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The title says “Best Friend” so the very day that you realize that she used him to teach you an important lesson about toxic females, and crappy people in general, you will realize the bullet you dodged. You’re throwing out “Bro Code” to cover up your terrible decision to try to create a relationship with an older women that gets drunk while openly accusing you of TRYING TO RUIN HER FUN as she proceeds to choose sleeping at your friend’s house instead of going home with sober you. The Snap at 2 …
/r/seduction14/05/22 01:56 PM
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How tall are they? Asking for a me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:10 AM
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In America, I’d argue that’s actually the system working like it is supposed to. The term: “retail therapy” wasn’t coined with you in mind.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/10/21 06:34 AM
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So you do believe they are transactional but disagree with their terminology? I understand that. I also understand what they are alluding to, though I believe they aren’t being as serious as you’re taking the “full price” analogy, and would counter that with “the 16-18yo she lost her virginity to was not capable of paying the same price as I am” so, unless you’ve found a virgin, you’d always be “paying” more than someone else if you felt that young lady still retained some value (value being wha…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/10/21 06:30 AM
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Do you feel that relationships and marriage are not, in any way, transactional?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/10/21 06:03 AM
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Are your two statements really that far off? You’re saying she shows an inability to show empathy while he’s saying, according to the “manosphere”, don’t bother to show her weakness of any kind because she can’t/ won’t respect it.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/09/21 03:22 AM
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Your journey is going to be complicated due to the pregnancy, you openly resenting sexual acts that you want from her and having no idea of what makes your wife tick. She’s going to be insecure about her body after having a baby. I really don’t know any “cure” for this but time. That said, buying more stuff is NEVER the way. You seem to be proud of how much you make and how much you’re worth but that’s clearly not what had her sexually adventurous in her early-mid 20’s. In a vacuum, buying more …
/r/askMRP31/07/21 12:52 AM
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You resent the woman you married for things she did before you met, dated and decided she was the woman that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with. Then, before a child was even in the picture, you allowed her to be a stay at home housewife that you felt should give you passionate sex when you got home because you make a lot of money. In all honesty (I’m a Software Engineer, too, btw), you’re getting the sex you’re supposed to be getting because that is the sex that you INSPIRE. Sex as …
/r/askMRP30/07/21 11:37 PM
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You may agree that the advice you’re being given is the correct course of action but, if you’ve really went over so much RP material, you’re still lacking real world experience. You don’t feel it in your gut. You don’t react out of the instinctual feeling of “being there before”. You may just not be ready for RP material, honestly. We live in a world where it’s like a revelation when successful people tell you how much they failed beforehand. Early 20’s? Embrace being in a field of dreams. “Buil…
/r/askMRP28/07/21 07:08 PM
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“Better” is a dangerous comparison when evaluating options because you have a tendency to overlook, and reject, women that don’t live up to that ideal at face value. Go explore “different”. I once had a somber conversation with my brother about how I would be more open to marrying a LTR that regularly pulled things like your young lady if I hadn’t been with so many other women. I would have been SETTLING if I kept going down the expected path. Of course she ticked boxes when I wasn’t as experien…
/r/askMRP28/07/21 04:20 PM
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How you reply to shit tests should be context-specific and calibrated correctly for the young lady you’re responding to. The most important aspect of shit tests is recognition. When you’re aware that a shit test is occurring, you can consciously choose your response.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/18 04:09 PM
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Honestly, and this is JUST a little medicine, you're being weak. Remove yourself as an option for her and concentrate on being everything you can be for your son. That starts with being the strongest man you're capable of being. The allure of that perfect family life has been proven to be nothing more than an illusion for you and the mother of your child. Get rid of anything that isn't real. The only thing different when dealing with a woman you've been on and off with for 15 years, in my case, …
/r/TheRedPill03/07/18 05:59 PM
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"Ok" or "Okay, <insert her name>" That's all. Cut contact afterward. Understand that this isn't about her, her feelings or how you want her to view you moving forward. This is about how you let women go. No anger. No thoughts of "she must be f**king someone else". No trying to tighten your grip or perform some sleight of hand to keep hold of her. Just an "okay"...NEXT. You can have as many women as you desire. You can make as much love as you can handle. The first step is to stop holding on so t…
/r/askTRP11/01/17 04:46 PM
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"Misguided" isn't the appropriate word when people could actually explain why his list makes sense to them. Should you ever go down, you can't take care of ANYTHING else on your list. You will not be strong and you will not be self-assured as you are suddenly overcome with weakness and vulnerable. If a lion does not take care of himself, what happens to the rest of the pride? True, we are not animals but, if you heard Patrice O'Neal open up about his own life, you would know that he saw his care…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 07:01 PM
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You have kid(s), if you have time for a revolving door of women, something else in your life is probably being neglected. Having a situation where one girl replaces another after you've had your fun and the baggage starts to weigh things down seems optimal. Don't value those attributes such as the low N count or great genes over the actual value she brings to YOUR life and you're golden.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/16 04:51 PM
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His advice was actually pretty clear. If you're not going to plate her, which I doubt you can handle, have sex with her one more time and go about your life. You seem to be aiming for revenge. You're on your way out, why do you care about her "hamster wheel"? Go ahead and get one last session with this young lady and f**k her like it's your last time...because it should be.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 05:07 PM
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Sexual exclusivity from her seems to be his expectation which the "open marriage" part should have destroyed immediately. I get it: a part of you still wants to own a part of her. Use experiences like this to expose and tame that part of your ego. Even when you have the keys, you're still in a car with another man's name on the license plate...luckily, he's also the one paying the insurance and upkeep...enjoy the ride, young man.
