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Like fucking grammar! Some people choose to completely ignore the rules of grammar! (Moving it back to the point of this stupid ass thread).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 06:52 AM
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Since this is actually a thread about grammar and not racism, I’ll point out that Black should not be capitalized in this context. Since you’re a teacher, I’d certainly expect you to know that. And of course I’m around black people. I have access to all the same “woke” information and news that you have and live in a literal melting pot of ethnicities and races, and I still don’t believe using correct grammar is a race issue. Let’s just agree to disagree and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 06:48 AM
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Right?! Thank you!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 06:42 AM
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This is really the point, that it’s okay to “judge” someone based on their grammar. If we’re choosing what we want and refusing to settle, proper grammar can absolutely be a showstopper. The fact that this turned into a race vs education thing is ridiculous. And for everyone saying I shouldn’t brag about my lack of diversity, have you checked out the demographics of MIAMI? Because that’s where I’ve spent the bulk of my life. Even ESOL students in the worst areas of Dade County can still use prop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 06:41 AM
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Nope, didn’t occur to me. But then again I was raised in a city with exactly two black people. Went to public school and sat through the same English classes as my peers, and judging by their social media posts, most of them weren’t paying attention. Everything isn’t a god damn race issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:23 AM
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What an asshole. I know we aren’t supposed to wish harm upon those who have wronged us, but damn... this reminds me of that song I Hope by Gabby Barrett. And I hope whoever received this message was strong enough to ignore it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:34 PM
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I guess I’m dense ... where is the racial undertone in pickmeisha?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:11 AM
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Her remake of You Don’t Own Me is pretty good too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:17 AM
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Just knowing that this article was written makes me feel less alone. It means it’s happening all around me and I never even noticed as I was too busy with my own triangle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:24 PM
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The general consensus of my male friends both sueño the debacle and after I broke free all emphasized that if this man loved me, he wouldn’t take from me (even though i had it to give) and that he’d push himself to be able to stand on his own to show me he could do it. Hindsight 20/20, I agree. But nothing you can say will wake her up. She has to realize it on her own Edit to add: I have a friend going through it now. They have a child together, so I guess maybe he deserves a little more room? I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:53 AM
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Yikes. 24 is not the time to be setting herself up this way. It will kill her self-esteem because he’ll probably leave once he gets in a better spot. I know it’s tough watching friends go through it. I’ve been on that side as well and you just want to kidnap them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:39 AM
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Happened to me, but it didn’t start out that way. When we met he was gainfully employed and living in his own. He lost his job and I helped him out, assuming he’d bounce back quickly rather than count on a woman he’d just started dating. WRONG. It went on for eight months. Like your friend, I would cry about it to myself every few weeks or so, wondering what the f I was doing. He never got a job. Turns out, he quite enjoyed just playing video games and hanging with his friends. I made it too eas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:29 AM
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I showed up on a date once and had only told the guy my first name and my occupation. After the date went decently well, he said, “your last name is wackenhat?” And at first I was freaked out, but he explained that he searched first name + occupation + city in LinkedIn just to make sure nothing crazy came up. Surprisingly, he was one of the most “normal” men I ever dated. The point is, they do it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:28 AM
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What’s happening?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:28 AM
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I really feel everything you’re saying. Unfortunately, I don’t have the answers. I’m still sleeping with the ghosts from my past as well. At least know you aren’t alone. You’ll get stronger the longer you take care of yourself. Virtual hug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 01:23 AM
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This man does not exist. Make your own money, plant your own garden, as they say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:55 AM
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This 👏🏻 right 👏🏻 here 👏🏻!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:52 AM
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Based on your list alone, I know we would be real life friends! Op, not so much. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:50 AM
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This is my goal too, if I ever date again. Every single one of them has told me “you deserve better” or “I don’t deserve you”. About a decade ago, I actually said to one of them “you know yourself better than I do, so I’ll take your word for it”. But then I stayed with the alcoholic! 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:07 PM
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The whole thing is cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 12:14 AM
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I love this! Let him do what he wants so you can see what he’d rather be doing. Never heard that before and I swear it’s going to be life altering for me. 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 12:09 AM
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I tried it once. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:43 PM
