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| 13 | Sharing my story | ChelseaDagger16 | /r/ExRedPill | 14/10/24 03:26 PM |
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| 1 | The Red Pill’s Virgin Shaming: How It Turns a Kernel of Evolutionary Psychology into a Toxic WeaponSure, but I don’t see what the point is in OP writing a hackneyed AI slop essay about it being attractive. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/26 06:20 PM |
| -1 | The Red Pill’s Virgin Shaming: How It Turns a Kernel of Evolutionary Psychology into a Toxic WeaponThis is well intentioned post, but a bit idealistic for me. You say virginity doesn’t mean makes a man is worthless which I agree with, but you don’t really answer the more relevant and harder question of whether inexperience can still be a negative signal in dating. You bounce a bit between attractiveness and worth, so it’s kinda vague on what you’re addressing. There are male virgins for theological reasons and perhaps some women see virgin blokes as a blank canvas, but these are edge cases. G… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/04/26 01:24 AM |
| 3 | AdviceIm not going to say whatever issues you have will go away or get better, but life is very different for most people (including myself) at 26 or even 21 than 16. If sports are the only thing keeping you alive, why not join a sports team? Meet new people, make friends and it serves as a tool for something measurable for self-improvement. Probably won’t get you laid, but it’ll probably see you feeling better than you do. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/04/26 12:16 AM |
| 4 | The Red Pill Paradox: If women are truly "villains," why work so hard to attract them?I’m not a RP’er (very much counter) but I don’t think this is paradoxical. I’ll play Devils advocate here. A Red Piller could make the case that women respond to looks, money, frame and status more than they admit. In that case women wouldn’t be not evil, they’d just be superficial and self-interested like (their view of) men. A TRP’er would claim women being attracted to those characteristics on less virtuous men, particular over kinder men does not mean those women are monsters. It only means … | /r/ExRedPill | 07/04/26 08:56 PM |
| 5 | Why is it redpill guys tend to have more hookups or more causal sex partners ?Even purely looking at The Red Pill for getting sex at all costs, it’s poor advice. TRP does however encourage approaching a lot. Most guys (especially those reading pick up material) do not approach many women. If an average/decent looking guy gets in the orbit of a lot of women, they will likely have a lot of partners. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/26 11:25 AM |
| 2 | Why do you think minority men are often more sympathetic to the RedPill?Two reasons in my view: Minority men do worse in dating than white men. A lot of Subsaharan African and Muslim countries have poor views on women, so if women aren’t held in high regard by parents etc then TRP bashing of them won’t be as jarring | /r/ExRedPill | 03/03/26 11:40 AM |
| 9 | My boyfriend of 6 years is sexist\ redpill and it’s making me miserable I am thinking about leaving him soonI agree in principle, however her bf seems dangerous so I think preparing an escape plan is wise. He doesn’t seem like the sort of guy to take no for an answer. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/02/26 09:09 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend of 6 years is sexist\ redpill and it’s making me miserable I am thinking about leaving him soonI think you need an escape plan. It’s an abusive partner, so it might not be something that’s as simple as just explaining you wish to end the relationship. He doesn’t seem like the type to take “No”. Also, while talk about my own politics here, it seems that he’s trying to weaponise his politics to justify his behaviour. As a conservative/Christian/right wing man myself, this is not just “different political views”. He can’t hide behind that stuff to excuse being abusive. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/02/26 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Who are good non red pill people to learn about dating, relationships and about women in a healthy manner?Yes | /r/ExRedPill | 08/02/26 10:31 AM |
| 1 | Who are good non red pill people to learn about dating, relationships and about women in a healthy manner?Dating advice should be bespoke in my view, every woman is different and every guy is different. There are some general principles, but these are pretty obvious and even then guys can do well without following them. I’d speak with a trusted friend who does well with women, to get an idea of relationships. In terms of chatting to women on first dates and clubs, I watched reality TV dating shows like Love Island and Ex on the Beach then just adopted/copied bits from the guys who did well. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/02/26 10:43 PM |
| 6 | Do you think a short, nerdy, or non-dominant man can be loved by a woman?The average man is not tall or dominant. At the same time, there are guys who do well with women despite fitting neither category. I’m not going to bullshit you and say those aren’t advantages, but there are a lot of factors that determine how well you’ll do. Even the factors you listed are difficult to make comments on. As an example, you say you’re short, but my suggestions would be very different depending on if you were 4’6” or 5’7”. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/02/26 01:56 PM |
| 2 | Do you think a short, nerdy, or non-dominant man can be loved by a woman?The answer to this and other questions of the ilk is almost always “Yes, but it may be tougher” | /r/ExRedPill | 05/02/26 09:25 AM |
| 1 | Do you know any women who love their stay-at-home husbands? I'm young, 17, and I'm coming off the red pill.When I was in my mid 20s, I was doing night shift grunt warehouse work while living with my parents. I still had women interested in me who had cars, corporate jobs and flats. Some people want to audit your financial status before dating you, yes but the majority probably don’t. If a woman wants a dude who earns more than her, then no she won’t want a stay at home husband. Similarly if you really don’t want to be one, you aren’t forced to do it. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/26 09:15 PM |