/r/askTRP08/03/16 05:45 PM
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"Just show her what kind of man you are so she knows what kind of woman she's got to be." - Mad Men Should she not eventually move to be your reflection, her investment in the relationship is obvious. Next.
/r/askTRP07/03/16 11:03 PM
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You've become possessive and that possessiveness is making you unwise. Any man that does not trust his gut enough to make a move when it is screaming at him is following a path to his own doom. It's clear that you're going to take an "L" in this situation. From now on, approach romantic relationships with the idea that even the illusion of "ownership" is dead. How you feel about her only dictates how much access she has to your resources and how she feels about you can become meaningless in an i…
/r/askTRP26/02/16 07:19 PM
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If your woman has the BALLS to hold her ground based upon her "principles" then what the f**k is YOUR problem? You're worried about losing her? She's so worried about losing you that she has actually made silly demands for you to "win" her back. Damn near holding herself hostage as you give her more and more commitment AFTER knowing she was sleeping with other people and you when you first met? Your thoughts should be about how she's going to miss out ON YOU!
/r/askTRP11/02/16 10:12 PM
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A cliche like "Netflix and Chill" works because it actually makes your intentions clear WHILE also giving her plausible deniability. My real advice to you would be: relax. You're in/ at college. This is one girl of many for you to gain experience from as you develop your game. If you're really in doubt, invite her somewhere close by your living space and, if things go smoothly, simply take her there afterwards.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 09:55 PM
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My brother once told me a story where he was walking around the track with his girlfriend, at the time, and she was speaking to him in a manner he felt was disrespectful. He kept walking straight and left her there. She never repeated that mistake again. You should always be ready to walk away. ALWAYS. Next time she gives you attitude, literally do just that.
/r/askTRP21/01/16 03:31 PM
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At some point in his journey, he had to realize a VERY important concept: It was never, and WILL never, be his...it's just his turn. Enjoy the ride.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/16 05:45 PM
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The real tragedy is that they will still wholeheartedly believe that this whole situation, and their eventual troubles, were your fault. And, yet, the black knight rides on.
/r/TheRedPill10/01/16 01:15 AM
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You're in the midst of a face-off and you're blinking. Your real problem in this situation is that you're approaching life with the wrong outlook: you lack a mentality of abundance. If your LTR leaves, there will be another girl and, with that in mind, if you stop talking to this other chick, there will also be another girl. The simple fact that your LTR has the "balls" to dictate to you already speaks volumes. She's used to holding herself ransom and you paying whatever price is necessary to ge…
/r/askTRP08/01/16 08:03 PM
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What do you view as a "great success"? If you've accomplished this with multiple "exes" then the success would have to be the re-dissolution of the relationship. A form of success you could have been achieving with young ladies you didn't already "know" (double entendre, of course).
/r/TheRedPill15/12/15 08:46 PM
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Even the concept of defiance out of pure desperation should be seen as no more than a shit test. "She's giving you shit to make sure you are (still) the shit." BUT, make no mistake, that defiance should respect WHO you are and WHAT you are. You're a man first. Whoever you are to her can be as far down on that list as needed.
/r/TheRedPill07/12/15 08:41 PM
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Your young lady's manly level of disrespect ends in sex. Short term, to most, that's all well and good. Long term, you, and ANY man who invests in a young lady who would DARE speak to him like that to begin with, should take a good look at yourself and determine what about your frame would make her think it was okay to let that leave her mouth.
