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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:09 PM
7

good god, YES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 08:22 PM
7

Why do I have to like men?! Whyyyyyyyyyyyy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:35 PM
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Beautiful thank you for writing this. 🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:33 PM
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😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 06:25 PM
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I haven’t really liked ANY of the men I have dated and yet I stuck around long enough to catch feelings. Thankfully, finally done the work to realize that and now working on just not doing it again. When I start dating again likely will ask my FDS community here about anything that doesn’t seem right. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:58 PM
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Love this! Thank you for sharing! Every time someone shares something like this it nudges me closer to true belief I'll find this kind of love too. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:53 PM
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Love her! 🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:01 PM
2

For me it would be a no. If he has already “overslept” on the second date then I doubt he’ll have the time management skills, mental resilience, and diligence to form a meaningful relationship the ‘busier’ he gets in school. School really isn’t an excuse. Easy? No. But if you are HV you make time. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:07 AM
19

Been there. Done that. 10/10 will NEVER do again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:20 PM
31

Always wanted a man in my life to buy me flowers. But I don’t have to wait for him (but I know he is out there somewhere!) I’ll start now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:12 PM
8

I have never wanted a wig until now. Gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:08 PM
2

Proud of you! Keep doing it. It will get easier. This is where the healing happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:03 AM
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I have not! Thank you for sharing. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 08:03 PM
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You are so welcome! Glad it helped you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:55 PM
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So glad it helped you. Many times I do this in front of the mirror. Sometimes it causes me to cry, sometimes to laugh, sometimes just looking at myself in silence. But it's powerful. Take yourself to the mirror and just say "I forgive you". It heals the soul. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:50 PM
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When these feelings come up, I make a sincere effort to say "I forgive you." And by, you, I mean myself. Forgiving myself for being so loving and caring that I was willing to do this but forgiving how lost I was to not have the self-respect to realize I was worth so much more. So I forgive myself daily for my past so I can live more brightly now. It's a journey and I'm still on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:08 PM
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same.... now which one do I get? there needs to be a followup post lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:43 AM
14

WOW. Thank you for this. This is exactly where I am at and needed to hear this. THANK YOU! If I had gold I'd give it. HVM do exist and one of them is my future partner. Affirming this now. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:03 PM
5

This is brilliant! What apps do you use, have a goal to start investing this year!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:50 PM
3

That seems like a reasonable approach. Thank you for the insight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:21 PM
6

This actually seem interesting. How did you find the group? Seems a way to get me out of my comfort zone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:19 PM
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I lasted an hour. Deleted once again! Thank you for taking the time to respond. On the upside, at least I maintain a sense of optimism I use to never have lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:16 PM
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You are right. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:15 PM
5

Yes, that is something that happened to me years ago when I tried it. You bring up good points. Thanks for your input.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:52 PM
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Yes, very well might be the rose colored glasses. And that is the date I'm imaging lol. I should just keep it as a dream and not ruin it perhaps! Thank you for your input.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:51 PM
5

Hey, thank you for the reply and your thoughts! And, I totally feel you! Sky high standards!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:49 PM
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I think I'm far enough away from my last relationship that the optimism of 'commitment' has resurfaced. Thank you for taking the time to respond and add constructive feedback.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:09 PM
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lolololol. i love this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:18 AM
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lololol, this is so true. I'm so proud of myself that now I'm just "byeeeeeeeee" every time. Wanna waste my time? Bye. Wanna call be beautiful and spend time with me but not date me? Bye. Want to talk about a "connection" and "be intimate" and "see where things go"? fuck no, bye. Bye, bye, bye, byeeeeeeee. I'm so much happier! I am freeeeee!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:56 PM
64

yep, always terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:52 PM
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I love this so deeply. Thank you for sharing. Trying to look up where it's from in J Raymond's work? No books or books of poems on Amazon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:11 PM
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sigh. does he exist? my goal this year is start believing its possible....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:01 PM
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YES!! This is so right! I feel so much more empowered and less alone. We aren't alone in these experiences and the more we speak up about it the more we protect the sisterhood. Love FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:39 PM
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What a beautiful spirit this woman has!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:38 AM
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I completely agree! I treasure my female friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:50 PM
10

