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generalZulutheZebra/r/MenSupportMen12/05/23 05:07 PM
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ZulutheZebra/r/MensRights28/09/22 01:23 PM
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Well…it really depends on who you are being vulnerable with, and most importantly how you are expressing it. One of the most common complaints I’ve heard from men in long term relationships is that their wife or girlfriend changed after they were vulnerable with them; they generally seem to respect them less etc. I honestly believe this to be an evolutionary trait; a man is supposed to “take care of” problems that arise and if he looks like he is not able to, a woman’s hindbrain will be repulsed…
/r/MenSupportMen07/08/23 12:54 AM
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As a fellow introvert, I think it’s fair to say that the end of relationships tends to generally hit us harder than extroverts because it takes us so long to let people into our little private circles of friends. An extrovert loses a friend, they typically replace them in a month or two and have five other friends they lean on to get them through the loss. We introverts take it much harder, almost personally in some ways, and tend to close off from the world for a while (at least that’s been my …
/r/MenSupportMen06/08/23 07:08 PM
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Well ask yourself this; do you think it’s wrong for people to use self help books? I understand your conundrum, and it’s a good point you bring up; are we becoming increasingly isolated from other humans to where you are in fact creating a worse long term disease (isolation) through non human help resources than whatever short term benefit you may derive? Truth be told you could have the best of both worlds here; fun times and interactions with humans while benefiting from a completely nonjudgme…
/r/MenSupportMen27/07/23 01:46 PM
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I mean, on the one hand I’m hella impressed. If you haven’t already you should market and sell the shit out of that before things gets saturated as they typically do with all emerging technology. As to it being unethical, really depends on who you ask. Women in general will demonize the hell out of it because it undercuts the gross advantage they have on the dating apps; which is ironic considering the insane level filters they have for free out there now that makes them look like whatever they …
/r/MenSupportMen27/06/23 12:12 PM
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Blue balls is incredibly uncomfortable and also very much not good for you; it’s not nice to tease the little guy but not let him out to play haha. In all seriousness though, that’s a tricky situation what with her having allegedly “not done it yet” (and yes I do say allegedly; sometimes the shy girls can be the biggest liars about pretending to be chaste lol). But we’ll assume for arguments sake she is telling the truth; how old are both of you?
/r/MenSupportMen24/06/23 11:17 AM
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Well, I can understand your view of wanting to protect your mother in her older age from some things. I can also understand not wanting to resurrect a trauma like that with her and only reliving it with your sexual partner because of the relevance. Honestly trauma is a tangled beast and I apologize if I advocated a bit heavily on what you should or should not do. I have quite a bit of childhood trauma myself (not sexual abuse but severe emotional abuse and gaslighting) and it’s really not easy f…
/r/MenSupportMen19/06/23 12:29 AM
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My friend, in one of your responses you mentioned not telling your Mother that her friend sexually abused you because “there would be no good outcome”. Technically you are correct, but let me be ask you something. If one of your best friends in high school abused your mother, would you want to know about it? I understand as a man it can be hard to talk to your mother about some things, and maybe your mother doesn’t have a lot of friends so you hesitate to poison that relationship. But (and this …
/r/MenSupportMen17/06/23 07:10 PM
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Let me first applaud your ability to effectively communicate with Zoey. Regular, effective communication is the key to any relationship, romantic or otherwise. The fact that you were honest with her is going to be important no matter how things turn out. The best general advice I can give is keep doing what you are doing; continue communicating with her at each step as the two of you move forward. You don’t have to over communicate obviously; maybe you could set aside a little time each week for…
/r/MenSupportMen17/06/23 06:57 PM
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Exactly, that’s an excellent analogy for the strategy. For me, just the fact that I was “paying on the principle” and working towards a solution helped tremendously with my mental health. If there was one thing I could have told myself back then that I want to pass to you now, it’s that everything is going to be ok. It may not be tomorrow, or the day after or even the one after that but if you keep working down your problems and putting work in, one day you will wake up and you won’t feel that h…
/r/MenSupportMen05/06/23 03:34 PM
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It sounds like you have a lot of things piled on your plate at the moment. Your wife cheating, a dead bedroom, five kids you are responsible for; each of these things are highly stressful by themselves let alone together. Judging by your responses it sounds like you have a high level of personal honor/responsibility, which is likely how the situation has progressed to this stage. Probably the hardest thing I’ve had to realize on a personal level was a very simple truth: “Nobody is coming.” It’s …
/r/MenSupportMen05/06/23 02:45 PM
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Cheers mate, sincerely hope things work out for you either way it turns out. For what it’s worth, the fact that you are more than willing to do couples therapy and put in the work means the ball is firmly in her court; if she doesn’t want to work it out that’s entirely on her.
/r/MenSupportMen04/06/23 02:24 AM
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It may just be me, but amongst my family and friends the last five years or so I’ve noticed a huge shift where women are getting more and more unsatisfied in relationships. Whereas in the past they would stick around and try to do counseling etc, now they either end the relationship or verbally batter their man about every little thing until it ends. As to your problem though, I would say that a relationship is a meeting of two people that try to fulfill each others needs. My suggestion would be…
/r/MenSupportMen04/06/23 02:13 AM
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Congratulations my friend! Hope life outside the internet continues to improve and you have many happy years in your future
