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IWLoseIt/r/seduction21/02/18 12:44 AM
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Field ReportIWLoseIt/r/seduction04/06/14 09:29 PM
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I mainly use the app but I make sure to get their number and have a quick phone call before the date (they feel safer and I get a feel for them as a person). This helps tremendously with getting to know eachother and removing the awkwardness of meeting for the first time. It's like a mini-date before the date.
/r/seduction26/03/25 05:06 PM
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I don't remember the statistics exactly but it was somewhere along the line of changing messaging app before meeting in real life decreases the chance of meeting by about 50-80%. I match on tinder, i set up the date on tinder. I don't change apps until after the 1st date. Good luck!
/r/seduction23/03/25 10:55 AM
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You wrote everything on my mind and everything I do but in a much better way than I would be able to. Bravo and well done. Top-notch stuff!
/r/seduction13/12/24 12:09 PM
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You'll always regret it if you don't. Talk to her and be at peace with yourself. Don't, and it will pain you forever.
/r/seduction26/11/24 03:30 PM
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I can only speak for myself. I've worked on myself for a long time, physically and mentally. Always evolving as a person, asking myself how can I improve. Realising that any weakness or self-doubt I feel is from within and cannot be blamed on anything external, no matter how hard. Being content and confident in yourself is game. When I go out with a girl, even if it's a tinder date, I have no doubt in my mind that she will like me. I know she will like me. The question is, will I like her? She n…
/r/seduction10/11/24 08:23 PM
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You're underestimating your game and overestimating the general public. This will absolutely work if you look good, are confident, and have game. I myself kiss girls 10-15 mins into a first date instead of waiting, which leads to more sexual contact and better dates. Making your intentions known and being confident is key.
/r/seduction10/11/24 11:11 AM
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Fully agree that being a man that attracts women starts with being a fulfilled person in your own sense. A woman should enhance your life, not fill a void. Regarding the dates, ouch.. My first date was a dinner where I spent $150 which ended with no kiss and no more dates. I never did that again. All of my first dates now are coffee and a walk, at max I spend $10 on the girl, and it has always resulted in kisses and hookups. Granted, I am now more experienced in life and attract women more easil…
/r/seduction01/11/24 01:55 PM
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So, when is the right time to soft close? Do it during a peak moment in your interaction, when she’s clearly showing interest. Solid, solid, solid stuff!
/r/seduction24/10/24 01:16 PM
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That's fine if that's the "truth" you choose to accept. I have nothing to gain from your or OP's success, or loss for that matter. I am giving advice that I know works, has worked for me, and has worked for other people. If you choose to wake up and believe that changing your mindset does not "change shit" hey be my guest. I'll be here on the other side choosing the reality I wake up to and making my life what I want it to be.
/r/seduction30/07/24 06:08 PM
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Jesus, what kind of fucked-up racist answer is this? Don't bring your racist bullshit in here you fuck. @OP, keep working on approaching and try to change your frame of mind. If you're approaching with the mindset that you're an "ethnic" guy, you're different, whatever, you've already lost. Accept who you are and utilise it in a positive way. You're different from most guys they meet, you're unique - girls love guys that are unique. If cold approaches aren't working for you stop doing them and t…
/r/seduction30/07/24 12:34 PM
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rest somewhere with a pretty view and kiss her
/r/seduction13/07/24 11:05 AM
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Great job, you did everything right. :)
/r/seduction03/04/24 07:32 AM
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A big mistake many make is they don't engage the friends at all. "lets get outta here" Working her friends is equally important. With her friends, I'm not trying to charm them at all. I'm feeding them as much information as possible about myself to make them trust me. "what you do for work, where you live, how old you are, etc" You can be boring, it won't matter. Incredible advice. Thanks!
/r/seduction25/03/24 03:35 PM
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Something tells me that she is not interested and is keeping me as back up lol. You're 100% right. Trust your instincts and drop her. Have respect for yourself and trust that you will find another girl that is interested on you. Why waste your energy on something that's going nowhere when you can use it on something that has potential?
