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Inner Game DrinksAreOnTheHouse/r/seduction22/08/22 05:13 PM
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3

All the “game BS stuff” comes naturally if you had deep self-worth. You dont need to think about it because you behave it.
/r/seduction11/07/26 10:05 PM
1

Wait are you talking about me? Lol
/r/seduction29/06/26 01:10 AM
1

Treat each woman as an individual. The best catches have seen every trick in the book and can smell fake men who are treating it like a game.
/r/seduction28/06/26 09:34 PM
8

Good answer. Other guys on this thread, you cannot approach women like a dataset. They are human and sensitive, emotionally-driven people. You need to understand subtlety, empathy, psychology. Please stop thinking that getting laid is some kind of thing you need to “hack”. Please take my word for this. I’ve been with many beautiful women over my life. I don’t need to prove myself, but just trust me.
/r/seduction27/06/26 08:20 PM
1

Its all about directing your focus and prioritizing energy on your own personal development financially, creatively, etc
/r/seduction26/06/26 11:14 PM
16

You're not too old for cold approaches. This is how you should be doing things all the time. Levels of attraction are much higher when the approach works because its more romantic than apps. There's a difference. Get active. Go to classes, museums, outdoor running clubs, coffee shops/bars, art gallery opening, philanthropy events, galas, fundraisers. Google that stuff in your area. Just get in the habit of chit-chat with anyone and build that muscle. Chit-chat with everyone, big smile, project c…
/r/seduction21/06/26 02:41 PM
0

Women like men who value and prioritize themselves
/r/seduction20/06/26 07:52 PM
2

You seem defensive and I know my history and experience with top women. I come to this seduction subreddit mostly to share knowledge and help guys who seem to be struggling with women. If you want to consistently sleep with top tier women (models, socialites, etc) Id suggest a different mindset, particularly the one i described. If you want to sleep with trashy unstable basic chicks with daddy issues so you can feel good about yourself, then go speed-running.
/r/seduction20/06/26 03:32 PM
6

Title is ridiculous. Some need time to sleep with you. Slow is fast. Trying to speed-run to getting laid almost always fails.
/r/seduction19/06/26 04:35 PM
11

Dont have sex with her until you actually like her
/r/seduction21/07/25 01:02 PM
1

I agree. He is self-deprecating and charming. He can be suggestive in a forward and confident way but never makes a woman uncomfortable.
/r/seduction11/07/25 12:47 PM
1

You can have it too
/r/seduction11/07/25 12:01 AM
11

Make her feel safe emotionally, physically, and financially.
/r/seduction09/07/25 12:21 AM
3

I think it was her being uninhibited with her goofy humor and her genuine excitement to be around me and see me.
/r/seduction06/07/25 01:16 PM
2

Im also gonna add one more thing. “Game” and tests are innate when you have genuine self-respect and self-esteem. You dont need to manufacture responses like all this “seduction” how and when and what. You’ll just do it. Work on your self-respect and self-esteem and you’ll do everything naturally.
/r/seduction22/06/25 06:56 PM
23

Why would you even tolerate someone who is demeaning? Thats disrespecting yourself
/r/seduction22/06/25 02:28 PM
167

I wouldn’t date a woman who said that to me
/r/seduction22/06/25 12:03 PM
1

As soon as you need to fake confidence with all these hacks, you’ve lost. Do you realize if you work on yourself and really build a healthy self esteem you will do all these things naturally? Thats the inner game everyone looks for.
/r/seduction23/05/25 12:28 PM
1

Yes
/r/seduction21/05/25 12:11 AM
1

Im getting close to leaving this subreddit.
/r/seduction20/05/25 11:10 PM
25

Need to jump in here. My last girlfriend of approximately two years was a legit 9. She had gorgeous striking exotic face, a body like Victoria secret model. Huge personality, dynamic. Funny, She was worldly, etc. but she had deep issues that troubled her throughout her life and never got resolved despite therapy. I left her and I feel relieved. I had to wrestle with the decision for a long time, but at the end of the day you have to choose peace. This isn’t a thing about being a leader or strong…
/r/seduction17/05/25 11:56 AM
3

Over five years, I went from living at my parents unemployed to making multiple 6 figures working in tech. Change is possible but it happens under constant pressure and over time.
/r/seduction16/05/25 12:25 PM
1

This is the truth and reaffirms being the best version of yourself. Inner and outer work.
/r/seduction11/05/25 02:26 AM
1

Get into a rhythm of dating without expectations. Work the apps, go out a lot. It’ll happen
/r/seduction02/05/25 09:35 PM
1

I stopped reading after your first sentence. You cant fall in love with someone over a weekend. Thats projection of a fantasy and infatuation
/r/seduction27/04/25 08:39 PM
4

Have your wife with you. She will break barriers that you cant
/r/seduction23/04/25 09:12 PM
12

Bingo!
/r/seduction20/04/25 12:01 PM
64

No, if they are interested in you, they will make it easy for YOU to approach them and ask them out.
/r/seduction20/04/25 12:00 PM
2

Playfulness and spike emotions
/r/seduction20/04/25 12:35 AM
2

I just dont have the interest in dating multiple women. I have too many other interests and hobbies. For me its binary: 1 or 0 girls
/r/seduction19/04/25 09:36 PM
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They do. Just because they get a lot of attention, it doesn’t mean it’s the attention they want.
/r/seduction17/04/25 11:36 AM
2