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Lol, yeah. Short by most standards. And even when I’m at my “fighting weight”, there’s still problem areas. Me accepting myself fully is a work in progress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 08:11 PM
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I’m 5’2 / 120
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 11:13 PM
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Because maybe your personality is different from theirs too. We all slowly learn and figure out what we prefer by dating different kinds. Don’t feel insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:21 PM
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Yep. Remind yourself he’s barely a blip on the radar of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:55 PM
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It’s all perspective, I guess. As a brown-haired petite girl, I always consider that my exes have downgraded if they end up with a tall skinny blonde. Every boyfriend I’ve had for the past 25 years has told me he loves that I’m petite. People have a type. Are there outliers? Sure. But maybe consider the fact that everybody’s idea of “conventionally beautiful” isn’t the same and make sure you’re a person he enjoys being with, not just looking at. Edit to add a personal story about a friend. She’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:49 PM
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“Take stock of everything I have when I’m single and everything I lose when I merge with someone else.” This right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 12:15 AM
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Yeah, that’s where I’m at - heard the stories - never seen it in people I know personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:38 PM
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It wasn’t meant to be, but I’ve got to be honest - I am loving the unity on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:26 PM
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Definitely not looking for justification, but thanks for holding me accountable in case I were to drift down that path. I see plenty on this sub where married or engaged women like to brag about what a HVM they have, just wondering if any of them BECAME HVM after crisis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:25 PM
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Haha. I’m trying to stop being a negative Nancy and believe that people can have epiphanies and change to become better human beings. But nah?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:23 PM
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I’ll take that as a NO! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:22 PM
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I think sayings like “Behind every great man is a strong woman” really sends the wrong message to women, like we are supposed to be the rock of the family and support his dreams, however ridiculous they may be, and never speak ill of him while cheering him on. I was once hopelessly in love with a guy who was also my best friend. I was the supportive “you should do what you love. What would you love to do? Let’s work toward it”. He came back to me with, “i want to be an NBA coach.” Guy did not pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 11:10 PM
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Yes!! Thank you. It’s also worth noting that, ladies, you will get older too (if you’re lucky). When that time comes, no matter how hot you think you are now, you’d better have something to bring to the table. Water seeks its own level. Spend your younger years improving yourself in all areas and aiming to become a quality 50+ woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:54 PM
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Yes. Many stories. The gut knows!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 10:31 PM
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I love this. Lots of synonyms. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 10:35 AM
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Wow. That extensive list in your first paragraph about red flags ... made me realize I’ve actually never dated a man who didn’t do at least several of those things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 12:45 AM
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Seriously, I know what I’m talking about here ... block. Don’t look back. With all the feelings you’re having (guilt etc) you’re at risk for getting sucked into giving him more. It’s an expensive lesson, but it only gets more expensive here on out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:02 PM
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That case still pisses me off when I think about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:47 PM
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It feels so intrusive. But what are we to do, can’t trust a thing a man says. What all did you request from your PI?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 10:24 PM
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Not a single one comes to mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 09:16 PM
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Wow! I didn’t realize she was 61. Not only does she look great, she looks like she feels great. Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 09:16 PM
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So I’ve been toying with this idea myself - a background check and credit check. I’m tired of being burned by liars. But I’ve been told it’s illegal. I get a lot of what I’m looking for just by going to county website and searching public records, but when I was paying all the bills and weird ones kept creeping out of the woodwork, i really wanted to do a credit check and see just how much I was dealing with. Any lawyers or law enforcement on here that can tell me if it’s illegal? I obviously ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 12:30 PM
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The Shop Forward has clothing similar to this. I think the saying is Empowered Women Empower Women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 09:49 PM
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Feeling personally attacked. I’ll do better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 08:44 PM
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Speaking nothing but TRUTH this Monday morning! (as i repeat to myself over and over again “can’t recoup past costs”)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:45 PM
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I am surprised he even participated in the documentary. It’s like he doesn’t even see what a lying sack of loser he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:06 PM