/r/seduction25/03/24 03:34 PM
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Opened with a deep hug. Told her to meet me first at my hotel to pregame and showed her my room. Drank at the bar in the hotel and then Ubered to downtown. I squeezed her butt a few times and kissed her within the first hour. Just a light peck but just enough to sexualize her mind. Did not telegraph my intentions, just did it without thinking because it felt right. 2) I kept my sexual energy high. First moment was a deep hug where she smelled a hint of my cologne which she made a comment on. I d…
/r/seduction25/03/24 03:19 PM
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She's losing interest cus you haven't grown a pair and asked her out/kissed her/shown sexual physical contact.
/r/seduction28/10/22 04:13 PM
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Honest question that I want you to think hard about before you answer; do you love yourself? Like honest, true accepting love for yourself as a mom would love her child? If the answer is no that is what you need to work on first.
/r/seduction11/05/22 07:43 AM
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This. Op, you need to start learning how to love yourself and be your own friend. Once you start showing yourself love and compassion other people will too.
/r/seduction23/02/22 08:01 AM
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Just meet up with her and take it from there. Don't get all tripped up over this, if you don't like her you don't have to meet her again.
/r/seduction02/07/21 03:36 AM
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Most people wouldn't ask they would just assume
/r/seduction06/09/20 05:13 PM
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Yes, thank you for saying it in a better way than I can.
/r/seduction12/02/20 01:22 PM
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And it absolutely is fine for most girls. If she does not want you to finger her or have sex she will say so, unless you're forcing yourself onto her. Most girls like a bit of playful dominance. So, yes, it both is fine for my girl and for guys on their first or second encounter with other girls.
/r/seduction11/02/20 03:29 PM
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Because in todays society you have to be careful. If for example you're meeting a Tinder girl and you're both down to fuck you still have to take precautions so that you're not accused of raping her. It doesn't matter how into it you both are or whatever, today a girl can just accuse a guy and get away with it, even if he is innocent. His reputation is tarnished. Its better to be safe than sorry. If rather ask "do you want this dick" and let you think whatever is it that you want to think than t…
/r/seduction11/02/20 03:28 PM
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Lmfao, the amount of misunderstanding you have on your part is off the fucking charts. And by blocking the hand I don't mean that she doesn't want to do it, she does it playfully. My girl usually blocks it the first time if I'm moving too fast so I have to kiss and cuddle her a bit so she gets in to it and then the next time she's fully into it. The "rapist" example was just an exaggeration.
/r/seduction11/02/20 03:16 PM
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Thank you. I usually throw in a mix of all those questions.
/r/seduction11/02/20 03:03 PM
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I'm glad you liked it. If you're a woman, could you give examples on how to turn you on even more and things the man could do that you would generally react positively to?
/r/seduction11/02/20 02:03 PM
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No problem, please let me know how it goes, I'm very curious! Feel free to PM me :)
/r/seduction11/02/20 01:31 PM
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Well, I don't know all the details but I would try more foreplay - more kissing, more fingering/going down on her, sweet talking her (you're beautiful, you're so sexy, I go crazy everytime I see you, etc). Just go gently. Before putting your dick in ask her if she's comfortable, ask her if she wants your dick, etc. If a girl has had "problems" with guys before, making them feel comfortable with you is really important for their mental state. For example, the girl I am with currently first refuse…
/r/seduction11/02/20 01:22 PM
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Sex is both physical and mental pleasure. Do not underestimate the insight a woman gains of you while having sex. Also, cuddling and talking after sex is one of the best ways to mentally bond with a woman.
/r/seduction11/02/20 01:13 PM
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Are you talking about your girlfriend, fwb or random hookup?