| 3 | The main pillars of the redpill are jealousy and envy, of other men.This is where many of the issues I have with TRP sit. On the surface, I’d agree with Rallo’s base view that it’s taken for granted how much that attraction is often influenced by signals like confidence, competence, health, social proof etc. The issue is that he deems the learning to be taken is that dating is a zero sum dominance game and women + other single men are the opponents. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/26 09:06 PM |
| 4 | Being vulnerable is badYou’re being very black and white with vulnerable here. Just by virtue of asking someone out, you’re putting yourself in the position of being rejected, so being vulnerable. I don’t agree with spewing all your childhood trauma on a first date or dumping your baggage on your partner either, nonetheless. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/25 04:49 PM |
| 4 | Being vulnerable is badI disagree with this. I still think guys who have had experience that lines up with Red Pill theory should still post their experience, so that we can challenge their views and potentially help them along to a healthier mindset. I don’t think it’s realistic to expect guys looking to move away from the Red Pill to do a complete 180, as opposed to a gradual shift | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/25 04:47 PM |
| 2 | Journalist looking for helpI don’t think struggling dudes looking for dating advice start off with no ideology. I think they work with the ideology that commonly espoused dating advice doesn’t work, thus are more open-minded to advice that goes against the grain. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/11/25 10:09 PM |
| 3 | Hamza Ahmed accused of using steroids but admitted using TRTPresenting yourself natural while on TRT is deceptive. I don’t know the dude so won’t pass further comment | /r/ExRedPill | 01/11/25 12:19 AM |
| 9 | How much does status and experience matter?Women may not be thinking of the discrete categories you speak of. It may just be “he looks cute and fun, why not grab a drink with him?” I can’t/won’t diagnose you but it seems like a form of impostor syndrome or low self esteem. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/10/25 01:21 AM |
| 3 | Journalist looking for help“TRP works” is self-reporting, not causal analysis. What constitutes working? We also don’t reliably know whether to ascribe credit to the conventionally accepted stuff they say e.g. self-improvement or whether it’s the gamey stuff they say. I also think TRP advice working better than advice espoused by mothers, teachers and mainstream society is simply not a high bar. It’s also worth noting that TRP and the things they espouse are negative and their adopting their world view can have a negative… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/10/25 04:58 PM |
| 3 | Journalist looking for helpI don’t agree with this. I think most dating advice is shit (or the advice I’d been given). As such any dudes looking for dating advice will be funnelled to TRP, Tate etc. Additionally Tate targets younger and more impressionable viewers. I think directionless and naive young men are probably one of the easiest groups to imprint ideologies on. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/10/25 12:26 PM |
| 8 | The Kaká/"too perfect" divorce story is being used to validate RP theories. As ex-Red Pill, how do we dismantle this narrative?IrishShee has provided some comprehensive reasons to challenge the view. However, devil’s advocate that we take the story as 100% true, I still don’t think it’s something to rebut. There’s a billion sexually active women or so, I’d be more surprised if you couldn’t find an anecdote of one woman behaving in or fitting their world view. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/10/25 09:08 AM |
| 7 | My bf who’s addicted to rp and chan sites found my post and now he’s madI didn’t and won’t defend the decorum or virtue of 4chan. I was responding to “why does anyone find it fun?”. The full anonymity and lack of any karma, upvote and rep system makes it one of the places where people (for better or for worse) are in their most open and true form. Which I think you can figure why there’d be some intrigue. In your own post you mention how people can see first hand the views why may affect real life discourse. Young men going on shock sites isn’t a new thing, my fathe… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/10/25 01:44 PM |
| 5 | My bf who’s addicted to rp and chan sites found my post and now he’s madWhen I used it (at his age), I worked on the basis of 90% shit and 10% gold. There’s no karma, no clout, zero “cost” and full anonymity; so it was the most open and honest place on the Internet. I’m not going to defend it, but seeing humans in their most honest form was intriguing. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/10/25 10:23 AM |
| 15 | My best friend is engaged to a red pill conservative and I don’t know what to do.Your choices realistically are making peace with it (which doesn’t seem likely) or cutting her off. Cutting her off doesn’t have to be a dramatic exit, just fading out and if she asks explain why but don’t try and pursuade her. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/10/25 03:12 AM |
| 7 | Why is the "Nofap" movement a thing on the right??A lot of nofap’s proponents go ott and list nonsense health benefits. They can’t prove the health benefits or anything, so it’s the fake news health/government/porn industry are lying to you. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/07/25 01:53 PM |
| 3 | Who are the 'top' Manosphere influencers out there? Besides Andrew Tate.I’m not the guy you were responding to. I was just commenting that you seemed very defensive and proud of your profession, but had little details and expected curiosity. I think that by being more forthcoming about this stuff, you might be able to get more people open to your ideas. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/06/25 09:29 PM |
| 14 | Who are the 'top' Manosphere influencers out there? Besides Andrew Tate.It’s on you to give a brief of your show, not everyone else to ask the relevant questions for you to give info. This isn’t Oprah or Joe Rogan | /r/ExRedPill | 23/06/25 05:59 PM |