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Wait until you get to his behavior AFTER! I have zero sympathy for the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:01 AM
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Sure! Basically, Lorena Bobbit became well-known for cutting off her husband’s dick. The documentary lays out their lives together, that he basically couldn’t hold a job and was abusive, including raping and sodomizing her. They both went on trial- him for marital rape (found not guilty) and her for mutilation (found not guilty by reason of temporary insanity). But the interesting part for me is that the abuser (John Wayne Bobbitt) went on to continue to abuse women, even did prison time for it.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 11:08 PM
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Admittedly, I haven’t watched the show, but I can’t comprehend how anyone could properly vet a person in that situation. Just like Married At First Sight and Spouse House, and I’m sure there’s a half a dozen others, it seems like a quick way to get legally bound to someone who was putting on a front.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:23 PM
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This is some depressing shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:41 AM
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I love this analogy. Like I’ve heard said on this sub plenty, we need to stop romanticizing struggle relationships. Sometimes quitting is for winners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:47 AM
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This is some Mean Girls BS. I don’t know why I’m even surprised that men do it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:34 AM
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I really hope we are reaching these ladies somehow. It’s so sad. BEFORE the marriage and babies is usually when they’re on their best behavior. I can’t imagine how bad it will get. I really feel for OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:27 AM
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This is actually a pretty great idea. It’s awesome that you know yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:06 PM
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I feel this deep in my soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:29 PM
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Ooof. Personally attacked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:16 AM
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I’ll let you let you Know in five years if anything at all positive came out of it. My mood for the moment is simply that I donated 20k to a needy family. Chalk it up to charity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:15 AM
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We are alike. I want to somehow get into his phone and delete the messages too. Being gone from mine just doesn’t seem enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:12 AM
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I created the sub, but then realized I had no idea what I was doing and didn’t have the time in that few days span to read up on it. So I removed myself as a mod, thinking the whole sub would go away and a more experienced Redditor would re-create it. I handled it all wrong. Messaged the admins but haven’t gotten very far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:09 AM
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I quite liked this song in my younger years. Unfortunately, it isn’t reality. The “young” dude you take under your wing ends up resenting you for all your help and runs off to a woman HE can control. The kicker line is “you’re a sort of protege and I like you having to depend on me”. But maybe this just hits home today because I’m realizing that I’ve manipulated the young-uns because I’m more successful and can control them with the money and a lifestyle they’d never have without me. Not sure wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:02 AM
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The sub doesn’t even load for me anymore. I’m sorry I screwed it up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:55 AM
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You make such a great point, one I’ve heard from others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:55 PM
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I appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:03 PM
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Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:35 AM
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Holy shit. What is happening? That whole profile confuses me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:02 PM
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Thanks for the summary!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:56 PM
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This is GOALS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:30 PM
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I am also curious about the hypnosis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:28 PM
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Tf did I just read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:37 PM
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Is that a joke? “Honey, don’t worry, I’ll put your name on the trash bill!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:20 PM
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I really love the opportunity perspective because it is so true. We all make our choices with the chances we’ve been given and we can only control our own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:07 AM
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This whole wall BS doesn’t even cause me pause. Extremely attractive and on point women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s are everywhere, not just LA and NY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:04 AM
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That’s a great analogy. Thanks so much for sharing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:51 PM
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I don’t use block enough. I listen to all the voices telling me it’s childish and that I should just have self-control and not reply or tell people what I think of them. I’m a work in progress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:25 PM
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What’s the benefit if you can’t go on dates? A pen pal? Nah, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:42 PM
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This is my favorite post of all time! We alone are amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:38 PM
