jeanclaudevanman Archive

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1	The Rational Male – Ghosting I've always seen this behavior as innately human. Group settings induce least common denominator behavior and establishment of a common dialogue that all relate to. I've found decent success in engaging in this light-heartedly and then latching onto a piece for directing the conversation to something more productive and stimulating (plus it's generally in my favor what the convo is).	/r/TheRedPill	10/03/16 03:38 AM
8	Four Years of Seeing a Married Woman: A Retrospective from Meeting to Divorce There are no lessons to be learned here. In the divorce market, one must only be better than the current. Divorced women are something similar to a wounded animal. You never know if you'll get a kitten or a lion. Have fun spinning divorcees, take them out, don't take them out, pay for their meals, don't pay for their meals, whatever really. Couching this fact and justifying your behavior because "happiness says so" is terrible advice. If you like divorcees or breaking up a marriage, so be it, we…	/r/TheRedPill	10/03/16 02:59 AM
1	Being fresh out of college I feel girls either wife up or do their last hoorah on the CC, I feel this is at their peak and I'm about to get to mine When you cross the threshold of 30, the world will suddenly become vastly different. This is provided you stayed single. By the time women near their 30s, the hype surrounding them is no longer powerful enough to keep them propped up. I know it's hard, but focus on the long game - that being yourself. At the end of the day, if everything and everyone is taken away from you, what is left? - yourself It's really an inverse principle, but becoming selfish, confident, assertive and generally selecti…	/r/askTRP	22/01/16 05:45 AM
1	Source of progressivism's strength The western world (the US) needs to regain its way of life. The problem with a melting pot country is just that, too much diversity. Diversity necessitates tolerance, and tolerance breeds apathy. The practice in America of acceptance is bull shit. Without going into a rant, suffice to say, this is our land and those that come here need to respect our way of life. It's a rotten shame that the majority of our people have become so apathetic and lazy to what's going on that many would not recognize…	/r/TheRedPill	03/01/16 05:04 PM
3	"I always had the impression that you are very reserved and had this vibe of negativity around you." As per your example: Her comment was a test of your frame. She replied with an off-hand comment meant to test your sense of self. Your response was fine, but couched in irritation as evident by your slightly snarky reply (in a pseudo intelligent manner). When a woman says things like this to you, you have two pretty good options: Don't respond at all Amused mastery	/r/askTRP	02/01/16 08:08 PM
23	Dooble's guide to taking women off of a pedestal. Part 2: Femininity is just deficient masculinity. I see this is a work in progress, so I'll reserve strong commentary for others in the community. Suffice to say, you're rambling and your logic is deeply flawed.	/r/TheRedPill	22/12/15 02:59 AM
3	Do it for your grandmother In a way, feminism may be the great Earth cleanse of our time gentleman.	/r/TheRedPill	01/10/15 12:16 AM
12	The Feminization of boys is almost complete. What I'm curious about it what happens when one of these surgeries goes wrong or the child decides later he/she was pushed into making a choice by their parents/friends/relatives, etc and is no longer happy being the opposite sex? This is the problem with America today. Nobody under 18 can be held accountable for anything, however; either are the adults in their lives.	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/15 11:59 PM
3	Most women no longer want kids or marriage - Femi Nazis on forum praise Gabrielle Union for choosing her carreer over starting a femily. The saddest part of it all: if women would learn to shut their mouths more, most women would be provided a very comfortable life with little effort.	/r/TheRedPill	16/09/15 12:53 AM
13	LTR stops taking birth control First thing to do is remove your head from your ass. After that, slap yourself in the face really hard and take a cold shower. When you're done, lurk moar here and read. Lastly, judging by your post you don't want to/have the capability of being a dad so I highly suggest you wise the fuck up. -signed your internet dad	/r/askTRP	13/09/15 03:23 PM