Whats wrong with you? You’re overcompensating with something aggressive because you think being a normal person isn’t interesting enough for her. No dont start like that. Try “Hi, I’m [name]. How are you? Having a good weekend?”
/r/seduction15/04/25 11:55 PM
1

You dont. You figure it out and proceed in one of two directions after
/r/seduction12/04/25 05:13 PM
15

They’re absolutely signs. It can be leaning close, long warm eye contact, grin/smiling. But mostly it’s a gut feeling…Your body will tell you. When you feel it, dont second guess it. Thats your sign.
/r/seduction12/04/25 03:43 PM
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This is the answer that every guy needs to hear but this subreddit wont accept it.
/r/seduction03/04/25 12:56 PM
3

Just my experience is the hottest girls take time
/r/seduction30/03/25 08:03 PM
6

You guys are stupid. Not every girl has sex on date 2. She’s feeling you out. Take her on a few dates and spend time with her.
/r/seduction30/03/25 01:24 PM
1

What women are attracted to is a man who prioritizes his mission and purpose because subconsciously it signals he will be a good mate and provider. When he gets too caring on the woman and not his mission, subconsciously he is signaling he is not focused on keeping her safe, winning, being fed, or protected. That turns her off. It’s a basic instinct. The way to express love is to give her your full attention, emotions, appreciation when you have slayed the dragons.
/r/seduction26/03/25 09:31 PM
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Youre gonna make a lot of money if you market this well to incels. Having said that, women arent a code to crack. Humans are complex. The only thing you should focus on is being the best version of yourself and behave in ways have highest probability of generating a positive emotional reaction in women you are interested in.
/r/seduction25/03/25 06:37 PM
1

Nope. combine Money, confidence, and humor and you’re unstoppable
/r/seduction20/03/25 12:27 AM
1

YouTube is free and there are some excellent non-toxic coaches who give advice
/r/seduction14/03/25 09:47 PM
2

Sorry to hear this, it must be frustrating. I think consider a dating coach. I would not be defeated by saying you’re not good looking enough or you’re not lucky enough. There is always something you can do. Additionally, I’ve learned women don’t put a premium on physical attraction the same way that men do. There isn’t a Sports Illustrated where there are men in bathing suits on beachs for women to oogle at. Women are attracted to successful, confident, funny, powerful men. Just because you as …
/r/seduction14/03/25 07:47 PM
0

Didnt anyone ever tell you numbers and luck are correlated. The more darts you throw, the more likely you’re gonna hit a bullseye
/r/seduction14/03/25 07:39 PM
3

You absolutely need to activate a women’s emotions to seduce them.
/r/seduction07/03/25 11:19 PM
3

I once took a date to a bar where unknowingly my previous date bartended.
/r/seduction06/03/25 10:28 PM
3

Do the approach. Once ice is broken, anxiety melts away. Do this enough time, you just realize that little leap is nothing
/r/seduction04/03/25 09:10 PM
6

Jesus christ guys, get a pair. Just live your life and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Life is full of rejection. Focus on becoming a best version of yourself and things will come together
/r/seduction28/02/25 02:50 AM
1

Well ask yourself: Can a fat chick get the interest of a fitness trainer guy?
/r/seduction27/02/25 11:56 AM
1

All things the same, women find success, money, and power very sexy
/r/seduction26/02/25 03:58 PM
1

Ive been around. Sleeping around a lot is a lot of self validation. Not much more upon reflection. If you find someone you connect with and have chemistry, go for it 1-1.
/r/seduction19/02/25 03:39 AM
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Some girls wait much much longer. They actually want to know the guy wants the be with them.
/r/seduction18/02/25 07:17 PM
2

I dare you to
/r/seduction12/02/25 01:03 PM
5

99.9% chance this will be a dramatic and chaotic disaster ahead
/r/seduction06/02/25 08:40 PM
1

Text around lunch the next day
/r/seduction04/02/25 02:03 AM
1

Dude make sex like an experience thats at a pace where she can just go with the flow. Its like a dance. Porn gets a lot of shit wrong. Girls dont like getting pounded out often or spun around mechanically. It’s open-ended, good rhythm, trust, sensitive, tension-building. Let her think she has all the time in the world to feel whatever she needs to feel.
/r/seduction03/02/25 01:51 AM
2

Take your time.
/r/seduction02/02/25 07:38 PM
3

Find a way to value yourself for you in a deep way, and all of this seduction stuff will happen naturally. Iykyk.
/r/seduction31/01/25 03:36 AM
1

Pilates. You’re welcome
/r/seduction31/01/25 02:45 AM
1

Pilates. You’re welcome
/r/seduction31/01/25 02:44 AM
3

Be very present with them. The only thing that matters is fun right now
/r/seduction24/01/25 02:19 AM
1