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Don’t crucify me for this, as I’m a non-parent, but don’t parents always have monitors in rooms of their children? Is there an age that should stop? I mean, obviously puberty, but it makes sense to me to still want to keep myself aware that my young children are sleeping soundly in their bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:49 AM
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Absolutely did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:24 AM
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I want to get back to this place. That was me for five years and it was glorious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:17 AM
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I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing. Any pointers are welcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:52 PM
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Thanks. I’ll try that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:45 AM
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That last sentence is FACTS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:44 AM
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I’m quite enjoying the nights of cereal or ice creaM for dinner because I don’t have to worry about what HE feels like eating that he’s incapable of either cooking or buying HIMSELF!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:36 AM
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I absolutely agree. Well or maybe the ASKER is the asshole who is too oblivious and self-centered to notice. Lots of that going around too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:34 AM
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This won’t end well. Get out now. You’re wasting time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:01 AM
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I have no idea what I’m doing and didn’t even capitalize the subreddit title correctly. This could fail miserably. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:52 AM
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Created! Spread the word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:46 AM
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Ask and ye shall receive. [r/amiwithanasshole](reddit.com/amiwithanasshole)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:46 AM
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Watching the last season of the bachelorette is what really opened my eyes to the whole idea of “winning” a person. I’m guilty. Worse than being a pick-Meisha is being the girl who’s just trying to win for her own pride. I repeat to myself: never again. Level up. This sub helps me so much. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:42 AM
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I feel this. There are so many triggers in here, I’m having trouble holding back tears. The two glaring at me are him saying he wishes he could exploit you on the internet (if you were more mature). That’s not respect. Then that he “motivated” you to quit your job. It’s like he wanted you to be as much of a loser as he is. It hurts like hell. I get it. Forgiving yourself will take time, but be kind and patient. You don’t have to wish him ill will, but focus all your positive feelings on YOU. Sel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:39 AM
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Exercise restraint. Don’t reopen communication. There’s a reason you left him on read; focus on those. That was your gut. Don’t let a weak moment undo your progress. Take a bubble bath. Listen to a motivational podcast. Restraint! The feeling will pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:31 AM
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I second the “don’t paragraph” rule. Life changing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:02 PM
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My Valentine’s tradition is to watch the ID channel with my favorite takeout splurge. They usually have a marathon of something like Wives with Knives or Who the Bleep Did I Marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:36 PM
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I am in the states, but I sure wouldn’t mind exploring another county with like-minded people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:22 PM
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Please, please, please tell him ✌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:48 AM
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I always get crucified in the wild when I say this- that’s its not about the $$ and I can (and will) buy own dinner 7 nights a week. It’s the principle. I refuse to carry the relationship AND pay for it. He doesn’t make as much as I do or has more financial obligations? No problem. PLAN a night in. I’ll set the table nice and even do the dishes before sleepy time and we can team effort that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:47 AM
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That book sounds interesting. Adding it to the read list. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:43 AM
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Thank you. 💗 #levelup2020
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:45 PM
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He definitely wouldn’t do the same for me. No one would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:44 PM
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I’m sorry it happened to you too. :(. How long did it take before you forgave yourself and felt better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:40 PM
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Yes! The winning the prize mentality, feeling like I lost something! Thank you for taking the time to chat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:40 PM
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This should be stickied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:56 AM
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I love this. It’s going on the mirror.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:01 PM
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I read the book many years ago, and my takeaway was simply that it only gets worse. So if marriage is the only goal (and it seems it is for some pickmeishas) don’t hold out for a perfect man because he DOESN’T FUCKING EXIST. The book solidified that I will never marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:59 PM
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Unless that man is literally on his death bed with no family... nah, sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:56 PM
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Yes! I’ll be having a spa day. I’m the best damn Valentine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:55 PM