🥰🥰🌞🌞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:25 PM
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#imtheone2021 #levelup2021 #onechance2021 #shinelikethesun2021 ..... just spitballing here.... take your pick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 10:49 PM
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The dudes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:11 AM
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oh em ghee, didn't realize this was a real thing. I'm dying lol. Wish there was a way to just send their profiles to their mom and poor girlfriends and watch them get soul-crushed by their own stupidity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:02 PM
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Omg, is this a series? *subscribed*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:16 PM
7

Yasss!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:45 AM
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It’s true though. As an adult I realize it was always my mother. My beautiful vibrant kind and magical mother. My father didn’t deserve her. May she Rest In Peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:37 AM
264

Thank you for making the change for a better life for yourself!! Welcome to the sunshine life 🌞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:00 PM
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Good job for staying strong and choosing YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:40 PM
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The truth hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:42 PM
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For me it’s any man who’s name starts with the letter C. Never ends well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 11:06 PM
3

That is so wonderful!! What a beautiful memory and a beautiful relationship :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:59 PM
11

Love this!! Monthly check in thread?? 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 09:35 PM
25

Where is this quoted from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:33 AM
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this is gold, thank you for what you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 05:25 PM
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Jokes on him. My happiness doesn't stem from things. Thank God I finally learned that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 05:22 PM
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What good examples to observe and be a part of their lives (and I'm sure same for them to you). Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:08 PM
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What dedication, respect, and love! Thank you for sharing this example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:08 PM
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It is adorable when he speaks about his wife, this is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:07 PM
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"You can never be a burden to me because you are always my #1 priority". And he really does try to live that every day. >>> love that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:07 PM
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Sounds like such a sweetheart!! Thank you for taking the time to share all of that. :) Gives me some hope and reminds me there ARE good men! And you, my dear, sound adorable! Be gentle and kind to yourself. That same man sees so much beauty and light in you I'm sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:07 PM
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Hey, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:05 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to reply and share in such detail. I appreciate you sharing this, sounds like a great man and relationship!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:05 PM
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Correct!! At the end of the day, in anything, we are what we choose to focus on! Let's focus on the good and let all the darkness and negativity fade away. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:04 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to share all of that! And it does sound like a good relationship and match between the 2 of you. So glad for you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:03 PM
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Glad you like it! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:03 PM
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and a sugar addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:14 PM
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been there done that, and best thing I got out of it is brought me to FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:44 PM
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I have nothing to add except, good writing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 11:51 AM
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I love this advice! Thank you for taking the time to write it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:26 PM
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Uhm, get him charged with ASSAULT? Then say, he assaulted me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:49 PM
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Thank you for that!! I'll report back in a couple months. I'll stay strong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:08 PM
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LOL, love that idea! * adjusts crown *
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:08 PM
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Thanks for the support!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:08 PM
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FACTS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:34 PM
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It's exhausting. But I agree, feeling the same. Would love to have someone in my life that adds to my life and I to their's. But the process is exhausting. Can't. And, I'm not allowing myself to get anymore cats. edit: apostrophe needed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:33 PM
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We shall stay strong together! Thank you for the support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:43 AM
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Needed this today!! Have to see an ex-situationship at the gym almost every day and I just try to avoid him at all costs. He 'didn't want a relationship' but wanted everything else. Pick me days behind me, still have to deal with him but I'm an Ice Queen now and every time he tries to charm me I act like he doesn't exist in the world and avoid him and hardly acknowledge his existence. It seemed today like his 'feelings were hurt' by my cold shoulder when I openly engaged amiably with others ....…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:12 PM
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I wish we could have a watch party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:39 PM
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He's just offended I squat heavier than him and can push a 600 lb sled and still look like a warrior goddess. Tough luck, Randy. Gonna be a no from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:01 PM
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LOL, this is so true!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:57 PM
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I love that for us too!! Yay for us and our own happiness! More sunshine in the world when we are at peace. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:49 PM
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How do I get involved in the 'Send Them To the Moon and Not Back Project 2021'? Please advise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:08 PM
10

Goodwill? The Red Cross? Ask someone else for baby clothes? There were literally SO MANY other options that going to your ex that is still recovering from the loss of her child. I can't. I don't follow AITA or other subs like that anymore, it's just too much. She is 1000% in the right for saying no. /end rant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:07 PM
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No truer words have been said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:11 PM
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I had one that would only reach out if she needed something. The people pleaser in me always being helpful.... but growing less responsive and less willing. Finally she wanted to know 'why aren't you responding to me?!' and I told her that she only seems to reach out when she needs something and never to ask about me and my life. She apologized and said she didn't want to lose me. So then I 'gave her a chance' and it appeared to change fora short time then back to the same thing. It's tough beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:11 PM
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I just hate cleaning the litter box :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 12:10 PM
2