/r/MenSupportMen26/05/23 04:19 PM
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Do you mind explaining MGTOW a bit for us folks on the outside? Just kind of what your experience has been etc. I’ve read their mission statement and get the idea but I’m curious how it plays out irl for the members. The only information online/in mainstream media is that it’s a group of terrorist incels or misogynists and I don’t think that’s accurate at all, stinks of propaganda to me.
/r/MenSupportMen25/05/23 03:13 PM
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Sorry to hear that happened to you my friend; the world can often be cruel to those that don’t fit a uniform mold. So glad to hear you kept strong and have a daughter now; hopefully you can support her in any expressions she has that don’t fit the standard mold.
/r/MenSupportMen23/05/23 05:19 PM
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That’s an excellent point of view I hadn’t considered before. It’s easy to look at the women being fawned over 24/7 with often little effort on their part and feel disgruntled at times when men have such a blunt performance burden, but at least we never get blindsided by the whole affair. Men know from very early on exactly exactly what our shortcomings are and what is expected, whereas I can see how being told 24/7 how perfect you are would lead to a horrible situation as you “age out” and inev…
/r/MenSupportMen15/05/23 03:09 PM
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Well I don’t necessarily agree that it’s easy to be the top 10-20 percent but I can’t argue with your results haha. Congrats on meeting a quality lady, hope you two are happy for a lot of years to come.
/r/MenSupportMen13/05/23 02:22 AM
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It is a bit unusual that it happens regularly in public; in a friend group it’s more understandable. With my friends it’s not unusual for me to comment on how they are looking fit etc, usually as a conversation starter or if I notice they are working hard in the gym. I definitely don’t touch them though unless I’m drunk, and that’s more of a side shoulder hug when I’m really far gone and they just laugh usually. Strangers feeling you up is not cool though; my suggestion would be to ask one of th…
/r/MenSupportMen12/05/23 12:58 PM
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It depends on a lot of factors. For me personally, I have met tons of “casual” feminists that parrot talking points about the Patriarchy, Wage gap etc etc but they don’t hold a candle to the man haters on the internet in terms of vitriol. It is annoying to deal with the constant low key complaints, the casual misandry and put down of men but I also accept a lot of it is hand in hand with living in a city of any size. To answer your question though I would say that no, women irl are not nearly as…
/r/MenSupportMen10/05/23 06:25 PM
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The men choosing wives from overseas want a traditional woman that knows how to cook, clean and will have their children. Other countries have this figured out much better honestly; it’s standard practice for a young pretty woman to marry an older man who is established and can take care of her financially. Here in the US there’s this huge class of women who bounce around relationships and blame men ad nauseam when women are the ones to leave most of their relationships. Not entirely blaming the…
/r/MenSupportMen03/05/23 08:56 PM
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It does; sounds like you have sat down and thought it through already which is important. As a former straight edge, looking back I think my problem always stemmed from hanging out with the wrong groups. Drinkers when you don’t drink etc; a few of them were cool about it but at the end of the day many drinkers feel mildly judged when you don’t partake in my experience, and you end up explaining to the group why you don’t drink haha. It was always hard for me to find a group of friends that were …
/r/MenSupportMen29/04/23 02:14 PM
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It’s a side effect of cptsd often times; we find ourselves thinking “was the abuser really so bad?” and reliving the times in our mind that they were kind. What is easy to forget is the many more times they were unkind, and how the kind gestures were usually some form of apology or manipulation for past wrongs. From personal experience, the easiest way to deal with a Narcissist is cut as much communication as you can and stop thinking of them as a person. It sounds terrible, but the truth is tha…
/r/MenSupportMen26/04/23 06:58 PM
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It sounds to me like you have some unresolved feelings about the whole situation with your ex, and as a result is leading to some nerves and possible subconscious self sabotage. Personally, my advice would be to get some casual partners who are really into you that you can use to ease back into the game. If you are an attractive guy, go hit on some slightly less attractive women and have some fun with them. Just to clarify, I only mention less attractive women because I think it would take a lot…
/r/MenSupportMen26/04/23 12:17 AM
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Only a bully and a narcissist goes out of their way to contact you after they have been blocked and send you further abuse. They take it incredibly personably when a victim escapes, so just take comfort in the fact that you dumping her is going to nag her forever.
/r/MenSupportMen24/04/23 10:07 PM
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Life is yours to do with what you will; don’t let people guilt you into doing things you would rather not. With that being said however, I would suggest sitting down and being brutally honest with yourself about the reasons why you are not doing those things. If you can honestly, One hundred percent say you have no interest in those things then move forward with that confidence in your decision. If however there are other things holding you back, a fear of rejection or something similar, then I …
/r/MenSupportMen24/04/23 01:39 PM
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Same brother, I’ve been there too. Appreciate you linking the post, it’s some really good info I wish was more widely spread. Especially the bit where it points a critical finger at the term “toxic masculinity”; I’ve always had such a problem with that term because it snidely puts the toxic brush over all masculinity while pretending to just point out some “toxic” male behaviors. Would love to see what the reaction would be to labeling behaviors as being “toxically feminine”.
/r/MenSupportMen16/04/23 03:06 AM