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Wow!!!! I’d prefer to order delivery, continue my housekeeping service, and keep a vibrator fully charged. F that service provider role.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:10 AM
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Another overqualified candidate officially withdrawing my resume. 🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:55 PM
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I wouldn’t even assume it had to do with you, more likely his past relationships. Probably wouldn’t even ask him about it if it were me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:13 PM
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Yes. I hope we all stop doing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:51 AM
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I would rather an undomesticated raccoon than a loser husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:56 PM
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So I’ve done the speed dating thing twice, and both experiences were positive. I enjoyed the immediate feedback and it is so much easier to read chemistry in person. It’s amazing how much you can get a feel for a person in eight minutes. That being said, I didn’t pursue relationships with anyone I met either time, and I definitely encountered a “nice guy” who filled my inbox with hate mail after I told him I wasn’t interested. I appreciate that it’s moderated, so unless it’s a mutual match, no o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:41 AM
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Ego! Yes, that’s the word I’m looking for. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:59 AM
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I wish I knew. I just like him. I was pretty okay being single for many years and then he wandered into my life and I accidentally let him in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 02:19 PM
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I clearly have some work to do because I couldn’t even figure out the low value in the texts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 06:24 AM
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Never explain, never complain. I like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:06 PM
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This is why OLD doesn’t work for me. Who texts like that? Is English his first language? As soon as I realize someone is stupid, I just can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 09:28 PM
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I can’t imagine this being an unpopular opinion. It’s the right answer, hands down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:49 PM
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I sort of regret giving this loser any attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:43 PM
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“Currycels” is a new one to me. Had to Google. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 09:42 PM
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So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 09:18 AM
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Who would think this is a cute family photo? I could see maybe if they had all the kids quiet, but just the females? Nah, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 01:22 AM
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And she has now proclaimed publicly that they’re working on baby #2! Pick me Portia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 01:22 PM
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Completely agree with this statement. I’ve always been open to a fault, but when the last two relationships I shared that I had been raped when I was 18, and both of those guys said it changed the way they viewed me, I vowed to never share that piece of me again. And to be honest, the older I get and more experience I gain, I learn more little pieces that I just shouldn’t share, and it feels like a Catch 22 because I don’t want someone who doesn’t know and accept all of me, but I know most men c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 01:38 PM
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I will just tell you what I wish I’d learned as my 16 y/o self. Take this time to learn to be alone and be okay with it, even thrive. You have plenty of time to get your head mixed up with stupid boys. Build the foundation NOW so that you won’t want or need to put up with any BS. For example, get good grades, go to college, get a degree in something you’ll actually earn a living wage doing, take care of your body - it ages in the blink of an eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 05:05 AM
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Is this exclusive to nurses? I have a pretty good feeling I’ve been targeted because of my income and I am not in healthcare. I encounter two types of men: the ones that are lazy and see me as a quick step up, shall we say; and the ones who are insecure or intimidated or who-knows-what because I earn more than them. It’s lose/lose. Staying single is just best for my bottom line and my mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 04:59 AM
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Man, I wish I hadn’t deleted a lot of my history so you could analyze me. Lol. You called it on this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 04:53 AM
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Really? I may have to reconsider my hatred for Dr Phil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:55 PM
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It seems like you kind of talked yourself through it. Ditch #1. He sucks. Focus on better habits with #2.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:53 PM
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^ THIS is the perspective I need! Harsh truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:29 AM
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I really love seeing all these women leveling up and getting ready for the best decade ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 03:37 AM
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So disgusting. Imagine sucking some dude off that’s old enough to be your dad in exchange for froyo. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 01:42 AM
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I can’t believe there are still men who think this way knocking on the door of 2020.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 01:36 AM
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This really is the truth. They don’t magically change. Like I always say about my ex who married the mistress, “your turn, I know exactly how it feels to wash his shit-stained boxers.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 01:35 AM
6

