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aubounty/r/seduction20/12/19 04:21 PM
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Develop a reason to have confidence, like a skill. Then, have confidence even if you're not good at it, because you are learning and on your path doing something you care about.
/r/seduction03/05/20 05:23 AM
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Girls tend to be more prone to oneitis in some senses. Girls produce far more oxytocin (the bonding hormone) than men, and attractive men are a commodity, as hot girls are. The solution for guys is just to see more girls and to not have all your eggs in one basket kind of deal. For girls, not so sure.
/r/seduction15/04/20 06:27 AM
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It's difficult because girls are very subtle about this sort of thing. Girls of higher value will very rarely overtly express attraction so yeah. At least not at first anyway. Some decent places to look that may give you a rough idea are: - Your own self confidence - External factors that we know help with attraction (relative status in your area, your objective appearance, your work, etc). - Past relationships and how they worked out. Did you leave the girl or did she notice your value decline …
/r/seduction12/04/20 03:47 AM
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Girls in my life absolutely fall over when I call them beautiful and when I get them flowers. The problem is, you most certainly do not lead with this behaviour. You need to demonstrate that you have a spine and can look after yourself and friends. The guides and things you see actually do help men a lot. I used to never be able to attract girls into my life, and over the last two years after comparing advice on forums like these (including reading guides) my dating life and mental health have b…
/r/seduction11/04/20 06:33 AM
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The reason why I call you man-hating is not necessarily because you hate men, its because the advice that you spread harms the relationships between men and women. When men follow it, their dating life suffers and their partners lose respect and attraction for them. I have seen men be so confused and hurt over why respecting women doesn't attract any girls. Men I know from University have come close to suicide because they aren't able to attract any sort of intimacy or care into their life and t…
/r/seduction11/04/20 06:29 AM
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Many of the men in this sub have done nothing but treat women with respect. They get them flowers, they be available to her, they help her solve her problems, etc. The problem is, this is not attractive behaviour. It actually repulses potential partners. It makes girls think you are creepy. That's why they end up here, seeking alternative advice. You are met with rude comments because many of the men here have followed that advice and been hated for it. They come here to learn how to make attrac…
/r/seduction11/04/20 06:22 AM
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just wondering tho
/r/seduction11/04/20 05:36 AM
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Demonstrating that you have nothing else to do is the part that makes it backfire
/r/seduction11/04/20 01:28 AM
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Sounds like something to look into. Are you not concerned about the amount of time investment that this is? Normally when you speak for too long especially via text it backfires on you.
/r/seduction10/04/20 04:28 AM
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Depends on the girl and how much they want you to elaborate. If they mention it, just be like "yeah I guess". Brush it off. If they want you to elaborate, like how many women have you been with, your answer depends on the girl. If a girl seems sincere and to be more of a "relationship" type girl, you say that "the number of girls isn't really important, as long as it feels safe and both people are enjoying themselves". If she doesn't seem like that and is objectively more a "party girl", just sa…
/r/seduction06/04/20 03:52 PM
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That's interesting Sabe. Happy to hear things are going better for you now though. Some questions. Are you posting photos with her on social media, or is she posting about you? Is she very attractive? Does she speak with other girls / those girls who are giving you attention now, about you?
/r/seduction05/04/20 08:58 AM
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Treat the conversations like a string between the two of you. Too slack and she wanders off, too tight and it snaps. Too frequent is boring. Too distant she will wander off.
/r/seduction03/04/20 01:40 AM
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You shouldn't care, but yes girls are subconsciously attracted to men with sexual experience. Overall, doesn't matter and everyone begins somewhere. Don't let it get you down, everybody has to deal with it. Have some belief in yourself.
/r/seduction02/04/20 01:12 PM
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the whole thing is a game, that's why the catalyst for half this subculture is a book called the game. Changing your behaviour is no different to a girl using makeup
/r/seduction30/03/20 12:26 AM
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also you are never doomed, just learn what you are doing wrong and fix it
/r/seduction28/03/20 07:13 AM
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Stop being so available. Don't reply fast. Ignore her for like two days at a time. Don't always attend things you are invited to. Show social proof on your social media with other girls. Don't use lots of emojis. Etc
/r/seduction28/03/20 07:13 AM
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They're worth using insofar as it lets you funnel girls to your normal social media and learn how to message properly Even without the virus they are useful
/r/seduction28/03/20 06:08 AM
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Didn't read the paragraph but to answer your question, just understand that: every time you choose to be the nice guy, you only hurt yourself. ​ If you continue to repeatedly make the same mistake and hurt yourself, that's just not respecting yourself at all.
/r/seduction23/03/20 09:48 AM
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Get a job. Be enough of a sadist to start a small business. Practise your social skills at every opportunity.