/r/seduction11/02/20 01:12 PM
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If you come in your pants you just say its because she's so fucking hot and you haven't cum in a while and you'll be ready to go soon. The rest of what you said, everything is pretty stupid. You think eating out a girl is submissive? If you grab her hips and her tits and you eat her out, how is that submissive? Honestly, this is a waste of my time since you're just looking to argue and I have no interest in being positive towards a negative person. Best of luck to you. I hope your view towards w…
/r/seduction11/02/20 01:11 PM
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Girls have natural lubrication ("getting wet") that comes when they're horny. So if you're making out before, you're fingering her (or rubbing clit) and she's horny she should be plenty wet. Even if she's a bit dry, once you put it in and start thrusting (gently if she's not very wet) she will get more wet as you keep going. If you're both into it it's pretty hard to hurt a girl, unless you're physically assaulting her lol. It's pretty astounding how much beating a pussy can take. Some girls lik…
/r/seduction11/02/20 01:06 PM
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Yeah I don't know what bullshit you've been reading but none of this shit is true. This sounds like something a neckbeard on 4chan might write. Is this like one of those red/bluepill things?
/r/seduction11/02/20 12:23 PM
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Oh! Coming fast your first time having sex is fucking normal dude. I'd say it would be weird if you were able to last longer your first time. Don't be nervous. Be comfortable with yourself, enjoy the foreplay, pleasure her. Everything will come naturally. Yesterday I was having sex with a girl in my car. I tried to put my penis in her but I could not find the hole the first 10 times I tried (she's a bit chubby so the angles are weird). A lot of guys would become self conscious but I didn't, I wa…
/r/seduction11/02/20 12:21 PM
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I think it's OK to feel like this. But you should understand that being dominating when having sex is not the same as being aggressive or manipulating towards a woman. As OP wonderfully wrote, domination is an absolutely natural and biological part of sex. A good example of positive domination might be when you're kissing deeply and you really want to fuck her so you slide your hand down her pants. She might put a hand to try and "block", so you remove her hand, whisper into her ears "you're so …
/r/seduction11/02/20 12:18 PM
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No, lol. Maybe 30 years ago. Today everyone is just casual until you decide to enter into a relationship, but often times that's several months down the pipeline. Are you not gonna fuck your woman for 6 months?
/r/seduction11/02/20 11:57 AM
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What do you mean? If you do the foreplay work the girl will be very into it and will often do a lot of the work.
/r/seduction11/02/20 11:56 AM
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It will come naturally. If you ask more specific questions I'll try to answer them.
/r/seduction11/02/20 11:56 AM
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Have you had sex? When masturbating I always came within 2 minutes. Sex however takes me a while. The woman gets wet, sometimes too wet, you change positions, you stop, you finger her, you kiss, etc, etc. If you have the same problem while having sex the best solution is controlled breathing. Focus on your breathing when having sex, 5 seconds in 5 seconds out. You will instantly notice a difference. Also, if you're about to come just pull out and chill. Tease her, girls love being teased. I usua…
/r/seduction11/02/20 11:54 AM
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Absolutely agree. If you fuck a woman good she will want to see you again for sure. If not, she may ponder her options.
/r/seduction11/02/20 11:49 AM
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When you say you are the sub, what exactly do you mean? Like, you won't tell her to change positions or? Just trying to understand.
/r/seduction11/02/20 11:48 AM
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I agree with everything you said. If anyone wants any visual tips I'd recommend watching porn videos with Manuel Ferrera. The guy may look like an animal when fucking but he does know how to properly fuck a woman.
/r/seduction11/02/20 11:47 AM
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SO. RELATABLE. RIGHT.NOW!!! Fuck me.
/r/seduction07/02/19 07:27 PM
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Are you serious? Just read the news, so many women spew out fake accusations that later turn out to not have an ounce of truth to them.
/r/seduction09/12/18 11:30 AM
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Give yourself time to heal. How can you care about other women when you've just lost the one you cared so much about? Time heals all wounds, let it heal yours. The rest will come.
/r/seduction25/06/18 12:55 PM
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This so much. OP was being way too intense, creeped me out through the damn screen.
/r/seduction21/03/18 12:46 PM
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Honestly, if you're interested, just make a move. She went to the movies with you, alone. I mean... Come on. Just stop being a pussy and man up. She's gonna lose interest if you don't. Ask her out for a coffee or drink and make a move.