Every girl ive ever dated or hooked up with, with exception to a few, I met in person. I think it is way, way, way easier than online dating. For the life of me, I dont understand swiping. You dont hear their voice, you dont experience chemistry, pheromones, witty banter, physical connection, flirtation, or anything. I promise you odds of success for whatever you are looking for are better when you approach in person. Lose the phone.
/r/seduction23/01/25 10:29 PM
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Here is the reality. If youre a hot girl, you match 100% with everyone. But youre paralyzed by options and you dont have direction
/r/seduction19/01/25 06:34 AM
3

The answer this subreddit needs to have posted daily
/r/seduction03/10/24 01:43 PM
12

There isnt a code to women. Each girl is different and your approach should be flexible depending on your audience but adhering to certain principles.
/r/seduction01/10/24 02:05 AM
1

Slippery slope. Depends how you engage the women. The key is for the women to show they think you’re awesome. But if you reciprocate like a cocky player, it can be a turn off to other women.
/r/seduction25/09/24 12:15 AM
1

You just need to experience your effect on the external world consistently enough to rely on the data
/r/seduction24/09/24 01:10 AM
19

Says something like “been a long week, just needed to get out to unwind”
/r/seduction18/09/24 08:43 PM
2

The flaw is in your logic of being a nice guy. You can be nice and kind but still have boundaries and self worth. You dont necessarily need to be a people pleaser and diminish yourself while also being a gentleman.
/r/seduction13/09/24 11:41 PM
4

Sex is personal and emotional for women. Its not like playing pingpong.
/r/seduction04/09/24 10:29 PM
0

Im exhausted by saying this in this subreddit but looks have way less to do with getting a hot girl than presumed. Confidence, Humor, Charm, Intellect, Interests, Status, Money hold massive premiums in seduction for a guy. You can be a mid guy with all of those qualities and do extremely well. If you are a physically attractive guy and dont have those things, you ain’t going nowhere. What are attractive to men are not the same as what is attractive women. Think feel and emotionally respond diffe…
/r/seduction29/08/24 08:13 PM
4

Yes, if you’re getting introduced. Thats not an accident. Chat for a bit and pay attention to signals, smiling, hair touching, laughing, etc.
/r/seduction20/08/24 09:38 PM
1

Its your game.
/r/seduction20/08/24 09:22 PM
3

Actually “self-worth” solves everything. It changes how you feel about yourself and rejection. And it creates a halo effect on how people treat you, especially women. Your behavior changes and you’ll attract a huge amount for attention and peace of mind instead of chasing women’s validation.
/r/seduction20/08/24 12:10 PM
40

If youre center of attention at a party, dancing, being extroverted, they will move into your orbit. But its less common they explicitly approach. It’s really important to pay attention to subtle things that women do to invite you to hit on them. Their invitation to hit on you is their “approach”. So if she stands closer to you, smiles, makes eye contact, etc— she is approaching you by creating the opportunity for you to hit on her.
/r/seduction19/08/24 07:07 PM
10

There is no competition. When you understand that mindstate, you’ll get the girl.
/r/seduction12/08/24 09:15 PM
4

Guys, if a girl texts you, respond in a reasonable time and ask her out for a date. Dont chitchat. Women can smell games like weird texting.
/r/seduction10/08/24 07:12 PM
1

You can do a lot of things right that can build attraction. Confidence, Purpose, Drive, Style, Adventure, Attitude do all that. As long as you are not a total dog, physical attraction is not as big as you’d think. Just because its important to men, doesnt mean it holds the same weight for women.
/r/seduction31/07/24 04:23 PM
3

Thanks. Also should have added, dont worry about other guys getting her attention or hitting on her. Guys have done this before you and will do this while youre with her forever. What might scare you is normal to her. But she’ll do what shes always has done, send them to Spam. People rarely leave someone for something “better” if the dating and the relationship is progressing intimately and healthily.
/r/seduction25/07/24 07:20 PM
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My gf is a 9, super hot, witty, worldly, desired. Guys hitting on everyday her is the norm. She doesn’t actually know any different. It’s like Spam in her inbox. 9/10s tend to be very loyal because their default is turning guys down. That’s a big unlock in your own mind-state and how to set yourself apart. With 9/10s - theyve seen it all. Don’t approach it with seduction or “game” mindset. They will sniff it out and you’ll be toast. Slow is fast. Be assertive, opinionated, & genuine. Plan activi…
/r/seduction24/07/24 08:54 PM
1

Unless they judge you for it, who cares
/r/seduction24/07/24 12:07 AM
1

They do it subconsciously to test your center. Also, some women enjoy the rollercoaster of emotional spikes.
/r/seduction15/06/24 02:59 PM
2

Temporarily. Someone will either get hurt, want to get serious, or find someone else.
/r/seduction23/05/24 01:46 AM
1

Quick cheek to cheek kiss. European style!
/r/seduction04/05/24 12:36 AM
13

This is the right answer. The only thing id add is that this does not mean to act like a jerk. Be a great man every step of the way.
/r/seduction01/04/24 12:44 AM
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The goal of my seduction skills was to ultimately be able to get the best girl I could. Im dating at super fine and fun girl now. Not really interested in playing the field anymore.
/r/seduction27/03/24 08:05 PM
5

Women who are interested make it easy for you to ask them out
/r/seduction06/10/23 12:00 PM
4