/r/seduction23/03/20 07:20 AM
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I remain silent most of the time. I do nothing to comfort this feeling. You should let her feel it out and understand that you are not there as a therapist or to alleviate her insecurities.
/r/seduction22/03/20 07:46 AM
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Give it some time before messaging again. If you have her snapchat, put up a story of you doing something that looks interesting. You can also post pictures that suggest you are with another girl, or put up a photo of the sky with a pretty building in it, suggesting you're heading to dinner or something - especially if you location tag it on instagram. Always match the time she takes to respond + add a little bit. If she takes 15 minutes, take 20. If she takes an hour, take 1.5 hours. Also, be m…
/r/seduction22/03/20 07:39 AM
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You shouldn't have said yes. You should have said, sometimes. Sometimes you say dumb things, sometimes you say things I like. Depends day to day. Avoid flat out compliments. Girls fish for them all the time. You should have more confidence. Chalk you being bad in bed up to "yeah you're just kind of like that", not: "I'm a low quality man and I've had little sexual experience." You shouldn't have initiated conversation afterwards, let her do it. Let her feel the concern you feel.
/r/seduction20/03/20 09:35 AM
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Yes I've experienced this a few times, same goes for snapchat stories. There is an entire etiquette for social media that hasn't properly been nailed down.
/r/seduction20/03/20 09:29 AM
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I'm finding it difficult to cope with. You see this in both genders. Emotionally reacting to any party in these situations is bad. You just have to be the type of guy she is the little kitten for, and realise that every person does this to a degree.
/r/seduction09/01/20 05:01 AM
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It's difficult to say. There are alot of factors. You can say it's weird because it's try hard. You can say it's weird because younger people tend to have more apathy, and by displaying an interest in your education it uncomfortably highlights that they dont have that interest. You can say it's weird because your aesthetic is not traditionally academic - so they are assuming you are lying about either your aesthetic or having a genuine interest in achieving. You can say it's weird because there …
/r/seduction08/01/20 05:37 PM
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You can make a case for it being good to lead, though I have yet to seen any IOIs be generated by older students who do this.
/r/seduction08/01/20 05:25 PM
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In my experience, very very rarely will an older student consistently responding to questions be perceived positively.
/r/seduction08/01/20 05:24 PM
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How do you stop? You realise it damages the relationship so you dont do it
/r/seduction08/01/20 01:02 PM
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I usually consider these thirst traps. I wouldn't comment positively on her appearance. Would be better to make an inside joke of something about the image such as her environment or how she looks like some sort of character from a cartoon.
/r/seduction07/01/20 06:49 AM
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Hey, I'm about to sleep but can give you some staple resources. These youtube channels are like your textbooks. I'll put what they are best for (in my opinion) after their link. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo9XJennsRNhyPbXCq6e8aw/videos - Verbal technicality https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0it1cu-mt_IcvLTQ4CWcHw/videos - Text game (you have to read between the lines) and solutions to specific problems you come across like being flaked on and etc can be found in here as you experience them…
/r/seduction06/01/20 05:09 PM
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One final note as I'm about to sleep, modelling after this guy might be a strong idea. He is successful and around your age with lots of valuable content. He helps with the more mechanical side of social interactions, though overall it should help you significantly on your journey. He is the definition stylistically of what I would call normalcy, and dressing like him could be a safe place to begin. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo9XJennsRNhyPbXCq6e8aw/videos
/r/seduction06/01/20 04:58 PM
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This is actually somewhat difficult - not to be disrespectful, but because of your age. If I wear all black at age 21 with long hair it's ok, but if you wear all black the odds of it coming across tryhard and immature are very high. People like Marilyn Manson can accomplish this because of their fame. It seems to me that the older you get, the more you have to have your emotions and things in order. For instance, its kind of ok for me at age 21 to not drive and have a car (even though I do) and …
/r/seduction06/01/20 04:47 PM
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You need to work on that. You need to work on feeling abundant and valuable without girls. The way to do this is to find a purpose. When I had no girls either, I had to cultivate this. This video and others on his channel should help you for now with specific girls like the one you are talking about https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQrPcaiIk_s&t=222s Ignore the quality, the tactic itself is really helpful. You can continue to spend time with her and follow her around, but just know you're hurting…
/r/seduction06/01/20 03:35 PM
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No worries. Yeah, I'm at university and study law and sociology. My style is not congruent to the environment, but it still works. I get noticed, and as long as I am socially calibrated the attention can turn to attraction. To answer your question, it depends. If you intend to make your classrooms your demographic, then you should adapt to their style better than them. If however, the majority of your romantic interactions and sense of self come from a different environment, model that one inste…
/r/seduction06/01/20 03:27 PM
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It's not pathetic. It's natural that you would want to do that. Most of us here felt that way initially. I would look into the concept of abundance in the pickup community if i were you.