I left them there!!!!!! 🤦🏻‍♀️ I can only imagine the way he tells the story ... ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 01:22 AM
7

But really, I am sure that he knows you’re having a knee jerk reaction to hearing about him being back with the ex. If he has brain cells, he will figure out real quick when you NEVER CONTACT HIM AGAIN that you were more clear-minded when you dumped his ass and that even if you did get back with him, you’d wise up and jump right back out. Chin up, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 01:16 AM
7

It was exactly as bad as you imagine. Lol. Forgot to mention that his new girlfriend took the phone away from him and was telling me to go away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 01:13 AM
15

I have a story from six years ago. I had successfully been NC with the guy I broke up with. I’d told him with such conviction, “You will never see me again!” But one night after a baseball game and too many drinks, I drove to his house in the middle of the night and just walked right into his apartment. He wasn’t there. His roommate was. Roommate asked me to leave. I didn’t. I helped myself into his bathroom, changed out of my pajama bottoms and into some of his boxers, and then I left. Roommate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 01:06 AM
4

Hmm. That’s a good idea. Let me try it. I think he will still show up because there’s so many entries that are him. Maybe I will have to send a bunch of different people $1 so it pushes him down the list. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 11:58 PM
5

I know, never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 11:52 PM
9

Give it no power. I like it. Thanks for the support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 10:47 PM
23

I’ve asked a similar question before on another sub and got roasted to hell. I work in a professional environment where personal lives aren’t discussed much and I rarely see the same people even monthly. I’ve noticed that men always mention their wives or girlfriends, even when it has nothing to do with anything. I internalized it that these idiots think I’m flirting with them since I’m nice, and I’ve pretty much shut down any kind of interaction with men in my line of work, like barely make eye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:04 AM
7

I’m with you. I saved mine as 💸 because I always paid for everything, including his personal bills and fun outings for his kids (that he did not pay child support for).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:33 PM
96

Honestly, this is why I love this sub - not because I just hate men and want to trash them every chance I get, but because I see that it isn’t JUST ME. I’ve spent way too much time beating myself up over the behavior of men, thinking that I did something unknowingly that made them take advantage of me. Ladies, keep sharing your stories. Someday soon, I’ll tell mine. And for now, I’m working on forgiving myself for shouldering all the blame for the past two decades of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 01:18 PM
25

At least they came out early and you weren’t already “attached” from weeks of chatting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:14 PM
76

I am trying to figure out why you even agreed to meet him in the first place! Keep it moving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:52 PM
3

I always enjoy reading what you have to say /u/Ms_Tilly and I think the term of “trauma bonding” really hits home. I shall adopt it as my own. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 09:23 PM
3

“Forgive me hands, for I have held everything but myself.” Another quote for the mirror!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 11:26 AM
7

Yes! 👑 ❤️ this is going on my mirror!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 09:21 PM
62

I am a recovering NVM-addict. Lol. They take and and take, the least of which is part of my very soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:11 PM
11

One week down, thousands to go! Good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 09:32 PM
20

This is the truth! I have never really minded helping out my guy when times are tough, but the anger and bitterness that comes when they magically get their shit together after I dump them is REAL. Some of them have genuinely just had a bad run and then were able to find employment and get back on their feet, but I think the biggest slap in my face is that I feel like once I leave them, they have no choice but to get their shit together. I was a crutch, an unappreciated crutch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 09:31 PM
9

Plenty of us have been there and reached out to exes in moments of weakness. Social media makes it even harder. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Hopefully it’s the last time you reach out. It does get easier, but the clock resets every time you have contact. No more contact, sis! You got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 09:22 PM
13

I love this!!! Thanks for sharing! I have never felt more like Jennifer Lopez in my entire life. Good news is, I’ve stopped being sweet and giggly and started being angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 12:33 AM
14

That’s what annoys me about the term. They aren’t single working moms if there’s a second income coming in. The husband is choosing to sacrifice time with the family and helping the wife in order to bring more money into the household. Not the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 12:25 AM
33

I feel like I need a pic of this woman and her quote printed on a magnet for my mirror.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 05:17 PM
4