Two big ones: 1-Being treated nicely. People making an effort to accommodate you. Conversations and social interactions are pretty easy. 2-They jokingly make comments about your attractiveness. People bring up your good looks casually or that your remind them of a certain actor, etc.
/r/seduction23/05/23 03:36 PM
1

Im on Raya too! Its not everything its cracked up to be but thats where the 8,9,10s swipe.
/r/seduction10/05/23 08:27 PM
7

Also, you all should realize its not 1-1. Statistically, top 20% of the men sleep with 80% of the women.
/r/seduction10/05/23 11:50 AM
129

I have to disagree again. I think the stereotype that rich guy = boring is a cliche from movies. Most rich & successful guys arent boring and have a true abundant mindset. They usually have pretty cool life experiences, skills, access, and connections. They ride horses, fly airplanes, own multiple homes, surf & ski in exotic locations, understand good cuisine & art and know foreign cultures/languages, and are fashionable. These guys are friends with diplomats, know famous people & celebrities, a…
/r/seduction09/05/23 08:40 PM
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It all depends on your standards. If you want that 8, 9, 10 girl, you’re in for heavy competition. There are some real billionaires, trust fund kids, hedge fund/IBankers, international playboys, famous musicians, actors, male models etc that you’re coming up against for that top level girl. NYC attracts a lot of ambitious guys who are here to win. So, your argument works for the 0-7 women. But after that, make sure your game is tight because any girl over 8 just has to open her Raya app and she …
/r/seduction09/05/23 05:43 PM
2

We know what they are. genuinely exhibiting them is the challenge
/r/seduction27/10/22 07:12 PM
2

Have sex whenever shes ready for it
/r/seduction26/10/22 02:40 AM
2

Your primary objective is to become the best version of yourself. That comes from within.
/r/seduction26/10/22 01:34 AM
2

Keep going.
/r/seduction21/10/22 09:30 PM
2

Upgrade yourself and have fun while doing it. All good things flow from self-improvement!
/r/seduction21/10/22 06:29 PM
1

This is going to sound silly, but us guys are actually quite simple. We get turned on but confidence, tight bodies, sexy outfits, and spontaneity. Despite what people say that guys are "dogs", the good news is that we can be loyal like dogs, too. But truth is guys also have a tendency to want "fresh and new", too. My suggestion is: step your game up a little in terms of self-improvement. These things do not need to be dramatic changes. He already loves you for you. Its about a small tweaks -- sp…
/r/seduction21/10/22 05:27 PM
4

Go to bars, coffee shops, parties each day. Start shooting your shot. If your game is good and you got your shit together, you’ll get laid. But I think youre in a victim mindset and girls will sniff that out. So, fix that, get your confidence up and go get em
/r/seduction03/10/22 01:06 AM
1

No, but remember convo in seduction should elicit an emotional response. Whole intelligence is attractive, convo should be stimulating.
/r/seduction19/09/22 02:55 PM
1

Upvote this man 👆🏼
/r/seduction14/09/22 01:46 AM
1

Very cool. Keep up the good work on your channel. Great that you’re helping people.
/r/seduction04/09/22 05:36 PM
1

Change your attitude immediately
/r/seduction30/08/22 10:15 PM
2

This comes from a real place. Great insights
/r/seduction28/08/22 09:23 PM
1

You get this question less as you get older. By the time you are 30 years old girls dont even bother.
/r/seduction28/08/22 12:37 PM
4

the more you do it, the better you get.
/r/seduction27/08/22 04:13 PM
3

This girl is bad news.
/r/seduction25/08/22 09:36 PM
1

Truth is it took a long time to understand how things are and if I can help others then great. Im still a work in progress and have a long way to go. Always learning and growing
/r/seduction23/08/22 03:52 PM
0

Have you ever heard of the comedian Jamel Debbouze? He only has one hand. His wife outrageously beautiful. I dont think she minds about how he looks because he is the man
/r/seduction23/08/22 01:04 AM
1

Epic. I with you on this.
/r/seduction22/08/22 09:28 PM
4

I don't think it really matters what her reaction is. Approach a beautiful woman if you want to. It's not magic. Sometimes it goes well. More often, it doesn't. If it does, great. If it doesn't, approach another girl you'd like to get to know. The one's that like you will find it very sexy.
/r/seduction22/08/22 06:59 PM
2

It's not about "showing" confidence. Its about deeply being confident. Because a confidence man deeply: values himself (high value = that's attractive) goes for what he wants (he's a winner & provider) doesn't care what others think or external validation (he is alpha & leader) If are truly confident and are a 6, you will have more success in the long-run than an insecure / approval seeking beta male who is an 8 or a 9.
/r/seduction22/08/22 06:37 PM
9

I think wires are getting crossed. Slapping a girls ass is not a sign of confidence at all. Its rude, aggressive, and disrespect. Consider an alternative of what I think IS confident: "Hi, My name is XXX. I saw you standing here and think you're super beautiful. Can I buy you a drink?" If she says "No thanks, sorry", then a truly confident man says "No worries. It was nice to meet you regardless. Have a great night.". And, then move on to another women that catches your eye.
/r/seduction22/08/22 06:27 PM
1

Attractiveness only opens the door and gives you some flexibility to make mistakes. From there, True inner game of a purpose driven man makes the difference.
/r/seduction22/08/22 04:33 PM
9