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What we are seeing is a very dirty war to make money that is making both genders very unhappy. Long story short, advertisers figured out at some point that male bashing was a very effective way to sell products. As a result, that ethos Christmas treed out from product sales to Television then finally to social media and modern gaming. “Mansplaining” and other clearly sexually leveled insults became more mainstream, and with caricatures like Homer Simpson and Peter Griffin in every household , it…
/r/MenSupportMen13/04/23 06:17 PM
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Exactly, communication and both parties needs getting met. Just my .02 but something I’ve seen suggested in multiple places is to have a list of the top three absolute needs from both parties and to have both of you work together on those. If you can work together on meeting both of your primary needs instead of having a tug of war and both being angry about unmet needs, it’s going to make things a lot more amenable
/r/MenSupportMen13/04/23 12:19 AM
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I one hundred percent agree that the media and social media slant is sexist as hell against men. With that being said, you need to turn the tables when she starts quoting articles coming from her point of view. “So your idea of how to solve the problems we are having is to quote opinion pieces at me? What’s actually bothering you.” The catch though is that you need to talk to her about the underlying issue that’s causing her to use these articles to gang up on you. What I have seen in a lot of c…
/r/MenSupportMen12/04/23 11:10 PM
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You need a release valve mate; it’s like I talk about with my friend (who’s a therapist but not mine). Imagine stress is water and you have an emotional dam for it. Some folks have a huge structure with tons of reservoirs, others just have a small easily overwhelmed structure. At the end of the day though both the huge capacity structure and the small structure need a pressure release of that water or you are going to have a destructive incident and the dam will fail. Your girlfriend is one valv…
/r/MenSupportMen30/03/23 10:46 PM
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I’ve been where you are at and it’s not a good place; here’s some thoughts I had based on your post and my own experience with similar situations: You mentioned being laid up and not able to work; this is very hard on men in particular. As much as we hate work at times, it gives you a daily structure and forces you to put aside your life problems for a while and focus on something else. On top of that there is an undercurrent of accomplishment every day that you don’t notice until it’s not there…
/r/MenSupportMen19/03/23 03:29 PM
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Let me say this; I also greatly struggle with the misandrist rhetoric that gets bombarded on all media platforms daily. For a long time between that and the very few women in my life that were mostly anti-male I gave up hope. A couple years ago though I reconnected with my cousins wife (therapist) who is very fair and tries to see things from a guys point of view. She occasionally has her feminist moments but it’s rare and she’s always open to a discussion on it. I guess all that to say, it is t…
/r/MenSupportMen13/03/23 02:34 AM
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Something my Father told me is that life is change; it’s the one thing you can always depend on. Things may go in the same vein for quite a while, but eventually it will not be so. Now this is just from me; if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that life is like a big wheel. You have years where everything is amazing and you can’t get enough of life, and you also have years where you feel like crawling in a hole and never coming out again. Something I’m still working on is accepting things as t…
/r/MenSupportMen08/03/23 01:58 AM
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It’s hard to really gauge a situation from the outside with scant details…but everything I’m seeing is not good. If the dad just works all the time and never sleeps alone with his wife that speaks to a very sad and deeply flawed dynamic; which your GF likely sees as normal and could very easily seek to recreate. At the end of the day it is your choice obviously, but the fact that you are reaching out to get a second opinion means that alarm bells are going off in your subconscious and this proba…
/r/MenSupportMen21/02/23 03:56 PM
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At 24 it is very alarming for a person to still share a bed with their parent unless they are functionally a child (special needs etc). While it is less likely for a mother to be sexually abusive to her daughter, it could very well be a case of emotional incest or at best a very odd situation where your GF is kept as a child in some ways for the mother’s benefit. If you still want to stay with her, I would have a very open conversation with her about this. Some ideas of what to ask include: How …
/r/MenSupportMen21/02/23 02:42 AM
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Well, negative self/body image is something that a lot of people have and it’s no simple process to get rid of it. What I will say is never underestimate your ability to affect the way people treat you. You know how you mentioned some guys on the shorter side are confident etc? That’s because they got themselves into the correct mindset which is “I’m a catch”. It’s rather insane how powerful something that simple can be, but it does work, particularly when we are talking about men’s confidence a…
/r/MenSupportMen20/02/23 04:46 AM
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Well that’s a part of it yes, but it seems to center around shitting on women for chasing Chads and getting down on themselves for being unattractive at the same time. Take a look at the terminology you used in the post. You immediately gave your own height and weight, ranked yourself etc, then mentioned “normies and short people”. Language is often a reflection of the mind, and it seems like you are still mentally in that Black pill space. What do you want most right now?
/r/MenSupportMen20/02/23 03:08 AM
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My best advice would be to hang out with women more. That’s always the key to beating a hate group of any kind, by getting to know the group that is the subject of said hatred. While there are always bad apples in every group of people, finding the ones you connect with humanizes the whole group and makes it a lot harder to go along with blanket ideas or statements. With that being said, try to avoid feminists if you can because you are just going to butt heads with them and it will further driv…
/r/MenSupportMen20/02/23 02:35 AM
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Not at all, I very much enjoy having pleasant conversations with rational people; it’s so rare to find these days. You raise some very good points on generational trauma; it legit makes me sad that a lot of women (including yourself) have experienced that from scumbag men out there. Not to get into the weeds but I also experienced significant emotional abuse from my mother so I hear you; the trauma just makes everything that much harder. Honestly that’s why I enjoy talks like this so much; it re…
