crownoffeathers Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Advice needed please "If only I had __ then I'd be happy!" First it was the education, then the career, now it's the husband, what will be next? You can choose to be happy now, or let happiness always be one step ahead of you. Nothing and nobody can make you feel happy and fulfilled, that's something you build for yourself.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/06/17 02:25 PM
4	Getting over a promising prospect that didn't work out? You do what all women do: get a haircut, hit the gym, put on your cutest going out top and spend time with your lady friends. You pull it together and focus on yourself because you've only known this guy 6 weeks and you haven't even slept with him yet (right? Right). If he asks for another date, you can say no. Or you can say you're looking for commitment and he's not it. Or you can say you're busy but keep the door open. It's up to you but don't give a man you've known only 6 weeks the satisfac…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/17 12:23 PM
3	How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it? We end up with people who are similar to ourselves. Just relax, be your best self, and be approachable. It's not very kind to think a guy "below" your league should be flattered or grateful for your attentions. In the end, we're most comfortable with people who are like us.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/06/17 12:05 PM
4	(xpost) guys who want a relationship, but not with me You're just not going to click with every guy you meet. It's frustrating and tempting to blame yourself (what's wrong with me????) and it's tempting to blame them (what's wrong with them????) but that's not how relationships work. Think of your close friends...are you close because you're the perfect friend who does everything right, or because your personalities and interests mesh well together? You don't need to be perfect, you just need to find the man who's perfect for you. In the meantime, …	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/17 12:45 PM
3	How can I become a better woman? As an alumunus you should still have access to your school's career center. Making an appointment to discuss your career options could be a good start.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/06/17 07:43 PM
5	Compromising on cohabitation Then you might need to clarify that engagement means a ring, a date, and a deposit on a venue (or whatever criteria you feel comfortable with) and that you won't move in before that. It's not an exchange, where you do this and demand concessions in return, it's setting appropriate personal boundaries.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/06/17 12:02 PM
5	Compromising on cohabitation Have you asked him how long an engagement he envisions? If he says something like 2-3 years, then it might be better to decline moving in. You don't want your resentment to sour the relationship.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/06/17 12:59 AM
1	Husband doing something.. won't tell me what. Lost on where to from here. Im very sceptical he's actually working/commuting 15 hours every night and that they had to move to a new town for that privilege. What is he really doing with his time? I know that's not the point of your post but it's hard to maintain a relationship with someone who's never home.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/05/17 04:37 PM
7	Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties" What can you hold back besides sex and domestic skills? Time. Time is valuable. An American cubicle worker might only get two weeks vacation per year. The more time you spend with a man supporting him, the less time you have to develop yourself and further your personal goals.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/05/17 08:28 PM
22	Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties" I think as a girlfriend: You still make LOTS of plans without him. It's not a given that you will spend all weekends/holidays/vacations together. You take initiative on dates roughly equally. If he takes you out for dinner Saturday, you cook for him Monday. You still go on dates, it's not all time spent at home. You don't make big sacrifices for him, like following him to another country. Only clean if you helped make the mess. (If you're living together, it's different, but if you pay half the …	/r/RedPillWomen	27/05/17 07:23 PM
2	How to better demonstrate value? Yes! Acting like his wife when he treats you like a girlfriend is NOT letting him lead.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/05/17 11:33 AM
3	how long is 'too long' to wait to have sex? It's not about pleasing a random man you've known for two months or 10 dates, it's about knowing yourself and respecting your boundaries. If you need to be in a committed relationship before sex, then wait until then. If you have other criteria, honor that. Never compromise your values. Nobody will respect you if you can't respect yourself.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/05/17 11:31 AM