16	“If my hypothesis is correct, this work will be repressed.”- Suicide Note by Mitchell Heisman. I think Mitchell hit the nail on the head by drawing parallels with individualism. Historically, group bonds were what kept populations alive. There was no room for individualism, as that would get you killed in nature (and eventually early societies as well). When common societal/biological gains are pushed aside for individual successes, it polarizes and incentivizes groups. What we are seeing today are groups of weeds (feminism, individualism, mass consumerism, etc.) that have been able to gr…	/r/TheRedPill	13/09/15 03:13 PM
1	Do you think coming from a home where your parents have always stayed together ruins you more for early life with unrealistic expectations? Focus less on how you got here and more on what you're going to do with the new information for your future. The human brain has a terrible tendency to focus on positive past experiences in a nostalgic way and dwell heavily on negative experiences. Both of these hardwired survival traits impede progress for your future self. You have the necessary information that can change your life in such a positive way, you'll wonder how you ever thought the other way once you journey down the path awhile. …	/r/askTRP	06/09/15 03:48 PM
2	Money My family background is rich with men in the same position you are. My unsolicited advice: certifications in the short-term (such as HVAC, plumbing, electrical (journeyman) -- both residential and commercial) and a degree looking forward longer-term. If you can swing it, night school at the local technical college to earn a degree in construction/project management. Once you get out of long laborious hours, you're set. The physical part is hard on the body long-term, but managers have room for g…	/r/TheRedPill	22/07/15 03:25 AM
1	Half un-plugged (but only when single), how to maintain But I loved to pamper my GFs, I love to cook, I love to go out of my way to show how much I loved them, etc, etc... all for what? First order of business: Ask yourself why you like to do this? You are deriving internal pleasure from an external source you cannot control. This is fine and dandy until that external source goes away. When you do things from the inside out, you are in full control of your emotions and life. I want a family, I want a wife and 2-3 kids and that whole shindig. I do not…	/r/TheRedPill	07/07/15 01:38 PM
1	Do any other guys in here that had a lot of success in their adolescence and early 20s feel jaded about the game now that they are older? You have zero status in high school aside from popularity. Material possessions are at a minimum and few if any are "status" worthy. College is no different. You're making excuses. I urge you to focus on the big picture of your life (hint: women play a very tiny part). Young men need to focus on themselves first and worry about bedding a woman a lot less. When you get older you will understand this or hate yourself for not having done it. Women come and go. You're putting the cart before the hor…	/r/askTRP	26/06/15 05:25 PM
2	Do any other guys in here that had a lot of success in their adolescence and early 20s feel jaded about the game now that they are older? You are at a great advantage with regards to having had these early experiences compared to those that haven't. High school and college is easy. The real world outside of those two environments is how it truly is. Take pride in the fact that you are now armed with the necessary knowledge (+ experience to solidify it in your brain) to harness the world for the taking. Life is not linear. RP knowledge is the beginning of your learning and also the end of it. Once you have the tools, apply them. Ho…	/r/askTRP	26/06/15 04:03 PM
9	Even the Catholic Church, once a stalwart bastion of the strong nuclear family, is now throwing in with the feminists and is encouraging divorce and man shaming My thought is that most of today's youth generation is failing to take up the teachings of Christianity. With a decline in new followers and little hope for future recruitment, the Pope is trying a progressive approach to appeal to the new masses that hardly care about morals or nuclear families. Just a giant marketing scheme.	/r/TheRedPill	24/06/15 10:20 PM
3	How to Spin hot local bartender Plate? The service industry is hard to break into for plating (but not impossible). The females in the group (waitresses, bartenders, etc.) are highly guarded by supplicating beta male coworkers and tough guy alpha-types. "It's a take care of your own" type lifestyle and job. You will need an "in" to the circle which will require her or some other employee to invite you to one of the many after parties post-bar close. Once you get the in, find out the leaders and befriend them. This will insure you sta…	/r/askTRP	24/06/15 01:40 PM
