Is it frustrating being physically weak compared to men?

CatallaxyRanch · 2024-10-09T17:32:06+00:00

It's frustrating if there's something I want to do that I don't have the physical strength to do, like move a piece of furniture or something. But I never really think about it "in comparison to men."

I guess more than the strength differential what I envy is male musculature and metabolism. My husband sheds lbs so much more quickly than me with so much less effort.

chalkandapples · 2024-10-09T19:28:48+00:00

Absolutely, it sucks. I was so pissed during my teenage years when all the guys got bigger and stronger and all I got was my period.

After over a decade I decided to get over it and focus on what I can change / I'm good at.

Anxious_Cicada3234 · 2024-10-09T15:50:47+00:00

I don’t care at all about it. I only care if a man is threatening me which thankfully doesn’t happen often. I don’t really think it’s an advantage either.

MistyMaisel · 2024-10-09T16:04:05+00:00

Only when I'm doing jiu jitsu...so about three hours a week.

Positive-Emu-1836 · 2024-10-09T18:02:47+00:00

I think it does frustrate me but more because a lot of men use that advantage as a way to knock women down.

Novadina · 2024-10-09T16:02:32+00:00

Not really. I’m more jealous men don’t have to deal with all the trouble the female reproductive system brings. There’s skills I have that I am better at than the average person, and it doesn’t really bother me many people are better than me at things like opening jars or throwing balls.

MotherPermit9585 · 2024-10-09T19:08:40+00:00

No, not really. In general I don’t compare myself to other people. I’m content with my characteristics that are exceptional and I try to compensate for my individual weaknesses (not all physical) as best I can. I’m healthy and have no issues moving objects, opening jars, or working out. Lamenting that I’m not as strong as many men just seems ungrateful. Especially considering that human capabilities exist on a spectrum. There’s so many men that have disabilities and their human worth shouldn’t be determined by their physical strength. Also as we age we tend to get weaker.

leosandlattes · 2024-10-09T15:30:40+00:00

I literally could not care less about being physically weaker than men.

The biological difference is a concern when I think of violence and sexual assault, but the likelihood of this happening is low (relatively speaking for my specific circumstances).

Tbh I like having my man who is stronger than me - who else will carry heavy groceries or open jars for me? 😋🥰

Demasii · 2024-10-09T18:40:11+00:00

Yes. It's not something I think about all the time but when reminded it's extremely scary. I had a man (weightlifter) get so angry at me at work that he started throwing and kicking chairs around the office. I regret not reporting his conduct. I had a manager at a different job (again weightlifter) approach me aggressively and started screaming in my face. He got fired because his actions were caught on camera.

Both of these men could have easily killed me. The same fear comes over me when I saw the knockout challenge videos.

AngeCruelle · 2024-10-09T18:55:14+00:00

Nah. I was never really conditioned to see physical strength as an intrinsic part of my value as a human being.

EulenWatcher · 2024-10-09T19:56:23+00:00

Yes, it is frustrating. I don’t like the idea that I’m weaker than a teenager boy.

Mentathiel · 2024-10-09T19:41:24+00:00

It bothers me.

It's annoying that I'm as a baseline weaker than virtually any man, it makes me much more unsafe.

Also, I don't like when I can't do something that requires strength without help.

I'm weak for a woman too and could stand to work on that, but yeah.

I don't begrudge men their strength or feel like it's unfair or anything like that, it is what it is, everyone was dealt their own cards. But it can be frustrating sometimes.

My_House_on_Mars · 2024-10-09T17:45:17+00:00

I hate it when men here use it as an argument to say that they are "better" than women (not "stronger", "better")

But in the real world it doesn't matter. The world is designed to accommodate people or all strengths.

The only reason I don't like it is in circumstances where I know I can't outrun or fight an attacker

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-10-09T17:07:35+00:00

I only feel frustrated when I see guys lifting way more than I can at the gym. Other than that, it's just a thing to be mindful of.

CrustyBubblebrain · 2024-10-09T19:10:55+00:00

It bothered me when I was younger (like, as a child and teenager) because I always assumed that "physically stronger" automatically meant "superior" in all aspects.

But as I grew to learn that:

1) physical prowess means little in the modern world, outside of self-defense and occupations such as firefighter or military, and that

2) women's bodies evolved towards the priceless function of creating/carrying/birthing/feeding whole new people, and that in and of itself is something to be proud of*. In fact, the only reason women suffer so heavily in child labor and why our children are so physically dependent on us for so long is so that humans as a species could evolve to be so intelligent (brains/heads too big to be born after 9 months, etc.)