Yas! Love that idea. I really want to get those hanging cat shelves so mine can climb on the walls, maybe even some cat walks. Seems fun for them and me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 12:10 PM
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Love your sweater. How many cats do you have?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:36 AM
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LOVE THIS! Congratulations on your divorce! It takes time to heal from one, be gentle on yourself. Eat well, cry when you need, dance around the house, keep pursuing things you love! (I went through one too, but I still hadn't quite learned my value until recently. The lightbulb has been switched on indefinitely.) And, yes, you will have *SO MUCH* more time. Not only are you no longer physically 'helping' someone else constantly but you have more mental and emotional energy as well. Being in a n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:09 PM
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For the life of me I can’t find it, but there was a message on Instagram I read shortly after I ended things with a situationship. It went along the lines of ‘when women stop wasting time with a man in their life— they end up starting a business, getting a degree, writing, being a total boss’ basically all of that energy that was funneled into the man is perfused elsewhere. And it has stuck with me ever since. And it’s true. By the time I read it, it’d been about a month of no longer wasting my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:52 PM
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Deserves to be tried in female court and put in isolation indefinitely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:16 PM
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The more and more posts I read..... the less and less hope I have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:51 PM
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Thank you for this reminder! If I ever date again will reference this post. It should be fun!! If it's not fun, I shouldn't do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:25 PM
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Cats=dogs but both > men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:37 AM
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God YES. A thousand times yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:09 PM
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I was raised the same way. Unfortunately learned the really hard way and married one. Then I have stumbled around since then still learning more. After the last idiot that wanted to waste my precious time (and I let him, I accept that too!) I found FDS. But now I no longer believe in love for myself. I believe it’s possible for others, but if I am being honest, I don’t feel that way for myself anymore. Sad but true. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:51 PM
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Well said! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFDzhKdrN9M
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:16 AM
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🔥🔥🔥 Justice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:46 AM
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All blocked except one I just deleted their phone number before I blocked. If you text me and you’re not in my address book automatic block & delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:48 PM
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I love this idea. There was a ring my mother left me when she died that I think I might start wearing. I'm not the jewelry-type but I just might start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:38 PM
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#FDSchallengeaccepted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:01 AM
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So hard to close myself off like that. It's easier to just avoid relationships. Can't say that's healthy either. Work to do on my part I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:56 AM
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How do you avoid catching feeling? I have too many feelings. Hate you feelings. :'(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:09 AM
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Please just share here. I can't do anymore things to log into on a daily basis, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:13 PM
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Are you fucking kidding me?! (pun not intended)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:20 PM
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There has to be a way for my phone to pop up with this image as soon as another boy enters my life. ​ *boy specifically, because this is what they do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 08:05 PM
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this is perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 08:03 PM
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That i didn't truly want the life I was taught was my only option for happiness as a woman. YES! I had to learn this too. Glad you got out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 07:10 PM
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Don’t marry him you beautiful idiot, he doesn’t deserve you. You are freaking amazing, and caring, and intelligent, you go above and beyond for everyone in your life. He will take you for granted, and ask you to move mountains when he can’t even keep a job or empathize with anything you go through. You are so far out of his league but you don’t realize how much you are worth!! You are worthy of so much love, respect, and are more valuable as a woman and partner than you realize. But if you do da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:05 PM
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Love this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 08:10 PM
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Thankfully it hadn’t gotten that far before I left and blocked him on everything. Each previous relationship/situationship was a step in the right direction until this one finally turned me all the way to a 180 from the start. Sorry that you experienced all of that!! Glad you are now free of him! Remember your worth, always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 07:57 PM
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This legit makes me snort with laughter. L.O.L. I can’t. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 07:08 PM
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Yes. Every single time. So I become an Ice Princess and there is no way they will get past my icy ❄️walls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:58 PM
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*save*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:22 AM
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I had one once that "wanted to be friends" but also get the benefits of a girlfriend. FINALLY, I said, you know what I'm out. He said "you're just going to throw this all away?". YES. Bye. You're not worth it because clearly I'm not worth it to you. And THAT is when I finally learned my value, and my power. ​ edit: spelling/grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:11 AM
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Where do I find one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:27 PM
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to think ANY amount of money gives any kind of power or pull over someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:30 PM
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I think it will finally happen during menopause, lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:57 PM
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Me too u/buy_me_cookies ... me too ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:53 AM
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This subreddit has been a refreshing gust of air to what I've always known in my psyche but was so misguided. But now it also drives home how unlikely it is that this damn desire won't go away. It's NEVER as good as the imagination.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:53 AM
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I'm in medicine, I have looked into it lol. But the only thing that will do it will have negative side effects. Heck, even OCPs decrease sex drive and influence emotions/feelings. But, not keen on that. This is our fate for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:51 AM