They make decisions based on emotion, not reason.
/r/seduction22/08/22 04:30 PM
1

Complement their outfit. Then shift to how it complements their body. Then say they keep it great shape. Slowly get to how you think how attractive they look all together.
/r/seduction18/08/22 07:34 PM
1

Answer will always be - focus on “doing you” and doing cool shit with or without a girl. Without fail, every time i stop looking for a girl and just go on “adventure mode” tearing it up, women throw themselves at me. Every time I look to settle down, women scatter. Lol.
/r/seduction17/08/22 03:01 PM
1

If you have to ask…
/r/seduction16/08/22 12:27 AM
7

Why the hell would you want to hang out with a girl that isn’t excited to hang out?
/r/seduction15/08/22 08:22 PM
2

Youre in the friendzone
/r/seduction14/08/22 11:21 PM
1

“Depends how annoying you are” lol
/r/seduction14/08/22 05:52 PM
2

Not if she likes you more.
/r/seduction14/08/22 05:51 PM
2

Lots of girl love it
/r/seduction13/08/22 12:03 PM
1

One girl that i cant get enough of
/r/seduction12/08/22 01:11 PM
1

What girls say and what they want are not aligned
/r/seduction11/08/22 08:05 PM
1

She knew who she was, she knew who she wasnt. She could laugh at herself and at me while still being deeply respectful. She found my stupid things endearing. Lot of physical chemistry. I could go anywhere with her- black tie event or dive bar- and she could navigate the room effortlessly. She was smart. She was educated and raised well. Good self-esteem but knew not to take herself too seriously.
/r/seduction10/08/22 06:06 PM
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Going back to the classic saying: what women say and what they want arent aligned. I assure you, if she finds you attractive, she’d be more than happy if you struck up a conversation.
/r/seduction09/08/22 10:59 AM
1

Do ever seek their approval. Be true to your wants and opinions.
/r/seduction07/08/22 11:35 PM
167

“You have an amazing body” will be the right thing to say 100 out of 100 times.
/r/seduction07/08/22 11:33 PM
1

Im older but dont waste your time chasing after a girl who offers nothing. Spend your time on elevating yourself and putting yourself in environments and circles where you can meet the dope catches.
/r/seduction07/08/22 09:44 PM
0

No, the best and most desirable women are fantastic partners. Thats why they are so desirable. They are beautiful physically but also smart, engaging, curious, supportive, adventurous, independent, ambitious, loyal, and nurturing, etc. Thats why they aren’t shallow and only care about looks. Thats why this whole obsession with being good looking is so stupid, Thats why they are attracted to men of substance who are confident, adventurous, social, emotional intelligent, success, financially abund…
/r/seduction07/08/22 09:02 PM
1

You guys needs to stop worrying about how physically attractive you are. I am an attractive guy but it only goes so far. Its not as important as you think to women. People on this subreddit use it as a victim mindset. So many other things make a man attractive to a woman other than your looks. Looks make it easier to attract initially but to be really desirable you need deep inner game, money, success, status, charm, humor, worldliness, class, confidence, sensitivity, emotional intelligence, int…
/r/seduction07/08/22 08:47 PM
3

Yes but not in that order: status, money, looks. Look at Pete Davidson. Dudes not attractive at all. Ton of status. Probably a few mill. Lots of confidence, charm, humor. He’s average looking.
/r/seduction07/08/22 08:36 PM
5

Also, if youre very good-looking and lack all those other things- you certainly laid, but the girl wont stick around or find you attractive long-term.
/r/seduction07/08/22 08:32 PM
5

Looks is less important to women than you think. Just dont be very ugly. If you are 5 or above, youre fine with almost any women (even IG models). If you are a guy, who speaks multiple languages, surfs, skis, plays an instrument, is confident-funny-sociable, has 3 vacation homes, dresses well, exercises daily, and have a big trust fund with millions and have good inner game—looks will be less important than you realize for a woman. Just because looks are important to men, doesnt mean it’s equall…
/r/seduction07/08/22 08:21 PM
4

Its part of being attractive.
/r/seduction07/08/22 08:11 PM
1

“Yeah, me too.”
/r/seduction07/08/22 12:04 PM
1

Said it before: What girls say and what they do are different. Ill bet you any girl who talks about fucking a lot is more prude than you realize….and vice versa. Dont talk about sex explicitly. Talk about how attractive she is, what she does thats a turn on. It doesn’t need to be physical. Could be a personality thing that you turn into a silly joke : “The way you knew exactly what you wanted to order for dinner was pretty awesome. Most girls dont do that. But you did. Actually, that was kinda h…
/r/seduction07/08/22 11:59 AM
15

Ive shared youe belief in your explanation for years. Ive have much more success in person than OLD
/r/seduction07/08/22 11:51 AM
1

Can you grow a beard? Shaved head an short beard can be a good look.
/r/seduction06/08/22 01:00 PM
13

What women actually want and what they say they want are not aligned. They don't know themselves or their motivations well.
/r/seduction05/08/22 11:25 PM
0

Wrong. Give a guy a 9 figure bank account and watch what happens.
/r/seduction05/08/22 11:24 PM
97

