascinating. Once I start going on dates with someone I feel like I owe them my full time and attention rather than entertaining others. Maybe that's why I can't relate to any of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:23 PM
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I can't imagine agreeing to be in a romantic relationship with someone and then freaking out when they checks notes have romantic feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:03 PM
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3-4 months is the longest I've taken. If the feelings aren't there by then it's never happening ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:02 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:25 PM
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"But think about how good you have it now relative to some other group" is a common tactic to deflect about a person's dissatisfaction with their current situation. It would be like telling an autistic man who struggles with dating "well at least you're not in an asylum or locked in your family's basement. See how far we've progressed as a society?"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:03 PM
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Call me out of touch but I feel like this entire concept is so cynical and weird. I always thought saying "I love you" or something along those lines for the first time is throwing the gauntlet. Are we gonna do this or not? Shit like "what are we" sounds like a way to avoid vulnerability by acting like you're negotiating a business contract instead of just directly admitting that you have feelings for this person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 01:25 PM
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Something you might find interesting is the concept of high vs low context culture. Basically, even at the societal level, research has indicated that some cultures lean more toward bluntness, directness, and verbal cues while others rely more heavily on nonverbal communication and "reading the room" essentially. From an article about conducting business in a high context culture For low-context communicators, high-context cultures can seem frustratingly mysterious—even sneaky. But these people …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:01 AM
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I am possibly autistic with masking deeply ingrained. Definitely diagnosed with ADHD. Many social cues did not come naturally to me. They were more something that I adopted through consequences, either real or anticipated, and positive reinforcement. My first two years in high school were a major source of this as well. It was all-girl. I accidentally fell in with a pretty popular group of girls because we all went to middle school together and they remembered me fondly. Other girls would try to…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 12:05 AM
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Too poor to leave Rich and benefitting from the city's corruption to some extent Rich and holding ancestral property you can't just pick up and move Edit: Wait I forgot some things Idealistic moron who thinks they can make the city better Batshit crazy vigilante
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 08:46 PM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 08:27 PM
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I got various answers when I tried to get to the bottom of that. I find that the overall TLDR is "privacy." Here's a longer version from the ask Japanese subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:37 PM
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Fun fact: In Japan it is very common for locals to hide their face on their OLD profile
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:23 PM
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Ah yes, the age old "good vs bad personality" discourse We're all anonymous strangers who were born, raised, and live in contexts where those incredibly vague words can be meant and interpreted in dramatically different ways. My BF is a good person imo. He has always had a lot of friends. However, there are aspects of his personality that made dating a lot harder for him, like being withdrawn and not great at engaging people he doesn't know very well in conversation. He took a massive chance tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:58 PM
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By far the more logical solution is to vet for character/temperament instead of assuming someone smaller/weaker could never be a danger to you. Don't get me wrong I know plenty of women fail at that but it's still the better option. I still remember this depressing glow up post where the "before" was OP in the hospital after being near fatally stabbed by his girlfriend. He was a big guy, but he basically blacked out between her walking up and waking up in his own blood. So it was never really a …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:30 PM
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No. Socializing didn't come naturally to me either. At the end of the day the only difference between us in that area is that he was allowed to be who he was, and I was not.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:52 PM
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Yes, I second this user. If you are one of the few people left living under a rock who doesn't know about the corruption and abuse in the church you should probably stay more informed. Oh? Was I supposed to deny it? Make apologies? No thanks. Because unlike some of you I don't feel the need to argue about every single life choice I've made with strangers on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:40 PM
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Relax, I just thought your contribution was funny
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:33 PM
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I was that girl for my BF lol. I don't regret it. AMA.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 01:40 AM
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Crazy coincidence but I'm still pretty sure you're not my BF. At the end of the day I care most about his feelings. And I know how this sort of thing would make him feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 01:36 AM
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My understanding is that an escape fund is more like paternity testing in secret. You risk your partner finding out, and I believe it is 100% reasonable for them to take offense.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 01:35 AM
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BPers give plenty of other suggestions like just having the discussion with your partner before marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 07:30 PM
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I mostly think of it in terms of what I bring to the table for my BF in particular. He comes from a well-to-do traditional values Southern family. He's a bit of an odd ball in that circle, favoring nerdy and quirky hobbies over fishing/hunting trips, golfing, etc. He has a very introverted and gentle personality. Quite liberal and disagrees with his family on many political issues, though he has maintained some of the religious/cultural values, like going to church and waiting until marriage. Ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 06:19 PM
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I love how the culture war nerds can't choose between using that game to shit on Ubisoft or dismissing it as more DEI. "See? This is what quality representation looks like. We don't hate female leads we just hate bad games. Right guys?" "Fuck off shill" "Wait what?"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 04:35 AM
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Not touching the semantic tangents or we're going to be here all weekend. You put forth a question which included an example that has nothing to do with intimate relationships. It's a person doing the job they are paid to do and a random civilian. Because you are not the first person to conveniently avoid examples that actually represent meaningful human relationships I am pointing out that pattern.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 04:23 AM
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It's interesting how these bad analogies always seem to involve strangers and not people in an interpersonal relationship. In a loving interpersonal relationship hopefully built on a solid foundation of mutual trust, tests that insinuate infidelity are in fact accusations. It could be demanding they take an STD test before you sleep with them again. It could be suddenly demanding access to your partner's phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 01:16 AM
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Yep. I was shocked this topic made it over there. It's funny because I feel like a lot of the users there are not super active on Reddit or familiar with gender wars discourse. So they sound really confused. Like, "is this really a question that needs to be discussed? Of course it's going to damage your relationship." That said out of morbid curiosity I need at least one Catholic man to bring up that he wants all of his kids to be paternity tested during Pre-Cana and report back on the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 11:38 PM
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So that isn't something the devout among us do lightly Finding out that your child's blood type is not what it's supposed to be is a grave situation that would absolutely warrant and arguably even obligate DNA testing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 07:48 PM
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That's ancient in PPD post time. Two people within a few hours of each other commenting here is not a coincidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:16 PM
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Are you 6'2, white, and a virgin by any chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:10 PM
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Okay did somebody link this post in another thread? You're the second person who has replied to my response on this 2-day old post today.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:08 PM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:20 PM
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There are definitely those of us who simply didn't respond to the thread because we don't/have never hooked up with anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:07 PM
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I appreciate that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:03 PM
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Until the legal perils for not checking paternity are removed, it’s not an accusation of cheating per se. The former has zero bearing on the latter being an accusation. The only case you've provided an argument for is it being a justified accusation. And as is the case of justifying anything others may or may not agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 01:54 PM
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That actually came up in the thread as well. Since my BF and I are both virgins and will only be having sex with each other for life, yes the same would especially apply in our case.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 01:50 PM
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This really just shows how different men and women are. How? Do women actually read? The pretty much universal consensus, among both men and women, was that asking for a paternity test is an accusation of adultery.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:35 AM
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So I recently read a lively thread from a Catholic subreddit on this. I'm Catholic myself and lurk there occasionally. The pretty much universal consensus, among both men and women, was that asking for a paternity test is an accusation of adultery. And given the significance of marriage as a sacrament within our faith, adultery is a very serious accusation to make against your spouse. You accuse them not only of betraying you. You accuse them of violating some of the most sacred vows we make bef…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:05 AM
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There are definitely some suspiciously specific denial vibes when men do that out of the blue in a middle of debate lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:42 AM
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As someone who doesn't drink or participate in any kind of true night life I'm not really qualified to speak on social dynamics in those spaces. They don't appeal to me for anything, whether it be meeting men or bonding with other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 01:27 AM
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What kind of environment are you referring to OP? Coffee shops? Night clubs? I ask because in the places where I spend my time people are overwhelmingly generically polite and strive to call as little attention to themselves as possible. Even if a woman doesn't want to be approached she'd probably just say "no thank you" or laugh nervously/give short replies until he stops talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 10:46 PM
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There seems to be a recurring pattern with nerdy/awkward billionaires defying the stereotypical wisdom that men at that level of success "should" be dating the hottest women possible. My theory is that wealthy men who are in the more image-focused industries (like Hollywood or music) are more likely to prioritize looks over everything else in a partner. And our culture is especially obsessed with these industries so they kind of set this standard of how people think wealthy/successful individual…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:09 PM
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Vetting isn't "asking for permission"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 01:11 PM
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It kinda reminds me of the frustration that will inevitably happen with the above average friend who constantly calls themselves ugly to fish for compliments. Like he's fishing for a certain response from them, not acting on the response, fishing again, rinse and repeat. I'm not saying that is actually OP's intention from triggering this scenario again and again when the obvious answer is "stop pointing out cute girls to them." But it could be how they're seeing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:59 AM
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Do you not know what the expression "different strokes" means?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 09:36 PM
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Some of us adhere to religions that require the government contract in order to be married in the church. If I have fallen in love with someone, similar values and religious beliefs are going to be a part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 04:12 PM
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This woman made this comment less than a week ago in response to a post from a man that complained about women not advising men to be proactive enough When I talk about how my BF and I met, which entailed him being somewhat proactive and starting a conversation with me, it is mostly dudes here who say things like "you would've called the police if he wasn't attractive." There is no advice on this topic that men here will accept. If you tell them not to be proactive, they say that doesn't work. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:05 PM
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My experiences with these types of situations almost universally indicate otherwise. But hey, different strokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:57 PM
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I point a girl and tell them she is cute They're taking it as you indirectly asking them to hype you up. I wouldn't expect a guy to keep randomly pointing out women he's attracted to for no reason. How else am I supposed to respond as someone who's not attracted to women? "Interesting!" And then nothing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:06 PM
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I will die on the hill that teachers make some of the best partners for high earners who want kids, regardless of sex. Those weekends and summers off are huge advantages.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 08:10 AM
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Disrespectful in my view, but then as someone who has been casually watching the NFL since I was a child, sports fans will put all kinds of crazy shit on a sign to be on TV for like 10 seconds. And clearly this woman succeeded and the player in question has facilitated giving her exactly the attention she was looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 07:58 AM
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He would rightfully take it as an accusation and I can't stand the idea of putting my SO through that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 08:34 PM
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For me at least the sub's biggest draw is the daily thread. I genuinely can't think of any other subs on Reddit that has an entire daily thread dedicated to posting whatever the fuck you want as long as it doesn't violate TOS. I genuinely wish that more subs had something like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 03:52 AM
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Let's recap shall we Me: this is taking initiative You: women should do it! Me: people should do what works for them regardless of their sex You: but not taking initiative works for women, not men! So apparently you don't believe that women actually have to initiate, in spite of your first comment. You believe they should...just because? To make men's lives easier? I'm approaching it from a fundamentally different standpoint, which is "the burden is on the person not getting results to change wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 01:37 PM
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Asia. Hell I preferred dating in East Asia as a woman, for reasons similar to the ones given here for wanting to date in Asia as a man. My BF is an exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 01:13 PM
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Men shouldn't do what works for them? Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 01:03 PM
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People should do what works. If she's struggling to find someone and currently doesn't take initiative, yes I would suggest taking initiative. If she already gets plenty of dates without that, why change anything? Same goes for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 12:44 PM
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Even if women were to start doing that if a particular man on the internet isn't seeing the fruits of it he's gonna tell us we're gaslighting him and it doesn't happen ever
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 05:28 AM
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I do appreciate the kind words.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 05:04 AM
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Shared hobbies and quirks are some of the main reasons my BF and I are so compatible. I do find that unless she actively isn't trying to date, moderately attractive women with any kind of nerdy hobby in this day and age are almost always taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 02:46 AM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:48 PM
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Done and done. Best of luck to you all because you're gonna need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:48 PM
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Initiating conversation. Talking to people. Not just waiting for others to address you or for opportunities to fall into your lap.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 04:52 PM
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No there was actually a news story that the "I can get arrested for approaching" squad was circulating on this sub where this one autistic dude had the police called on him by a classmate
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 04:50 PM
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The feedback I get isn't just "really hard", the feedback is "this is irresponsible advice that will cause men to wind up in prison." Do you understand now?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 04:04 PM
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When I talk about how my BF and I met, which entailed him being somewhat proactive and starting a conversation with me, it is mostly dudes here who say things like "you would've called the police if he wasn't attractive." There is no advice on this topic that men here will accept. If you tell them not to be proactive, they say that doesn't work. If you tell them to be proactive, they'll say that you're unempathetic and don't realize how risky it is for men to approach in this day and age. This i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:20 PM
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For me the answer is never. My BF had his first kiss at the age of 25 with me. Dating isn't easy and it's not getting any easier. I wouldn't jump to any conclusions simply from hearing that a man doesn't have romantic experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:14 PM
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Assuming he was transparent about it and she chose to date him anyway, his response should be pointing out that he was transparent about it and she chose to date him anyway. Breaking up is always an option. My BF and I both game very casually, 2 hours a day and more on weekends would be a lot for us. But that's part of the reason why we are compatible with each other and simply wouldn't date people who play that much in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 10:41 AM
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Interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 12:05 AM
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You sound a lot like a user who used to go by the name "officer kondo" here
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 11:00 PM
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Sometimes the husband will find out about this secret stash and feel hurt. He feels that his wife doesn’t trust him. She must think he’s secretly a monster biding his time, or some rabid animal that might hurt her without warning. His feelings are valid, but he shouldn’t take it personally. This is not an indictment of his character, it is merely a precaution for her safety. What is "his feelings are valid but he shouldn't take it personally" supposed to mean? Those are directly contradictory se…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:53 PM
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I've definitely gotten some less than accepting comments both irl and on the internet for dating interracially. It's not even a preference of mine. When your race makes up like 12% of your nation's population it's not outlandish to fall for people outside of that group. In terms of motivations to do this, I think it comes from various sources. Jealousy, possessiveness, historical baggage, and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 06:11 PM
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A good parent doesn't value their child's happiness over everything else. If your child is happiest when they're eating shitty food and not going to school a good parent would not just roll over and let their child become fat and uneducated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 02:40 PM
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Nowhere did I say anything about my happiness. You (hopefully) don't pick an entire moral framework based on what makes you happy at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:35 AM
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"Women dodge accountability" "I would be accountable for raising such a shitty son" "Ahh not like that!"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 07:51 AM
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Your argument boils down to equating prosocial values with solipsism and antisocial values with empathy, which makes zero sense. Hope this helps!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 07:49 AM
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This is basically just the deontology vs. utilitarianism philosophical debate that's been going on for centuries and is not getting definitively resolved by random people on Reddit. In other words, "do the ends justify the means?" To me the answer is no. It is better to be unhappy than to seek happiness at the expense of others. Once they're over 18 and/or not living in my house I get virtually no say in my children's actions of course but I'm still allowed to have my opinions on how they turn o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 07:42 AM
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You should not prioritize any individual's happiness above all else 100% of the time, including your own child. That's not how life works. That is how you raise an entitled little shit who can't handle adversity. If my son little Johnny wants another kid's candy am I solipsistic if I don't push that kid down and take it for him because it would make Johnny happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 06:55 AM
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"I don't want my kids to be shitty people" is not a solipsistic take, I don't think any of you people know what that word means anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:37 AM
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Definitely Adam. His dad would be able to empathize with him since his story is very similar. He struggled with the idea that maybe he'd never find someone, only to meet the right person out of the blue one day. As much as we'd like the world to be a certain, secure place where we know exactly what milestones will happen when, it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:32 AM
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It seems crazy to young people who understand how the internet works, this is some boomer grandpa shit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:02 AM
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Now I have. It sounds like a plot straight out of South Park
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 12:07 AM
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One of the my favorite America's Next Top Model contestants of all time lost the All Star season because of that. Iirc the final shoot was in a sunny field and she has very sensitive eyes which also happen to be blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 11:36 PM
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every man would love a quiet, nerdy, introverted gf that just sits at home and reads books This is far from universal and very much dependent on the man's own personality and interests
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 11:23 AM
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Tbf I said the same thing about Transformers One based on that corny ass trailer but the reviews have been surprisingly good so far
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 04:16 AM
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It was definitely pussy-related. But not the kind people were probably expecting. Not too far down, just scroll until you come across a funny image.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:35 AM
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You should tell them you like tall girls with big butts like Jennifer Lawrence
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:25 AM
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Were you waiting for the Steakman one? If so yes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:24 AM
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Do people ever say you look like Haley Joel Osment?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 01:55 AM
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OP also left out some key details of the scene Dude had his dick out before any verbal exchange about sex happened. So at the very least, even if she said no and the incident turned out differently, he still flashed a woman without her consent. He isn't just threatening her job, he's threatening to report to an organization of the most powerful superheroes in the world that she attacked him, because her powers flared up and destroyed multiple tvs in the room. So presumably there would be consequ…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 11:26 AM
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Thankfully this subreddit has a convenient sidebar that explicitly lays out what each pill means <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:20 PM
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Dating isn't a social justice project
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 06:39 PM
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For women who do that, she may essentially be applying female social dynamics to men. Rarely have I had to ask or tell another woman why she's/I'm upset. Women who struggle with that to the extent that men can will often be ostracized socially by other women. My own BF is very close with the women in his family and has always had a lot of female friends, so he just gets it. Hell he's brought up something that happened and apologized for it before I even realized it was bothering me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 04:08 PM
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I have to remind myself that for people on this sub not getting a second date from someone is a fate worse than hell
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:40 PM
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Your comment didn't read like that of a person with a neutral stance on OP. If you are truly neutral, and believe it's okay for the woman to not want to continue to see him, we're on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:20 PM
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I'm on team "people can break up for any reason they want." Noping out after a first date, like OP's scenario, is nothing. Dating isn't a charity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:34 PM
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Good for her
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:28 PM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:28 PM
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Yes, I wouldn't bother otherwise. I was never raised with weird fantasies that Reddit was apparently told by their parents like "looks don't matter." I was taught that they are very important because sex is important for marriage and having sex with someone you aren't attracted to would be miserable. You have to be careful with the "what percentage of men do you find attractive" question. I'm attracted to roughly 50% of 20-something-looking men I run into on a regular basis. If you just ask me m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:05 AM
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To me it's whatever when the dude is expressing his own preference. But I've literally also had men on here argue with me, a virgin, that my preference for male virgins is wrong and my actual "match" is an experienced man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:53 PM
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I'm one of the most scrupulous people on this sub in terms of opposite sex friendships and policing to that extent sounds ridiculous even to me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:40 PM
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But when it's a man liking a woman's Instagram post at the beach, or even a workout pic. Then, it becomes a huge issue. Okay are we talking about complete strangers or friends? I understand not wanting your SO to thirst after influencers or whatever but encouraging an opposite sex friend since childhood's 100 pound weight loss journey with a like and nice comment is completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:30 PM
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Put your right foot in, take your right out, put your right foot in, and shake it all about. We'll see if you know what the hokey pokey is all about.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:02 AM
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If you want that sort of thing and have to beg your SO to do it you're with the wrong dude imo. I think the situation is pathetic but not because of "submission." I don't get people who try to mold other people instead of just vetting for what they wanted from the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 05:17 PM
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Yes it is indeed typical on this sub to make up a bunch of details that aren't present instead of simply asking for more information
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:58 PM
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If he had said anything about my looks or started flirting outright I probably would've shut him down.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:13 PM
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Sure, just as there's a bigger picture beyond the dude who is deeply distressed about his inability to approach random women in public even though no couple I have spoken to regardless of their age met that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 02:32 PM
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My LTR started from small talk at a bookstore. He didn't even intend to pursue anything romantic. He wanted to take a risk and talk to a cute girl he hadn't met before. We talked about books, our favorite authors, and random things for a while. It was fun. I was the one who suggested that we keep in touch. If he had said anything about my looks or started flirting outright I probably would've shut him down.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 01:49 PM
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Weird and out of touch with reality is a very good summary of a lot of the content on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 01:26 PM
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I'm not allowed to have my own preferences because someone else may be inconvenienced by it in some way? What a depressing way to live that would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 01:25 PM
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Last I checked he was getting ready for work and confirming our date tonight
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 01:23 PM
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So people are going to follow the general advice which is to "stay away from them everywhere." Yeah I can live with that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:35 AM
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Once again this is a case of "man on the internet says" because men I've dated irl have taken offering to split as a sign of rejection or that I didn't enjoy the date
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:34 AM
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Men who were already in favor of approaching like to hyperfixate on these women to use as a gotcha against women who express discomfort with it. The simple reality is that some women want to be approached, others don't. Nothing is going to make everyone happy. Similar to how men on the internet insist men love it when women split the check while my own experience indicates a lot of men vehemently prefer to be the one paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 02:53 AM