2	RPW: discussing marriage with your BF There's nothing you can do about the women at work, but your boyfriend can do something. He should be shutting those women down and not contacting them outside of work unless its 100% business related. It's not your job to prevent him from cheating, that's his job. Accepting the flirtations of other women would be a deal breaker for me.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/05/17 04:36 PM
1	RPW: discussing marriage with your BF You sound very insecure in this relationship. I think a big part of that's on you, and how you mentioned elsewhere that you struggle with low self-esteem. But part of that's on him, not shutting down flirtatious women at work and not acknowledging how disrespectful that is to you, and refusing to discuss a marriage timeline. Are you both willing to work on this? Because both of you need to acknowledge this as an issue and figure out solutions.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/05/17 03:48 PM
11	RPW social media presence What should you avoid? Shopping hauls and designer logos. Nobody needs to know you bought yet another Michael Kors bag. Endless restaurant meal pics. Just eat your Applebee's dinner. Adding men. Make him ask for your phone number, don't add him on Snapchat. Selfies and a new profile pic every week. I know a woman is going through a bad breakup when she suddenly posts all these "makeup" selfies fishing for "Girl, you're gorgeous!' Anything that suggests your social media life interferes with your…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/05/17 12:20 PM
15	Why having sex during the vetting process is a bad idea It's old-fashioned but I think you should wait until you love the other person or at least feel a strong emotional attachment very close to love. Hopefully sex is an expression of your feelings rather than a lure to keep a man interested. A lot of good men won't wait for those feelings to develop, that's fine. You don't need 20 men chasing after you, just ONE man who respects your values.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/05/17 06:41 PM
18	Two X Comic completely missing the point of healthy relationship work balances. I might disagree with her conclusion, but I think it's so important to acknowledge that "mental load" and view it as real work. I see a lot of men come to RPW and minimize maintaining a home and family as just cooking, cleaning, and babysitting. It's a lot more than that and it's a role to take pride in.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/05/17 07:01 PM
8	What are/were red-flags to you when dating? Cheated on his ex-wife Had just broken up with his fiancee Expressed his disagreement with me in a sneering, condescending way that was belittling. He documented his car, his Rolex, and his activities with his friends (all 5-10 years younger than himself) heavily on social media. I'm just cringing that my younger self didn't recognize these as red flags for the longest time....	/r/RedPillWomen	22/05/17 12:23 PM
4	What makes someone a good captain? What character traits are you looking for in the vetting process? goal-oriented (has 5, 10, 15 year life plan) a good son to his parents unconcerned with status symbols and showing off. His confidence isn't tied to the car he drives. strong moral character: honest, trustworthy, loyal, keeps his promises, patient, kind, does what's right and not what's easy.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/05/17 12:13 PM
5	Employing RPW principles, but have been dumped twice now and was completely blindsided by it. I don't know what I am doing wrong. Some day you will look back and be glad things didn't progress with these guys, because you will have found someone more compatible, someone who shares all your goals and values and interests. I won't use the word "soulmate", but somebody who connects with you more deeply than shared TV shows and similar IQs. The whole process can be very discouraging, so take care of yourself. Vet, vet, vet, and vet again before giving a man your heart!	/r/RedPillWomen	20/05/17 08:03 PM
1	Compatible Relationship Value Chart? I completely agree, I meant after going on a number of dates...not the man you bumped in to at the grocery store twice who decides he's now in love with you!	/r/RedPillWomen	19/05/17 07:35 PM
4	What do you as women feel you offer a relationship? I feel like you're saying "those things are just personality traits, they don't provide real value!" while the women here are explaining how they do. "Good listener". People with masters' degrees charge 150$/hr for basically this service and call it counseling. And they find customers because your friends? They're just waiting for their turn to talk. Somebody who encourages others to improve and better themselves? A motivational speaker charges 50$ a head for that and a life coach 100$/hr. I wou…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/17 06:27 PM
3	Compatible Relationship Value Chart? You're the average of the men that pursue a relationship with you (note, not the ones that just want to sleep with you). The couples I know in real life are all roughly equal in looks, socioeconomic backgrounds, intelligence, etc.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/17 12:50 PM
8	What do you as women feel you offer a relationship? All of this. It's 2017, a woman can get a job, buy her own house, mow her own lawn, and pay somebody to change the oil in her car. A man can do his own laundry and order take out. They benefit from complementary social/emotional roles, not sheer utility.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/17 12:20 PM