If you’re a hot girl, there is always men involved on some spectrum - texting, chatting, dating, flirting, sleeping with, etc. 100% always.
/r/seduction04/08/22 12:56 PM
1

I know. But when a girls talks about omakse or tulum or some other basic stuff in first dates, I know to move on.
/r/seduction04/08/22 11:55 AM
1

I want to be with a girl who is independent and industrious/entrepreneurial. I want someone who has a lot of gratitude and has a positive mind-state. I want to be with someone who has a lot of interest in self-improvement and personal development. A person who is curious and wants to learn. Sense of humor, light-hearted, witty. There are other things too but these are really important to me.
/r/seduction04/08/22 12:55 AM
1

You’re here because you have a victim mindset.
/r/seduction04/08/22 12:15 AM
10

Extroverted, unattached to any particular outcome, warm smiles all around, relaxed
/r/seduction03/08/22 10:42 PM
1

Everything you said, I struggle with too. I think what I try to do now is date with ‘intention’. In the past, I would be out to be casual and sleep around. In my gut, I knew what had potential. Now I’m more critical (within reason because I know no one is perfect)
/r/seduction03/08/22 11:00 AM
23

Ive dated women from all over the world and and some point you need to ask - why am I being literally an “international playboy”? This is not about virtue signaling or humble bragging. Its about feeding an ego that feels like it needs to prove something. You end up doing yourself a disservice. Its wasting your time. Really sit with yourself and not waste the time when you could be enjoying something meaningful.
/r/seduction02/08/22 11:11 PM
74

This hits hard and is one of the most mature questions I've seen in while. I'm been taking my screening one-step further. When I approach a girl in reality or virtually, I really ask myself "do I see a true future" Do I want to spend my limited precious time with this person? In my gut, it it is no, then move on. Don't waste her or your time. Start searching for the values you want, not something superficial.
/r/seduction02/08/22 06:46 PM
12

Personally, I would stick to the date you have set on Sunday. Thank her for the invite regardless. Keep busy and non-attached by having your own thing and personal life. But listen to your own gut, not some stranger on reddit. Just my two cents!
/r/seduction30/07/22 12:25 AM
16

Tricky situation. On one hand, she is pulling you into her frame (not ideal). Also, its the first date in a group (also not ideal). Im going to play contrarian to other people here, if she wants to see you, she will see you 1-1. If she ghosts you for not showing to this, she was not good material. Id suggest maybe meeting in person in a chill way first.
/r/seduction30/07/22 12:10 AM
10

Go after the thing that scares you. As you conquer it, you will believe in yourself more. Take on challenges and persevere.
/r/seduction29/07/22 10:08 PM
5

Are you dead? No. Are you still alive? Yes. Learn and adapt! Go get em!
/r/seduction29/07/22 04:56 PM
2

Bartenders and waitresses are the hardest in the game from my experience. But anything is possible right?
/r/seduction28/07/22 10:26 PM
0

Completely wrong. I know plenty of guys who are traditionally average who have pulled gorgeous women. The reason: confidence, charm, sense of humor, professional drive. Women dont care about looks as much as you think. Its a nice to have, not need to have. A man is a holistic thing to them. We as men, are so focused on physical traits of women, we struggle to understand that. Its part of our wiring and what makes men and women different.
/r/seduction27/07/22 01:16 PM
5

It takes some time. Women dont want to just have sex. They want to feels safe with you, too. They want to trust you. They want to feel vulnerable. Yes, one night stands happen. But give her the opportunity to fall for you.
/r/seduction27/07/22 01:04 PM
22

I think its not just “attracted” but they feel safer. They know you are vetted and that goes far.
/r/seduction26/07/22 10:50 AM
1

Ive had success approaching women in the street.
/r/seduction25/07/22 12:37 AM
1

You are your only competition
/r/seduction24/07/22 01:41 AM
1

Last one, Hinge. Although I did meet another girl in person at a party this weekend. I just have a feeling we are going to get into something over the next weeks.
/r/seduction23/07/22 09:47 PM
1

Truth is yes. But its not going to be easy. Life is too short. And its not fair to you or her if this is how you really feel.
/r/seduction21/07/22 01:03 PM
1

Some insecure girls just need assurances and flirt with you to get validated without actually being attracted to you
/r/seduction12/07/22 12:37 PM
1

Agreed. This is why it’s impossible to negotiate almost anything when a woman is on her period. :)
/r/seduction12/07/22 12:34 PM
1

Know your own value
/r/seduction12/07/22 11:27 AM
2

Hang in there buddy!
/r/seduction08/07/22 09:52 PM
1

Some turned to dates. I kicked it with the painting girl for a few months. She was a nice girl. Some turned into one night stands. But, others less successful. Some never replied. Some ghosted me. You know how it goes. I recently got a girls # on the street while she was waiting for her friend to come down from her apartment. But we haven't met up yet. Its hard to diagnose what went wrong there. Maybe she's not attracted to me. Maybe she has another guy. Maybe she's just busy right now. It is my…
/r/seduction06/07/22 07:43 PM
1

The fast-moving cold approach is tricky. I've done a good amount of cold approaches and have successfully picked-up girls at street intersections, public parks, bars, etc. I never came in too "hot". I believe its about making the moment feel spontaneous, fun, and playful. I really think that is what works. I met a girl at an intersection while she was carrying a painting. We chatted about it and walked together for a few blocks and got her number within a few minutes. Public park, shared some of…
/r/seduction06/07/22 07:21 PM
1