/r/seduction22/02/18 11:57 PM
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Hit that son
/r/seduction22/02/18 09:21 AM
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You are writing in a seduction sub-reddit, I'm not asking for a review of the movie. What happened at the movies? Did you hug her or anything when meeting her, did you kiss her when watching the movie? Did you try to? Did you at least try to make a move?
/r/seduction21/02/18 01:32 PM
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Cool, let me know how it works out.
/r/seduction21/02/18 01:47 AM
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EDIT2: Fuck, should have just handed her my phone so she could put her number in. Goddamnit. This is the kind of stuff that happens when you're a noob.
/r/seduction21/02/18 01:41 AM
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Bruh. Please keep us updated.
/r/seduction21/02/18 01:29 AM
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Wow. First off, relax, take a deep breath and stop obsessing. You'll lose her interest straight away if you act this way with her. What happened at the movies?
/r/seduction21/02/18 01:24 AM
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What kind of girl are u seeing who talks like that? Lol. OnT: I would wait hours/a day to reply and hit her with "just came home, you?" (late at night), shows her you got shit to do and you don't need to wait around for her. Really, anything that shows that you don't need her is gonna get her attention. Chicks love shit like that. Nothing loses a girls interest faster than neediness and desperation.
/r/seduction21/02/18 01:19 AM
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This. OP, you're not gonna get anywhere with that mindset. And if you're gonna have mindset you need to look and act like a douchebag, and only go after girls who like those types of guys. That's a X wants Y, Y wants X type situation. Improve your mindset and your game and the rest will follow.
/r/seduction21/02/18 01:13 AM
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Why?
/r/seduction21/02/18 01:09 AM
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Seems like this sub can go back to its glory days with better rules (weed out the bs posts) and active moderators.
/r/seduction21/02/18 01:04 AM
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Oh wow, yours is much better. The OP one is meh, that line is hard to understand (what it actually means). Yours is direct, it's straight up a shit test back at the girl, shows you have balls (which is pretty much what the girl wants to know when she shit tests you, especially this shit test). Using this line, thanks!
/r/seduction21/02/18 12:58 AM
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You said she's not sitting with anyone in particular, just sit next to her and talk to her.
/r/seduction13/09/17 08:17 AM
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Be quiet.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/04/17 01:36 AM
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I don't masturbate, I have sex. I don't masturbate so I have the will and energy to go out and get a real woman with blood running through her veins. I don't masturbate to porn, or pictures of sexy women, or whatever, so that when I actually have close contact with a girl the attraction is instant. Everyday you're blasted with what the world likes; Instagram is all about ass and tits and thick women, this warps your perception of "what's sexy". When I don't masturbate to porn I get turned on by …
/r/seduction12/02/17 01:52 AM
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It's still the same thing. In the end it's up to you but I think you know for yourself deep down that you're just substituting one illusion for another that you feel is more "acceptable".
/r/seduction11/02/17 10:51 PM
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It really was. Actually kinda worked against me. After this I was dating a girl in class and she asked me if I had ever kissed anyone before. I hadn't but apparantly she had heard from someone in class what happened at the club. Now - I wouldn't call what happened to be a "real kiss" simply because it wasn't with someone I was interested in, it just happened - but clearly she did. So she get mad over that. But it all worked out in the end. Thanks for replying!