/r/MenSupportMen12/02/23 04:02 AM
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Well, let me just say that I’m always encouraged to see some ladies such as yourself still out here. I’m close friends with my cousin’s wife and she also breaks the mold on that; wants equal rights for women and men and will listen to men’s problems. Sometimes it feels like most women hate men entirely, and there’s this vicious double standard where men can be derided mercilessly with no consequence but if a man disparages a single thing about a woman he is publicly flayed alive. I get that wome…
/r/MenSupportMen12/02/23 03:32 AM
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I hate to break it to you, but you are not what would be classified as a “liberal feminist” anymore. Your example with Eminem and the WNBA? Tons of circles would label you a toxic incel if you didn’t specify your gender; if you did it would change to a “pick me” at best. It’s the damn Wild West nowadays; what would have been considered leftist 20 years ago is now literally labeled “radical right”. Would suggest watching Bill Maher sometime; he’s an old school leftist that is considered radical r…
/r/MenSupportMen12/02/23 02:55 AM
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Well I think it’s definitely worth considering “Why do I feel like a bitch?” If you have a “10/10 girl and a great job” that’s doing pretty damn good, especially at 24. It’s one of the great ironies of life though; you can have the whole world at your feet and just taste ash and ruin if your mind is not in your corner. I will say though, maybe dig a little on those feelings of inadequacy. Trust me, nothing spoils a relationship faster than one party quietly nursing inadequacy as that leads to pe…
/r/MenSupportMen24/01/23 02:37 AM
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Well I’m definitely older so let me give it a stab haha. First off don’t ever feel weird or bad for having sexual or emotional cravings; it just means you are a healthy young guy. Giving up or at least seriously curbing porn is huge; especially as a young guy having that testosterone beast raging makes a lot of guys choose the easy route. But the rewards are for the men that can channel that drive into something else; the guys that get after the gym, are career driven etc. But you know all that,…
/r/MenSupportMen23/01/23 02:23 AM
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There are a lot of universal, uncomfortable truths that lurk in both genders subconscious. We like to deny it or laugh it off but history shows it to be true. Men: Hardwired to impregnate as many beautiful, young fertile women as possible. Women: Hardwired to seek impregnation from the man with the best genetics and lock him down for his resources. You may have noticed the above subconscious desires very rarely line up with the real world. Unfortunately in today’s society though, it makes men hy…
/r/MensRights21/01/23 02:29 PM
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Women straight up refuse to do “icky” jobs 9 times out of 10. Sure you have a couple macho chicks that Work construction, are plummers etc but I promise you there would be a revolt if all the men were suddenly gone and some of the women were designated to the shit shoveler jobs.
/r/MensRights21/01/23 02:13 PM
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Yes I would definitely suggest using words before just decking someone lol. If a woman gets touched at a party she can slap the perpetrator with virtually no repercussions but as a guy once violence gets initiated it’s typically a serious matter and not one to take lightly. If you have a few drinks in you or just a brass set of balls what you might do is actually ask the next guy that does it why. As long as you keep your cool and just be like “Hey man 100 percent honest question; I’ve had a cou…
/r/MenSupportMen03/01/23 03:48 AM
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It REALLY depends on context. Let me say, I get kinda touchy feely sometimes with dudes (in appropriate places of course, like bro hand on shoulder mostly) when I’ve had a few, but it’s because we are both straight and they’re my bro and I feel close to them. Most of my buddies are cool with this because they know I’m drunk and don’t mean a thing by it. With all the above in mind, I agree that another straight man touching your waist for any reason besides getting your attention, making a point …
/r/MenSupportMen03/01/23 01:44 AM
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Hey man, I’m sorry to hear you are going through such a rough patch. Losing a mentor/father figure is hard enough without losing your girl as well. I’ve battled depression for years so let me try to give you a few pointers. The biggest thing for me has always been slowly pulling myself out of the hole, one arm length at a time. This requires that you identify all the things that are weighing you down (trust me there are way more than you think, the two big ones are just pushing you past critical…
/r/MenSupportMen02/01/23 07:02 PM
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As to how other guys deal with the feminist narrative, I think it expresses in a few different ways. The really confident types have enough money, status etc can somewhat get away with saying what they want in response. The majority of men I think just tune it out; I’m sure for most guys they inwardly seethe when we have to hear some lecture about how men are such animals etc whenever some dumb ass celebrity beats on his girlfriend. Then there’s the crowd of men that willingly trash their own on…
/r/MenSupportMen02/01/23 04:08 AM
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I’m right there with you brother. Personally I think it’s harder than ever to be a man nowadays because everything is so confused. Most women are hard core feminists so it’s hard as hell for normal guys to find a mate. Add to that the regular slander and hate speech leveled at men through every form of media imaginable and you have a nasty outcome for a lot of men today. Traditionally, a man was the head of the household and respected because he was the one that made it all work. Bills come due?…
/r/MenSupportMen02/01/23 02:34 AM
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Well I definitely agree with you but would caution you about saying anything on Reddit (or really most public sites) about it. Reddit is so full of trolls and simps nowadays they will mock, belittle and label you an incel if you say anything like “to be a man is to be a slave”. Probably the truest thing I have ever heard along these lines is the quote “women and children are loved for existing, men are loved for what they can provide”.
/r/MenSupportMen02/01/23 01:49 AM