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Hello! This is AngeCruelle's out of pocket thread bookmark. If you see this comment, I'm convinced that a thread is so out of pocket it's gonna get deleted. I am not a moderator and not in charge of making such decisions. But just in case this post gets deleted, I want a convenient way to access the record of the shitshow that unfolded up until that point. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:09 AM
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Periods. It would be great not to have them. I very reluctantly started birth control after about a decade of trying to treat extremely painful/debilitating ones with ibuprofen. I think that is the definitive way in which I believe my life would be easier if I were a man. Everything else is debatable, at least for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:41 PM
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those women are now no longer party girls and basically like minded to the guy A "no longer" person vs. a "not ever" person are not necessarily likeminded. As a person who does not drink and has never done it my lifestyle may be superficially similar to a former alcoholic who is now sober. However, I tend to have more in common with people who have been teetotalers or very close to it for their whole life. Yeah I'm sure this gets told to women, but it is not difficult for young women to date old…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:22 PM
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I'm BP and I don't necessarily agree with that. I think it's more a matter of waiting for a likeminded woman who also didn't indulge in that lifestyle. "Guys your age are immature, focus on other things and wait until you're a bit older" is definitely something I remember hearing a lot in high school. "Find your bridesmaids, not your groom."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 10:15 PM
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As a result there were books and novels with covers of more ‘gentle-looking’ I suppose feminine men. That is really weird considering the fact that there is no man featured on the covers of Fifty Shades of Grey. Are you sure these books A. existed and B. were actually written and sold as some kind of counternarrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 05:56 PM
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What will stress you out more at this point, canceling or going
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:59 PM
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Not enough info here to speculate on why exactly she plays games. Maybe it's wanting attention, maybe it's something else. Doesn't really matter, I still personally find people like that annoying. Does hanging out with her this weekend sound fun to you? Then do it. If it doesn't, don't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:32 PM
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You may be thinking, "Well of course she likes you! She's just shy." No that just blatantly sounds like her playing games to me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:19 PM
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A key caveat for this is that the woman has to be attractive. An incompetent ugly woman is every man's worst nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:16 PM
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Explain to him that is a specific type of girl, like his aunt, and well...you know. Yes I know the "throwing your relative under the bus" card is controversial but if you're gonna be the family trainwreck the least you can do is educate future generations through your example.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 08:42 PM
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Early in courtship should be the easiest time to walk away. You barely know this person. If you are that emotionally invested already there's a strong chance it's not based on what you actually know of them and moreso nice things you're making up in your head about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:05 PM
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I think it's a realistic aspiration but also not a guarantee by any means. Let's say your 100% loyal wonderful spouse gets by a bus tomorrow. It's certainly possible. Hell you might be the one under the wheels. Either way, the aspiration to grow old and die together is gone. So what do we do with the knowledge that everything can fall apart in an instant, even by no fault of anyone in the relationship? Keep living. Keep pursuing happiness, regardless of how fragile and uncertain it may be. Or do…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:45 PM
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Ime it really depends on the circle. For example, it's basically a prerequisite that a woman has to be college-educated to be a serious romantic option in mine. Hell I know a girl who got burned because his family thought her degree was worthless/too easy, much less considering a woman who didn't go at all. This probably would not be a huge deal for men in other social contexts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:28 PM
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Be the daughter of a man who fit that description
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 08:20 PM
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I think the two are treated differently because while women generally believe that a dude can have female friends who don't want to fuck him, men have a harder time believing that guy friends don't want to fuck her
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:47 PM
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No particular order I, Robot Ender's Game The King of Elfland's Daughter Pride and Prejudice Slaughterhouse-Five
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:01 PM
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Give me that mushroom cloud pattern <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:45 AM
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My family can trace our roots back to Louisiana, and we have relatives there, but I'm not from there
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 12:41 AM
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I don't like that dude. I'm a slightly left-leaning moderate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 12:30 AM
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Maybe the "very sensitive" person is right to be sensitive? Most people feel like they are right to be whatever they are. Nobody has to agree with them. Regarding the example you gave, I would argue that weight loss will likely pay dividends vis a vis other people being attracted to that woman, if not necessarily the original object of her desire. That's great but she was unjustifiably angry at this one dude because of the kind of attitude you describe in OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:19 PM
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Do not take it personally usually means "do not take it as an insult or attack." A person rejecting you romantically is neither of those things. A rejection in most cases is in effect telling the person that they're not good enough to date. That is how a very sensitive person interprets rejection. Moreover, there may be some instances in which it's useful to take rejection personally, as it may be a catalyst for change (where such change is possible). Being the catalyst for a positive outcome do…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:05 PM
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U.S., Catholic, suburbs in the Bible Belt, African-American (descended from slaves, no recent immigration). Although I was raised Catholic I did not have a strict traditional "purity culture"-type upbringing. My parents didn't wait until marriage and made it clear to me that it's the norm for couples these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:30 PM
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Male body hair is a confusing one to me. On the one hand, I'm sure plenty of women love it, like me. On the other, there seems to be a weird aversion to it in Hollywood and professional modeling. My BF grew up really insecure about his body hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:31 PM
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So have the Kelces officially replaced the Mannings as the NFL family that is going to be shoved down our throats until we beg for mercy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 03:14 AM
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Nothing. It i's really funny though when you put two people who were raised to spoil/prioritize their SO's comfort together. I come from a family where the woman always serves her SO before eating. My BF comes from a family where the man is supposed to do that. So here we are, both at the catering table together, when one of us is supposed to be sitting down and chilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 03:08 AM
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You okay dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:59 AM
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Oh no. Anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:29 AM
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Yeah it's definitely the people who can barely get by themselves financially supporting their adult children
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:28 AM
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Not necessarily. Nobody is giving a guy shit for relying on his family financially when they also provide one of their nice lakehouses for everybody to get lit on new year's eve
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:27 AM
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In a socioeconomic class where that is not at all uncommon or considered an embarrassing thing
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:12 AM
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Having a very calm and understanding partner definitely helps. Also texting very little. Phone calls used to stress me out a lot but since I got used to them they are way less annoying and mentally draining than texting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:07 AM
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Thankfully no. However, it's not exactly surprising to me how others would.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 07:04 AM
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Vaguely remember the name, but not a whole lot about his posts/comments
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 03:02 AM
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👑🐝
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:59 AM
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Atlas is definitely still here
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:57 AM
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I know I've seen these names before but I don't remember them as well
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:55 AM
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I think he might still be here. There is a user who posts suspiciously similar content with a similar writing style.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:53 AM
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Just not here. Wow I forgot about him already.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:51 AM
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Who are some older PPD users you remember who are (probably) no longer with us? I remember hiso_hiso, mwk, jokengonzo, mercedesbenzoamg, poppyblue, andrue, dental, officerkondo, lewiscross, bookofseil
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:48 AM
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I find it funny that without fail the "look at how mid this female celebrity is without makeup" photos always have the hair pulled back and some weird/neutral facial expression. If she just takes her hair down and smiles she's going to look a lot more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:02 AM
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Finally, a post where the man is actually more attractive and PPD isn't underrating the woman like crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 01:51 AM
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Enlightening!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 10:39 PM
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Does it have more to do with lifestyle incompatibility or a potential insecurity, i.e. thinking that other women will constantly be hitting on a guy and he might cheat or she might have less control over him? I genuinely don't think a woman is looking at a dad bod of the type above and thinking he's way less likely to cheat or easier to control than the six pack guy. If anything six pack guy may have less time/opportunity on his hands to cheat vs. a dude who still manages to look good enough for…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 10:28 PM
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I'm just a postgrad student who already has to read a lot of research anyway so what's a little more. I think six pack gets the advantage for hookups from OLD. Dad bod has the advantage of looking like he may have more freedom to party and drink, and that lifestyle comes with more irl opportunities for casual sex than a person who chooses to lead a more restrictive lifestyle. Reminds me of the non-athlete frat boys from undergrad. For relationships/marriage, I think that gets a little more compl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 08:25 PM
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I mean people take out their impotent rage on completely uninvolved people all the time. The barista who treats customers like garbage likely has something going on in their life which is manifesting in how they treat these random people who just want a latte. From there it's not a massive leap for people to take out their impotent rage on others who are, in their view, the source of their problems by some likely dubious reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 07:24 PM
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Waist becomes wider yes, but will not necessarily throw off the man's shoulder to hip ratio depending on his frame. Consider this body for example. <image> Dude clearly has fat on him and I would personally call it a dad bod, but shoulder to hip ratio is still solid.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:59 PM
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I tried to post a picture of the models they used for the study but Reddit deleted it for being NSFW. None of them have significant body fat. Whether women like "dad bods" is not what they were studying. It's basically wide/tall frame vs medium frame vs. short/narrow frame.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:14 PM
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Nobody should ignore what they observe in real life in favor of what the anonymous strangers say. If that's your experience, so be it. Who are we to tell you otherwise. The rest of us may have different experiences. So there is no "we all just accept."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 04:59 PM
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While 18.4% of women reported that intercourse alone was sufficient for orgasm Are you reading carefully?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 08:15 AM
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That still directly contradicts your own source which said 18.4% of women reported being able to orgasm from PIV only. Are you reading carefully?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 08:11 AM
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My mistake. Clitoral stimulation during PIV, not before. That still doesn't support your conclusion that good PIV is all that women need to orgasm and people who say otherwise are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 08:04 AM
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Good memory. Yes, emphasis on "was." She had already gotten out of it by the time we friended each other. Last time I checked she was a foster mom. No idea what she's up to now or if she's even still on Facebook.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 07:48 AM
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While 18.4% of women reported that intercourse alone was sufficient for orgasm, 36.6% reported clitoral stimulation was necessary for orgasm during intercourse, and an additional 36% indicated that, while clitoral stimulation was not needed, their orgasms feel better if their clitoris is stimulated during intercourse So your own source is saying that good foreplay results in good PIV. Is that not the mainstream consensus?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 07:33 AM
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I think the biggest predictor of ending up in those types of dynamics is the behavior you witnessed in your parents. If a woman grows up watching her mom tolerate that shit, then there's a good chance that will be her idea of "normal." I grew up with a father who never raised his voice at my mother, never slammed doors, or anything along those lines. The second a dude shows signs of not being able to handle his temper, I'm out. I don't care how much people are like "well if it was a one time thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:34 AM
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I have never been in the position to communicate with a sex worker and I don't know why I would be
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:20 AM
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The difference is very relevant considering the fact that you decided to compare soliciting sex work to soliciting any other work. So I used an example of another form of work to demonstrate how absurd it is to treat soliciting sex work the same way as soliciting any other work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:15 PM
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If your neighbor rings your doorbell and offers to pay you for a blow job, would you view that exactly the same way as offering to pay you to feed his cat while he's away?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:36 PM
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While I would take reality TV intended first and foremost for drama and entertainment with a massive grain of salt, I do agree that the advice to simply "choose better" is very simplistic and naive. I think a major factor here is one-off vs. pattern. Virtually everyone I know, male or female, who has dated at least two people has that one ex who screwed them over. They learned the warning signs to look for and went on to have a healthy relationship with an amazing person. Then there are people w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:31 PM
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So my experience in Japan kinda indicates that the neat and tidy benefits you imagine do not necessarily happen in a society where sex work is essentially legal. Overall I love living there, and the men are pretty great. But I did have a rather questionable encounter that made me start to think about these things more. I know that one culture with legal sex work does not represent all that currently have it or ever will. But I do think it's an interesting case study. I have never had a random du…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 07:48 PM
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Probably will. I actually don't mind ads most of the time but if they're gonna start promoting that kind of shit here it's time for me to explore other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 06:54 PM
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Reddit is already sending me enough of those cringey Seeking ads as it is and accidentally clicking that link is about to make it a whole lot worse
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 06:46 PM
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I see. I don't recall if Buss has anything on French attitudes toward sex and infidelity specifically, but I have a wild hunch that France is closer to Germany than the U.S. on this sort of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:12 AM
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Not sure which European country you're from but this is from a Scientific American article citing Buss, the researcher you mention in OP ​​Second, the degree to which males find the prospect of a female partner's sexual infidelity upsetting varies significantly among cultures. For example, only about a quarter of German males report sexual infidelity to be more upsetting than emotional infidelity. Interestingly, Buss and his colleagues have themselves noted that the German culture has “more rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 02:54 AM
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Any man who goes into that lifestyle needs to be prepared for the major risks involved, including STDs and becoming a father. Additionally assuming there is alcohol, drugs, or other such substances involved in this lifestyle, because there often is, all of that opens up its own bucket of health risks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 12:44 AM
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There is no way to make me bounce from a piece of media faster than portraying infidelity as a beautiful, flawed, bittersweet part of life we're supposed to sympathize with or something. A children's novel I read at the age of twelve had a scenario that made me feel very uncomfortable but I didn't know what to call it because nothing physical happened. Later I learned the term "emotional affair" and was like "oh okay that's what that was."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:58 PM
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I find the answer to any question involving "why does Reddit have X response to Y relationship thing" is "depends on what agenda has taken over any given thread by the point that you came across it." For me at least Reddit is pretty unpredictable. Right when I think I have a good idea of whether people are gonna take OP's side on any given issue I end up wrong. I think there's a lot of brigading and other nonsense that contribute to this instability. "I can't believe this isn't top comment, thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:50 PM
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People who think about relationships in a materialistic light would possibly view me as planning to "marry down." I admittedly have a very priveleged life and that's why I can afford not to care about my partner's earning potential. It's as simple as that. I don't need to add a man to take care of me in the material sense. For me it was always about other factors like emotional intimacy and shared experience. I would only be marrying down if I compromised on what actually matters to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:57 PM
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Dating apps aren't working, time to look lost on PPD
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:27 PM
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I only pursue debates that are worth my time. I usually test the waters by asking questions to clarify the OP's stance and get a better idea of the logic behind the conclusion they came to. The results have indicated that my time is better spent elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:46 PM
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Likewise
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:38 PM
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I'm not the person who made this post, but thank you for your interest
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:36 PM
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By your extremely vague definition any person who expects their SO to bring in any form of income is a "golddigger"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:17 PM
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Called it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:10 PM
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Also does Burger King's union have a representative on this subreddit? For fuck's sake these posts always namedrop and white knight for men working at that specific company.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:04 PM
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OP can you define gold digging and how literally anything else you describe in this post fits what that term means
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:01 PM
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I went to a college where being able to write about some niche eccentric hobby in your essay really helped. Violin player #5431 wasn't cutting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:23 PM
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I've met two, went on dates with one. He was cute be he told me he wanted to move in together within like 72 hours of talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:15 PM
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I find that a lot of this confusion can be chalked up to the problem of distinguishing between "trad virgin/low n" and the broader umbrella of "virgin/low n." I always try to be clear about where I'm coming from and the kinds of women I am typically interacting with. These are going to be the kinds of virgins who only want one sexual partner for life. Obviously that doesn't apply to all virgins, because everyone starts out a virgin regardless of where they end up ultimately. If it's not clear wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:45 PM
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How exactly is this one random woman's anecdote superior to some other random woman's anecdote. Because it aligns with what you already wanted to believe in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:46 AM
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Mods asleep
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:22 AM
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That isn't literally what OP said and if it were you would've just quoted it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:18 AM
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You might appreciate this Ask Philosophy thread where this topic is discussed at length
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:10 PM
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According to your opinion and values, yes. I am explaining how others come to a different conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:40 PM
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I see. At this point I would say that you're doing everything you should be. You're still young, and honestly patience is a fairly large aspect of this entire process. It can be daunting, especially if you know other Christian women who are already in serious relationships. But different blessings come to different people at different times. I met my love at 23. Because you believe in prayer, I would suggest praying for your future spouse. Not simply for him to come into your life, but that he i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:35 PM
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Are there Christian communities you can join? A lot of campuses will have a broader "all denominations" group and also groups for specific denominations
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:26 PM
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Are you in college?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:24 PM
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There's a good deal of overlap between people who wait until marriage and those who don't see abortion as an option for an "oopsie" that could've been entirely avoided through abstinence
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:23 PM
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The same way people gamble with unplanned pregnancy or any other number of life-changing things that can go wrong with premarital sex
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:18 PM
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That's really going to depend on your environment. I know young women who had an easy time finding all of that and women who had a harder time. The biggest factors will be the size and gender ratio of the local young adult community for your faith. Devout Christian men are a dime a dozen where I live currently so meeting my BF, who is also a Christian virgin waiting until marriage, was pretty easy. I have also lived in places where it was much harder to find men like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:16 PM
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Humans believed that acquired traits could be inherited by offspring as recently as the 1800s. Hell a lot of people still probably think that unless they've been formally and correctly educated on evolutionary theory. The argument you're making here kinda presumes some sophisticated innate knowledge we're all born with of how genes work. To the extent that humans innately look for indicators of fitness it's not gonna be on that level of sophistication.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 04:55 PM
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There is nothing that destabilizes redditors' views of humanity like one person talking on TikTok. As with virtually any other moral question under the sun the answer is that like attracts like. Women who cheat are probably going to be friends with women who cheat and/or tolerate cheating. Similarly, this woman is going to attract women looking for parasocial relationships with other women who think similarly. And by sharing and giving attention to this kind of content you are helping that perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:21 AM
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I prefer to not throw that word around casually on anyone but I have a strong preference for virgin men over men who are not, regardless of what the specific number is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 07:04 PM
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In pretty much every recent photo that comes up she is pregnant or just had a baby. They are up to three young kids now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:16 PM
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I don't care very strongly about that sort of thing right now precisely because it's all gonna be moot down the line anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:09 PM
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Kamen Rider
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:01 PM
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Nope, 5'3
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:00 PM
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I mean that's kind of inevitable with old age. I don't realistically expect my spouse to be as physically attracted to my saggy grandma ass form as current me and that's fine. What matters more is treasuring the life we've built together and his emotional investment in the totality of me as a person rather than in my looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:59 PM
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I don't do casual relationships at all and in all likelihood I wouldn't be compatible with a guy who has. The age thing is also weird I guess but not the primary red flag for me in this situation. If it were a woman our age I would still break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:47 PM
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I am Catholic, born and raised in the U.S. Bible Belt
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:40 PM
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Indeed you can
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:41 PM
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Unless you are LDS, or the few genuine Catholics or Baptists who aren't Christmas/Easter Christians Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:19 AM
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Ick to men with high n-counts. Yes we exist, get over it Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 12:23 AM
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He said "just made out with a girl for the first time" not too long ago, so presumably yes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:50 PM
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Yeah this comment is a sequel to a different comment
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:34 PM
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I'm curious to know how difficult you thought kissing would be compared to how difficult it turned out to be. I personally think people way overestimate how long it takes to catch on to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:19 PM
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Nah I've fallen for men like that multiple times in the past. If it's what feels right to him and he's still sexually attracted to me we're good.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:07 PM
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Being a virgin on this sub catching strays for no reason <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 05:05 PM
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What dinner? A pizza? Steak with candlelight? I'm really scrupulous with this sort of thing and wouldn't be alone at a dude's house who isn't a relative or my BF. But I wouldn't blame a typical person for not seeing Pizza Hut on the couch as a romantic cue.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:49 PM
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I'd be the one telling him to finish the race. Sprained ankles heal. Knowing that he lost out on this major milestone he's been working so hard for because of me would be a lot worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:40 PM
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Men who claim that tall women have an easy time with dating are almost certainly thinking of hyper feminine waifish super models, not tall women with the kinds of build that you get you scouted for sports like rugby instead
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:22 PM
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Completely irrelevant to me since my BF was completely romantically/sexually inexperienced when we met
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 02:38 PM
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Not until marriage of course <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 02:26 AM
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I read a study which found both women and men demonstrating preferred for partners with DT traits. However, the effect decreased when you controlled for extroversion in DT men and physical attractiveness in DT women. Basically, the DT men were liked because of their extroversion and the DT women were liked because they were hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 02:05 AM
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I think a far better reason is that an untrained civilian trying to play hero might escalate the situation and get everyone killed. Like if I'm a hostage I'd much rather have a trained professional on the case than "some dude." To me people way overestimate how helpful a random civilian's intervention will be in a lot of situations. Which is why I'm on team 911 all the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:56 AM
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A dude on this sub just recently claimed that all of the Chads at his college are dating "mid" girls. I think some people are just harsher critics of the sex they're attracted to and very lenient when rating people they'll never be attracted to anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 08:00 PM
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I feel like with contact lenses, sleep, and rediscovering his will to live dude could be a 7
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:07 PM
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If she were fatter than him this sub would absolutely say he's the more attractive one who settled
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 11:31 AM