1	What do you as women feel you offer a relationship? The same as men offer women: true partnership. If one person is sick, the other takes care of them. If one is unable to work, the other will pay the bills. If one dies, the other will take care of the kids, if there are any. All the work in life and all the knowledge needed to navigate life successfully can be split between two people. Their strengths make up for your weaknesses, and vice versa.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/17 02:56 AM
57	Is it really THAT bad that I want a man to take care of me? Being a good wife and mother are worthy goals, but you're deluding yourself if you think it's an escape from the stress and pressures of the world. After being woken up twice at night to clean up vomit, or dealing with a day full of screaming tantrums, or cleaning up poop smeared on walls, or having food thrown in your face, many parents find it a relief to go to an office and deal with calm, rational adults and be able to eat a hot meal without interruption. The things that bring you the most j…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/05/17 02:22 AM
3	Best RPW Ways to Manage an Intense Crush He's literally paid to be nice to her and keep her coming back to the gym. It's like when a hot saleswoman says you look fantastic in those pants, she's not really flirting with you, she's trying to sell you pants.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/05/17 12:35 AM
1	How to avoid men who orbit? Basically, you would take responsibility if you could....but you have an excuse not to. You will always have this problem and nothing will ever change until you can admit wrongdoing and work at it. It's ok to have flaws, none of us are perfect. To say "shyness" and a touch of awkwardness are your only flaws is completely delusional and immature.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/05/17 12:16 AM
1	How to avoid men who orbit? You are constantly spinning the story to blame the men and avoid taking any personal responsibility. It's not clarifying the situation, it's a sign of emotional immaturity and insecurity. A 29 year old woman with the emotional intelligence of a 19 year old is not attractive. You have a problem. You post here and get dozens of good suggestions. But none of them are actionable because you choose to see yourself as a victim and not a capable adult woman. If you don't take control of your life and o…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/05/17 11:27 PM
5	How to avoid men who orbit? So many people are suggesting you cut down your social media use...your insistence that you can't/won't is painful. The older you get, the more unattractive it is to quality men. You align yourself with thirsty 19 year old girls instead of dignified women. Regularly snapchatting about your awesome, busy life counterintuitively makes you seem overly available and bored. And as you know, it's how frivolous men try to sleep with you. You're almost 29, 30 next year, and heavy social media use across…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/05/17 08:12 PM
13	How to avoid men who orbit? They don't sound like orbiters, they sound like men you slept with after 6-8 weeks without commitment and they're hoping for more casual sex. The key to getting rid of them is not to sleep with them in the first place.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/05/17 01:04 AM
8	What do red-pilled ladies think about single motherhood? Do they have any opinion at all? Nobody gets married and has kids thinking "I hope one day we'll get divorced and I'll be a single mom/dad!" But life happens and there are a large number of single parents (male and female) and their job is incredibly difficult. The kind thing to do is not judge them or criticize them... because karma sucks and you too might be a single parent some day.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/05/17 12:17 PM
12	why is the instagram baddie/ kylie jenner style not redpillwomen? I see SMV as the qualities that attract men and draw them in, and RMV as the ones that make them stick around and respect you as relationship material. A cute, flirty attitude is attractive to men but it's not what's going to make him think "I want this woman to be the mother of my children!"	/r/RedPillWomen	08/05/17 05:06 PM
7	why is the instagram baddie/ kylie jenner style not redpillwomen? SMV is more than sexiness. It's a demeanor that's fun, flirty, playful, feminine, happy, inviting. If you're at a party, it's the woman having a good time with friends, not the one scowling in the corner, scrolling on her phone. I doubt your appearance is an issue, it could be your approachability.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/05/17 04:29 PM
17	New to RPW: Questions on RMV, friends, and meeting high-quality men (and a small rant) RMV sounds simple (be supportive, kind, agreeable!) but is incredibly hard to put in to practice. It's easier to fly off the handle when someone makes you mad, instead of exercising patience. Easier to keep your home a sloppy mess, than be organized. Easier to pass on juicy gossip, than show self-restraint. Easier to ignore a shy, quiet person rather than graciously include them and make them feel comfortable. Generosity, humility, loyalty, selflessness, empathy, resilience - these aren't develo…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/05/17 07:46 PM