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YES. And gosh darn it the healthier I get the worse it becomes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:50 AM
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I agree with everything. I just wish I could turn off my desire for male companionship. Truly. If there was a pill to take that wouldn't change me in any other way than to take this away I'd do it. I love who I am and who I am growing to become. I love my alone time and my own company. Love my female friends and have pets. And, yet still I have this damn desire. * shakes fist *
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:47 PM
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Yes. This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:03 AM
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I couldn't have written it better myself. Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:37 PM
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Agreed. I think I am becoming more attractive with age. Confidence has also increased. I love my 30s!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 07:27 PM
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And never would I ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 07:45 PM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:22 PM
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Where is this from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 04:20 AM
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😍😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 11:16 PM
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Man, reading that roasting sure put a smile on my face. I feel better about humanity after reading them, frankly. lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:07 PM
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In medicine as well and it's so true. I've worked hard to be where I'm at and continuing to pursue my career. Not interested in spending energy stressing out about dating. Re sperm donor - I mean if you really want children and to not adopt this seems like a good option if you're not keen on having children with a partner/don't have a partner and don't want to wait. I think Mindy Kaling did something like this and thought it was a good option for single women wanting to be mothers w/o a SO. (Per…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 10:38 PM
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I'm glad too. In the end, I'm glad I went through it all. Needed to do it to become who I am now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 10:25 PM
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I really think this is part of it. I'm in my 30s and still get people thinking I'm in undergrad. Toxic marriage led to me developing chronic illnesses in part due to all the stress .... and as soon as I got divorced the healing began!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 09:56 PM
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Having one of those weeks where I am replaying all the failed relationships and wondering why I ‘wasn’t enough’ or ‘they didn’t see my value’. It happens. Thank you for the reminder. 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 07:22 PM
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slow clap for James and approving nod
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:31 AM
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It is truly amazing how life works. I imagine this is a moment in synchronicity. On my way home from a class today I was feeling like a total idiot and getting really down on myself. I'm taking the class as a prereq to go back for another degree...... but sometimes you just get yourself in a shame spiral and hard to get yourself out. So, I listened to this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SaQQVevhZEM and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EirlZ7fy3bE&t=798s maybe I found them for you too u/curiousb…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:42 AM
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I freaking love this!! 🤘🏻🤘🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:19 PM
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That is wonderful!! 🥰 So happy for you, gives me hope love still exists. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:24 PM
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I finally got my first redditor male DM hating on me from being on this sub. So random. Block & delete!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:31 PM
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Stay strong!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:43 PM
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Same same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:40 AM
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And build a moat for LVMs to fall into so only HVMs can even knock on the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:49 PM
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Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:00 AM
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I LOVE THIS MOVIE! Watched it several times, relate so much to both women amazingly. We all should be the leading ladies of our story!! No more acting like an extra or best friend! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:02 PM
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Is this a true story? Don't lie to me now...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:38 PM
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Lemme go get my balloons to welcome her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:31 AM
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What's this in reference to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:19 PM
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This is my perpetual reminder as well, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:52 PM
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Love 🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:49 PM
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Part 2 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-cG8qpj1us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:25 AM
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If you watch more of his videos you'll see the insight is expansive, lol. Here's is most recent one - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WlIyqWhvdvg&t=245s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:23 AM
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I think y'all will be my support group on those few days a month I almost rejoin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 12:12 AM
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Please post more posts like this!! Happy post. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 10:24 PM
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I always appreciate the more positive stories of good dates, finding HVM, good relationships, positive aspects of singleness. Might just be me, but sometimes seeing so much of the negative aspect of men just makes me think less and less of the entire gender and have little hope HVM are out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:35 PM
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Eligible for parole in 2033?! Really?! Keep him in there,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:07 PM
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Loved the TED talk! Will there be a series?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:24 PM
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I did the same a couple weeks ago, I think I do it almost to remind myself of "yep, this is why you hate OLD and why you don't go back...." Like you, I only replied to people that started he conversation AND only with an actual comment not just a "photo like". Mostly just comments on my looks rather than the variety of interests or potential conversation topics I'd written in my profile. I need to find me a good book club to satisfy this desire for some good discussion.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:45 PM
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Yes! Same thoughts exactly. They give me the cuddles and love I want and need. Working on healing my heart so will be open to a HVM in the future if that is part of my path. BUT the love and affection of my cats is fulfilling the needs I need instead of wasting my time with LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:21 PM
15