/r/TheRedPill07/12/15 07:27 PM
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The first piece of advice that should have been given is: Go get more potential sexual partners. The amount of concern you're showing for ANOTHER man's girl is concerning. A plate that's spinning awkwardly wouldn't have the chance to be this bothersome if it didn't have this much of your attention. Next, accept that you're the type of man that will have sex with the woman of a man you know and then turn around and break bread with him. It took real time invested to poke his girl and, now, you're…
/r/TheRedPill15/06/15 11:35 PM
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In other words, be consistently inconsistent. In a relationship, especially a LTR, routine begins to reveal itself and we latch on to that routine creating comfort. Comfort is the beginning of the end when it comes to keeping a young lady sexualized. Keeping her in a state of suspense, even in ways we'd find negative (i.e. the air of violence surrounding a young Mike Tyson, certain criminal behavior, etc.), works wonders on the female imagination and can do most of the heavy lifting for you. Kee…
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 08:38 PM
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A young hammer. Everything looking like a nail. I'm still unsure whether you're being serious or simply mocking common topics on the sub.
/r/TheRedPill04/02/15 05:46 PM
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Excellent. I just had a conversation last night with a young man asking why the "white girls" he has actually dealt with on campus don't speak to him when he encounters them in a public setting. What he saw as a problem, beforehand, is honestly your solution. As in, you will not be able to be too open with your dealings despite girls being down to give you a try. In that setting, being attached to black guys could have a negative impact on her social standing so she's going to want to keep it lo…
/r/TheRedPill04/02/15 04:24 AM
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Any young man I call my "friend" knows what I expect of him and any people he may expose me to. With that in mind, a light-hearted, but firm, "come get your girl" puts the responsibility for her behavior back on him while also not making the situation totally uncomfortable.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/15 09:26 PM
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I've heard and seen about it before but, when the pattern is outlined, the solution is clear: next her. That tingle in your nuts is there for a reason. Stop ignoring it.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/15 06:58 AM
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As a feminist and a member of her local city's rape crisis centre committee, this young lady is not here to get "up to speed". She came, out of curiosity, to read various things throughout the sub that piqued her interest and then to give her opinion...as a woman, feminist and member of a rape crisis centre committee. Though she agrees that she wants alpha men, and many other girls do as well, some women don't. And don't HONESTLY think of women as not being your equal. She wasn't interested in t…
/r/TheRedPill29/01/15 05:20 PM
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I'm not surprised that everyone may get something different out of a situation but at a party with her "friends" where, apparently, only a couple of people know that she is married, something is wrong with the very foundation their relationship is built on. The real area where "respect" should be applied is how his young lady treats him. Again, that should have been another part of the foundation their relationship is built on. How can she honestly love someone she doesn't respect? She had sex w…
/r/TheRedPill19/01/15 06:02 PM
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I agree. In a LTR, make sure your lines are drawn as clearly as possible. She should know the consequences of even approaching those lines immediately. When it comes to plates/ ONS, however, the tone should be set with constant escalation. The things that you value should always be a part of your interaction to a point that something as trivial as her checking her phone isn't a problem. I thought that the phone would be a problem with a young plate but it, for probably several reasons, never tak…
/r/TheRedPill18/01/15 01:06 AM
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You will be better for this. Relax and don't attempt to run from that lack of companionship, embrace it. As a young man, there is no better time to realize that alone does not mean lonely. Of course do the usual: lift, read, run, improve your diet. I always recommend a physical activity where you are in competition with others like pickup basketball, boxing, martial arts, etc. Outside of really being able to see the results of working out, there are many mental benefits and several opportunities…
/r/TheRedPill18/01/15 12:37 AM
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Outside of recognizing that you lack consistency, you must also recognize that this is about more than your relationship. This is about you as a man. I know the tendency in LTR is to simply go along with whatever she wants to do at times simply because you may not have any preference. Or to do things that everyone, outside of our SO, would be dang near sending thank you cards for while she just gets up and hops in the passenger seat. Saying "no" is a simply way to start putting your foot down. W…
/r/askTRP13/01/15 03:25 AM
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There is a simple way to start repairing some of the damage that you've felt you've caused BUT it's something you have to stick to. Starting saying "no". This can be presented with other options, terms or simply "I don't feel like it/ that's not something I want to do". I think all you're really saying is that you don't feel you're leading your relationship and that can be changed by starting small and slowly but surely asserting yourself in all facets of your life.
/r/askTRP12/01/15 05:57 PM
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In other words, you're setting up arbitrary rules and allowing her to "break" them to give her a false idea that she is special to you. To put it in perspective, consider the ego boost that many men experience when a young lady says she would never/ has never done something and he "gets" her to do it. This boost occurs DESPITE the fact that many men have a feeling she has done it before.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/15 12:46 PM
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Based upon your replies, you're a good man. You've been strong. You've been caring. You've made sacrifices she probably will not be capable of understanding. That said...you want a blowjob. You miss that sexual, outgoing, fiery girl she was and, unfortunately, for you and the time you've spent seeing her through these trials and tribulations, she will most likely never be that girl again. The abuse won't just disappear, the depression won't just disappear and, at best, you will spend years helpl…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/15 09:30 PM
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In my mind, as your wife, she received your ultimate admission of commitment without them...why are they suddenly necessary? If she's going to be paying for them with her own money, however, we could debate it.