| 1 | How do i get out of the common “The world is against us “mindset men face?There are objective issues men face. It’s a hard time to be a man, hence why TRP, MGTOW, Tate, Incels communities are growing. I’d just focus on what you can do and what you can change. You can’t become a woman and have some of the advantages (and disadvantages) they have and you can’t become a boomer and have some of the (and disadvantages) they have. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/06/25 09:30 AM |
| 0 | Why The Red Pill Is NOT For Asian MenYou very clearly didn’t know all that, which is why you’ve claimed that “the subtleties weren’t interesting” when I asked you on fairly basic differences which form a large part of each group’s key beliefs. Frankly, if someone took the time to write a very detailed response on a topic I had little idea on - I’d be grateful. You repeatedly claim to be here because you don’t like TRP’s views on women and its effects on subscribers, but for whatever reason this has manifested in you adamantly tryin… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/24 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Why The Red Pill Is NOT For Asian MenThe Black Pill is very fatalistic and nihilistic - it generally encourages the users to give up on life/themselves. Immutable characteristics e.g. face, race, height etc are often pushed to the front of why users aren’t getting laid and will never be able to. Phrases like “it’s over” i.e. it’s infeasible for the person in question to have a dating life are common. Then there’s stuff like LDAR (lay down and rot), other stuff like NEETing is widely encouraged and as such they have an overwhelming … | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/24 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Need a mentor (specifically one that’s also queer)I imagine most ex-red pill guys here are straight dudes who wanted to bolster their chances with women. Realistically, it’d be your best bet to get either a therapist (or friend of a therapist is prohibitively expensive) to work through your issues. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/24 05:28 PM |
| 0 | Why The Red Pill Is NOT For Asian MenUnfortunately, people like you just are a cause of why places like TRP have support. You’ve just seen a criticism of The Red Pill and because TRP is poor source material you’ve decided it must be true. For whatever reason, you’re insistent that Red and Black Pill use the exact same rhetoric, which isn’t true at all - as they have pretty different viewpoints and neither group has much love for the other. If “the only reason [you’re] here is because of the maladaptive BS TRP teaches”, as you claim… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/24 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Why The Red Pill Is NOT For Asian MenAgreed, hence why I didn’t think it seemed like a very accurate or fair critique of the Red Pill | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/24 12:02 PM |
| 0 | Why The Red Pill Is NOT For Asian MenThere are plenty of clear differences in the red and black pill; as a starting point, the usage of terms “currycel” and “ricecel” - which there’s not a single use of on the entire TRP so it’s an unfair criticism. If it’s just “I don’t like Group X and Group Y so criticisms of them can be used interchangeably” type group think, it’s a bit lazy. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/24 06:36 AM |
| 3 | Why The Red Pill Is NOT For Asian MenI’ve had a look (and far be it from me to defend TRP), but there’s no mention on their subreddit of the terms “ricecel” and “currycel”. It doesn’t really strike me as TRP lingo, more so incel. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/09/24 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with contradictionsHalf of people meeting offline doesn’t mean online is irrelevant. Online is a massive pool of people. It’s also obtuse and pedantic to insinuate it’s irrelevant because some of the people who meet online aren’t from dating apps. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/09/24 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Approaching 30 and scared of the modern woman’s body countNever really cared about a woman’s body count even in my RP days. So what if she got drunk and had some one night stands? I find it worse imagining that my partner had passionate sex with her ex bf for years and years and years. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/09/24 12:39 PM |
| 0 | Dealing with contradictionsI agree with most of this and think it’s a good response. There are a couple of points I don’t agree on though. You say he shouldn’t fully tie his self-worth to dating apps, which I agree with. However, half of couples meet online (and it may be more). Dating apps are the most effective way to meet people in this day and age, so factoring his success in there as a way of judging his attractiveness to the opposite gender is quite reasonable in my view. Even if we look at the 50% of people who don… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/09/24 12:34 PM |
| 2 | Did you genuinely believe you were enlightened or was it a coping mechanism?A lot of dating advice men receive is shit and contradictory just world fallacy. TRP is detailed and has some form of coherent structure, so is easy to fall into. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/09/24 12:03 PM |
| 8 | I took the blackpill and I’m spiraling out of control now. Want change.I’ll echo what Justwannaread3 said and get therapy, or simply talk it over with a friend you trust. I think the issues are far more deep-seated than I’d reliably trust to be fixed on here | /r/ExRedPill | 04/09/24 06:52 PM |
| 7 | My Cousin (14) is an Andrew Tate fan, how do I show him the truth?He isn’t getting laid, he believes Andrew Tate will get him laid. He will support Tate unless he fails to get laid and he re-assesses or finds a better way. I’d simply say you or his dad show him the ways of interacting with women and forming romantic connections with them. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/09/24 08:14 PM |
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