5	How do I become more secure with myself and relationship? I was going to ask why you were looking at and discussing his hookups (you don't need to know that stuff!) when I saw your post about your mother gifting you implants as a graduation gift. Set yourself a difficult goal and work your ass off to achieve it. Doesn't matter what the goal is, the work, just as much as the achievement, will build your self confidence. You have worth outside of your appearance!	/r/RedPillWomen	06/05/17 11:47 AM
1	Am I being ungrateful or doing the best for myself? Quitting a great job is the kind of sacrifice a wife (or bare minimum, fiancee) might make, not a girlfriend.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/05/17 07:14 PM
2	Feelings of isolation leading to decreased focus/motivation? 1) Get a fun roommate, ideally someone who organizes parties and will introduce you to her friends and let you tag along on a Friday night. 2) Chat at work. A little break room small talk can help you feel more energized and is good conversational practice. 3) Reconnect with old friends. If you haven't seen them for months, invite them for coffee. 4) Make awesome new friends! Join a sports team, a hiking club, a running group, an art class, a dance class, a book club, a volunteer group. Any gro…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/05/17 12:30 PM
17	A Woman's Intelligence Every parent is perfect...until they have kids. Good luck to you!	/r/RedPillWomen	03/05/17 02:46 PM
21	A Woman's Intelligence I think most mothers would say that prioritizing your spouse and maintaining your identity as a woman are essential to creating a happy, healthy home for your children. I would love to read a post written by somebody who actually has kids and can speak from experience instead of fantasy.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/05/17 02:22 PM
1	Advice needed: how to handle pick up lines and flirts gracefully? Making friends with the covert intention of dating them isn't honest on your part or theirs. Be honest and clear about what you want, no games!!	/r/RedPillWomen	03/05/17 01:31 PM
1	Advice needed: how to handle pick up lines and flirts gracefully? This is how dating/vetting works. You flirt. He asks you on a date. You get to know each other better, see if you are compatible. It's how you separate men looking for serious commitment vs. looking for fun times. You can't just jump to the serious commitment part before the flirting part.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/05/17 01:07 PM
1	[Advice] SO and I are secretly married, and I don't know how to handle it. Why should he propose 7 years before a wedding? Who has a 7 year long engagement? Why are you worrying about this 7 years in advance? It's good to make your expectations clear, but make those expectations realistic.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/04/17 07:13 PM
4	[Advice] SO and I are secretly married, and I don't know how to handle it. What commitment? There's no financial commitment, they have no assets and no kids. There's no public commitment, so no public embarrasment in front of family and friends if they get divorced. There's no private commitment because he only calls her wife as a joke. He's talking about marriage in 2024 because in his eyes, he's not really married. He did her a nice favor by signing the paperwork to get financial aid. I'm not surprised a young college guy isn't ready to get married, no shame on him, …	/r/RedPillWomen	27/04/17 04:29 PM
1	[Advice] SO and I are secretly married, and I don't know how to handle it. He didn't change his mind, he never wanted to get married. First, it was the pressure from your families. Then, you needed financial aid. He's not treating you like his wife because in his mind, you're not really married, this is a financial convenience. Pretend you have a boyfriend that wants to get married in 2024, because that's the most accurate description of your situation. Think about how you would act in that situation, and do it.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/04/17 02:04 PM
8	how to provide RPW-style mental health support? Ask him why he stopped.... and here's the hard part... do it without judgement. Listen to him without trying to refute his points. Love him even though you think he made a terrible mistake that caused your family to suffer. There may be a time in the future where you gently encourage him to get help, but for now, just try to listen and understand.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/04/17 08:24 PM
4	what is an alpha woman? It's not her specific activities, it's how the activities demonstrate mindset and value. She's not sitting on the couch Friday night and sleeping in Sunday, she's hitting the gym and marketing her business, showing discipline and intelligence and adventurousness in ways that are impressive to men, not threatening. A man wants to be proud to introduce his wife/girlfriend to his friends and family. Is the best he's going to say is "Meet X, she's nice and likes getting her nails done and watching…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/04/17 01:36 PM