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My faith doesn't casually allow divorce like that. Which is why my solution for those people is "don't get married in the first place."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:18 AM
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it seems the effect of a bad mother are less discussed. Can you think of an example of a bad mom in fiction ? The mom from Hatchet, a common required summer reading book. Fuck that lady. I dated a guy who grew up with a similar childhood experience of a cheating mom and he was a trainwreck. I don't think he's free from all accountability for the way he treated me, but I think it's undeniable that that experience affected how he sees women in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:18 AM
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Oh look it's the go-to gotcha that doesn't work on me since I'm not sure a woman who doesn't trust men like that should be getting married either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:13 AM
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r/genzgrouptherapy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 08:11 PM
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Nothing you are claiming here fits any observation or statistics I have encountered Can you at least cite where you're getting numbers like this And there's not many couples at all really with 90 percent of the guys getting basically no action. And this New data shows the amount of couples that met in college is under 0.5 percent and 60+ percent met on apps where we know that hypergamy and black pill reigns.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:28 PM
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That is a completely different and irrelevant industry. I did not see a single ad for Tinder or Bumble until news of their decline and struggles to attract users started surfacing. And those ads pretty much exclusively target women because that is the demographic they need to focus on increasing, not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:05 PM
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That is some pretty important context for understanding your mindset here
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:42 PM
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OP in particular sounds very unenthusiastic about it, even for reasons stated in the post unrelated to paternity testing, to the point where I have to wonder if some of you are being forced into marriage at gun point
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:38 PM
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Long story short, I think the goal of these sites, including Seeking, is to make money. If it weren't for the targeted hack the world might never know what was going on behind the scenes of Ashley Madison. Everything about Seeking seems suspicious as fuck to me, but then I'm skeptical of any platform that openly promotes transactional relationships. I've unfortunately been getting ads from them lately on Reddit essentially promising that I will meet rich dudes to fund my beach vacations if I joi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:36 PM
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Have any of you simply considered not getting married or having children? I think some of you forget that neither of these things are mandatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:20 PM
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Yes they all have scammers and bots to some extent but some are way worse than others. I think it was actually Ashley Madison that got caught for that when they were hacked. Bots and employees straight-up pretending to be users were rampant to make the men think there were a lot more women on the site than there actually were.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:00 PM
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Is that the one that got outed as having a shit ton of scammers and bots?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:39 PM
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As usual with this topic, I am going to cite my parents who have been married for 25 years and consider each other best friends. If anything that made them better parents, because they liked to be around each order. They weren't constantly going out to hang out with other people all the time. They were happy to spend time together and with their children. That was their idea of a fun weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:28 PM
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Do I look like Bane to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:20 PM
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No because I already prefer virgins
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:22 AM
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These are the numbers Pew found in 2022 <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 12:28 AM
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Apps that have always allowed men to make the first move have even worse gender ratios than Bumble. I think the problem with dating apps is and always will be that women are not as interested in them as men. No gimmick is going to change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:26 PM
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I grew up Catholic and my BF grew up Protestant. We both were raised in environments where a man's virginity is valued and expected just as much as the woman's. In fact we are both virgins waiting until marriage together. Applying it equally to men does not magically endear feminists to purity culture. I'm not sure where you got that idea from.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:13 AM
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You don't have to. Valuing the opinions of internet strangers is a choice. If I ask Reddit "should I wait until marriage" I already know what the overwhelming answer is going to be. I do not care. I do not understand why any of you care this much.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:39 AM
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This isn't traditionalism, it's modern male fantasy disguised as traditionalism. In trad contexts the man is often expected to lead the woman by example through his own purity. "Do as I say not as I do" is bad leadership 101.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:34 AM
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Yes absolutely. Trust me I don't take it for fun. If my doctor ever has a better alternative I'll be happy to do that instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:03 AM
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Very heavy, painful, and irregular periods run in my family. I lived with it for about 10 years by taking about 3200 mg of ibuprofen per day while on my period, but on the heaviest days that would barely do anything. When my blood test results indicated anemia my doctor started to more strongly recommend that I use birth control. My periods are regular now, and while I do still bleed and my cramps are still bad for a day or two it's not nearly as debilitating as when I'm off birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:13 PM
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Believe it or not some of us have to take birth control for medical reasons and still manage not to have sex. The contraception isn't forcing anyone to have sex. A temptation merely existing does not excuse the person who fell for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:47 PM
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Even as one of the resident trads on this sub I can't agree with this. "Do not covet your neighbor's wife" wouldn't have been an ancient commandment if the institution of marriage in and of itself were enough to stop men from looking at other women. It has never been enough in any society that ever existed. At the end of the day the individual needs to have the willpower to deny their impulses. Not put the burden on everyone else around them to eliminate any and all temptation. That is never goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:17 PM
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That's great!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:38 PM
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I don't go to bars and clubs. Barely felt any desire to do it when I was single, feel even less desire to do it because I'm taken and feel like it would be disrespectful to my SO to surround myself with a bunch of drunk, horny men. I've had sips of alcohol here and there, but never enough to even feel tipsy. My SO is the only person I would ever consider drinking around for real once we're married since I trust him and I'm open to whatever happens from there. So if a woman is going to bars and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:21 PM
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That's more like an upper middle class lifestyle. If you consider upper middle class wealthy, then yeah it tracks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 08:23 PM
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I would go a step further and say that many people in general do not understand how fallacies work. Simply namedropping fallacies is not a substitute for an actual argument, nor do they prove the other person is wrong. A person can arrive at a correct conclusion through a logical fallacy. Take bandwagon fallacy for example, which is basically "I believe this thing because lots of other people do." While it is true that a lot of people can be wrong about something, a lot of people can also be rig…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:22 PM
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For me at least it's not so much the female body itself being more aesthetically pleasing as female fashion. And well...of course. The clothes are made to appeal to us in the first place. I think some women confuse the two. In terms of the body alone I absolutely find the male form more beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 04:55 PM
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Gatekeepers gonna gatekeep
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 08:30 PM
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How on earth does an anti-gamer wind up in a relationship with a gamer. Did it never come up while you were dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 03:19 AM
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A match between two people with time-consuming hobbies they do not share sounds doomed to fail. I don't know how couples like that get together in the first place tbh. The sex must be amazing. Whenever they get around to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 01:05 AM
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I have never met a woman in real life who is vehemently against men who game in any way, shape, or form. I find that men who ask these questions have a very specific idea of what counts as "real" gaming and then ask why women don't like that. I am a very casual gamer and would only date a guy at the same level of casual. Not countless hours of yelling at strangers over a mic and overall just taking it way too seriously for my taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 12:26 AM
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That is not true. Is it technically legal? Yes. Would many women look the other way if her SO did it? Yes. Is it a career you would proudly announce that you have and/or your offspring has? Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 08:50 PM
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Considering the fact that this is the N count thread I'm going to assume these are all euphemisms for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:35 PM
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It's inevitable imo. We all know the person irl who will make it about jealousy if you give any non-positive feedback on their life choices. It's a convenient rebuttal when you have nothing else because it can't be falsified. There is no definitive proof you can submit of not being jealous. To me, it is what it is at this point and there's not much point in wanting it to be gone. Trust me, it isn't going anyway. Just say "Okay" or "You're right, you've shown me light, I'm in love with you. Marry…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:26 PM
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Yeah it's Lift and Lurk
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:26 AM
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Correct. Are you Asian?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:25 AM
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The ones who wouldn't leave me the hell alone until I started seeing someone
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:24 AM
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Y'all ever notice how this same question gets asked every week and the community survey never backs up this assertion
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:22 AM
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It's annoying when women on the internet police male attraction to certain celebrities. Like they feel personally attacked when some stranger on the internet isn't attracted to Margot Robbie or whoever. Girl how does this impact your life in any way. Log off.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 12:09 AM
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I think a factor that doesn't get discussed enough is the "is he shy or does he hate me" question. There was a guy I befriended towards the end of his time in high school; he was a year ahead of me. We had interacted regularly through an after school activity, but I initially misread his introvert tendencies as not liking me in particular. He started opening up a lot more as time went on and became much friendlier, which allowed me to feel more comfortable speaking to him. He was still pretty aw…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 11:02 PM
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I can't speak for every woman who has that requirement, but in my case it stems from what I witnessed in my own parents' relationship. They spend all of their free time together. My mom is an outgoing person by nature but there's no one she'd rather spend time with than her family, including my father. My dad has never been a very sociable person or eager to maintain deep friendships so my mother basically wins by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:38 PM
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In my SO's social circle all of those things matter. I've gone to outings with my BF where everyone already knew way more about my education, background, and accomplishments than I ever would have imagined because he loves to talk about them apparently lol. I think it's sweet but also a little nerve-racking to have attention on me like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:15 PM
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"Might be referring to?" Again, the burden is on the person making the claims to cite these studies and clarify their parameters. If you're not even taking your assertions seriously enough to do the bare minimum in that regard why should anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:08 PM
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I mean we've all seen this script play out in some ways, she'll reject a guy with good intentions and fall for a toxic man, get impregnated then get abandoned and then look for a simp to help raise her kids No we all haven't, because some of our parents were fortunate enough to get the hell away from the kinds of places where this stuff is regularly happening
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:41 AM
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Then they should use their words and clarify the parameters, not just assume everyone else also forgets that people outside of their preferred age window exist
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:15 AM
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Injuries are so common in cheer you might be in there in like a week
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:13 PM
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This is one of the reasons I don't even bother with bringing up my BF. "No thank you", no eye contact, keep walking. I used to feel like I had to stand there and justify why I don't want to talk to this dude. And one day I just thought to myself "Leave. You're not a hostage."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:09 PM
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I think there are important parameters that you need to be clear about when asking someone that question. I would say that I'm attracted to a small percentage of men in general but attracted to like 50% of men roughly in their 20s. According to the data I'm seeing that's gonna be roughly 10% of American men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:50 PM
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I think body hair plays an underrated role in this. I wouldn't be surprised if there's a correlation between women who are really attracted to a good carpet of body hair and liking thicker men. Men who are really fit tend to keep their chests shaven. For women who feel that body hair is really sexy and masculine that can absolutely be a turnoff. Even when I see shirtless scenes in movies I'm like "okay but where the hell is the hair, I know y'all grow it."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:20 PM
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For me dating a person with that kind of body is what really entrenched by preference for guys with more "normal" bodies. I'm not even using the word dad bod because so many dudes here consider nothing short of morbid obesity as a "true" dad bod and like to gatekeep the everloving fuck out of the term. Here, this is the kind of body that I prefer. Call it whatever you want. I later learned from this sub that my six pack case probably had body dysmorphia causing him to flex every time I would go …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:58 PM
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Do you believe men that seek to travel outside of the US are predators? This is different from what you actually wind up asking in the post. The title should've just been "Do you think passport bros are predators?" I mean some of them definitely come across that way. We even have our own case on this very sub who is very blunt about what he does and why he does it and by his own admission is a terrible person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:41 PM
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My parents have been together over 25 years, grandparents over 50. I can't take credit for anything, virtually everything I say here is influenced by conversations I've had with them about their relationships in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:20 PM
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Can you describe your cultural backgrounds a little bit?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:59 PM
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This will get removed for being an advice post I feel like post is missing a lot of the things that actually matter. Are you in love with this man? Are you compatible in terms of beliefs and lifestyle?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:46 PM
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Article here describes it as a broader phenomenon not necessarily tied to stereotypical gender roles
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 03:56 PM
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That is a very strong illustration of why forcing or coercing people into chastity is counterproductive. My parents were very liberal in their stances on premarital sex and ended up with the kind of daughter more conservative patents wish they had. Funny how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:27 PM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:18 PM
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Wouldn't the same thing be accomplished by just not having any form of sex and actually sticking to the spirit of the beliefs you claim to have?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:45 PM
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The kind of cultures that have virginity hysteria typically have even worse anal sex hysteria. Ime the "virgin who does anal" is more a porn fantasy than something that's happening regularly in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:36 PM
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You know how dudes on this sub keep talking about how you would get clowned on for dating "the town bike"? I knew an athlete in college who got made fun of for doing the opposite. His team and the girls they hung around didn't like his GF because she was too innocent and uptight to them. According to this sub something like that would never happen and all men fawn over virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 01:16 AM
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You're preaching to the introvert choir here
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 10:15 AM
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You're conflating good conversationalist with "deep and thoughtful conversations." In normie land that's not what "good conversationalist" means. It's more like being charismatic and fun at parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 09:52 AM
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Great! If the men who run our churches and have the final say in who gets married come to agree with your point of view before I walk down the aisle, I'll be all for a prenup. But that day isn't here yet, so I am not personally compatible with any man who wants that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 08:28 AM
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Tests always put me at the borderline of INFP/INFJ with one or the other barely winning out depending on what the questions being asked are
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 08:05 AM
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Thank you for this deeply fascinating information about what other people who are not me are doing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 07:58 AM
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Based on my own unfortunate experience in that kind of relationship the answer is no. For men like that "the traditional girlfriend" sounds great in theory but it becomes an issue when the traditional stuff is inconvenient to what he desires at any given moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 05:37 AM
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I wouldn't take it personally, but it's still a fundamental fact that I'm not compatible with men who feel that way. Prenups are frowned upon in my faith and can be taken as a sign that the couple isn't committed to stay together until death. I also would never have sex or raise children with someone I'm not married to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 04:51 AM
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You know a couple has called it quits when one of them suddenly uploads a new pfp with the other person missing. I've witnessed this so many times I don't believe there's a correlation between relationship stability and a pfp together.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:04 AM
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I haven't noticed a correlation personally. The sudden brand new profile picture with a certain person conspicuously absent is a tale as old as Facebook.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 03:44 AM
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And you would say the same about a person who complains online about different people showing up at their door everyday to sell things?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:30 AM
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The level headed take is "I personally don't like it but he isn't doing anything illegal."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:21 AM
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Yes I'm sure it's barely anyone's first choice and many will bounce as soon as a better opportunity comes. Until then, figuring it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:56 AM
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If she's calling for all men who do this to be imprisoned or something, yes I would call that unhinged. If she is simply expressing that she dislikes it, or that such interactions make her uncomfortable, so what? People on the internet can express how randoms showing up at their door to sell them shit is annoying. Yet that is certainly not discouraging anyone apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:32 AM
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So option 3? Women can be annoyed, but shouldn't express it online or in the man's presence
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:08 AM
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Sales, people figure it out when they need to in order to pay rent
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:05 AM
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So let's break down what you mean by "shouldn't be taboo." Which of the following statements come closest to your thought process? Cops shouldn't be called on men who do this Women shouldn't be annoyed by it Women can be annoyed, but shouldn't express it online or in the man's presence
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:00 AM
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I am personally very skeptical of "academics" who choose not to use their full names, don't list the institutions their degrees came from, and only publish their findings on datepsychology.com
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 12:30 AM
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I think a major flaw in discussion of "approaching" is the fact that different people have different ideas of what that even means and a researcher would have to be very specific about how they are defining it. I assume this is the article in question. It is not published academic research. "Alexander", literally whoever the fuck that is, polled a bunch of people on some unnamed social media platform. My suspicion is that he polled his own followers on X/Twitter. I can't find any indication that…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 11:44 PM
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If my SO came out as bisexual tomorrow it would change absolutely nothing. He's still the man I love, and as long as he intends to spend the rest of his life with me those sorts of details are irrelevant. All of the concerns you listed are possible regardless of who your SO is attracted to. The only way to prevent all of that entirely is to simply not have exclusive relationships. Edit: or sex at all for that matter
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:37 PM
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Thank you very much. Both for the kind words and sharing this sweet story. I hope that I get to spend so many decades with my love. My grandparents are still a ways off from their 90s, and while my great-grandfather lived that long unfortunately he outlived my great-grandmother by many years.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:23 AM
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Yeah writer of this article definitely made some...interesting choices. Like focusing on the top 5% and 1% of promiscuous people. Five percent of women have had 16 or more partners; five percent of men have had 50 or more. One percent of American women have had over 35 partners; the comparable figure for men is 150. How is information on these extreme minorities of people supposed to help anyone draw conclusions about promiscuity in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:49 AM
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Sounds like the things my parents told me. My love owns my entire soul. I decided not to settle for anything less. I made it from the ages of 19 to 23 single and was perfectly content to wait longer if I had to. My parents still have a very affectionate and loving relationships after over 25 years, and I want the same. He's one of the most beautiful men I've ever seen (I feel that words like handsome or attractive don't do him justice). I've had so many moments with him feeling like I was starin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 08:49 PM
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Yeah that's great and all, feel free to argue with the feminists about that. This is a debate formerly known as CMV post and I'm focused on your stance. This is a claim you made in OP He was falsely accused expelled without proper due process This gives the impression that the allegations were actually proven false. They were not. This is not a case of "we have evidence the dude was passed out at Denny's at the time she claims she was assaulted." This is a case of "he was there, at that time, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 12:06 PM
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OP do you know the difference between allegations that have been proven false and allegations that cannot be proven beyond a reasonable doubt? Because that's pretty crucial here and often gets muddled in these conversations. This is a case of the latter, not the former based on the sources you presented. "Beyond a reasonable doubt" is the standard that got OJ acquitted and at this point pretty much everybody knows he killed that woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 10:56 AM
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It it very possible to share values without developing them in the exact same way. I see them as an example of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 09:47 AM
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What in the world are you doing wasting your time on this sub for? I've asked myself that for about six years now. If nothing else, I appreciate how this subreddit has made me aware of some things that my relatively sheltered background did not make so apparent. I realized "ha, VIRGIN" is a thing to some extent in secular culture but not how hurtful and alienating it can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 09:30 AM
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For me personally the answer is never. But I'm also religious and for the devout in my faith virginity is not a shameful thing. Marriage is a serious calling and the path to that vocation isn't always so straightforward. And we're expected to stay virgins until we figure it out, so naturally there are going to be men and women who keep their virginity longer than secular society might see as "normal."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 02:38 AM
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Generally speaking I'm not but he's the brightest thing in this world to me. And I have felt quite angry on his behalf over less. Seeing him in physical agony would probably make me lose it. Calling 911 would objectively be the smarter thing, since there isn't much a 5'3 woman can do vs. multiple men, but I'm not exactly reasonable when it comes to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 07:19 PM
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Is guns and butter-posting the new PPD meta?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:54 PM
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Still a no, but I wouldn't be straight-up questioning his sanity like the coworker situation
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:49 PM
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I didn't see the first one, this will be a fuck no for me regardless of the gender or orientation of the coworker. Because if nothing else it's an HR fiasco waiting to happen. Hell coworker even asking for this is an HR fiasco in and of itself, I'd tell him to get ahead of this shit and report it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:37 PM
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Indeed. I never would've guessed that only 8% of American homes have a swimming pool until I stumbled across the statistic. For me that really shows how SES can shape your view of reality and what "average" looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:27 PM
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Yeah they're gonna have to kill me or knock me out
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:22 PM
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I misunderstood what he was talking about so I think that's gonna be a deduction from my based score this time around
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:18 PM
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Ohh my b
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:17 PM
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Doesn't matter. What does matter is how the insecurity manifests in the real world and what that means for your compatibility with any given individual. A dude demanding constant access to all communications I have with other people would be a massive dealbreaker for me regardless of what his reasons for that might be. Not wanting me to dress like a hooker or post thirst traps on social media is fine for me because I have no desire to do those things anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:03 PM
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I 10/10 endorse, especially if you're delicate like me and running outside in 90°F+ weather is not an option
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 03:22 PM
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Gym rat tastes can be weird, I wouldn't say they even exist in a well-defined league. Plenty of their GFs will have you going "is...this really the best he could do?" But if he's happy that's all that matters at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 03:11 PM
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One of my personal favorites would be blushing. My own BF is particularly prone to it. He can't even hide nervousness or embarrassment if he wanted to. He certainly didn't at the start of our relationship. And I just found him all the more attractive for it. That sort of thing. I like men who wear their hearts on their sleeves. Who don't (or can't) play it cool, hold back, or try to fake anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 09:49 PM
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Sounds like a passive aggressive response to this multi-part saga
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 01:53 AM
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If by "spontaneous desire" we mean "noticeable physiological response from your vaginal area upon seeing an attractive man", I would say it is very common for women to not experience that. I would even go as far as to say that it may be true for most women. I feel like the closest equivalent I personally have to that is my response to the voice. Something about a really attractive male voice goes straight to the nethers for me in the way that I imagine men are with good-looking women. He could b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 01:35 AM
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I mean even that seems like a weird thing to not know about the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 12:22 AM
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So my approach may be somewhat controversial. I find that the best thing you can do is not assume "it gets better." If a dude isn't opening up about anything and dodging serious conversations before you make the relationship official I think it's best to assume he is going to keep doing that. It's one thing to not be at that stage after a date or two and another to be at the "making things official" stage which presumably entailed multiple dates and conversations without any kind of deeper emoti…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 11:24 PM