/r/seduction06/01/20 03:17 PM
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Hey dude, welcome. No, don't accept that. I think you're in a great position - you've done the hardest part. The hardest part is admitting where you are at. Im going to give you the best advice I can: - Watch RSD videos (stuff like https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHyg7mE6fRU ) - Pick the social media of a person who matches your style who is attractive to women. You can stalk people on your area on facebook to do this. Once you have found them, create social media (instagram, snapchat and facebo…
/r/seduction06/01/20 03:12 PM
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Mate he said english isn't his first language, relax lmao
/r/seduction06/01/20 02:37 PM
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Hey man, I hope you're ok. How do you never let this happen again? Well, unfortunately over the course of your life it likely will. A piece of advice is: if a girl feels like she has you whenever she wants, she will be far less likely to be attracted to you romantically. This is the problem with being too friendly. She knows if you're available to hang out whenever, or help her with something over text within 10 minutes, she will not be attracted. She wants a challenge, someone with stuff going …
/r/seduction06/01/20 02:35 PM
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This question is phrased a little strangely, but I'll try to help the problem I see you explaining. As a person, you will naturally gravitate towards a particular style or "scene". For you, your hair might place you in music groups for instance, but alienate you from book/academic types. Attraction is interesting this way, because being attractive to one group of people generally makes it harder for you to penetrate others, and changing styles to suit situations is not easy, efficient or good fo…
/r/seduction06/01/20 02:29 PM
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I would keep it, and try to shift your perspective. Who cares if other people are being phonies and attention seekers - you can still be your authentic self on the platform. Like you say, it's a helpful tool.
/r/seduction06/01/20 02:09 PM
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I am not at all great at cold approach, but for the sake of giving an idea maybe you could try to integrate something naturally. For instance, talk to her about her hair - and mention your cousin has really good hair its insane *pull up your instagram that has a pic of him on it* then exchange from there. You know, like a rehearsed bit that naturally makes it easier to exchange information
/r/seduction30/12/19 02:25 AM
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Watch youtube channels like Alpha Male Strategies, ToddvDating, Mindfulattraction.org Todd in particular is really good with "moves" and the mechanical side which sounds like what would be most helpful to you. I would separate them as: AMS = Great for texting Todd = Great for verbal game, escalation, technical elements Mindfulattraction.org (dark game, the alex guy) = Parts in between, hanging out
/r/seduction30/12/19 02:22 AM
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I agree with shuger. Stop initiating contact, go out and bang other girls and learn how the dynamics work. You are correct, girls will keep you around for validation. I would stop talking to her, but post high value content on instagram and snapchat stories (get both of those...). I would also go out and make friends and try to have experiences with other girls. Eventually, she will come around if you prove yourself not to be a little doormat. Either that, or you should get other girls in the pr…
/r/seduction27/12/19 08:28 AM
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When I'm trying to get laid I will often to the opposite. I feel as though they need to be aware I have integrity and will call them out if they say something silly. There's no need to push and make them upset, you only need to say once that you don't believe her. If that annoys her, ok. Just move on and escalate as per usual. At least now she knows you're not 1) gullible 2) going to be quiet in exchange for sex (she will come to abuse this). Good luck.
/r/seduction27/12/19 07:31 AM
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Sorry to hear about your breakup, but very smart of you to spend time on personal growth. My hobby is photography. It's great for getting yourself a clean social media. You'd be surprised how people perceive you differently if you put up a high quality profile picture on Facebook instead of the one you have now featuring you in a terrible shirt your mate took that has 35 likes from 15 months ago.
/r/seduction27/12/19 07:12 AM
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I tend to pull back slightly and hint what I want when I notice someone becoming sexually distant. Once people feel like they have you, they tend to think they can do less to keep you around.
/r/seduction27/12/19 07:10 AM
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Also, you shouldn't actively avoid hurting people's feelings Telling the truth is far better, often they become more attracted you weren't walking on egg-shells and actually have a spine to say what you think
/r/seduction27/12/19 07:07 AM
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You are pursuing too hard. If you have her on snapchat or instagram, put up a story of you having fun out on the town next weekend instead of asking her to hang out. Let her be concerned it is you who is out with someone else.
/r/seduction27/12/19 07:05 AM
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Yes it does. Interesting to think that if the roles were reversed however - That is to say, women had to approach men to engage in romantic relationships - women would be just as creepy if not more so.
/r/seduction27/12/19 07:02 AM
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Thank you that helps, should be able to translate that to different situations
/r/seduction20/12/19 09:50 PM
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I think a video by Todd Valentine might help you. Youtube Todd Relationship Manifesto. He goes over MLTRs (Multiple Long Term Relationships).