4	what is an alpha woman? I know a 9 with a terrific body and a sexy wardrobe, who owns her own catering business, does hostess/modelling gigs part-time, a university graduate, is outdoorsy, has two dogs, and is very friendly at parties. I would consider her an alpha female!	/r/RedPillWomen	25/04/17 12:15 PM
7	How much control did you relinquish? You should know his plan and be a part of his plans. Does he want to live together first, date for 3 years, buy a house before marriage, get that promotion at work? I could never live with "maybe some day".	/r/RedPillWomen	25/04/17 12:04 PM
7	Advice for a "Stay at home GIRLFRIEND"? Looking for a job is a job. Show your appreciation by taking the job hunt as seriously as if you were single and had to pay all your own bills. A job even distantly related to your field could be a good stepping stone to something better.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/04/17 01:13 AM
27	Why do I only attract boring beta males and not alpha males? What am I doing wrong? The common denominator in all your relationships is you, and honestly, you come off a little aggressive here, calling the beta guys feminine, boring, insecure, desperate, bland, forgettable. Maybe it's true, but that's a long list of put-downs. Meanwhile, you want an "alpha" but also one who sees you as a "prize" to be won....so in some ways, somebody who puts you on a pedestal, not an alpha trait. A lot of the aggressive, dominant, rebellious men out there are NOT looking to settle down in a LT…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/04/17 01:11 PM
8	how to help husband find/swallow the red pill. You create a space where he feels comfortable to be himself. And you do this by loving him and letting him know he has your respect and acceptance. This might not be the revolutionary advice you want and it might not lead to the husband of your fantasies, but it's more effective than telling him to "man up!" We have the power to undermine our spouses in a million little ways: they bring home eggs from the grocery store and we roll our eyes and say they're the wrong brand. We see the tie they pic…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/04/17 12:05 AM
13	Long time lurker, need advice. Is he: a) a wonderful guy who is just terrible at gift giving and always will be, and you have to get over your expectations of romantic gestures in order to appreciate all the amazing qualities he does possess and all the ways he does demonstrate his love? Or is he b) a thoughtless guy you're settling for because you're almost 28 and have invested 3 years into this?	/r/RedPillWomen	22/04/17 01:02 AM
18	In what situations is it okay to not be yourself? Don't be yourself, be the best version of yourself. Maybe you're naturally inclined to slack at work, but your best self is committed. You want to respond to an insult with a sharp comment, while your best self chooses not to engage. It will be inauthentic for a loooong time, but hopefully it will become your nature.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/04/17 01:45 AM
6	Questions. I don't think your next step after sobriety should be becoming a better girlfriend. I think you should continue your journey of improving your mental health and finding inner happiness. You can do this by surrounding yourself with positive influences and doing activities that give meaning to your life. Maybe that means attending an addiction support group, or gardening, or joining a sports team, or adopting a dog, or striving harder at your job. If you're drowning, finding an ideology with all t…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/17 03:00 PM
3	Need Advice on a Big Life Change "Event coordination" courses can be done through community college, or you could get a certificate instead of a degree. Also, internships are amazing. You may love organizing but hate working with stressed out, demanding brides and realize this isn't for you. For example, you might prefer to go in to marketing and plan corporate events. (You have free tuition? It might be worth it to get the degree if you are open to other careers and are not completely set on wedding planning. It would give yo…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/17 11:49 AM
6	Who Are the Women of Red Pill? Vice wrote an article. I am very new to this sub but I do frequently see anti-woman comments (usually insisting RPW be a certain way, and if they're not, they're not red pill and should be dismissed). They are usually deleted or downvoted quite promptly, but they still dilute the core message which seems to be of self-awareness and self-improvement.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/17 02:10 AM
4	What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight? You have no way of knowing what OP would look like at 5'6" and 145 lbs. Nobody does because we have not seen her. Maybe OP will get down to 145 and want to lose more, or maybe she'll be perfectly happy. Throwing the word "chubby" around doesn't help her.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/17 07:59 PM