*Obviously women are capable of things far beyond just childbearing. We are whole-ass people after all, and not every woman needs or wants to hear children, pls don't come after me

icespikez · 2024-10-09T20:33:47+00:00

Okay so I guess this example isn’t so much strength as physical endurance. I’ve been training and running 30-40mpw the past 5 years basically and have taken little breaks. I am a somewhat accomplished runner… my boyfriend also used to be a runner but he took a full 3 year break.

He decides he wants to get back into it a couple months ago, Awesome! Two months of running 3x a week and he basically can run the same pace as me.

Lol a bit frustrating that he has to work so little to run as as fast as me. Just biology though, can’t be too mad. I’m still a little faster… for now 😂. Im just happy he’s running again.

attendquoi · 2024-10-09T15:33:38+00:00

Not really, I've never had an issue fighting a man off when I need to. Go for the eyes and the balls.

Sillysheila · 2024-10-09T19:11:47+00:00

Well it doesn’t really matter because people automatically sympathise with women more (identifying with their mother, women are wonderful). Women also are born with softer features which make people want to be violent towards them less. So I know people are lot less likely to try and attack me or target me for violence. Even if I was more dainty, evolution has made a solution.

I also have been working on my strength myself and that does help a lot even if I will never have the biological strength of a man.

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ExcelSpreadCheekz · 2024-10-09T19:55:34+00:00

No. Not really.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2024-10-09T19:59:06+00:00

yes very, that's why God mad guns, the great equalizer

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2024-10-09T20:00:01+00:00

Only when I'm threatened by a man. Otherwise, I don't really think about it.

No_Teacher_3313 · 2024-10-09T21:55:52+00:00

Not at all. I don’t often have to lift or move heavy things, and you can hire movers easily enough.

It’s frustrating to not have a good singing voice, to not have good design sense, to not know how to use Adobe to create things. Not being physically strong isn’t on my radar.

napthaleneneens · 2024-10-09T22:04:16+00:00

No..actually it makes me feel very feminine lol. I don’t really see it in terms of inferiority/superiority, more like an attractive difference. Obviously it becomes repulsive in certain contexts though, like when a guy is abusing his strength and harming someone that doesn’t deserve it.

rose-of-suleiman · 2024-10-09T22:20:12+00:00

no, firstly because strength isnt needed very often so i rarely notice my lack of it, and also because i think its one of the positive qualities of men that make them great so when i see a man being strong it feels comforting and i am happier to have his presence in my life.

Trikger · 2024-10-09T23:18:58+00:00

I'm 5'0" in a country where the average man is 6'0". I also live in a city, so there are crazy people abound.

I guess because of this combination, I find myself thinking about it quite often. When I'm waiting on the metro, if someone somehow got the deranged desire to do so, they could easily lift me up and throw me down on the tracks. It's a weird thing to think about, but once again, I live in a city with crazy people.

It sucks to know that if it comes down to it, I'm pretty much fucked. I know how unsafe it can be for me to go outside by myself after dark. A few years ago after work, I walked to catch the last metro. It was nearly midnight. Right at the entrance, I saw a disheveled man walking back and forth, hissing, yelling and yapping to himself. Obviously, I didn't feel safe passing him. I had seen him around before and have always tried to steer clear.

After a moment of contemplating whether I should just run past him or ask someone to walk with me, I decided on the latter. Fortunately, I saw a guy close by, so I awkwardly rushed over to him and explained the situation. He seemed entirely receptive and was politely smiling until I said, "I'm really sorry for coming up to you and asking you like this, but I just really don't trust it." ("it", as in, the situation with the crazy man)

The guy immediately dropped his smile and gave me a blank look.

"How do you know you can trust me? I can have bad intentions, too."

It might sound dumb, but hearing him say that was pretty terrifying. It's moments like that that make you realize just how vulnerable you are. He had a point, after all. Fortunately, he didn't actually have bad intentions and was kind enough to walk with me.

I've had times where I got followed by random men (sometimes for entire blocks), and rushing up to complete strangers while pretending like I know them, just to shake them off.

Knowing that you don't have the physical strength to protect yourself from other people sucks. Sometimes, it's downright scary. I am entirely dependent on other people to physically keep me safe, even if it's just by their presence alone. Knowing that men have targeted me because they could see that I was weak has made me feel like a prey.

Werevulvi · 2024-10-10T00:51:02+00:00

Sometimes, yeah. If I'm doing any sorta heavy lifting or other heavy physical activity, but most times it just doesn't really come up. I think I've realized over time that there's no point in me focusing on this and putting energy into being perpetually upset about shit I can't change. Because I used to be really frustrated about it, and compare myself negatively to men a lot.