/r/seduction20/12/19 08:11 PM
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Understood. Any sort of material for sets, or should I be comfortable winging it?
/r/seduction20/12/19 06:58 PM
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Hey man, I'm in a rush atm but will do my best to give you some comprehensive advice and resources. The reason why they work in a physiological sense, is because women are programmed become attracted to valuable males. Valuable males have a variety of qualities, one of which is an abundance of females. Because of this, women respond well to males who exude the behaviour of somebody who has other things going on. This means not responding immediately, going out and doing things and etc. Because o…
/r/seduction20/12/19 12:37 PM
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Couldn't agree more. Would love nothing more than to attract women through expressing feelings and giving flowers but thats just not how it works unfortunately. It's also really sad that with the growth of feminism, men are programmed with behaviours that make them less attractive to women. This means that they grow resentful, and that the frustration between sexes enlarges. Consider how men are told to be nice and respectful. What do they do? They tell a girl she's beautiful and he'd love to sp…
/r/seduction06/12/19 04:07 AM
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Understood. I'll reach out on social media to some friends and see what groups they recommend and look to join a couple. Do you have any advice to reach out to specific dudes? Do I just add or message them? I am certain they know who I am because we are similar. Most of the times I have hit the town have been where I specifically go to meet up with a girl, and i go alone. This feels very comfortable, and I can lead and dance and often times get her back to mine just fine. Clubbing with a male fr…
/r/seduction06/12/19 03:49 AM
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For women that is true, but for men it is not. We care alot about her tits and ass, but she cares very little about how much muscles we have in comparison, or how nice our hair is.
/r/seduction06/12/19 03:35 AM
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Yeah, in that case I wouldn't message at all
/r/seduction06/12/19 03:20 AM
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Your "hotness" is almost irrespective of looks. So yeah, absolutely
/r/seduction06/12/19 02:59 AM
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I'd wait 2-3 days, and send her a snap that could have been to anyone. Something like "looking like a nice day" with a picture of the sunrise. Probably something less lame, but you get the idea
/r/seduction06/12/19 02:41 AM
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Hey I think the guy is more intelligent than people give him credit for. Yes paying for models is superficial, but the reach it gives him is insane and there are people out there that buy the social proof. Even if that is 0.05% of his audience, that is an insane amount of hot girls that are out there sexually attracted to him. I really like his idea of combining branding with hot girls, and I'm trying to do the same thing in my city.
/r/seduction06/12/19 02:36 AM
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Hey, great post - some questions. Do you have tips for making guy friends? I see guys in my city I want to be friends with who are good with girls in the same niche as me, but have no idea how to reach out properly. I don't bump into them ever, I just see them on social media. Very introverted and my success has mostly come from online game and mutual parties I get invited to. Daygame is terrifying because I live in a small city, and screwing up with one girl often means screwing up with multipl…
/r/seduction06/12/19 02:22 AM
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Tinder is difficult.To get her out on tinder, I would open with an emotional spike. If she bites, continue talking for only a few messages and then you need to get her off of tinder onto another platform (snapchat or ig). You want to move away from the title of "tinder guy". After only a few messages say to her: whats ur ig, i don't talk here much. If she replies and tells you it, make sure to tell her your instagram name. Like go follow her after she says what hers is, and then message back onl…
/r/seduction05/12/19 11:17 PM
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I don't have time rn to reply to each situation individually, but some advice for your texts: 1) remove the exclamation marks and the question marks, smiles should be used sparingly 2) Words like same are not good. This is because you are putting yourself in her frame, not yours. It's displaying very very high amounts of interest. 3) You're responding too fast. I would respond outside the hours of 9:50am-4:50pm, replying once every 7-15 minutes for 4-6 messages before leaving the convo. I would …
/r/seduction04/12/19 11:31 PM
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Hey dude, so just some pointers. I'm 21, and was in your position last year too. 1) Bookmark useful youtube channels. I would reccommend AMS (alpha male strategies), MJ GetRight, ToddvDating and etc. These will help you with specific problems you will encounter as you try to get girls. 2) Creating a business / Going to the gym is good for your mental health and attracting girls. 3) The best way to get back at your ex is to do better. I would suggest updating your facebook profile picture with a …
/r/seduction04/12/19 10:38 PM
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So I'll tell you a couple of things I've learned. Take them to heart, they should be useful to you. Remove all question marks Your reply times should look like this.- Don't talk during the hours of 9:50 ish am and 4:50pm.- When talking outside of those hours, take 7-15 minutes to respond to every message the person sends. Do this for 4-6 messages before waiting until the next day, or after the day is over. Don't respond to every message. If the last message you receieve from a girl you can ignor…
/r/seduction04/12/19 10:10 PM
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