Need a “cat lady” flair instead of this ‘throwaway account’!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:04 PM
123

I think I give up. OLD never ends well. 🤷‍♀️ I got another cat instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 04:43 PM
17

DAMN. Did we date the same person? lol Moreover, they all morph into the same person. Why did I get so lost? Glad I'm no longer an idiot. Still have to see him on a daily basis but I've got a wall up and it's not coming down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:57 PM
39

I dunno.... I feel like this should be an image of someone literally running right through them with a dazed-semi-accomplished-confused-haggard look on their face. 'cause that's about how it goes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:53 PM
1

Well, this is reassuring and currently what I'm trying to focus on. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:23 AM
19

I've been thinking about how for the last 2ish weeks since I joined this sub and it cemented ideas I had already come to on my own, that I wonder if I really want to be in a romantic relationship at all. The reasons I'd want one just don't outweigh the benefits, at least not for me right now. Perhaps it's that I've always been more independent minded, love my career, my space, and I get all the aforementioned bullet points from my dear friends, family, and cat. Maybe it's just this week, but I'm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:34 PM
26

Yeah.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:23 AM
8

I am tired too! It’s weird I vacillate from ‘they all suck! Single life fo’evah!!’ To ‘I know he’s out there, I am unique and worthy of deep love and affection and have love to give. He is likely equally unique and it will just be harder for us to find each other. But it will all happen in perfect timing when it’s right!’..........Lately it’s 85% of my time with thought process 1 and 15% in option 2. No wonder it is the way it is. Universe getting mixed messages. 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:14 AM
18

Yes, I'm finally realizing that. I am so fortunate that I have truly beautiful friendships and relationships with my family that see this part of me and value it. They appreciate my love for humanity and instead support it rather than try and suck the energy from me. Now I'm coming to realize that as soon as I come in contact with a man that wants to 'take from me' (my energy, my love, my attention, etc) without wanting to ADD to my life then I need to hit the stop button and just leave. I have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:50 PM
2

Yes!! Recently looked up my ex-husband (it's been 4 years now) and I thought 'what in the hell was I thinking marrying this guy?!' I am SO GLAD I am divorced and free and respect myself so much more now. NEVER AGAIN. I know what it was like to feel trapped and I will never give up this feeling of being free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:36 PM
14

Why, hello there FDS twin! I am u/FirePreferred, nice to meet you. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:24 PM
60

Yes, that is likely it. Although, I will admit that I love people (not just romantic relationships) easily, part of my nature to just love people and learning to be more protective of my heart. I fall down a lot.. but seems like each time I get back up I learn to guard my heart a bit better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:26 PM
12

Same same. Learning to value myself more and see my time as more valuable. I think he didn't think I'd leave, and I did. No going back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:17 PM
221

Same. I literally thought in the beginning each time how uninterested I was .... and how I knew they weren't the right fit. BUT STILL developed feelings. Why am I such a bleeding heart....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:15 PM
5

I got a cat 🤷‍♀️. I finally understand all the stories about single women and their cats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:14 PM
11

Sigh, this is where I am presently at. Trying to remain optimistic that it will change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:44 AM
2

Ditto!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:38 AM
1

Get it girl!! Thank you for sharing and congratulations on your success!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:36 PM
2

Agreed!! I love myself, finally. I still have things to learn, areas to improve upon, and lessons to learn. But it is in the growing and the doing I have found myself again. Glad you have too!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:35 PM
2

I feel personally attacked. And I am cool with it. 😂 Growth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:18 PM
2

Never tried Tinder but all the other dating apps I have tried also seem useless and so much work. I just can’t anymore. I’ll just be living my best life and if a HVM man finds me in the wild and pursues great, otherwise free of the OLD life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:27 PM
12

Oh my god I love her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:03 PM
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