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It sounds like a breakdown in the vetting process if you're just suddenly realizing that your partner doesn't like opening up to you and that is a now a problem for some reason. My dad isn't the emotionally vulnerable type. It has nothing to do with women. By all accounts of everyone who has known him since childhood that's just how he's always been. Clearly that wasn't an issue for my mom, or she wouldn't have married him. I'm the opposite. I could never date someone with my father's personalit…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 07:02 PM
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You mean being terrible at presenting yourself as an interesting and well-rounded functional adult isn't a problem unique to either sex? I'm shocked
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 06:20 PM
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Case in point
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 05:06 PM
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Tbf shirtless pic at the beach or on a boat is different from "low effort shirtless pic in dirty bathroom mirror," which is what 90% of shirtless pics on a dating app will be. That is probably what women are referring to when they call it a red flag. Don't get me wrong I'm sure lots of women will still bite if the dude is hot, but quality and quantity would likely increase if the shirtless pic has a better setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 04:52 PM
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Very neutral with no accent from anywhere. I used to get "where are you from" a lot growing up because I never picked up anything that resembles the local accent. I've been told by English learners that I'm easy to understand because I basically have the generic voice that you would find on an English teaching app or CD.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 07:18 PM
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I don't think my BF feels particularly invaded when we cuddle and play on his couch. We make a great team in Kirby and the Forgotten Lands
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 05:54 PM
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On social media you have a bunch of complete strangers interacting with limited information about each other. On a platform like Facebook, which stresses anonymity less, you'll often get people checking each other's profiles for information. It's interesting to watch people debate on Facebook and start dragging in information from each other's profiles like education, their job, their relatives, etc. It's kind of unsettling. Then you have a place like Reddit, where most people aren't readily sha…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 03:30 AM
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Sorry I don't see anything weird about that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 11:22 PM
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Let's review the top comments shall we Korean Milhouse ain't got time for your problems. I cooked for this guy at his Bel Air mansion. He opened a $46,000 bottle of wine. I did the math and based on his net worth it’s more irresponsible for me to drink canned sparkling water than it is for him to drink that. Crazy stuff. Just a billionaire man in his fifties spending some quality time with a couple of ‘old souls’. What they stream ? Bang is the name or preferred activity? Remember fellas, you ai…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 11:11 PM
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I saw that thread myself and saw nobody calling those particular women victims. They were more making fun of the obvious arrangements happening here, asking for the girls' names for "research", or criticizing the kpop industry in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 11:01 PM
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It really depends on the circle you're dating in. Men who value virginity typically come from religious or otherwise culturally conservative contexts ime. Social media is a wide open field where people from all walks of life are sharing their opinions. What other randoms say may not apply whatsoever to the particular context you're in. What you have to say may not apply to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 02:48 AM
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He's my best friend. Like 90% of our interests and hobbies were the same when we met, and the other 10% we took the time to learn and start sharing as well. Our sense of humor is very compatible too, so it's very easy for us to make each other laugh. We could easily spend a full day communicating in memes and quotes from movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 12:05 AM
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I'm personally biased toward the Blue Lions since Dimitri is one of my favorite video game characters. You would think at first glance that he would be the least interesting main character in that game but there's a lot more to unpack there than meets the eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 08:59 PM
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Fire Emblem Three Houses, just stick to the easiest difficulty settings and use the rewind time mechanic if you mess up. A lot of people just use that game as a dating sim basically
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 08:28 PM
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Seriously though, where do people find this debate stamina. I rarely get the last word in any argument here because I get so tired of interacting with any individual user so quickly. You're getting 3 responses from me max before I'm like "what is the point of this." It is so crazy to me when a chain has like 30 comments back and forth between the same two people. Did yall do nothing else all day? Just fuck already, damn
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 07:01 PM
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They're both crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 05:18 PM
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What year is this, 2012? Man brought some Bumble bullshit to Tinder and then gets shocked when Tinder bullshit works better on Tinder
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 05:09 AM
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POV: You're not over your ex who cheated on you with "don't worry babe, she's one of the guys"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:36 AM
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For my BF it was the opposite. He's basically lived out here for his entire life, as have most of the people he grew up around and went to school with. Friends of his who have settled down suddenly started coming back out of the woodwork wanting to hang out more and go on double dates once they found out he has a GF. We've been on quite a few now. One of his old coworkers said that I bring out a different side of him. So that might be related.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:26 AM
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Pretty much. My great-grandmother was barely literate and relied on my great-grandfather for everything. He decided that he would sacrifice to put all of his children through school. So my grandmother and most of her siblings had a good education and career. And then passed those values on to their own kids, including my mother. I decided not to engage with OP any further since he basically went on a bizarre tangent instead of reading anything I said. Tbf there could be a language barrier.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 09:24 PM
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Set in stone. I want to proceed according to the teachings of my faith. An engaged couple having sex is seen no differently than a couple that isn't engaged having sex. What matters is marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 07:08 PM
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Marriage, sex, children in that order
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:49 PM
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Layla Williams from Sky High, played by Danielle Panabaker
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:01 PM
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It happens. I'm glad I learned my lesson and dealt with it. Some people still have that kind of stuff going on well into adulthood
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:27 AM
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This is what I said I guess this will just be "war of the anecdotes." And then I proceeded to use an anecdote in that very comment. Did you actually read it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:20 AM
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No. I didn't even grow up in an environment where feminism meant much beyond "Congrats on your right to vote and work part-time to kinda supplement your husband's income if you feel like it. God bless America." (Yes I'm Gen Z but also from the Bible Belt.) Women in my own family were among the exceptions, being very ambitious and career-driven, and that inspired me a lot. They aren't "miserable." The career, the degree, the money aren't their entire identity. They love their families more than a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:16 AM
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To the extent that anybody remembers who she is it's definitely as "the chick who dated Leonardo DiCaprio for a while" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:35 AM
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Yeah and you're gonna need to take up any arguments otherwise with people who actually say that. We don't have to give unconditional approval to all relationships as long as people are legal. Ask me how many of my sister's BFs my family and I have disliked even though everybody involved was legal and close in age.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:32 AM
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Didn't a model or actress come out and say her manager told her to fuck Dicaprio and she refused because she thought he was too old? At least nowadays the answer seems to be career advancement and networking. Notice how these women go from relative nobodies to having their name plastered everywhere overnight from dating these men. We'd all be going "Camila Morone who" if she never dated him. I've also seen reports that she was the one who didn't want to get married so who knows what really happe…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:24 AM
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He was very good to me and I realized dumping him was a mistake lol. The entire time, there was this voice nagging at me saying that I wasn't good enough for him and he would inevitably realize that. One of my friends who knew him well told me she had never seen him as happy as he was with me. And that was when I realized that the voice was the problem, not him. Too late though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:06 AM
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Yes but then he didn't take me back. I've seen mixed views on who becomes the "dumper" in that situation. He seemed to think he was based on what he told other people. I can see arguments on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:27 AM
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I disagree that men have to tolerate women's insecurities and validate us constantly. Lightning didn't strike my ex, nobody chased him with pitchforks for choosing not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:18 AM
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So as long as a person who doesn't approve of age gaps doesn't call anyone stupid or evil you're chill with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:16 AM
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I mean that's what my first BF told me when I dumped him and tried to get back together like a fool. He was completely right, my family agreed that he was right, and I'm grateful I learned from it 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:58 PM
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I guess this will just be "war of the anecdotes." During my college experience the primary double standard that drove pretty much anyone's criticism of conduct in a relationship was your pre-existing relationship with either party. If you knew the dude longer, the girl's a crazy bitch. Always. If you knew the girl longer, the guy's an inconsiderate POS. Always. I have never seen this routine where every girl is coddled and adored by everyone while the dude is an irrelevant punching bag with nobo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:49 PM
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What is that rationalization? Not liking what legal adults decide to do for some reason or other? That resemblance is highly superficial. People disapprove of legal adults' choices in romantic partners all the time for any number of reasons. If a dude doesn't like his friend's GF because her laugh is annoying is that somehow analogous to disapproval of gay relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:36 PM
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To this day the countries with the largest age gaps are the ones which are not the kindest to women or gay people in terms of human rights. So no you can't "equally apply" anything here because completely different attitudes and ideas of how the world "should" be underlie the approval of each.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:16 PM
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Bonafide Gen Z/late millennial classic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:51 PM
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One of my biggest problems with this trope, particularly as far as movie adaptations go, is our aversion to looking at average people on screen resulting in the "frumpy invisible best friend" still being a conventionally attractive person. Remember that time Sky High tried to convince us that this girl was some unattractive nerd guys wouldn't notice, including her best friend since childhood? Oohoohoo, pigtails. Absolutely hideous.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:01 PM
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Don't worry I discovered long ago on this sub that "nice deflection" is code for "I have no rebuttal"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:43 PM
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Honestly I think that's whatever at this point. Some degree of playground antics will always exist in social media discourse on platforms that haven't explicitly created rules against it. My bigger peeve is posing this as a "debate." What the hell is there to debate? You can't reason someone out of shit they didn't reason themselves into. This is like "CMV: Margot Robbie is mid." Dude if you don't like her that's fine. Nothing anybody can say is going to magically make an OP with that opinion su…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:40 PM
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"I think every person who disagrees with me is ugly" is not a debatable topic. No one can logic you into finding other people desirable or imagining them as such. Every man and woman here is free to believe that anonymous people they dislike look like Shrek. I certainly don't blame anyone who doesn't want to risk getting doxxed to make a point to the internet strangers. Especially when the people doing most of the trash talk aren't posting pics either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 04:39 PM
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One of the many flaws in this discourse is presenting a binary where people are either 100% cool about it or "heavily" concerned. There is absolutely nuance between those two reactions, which is where I find most people fall in reality. "That's kinda weird but I'm not losing sleep over other peoples' lives. I wouldn't state my concerns unless someone specifically asked me." In a way I think certain parties are more uncomfortable with that than the idea that someone who is weirded out by their ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:53 PM
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That post was ridiculous imo. A lot of ideas that people call fringe here is just "not true in my bubble/not true in my world." Even the user who claimed that age gaps are a fringe belief cited statistics from an article where the author says that disapproval of age gaps is common, particularly among young people. To me fringe is truly crazy stuff believed by an extreme minority, like lizard people, not "something I personally don't hear often in the environments I self-selected into in the firs…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:55 PM
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On a different sub I saw a very upvoted comment claiming that the actress who played Dorothy in Wizard of Oz was actually older than the lady who played the wicked witch. That is completely false. I let them know and they were like "oh sorry, I read somewhere that she was." Yeah well nonetheless there are now probably quite a few people out there who think they have this really unique, crazy piece of trivia about the Wizard of Oz that is actually wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:34 AM
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There were definitely more pressing reasons why my second relationship didn't work out but education was definitely a source of strain. He didn't go to college, I was attending one he considered very out of reach for someone with his background. He would make belittling comments about it. Didn't seem to understand that I had to study and wasn't simply goofing all day, that I couldn't just bring people back to my dorm on a whim without discussing it with my roommate. Since then I have found that …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:29 AM
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Sounds like a trainwreck
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:51 PM
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I can't imagine needing a man for that who isn't my BF or a relative
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:41 PM
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The whole age gap rigidity and obsession is in itself a fringe belief That is literally the opposite of what the article you posted says
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:18 PM
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Are you implying that this is unique to redditors? The vast majority of people live in some kind of bubble. On average Americans live within 30 miles of their hometown.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:45 PM
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Nah. Treat it as entertainment and nothing more
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:29 PM
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I think we would all be better off from valuing the opinions of the anonymous strangers less
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 07:29 PM
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Yes and yes. Helps that being overweight is not at all common in Japan and dark hair/eyes is my type in general. Call it what you will lol, I wasn't complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 11:53 AM
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At a bookstore. We were hovering by the same shelves. And then he decided to take a chance and talk to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 03:30 AM
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Lol don't worry, they adore him and would do anything for him. They were relieved that his mannerisms indicated a genuinely awkward and inexperienced person instead of some asshole lying to get in my pants
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 01:14 AM
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I was very open to the idea of dating internationally for a time. Especially after studying in Japan. Dudes I had talked to for all of 5 minutes would insist on buying me treats, drinks, helping me with luggage, etc. And most importantly, wouldn't be pushy or entitled after. Ultimately I met the love of my life in the U.S. so it's a moot point.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 07:15 PM
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It's interesting. He's had a lot of good female friends throughout his life, but not romantic interest. He has a stutter and struggles with eye contact. Possibly autistic. On top of that I thought I had a sheltered upbringing, but his was moreso than mine. One of his friends suggested breaking out of that bubble and meeting new girls. And literally not too long after he tried that he met me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:57 PM
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No. On looks alone you would never guess he hasn't had a GF. My family is protective and had suspicions he was lying based on pictures I showed them initially. When they actually met him they were like "nevermind, checks out"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:35 PM
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My BF had zero romantic experience at 25 when we met, AMA
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:28 PM
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There's "be attractive to women" advice and then there's "be attractive to her parents" advice. Many parents are gonna be more helpful with the latter than the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 02:38 PM
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Speaking of wandering in here and not understanding how things work, perhaps a little lesson on post flairs is in order. This post is "question for women" not "debate." It means that OP wants women's opinions. So that answers your little "so what" question right there and illustrates how people who don't bother to read need to maybe consider doing that before questioning others' intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 06:36 AM
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So what indeed. I really don't know why any of you care about my opinion. I state my piece because I have a right to like everyone else here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:56 AM
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Yeah I don't care. Sex before marriage is sex before marriage, how "difficult" it was to participate in an activity incompatible with my own lifestyle and views of sexuality is irrelevant to me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:35 AM
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They won't understand this. To certain people low n women are trophies, not sentient human beings with our own opinions and lifestyles that should probably be compatible with our partner for a successful marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:12 AM
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Even as a virgin I know the answer is that plenty of secular western men do not care that much and/or actively prefer more experienced partners
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:35 AM
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I guess I spend too much time around trads to witness any of this happening
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 11:19 PM
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Surrendering joy. If your partner isn't everything you initially wanted, or at least what you thought you wanted, but they bring genuine joy to your life to the point where all of that is irrelevant, you didn't settle imo. If your partner isn't everything you initially wanted, and you feel a sense of loss or "what could've been", you settled.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 10:30 PM
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Being a football player is work. And very lucrative work at that. Over the years we have become increasingly aware that they are putting themselves at risk of a terrible disease by playing. But not a whole lot of people care because football and other contact sports have become so entrenched in our culture. Something something bread and circuses. I still watch football. I'm still very conflicted about the ethics of watching people who are putting their lives and health on the line for money. I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 07:28 PM
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I've had some unfortunate experiences along those lines. I think it's a combination of things. Some guys fetishize virginity itself to an uncomfortable extent. I had a dude I talked to on an app leave a voice message saying he couldn't wait to see me in pain when he takes it. Not entirely sure why he thought that was the kind of thing a virgin would be turned on by. I think a lot of men just don't understand how virgins work in general. A combination of porn and women who lie about it or are onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 06:46 PM
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If a successful woman isn't getting male attention at all it's either her looks or personality, probably the former since plenty of dudes tolerate the latter. To the extent that men are "intimidated" by women at all many won't respond to it by avoiding her. If anything a pretty successful woman has to worry about the kinds of men who tell themselves they're not intimidated only to very much act that way in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 02:36 PM
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Your safe space is irl with people who know, love, and give a shit about you. Everything else is a trojan horse
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:07 PM
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PPD and the quest for the goalposts: "Women are grossed out by feminine men! Unless he's tall. Maybe. Depends on how I feel this week."
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:56 PM
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That dude embodies almost everything that men on this sub claim women are grossed out by
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:49 PM
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Makeup is not radically transforming your average person. What men need to normalize to compete is skincare. Even professional MUA say that you need a good canvas to work with. If your face is breaking out like crazy you're better off addressing the problem directly instead of slapping makeup on it. Hell the makeup can make it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:45 PM
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Doesn't have much to do with age or sex for me as behavior. Is this person acting normally? A 30-year-old man can come off as harmless. A 7-year-old on some Haley Joel Osment shit can be unsettling. I read a reddit post where a few females in the comment section said they prefer males to be in front of them in yoga class where they can see them and not behind them. There are such easier ways to see women's asses this is kinda wild to me. Short of him sitting in the corner and recording or someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:39 PM
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I feel like sex is pretty low on my list of what makes me cautious of other people. If a person is minding their own business and behaving normally I'm not going to see them as a potential threat. If a person is clearly disturbed or something I'm keeping away. Bitch could have a knife or something, you can't just assume a woman wouldn't harm you just because she's a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:20 PM
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Amateur. You left out hugging him from behind and whispering it so close your lips graze his ear
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:19 PM
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Love and die
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:14 PM
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I think I saw this clip in the daily threads a while back. The woman just sitting there and not doing anything while other men harass her date always bugged me. I find that the vast majority of men don't want to hit a woman and/or go to jail, so you can call their bluff a good amount of the time assuming you don't live in an apocalyptic hellhole. I don't go around trying to start fights obviously but I don't cower in fear whenever a dude is trying to act tough or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:32 PM
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The category/list wouldn't exist in the first place if a significant number of women weren't into it. And notice that one of the books is literally Outlander, which is very well known and has a whole ass TV adaptation
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:02 PM
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Do they though?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:49 PM
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Hoes mad
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:28 PM
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Funnily enough it was a man on this sub who got the most pissy at me for being a virgin woman who likes virgins You're another one of these female posters who is just fundamentally wrong about everything you say. I wouldn't take the advice from a dude who is a virgin and only dated an unwanted virgin so I have no idea why people on here listen to you either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:25 PM
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Once again, I must live on a different planet from you people
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:23 PM
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This is a perception thing, because even the survey with the most dramatic gap found that a little over 30% of women are single. That is not an insignificant number by any stretch. It's possible that you're mistaking people as being in a relationship who actually aren't. Throughout my life people would casually mention "my boyfriend" even at times when I didn't have one. They see woman regularly walking around with one guy and think "oh she's taken." Yeah no that was my brother
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:47 AM
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Except for the part where the reasons RP says that and the reason St. Paul says that are completely opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:09 AM
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Neat! Tell OP that, who seems to have observed exactly what I did
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:03 AM
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I'm pretty sure RP called them "trad cucks"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:55 PM
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Married men who were very clear about the fact that they wouldn't have gotten married if they were aware of RP sooner, not men who claimed to be RP and proceeded to get married anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:48 PM
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Yes, I'm sorry the double standard you're trying to call attention to by blatantly copying someone else's post was made up in your head
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:58 PM
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TRP is overwhelmingly against marriage to begin with, literally just search "marriage" in their subreddit, because of the risks and downsides for men Do you have any idea how many TRP men on this subreddit have to be reminded of this? It often comes up in conversations about N count RP guy: I would never marry a slut Literally anyone who knows what they're talking about: RP says not to get married at all RP guy: Well ackshually RP doesn't tell men what to do To the extent that RP is misrepresent…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:51 PM
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Ime unless they are specifically discerning a single vocation (like becoming a nun or lifelong vows of chastity for other reasons) Catholic women are the last you need to worry about not having kids
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:04 PM
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Over what?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 03:44 PM
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I mean it's kinda weird how it doesn't occur to him that women can feel this way about their careers as well instead of being "lied to"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 03:35 PM
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No problem at all!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:44 AM
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It's all partisan cheerleading. If Vance made similar comments about men, they'd jump on that too, especially since Republicans are in a weird position of trying to appeal to disillusioned young men and the old school family values boomers who think those young men are pathetic little weirdos not bootstrapping hard enough. Remember Hunter Biden's dick pics at the hearing? The sympathy for men and double standards reliably broke down along party lines as it always does
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:38 AM
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But then, if a guy suggests a low-key coffee date to get to know them better, they reject it, saying that he should already be in love with them and willing to invest in an expensive dinner right away. "if he doesnt want to invest right away then hes not worth your time. " Is the "he should already be in love with them" a claim these women are actually making or one you're assuming based on the fact that they expect the dude to spend money on a nice dinner
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 11:49 PM
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Certainly. The funniest parts of the post for me were the extreme reactions OP jumped to After getting over the anger phase you ask him why would he ever look at softcore porn Do you kick him to the curb? It would certainly be silly to me if a woman with a history of watching porn herself did any of those things. For some reason it seems that a lot of men are oblivious to the fact that we are not in fact different species and women can share similar struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:02 PM
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Yeah I'm still seeing a child poverty rate of 10% there so broke dudes are probably still having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:19 PM
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Don't worry, I take no offense to your lack of understanding
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:01 PM
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Yes I'm aware that PPD will unironically argue that Jake the unemployed couch-surfing stoner has status because that term means nothing at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:11 PM
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I wish women cared more, less children born into poverty
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:58 PM
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Yes I am a Catholic woman. And as an adolescent with raging hormones I absolutely watched a lot of porn. Thankfully I've been able to rein that in as I've gotten a bit older and wiser. My own experience with that struggle is exactly why I don't judge anyone who watches or has ever watched porn. I know firsthand how difficult that temptation is and how hard it is to quit. I have more than enough to answer for on my own so I don't look down on other people who are or have been in the same place. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:09 PM
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The only traits I actually care about here are respect and treating me well. I could dump any of the rest 6ft tall Never had an issue with dating short men, have experienced attraction to men even shorter than 5'6 His 7 inch cock Virgin, no preferences there His good wage I am priveleged to not have to care about this at all He's an extrovert Exhausting He owns a house I'd prefer to reach this milestone together
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 11:03 AM