9	What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight? Kardashian is 5'3", so 135 lbs puts her at a BMI of 24, a far cry from the 18.6 you are suggesting for OP. I know RP men are always talking about % body fat, but BMI is not the equivalent for women. OP should look in the mirror and get real about her appearance, but internet strangers can't determine that for her.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/17 06:53 PM
5	How to stfu? I think STFU is mostly about not nagging your SO. If you have a valid request, make it, then don't "remind" him every 20 minutes. There's nothing wrong with wanting to chat about your day and ramble a little, as long as you can return the favor and listen when it's time and not hog the conversation.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/17 04:53 PM
5	What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight? Exactly. Some women have a curvy Kim Kardashian body while others have a waif-like Rooney Mara body. Some have D cups and some A cups. OP wants to lose weight, but having never seen her, it's not that helpful to recommend a specific weight range.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/17 04:47 PM
5	Found out SO has been watching a lot of porn HE clearly thinks it's unhealthy. I don't think it's OP's job to be his mommy or his therapist and try to change his value system. He's entitled to have his own opinions.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/04/17 05:17 PM
2	Found out SO has been watching a lot of porn I can't respect a liar. A man is honest and doesn't hide his behavior. He is who he is, no apologies. A little boy breaks a vase and hides the pieces and when mommy asks where it is, he shrugs and says "I dunno" because he's ashamed of himself. If somebody lies to you for an entire year, run away. They don't respect themselves and so they're not worthy of your respect.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/04/17 12:44 PM
6	Traveling Man... ring fever Let him lead the relationship. If he isn't ready for marriage, either fully respect that or dump him. Feel free to ask him about his marriage plans, but be prepared for an answer you might not like. When you assume the wife role (stepping up the "wife-me-up" game) before being asked, you are subtlety steering the relationship forward instead of allowing him to lead. It's well-intentioned but it's a form of taking control from him. I see women do this when they are casually dating, assuming the g…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/17 01:05 PM
1	Boyfriend made me feel insecure about my body... If you want to feel like a person of value, act that way. Give old clothes to charity or make a monetary donation. Tell a friend or family member how much you appreciate them. Genuinely compliment others more often and be encouraging. Give your best at work or school. Improve yourself through reading. Don't gossip. Be kind to yourself with positive self talk. When you do good, you feel good!	/r/RedPillWomen	09/04/17 12:56 PM
15	Relationship market value vs Sexual market value: some traits to consider Must always have a full glam look but he's never allowed to see the effort? That's not sustainable when you live together, and a man with any relationship experience would probably realize the expectation is unrealistic.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/17 03:36 PM
15	Relationship market value vs Sexual market value: some traits to consider -Financial stability: it's a huge red flag if a woman is 5k in credit card debt because she buys too many shoes. -Hard-working, productive, not lazy: She spends her time wisely and isn't a leech.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/17 02:22 AM
4	Where to meet men Catalogue -Running groups (people actually in to fitness, not taking selfies) -Classes: Spanish or Mandarin, woodworking, painting, cooking, sewing, guitar, photography, business analysis (even if you don't meet a man or a woman who can introduce you to one, you've learned a new skill!) -Clubs and student government at university, social committees at work (NOT for dating within your department!) -Partner dancing: salsa or swing dancing clubs (they often have intro lessons before the dance, no need to be …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/17 12:12 PM
1	Recommended dating apps I don't think dating apps are your best bet at this stage. You're shy? Make some friends, pick up some hobbies, volunteer, build a social network, practice your poise and manners. It's so much easier to vet men through your social network than through a dating site. A man on a dating site can spin any lie he wants to get you in bed. You'll have better luck with a woman who wants to set you up with her amazing brother or her boyfriend's loyal best friend.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/17 01:28 AM
2	Long time lurker wants to know: What's some advice for people looking for their first boyfriends? I think you need to know yourself, know the person you are striving to become, and know what you want (although those things are allowed to evolve as you age!) before you date. A lot of women your age spend college partying. They have no hobbies outside of drinking and clubbing and no goals after they graduate. They meet men at clubs and bars and Tindr who are similarly directionless. Compare that to a woman who spends Tuesday and Friday night at spin class, Mondays volunteering at the homeless …	/r/RedPillWomen	06/04/17 06:33 PM