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This hits close to home for me; I grew up with incredibly controlling (and damaging) religious zealots that did very similar shenanigans. I am glad you have a strong backbone; it sounds like you have no problem seeing that their behavior is unreasonable which is a crucial step. My personal advice would be to leave as soon as you can. The sooner you can get away from them, the sooner you can start learning to live in the real world. Also, be careful about them paying for your school. They will ha…
/r/MenSupportMen30/12/22 04:06 PM
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First off, I’m so sorry this happened to you my friend. An older sister is supposed to be kind to her little siblings and assume a pseudo mother role, not abuse them. Nothing that happened was your fault; she sounds like a true predator that should be buried beneath the jail. I am curious though; when you mentioned wanting to leave real bad. Is she your caretaker, or does she still live in the same house as you? As for what you can do…it partially depends on your situation. If you are still livi…
/r/MenSupportMen14/12/22 04:06 AM
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Ah ok that’s very fair, the US is an odd place compared to the rest of the world. What is customer service generally like in Norway?
/r/MenSupportMen06/12/22 02:10 PM
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There’s two approaches you can take on this front, I’ll let you guess which one is more common. There’s the Chick Fil A “win every customers heart every time” and then there’s the Burger King “Hurry up and order or get out of the line so other people can order”. I don’t have any skin in the game because I don’t own a business, but is it really surprising in a time when half the people coming in to stores are just price matching so they can buy it online for salespeople to prioritize customers th…
/r/MenSupportMen06/12/22 01:39 PM
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I would base a lot on the tone and interaction before that. If she was very polite and helpful and listened for 10-15 before getting the idea that you were not going to spend much it’s not unreasonable for her to politely excuse herself, though cutting off a customer is rarely ok. If on the other hand you had just gotten there and she was unhelpful and short with you then cut you off to leap for another customer, then yes I think at that point you are fully within your rights to say something. I…
/r/MenSupportMen06/12/22 01:14 AM
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These are not friends. I know guys who will rag on each other sometimes but there’s always a line and it’s almost always in good fun. This smacks of low self esteem toxic guys that are “friends” with you because you provide some benefit to them but they actually hate you. Friends do not deride their real friends like that, they either help or give constructive criticism. My advice would be to cut loose those toxic clowns and find people that are actually interested in you having a good life, not…
/r/MenSupportMen04/12/22 08:09 PM
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Hang in there brother, I know how bad loneliness can be. I was alone for years and got really bad off before I decided to move to be closer to family. Definitely not perfect but having people to see every week was huge for me. Do you have any family or friends you can connect with?
/r/MenSupportMen25/11/22 07:22 AM
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Sorry you are feeling down today man, holidays are a hard time of year for a lot of us in different ways. As far as “missing” your ex in a way, it’s really not surprising. Toxic people tend to carve out a huge part of our life for their own, which feels weird when they are gone and you have this huge empty space now you’re probably not sure what to do with. My advice would be to fill it up with hobbies and people you enjoy spending time with and never look back.
/r/MenSupportMen25/11/22 01:26 AM
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Glad to hear you are going to be with him. Don’t worry about keeping it together man; sometimes there’s nothing more necessary than tears being shed. I would just say to tell him how much you love him and go hold his hand.
/r/MenSupportMen14/11/22 01:50 AM
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Do you mind giving more details? How long it’s been going on, what does she do, etc?
/r/MensRights04/11/22 08:15 PM
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May be getting the boot in six months at my current work, we just got the word yesterday the company is being bought out. So yeah I’ll probably be hitting the booze this weekend haha
/r/MenSupportMen04/11/22 04:06 PM
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It sounds pretty legit to me. The fact all the details line up from the past, the timetables etc is huge. If you were older and (no offense) well off enough to be a potential target for a cash grab, that would be one thing. As it is though, it’s probably just a really good adoptive Dad trying to look out for his daughter’s future needs.
/r/MensRights02/11/22 02:34 AM
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This reminds me a good deal of the “50:50 equal treatment” bait and switch that women talk about when it comes to dating and relationships.
/r/MensRights02/11/22 12:26 AM
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Ok so I see your point a bit better here, but do we really want to mitigate trauma though? When you say something like “Someone that was raped would gladly trade their experience for OPs” that’s making a lot of assumptions and also going against one of the first things trauma psychologists teach (I’ve talked to one before about some I’ve experienced) which is “Never compare your trauma; it’s not fair to you or to them.”
/r/MensRights01/11/22 03:43 AM
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Dude I get where you’re going here (don’t be a victim etc) but I’ll have to disagree with your definition of rape. Most (reasonable) definitions of rape are essentially “a physically coerced sexual act where at least one party is unwilling in their participation” which this would definitely qualify as.
/r/MensRights01/11/22 02:48 AM
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“I wasn’t going to let him get away though.” “He came to me for comfort and I was right there waiting.” O.o Run.
/r/MensRights31/10/22 10:35 PM
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Saw a post a few weeks ago where these thug women beat the hell out of some high school girl on a subway. The article had a quote from the mother of the girl (and this view was supported by the author and the commentators) that it was “reprehensible” for the men to just sit there and not save the girl. Ooo I get it, so men should be neutered and muzzled at all times unless females need an attack dog to save their ass. Then it’s (sputters in outrage) “How dare you not savagely defend me with your…
/r/MensRights31/10/22 06:55 PM
76