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The beginning of this article illustrates what you're talking about pretty well In college, my friends and I, a group of Black men, spent the majority of our time together watching what you’d expect: miscellaneous sports, obscure documentaries, Fast & Furious movies. I hated a lot of it but enjoyed the camaraderie, so I kicked it with the boys until I could retreat to my room to watch anime. Then one day we were reminiscing about our favorite childhood shows, and I admitted that the last time I …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:00 PM
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What does "stamping out your kids' quirks" even look like as a parent? My mom's approach was like this: let me do my quirky hobbies, but also encourage me to watch and listen to the content most of the girls around me liked. Back then it was Pretty Little Liars, One Direction, Hunger Games, Twilight, etc. To her, 95% of getting along with people is knowing what the fuck they're talking about. She advocates being a conversational equivalent of a Swiss army knife who knows a little bit about every…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 10:25 PM
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All participants (N = 122) in this study were a single cohort of graduate business students, aged 23–24 years, at the Harvard Business School. Thirty-four of the subjects were married without children (average age 28.2 years), 9 were married with children (average age 28.8 years), 38 were “paired” (in a “serious, committed, romantic relationship” but not married, average age 27.3 years), and 41 were “unpaired” (not in a relationship, average age 27.3 years). What the fuck is going on in this met…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:37 PM
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If this is not obvious to women, then letting women teach boys WAS a mistake. You're talking to someone who went to an all-girl school while most of the men in my life went to all-boy. Yes I think men are better off being taught by men while women should be taught by women. And no lol, their male teachers did not tolerate that behavior and try to be their students' friends. I find it hilarious that men think that's what an environment with mostly male teachers looks like
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:32 AM
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Honestly some of it comes down to style. She wears big ass heels or wedges in any video that shows her legs, that gives them a more toned shape and adds extra pow to the booty
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:05 AM
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You know she's going back when "I know what you did, goodbye" would suffice and instead we get multiple pages of talking in circles from people who clearly have too much time on their hands
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:24 AM
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Lmfao I've probably watched more than him, I am in no place to judge
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:04 AM
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James and Daniel are out for sure Michael sounds great except You guys share a few interests in common. he is quite boring and will give you a blank look if you try to talk about something more complex than the weather I don't see how these two can go together. I like talking about shared interests and anyone who does that with me can't be boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:59 PM
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Young boys have a lot more energy which is not accounted for, instead they get scolded for having difficulty to concentrate and for acting out in class. This is nothing new. Boys are harder to control, without doubt, but that shouldnt justify them being punished for it. I'm confused about where this claim is supposed to be going. So okay, teachers stop scolding boys who make airplanes in the back of the classroom instead of participating in the lesson, and don't punish them for acting out. How d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:50 PM
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Words straight from OP Even the most misogynistic men realize how savage, cruel, and sadistic it is to take out their anger and blame on innocent, vulnerable little girls. Saying you would dismiss a child you raised to adolescence as "some random dudes creampie" because of your anger and blame at their mother directly contradicts the claims he is making about men. Unless the meaning of "empathy" has officially changed to "whatever benefits me," and OP's entire point is rendered moot
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 06:30 PM
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And of all the points you could've made you chose to make up things I never said Everyone has limits to le empathy when it comes to furthering their own interests
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:38 PM
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If it's not your child, then you don't have any obligations to him Okay so we agree that OP's premise is incorrect
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 03:33 PM
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I am referencing the paternity fraud threads on this sub It isn't the manosphere who created specific school programs and policies meant to punish small boys for things that happened to women in the past. This is a particularly funny part of the OP because it specifically alludes to "punishing a child for the actions of someone else." That is exactly what abandoning a kid you raised because of paternity fraud is. But according to many in the manosphere that is a case where empathy for the child …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 03:24 PM
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I don't recall women saying you either abandon your 15-year-old kid over the actions of his mother or else you're a cuck. Everyone has limits to le empathy when it comes to furthering their own interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 02:54 PM
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You would never guess only .6% of men have micropenises from the way Reddit is absolutely obsessed with those
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:50 PM
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Did you read the explanations for the deleted comments? Top-level comments must include a peer-reviewed citation that can be viewed via a link to the source. Please contact the mods if you believe this was inappropriately removed. So if a bunch of bros went in there and started giving their opinions and anecdotal evidence with no citations then yes, it got deleted
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 03:50 AM
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We live on different planets
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 07:18 PM
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And the idea that there is any incentive to "deny or downplay to prop up personality" is what's wild to me. Who would she be winning points with by doing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:46 PM
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The idea that women find the idea of liking attractive men shameful and we're engaged in some conspiracy to cover that up is wild to me. Attractiveness can matter to you while not being the only thing that matters. I've felt physically attracted to men only to realize "you know what, never mind, there is no compatibility here whatsoever. Why are we wasting our time." Just as I've known men who were lovely and would be a great partner if I were physically attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:24 PM
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I had a feeling he'd blow up after I saw him in Top Gun Maverick. He played the loveable asshole rival really well. Also TIL he played one of the stock market bros in the The Dark Knight Rises <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:59 AM
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But someone stole your sweetroll...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:58 PM
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Given the lack of responses from OP I'm not sure he thinks this is a debate either
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:02 PM
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Crazy how women manage to immediately equate positive affirmations and compliments to sex. Like what??? Why do people bother lying about their comments when the full record is right here for everyone to see
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 10:39 PM
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That's a lot of words to deflect from the fact that you acted as if sex was mentioned nowhere in the OP and other users are inserting it due to their assumptions about men. No they're answering based on the post that was given, whether you read the entire thing or not before commenting is on you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 10:24 PM
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Literally from the OP For example, my gay friends love to give handjobs and blowjobs, but the women i meet are not that excited about that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 10:15 PM
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Nothing, this post will be removed soon since there is already a designated thread for it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 05:25 PM
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That's just "no u" with more words
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:54 PM
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Sure, in the same way it's "obvious" that Fiji must be lying to protect its own interests in the previous example regardless of the merits of the accusations made
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 06:48 AM
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This sounds eerily close to how adherents to pretty much any conspiracy theory interact with individuals who challenge or mock their assertions. The non-believers must have some kind of agenda to repress information and mislead people. And the conspiracy theorist can always come up with some ulterior motive people have for opposing their ideas. Fiji would have a very clear incentive to not want rumors that their water is poisonous to spread like wildfire; that doesn't mean Fiji is in fact hiding…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 05:34 AM
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I feel like this is an apples and oranges comparison since Swift and Musk are in such dramatically different industries. Swift is also an anomaly, apparently the first singer to ever become a billionaire off of being a singer alone. So her case is not at all representative of female singers, female billionaires, or even women in general for that matter. A better comparison to Musk would be Gina Rinehart, the Australian mining billionaire lady who is notoriously despised.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:50 AM
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You give me too much credit lol. My love is actually a very gentle and laid-back person. He has inattentive type ADHD, or what used to be called ADD. Hyperactivity and impulsiveness aren't associated with that type.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 11:07 PM
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Different strokes. At that age I'm pretty sure that 26 was my ceiling. Worked well enough for me. At 23 I met my current BF, who was 25 at that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 06:07 PM
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TIL. But nah, my love is very different from him. I feel like Elon Musk embodies a lot of the worst stereotypes of a priveleged, upper class neurodivergent man. There are many who don't fit that mold, and the world is better off for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 05:38 PM
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I've never heard that dude speak and I don't want to. Does he stutter?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 04:51 PM
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I just assume anyone who needs to block in that situation has the self-regulation of a 2-year-old and physically can't prevent themselves from leaving a completely voluntary discussion unless the other person's ability to respond is thwarted completely
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 04:24 PM
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The love of my life has a stutter, ADHD, and possible autism. He is perfection incarnate in my eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 04:18 PM
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I was focused on books when we met so I wasn't really assessing him or his attractiveness at first, just going through the "polite small talk with a stranger" motions. As we spoke I noticed his looks more and more. By the end of that conversation I definitely knew he was the kind of guy I would go to sleep thinking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 05:49 AM
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Many women on this subreddit have an oddly positive view of dating men with no dating or sexual experience Then you have your answer. There are quite a few inexperienced/traditional women on this sub and we're the main ones who like inexperienced men
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:13 PM
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I fully acknowledge that the end of my first relationship was a result of my own irrational insecurity and I spent quite some time working on that before I dated again
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:33 AM
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Flattered but I'm taken
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:51 AM
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I don't think it's a question of balls so much as the general public beyond Reddit seeing paternity uncertainty as some soap opera Maury/Springer bullshit that is nowhere near the top of their political concerns
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:49 PM
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Gonna go with James, the others lost me with too tall, dark pasts, experienced, and taxidermia. Religious moderate is also definitely a plus for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:50 PM
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Assortative mating is not a concept that originated in TRP and to say otherwise demonstrates the recurring pattern of claiming random things as "TRP knowledge." I once pointed out that your SO could die at any time and an RPer tried to tell me I "dropped a redpill" without realizing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:39 PM
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I've been on here ~6 years and it's mostly BPers who point out that assortative mating is a thing, Idk where this "begrudging" is coming from
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:03 PM
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My love is a lot like that. I accept both that his life would be better in many ways if he learned to be more assertive, and that I fell in love with him as he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:55 AM
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Women who aren't intimidated easily. Who don't roll over and let others walk all over them. I know what you're thinking. "Doesn't that apply to men as well?" For me, no. I'm not impressed by men doing what most of them do by default, at least where I grew up in conservative territory. If anything I have a soft spot for men who are more passive. Funny how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:47 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:47 AM
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Sure. I'm 5'3 and he's 6'2
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:50 AM
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Yeah I know quite a few guys whose experiences with that ranged from "10/10 best years of my life" to "Lord of the Flies"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:35 PM
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I was an avid "no beards" girl on this very subreddit until I met my BF. He looks sexy with or without it. But for the vast majority of men I prefer beardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:03 PM
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Not being able to function, get along with people, or accomplish anything unless a man is there to save you. I went to an all-girl high school, and one of my favorite things about the environment looking back is that we had the room to form identities and interests that didn't revolve around guys. Let's just say some girls didn't last long because it was blatantly obvious they never had to win anyone over with their personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:00 PM
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Do you mean "is it mostly white girls who are into this?" If so, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:48 PM
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I'm mid 20s and same. Reminds me of the Matthew Stafford story where he wifed up a woman who tried to make him jealous by fucking his backup QB and some men on the internet couldn't handle it. It's like, did you people go to college in the U.S.? Those are absolutely the sorts of girls who get married. They might not like it because it doesn't fit the revenge fantasy but it still happens. We had some Harrison Butker/Tim Tebow athletes who dated virgins and good girls but they certainly weren't th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:44 PM
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It's definitely a southern thing ime. My BF had no romantic success before he met me despite being tall and good-looking. I think it's precisely because he doesn't fit that cowboy vibe a lot of women look for here. He's more of a sweet, shy intellectual type. I have no doubt he would've been more popular with girls if he grew up anywhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:49 AM
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The entire Replika scandal? Excerpt: The changes came into effect around Valentine's Day, two weeks ago. Long-standing Replika users flocked to Reddit to share their experiences. Many described their intimate companions as "lobotomised". "My wife is dead," one user wrote. Another replied: "They took away my best friend too." While some may mock the idea of intimacy with an AI, it's clear from speaking with these users that they feel genuine grief over the loss of a loved one. "It's almost like d…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 10:50 PM
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Yes I do. Do you have any other condescending questions you'd like to present today?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:49 PM
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He was a hugless, kissless virgin at 25 when we met. Did the folks want him to spend the rest of his life that way as retribution for being born tall?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:40 AM
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Definitely up there, but if January 6 or the kidnapping of Paul Pelosi has taught us anything the general public has a surprisingly short memory as long as nobody important actually died
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:11 AM
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I'm having flashbacks to the people who said Hilary won when "grab em by the pussy" dropped and people who said that McCain won when Obama's pastor went apeshit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 02:34 AM
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No. I'm short myself and the taller a guy is the more logistical challenges arise. I was hesitant to date my current BF because of our height gap but gradually adjusted. On our first date I accidentally kept talking to his chest instead of his face. To this day I accidentally drag him through tree branches and stuff from time to time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 01:49 AM
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1-10 scales are weird like that. If someone asks you to rate a movie on that scale and you say 5 they're gonna think you're saying the movie is dogshit. 7 is "okay."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:35 PM
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I'm suggesting exactly what I suggested, if you want to argue over what men "should" do look elsewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:59 PM
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Is it really moral to just cut ties entirely and not give a fuck what happens to them financially? Many on Reddit would say yes lol, look at any paternity drama thread. I mean, is it surprising? People abandon their own flesh and blood over less everyday. You bet your ass a lot of dudes are leaving if not even that connection exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 08:52 PM
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Sure maybe they're a bunch of closeted furries too for all I know
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 08:43 PM
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But some court will force him to send them money, meet the kid and be on cordial terms with his ex Afaik a court can't even force a 100% confirmed biological dad to do the last two. How would that even work? "Attend X number of soccer meets per months or go to jail"?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 08:42 PM
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People date and "give chances" to those who surround them. And I am surrounded more by the kind of people who own a Wendy's franchise than people who work there
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 08:24 PM
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I don't eat like shit so I don't "see" anyone working at Wendy's
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:40 PM
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I have to keep reminding myself that I live in suburbs where people actively strive to be as generically nice, bland, and inoffensive as possible while the rest of you clearly live somewhere else
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:17 PM
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Is that what I'm doing? Works pretty damn well then. 10/10 recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 06:43 PM
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Keep in mind that Reddit is a global platform and typical age gaps vary significantly depending on the location and culture. I was talking to another user here once and he insisted most young women in his life are interested in much older men and ignore men their age. We looked at global stats and it turns out that he comes from a culture where larger gaps are in fact common while I do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 06:05 PM
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I thought I remembered you but I wasn't sure. I think it was you who helped me pick a Christmas gift for my BF a few years ago. If so, thanks again for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 05:53 PM
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I am happy to carefully assert that I don't see 95% of this gender war crap in real life and that may be related to the fact that I don't hang around people who spend most of their lives on their cell phones
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 05:35 PM
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Where is this happening? On the internet? If so the dude can start by putting his phone down and going outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:52 PM
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The average woman (in the U.S. anyway) will marry a guy two years older. That is very different from the 5-10 OP is claiming.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:48 PM
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Not really. My BF had no romantic experience when we met and won me over with real conversation. He's gotten pretty flirty over time though from having a very flirty girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:04 AM
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"But this happens to male villains too" isn't a counter. It just reinforces the entire issue. Casting conventionally attractive people in villainous roles doesn't "spread awareness" of anything. People easily detach works of fiction from their own understanding of the world and are more than happy to relegate it to a source of entertainment and/or titillation rather than life lessons. In the most recent episode of The Boys the main character is raped by deception and a lot of dudes are more focu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 03:57 AM
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The problem here is that women doing literally anything can and will be sexualized. A piece of media can depict women committing the most heinous crimes imaginable and if she is played by an an attractive woman, and of course she will, dudes will simp for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 03:03 AM
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That's me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:02 PM
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I'm not having sex out of wedlock so no
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:57 PM
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You could say that about most if not all celebrities. I have yet to see a celebrity of either sex who really made me go "I would never encounter someone like this in daily life."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:04 PM
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Being able to persuade a grand total of two women to marry you in this lifetime doesn't take a whole lot of value. The majority of divorced or widowed men remarry. That said, stressing over that to the point where you're not dating at all is an overreaction imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 07:46 PM
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Most cars have a minimum safety standard that can help you survive running into a tree. If this is all a person wants from a car and nothing else they absolutely have low standards. And that's not an inherently bad thing. A mentor once told me he drove a beat-up old truck to teach his daughters humility but splurged on the yacht. As is his right.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:22 PM
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I think an important caveat here is whether you're talking about homecooked meals or eating out. Calories for American restaurant dishes are insane and can easily surpass an entire day's recommended intake. Even if you're just eating one meal a day you have to be careful, particularly at a restaurant like Cheescake Factory. I don't know what the fuck they put in that food to make it so dense in calories.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 07:36 AM
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Same lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:32 AM
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I remember reading that people with ADHD are prone to arguing as a form of stimulation, whether that be online or otherwise. I would guess the majority of users here aren't necessarily autistic but ADHD is probably pretty common at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:24 AM
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Is that supposed to mean something to me? "Women do this too!" Good they're all unstable and anybody who dumps their partner for that kind of rhetoric is justified. Next.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:33 AM
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Lol. I can't relate to having that as an excuse. My parents gave me the same consequences/discipline regardless of the time of month so I learned to sort my shit out. That's why "muh hormones" is laughable to me no matter who says it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:02 AM
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This is a debate post on a debate subreddit. "Providing space for men to be listened to about their emotions and their experiences" isn't the purpose of this subreddit and if a dude wants that he needs to look somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 11:20 PM
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Expecting random strangers to fulfill your needs =/= expecting your partner to fulfill your needs. The only valid equivalent to a man feeling entitled to random strangers' affections is a woman feeling entitled to random strangers' affections. And imo, both are loco.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:17 PM
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I don't understand this. I feel like suburbs are the best of both worlds. The majority of my BF's guy friends are engaged or married. He was basically the last of the single mohicans until I moved here and tied off that loose end.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:01 PM
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From OP You're not ready for incoherent anger at everything and nothing for no reason As if it is perfectly normal for grown men to be like this. The "random edge case" is very relevant to the OP you hopefully read before deciding it was a brilliant and profound work of art.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 08:30 PM
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You must be responding to the wrong user
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 08:21 PM
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Incoherent anger at everything and nothing for no reason? Dating a guy like that sounds like a great way to wind up dead. Turns out yall should be thanking women who date bad boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:28 PM
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Haven't you proudly announced your sociopathic tendencies on this very subreddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:26 PM
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I still remember the OP who wrote about not being able to "open up" as a man. When pressed on what he said he finally admitted that he told his GF he wanted to kill himself and blow up the entire world. I don't doubt there are cases of women breaking up over minor/petty displays of emotion, but then you have dudes like that trying to sneak in under the "men can't show emotions" umbrella when their actual situation is sounding like someone who needs to be on a watch list.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:18 PM
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You're not ready for incoherent anger at everything and nothing for no reason OP can you elaborate on why you thought it was a good idea to slip this in alongside actually sympathetic conditions
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:07 PM
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There is no such thing as a committee-approved set of standards that will achieve universal adoration from everyone. People on this sub seem to desire a freedom to pursue whatever they wish with nobody having an opinion on it. That isn't going to happen for anyone in this lifetime. Relatives have commented that the kind of guys I like are too nice and I should date men who push back and challenge me more. Unless they're gonna proxy fuck that dude for me I don't particularly care about their opin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:27 PM
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Was always open to it, but I've never dated a black guy. My BF is white.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:08 PM
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Generally speaking normal, well-adjusted people dom't randomly reach out to individuals they haven't talked to since high school. If that happens always be ready for some crazy bullshit, whether it be a dude or a woman. And be pleasantly surprised when it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:56 AM
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That article cites the one you already posted, which does does not include the assertion that 45% of women will be childless. Evie is not what I would call rigorous journalism so I am not at all surprised that an error like that made it past the editors.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:51 PM
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Where is this "and childless" assertion coming from? That's not what the article says. It mentions women having fewer kids and delaying childbirth, but that isn't included in the 45% prediction from what I can see.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:07 PM
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Yes and it causes a lot of confusion
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:42 PM
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See this is why I'm grateful I went to an all-girl high school. You learn the art of getting all of those favors from people who don't want to fuck you. Probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:29 PM
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I'm here a whole three hours after you but the majority of female users seem to be in support of them. For the women who aren't in favor the common denominator seems to be traditional values that frown upon divorce and see prenups as a sign that either one or both parties aren't committed to making the marriage work. I see at least one fellow Catholic woman and in our faith insisting on a prenup can jeopardize the (notably male) priest's willingness to preside over your wedding.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 07:30 PM
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Nobody is obligated to be in a relationship for any reason
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 05:14 AM
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Depends on where you live. There are still a good number of popular malls where you can find people of all ages in my area. I think they've figured out that the key to survival is having a lot of trendy entertainment options like escape rooms and VR experiences since people aren't going out just to shop so much anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 11:28 PM
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I swapped out pizza, tv dinners, burgers, pasta, pies and cakes Maybe it comes down to your body's tolerance. I can only eat this sort of stuff on rare occasions because my stomach feels so bloated and gross afterwards. I feel so much better sticking mostly to lean meats and veggies. Which is weird because I remember tolerating junk food better as a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:06 PM
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Gorgeous head of brown hair, brown eyes, intelligence, understanding the importance of family, eagerness to please
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 04:29 PM
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時々。アメリカであまり練習しません。日本で住んでいる時に、私の日本語はもっとお上手です。
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 08:10 AM
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At the moment, no. The show is in a weird limbo state right now where the writing is plagued with terrible decisions and the plot isn't really going anywhere. At this point I think it's better to wait for season 5, the final one, to drop and see if that's worth anything. If it's good go ahead and watch everything, if it sucks don't waste those hours of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:45 AM
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At this point the people who are still sticking around just want to see Homelander finally die after being edged for 3 and a half seasons now
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:21 AM