Keep doing cold approaches but dont be sooo direct. Just chat, get her to laugh, get some banter going. Dont be a robot or so serious. Make asking her for number feel like an afterthought.
/r/seduction06/07/22 06:16 PM
2

Because what they say they want and what they actually want are two different things.
/r/seduction05/07/22 12:05 PM
1

From the outside, it doesn’t seem too egregious. It sounds like she likes hanging with you and isn’t too high maintenance. And, most of the really hot girls in the world are used to being paid for virtually 100% of the time. They almost dont know the difference. Dating a 9 or a 10 is crazy when you see how they experience and interact with the world. If she is a 9 or 10, she just doesn’t experience life like you do. Life is insane for those girls. But, Heres the last part Ill offer. Listen to yo…
/r/seduction04/07/22 03:24 PM
1

Im in a similar situation and its great. I wouldnt call myself a sugar daddy because its not “that” much money I’m spending. I do always pay for dinner and drinks. Thats totally fine for me. I dont buy her gifts, clothing, jewelry, shoes, vacations, etc. Honestly, shes young and doesnt have that much money. Shes still in medical school, too. So, I get it. I also like taking girls out and picking up the tab. Kinda feels nice and manly from my perspective. We have really good sex and see each othe…
/r/seduction04/07/22 03:03 PM
2

100% . Its called a one-night stand.
/r/seduction03/07/22 03:10 PM
1

Jesus, im gonna freestyle right here: -where you grew up -what things you liked in high school -what things you liked in college -tell me about your parents, siblings -favorite vacation -favorite hobbies -favorite books, movies, sports you like to watch -favorite food, restaurants, dishes like to cook -plays instruments? Favorite bands? Concerts? -ask deeper questions too: do you have phobias? -whats on your bucketlist for this year? in life? -ask about wellness habits, do you meditate? -talk ab…
/r/seduction02/07/22 05:03 PM
0

Bullshit about colleges for a bit and them just ask what year she was
/r/seduction02/07/22 02:11 PM
6

You are 100% wrong. I dont even need to spend the time explaining. Being attractive is a bonus, but inner game, having confidence, & being purpose-driven are what women are truly attracted to.
/r/seduction25/06/22 02:33 PM
4

With this attitude, youll never get laid. I guarantee it.
/r/seduction22/06/22 01:08 PM
5

Not really. I used to nail the living daylights out of an ex until she was quivering puddle. Next day she was still the same entitled spoiled brat.
/r/seduction22/06/22 12:13 PM
4

Some women dont. So yes believe her
/r/seduction21/06/22 11:43 PM
1

Get serious about the dating apps, go out more often, take more chances with cold approaches. Accept you will get more rejections than successes. Get over the fear of rejection. Don’t worry about your ego. You’ll get some momentum. I assure you if you get into a routine, you’ll learn from your mistakes and your game will improve. And youll be fine in no time. But lose the victim mentality first. You’re gonna crush it out there!
/r/seduction21/06/22 10:52 PM
4

Let the tension build. Build a little bit of physical rapport. then make a small move like a kiss.
/r/seduction21/06/22 10:43 PM
1

I dont have a girlfriend and my friends who are in relationships thing I’m the lucky guy cause Im always dating around. Dont be self-conscious and enjoy being the man who has options.
/r/seduction21/06/22 10:19 PM
1

Have you ever not felt this with a girl?
/r/seduction21/06/22 01:00 PM
13

This is one of the best answers
/r/seduction18/06/22 09:36 PM
1

Leadership, security, safety.
/r/seduction18/06/22 09:32 PM
15

Honestly, focus on doing cool and interesting things with your life because you are excited by those things. Don't do it for any other reason that you are passionate and goal-oriented. Eat, sleep, and dream those things for 6 months..... that's when the magic happens.
/r/seduction15/06/22 06:38 PM
9

Dude, dont have unprotected sex until you really know her and its exclusive.
/r/seduction10/06/22 07:17 PM
1

Paying for sex isnt going to make you more confident.
/r/seduction05/06/22 04:25 PM
6

Yeah, its over with him.
/r/seduction26/05/22 12:01 PM
2

Being good at seduction isnt about manipulation. You just have a lot of choice because you have the qualities and behaviors of an attractive person. So, if you make good choices, you live abundantly. So in short, there arent any.
/r/seduction19/05/22 03:21 AM
17

Dude, lifes short. Find a dope woman. Dont settle for shit.
/r/seduction10/05/22 02:41 AM
1

No. In the short term, your ego will be stroked. If you don't look inward at solving your insecurities on your own, it will makes you feel worse and more lonely.
/r/seduction09/05/22 10:28 PM
1

high probability it gets messy. its only so long two people can be physically intimate until real intimacy develops. Most people aren't sociopathic robots nor are we entirely control of our emotions. Do FWB long enough, at some point after sex, someone will likely want to cuddle, lol. I'd suggest not being cavalier about going into a FWB relationship. It will undoubtedly get complicated.
/r/seduction09/05/22 10:24 PM
4

there was a girl I was dating for a while, non-exclusively. after it really ended, she had a boyfriend 3 months after. I figure it takes 2-3 months of dating before you really get exclusive with someone. I think we all know what happened here. She was monkey-branching. It completely aligned with her character. Also, I don't feel weird about it. I wanted out of this BS.
/r/seduction03/05/22 09:08 PM
4