My point. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 04:44 PM
78

Meh. I think most of the stuff I read here is spot-on and empowering, but I don’t want to turn into the girl who requires payment to politely decline to get to know someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:53 PM
22

Unfortunately, it seems that men just perfect their tactics with age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 03:01 AM
11

To OP, this stranger on the internet believes in you. Thank you for making this post. Reading the advice is encouraging for those of us with you. Hang in there. You got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:27 PM
8

Awww. This poor little pick-me still doesn’t get it. Just because the one that got away is getting married, she’s likely still very much alive in his mind, maybe even more so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:12 AM
3

Thanks for this! And just to clarify, you do mean 8 hours a week, right? Not 8 hours a day? What I seem to be dealing with is either all day every day or at least every evening for several hours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 06:45 PM
7

I’ve been married and engaged, to two different men obviously, and have never encountered this before, but many of my friends (also 30s & 40s) seem to think it’s normal. Get me off this planet if my only participation in the relationship is grabbing you another beer so you can yell at a cartoon screen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 03:24 PM
17

Escapism! Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:29 PM
3

This is terrible. Had you any clue his feelings were non-romantic before you had sex? This is why we wait. Think it’s time? Nah, sis. Wait a little longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:35 AM
5

“Game on”? Oof. You put yourself out there and that’s his response? Hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:32 AM
50

You know, I’m really starting to think about it, and I have NEVER regretted ignoring texts sent after midnight. No response is the best response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 12:33 AM
27

I’ve been told by the “mistress” and I’ve been the mistress who told. When I was being told of my fiancé’s shenanigans, I pretty much already knew and we were fighting about it daily but had decided to just get through the holidays without causing chaos in our family travel schedule. When I was the one who told, the wife basically blamed me for everything and said really hateful stuff to me until I decided to give details. Then she begged me to leave her alone. She stayed with the cheating husba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 08:53 PM
11

You are better than breadcrumbing! You can do this! It will suck, it does suck. Peace is ahead if you can just push through. Know that some of us have been there or are there right now, and then so many more have gotten through it and are on the other side and feeling amazing. You will not regret letting it go. You will regret continuing to be treated this way. Internet hugs, sis. Feel free to PM me and we can commiserate and, most importantly, encourage each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:19 PM
10

Better than hours of talk therapy with a professional. Lol. Read the book over and over again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 06:56 AM
38

Love Greg and Amira. Everyone should read It’s Called a Breakup Because it’s Broken. During one of my intense post-breakup meltdowns, i would take Benadryl and read the book aloud to my mom over the phone until I fell asleep instead of calling my ex. It will make you laugh and cry and help you stay the course of loving yourself enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 06:40 AM
5

I wouldn’t think so. Better to live with his grandparents than be wracking up large amounts of debt trying to pretend he’s financially stable on his own. And a good family is a PLUS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:21 AM
2

It is awesome you got to keep them! (The friends)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 10:10 PM
3

I am so happy to hear that! Blocking is only half the battle with me because I see him around the neighborhood. Don’t shit where ya live, ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 08:27 PM
20

Seeing this coming from someone who has made this his life work, an economist, really solidifies it for me. I’ve been internalizing a lot of my bad boyfriend’s behavior and thinking it’s because I’m too much “masculine energy” for him. But damn it, it’s not me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 08:25 PM
3

I almost think he’s doing it just to see if he’s blocked. lol. But I always hear about how blocking shows you care too much and blocking is childish, yadda, yadda, yadda and it’s hard to know the best thing to do for self-preservation. But blocking then unblocking and blocking again makes me feel like a lunatic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 08:16 PM
9

I am having such a hard time sticking to my ghosting. The last words I said to him were “I deserve better” he replied that he agreed and then went on to text a few times which I ignored. A couple days later I got some kind of a quote that was like you need a friend, I got you; need support, i support you; family fucked up, Im your family now. And at the end he just wrote “how I feel”. It has been 24 hours now. No contact. He lives in my neighborhood so I’m wondering if blocking is the best plan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 09:41 AM
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