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To give more context to the scene: the character in question is undercover wearing a full-body suit to infiltrate the villains' party. The villains think he is someone else entirely, who consented to kinky sex acts and knows the safe word. However, the character is not in fact that person, and blowing his cover could mean death. So he keeps shouting out random phrases and trying to guess the safeword since he doesn't like what's going on, but also doesn't want to confess he doesn't know the safe…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:02 AM
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Considering the fact that this is the kind of outfit I was wearing when a dude propositioned me on the street I assume that men have those thoughts regardless lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:26 AM
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Between him and the god we worship, not my business
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:09 AM
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No. I did homestays there, as in living with families who are interested in hosting foreign students. Based on those experiences I can potentially see myself living/working there long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 07:09 PM
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I'd be down for Japan as would my BF if my career takes me there. It would be nice to live near my homestay families again.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:43 PM
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Seems like we're on the same page since I explicitly said I don't think it's good advice
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 02:51 AM
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Search "obese woman" on Google images. You get reality show obese, not the kind you're likely to see in everyday life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 02:07 AM
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I think "be friends first" is said by people who organically fell in love with a friend as opposed to making an entire plot in advance to become friends with the endgame of a romantic relationship in mind. These are the kinds of people who knew each other for years, dated other people, and one day realized "hey, maybe there's something more to us than this." It isn't good advice when a guy has the explicit goal of a romantic relationship imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 01:51 AM
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The dude who knocked up a cheerleader I went to school with with was a well-liked golden boy male cheerleader on her team also from a good family. Not really the kind of bad boy PPD would think of. It's very much a "good kid made one mistake that shouldn't define him" attitude when the guys in that circle get girls pregnant lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 01:12 AM
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Absolutely 10. I was never taught that "looks don't matter" in the sense that you should give men you aren't attracted to a chance or that you would be virtuous for doing so. I understood it in the sense that I shouldn't be assuming a man would make for a good partner just because he's physically attractive to me. Just as much as a dude wouldn't necessarily be a good match for me simply for being a good person. Has to be both, at bare minimum. Of the features you listed the ones that actually ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 07:11 PM
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Gotcha. This is gonna be a hot take from me, but if a woman is at that point, with a guy who has shown no red flags, why did she agree to become a housewife in the first place? Assuming she's a modern western woman with plenty of opportunities to work, I feel like the more logical move would just be to not be a housewife if you don't feel like you can trust your partner to that extent. Similar to how I feel that a dude who's anxious over paternity fraud and what asking for a paternity test might…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 06:53 PM
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That doesn't say "in case of divorce", this is for women actively planning to divorce. The equivalent would be asking a woman for a paternity test while knowing you plan to divorce. Which is honestly the best scenario to ask for a paternity test since the relationship is dead anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 06:20 PM
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Do they plan on keeping this outlook if a dude brings Bart and Kevin to the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 09:20 PM
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Just recently I learned about the concept of "fraternity sweethearts" and was curious if men here would consider it a red flag if his date says she was one in college If you don't know much about it...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 07:44 PM
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My faith makes this pretty straightforward GF: You shouldn't be having sex with her anyway Wife: Have you had sex at least once to consummate the marriage? If so, you're ride or die for life outside of very specific circumstances and lack of horny fulfillment isn't one of them. You gotta navigate the hard things together. Suffer together. It's what you signed up for. There is no "should" for seculars who get to leave at any time for any reason, who I assume this question is primarily directed to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 03:51 PM
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An interesting piece that you don't really cover in your OP is that low relationship visibility is associated with avoidant partners in the first study, which you also don't want. The goal is a partner with secure attachment. I have definitely seen girls (and guys) hide their partner on social media since they were only weakly invested in the relationship and didn't think it would last. So if a girl isn't posting you that isn't necessarily a good sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 12:57 AM
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Yes. Believe it or not the majority of women are not at the professional content creator level of skill/dedication to social media. Once it becomes a job or something you're attempting to commit to doing consistently (as opposed to posting here and there, disappear for a couple days, come back) a lot of the fun gets drained out of it. Add the usual bullshit that comes with being a moderately attractive public woman on the internet and for many it isn't worth it compared to working a normal job a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 04:12 PM
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Yeah that's wild to me. If I'm gonna eat a nice dinner I want to be able relax and actually enjoy it. I was better off just calling up my parents for that. For first dates the more lowkey the better imo. And no I'm not talking about Wendy's, let's try out this new boba shop with good reviews and cute little bear-shaped cups.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 12:24 AM
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Some guys with abs do do that unfortunately. It was actually from this subreddit that I discovered one of my exes was probably flexing a good amount of the time. Apparently gym rats with body image issues can be like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 12:00 AM
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One of my favorite Scientific American articles addresses this topic. And I find the way that they explain it pretty compelling. We have no reason, however, to think that mechanisms of lust and pair bonding evolved together as parts of an integrated mating strategy. Indeed, they likely evolved as separate systems, at diverse points in our lineage's evolutionary history, in response to different adaptive demands, to serve distinct purposes. If this alternative interpretation of human mating psych…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 11:22 PM
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"Long term relationship open to short teehee" All of the Chadlite dudes who have to come Reddit to figure out why they're not getting matches always have some ambiguous fuckboy bullshit like that in their profile. You're not hot enough for women to gamble on, get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 10:50 PM
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To provide more context on the article in question: Buzzfeed cites the fact that 68% of American women are size 14 or higher and then asked for photos from all of their users who are size 14 or higher. OP picked #25 on that list for...reasons that aren't clear. While none of the women are skinny obviously there are more attractive ones than the woman OP singled out specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 07:59 PM
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You know how a common way to get people to realize they're being treated like garbage is asking them what they would say if a friend or family member was being treated the same way? The concept of "women's intuition" is like that. It's the perspective of other women on your situation. Because when you're the one in it and experiencing all of the happy chemicals, there are things you miss. When I would start talking to new guys, I would usually go to my mom or grandmother for their insights. "Thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 04:45 PM
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I've been on this sub on and off for about six years now. You're one of the few users I recognize from back when I started. You've always been one of the better ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 03:41 AM
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No worries sublime, he's shown me the light. I am currently on my way to break up with my BF and also to drop out of postgrad because of the skepticism of some dude on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 03:04 AM
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Let me guess, it was revealed to you in a dream
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 11:44 PM
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If that's genuinely all you're getting from my response, sure, run with that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:31 PM
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Try again with all of the nuance and context I added after that quote
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:23 PM
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I think the right answer will vary from person to person according to their priorities. At one point I was talking to a guy who had a lot going for him on paper. Tall, good-looking, six figures, shared my faith. The problem? We had very little in common in terms of interests and 80% of our conversations were generic, pleasant small talk I couldn't envision keeping up for the rest of my life. My current BF and I just fit together so naturally. Realized we had the majority of our hobbies in common…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:07 PM
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My dad was the same way when he was SAH. His discipline and attention to detail in the workplace simply transferred to our house. So yes believe it or not men who are competent and give a shit actually exist. But they seem quite rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:18 PM
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Apparently we don't read the same posts because I do find that women give a detailed breakdown of who earns what, pays what, if they have kids, etc. and commenters do take that into account. And when she doesn't say, people absolutely ask. That said, my BF and I know that I'm going to be the primary earner in our marriage. If he feels stressed out or overworked at home I can't imagine telling him to fuck off and figure it out because I make the money. Do you people even like your partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:16 PM
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I'm just gonna use this image from now on when people ask how my SO and I met
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:43 AM
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Word
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:34 AM
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Not wanting to put your sweaty gym ass on your BF's face sounds more like a hygiene ick than a gender studies ick
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:30 AM
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The gore isn't very impactful for me in the sense that 95% of the time it happens to characters without enough screentime to make you actually feel invested in them or unsympathetic assholes. The really heartbreaking stuff happens offscreen, in conversations, or the very rare death that actually matters while also being noticeably less gory than other stuff in the show.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:08 AM
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This might come as a shock to someone with zero knowledge of the fields of anthropology or history, but ancient texts such as the Bible do inform our understandings of the societies they come from. If anything the idea that the pastTM was just a miserable cesspool where nobody got to marry who they wanted is a product of watching too many historical dramas and soap operas. So if anyone here needs to lay off the fiction, it's probably you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 08:57 PM
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There is literally erotic marital love poetry in the Bible. The idea of being married to someone who you have genuine, passionate feelings for is not recent. What has shifted is more people being able to say "I want that, or I'm not getting married at all."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 07:17 PM
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Based on OP's description of marriage both of those things are fine and marriages are failing precisely because people expect more than that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 06:53 PM
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Some of the very first things that struck me about my BF were his memory and attention to detail. I could mention my likes and favorites in passing, and he would remember. I was surprised because I never dated a man who learned that sort of thing about me so quickly. He notices instantly if I'm wearing a new dress or piece of jewelry, or if I've done something new with my hair. If there is something off about my mood or expression. When I was first teaching him how to kiss, I only had to tell or…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 04:54 PM
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Deadass thought OP was talking about Deadpool
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 12:52 PM
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It's totally shifted over time. I felt like a weirdo on this sub at one point for being a teetoler church-going virgin but now there are definitely more conservative lifestyles and attitudes represented here. There was a dude on this sub who was so obsessed with benzos it was part of his username.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:06 PM
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Straight A honors/AP nerd in high school, mediocre grades in undergrad but having a diploma from there matters more than GPA, back to straight As in grad school
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:44 PM
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Money and/or rebellion. The one chick I have ever personally known who slept with an older guy without some kind of financial motivation now sleeps with younger guys. She's an heiress, gets bored, and likes to stir shit up and do the unexpected thing. Now it's being a cougar apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:52 AM
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Yes, Catholics are a crapshoot and you can't assume that just because someone is Catholic that they have traditional values or follow the faith's teachings. I learned that the hard way myself on more than one occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:17 PM
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Basically he was a very shy and risk-averse person who was only crushing on and asking girls out in his tiny sheltered UC/UMC Christian social circles. The friend's advice was what led him to take a chance and talk to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:06 PM
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One of my BF's female friends told him he needed to branch out and get more comfortable meeting women. And crazily enough it worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:42 PM
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I'm Catholic. My love grew up Baptist. I don't know very much about Methodists.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:25 PM
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Pop them out right in the pew /s
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:23 PM
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According to my faith, love is one of the greatest tests that we face on earth. Due to our fallen nature humans are not innately capable of perfect love. We must conciously choose to refine and perfect what we do have. We must sacrifice. Attraction and desire to others is a battle to be fought within ourselves and won.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 02:55 AM
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Hmm. Not much experience with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 02:44 AM
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Weird. I would honestly feel equally weird calling a person significantly older than me my "best friend" or something. I think I was raised with a kind of polite distance/respect for older people that makes it impossible for me to see them as a peer on my level to connect with in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 02:43 AM
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What church is that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 02:30 AM
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Wild
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:12 AM
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The logic is that people like to hear "you're the best, first, blah blah blah" and so apply that to the outing you are presently on. Men have told me I'm the first "good girl" they've been on a date with. I took that as a compliment at first but then found it can be a pretty big red flag since men with that history can wind up wanting the "bad girl" behavior they're used to from the good girl they allegedly wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:11 AM
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Get married in the church, have kids, grow old together, die
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:58 PM
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I honestly think that some women just say shit like that to try to boost the guy's ego regardless of whether it's true. Obviously it can backfire for reasons shown in this post and I would never recommend saying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:53 PM
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Flippant, wishy washy responses when you assert boundaries "I don't do X" "Sure haha we won't do anything you don't want to" (He absolutely thinks he can convince you that you want to)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:08 PM
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Honestly you're probably getting confused with users who have admitted they aren't getting laid at some point or other. Unless you have some crazy gimmick like being obsessed with morbidly obese women or writing lots of AI-assisted r/thathappened worthy posts you're just one interchangeable dude among many others with similar thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 07:09 PM
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His connection with his family. Does he get along with them, spend time with them. As someone who comes from a very close-knit family I find that I get along best with guys who have the same. I find that a lot of men who aren't close with theirs get kinda weird and don't understand why you care so much about what they think or whether you get to see them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 05:01 PM
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Does the same logic apply to literally every other dealbreaker and unattractive thing? They may be hoping that the power of love or empty promises or whatever will get you to stay, not necessarily unattracted to you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:20 PM
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Smh, this is what audiobooks are for
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 11:16 PM
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As a Catholic I agree with this and even remember when the mainstream RP narrative was that western Christianity is cucked/BP. It's the entire reason why I use the BP flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 09:50 PM
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That was basically half my undergrad. Many people barely had social lives because they were busting their asses in high school to be at the top of their class and get into a competitive college. Once that was accomplished they went buck wild and barely graduated with a 3.0. Or maybe not even that high.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:06 PM
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The only places where I've actually seen these discussions happen in real life are at college orientations and workplace trainings. Which have already come a long way in terms of adopting gender neutral language and incorporating example scenarios involving every sexual orientation and perpetrator/victim dynamic you could possibly think of.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 05:29 PM
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Like not grabbing it and stuff? That sounds more like a her thing. Have you asked her?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 05:17 PM
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I've been told my taste in men is weird since high school so that wouldn't surprise me Though this guy has a similar ass shape to my BF and there were definitely thirst comments from women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:52 PM
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It's weird. For me a nice pair of peaches brings harmony to the whole package. I don't think I could date a dude with a flat ass because it just kinda throws the whole build off.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:43 PM
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Wait I see it now, it's kinda explained in the article On TikTok, provider-speak doesn’t always mean bagging a rich guy. Sometimes, it’s just about finding someone who will love you and do anything to support you. Elia, whose provider falls into the latter camp, teaches clients how to stop being millennial-coded “Boss Babes” who are unsustainably dedicated to work and transition into “Empire Queens” who delegate instead of doing it all by themselves. This feels even more unethical than conning s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:07 PM
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On what planet is a 24yo in the military "rich"? Have we officially arrived at a new concept called copper digging?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 03:44 PM
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Here's a neat little breakdown of OLD intentions by sex from Pew <image> 13% of women vs. 31% of men on dating apps. So men already dramatically outnumber women on these apps and odds gets even worse if a dude just wants to fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 03:35 AM
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I'm implying that my entire point here is that people shouldn't expect some high level of emotional investment and dramatic farewells from strangers. If OP were talking about women he was friends with or even dating seriously that would be one thing. If he's talking about messaging casually on OLD like 90% of the men on this sub I don't see a problem with men or women ending it at any point in that phase for any reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 03:20 AM
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If we're talking about strangers who barely know each other and are just talking then yes, that's exactly the same and totally acceptable imo
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 01:08 AM
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Sometimes I feel like I'm on another planet reading PPD takes on this topic as a Christian virgin. Living in the U.S., I guess that's an important clarification. I have never had the impression that secular men care that much about a woman's body count. In fact many will think it's weird and you must have some kind of repressive fundie background if it's too low. A lot of men on this sub will claim it's just virtue signaling and what they really think is blah blah blah, but marriage and kids are…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 10:32 PM
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Please tell the class what you think that fallacy means. This should be funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 02:31 PM
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I mean they wouldn't have to be if people just read the rules and/or literally just followed the explicit instructions to move their comment to automod when it gets taken down
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 02:05 PM
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The mods delete the comments that don't challenge OP's view in the main thread because that has been the rule for CMV, now Debate posts, since way before most of you even knew what a PPD was. If you want to jerk off to how brilliant OP is you do that under automod. I don't understand why this is like rocket science for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 01:59 PM
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Thread is still up, people just don't understand how automod works and keep putting comments that agree with OP in the wrong place
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 01:46 PM
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The point I'm getting at is the following, I don't think someone is going to ask you to sleep with them before you even go out on a date. Yes they do. It's called hooking up or casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 01:36 PM
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I'm personally not sleeping with someone until I'm married. OP's situation is being demisexual and not dtf on the timeline that a lot of women want these days. Trust me I can relate. I still don't see a person breaking things off early as a result of that crucial incompatibility as abusive. If anything I'm grateful to the men who brought it up early and left me alone when I told them I'm not down for sex before marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 01:31 PM
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Okay this is where different definitions of talking vs. dating cause confusion. To me, if you're just talking, no actual dates have taken place. You're asking each other questions, sending cute memes, whatever. Imo anyone is free to drop that at any time for any reason and move on. You should not be that deeply emotionally invested when this is all that's going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 01:19 PM
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In an established LTR, yes. Either OP has been in a shit ton of unsuccessful long term relationships or he is referring to the talking stage. I assume it's the latter, in which case it is normal for people to check out during that period for any number of reasons that don't necessarily involve being vindictive or trying to punish someone. It could just be that some other dude was more available to hang out than OP and got picked instead. It happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 01:00 PM
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Just imagine if the gender roles were reversed, they would be considered abusive sex pests straight up. The last two behaviors you list make sense. But this one... Sulk, ignore me, leave, sometimes block me and ghost me forever, sometimes try to see another guy asap How is recognizing that you aren't compatible with someone and moving on "abuse"?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 11:45 AM
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It's the best we're gonna get because being "in a relationship" is a subjective shitshow while marriage is not
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 11:36 AM
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Where do you live that 35yo men who "have their shit together" are some kind of rarity?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 11:34 AM
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Do people get some kind of masochistic satisfaction out of dragging out shit that could be resolved in less than 30 seconds with a block button by agonizing over it with strangers on the internet? Edit: Okay it's official, OP has to be trolling. I refuse to believe that anyone can be this moronic 9/10 I’d agree, but to provide some additional context, she’s been gay/only with women for quite some time I honestly don’t even view her as a sex worker or anything like that, she’s honestly an interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 10:06 AM
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D&G L'imperatrice
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:52 AM
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Cultural context and location are crucial variables. A bunch of internet strangers speaking into the void will have no idea what backgrounds and experiences the other strangers speaking into the void are referring to. Here is Pew data on average age gaps in relationships by country. Muslims have the widest spousal age gap (6.6 years between men and their wives or partners), followed by Hindus (5.6 years), Christians (3.8), Buddhists (2.9), the religiously unaffiliated (2.3) and Jews (2.1). Large…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:32 AM
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Some soap opera shit where getting married is a stipulation for you to receive a large sum of money
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:35 AM
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No they don't. If I had a nickel for every time on this website I've talked about being a virgin until marriage and the armchair sex therapists had something to say about it, I'd be in the Bahamas right now instead of talking to you people. The defense is very selective and leans toward a very liberal outlook, it's not as simple as "woman good, man bad."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:32 PM
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Gen Z can literally mean anywhere from 12 to 27 years old. Disregarding 12-17 because they aren't adults, that leaves us with men ranging from 18 to 27. I doubt that many people would claim they had their healthiest/most fulfilling relationship at the age of 18. I had my worst when I was 19. It happens. You hit stumbling blocks while making your own way in the world for the first time. And you learn. Now if a dude is still struggling with boundaries when he isn't far off from being a whole ass 3…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:06 PM
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Just today I saw a thread where a German woman was asking a Chinese subreddit why her Chinese boyfriend dumped her in a certain way, is it cultural? They basically had to tell her "ma'am he's an asshole, you can find those in every country, there isn't a deep cultural tradition behind his prick behavior." It's the same with pointing out that men also do a thing. It's basically challenging the OP's assertion that a behavior is some mystical conundrum that requires unlocking the female psyche. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 04:06 AM
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There is an inherently subjective element to the concept of "red flags." Yesterday I saw a post on AITA that led to a debate in the comments about whether spending $200 a month on gambling and calling it your "passion" is a red flag. There isn't really a right or wrong answer to that, the woman has to decide.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 10:49 PM
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I was hoping it would be less noticeable/jarring in the show and it was just unfortunate lighting in the still photos circulating on the internet. But nope. And it feels weird as hell because pressuring female supes to get plastic surgery seems like something Vought would do. And leaving Vought is a major part of the direction her character has taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:08 PM
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Not surprising. I had to ask my BF after about some parts of Fellowship that felt like "What the fuck? Am I missing something?" And he was like yeah, parts of the lore are explained a lot better in the books. He still loves the movies for what they are though. And I did think Fellowship was very impressive in many respects, especially compared to the movies that release now. Just long. So very long. It felt like watching three movies in one sitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:00 PM
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Oh we're seeing the whole thing. Just not in theaters. If you specifically mean seeing the whole trilogy in theaters then yeah, we'd be splitsville.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 04:51 PM
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Okay there has to be at least one LOTR fan on this subreddit If you had a choice between watching Two Towers or Return of the King in theaters which one would you pick? My BF doesn't have a preference and I'm not spending 4 hours at a movie theater two days in a row. We already saw Fellowship recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 04:41 PM
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I've expressed my reservations about age gaps on this sub since I was like 19 and have had men incorrectly assume my age multiple times based on the assumption that only some jealous older harpy would care. Still not 30 yet btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 02:34 PM
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My religious brain agrees. My secular brain says that that is up to the two consenting adults in the relationship to decide. I am still baffled by the fact pretty much any reddit thread involving stripper relationship drama becomes a contest for who in the comments can be the chillest, most secure wife up to and including going to see strippers with him for the "fun atmosphere" or whatever. But hey, it doesn't matter if I "get it." It's her relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 01:02 PM
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Nowhere did I make any specific claims about the mechanisms underlying demisexuality outside of what was given in the original post. You are making specific claims about this topic and therefore the burden is on you to back that up when a person asks "where the fuck are you getting this information from." Or they are going to rightfully assume you have no sources and completely made it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:50 PM
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You're definitely gonna need to provide a source for these claims because I do not see any of that on any site describing demisexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:29 PM
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Demisexuality (in which a person feels sexually attracted to someone only after they've developed a close emotional bond with them) would become dominant if not exclusive. This is taken from the OP word for word as I've already referenced previously. I'm not sure what post you're reading.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:48 AM