Dont get involved.
/r/seduction27/04/22 01:33 AM
1

It all depends on who the girl is and her level of attraction to you. If a girl is not so into you, something expensive can turn her off because it signals you overcompensating. If she is into you, she’ll find it charming and it can be a really nice romantic experience. Just know your audience.
/r/seduction25/04/22 02:27 PM
1

This is unusual. I always make some move on a girl but almost rarely assume Im going to sleep with her lm the first date. Good catches want to feel you out even if they are attracted to you. Even if they want to sleep with you on night one they hold out to test you and see how you hold your frame. Then date 2 is where things go down from my experience. Maybe your follow-up is the issue? Curious if you’d share how you are texting after the night.
/r/seduction24/04/22 05:30 PM
2

Yeah its hard but once you get it and understand it, it becomes easier and life really does fall together
/r/seduction10/04/22 01:31 PM
1

Legally its okay but Ive met some 19 year olds that are more emotionally mature and self-aware than some mid-20s. So honestly it depends.
/r/seduction14/03/22 12:24 AM
1

What kind of question is that? Yes
/r/seduction08/02/22 12:13 PM
2

Say “lets make a plan x at x time. See you then” and go for it
/r/seduction07/02/22 12:30 AM
1

You do have a point. But I think teasing implies that both and her are self-aware enough that it is a joke. Example : a girl says “i cant eat another bite”. If you say “i doubt that.” That would be insulting. If you said “sure, and fastfoward 30 mins from now youre watching the new sex and city movie eating pint of bonbons with your roommate” thats teasing.
/r/seduction31/01/22 02:59 AM
65

Girls like being teased, not insulted. Know the difference
/r/seduction29/01/22 03:11 AM
1

Show her
/r/seduction26/01/22 08:55 PM
3

Honestly, your problem is your attitude. You come off really entitled. Once you get passed that and you enjoy yourself and the process of dating / seduction, you’ll have more success. Rejection is part of the game.
/r/seduction23/01/22 11:04 PM
2

Just go for it.
/r/seduction23/01/22 10:59 PM
5

Smiling at you. Long eye contact.
/r/seduction22/01/22 12:17 AM
2

They “approach” you but making it obvious and easy for you to actually approach them.
/r/seduction22/01/22 12:16 AM
3

Have you ever been interrupted when you are in your flow trying to focus? You know how annoying that is? Yup! It wont go well.
/r/seduction20/01/22 06:23 PM
2

No, just don't manipulate people to do that. You can definitely have sex-only and be upfront about it. You're bad if you lie or manipulate someone about *anything* - not just sex.
/r/seduction19/01/22 10:27 PM
4

Shes probably rebounding. So be light, funny, flirty. Dont try to be someone youre not.
/r/seduction11/01/22 12:17 PM
4

Girls like appreciate hygiene more than guys think. Nice teeth, fresh breath, clean nails, smell good. It goes a longer way we realize.
/r/seduction08/01/22 06:41 PM
1

It takes a long time. You basically have to rewire how she views you and you have to change all your behaviors and rewrite the rapport you have with her. Not sure its the right move.
/r/seduction05/01/22 11:46 PM
2

Not as bad or as scary as you expected, right?
/r/seduction05/01/22 10:38 PM
1

most girls (or at least the hottest & best ones) are not going to sleep with you the first night. (admittedly, there are always outliers but its not the majority). If you're making out for the first time, assume that's as far as it goes. If she wants to go home with you, she'll find ways to hint it so you take action. Let them come to you more and maybe you'll get pleasantly suprised. It seems you might be forcing it too much if they aren't excited to see you a second time.
/r/seduction03/01/22 09:37 PM
2

Not your fault and not about you. Shes just a ho. She’ll do the same to that guy in another environment.
/r/seduction01/01/22 09:31 PM
1

This girl sounds like a problem. Keep your distance.
/r/seduction21/12/21 02:28 AM
2

Youll know
/r/seduction28/10/21 05:07 AM
0

“Great to hear from you! Really nice to hear that. When are you free to catch up over a few drinks this week?l
/r/seduction03/10/21 10:47 PM
4

The true inner game. Truly stop caring about it. Focus on your career, hobbies, friends, socializing. Get so busy with all of it that you dont even have time to chase a girl. Thats when the magic happens.
/r/seduction01/10/21 04:36 AM
1

Youll get compliments if the girl (or guy) feels comfortable enough to say them. Allow everyone feel comfortable around you and people will start sharing their feelings and the qualities they like about you.
/r/seduction29/09/21 03:33 PM
1

Late 20s into early 30s
/r/seduction29/09/21 01:02 PM
82

Careful with this. I think giving a girl a good orgasm goes further than denying her of one. It will give her a good association with you. Be good in bed will get the job done :)
/r/seduction26/09/21 04:32 PM
1

Less than an hour
/r/seduction21/08/21 02:16 PM
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