“The potential gains are enormous and the cost of achieving them is so low.” Yeah…the gains are enormous for women; at literally no cost to them. Instead the men are expected to foot the entire bill (as usual) and get nothing in return.
/r/MensRights31/10/22 05:45 PM
3

My 20s was pretty much a study in isolation and hermitism. What changed it around for me was moving closer to my sister and brother-in-law, more than a specific hobby. At least now I have someone to drink with on the weekends.
/r/MenSupportMen31/10/22 01:54 PM
17

Tell her there’s one woman you damn sure never want to see naked.
/r/MensRights24/10/22 11:22 PM
19

It’s not being an asshole to point out a fact. In most relationships women’s money is theirs to do with what they want while the men cover the majority of life expenses.
/r/MensRights24/10/22 05:39 PM
7

Simply put, modern society has given women a few automatic win buttons that they ruthlessly exploit. In a way it’s like they use verbal martial arts and only know three moves, but it doesn’t matter because men are usually caught flat footed. Here are the three moves: The belittling hip throw Doesn’t matter what the discussion topic is, this one is meant to put you flat on your back and usually does. Usually this takes the form of a character assassination, such as labeling you an incel or the dr…
/r/MensRights24/10/22 12:16 AM
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I’ll preface this by saying I don’t know their relationship, but this speaks to hella respect in my opinion from her to him. As opposed to passively aggressively pressuring him to buy her a Cadillac sized engagement ring, she wants to be with him enough that she proposed to him instead. To me, that’s what healthy equal treatment looks like.
/r/MensRights22/10/22 04:50 PM
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Not a good idea. In the modern society today the one and only time women are actually prosecuted on non consensual sex charges is when a minor is involved (they might get slapped on the wrist with a couple years). Two consenting adults, guess who they are going to believe? I promise you any woman out there can whip up a false narrative and crocodile tears faster than you can say hot potato.
/r/MensRights21/10/22 05:17 PM
8

Probably the most annoying thing to me right now is the utter stupidity behind anti incel arguments. These people (mostly women) scornfully mock and label men as incels when they literally know nothing about the community. Probably 70-80 percent of them don’t even know what incel stands for yet they will quickly and smugly regurgitate media propaganda like they are actually saying something of note.
/r/MensRights21/10/22 03:27 AM
2

Wouldn’t it be hilarious if she got murdered with that knife? The police would have so many questions
/r/MensRights20/10/22 11:43 PM
23

Lol you don’t even know what an incel is outside the generally vague term you have heard tossed around in your feminist groups. Since you are not a man and this is a group for mens rights, how about you do everyone a favor and leave since you obviously have nothing significant to contribute to the conversation.
/r/MensRights20/10/22 03:54 PM
8

Got to get a little dirty when you dig for gold.
/r/MensRights20/10/22 02:55 PM
117

Any time an older man goes for a younger woman, women tend to lose their minds because it reinforces what they already know deep down. Media outlets try to BS the hell out of this by pandering to female ego at every turn and pretending women over 35 are “in their prime” just like men.
/r/MensRights20/10/22 01:32 PM
2

The most annoying thing to me is how the term incel is another weapon in the anti male arsenal now; most people do not even know that the term means “involuntary celibate” and what that means to that community of men. It’s just become a radioactive label that men get plastered with if they don’t fall in line with the feminist rhetoric that has pretty much become synonymous with “terrorist”. The fact that incels gets labeled as terrorists when you have groups like “Female Dating Strategy” that ar…
/r/MensRights20/10/22 12:23 AM
1

It gets to the point of rampant incredulity. Women have shamed men relentlessly for daring to approach them, for “bothering” them, for daring to call them hot. You saw this regularly in conversation, magazine articles, posts on Reddit, etc. Finally, men throw their hands up and say “Ok fine, I’ll spend my money on myself”. And that’s a BIG problem. Now there’s a relatively new trend of shaming men for “being boys” (aka not spending money on women), for daring to not approach women and be rejecte…
/r/MensRights20/10/22 12:00 AM
1

You know what’s really informative? The rare times you catch women trying to pull this on other women. They get zero sympathy whatsoever, just a cutting “Are you finished little girl?” or something to express they know exactly what is going on and it’s going to get them nowhere.
/r/MensRights19/10/22 10:47 PM
8

No worries brother, love that you are trying to hold them accountable I was just saying they would probably try to twist the narrative as they always do
/r/MensRights19/10/22 02:09 AM
10