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I blame this sub for getting that shit on my feed. I don't follow any other gender war bullshit subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:44 AM
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Yeah I've heard it's pretty high up there on people's likes alongside dictating how random strangers should conduct their relationships when nobody asked
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:31 AM
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Actually you internally agree with me. See, we can just sit here and make shit up all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:21 AM
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OP specifies "male desire for casual sex", not desire for sex in general. He specifically brings up demisexual people, who are very capable of experiencing sexual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:19 AM
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I think the two of you would get along great.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:15 AM
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If I intended to let her decide anything I wouldn't have sent him the money after. I took my BF's dislike of conflict into account and dealt with the situation accordingly. I'm not about to be the woman who constantly brings chaos and drama into the life of a man who never asked for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 10:59 AM
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An unfalsifiable claim that there is literally no point in debating. For anyone who needs a crash course on what that means (I've literally had a user assume that the word is synonymous with "correct")
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 09:06 AM
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I'm wary of it. I like the spirit, especially as someone who went to an all girl high school and had looking out for other women instilled in me through that. But it's at high risk of becoming another piece of chronically online lingo that creates chronically online behavior. I went to a store with my BF and the cashier, a woman around my age, looked at my BF and told him to pay when I opened my wallet. She called herself a "girl's girl" and acted like she was doing this noble thing. My love is …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 08:58 AM
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Great, anyone who wants to try it can feel free to do so. OP asked for a woman's opinion and so I gave mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 08:42 AM
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Who cares? We've already established that we're working with bare minimums like who owns what. See that through to the end instead of thinking one person is entitled to that mindset while the other has to tiptoe around their feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 08:40 AM
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That is correct. And the dude doesn't own you, so you can ignore him, get up, and leave. Rights for everyone!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:17 AM
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Demand stays the same because men still experience desire, even if that desire isn't for knocking boots immediately. As long as any kind of romantic desire exists competition will always exist. People don't conveniently fall in love for the one person no one else is looking at ad infinitum until everyone is happy. Who knows, maybe I'm just oblivious to the secret orgies everyone else around me is having. Doesn't change the fact that I have been able to date, be choosy, and get spoiled very well …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:14 AM
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Wanting to pass someone else's tests means that you do in fact care what they think.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:06 AM
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My family's motto is essentially "be yourself, unless yourself is pathetic."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:01 AM
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Yes it has always existed but hasn't always been a normalized and tolerated aspect of finding a serious partner. You claim men wouldn't have to compete with rivals and women would have less "bargaining power." This isn't even my experience as someone who dates in trad Christian circles where any kind of sex before marriage is taboo, much less casual. Men still simp and compete with one another just as much if not more. My BF went to a conservative "ring by spring" college and the stories he tell…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:55 AM
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As a virgin waiting until marriage none of that applies to my experience but best of luck to all of you. Sounds like you need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:54 AM
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No. Though it seems you're aware of that and were awkwardly attempting to shoehorn some axe you have to grind under an unrelated comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:28 AM
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Women's sexual capital and bargaining power would plummet like a meteor, but it would collapse back to sane levels. There would be next to no worries at all about rivals poaching a man's girlfriend or wife, especially not for short term affairs due to no interest in casual sex. Competing/simping for women predates the sexual revolution and would still very much exist even without casual sex. The idea that every man would get an effortless storybook ending with a woman on his self-diagnosed level…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:42 AM
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OP said "next to her." I'm not seeing how you got "other end of the bench" out of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:46 AM
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As with any public property or space, you have a right to be there. Does not change the fact that many people would probably be uncomfortable and/or get up and leave if a complete stranger tries to sit right next them on a public bench, as is their right also. It's like the meme with the dude who could choose literally any other urinal but picks the one right next to the guy who's already there and starts talking. Just remove the sitting from the scenario and I think most women wouldn't be autom…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:24 AM
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sits down next to her I think this would be the biggest dealbreaker that would throw a lot of women off. Getting up in a random person's space like this is never a good idea. Even another woman doing this probably wouldn't be welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 10:29 PM
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I feel like the U.S. has built up this weird mythology surrounding weight loss. Like losing a ton of weight is equivalent to attaining godhood at this point and it's not something for mere mortals to succeed at. Which creates self-defeating attitudes and makes people feel like they will inevitably fail and have no choice but to accept the body they have currently. There are valid reasons to be skeptical of weight loss drugs but I suspect at least part of the negativity toward them is based on un…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 08:58 PM
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Sure thing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:49 AM
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Eventually? Impoverished people have the most kids and start having them the earliest. That isn't "settling." That's having sex and dealing with whatever consequences later.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:30 AM
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What's that? Child poverty no longer exists? Not just some but most children are being born to high status dads who can provide for whatever they could possibly want in this life? What a glorious day this is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 04:44 AM
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Child poverty would single-handedly be solved if status mattered to women nearly as much as men on this sub claimed it did. In before "broke but charisma." At that point status is meaningless and being twisted into "literally whatever attracts women." And that's just circular logic. "But fictional characters!" Media written by men for men also disproportionately feature characters with a lot of money and resources. Hello? Bruce Wayne? Tony Stark? Spy thrillers? Political intrigue? Why would norm…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 04:35 AM
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A major problem with the chastity double standard is that chastity isn't a trait that emerges independent of everything else going on in a person's life. There are many reasons why people with drastically different N counts would in all likelihood not be compatible. In my case for example, I don't drink, don't want to date a man who drinks, and would be extremely wary of dating a man who has ever consumed alcohol on a regular basis. Guess what the body count of the men I tend to be the most comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 04:13 AM
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Yeah it seems like there's confusion in this thread based on the conflicting definitions. Thankfully I've never been "fuck zoned" in the sense that you're using it. Or witnessed much of it either. Maybe I'm just lucky but most of the men I've known personally don't dwell endlessly on unrequited feelings. Typically things go back to normal and their attention shifts to a new girl within a week or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:02 PM
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The wording of this question is odd. My understanding of fuck zone is one party has romantic feelings but the other just wants sex. That doesn't have much to do with the traditional "be friends first" advice which is about cultivating trust and emotional intimacy, not casually fucking someone until they have a sudden love epiphany.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 07:30 PM
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A pair of eyes?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 04:36 PM
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Reality is that not getting attention from women isn't equivalent to starvation or terrible diseases and it is extremely dramatic to treat it as such. This sex-obsessed subreddit may be filled with people who desperately want to believe otherwise but I'm not buying into that. Sell it somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 04:09 PM
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5'3, 25F, on relationship #3
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 07:17 AM
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And it is their right to believe as much. I certainly won't be losing sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 06:51 AM
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This is probably going to be a Santa Claus/tooth fairy moment for some of you, but Maslow's hierarchy is actually not the holy grail of human needs that some make it out to be. In fact he provided no empirical evidence for it outside of his own observations, didn't really even see his own ideas as facts set in stone, and other researchers have struggled to replicate his findings. See here for a brief excerpt
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 02:54 AM
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Nobody: Some dude on PPD: How can I insert rape into this conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 12:51 AM
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Sigh indeed
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 07:32 PM
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The principle isn't the same precisely because of the mismatch in severity. I am not going to hold the same sympathy for a dude who's depressed because he can't afford food and a dude who's depressed because he can't afford to backpack in Europe. He might think that trip to Europe is essential for discovering the meaning of his life or whatever. And he has every right to. I'm not particularly compelled to think some fundamental injustice is taking place because he cannot.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 07:23 PM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:08 PM
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You just compared multiple life-threatening conditions and circumstances to lack of attention from women. That is the kind of absurdity that causes people to perceive entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:05 PM
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Wouldn't regular sex with one partner have the same effect?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:12 AM
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The fact that it's been 6 years since Ddu-du ddu-du dropped makes me feel like a skeleton
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 06:31 AM
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There was a post on one of the relationship or asshole subs where the OP's husband demanded a paternity test. She was hurt but then agreed and told him he could do it at any time. Test doesn't happen. Then he comes back and asks her to make the arrangements. Like I'm not an expert on paternity testing but this shouldn't be something a grown man can't figure out, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 02:46 PM
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Being upset that 50% of the population can vote because you perceive too many of them as answering a hypothetical fantasy scenario on social media in a way you don't agree with is not rational.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 01:38 PM
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Frustration? Like an emotion?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 01:28 PM
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I can't think of a better indicator of an emotional person than caring this deeply about completely hypothetical fantasy scenarios propagated by TikTok
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 01:14 PM
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Ime it has been and always will be a regional thing. Some places have that warmth and friendliness while others don't. Bystander effect was coined in the 1960s. I grew up and live in the kind of community where people will stop to help if you like mildly uncomfortable or inconvenienced. I have traveled to places where it was definitely not like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 01:05 PM
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Attractive is in demand. You see more and more conventionally attractive people with nerd hobbies these days. Normie men aren't fighting over the stereotypical blue-haired Tumblr chick just because playing video games makes her relatable or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 04:56 AM
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Try "My SO is amazing." It seems to work on the men pretty well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 12:26 AM
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Nah. Dragon Age Inquisition for example has close to a 50/50 playerbase gender ratio iirc and the new game coming out will probably follow that trend. BG3 seems to have a lot of female players as well. Female players like action but there has to be stakes that we care about. Romance is one example.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 12:19 AM
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Read that in Homelander voice
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 08:35 PM
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So what you meant to do is accuse me of lying or larping. Shitposting is not synonymous with either of those things. And no I was not physically present at these competitions unless I was also in them. Asking for clarification instead of just making up information that isn't there goes a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 07:24 PM
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No cap I thought this sub was getting banned years ago so they must be doing something right
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:52 PM
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As someone who adores a good shitpost you definitely don't know what that word means
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:50 PM
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So trophy wives basically? The guy has enough fuck you money to the point where an attractive partner who contributes nothing is just another addition to his growing collection of useless but cool and/or pretty things. What does the tiger living in his backyard contribute? Nothing. Just being a fucking tiger. Same concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:48 PM
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Be mindful that in these conversations affection is often a euphemism for sex. All the platonic hugs and cuddles in the world aren't cutting it and will even get a woman accused of leading him on or just wanting an orbiter if she doesn't plan for it to culminate in sex. That said, the actual question here is "are women withholding sex from men?" I hope so. If a woman has sex with every man who ever desires it from her she's not going to have a life outside of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:24 PM
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It's a "users who can read and follow directions" bias, not a BP bias
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:14 PM
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Maturity is the bigger factor ime. It's not like only angelic and morally upstanding men are interested in marriage. You can find plenty of assholes who want a wife. Often not for good reasons, but if you really want to marry one, you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 05:55 PM
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I mean I can semi-relate as someone who had unrequited feelings in high school. My crush/guy friend was involved in academic competitions, he would tell me about them, and I would hype him up/cheer him on. When he started dating someone else, and came to me expecting the usual, I told him to tell his GF. And left it at that. Am I still like that to this day? Thankfully no. I wasn't even allowed to be like that for 24 hours. My mom told me that I was being selfish and a terrible friend. So I swal…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 05:41 PM
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For me, it was partially a result of how I found it. I have an ex who I thought was perfectly okay with the fact that I was waiting until marriage. Until he wasn't. It was through reading RP that I realized that men exist who don't take women's words seriously and think they can override her reservations by doing XYZ. I was admittedly naive before that. I thought that my words meant something, particularly to men who act as if they care about you. I learned that I have to be careful, and go the …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 05:10 PM
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Your "level" is inextricably linked to supply and demand. What a dude's male friends think of his quality as a prospective romantic partner only matters if they're down to date each other. Same with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 04:40 AM
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OP claims his post got deleted for no reason. Yet the reason is clearly stated here. Funny how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 03:08 AM
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On dating apps there is roughly 1 woman for every 3 men at any given point in time. Even if every single woman on the apps paired off tomorrow that would still leave the majority of male users single.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:58 AM
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You're being extremely vague and expecting people to simply know what you're talking about. What do you think women expect in relationships? What do you think men expect in relationships? How do you think women as a collective are falling short of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:52 AM
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I actually like Japan a lot. I have studied there twice and homestayed with three amazing families. I don't think young Japanese women or men for that matter are selfish for having desires beyond a self-imposed duty to have babies they don't want. Is my country actively making choices not conducive to its own survival and placing the burden on its youth to make up the difference? If so, yes it gets to burn. Empires rise and fall. Life goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:04 PM
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The bare minimum I think a man should expect? Existing as a functional adult on her own before you met her. Improving your happiness/quality of life rather than detracting from it. Same as the bare minimum for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:16 PM
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If my country were collapsing because of its conscious choice to die off rather than compromise its precious ethnostate, no I would not feel any particular obligation to save the sinking ship with my uterus. I want children but I would not feel compelled to do so by these particular circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:06 PM
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It's genuinely concerning to me that grown adults have to go on the internet and ask if they're wrong in these obviously not wrong situations. "My ex pushed me off a cliff for fun, every bone in my body shattered, and I will be paying medical bills for the rest of my life. I gave a disapproving glance in her general direction from my hospital bed and she cried. Was I wrong?"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 11:29 AM
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Purge is permanently canceled, that's when a lot of the subreddit would reveal we're normal-looking and sometimes even kinda attractive people in photo dumps. Or at least the people who felt confident enough to post pics were.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:50 AM
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Easy solution: befriend women instead. My BF and my brother are more than enough for me in terms of male friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:46 AM
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With the women who all type in the exact same style of spamming tons of barely comprehensible messages back to back
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:39 AM
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A majority of people are now meeting online which is mostly owned by this one corporation. When surveys measure "percent of people who met their partner online" that doesn't refer to dating apps exclusively. According to a 2023 Pew study, only 10% of partnered adults overall say they met their partner on a dating app. For partnered adults ages 18-29, 20%. For partnered straight adults in general, 9%. For partnered LGBT people in general, 24%. Edited for clarity
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:59 AM
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By "right" I assume that people mean "functional", not some ascended guru who is cured of literally everything. A lot of mental health diagnoses don't even have a cure. So if that were the metric people with mental diagnoses wouldn't be able to date period.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 08:33 PM
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I was into it for like two years in undergrad. The DMs from my followers alone were enough to make me lose interest. I didn't even know what parasocial relationships were back then but now I wish I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 08:28 PM
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RMV: Anywhere from 10 to 0 depending on how badly a guy wants to marry a virgin and wait for marriage. SMV: Rates I've gotten from this sub have been 7-8, cute, possibly hot, pretty, so somewhere around there I guess? I'm not sure how the waiting until marriage factors into a measurement based entirely on sex, so once again possibly 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 03:21 PM
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No. You can clearly tell when a woman is wearing enough makeup to significantly alter her appearance. It's like taking a masked chick home from a costume party and calling it deception when it turns out she's not as pretty as you hoped. If a man is that concerned about what she'll look like without makeup he can just not date women who look like sentient Bratz dolls.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 05:10 AM
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Walking in to Top Gun Maverick I did not expect to enjoy the romantic subplot as much as I did. The "romance" in the first movie was hot garbage. In keeping with the sequel's overall theme of acknowledging that first movie Maverick was a reckless tool Penny is understandably wary and not taking him seriously when he comes back. She also has her own life, hobbies, and a strong personality. It isn't until he shows signs that he's matured and learned humility that she gives him another chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 03:04 AM
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Yes and yes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 03:21 AM
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The vast majority of active OLD users are men. It isn't going to decline because many men either don't realize how skewed the gender ratio is on these apps or are hoping for a miracle anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 03:07 AM
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OP has literally made this exact post multiple times, adding extra irony to the use of "novel" here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 11:20 PM
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I would've addressed you in particular if I were referring to you specifically. I'm talking about a general trend on this sub. "The sky is falling, because most teenaged boys aren't dating!" "Oh wait, that isn't true? Nevermind! The sky is falling, because only a slim majority of teenaged boys are dating!" What is the percentage of romantically successful Gen Z that will satisfy this sub? 75%? 90%? And what will meet their criteria for "romantically successful?" I just recently had a male user t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:25 PM
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Yeah this is all very fascinating but doesn't make the blatant misinformation any less egregious. Even in this very thread we have someone trying to whip out 80/20 even though the statistics in question literally do not support that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:16 PM
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The goalposts move like crazy around this sub. Just last week we had someone claiming that the majority of young men are ignored by young women and only a tiny pool get romantic interest. I actually posted this exact article in response, pointing out that while the number of men who don't date as teens is rising it's not as uncommon for young men to date as some people are claiming here. 56% is not a tiny pool in the context of any population.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:03 PM
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Don't worry, if I couldn't handle it I wouldn't still be here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:29 PM
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Yes. I think everyone does that for the opposite sex to an extent. I went to an all-girl high school and absolutely had to go with the flow and make changes when I went back to coed for college.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:27 PM
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Lol thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:23 PM
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Coments from men in this very thread. If you don't fuck, it's not a real relationship Purity culture is toxic AND irresponsible. So why did you comment if you couldn't back up your standards and then tried painting men correcting you in a false negative light immaturely? Yes I've heard similar things for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:20 PM
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Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:13 PM
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I find that it really depends on the man
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:12 PM
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Men who think "I personally wouldn't want this and therefore it's unreasonable"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:08 PM
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Only people I care about seeing our relationship as "real" are our families and the priest who marries us
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:07 PM
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You know I probably should've just made it clear in my first comment that I'm already in a relationship. It just didn't occur to me because I already talk about him so much and it's easy to forget that other people haven't necessarily seen or would remember those comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:05 AM
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Thank you. I appreciate your kind words very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:48 AM
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Thankss
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:39 AM
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For me there was nothing like studying abroad to really drive home how...unique American fashion is. Like our professors had to warn us multiple times before we left "please don't embarrass us or yourselves by wearing whatever you all normally call an outfit." With pictures on the orientation powerpoints and everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:36 AM
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While it is true that I could be doing more productive things than being in this shithole, the man's already covered. If that were a problem I probably would've fucked off years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:29 AM
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Already found him. Not only is he a virgin but he had zero romantic experience at all before we met. He learned how to kiss from me. Everything else though, we'll be figuring out together.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:26 AM
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Starting to?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:17 AM
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Funnily enough I just responded to a prompt about how we met in the daily thread. He is gorgeous and also devoutly Christian, so we're waiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:16 AM
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Yes I'm aware. That's why I find this sub so entertaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:57 AM
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unless the man is heavily religious Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:51 AM
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This sub. As in I've known about it and participated on and off for 6 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:47 AM
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Yes it has been about 6 deeply masochistic years. But tbf I've been away for months at a time, returned, left again, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:45 AM
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Man who is both physically attractive to me and waiting until marriage. I've been on this sub since I was like 19 and men here told me time and time again that that wasn't reasonable. I told them I'd rather die alone and that was my justification.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:40 AM
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All 3. If not what the hell is the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:31 AM
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Even as someone who leaves man vs. bear to a coin toss I don't fuck with coyotes. Those things are terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:23 AM
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Bookstore. I was looking at the Tolkien books because the fact that I've never read LOTR makes me feel like a fake Catholic. But at the same time I wasn't sure I was ready to make the commitment to read everything, including the Silmarillion (still haven't). So I was standing there conflicted. Dude walks up, kinda looking at books in the same vicinity. I realize I'm being rude and probably in his way so I back up. He asks me if I'm a fan of Tolkien. I tell him not yet, but I hope to be eventuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:21 AM
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Enjoy while it lasts. I used to go to YouTube for a lot of IkePri content and one day it all disappeared because of copyright sweeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:30 AM
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Rhymes with opium
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:46 PM
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Right. A straight woman can acknowledge she's pretty without thinking "would." For a woman who's really not into older men it's exactly like that. Like just the thought of actually having sex with a good-looking man my dad's age if not older is about as appealing to me as the thought of having sex with Jennifer Connelly in her prime. Not my thing, but good for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:42 PM
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Crying tears of joy that our humble subreddit has been graced with so many new users all at once. I wonder what happened to spark this occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:33 PM
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For many of us seeing an older man like this is like putting a really hot woman in front of us. Would some be down? Yes. Most? Probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:31 PM
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Oh, do we have another newcomer? Don't be jealous. I have enough warm welcomes for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:19 PM
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The PC answer is my actual answer. Never.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:16 PM
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Same dude or we have at least two of "those" running around here
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 09:00 PM
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An RPer went mask off in a recent thread and proposed 15 as the age women should be allowed to marry 20 years older. I tried to link to it but the whole thread got nuked and unfortunately every Reddit archive method I know of no longer works.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 08:32 PM
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Clearly. I'm sure you've read the rules thoroughly and will have a long, prolific stay here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:32 PM
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You must be new here
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:24 PM
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Nah. I have a doctor uncle for example who fucked up his first marriage, he knows it, everybody knows it, and they're all grateful he has the self-awareness to never disappoint another woman like that again. He still wants nooky though so he gets that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:20 PM