I'm not an athlete though. I only exercise for a hobby/for staying fit. Although I did practice karate on a more serious level back in my teens, but that particular sport, women don't have a huge disadvantage in because it relies more on lower body strength, which women do generally have almost as much as men. And I mean I've always had pretty strong legs. But yeah, upper body strength is totally different.

Nowadays I instead focus on that... some things men are better at, other things women are better at. For ex women's pain tolerance is generally higher, we live longer, are less susceptible to certain diseases, and our genitals aren't as sensitive to blunt force trauma. Those kinda things are actually quite neat advantages to have as well.

So men don't have a biological advantage in all aspects of life. And looking at things more broadly like that, I no longer feel like my biology is inferior for being female. It's just different and that's fine. Besides, I feel like I have enough mental strength and creativity to make up for what I lack in physical strength quite a lot of the the time.

serpensmercurialis · 2024-10-10T00:58:42+00:00

That's what guns are for.

YveisGrey · 2024-10-10T01:05:31+00:00

No I kind of like being weaker than my man. I wouldn’t like it if I was stronger than a man idk it’s a turn off. Also I like feeling “smaller” maybe that’s “problematic” but whatever

SlothMonster9 · 2024-10-10T08:21:07+00:00

I don't really think about it, with the only exception of when i'm walking alone and feel in danger. That's when I think, god damn I wish I had the capability to punch and kick like a dude. Or when I wrestle with my husband. I hate that have to resort to biting or clawing. My weak ass muscles don't do shit.

Gillionaire25 · 2024-10-10T09:50:48+00:00

It annoys me every time I'm reminded of it and see how easy men have it. It's been like this ever since my brother turned 14 and gained muscles just by playing video games and all I got was a heavy ass and tits that get in the way. My husband gets visibly pumped muscles after gym and I get nothing. My back was sore for 10 months and getting progressively worse until I figured out it was caused by carrying a mere 25kg up and down the stairs on a regular basis. Now it's healing but I can no longer use my main method of transportation because I'm a woman and I'm too weak.

Crafty_Note397 · 2024-10-10T12:53:28+00:00

This is not something I’ve thought about except like twice in my life when the man I was dating got verbally aggressive. He was a body builder and like 6’6 probably 230 pounds. He didn’t hit me but that was the one time I thought I can’t overpower him if I need to.

I’m not fragile or small. I don’t weight lift but I can lift fairly heavy things reach shelves etc. so no, it’s not frustrating, literally never comes to mind unless the man is being a piece of shit which lucky for me has been almost never.

Objective_Ad_6265 · 2024-10-10T19:17:37+00:00

I don't think about it on my own. But I think about metabolism and that men automaticaly can eat more calories because I have to actively watch my weight and count calories.

bluepvtstorm · 2024-10-09T19:01:20+00:00

No. I have guns.

Makuta_Servaela · 2024-10-09T15:44:06+00:00

No more than it frustrates me that I sunburn easier than a black person does. Men aren't better than women for being stronger- and hell, men are pathetically weak and slow compared to most other mammals of a similar mass. The things that make men "better" than women are things that humans are worse at than other animals of a similar mass (burst strength, physical size). The things that make men "worse" than women are things that make humans as a species excel over other animals (things needed to grow a cognitively advanced social species), with the bias generally being men historically using that strength to asocially bully women out of education and social groups. There is a reason that the greatest threat to a man or woman or (when exposure time is accounted for) children is another man.

The only reason men do better in sports is because those sports were designed by men for men to act on men's skills. Likewise, our society was created with men as the default due to the aforementioned bullying, even though evolutionarily speaking, females are the default and males are the other.

Men's physical size doesn't bother me. Men's systemic and historical lack of social awareness and requirement to be dragged into social skills kicking and screaming by the same women they bully with that size is what bothers me.

ThatBitchA · 2024-10-09T16:34:18+00:00

I don't think about it at all.

I don't think I'm physically weak compared to men. Kick a man in his balls, kick a woman in the crotch and who is the weaker one? Men?

Can men handle period cramps, aka heart attack pains? Nope.

Can men handle the pain of child birth? Nope.

So idk how women are physically weaker sex. Just seems like a silly lie some men tell themselves.

apresonly · 2024-10-09T17:40:07+00:00

No. I don’t solve problems w violence so it doesn’t occur to me.

Title	Is it frustrating being physically weak compared to men?
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Date	October 9, 2024 4:21 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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