Erm, you know that was satire right? I think so but just making sure lol
/r/MensRights19/10/22 01:52 AM
5

This 1000%. Some girls may scoff and get turned off, and these are exactly the girls that wouldn’t be good girlfriend material in the first place. You want a girl that appreciates the respect you are showing her and will show it in return.
/r/MenSupportMen19/10/22 01:28 AM
27

“Victimized women band together in support group that exposes predator men, more at 5:00!”
/r/MensRights19/10/22 01:23 AM
4

I hear the sound of plates spinning in your background sir. All jokes aside though, technically you are correct but I would say the reality just doesn’t match up a lot of times. Some dudes (such as myself) have social anxiety and other maladies that make it unfeasible to strut into the club in a suit like Ryan Gosling. When Rollo and other guys point the finger at men and say “The ball is in your court to be better”, I 100 percent agree with them logically but I also think it’s bullshit that as …
/r/MensRights16/10/22 01:09 PM
1

It’s become a vicious thing now that we have a few generations of women that are fully indoctrinated through social media and the school system. The irony is all this “progress” has just led us backwards thousands of years to the caveman model where most women are getting knocked up by the top 10 percent of the men, leading to rampant single motherhood and an ever increasing class of desperate men that cannot get any women and women angry that they can’t lock down a guy way out of their league.
/r/MensRights16/10/22 12:59 PM
1

Now if only the trash didn’t complain all the way to the dumpster we’d be golden.
/r/MensRights14/10/22 12:29 PM
9

This is just my opinion, but I think it’s rare these posts are genuine. Do such women exist? Certainly, I’m close friends with one. But I also think it doesn’t take a genius to see an untapped market and take advantage.
/r/MensRights13/10/22 12:46 PM
1

It’s definitely inappropriate if you have asked him to stop. The only real question at this point is if he’s doing it because he’s attracted to you and trying to impress you or if he’s just being an asshole that can’t take a hint.
/r/MenSupportMen12/10/22 03:19 PM
2

Fair enough, sounds like they were both not very good people. If you had a best friend that you knew your whole life that came to you and told you the same thing you said in the original post, what advice would you give them on how to proceed?
/r/MenSupportMen08/10/22 05:49 PM
1

Ah ok that makes things a bit more clear. Just from what you’ve told me, I would guess it’s a combination of a few things on the Father front. First, you’re still pretty young so are likely sorting through what you think about a lot of things; when we do this we typically look to things our parents told us as children and young adults. It sounds like this would mostly be your Mother since she was the central parent figure in your life, but I’m sure there were still a few things your father told …
/r/MenSupportMen08/10/22 04:58 PM
2

Ok so quite a few things going on here; let me see if I can briefly address them. Health Problems: I’m not really a doctor so can’t offer much insight into this. It sounds like a serious situation so it is very important to have people in your life you can talk to about it. Which leads to point 2. Female in your life that is a Feminist: This is a really tough one. Living in a city of any size, it seems like finding a woman who does not identify as a feminist to some degree is nearly impossible. …
/r/MenSupportMen08/10/22 04:08 PM
6

Look man, the fact that you: Have a plan even if it’s rough. Recognize that HR isn’t your speed. Are looking at alternative career options objectively. Are willing to work hard. Tells me you are going to be just fine. I’m in my early 30s, and if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that life is full of peaks and valleys. You’re obviously a smart guy but you’re in a valley right now, and that’s ok. What helped me in my valleys was to really focus on my major problems, one by one, then write down h…
/r/MenSupportMen07/10/22 11:59 PM
2

The first two I will skip as they are probably more something you will have to answer for yourself. I would say though if you want some eye opening content about modern feminism check out the female dating strategy subreddit or two X chromosomes. The hatred of men is seething and far more intense on there than any so called misogynistic groups of men that have been blackballed for expressing their views. But yes on to some constructive material: how to raise your son. I would say, above all ensu…
/r/MensRights05/10/22 10:55 PM
14

You can’t have your cake and eat it too. Men are regularly and systematically called “violent” “animals” “toxic” etc whenever they step out of line in any arena. Low and behold, this whole train of men was smart enough to not want to deal with the situation because of the unfair label they might have gotten. I can see it right now “Racist misogynistic men beat up defenseless women playing dress up, assault charges and civil suits for emotional trauma are expected.” The women who sat by as men we…
/r/MensRights05/10/22 05:54 PM
6

As would a lot of guys, but that’s missing the point though. If we as a society are going to sneer at older men that go for younger women, then the reverse must also be observed.
/r/MensRights04/10/22 12:14 PM
16

Multiple things. Young strong boy toy that will do what she wants all the time, is likely easy to manipulate (she missed the mark there obviously) and will bang her with that young pistol he’s rocking. I do find the double standard on this gagging though; older men are constantly shamed for going after barely legal girls but for older women going after younger guys it’s considered either hilarious or empowering.
/r/MensRights04/10/22 01:59 AM
1