2	RP Jobs There is no such thing as an RP job. Your best option is to get a job/career you enjoy putting time and effort into.	/r/askTRP	18/06/15 11:56 AM
2	Update and FR: What will a new exotic car do to my LTR? Good update. Always great to hear about the positive side to things. When you have time, reflect on this. Think of buying the car as a metaphor for your relationship. You have the power to make your GF feel this way with or without a new shiny car. As always, keep up the good work brother.	/r/askTRP	15/06/15 01:02 PM
7	GF smokes in front of you, she knows it's a no go. How to react? Your GF was a casual smoker before you met her. You knew this going into the LTR. Ask yourself if her casual smoking is that bothersome to you. If it is, I suggest a soft next because of the long challenge you have ahead of yourself. IMO, you acted a bit like a child by taking the cigarette out of her mouth. Tell her you don't want her to smoke and then say no more. You can give her X number of opportunities to fail this (if you choose) and if she keeps defying your wishes, let her go. Far easie…	/r/askTRP	15/06/15 12:54 PM
1	What are the things to keep in mind while recruiting Female graduate students? You generally screen candidates based upon (ordered by importance): Years of research experience Published papers/writing samples LORs from PIs that directly interacted with students on a personal/professional level GRE/GPA Choice of major	/r/askTRP	12/06/15 03:58 PM
1	Young, out of town on a business training seminar. Small class. Got IoI's and want to, but am unsure of pursuing. Don't shit where you eat.	/r/askTRP	10/06/15 01:37 PM
21	How does one compete with males with very high SMV (famous people)? Get rid of your one-itis. She isn't special. Other men are not your competition. You are your own competition. Stop worry about other men "stealing" your GF or how your SMV is perceived by others. That's precisely what men with an SMV of 1 do. Plus, she was never yours to begin with. You are simply Mr. Now. It's up to you whether you continue to be her Mr. Now or let her go. As for your concerns, I'd usually recommend to stop wasting your time on women like this, but this will be a great learnin…	/r/askTRP	10/06/15 01:27 PM
1	I'm not super obese, but definitely I'm out of shape.. Can ddp yoga or power 90 (not p90x)be a good start? I can personally attest to this. Over the course of six months I PR'd nearly weekly using 5X5s and was able to get to the coveted 2 plate bench press in this time as well. When you get bored of the 5X5s, pyramids work well too. Offers nice variety I've found.	/r/askTRP	09/06/15 02:35 PM
7	I am the Jar Jar Binks of Small Talk If you don't have anything constructive to say, just sit there and listen. Interject when you have something of value to add. You may be feeling the need to say something (or be funny) intentionally as a subconscious way to release your situational stress. It's common for people to spout off things at random as a natural mechanism to deflect attention, however; this process generally leads to increased attention. A good conversational tip is to not just be a participant, but a facilitator. Try a…	/r/askTRP	09/06/15 02:30 PM
2	How to tell if you've found a good girl You don't find good girls. You make them.	/r/TheRedPill	09/06/15 12:38 PM
6	A plate is flaky in communication. How can I fix it? You answered your own question. The person who cares the least has the most power in a relationship/arrangement. Be that person next time.	/r/askTRP	05/06/15 02:06 PM
5	The Hierarchy of Love He did you a favor. Nobody should ever own a White Sox cap.	/r/TheRedPill	03/06/15 05:00 PM
4	Calling Bruce Jenner a Woman Is an Insult to Women (And Men) The funny part about this whole debacle is how feminism will be tossed upside down in the long run because of this. Despite the drugs and surgeries, he (/she) will continue to age like fine wine. He (/she) will have more defined muscle and facial features, look better in high end fashion clothing (because of his body type), have a stronger physical presence, etc. I'll be laughing even more when women realize Caitlyn is a even larger idol that cannot be obtained no matter how hard women try. Once…	/r/TheRedPill	03/06/15 01:33 PM
11	Quick Shit Test Tip This concept is really key in all facets of life. It reminds me of Alfred Hitchcock movies; i.e. never show the actual murder scene. Let people's imaginations fill in the gaps. It's far more effective than explaining it in subjective detail.	/r/TheRedPill	03/06/15 01:23 PM
7	Calling Bruce Jenner a Woman Is an Insult to Women (And Men) I agree. Anytime you give special interest groups an inch, expect they take a mile. I find it alarming that holding a rational, objective view of the world and operating in that fashion is becoming a faux pas these days.	/r/TheRedPill	03/06/15 01:15 PM