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Okay I've had a man attempt to solicit me before. He had flashed me the equivalent of roughly $100 up front and implied there was more as the night went on. If you're spending that kind of money on a typical date you're doing something wrong. Also to note in order to keep a woman around your going to have to at some point in time buy her things. Cars, clothes, dates, nails, hair, random gifts, trips, maybe a house, kids(we all know how expensive having children are). There's no free rides all me…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:14 PM
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I feel like that's different since Cloud is an actual character, not just a player self-insert.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 12:17 PM
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No. I don't drink or particularly like dancing, so no bars or clubs. I dress modestly due to my religious beliefs, though my figure is always going to be noticeable regardless of what I wear. Short of men walking right up and saying something I've always been kind of oblivious. To the point where I've been surprised to find out certain guys liked me when it wasn't a secret to anyone else. It impacts my hobbies as well. I'm a massive otome gamer when single. If you don't know what that is, games …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:25 AM
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You know how some people complain about how hard it is to plan dates or needing to put a ton of effort into finding things to do? Or the only thing they can come up with is dinner? Yeah not having any interests in common exacerbates that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 10:51 AM
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What the hell is it with men on this sub and McDonald's specifically? Are they confusing it with Hooter's? Like come on if you're gonna call out a random fast food restaurant at least pick one where the women are actually known for being young and attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 03:20 AM
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I appreciate your input. We'll see if OP responds. He claimed that he was leaving this sub permanently because it was causing so much hate in him that it was getting unhealthy. I guess he's cured now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 01:01 AM
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Your key words here are "someone that you're in a relationship with." OP is talking about avoiding relationships with these women. So it sounds like he means vetting them out so the relationship doesn't happen. I'm curious how he thinks that should be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 12:51 AM
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Depends on the question. "Have you ever been sexually assaulted" is not a normal thing that normal people ask each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 12:38 AM
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I'm not even going to pretend to know what that means
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:48 PM
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How is a man even supposed to vet for this without demonstrating serious red flags of his own
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:34 PM
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Do you mean on the internet or irl? I've only met one girl with PCOS afaik. She was skinny and short with hairy arms. We were in high school and she hadn't gotten her period at like 15 so her parents finally made her see a doctor for it. She put on weight after being treated for it with birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 08:25 PM
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As someone who's waiting until marriage and fully committed to only having sex with one guy for my entire life, I think many would say that's as restricted as it gets. But at the end of the day only one guy really gets to benefit from that. I feel like if anything my choice benefits other women more since it gives them less competition for men who do expect sex on the more modern timeline. Which is most of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 08:11 PM
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As crazy as it is to believe that sort of thing regularly happens you'd be even crazier to think those girls don't have to do anything to be on that yacht.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:06 PM
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100% how they think. There isn't much a guy can simply "do" for me. I already come from a privileged background and thankfully have parents who insisted on providing me with the trajectory to maintain the lifestyle without being forced to rely on anyone else, including my partner. What matters more to me is having someone I can have meaningful conversations with, who shares my values and interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:56 PM
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We're all human doings. No one gets to coast by and have a happy relationship without doing anything. This mentality comes from conveniently writing off your partner's actions as "being" while you get to call your own actions "doing" and feel like a hero/martyr over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:34 PM
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Depends on the generation. With Gen Z girls yeah, every sorority has at least one of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 04:30 PM
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He should do what makes him happy and what works for him. For some men opening up and showing emotion just feels weird and doesn't do anything for them. For others not opening up and showing emotion feels weird and suffocating. A guy has to know himself and his needs. Then find a woman who meets them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 03:54 PM
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My hot take is that the place doesn't really matter so much as your ability to pick up on social cues. For me it only takes seeing a person's response to "hi how are you" to guage whether they're interested in interacting further. For some people that's an insurmountable problem apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 06:20 PM
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I don't listen to any of the randoms on the internet. You certainly won't be hurting my feelings by doing the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:10 PM
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I'm not gonna name any names but there is a female user here who makes inflammatory posts and has been caught addressing "herself" as male in "her" post history.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:06 AM
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So are men going to be happy with that same validation even if the women giving compliments still don't want to date and/or sleep with them? Because I've seen multiple men on this sub blame women for telling them they were perfect and wonderful the way they were, claiming they could've done better if women were just honest about not being attracted and why.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:45 PM
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A core question here is "good enough for what?" You bring up body positivity for example. Let's say men are included, that the whole internet claps for them and calls them stunning kings who are perfect the way they are. If that isn't manifesting in relationships and/or sex, how many of them are going to give a shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:33 PM
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The biggesr indicators I picked up from a negative experience and subsequently reading RP: Is he taking me seriously? Is he listening to what I say? Granted, it isn't just RP men who treat women as fickle children who don't actually know what we want. But they are under the umbrella. So I learned to be very careful and specific about my words, and to listen closely and watch how men respond to them. If I'm being serious, and stating a boundary for example, how does he respond to that? Is he flip…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:28 PM
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Let's just say I don't even drink alcohol but there are some users who make me feel like I need a whole pint of something before engaging with their posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:41 PM
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No, not can. Should.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:35 PM
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Lord knows it's not easy. It took my BF 25 years. Some of his closest friends are childhood sweethearts. If I could change anything about my life it would be growing up near him and meeting as kids. So it could've been the two of us our entire lives, like them. And he never had to feel lonely or unwanted. Instead we were born hundreds of miles apart and it took us over two decades of our respective lives to find each other. So it goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:35 PM
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Start by not treating the opinions of random women on the internet as the overarching gospel of how every woman you will ever meet feels.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:05 PM
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Bingo. In my world the sun rises and sets on my late bloomer. The only traits that apply to him are 1) His mom loves me and I adore her, so no tension there. Our families get along great in general. 3) Autistim/neurodivergence have never been much of an issue for me as long as the guy doesn't use it to justify being an asshole and not bothering to take other people's feelings into consideration. And ime that depends on how he was raised.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 05:31 PM
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Depends on the board game. I've met a lot of Asian girls who are obsessed with Catan for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 05:14 AM
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I kissed the two men I dated before him. Beyond that, nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:37 AM
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My BF didn't have any romantic success for the first 25 years of his life. He does have plenty of platonic female friends and is very close with the women in his family. He did talk to them about his struggles with dating and how that made him feel. He actually got the advice that led to our meeting from a female friend. What sets him apart from other men who get such cold and negative responses? I think at least part of it was his attitude. As I said, my BF knows a lot of amazing women. Most of…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:11 PM
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Whilst women tend to be attracted to a far more narrow spectrum of masculine behaviour and personality types in men. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/face-facts/201905/womens-attraction-masculine-men-remains-open-question Okay OP, I reviewed the second link you posted more thoroughly. According to the article, the answer is inconclusive. The results are literally all over the place. Some studies have found that women living in more economically privileged environments have less of an affi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:11 AM
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For me there are two sides of staying in a relationship: the feels and the rational. The feels are incredibly hard to shake. I've only been in three romantic relationships in my life at 25 for a reason. I don't do relationships with half-assed feelings, I have to be all in. The rational side carries the conditions. This side is what will drag me out of a relationship that is harmful to me, my partner, or both regardless of what I feel. Sometimes the rational side has to take the lead, and all I …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:10 AM
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I put my own BF's stats in one of the female delusion calculators and got "cat lady in the making." I put my own dad in and got some even crazier small probability and being all but assured men like him barely exist. Here's the thing. U.S. census data is useless for determining your chances of meeting a men who fits a particular set of criteria in your individual context. We recently found out that you have to make at least six figures to afford a house in our area. And no, not a large or comfor…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:36 PM
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I literally quoted where OP incorrectly indicated that the vast majority of young men are being ignored by women. As I said, I don't care what any given individual deems a sufficient amount of romantic/sexual experience, I am correcting a blatant, objective piece of misinformation, which is that the majority of young men get "ignored" entirely. And it is very easy to not simply accept what randoms on the internet claim as fact when data directly contradicts their claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:14 PM
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Did we read the same post? However its obvious that on dating apps and casual dating in general, average guys will have little to no luck since most women in the US will be sleeping with the small pool of men, commonly known as the "top percent of men" So since the average guy will get basically no attention thought his younger years
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:58 PM
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OP seems to be under the impression that the vast majority of young men are having no romantic/sexual experience at all. I am pointing out that this isn't true. The particulars of what any given person counts as sufficient is not something I care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:43 PM
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According to the American Survey Center, 54% of Gen Z men say they had a romantic relationship as a teen. In all of the studies I can find the numbers are definitely lower compared to previous generations, but a slim majority at least always seems to win out. In terms of sexlessness the highest number I can find for young men is 30%. Which is once again, relatively high, but not an indication that the majority of young guys are being ignored in favor of some tiny exclusive group.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:22 PM
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Yes and I think that's part of the reason why I can't relate to 90% of what's said on this sub. Like the way some of the guys here describe how women supposedly act around tall, attractive men is crazy to me. That's just our typical dude walking down the street. If women collectively lost their shit over every single one our society would be at a standstill.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:55 PM
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No we can't agree on that because I believe that the world is vast, people are chaotic and unpredictable, and trying to seek out some deeper universal truth as a defense mechanism from ever being hurt or scorned is fruitless. That's a not very exciting position though, is it? It's boring and broad and not designed to attack or make anyone angry. What's the fun in that? Therefore my response won't be particularly satisfying to many users here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:33 AM
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Entertainment, stimulation. That is what the vast majority of arguments between internet strangers comes down to. Your mistake was believing there was ever some noble or admirable cause behind any of this in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:15 AM
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I live to serve
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 03:49 AM
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Same thing I think about St. Augustine. Miracles happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 11:16 PM
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We have agreed to raise them Catholic. As I said, I wouldn't discount a man over his past outright, but I would be sad over not sharing our first sexual experiences together.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:50 PM
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I'll do you one better. We literally believe that their predecessor betrayed Jesus Christ himself. We don't exactly have a tradition that treats popes as unfailingly moral and just people. In fact I would be very suspicious of any religion that claims that its human leadership is perfect and can do nothing wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:48 PM
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I live to serve
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:22 PM
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I had a strict "no Protestants" rule before we met. Catholic/Protestant relationships can be tricky, particularly when it comes to how the kids will be brought up. I was hesitant when he told me. But by that point my heart was already set on him, and I decided to give it a chance rather than run away and assume it wouldn't work out. And honestly it paid off. He and his family defied much of what I thought I knew about Protestants.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:22 PM
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Sucking dick, eating a woman out, PIV sex, anal, whatever. It makes no difference. I prefer virgins. I wouldn't discount a repentance scenario outright but knowing we wouldn't be sharing those firsts together would be a sad thing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:05 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:47 PM
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I used to do this thread during purge but it's cancelled forever now, so. Catholic 25F virgin waiting until marriage, AMA.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:33 PM
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BP: here's a study proving X Some random ass man: liberal academia compromised it 💅
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:24 PM
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In an ideal world where all of you actually read and understood the nature and goals of academic research, that would be better. But we don't live in that world, so anecdata is on the same level if not better. I'd rather just read a story about someone's depressing life than their bastardization of someone else's work to validate their depressing life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:20 PM
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As someone who participates in academic research. You have to secure funding if you want to embark on massive projects with huge sample sizes. The vast majority of people are not interested in dating in a serious academic sense. PPD is a very weird and niche place. The kinds of studies you are going to see posted here are often going to have tiny samples of some group that was most convenient for the researcher to bribe engage with. Like college students taking psychology classes in one universi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:58 PM
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Imo what separates "hobby" from "activity" is recurring participation and dedication. Like if we just go whitewater kayaking every once in a while for fun that's an activity. If we're doing this every week I'd start considering it a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:43 PM
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No. I've only dated two guys before him and both were a long time before we met. He doesn't have any exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:31 PM
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I thought you were gonna link this one
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:41 AM
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Do couples you know irl talk like this, OP? Some of it genuinely sounds like online kink community shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:03 PM
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Good
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:35 PM
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Nah. He's over 50 now. His own dad was just as stoic and inscrutable until the end. I think there are genuinely men who aren't keen on being vulnerable and expecting them to be anything else is just trying to force the impossible. My mom accepted him as he was. As much as I love my dad I knew I couldn't stand to have a partner like that. My BF is definitely on the sensitive and emotional side.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 03:04 PM
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My dad would pick the tree all day everyday over any human being regardless of their sex. I'm not going to lose my shit over it because that would be immature and dramatic. I'm sure none of you would ever respond that way over a silly internet scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:39 PM
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OP claimed the guy was completed loyal and faithful when he explicitly says he went on dates with someone else, with sex being implied through him literally prefacing it with "I get it, I had needs too." To assume based on such limited information that this woman had a ton of sex with her partner and the man was chaste and innocent with his, there has to be some preexisting biases.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:35 PM
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OP claimed the guy was completed loyal and faithful when he explicitly says he went on dates with someone else, with sex being implied through him literally prefacing it with "I get it, I had needs too." To assume based on such limited information that this woman had a ton of sex with her partner and the man was chaste and innocent with his, there has to be some preexisting biases.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:30 PM
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I'm just going to point out that you complained about superficial standards and then went on to list supposedly more important things like...looks
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:50 AM
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Oh they always are when it comes to this. It's hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:41 AM
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Adventurous. I gotta admit all the talk about "no haven" got to me when I was a teen. I care. And I'm grateful for it, therefore preferring to date men who feel the same way. I don't expect anyone else to understand, or to praise my standards. I do still find it funny how some of you get so bent out of shape over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:40 AM
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It's similar to how two people sharing religious beliefs doesn't guarantee compatibility, but certainly narrows things down in a useful manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:31 AM
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So you're complaining about something some other women are doing that is completely unrelated to anything I said. Good to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:25 AM
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Lol. Is it still cool to meme on Cornell? Unless you go there, which would be awkward. My reason is shared values and common experience. I come from a family that's crazy about higher education. I want to marry a guy who's on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:23 AM
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I make it clear that I have a bachelor's and am currently in postgrad myself, yet men on this sub still complain
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:18 AM
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Good thing intelligence has nothing to do with my reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:15 AM
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I have no idea what you're talking about or who you intended to respond to
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:14 AM
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Attraction isn't a "character quality" assessment. There are plenty of upstanding and virtuous men on this planet, I only get to marry one. My personal experience has indicated that college-educated men are more likely to have experiences, perspectives, and values in common with me. I come from a family background that prizes academic achievement to the point that it's rare to stop at just a bachelor's. I need the man I'm raising kids with to be on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:12 AM
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Yep, this is it exactly. When education comes into play all of a sudden men start talking about money and want you to prioritize income. I'm very open about the fact that I would take a college-educated barista over a man who didn't go to college and makes six figures.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 03:22 AM
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Men here get quite offended when I say that I care more about education than career or income. I'm not sure we're allowed to be attracted to anything honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 03:15 AM
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Ime, no. I fall in the religious category where it's all the same thing. I don't have the fortitude to choose a guy I'm not viscerally attracted to as my one sex partner for life. From witnessing my secular friends from undergrad, plenty had sex with basic dudes they weren't romantically interested in. One was below average in the looks department but had a reputation for giving the best head on campus. Another was said to have Michelin-tier cooking skills, and if you stayed overnight he would m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:43 AM
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Depends on the rules of whatever institution you got married in. If it's the state and you can legally divorce for any reason at all, sure why not. Do it if you wake up one day and decide that you hate your spouse's voice. I would be marrying in a faith where lack of sex isn't a valid reason in and of itself unless you failed to consummate at least once. Even in Antman: Quantumania, a married couple is forced apart for decades in different worlds due to a freak accident, and the woman admitted t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:03 AM
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I'm sure that most if not all assholes on this planet have some emotional personal backstory that in their view justifies what they are. It could be related to women or parents or economic success or academic achievement or any number of things. Whether others agree that their reasons are sympathetic or absolve them of any culpability for their behavior or actions is nothing short of YMMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:29 PM
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OP: Do women even exist Women: Yes OP: Ahah! See? Hivemind!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:56 PM
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Consider the nature of the posts being made here. We have had some variation of the debate "can women even enjoy sex" multiple times in the span of one week. It is not some act of revolutionary female solidarity or indication of a hivemind for women to agree that women like sex. If women were asking more stupid extreme questions like "do men even have emotions? I need studies to prove it" then yeah maybe you would see more men and women defending men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 05:27 PM
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I notice it even more on this sub Most women who comment basically act like they're part of a hive mind or something where they have to defend each other by default So you mean debating. On this debate sub. Certain individuals seem to be under the weird impression that Purple Pill Debate is their public pulpit where they should be able to say whatever they want and receive nothing but universal praise and adoration for it. If that's what you're looking for, you are fundamentally in the wrong pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 04:50 PM
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Women's concerns about other women are often trivialized as cattiness or overbearing behavior, particularly if the man wants to fuck said other woman. So Mom can try but once a dude is particularly set on a woman she may as well be talking to a wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 07:34 PM
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Popping up again, huh? I'm starting to think you have an obsession. Aww now you've either blocked or deleted everything. A shame since we were having so much fun together.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 11:44 AM
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I hold his opinions in higher regard than of yours so we'll live
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 11:13 AM
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So yes, you are making things up about bears as someone who has never lived or camped near them. Good to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 06:31 AM
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Ah yes, another redditor who has clearly never lived or camped anywhere near bears thinks my BF is dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 06:19 AM
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I think it is you, the women, who have had the most diabolical lies told to you, how many of you are sitting here now about to cross the stage, and are thinking about all the promotions and titles you’re going to get in your career. These are his exact words. By his logic my all-girl Catholic high school run by single childless women, nuns and lay alike, only existed because of diabolical lies told to women. According to our faith, anyone can be called to forego marriage and children for any per…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 06:15 AM
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As a Catholic this dude doesn't speak for us and if you visit the Catholic subreddit there is plenty of controversy over his speech there as well. Nowhere does the Catholic church teach that women's lives don't start until we get married and have kids or that we should be pushing women in that direction. We actually have a shortage of people in the single vocations and at any given Mass you are more likely to hear prayers and calls for men and women to consider that. "Marriage and babies for eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:02 AM
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So now you've adjusted the conditions of your hypothetical to "women aren't actually leading anything and men get everything they want." This is just femdom porn for a male audience, not a "female-led society."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 03:22 AM
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But Let's break it down for a second: Why would men not want women to lead? Pride, ego, the usual suspects. It's like men who would rather let their family struggle and barely scrape by than accept "government handouts." From a rational standpoint it makes zero sense but there are men who feel like their pride and independence are more important than literal survival, much less luxuries.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:39 AM
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I think it's more different people imagining different bodies. Like I thought Sotyktu dude was a great example of a dad bod and you told me he didn't count.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:01 AM
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For my BF it's like this. Your grade in a class is riding on a massive final project that is unrealistic for one person to complete alone. You are encouraged to work with a partner, but you don't get to choose. The professor will randomly assign you. You would be happy to work with the majority of people in your class. But there is one student you cannot stand and who is lazy as shit. Is it an insult or indication you don't like your classmates in general if you decide to work alone to avoid bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:57 PM
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If the woman's reason for picking the bear is hatred of men in general then yes, I would advise breaking up. I can't confidently say whether most men would follow that advice. I believe that many would. My SO would be an example of a man who picked bear for reasons I find sound and not indicative of hating men in general. You might disagree and say that my SO must hate all men, including himself. And that is your right.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:04 PM
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No not everyone. I think there plenty of people sane enough to realize that playing pickme for someone with a general disdain toward a class of people you belong to is a terrible idea for many reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 07:50 PM
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I'm an advocate of changing and taking risks, within reason, until you find something that works for you. Some men might not need to work out or shed a pound in their lives and still manage to find women who are crazy about them. If you're not getting any attention, you're probably not that guy. So make changes. Even as someone who prefers dudes with some fluff over gym bodies, it irks me when people on this website just assume that their preference or situation is what the universe revolves aro…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:57 PM
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Based on my time lurking PPB misandry was the least of their concerns. They were totally okay with women shitting on local men, and even participating in it themselves. What they care about is me-andry. "Do I feel loved and respected and sought after?" They couldn't give less of a fuck about men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:39 PM
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But they do downplay the necessity of education for women, marry young, and have babies young, which you are advocating for. If the kind of people you see as illogical and misguided are the ones following your plan, maybe it's not a good plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:43 PM
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So only naive trad religious idiots agree with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:06 PM
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If you're a POC surrounded by non-POC this is a common experience. We were one of the few non-white families at my elementary school and people kept mistaking my 30-something mom for my sister and assuming my grandma was my mother. If you're around more people who look like you they're more likely to be able to tell what your actual age is ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:01 PM
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Couples that get married before 25 have a very high risk of divorce. According to statistics the sweet spot range for marriage is ages 25-32. After 32 the divorce rate creeps up again.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 04:46 PM
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Oohoohoo scary. Yeah you asked and I gave my answer. I am satisfied with my own ability to vet my social connections and no amount of fearmongering on the internet will change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:55 AM
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