/r/seduction11/02/17 07:45 PM
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It's not about not fapping, it's about growing, both physically and mentally. NoFap is a form of disciplinary exercise where you refrain from something that's bad for you - porn, not masturbating - and channel that energy into something positive. For example, when I stopped masturbating to porn something sparked in me. I was able to see women as people and not just lumps of meat that you want to hump. I remember one distinct thing that happened when I was on NoFap. I had just started at a new jo…
/r/seduction11/02/17 07:41 PM
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Three girls were walking out of the club (i dont even know them), ran efter them stopped them and told them "you guys cant leave, you're the prettiest girls here!!". One of them, who was pretty drunk was like "yeahh lets stay" and started to kiss me. Then her friends told me she's drunk and they had to go and I said to her "you should go with them" and that was the end. But it was pretty cool since this was in high school and it was right next to the entrance and my entire class was standing in …
/r/seduction11/02/17 06:10 PM
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"With a few weeks of limited contact she started asking me to hangout and went so far as to get us tickets to our favorite singer and an MMA tournament (she knows this is my favorite sport). I am super skeptical that I might be getting friend zoned." If she wanted to friend zone you she wouldn't invite you to shit you like. And if she is, just move the fuck on? People take the friend zone bullshit way too seriously. Just take her out, kino, whatever and kiss her. Either she'll go for it or she'l…
/r/seduction11/02/17 06:07 PM
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If you aren't comfortable with yourself you're never gonna succeed. Shit like that shouldn't phase you, girls say all kinds of shit to get out a situation. Maybe in this scenario her saying you're "overconfident" meant you were pushing too hard which made her un-comfortable? This "overconfidence" might be a huge turn-on for the next girl you talk to. All i'm saying is you gotta be comfortable with yourself. Her: "You're being too confident or assertive" You: "Oh, really? Thanks!" (with a big shi…
/r/seduction11/02/17 06:00 PM
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LOL. I can't believe a girl would have to do that.. She could just ask if OP wanted to fuck. Maybe she did use game cause of fear of rejection? I onno
/r/seduction01/01/17 04:23 PM
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Whatever works for you, don't overthink it. Rules aren't set in stone, they're more like guide-lines.
/r/seduction11/12/16 02:26 AM
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Is that you in the linked picture?
/r/seduction10/12/16 03:48 AM
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Hahaha that's brilliant, the problem is I live at home so I can't invite her here :/ I'm gonna try and wait until Friday and just talk to her if the moment arises. I feel like adding her now would be kinda.. weird? I just get that feeling. Though, I'd love to talk to her, I love chatting with people on fb. Ahh, fk me.
/r/seduction08/11/16 05:30 PM
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Good stuff, I think you handled the shit test really well, especially you not asking her on a second date right there. That's a super strong move, she'll be super psyched next time you invite her to a date/meet her in the cafeteria. Thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction06/11/16 09:12 PM
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I like it man shut up
/r/seduction04/11/16 02:55 PM
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Car, tent, girls house, parents away. You gotta ride the religious bs out til u get your own place.
/r/seduction14/10/16 11:11 AM
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Why do you have to loop back? Breathe inte your two balls, look into her eyes as you get closer, stop her and tell her she's stunning and you'd love to have coffee.
/r/seduction30/09/16 06:49 AM
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Higher value guys? Smh, you must feel shitty about yourself
/r/seduction29/09/16 01:53 PM
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Whoaaaaaaaa, easy boy. Calm the fuck down. Hot girls check you out dude. They check your ugly ass out!! Now, they wouldn't check you out if you were fugly, would they? Most girls don't care about your stupid face, body language matters more, in fact body language is 70-80% of a conversation. They're checking you out and then your insecure ass is saying, through body language, "hey you're super hot and I'd love to grab your ass and do the horizontal tango but please don't come near me because I d…
/r/seduction29/09/16 07:15 AM
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Move on but first answer her. Show her that the rejection isn't the end of the world for you. It's always shitty to end things on a bad note. Good luck!
/r/seduction28/09/16 03:23 PM
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When TS doesn't reply to top comment you know they're full of shit. Gj spotting the fake.
/r/seduction16/09/16 03:08 PM
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If she's serious about school she could be busy. But it doesn't take that long to answer an text. Maybe wait a couple of days to see if she answers. If she doesn't, call her and setup a date. If she doesn't want to or flakes just move on.
/r/seduction31/08/16 05:36 AM
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WHAT? GODDAMN, you ran across the entire court, dribbled past the defenders, took two steps, jumped up to lay-up and then just looked at the hoop midjump instead of laying it in. You should have just said something like "do you want to get a juice/drink sometime?", fuck me. Anyway, kudos for at least talking to them.