6	Posts about getting into an LTR Check out r/marriedredpill. Many of the concepts that apply in marriage can be extended to/amended for LTRs.	/r/askTRP	03/06/15 12:57 PM
0	Pacing Sideways on a Steep Mountain You got into a relationship with a single mom at 18 who was physically unavailable (most likely emotionally frail). You bought her numerous gifts and showered her with affection, yet cheated on her multiple times. You have feelings of one-itis for a girl long gone years ago. You still feel bad about it... no shit, anyone would. Your biggest mistake was being an asshat. Now and in the future: Choose better relationships Don't LTR a partner you plan on cheating on Observe the 2/3 golden rule in yo…	/r/TheRedPill	02/06/15 01:23 PM
5	The Hierarchy of Love The flow of love trickles down from man. When a woman 'loves' a man or a child 'loves' their mom, the reciprocal love that is returned is in the form of honor and respect. A woman will never be able to equally return a man’s love for her. Women and children instinctively expect love and care from their partner/parent. When those expectations of love are met, women and children reciprocate in alternate forms often mistaken for love.	/r/TheRedPill	01/06/15 06:29 PM
50	The Hierarchy of Love Great post. Always a nice refresher: Men > Women > Children > Puppies* (> = love). As men, we are the source of all love. It is our duty to give it freely without expectation or return. Love is a feeling reserved for those who receive it. When a woman tells you she loves you, what she is conveying are feelings of security and comfort. *Get a dog if you want unconditional love.	/r/TheRedPill	01/06/15 04:36 PM
13	When a woman describes herself as a free spirit, you should be very wary. I plated a number of these types during my early 20s as well-- artist crowd, baristas, band groupies, hipster girls, boutique retail chicks, etc. Good times indeed. Pro-tip: If you can ever meet a girl's mom, do it. Even if you're just plating her. Be the cool guy "she's hanging out with" and soak up how they speak to each other. Interject every now and then and see if you can get a few stories out of mom. If she starts talking about how carefree her single days were, boom - you're set. Easiest …	/r/TheRedPill	28/05/15 09:01 PM
3	My LTR girlfriend is meeting up with exes. Help me swallow the pill. I thought I was in good shape with my life. I'm well-educated, successful in my career, financially well off, in good physical shape, stylish, etc. I don't know exactly where I fall along the "alpha-beta spectrum" (if there is one -- one thing I'm skeptical of is dichotomies like this), but I've never had problem with women. Do you want to know a way to demonstrate all of this to her, but more importantly to yourself? Do you want to find out where on the spectrum you lie? Here's want you do. Hav…	/r/askTRP	28/05/15 06:06 PM
1	Marijuana and TRP? 20 years of pot smoking puts you roughly in your 30s (unless you started later in life). I am not here to preach about the negatives or positives of drug use, but if you can cut it out; do it. You will save time, money and health. The detriment to your career, life and relationships following a legal conviction could seriously sideline your achievements and future potential. Being in the driver's seat of your life requires maximum effort and is no easy task. Inhibiting yourself on your journey o…	/r/askTRP	27/05/15 01:40 PM
17	Men are bad. "A key that can open many locks is called a master key, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is a shitty lock."	/r/TheRedPill	20/05/15 11:33 AM
2	The end of men: my response to a discussion on natural selection and male disposability. "How long will people continue to avoid any cognitive dissonance over the hypocrisy and paradox of the current state of affairs?" forever They have since the dawn of time. Each generation faces its own issues. What has remained consistent since the dawn of time is the lifetime personal and spiritual rewards a man can earn if he seeks what he desires, nurtures and lifts the lives of those around him, leads with integrity and honor, works hard and refuses to be beat down by the game of life. Smart…	/r/TheRedPill	20/05/15 01:12 AM
3	TRP example: "for better or worse" One thing I don't see talked about here much is what happens in an alpha leadership role once illness/death occurs. For each person or thing an alpha brings into his life, that is another life/thing that needs taking care of, nurturing, love, guidance, etc. Those at the lower rungs (women and children) count on that positive energy flow to keep them going. When the captain conks out, it leaves the rest of the herd stunned and frozen.	/r/TheRedPill	20/05/15 12:42 AM