I’ve seen some great commentary that addresses this by Rolo Tomassi; I won’t get into the weeds but basically it’s a business decision. Being woke and supporting this radical feminism is a self perpetuating cycle; it starts in the Universities and then the media pumps it out because it gets them huge numbers of views. As a result of the media making so much money, all the other industries hop on to get a piece of the pie and it becomes an Iron curtain of radical feminism and woke BS that stretch…
/r/MensRights30/09/22 01:32 PM
99

The same women that complain about a man being emotionally unavailable will immediately lose respect if he opens up emotionally. It can be immensely frustrating with women because they are rarely truthful; the irony though is that many times they are not even consciously lying. They say what sounds good or hip all day, then they do something to completely contradict those statements at the drop of a hat. Personally I think it’s because women are constantly looking to society for cues so they say…
/r/MensRights29/09/22 11:10 PM
1

I would say Karma will come back on her but pretty sure no rapist would do that even if she was naked at night covered in money.
/r/MensRights29/09/22 09:59 PM
1

Find your groove, whatever that is and start there. As another poster mentioned I would second a dojo if you are looking for a brotherhood feel. I know you were just being honest labeling most guys as losers or wannabe alphas, but do examine that carefully. People are surprisingly good at reading vibes and if a guy senses you are seeing him as either one of those things he is probably going to not want to be friends with you.
/r/MenSupportMen29/09/22 08:32 PM
1

Hey man, little bit late to the party but still wanted to put my .02 in. I hate seeing endless posts always proclaiming it’s mens fault when a girl cheats but it’s WWIII if a guy does the same. What I would say though, in the kindest way I can, is to be careful about who you let in your life. Considering it’s multiple women in a row that have cheated on you, you may have some buried trauma or insecurity that is causing you to choose that type of woman as a partner. Maybe just try hookups for a w…
/r/MenSupportMen29/09/22 08:26 PM
1

That’s hilarious! And woefully accurate lol; immediately brings Idiocracy to the forefront of the mind
/r/MensRights23/09/22 01:00 PM
3

I haven’t heard the term before, do you mind explaining it briefly?
/r/MensRights23/09/22 12:24 PM
15

Lol this is literally always in the back of my mind on this shit. “You are so horribly oppressed by straight white men that you are free to trash them in every avenue possible.”
/r/MensRights23/09/22 11:51 AM
4

Unfortunately this happens all the time, because women are born with value and men are not. It is frustrating to constantly hear this “male privilege” rhetoric from the rooftops when men are regularly given nothing from society and expected to “man up” at every turn. It’s really simple why it happens though. Women will always (and I mean every single time) support a narrative that is beneficial to women. They only throw other women to the wolves when the crazy cannot be denied, then they are lab…
/r/MensRights21/09/22 01:31 PM
6

It’s a relief that at least folks in this community see it too, even if literally every person you meet on the street refuses to acknowledge any of the above points. Even daring to bring them up gets you labeled a Misogynist Incel as they mock you for having the temerity to step out of line. I don’t know man…I’m just tired of being the bad guy all day every day. I work hard, pay my taxes and contribute to society but apparently my life has been a perfect cloud of silver spoons and privilege sinc…
/r/MensRights18/09/22 04:41 AM
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This is a great point I’ve said for years. Women may compete individually with each other but they all hold the party line on their gender. If a woman they don’t know is ostracized, they automatically give her the benefit of the doubt unless it’s extremely flagrant. Men are very quick to demonize and jeer at a man they don’t know because there’s an infinitesimal chance the woman will favor them more. Thus you have a vicious scenario where things like “Believe all women” somehow become socially a…
/r/MensRights14/09/22 05:22 PM
1

There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance my friend. On the point of being discriminated against for our gender and skin color (the irony…) I agree; the last group it’s socially acceptable to openly bad mouth is straight white males. This is especially true of the crowd under 40; the past few generations have been fed more coolaid than the previous 10 combined. It’s easy to get angry at the laughable double standard at times; but at the end of the day that doesn’t solve your issue. Lo…
/r/MensRights12/09/22 02:37 PM
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A boy sleeping with a hot female teacher is seen as a conquest/status thing because men are not protected by society. If a man does some shit he pays the consequence, or is told to “man up” if he’s the victim. A girl sleeping with her teacher even if she is 17 is seen as heinous because women are protected by society and many times rewarded or at least shielded from the consequences of their bad decisions. Don’t believe me? Check your gut instinct when you pass a homeless man versus a homeless w…
/r/MensRights09/09/22 12:28 PM
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I would say that’s a poor metric to base the argument on; anybody who thinks the President is running the country doesn’t understand much about the modern US political system.
/r/MensRights06/09/22 12:28 AM
1

Hey man, thanks for giving some hope. I know a lot of folks will shit on you for being young but don’t listen; if things don’t work out it is what it is but I hope it does. I would say in modern society you are probably the exception to the rule, just not many women out there like you describe so hang on to her as long as you can 🙂
/r/MensRights02/09/22 11:32 PM
1

Well, assuming you are in fact making that kind of money before 30 and not just flexing, then of course you think it’s nonsense. Men that are literally part of the 20 percent most women pursue would indeed find the concept baffling. It’s similar to how women see online dating as the simplest thing in the world; because they are constantly bombarded with options.
/r/MensRights10/08/22 04:52 PM
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