/r/seduction11/08/16 09:01 AM
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It's still a party with college kids! Don't be afraid to ask man, you're not gonna meet the girls u ask again anyway
/r/seduction13/07/16 01:09 PM
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You just go up to girls and ask them, no other way unless you have some college friend that's female that can invite her own friends. Don't think about it so much, everyone wants to party in college! :)
/r/seduction13/07/16 11:01 AM
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yup, girls like this are usually just in it for the cheap thrill. it gets boring after a while to "keep them entertained".
/r/seduction10/05/16 12:44 AM
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This.
/r/seduction18/04/16 11:28 AM
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lmao
/r/seduction18/02/16 04:07 PM
2

Goddamn, thick girls are the best. Like, better than grandmas applepie!!
/r/seduction06/02/16 09:08 PM
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Great comment.
/r/seduction31/01/16 12:08 AM
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It's not that simple. People can't pronounce it so they try not to say it. You lose so much basic interaction just by that. Job employers would rather call back someone with a standard name than with a foreign name, even with the same resume. It's harder to get introduced to girls because of the name. That initial confusion, even as short as 1 second, is enough to change how the girl feels about you. Meeting new people, new classmates, teachers trying to call out your name and absolutely butcher…
/r/seduction30/01/16 08:18 PM
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Like Karen but an A instead of an E.
/r/seduction30/01/16 08:12 PM
1

Haha, go with the flow man. No need to label things. If you think she's a cougar then she very well could be! :)
/r/seduction04/12/15 05:26 AM
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I wouldn't really call a 29 year old a cougar.. Sorry bud :/
/r/seduction04/12/15 04:52 AM
1

Damn dude, you're pretty much 70% in there. Don't fuck this up, lol.
/r/seduction04/12/15 04:47 AM
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Pretty much. You could send her a chill text in a few days during her trip like "hey, seen anything cool over there yet? :)" or something just to get a sense of how she's feeling towards you
/r/seduction30/11/15 03:00 PM
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Yeah, no need for texting and shit IF you've already set the date. Rather you save the interesting banter for the date. You could text her on the day of the date to make sure its still on.
/r/seduction30/11/15 06:34 AM
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I'm not sure if you've ever been around real women but everything isn't so black and white. I like to create a connection through text since I know how to push and pull through text. For example, if you're texting a girl and you text something that makes you smile you know she'll definitely like it aswell. I find that texting before meeting someone makes it easier to engage her since you find out some things about her that makes it easier for you to talk about things you know she likes/dislikes.…
/r/seduction26/09/14 10:46 PM
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When you're making out.
/r/seduction26/09/14 08:42 PM
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Duuuh. How else would I acquire my daily dose of some sweet ass-squeezing?
/r/seduction26/09/14 03:11 PM
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I feel like texting is a great way to get to know the person, create a connection and find out if you want to go further with this person. Then again I'm only 18. Chicks my age love to text.
/r/seduction26/09/14 02:51 PM
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Haha, I did it in a serious way I think. I don't really know why I did it, I think i told her I'd X her if she kept asking me and she didn't stop.
/r/seduction05/06/14 01:09 AM
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An absolutely vital video in such a technology-crazed society.
/r/seduction04/05/14 02:43 PM
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hot body 6, meaning a girl that's rated 6/10
/r/seduction19/04/14 11:23 PM
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You're making the girls into something they're not. Just pretend like they're a good friend you haven't seen in a long time. You're getting anxious when talking to them because you're placing them on a pedestal like the poster above said. You just need to relax, breathe and simply talk.
/r/seduction23/03/14 12:27 PM
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Wow, she's totally digging you; "you smell good". Haha, you're already in.
/r/seduction04/03/14 03:48 AM
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Wow, read the first chapter and it's so awesome! You're a great writer!
/r/seduction01/03/14 03:08 AM
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