4	Request guidance for stoicism First off, congrats on the achievements thus far. You've come a hell of a long way and I'm sure that makes your family proud. I believe you have answered your own question -- "I see myself as insecure." You may be compensating. What I've found works well in these situations and life in general is to see other men as your brothers and not your competition. Every time you get the urge to throw out a quick jab at someone, stop and think of something you can tell that guy that's positive to build hi…	/r/askTRP	17/05/15 10:26 PM
2	[18m] I need advice on what to do after high school. My first thought: Is this a troll post? For a kid who's just 18, you sure have a whole lot of ideals, set plans and entitled thoughts for the little you have done with your life to date. Your reality: You are just about to graduate high school (arguably the easiest educational level everyone is the US must achieve) to become a productive citizen and you have a barely passing GPA. You have preconceived notions of what type of work is for you and what's beneath you. You want to travel and work, bu…	/r/becomeaman	17/05/15 10:01 PM
–	Should you ever punish investment? Think of your GF as an energizer bunny. All women want things happening all the time. Go go go. They want returns on all their emotional investments, they want things, they want everything. GF showers you with love, gifts and attention. You like it at first, but it becomes annoying because of the effort required to keep her appeased (she will demand you return what she gives - all women do). Read up on the term covert contract. You lash out at her because she is annoying and clingy (your reactio…	/r/askTRP
–	Should you ever punish investment? It's one thing to maintain your current approach when plating women, however; this doesn't work well in LTRs. You will need to split your efforts and toe the line between alpha and beta traits. Additionally, you say your attraction is dwindling because of her. You need to base your desire for her on your own actions. Do not rely on her [lack of effort] to fuel your attraction. The only constant in a relationship is you. You lead, she follows. Your woman is a direct reflection of you. If she's bo…	/r/askTRP
–	Question about the readings: "The Manipulated Man". Are women emotional or are they not?? Are women more emotional creatures than men or are they emotionless? Being an emotional creature and possessing emotional capacity are two different things. The excerpt you quote is regarding the latter. So they just decide what makes sense in the now as a last resort? Women are plenty capable of making rational, well-thought decisions just as men. However; possessing moral agency is required in order to do this. Situations that require a large degree of moral agency are most times difficult, st…	/r/askTRP
–	My girlfriend needs too much emotional support. I'm being told I'm not providing enough support. What can I do? This would be a comfort test. Women need drama in their lives. They are fueled by emotions. Sans real drama, they will manufacture it to get the feels. An LTR is a push-pull dynamic. She is testing you to see if you love her still and care about her. This is the time when you embrace her, show her some caring masculinity and assure her all will be well. This will happen often if you err too much on the alpha side. If you err too much on the beta side, expect more shit testing instead of comfort …	/r/askTRP
–	Things to do while Im young and able. Outside of bucket list items: decide early if you'd like to have a job or career. Your 20s are a key time to build a career. Many people recommend you live up your 20s-30s (which is all fine and dandy), but chances are those that spent a decade traveling/partying/not perfecting their craft are not entertaining Mid-career promotions and securing a place in the top of their career. Something to consider... It is very difficult to do both. I am not suggesting to not have fun, but what you choose in…	/r/askTRP
–	The Loyalty Test [door test] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qyj2VNVB8qk)	/r/TheRedPill
–	Pacing Sideways on a Steep Mountain It's best to move on. What's in the past is in the past. As you vet women in the future for plating/relationships, her mother is always a great reference. Rare instances aside, most women resemble their mothers. This is who they received guidance from and their very first impressions of what being a "good" woman means.	/r/TheRedPill