/r/TheRedPill30/12/14 06:24 PM
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It's not hypocritical to have a preference. To have options and choose the one you feel best suits you isn't a hypocritical action, it's a wise move.
/r/TheRedPill28/12/14 07:58 PM
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So, now you're a young man trying to find a woman like your mother?
/r/TheRedPill25/12/14 03:57 AM
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Expecting a change in her because YOU stepped back is a bit too optimistic. In the end, the work will still be yours. If you take a girl that has been eating noodles her WHOLE life and start feeding her steak, eventually she's going to expect a steak to hit that table. It's the same if you're picking her up, paying for movies, initiating all the contact, etc. Use this time away to fix YOURSELF and come back, if that's your decision, with the vision and strength to mold HER.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/14 06:15 AM
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Generally, it's not uncommon to take the people we have in our life for granted...even when we have no one else. Your responsibility is to never sell yourself for less than you are worth. I say never because bad behavior HAS to be corrected IMMEDIATELY. Allowing her to talk down to you for months is what let to that hair dryer "incident". She has needed someone to put her in her place for months and you failed to do so. Take this as a lesson. When you do take her back (you both have no friends?)…
/r/TheRedPill16/10/14 05:31 AM
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You're looking at the situation purely from your own viewpoint. Step back and look at it with respect to her "needs." At 18, with 3 kids, she needs attention, support/ provider and, based upon those numbers, sex. Facebook gets her attention while she tries to find someone to fulfill her other needs. And, from how you've framed the situation, she knows/ has no other way to get a man than with her vagina. As an aside, no one that respects themselves will get with an 18 year old mother of 3 in thei…
/r/TheRedPill08/10/14 05:46 PM
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Look at it this way: you've outlined just about nothing but negatives about not using a condom with this girl. The only good thing you've said is "sex". You already know that you don't want her and, should an "accident" happen (and they often do), the day she doesn't want you, she will still have a way to access your money. Don't be an idiot. Stick to your morals.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/14 03:43 PM
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I think you're partly correct in that she IS waiting for him to pull the trigger. Many young ladies absolutely refuse to take the lead even when it comes to ending a relationship they can feel going downhill. She is waiting for him to take some action, as a man, with which she can simply respond to. His response was one of, apparent, strength and it led to some sloppy top in a parking lot. A response of further weakness would have degraded the situation further.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/14 07:56 PM
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Treat all girls, regardless of relationship status, as if they were single and you're golden.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 08:12 PM
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You're just out of practice. Consider this: for SIX YEARS, you didn't even know what it was like to be loved by a girl that was totally into you. You're actually having to rely on your MEMORY OF FEELINGS right now to judge whether or not the current situation is right. It's not too good to be true unless this period of you being the man in your relationship is just a phase. There will be plateaus that you have to find a way around but, as long as you continue to improve as a man, she will be gui…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/14 08:04 PM
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No. In regard to the Game, i.e. strategy, there are right moves and there are wrong moves. It's meaningless to take "things without context, without result, just by themselves" because you'd be ignoring universal laws like "for every action there is a reaction."
/r/TheRedPill28/07/14 07:20 PM
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It seems that, despite not being in an actual relationship with this young lady, you have no other options. Go get some. If your "ultimatum" is "sex or I'm out", you've actually already made it clear that you don't have long term plans with this girl, why would you ask her to go against her religious traditions for your wants? Keep her around in her current capacity until it becomes clear that she's simply wasting your time. There will NEVER be a way to make sure that you're not wasting time on …
/r/TheRedPill07/07/14 04:55 PM
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Abundance mentality. Numbers game.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/14 04:02 AM
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I think believing you have love, working for it, sacrificing for it and, then, being slapped in the face despite all of that IS essential to those "plugged" in. They need that feeling that something is definitely wrong here and that inspiration to seek out the truth. Like, NOW your friend is ready...he probably wasn't last week.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/14 11:05 AM
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This "high" you're on is also a side-effect of new punani. But, new punani soon becomes old punani and those problems with your wife will still be there. You can fix the situation with your home but, first, you have to stop letting the thought of your daughter growing up in a co-parent "system" chain you to your wife. And, after overcoming that, be seriously willing to blow your marriage up if your "demands" aren't met. Outside of that, work on being the type of man that you would admire.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/14 02:10 PM
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It's for the attention. If she tells you she DEFINITELY doesn't want a relationship with you, odds are high that you will take your attention elsewhere instead of sticking around and helping her feel like the prize she thinks she is. It has nothing to do with you. One opposite sex "like" on Facebook/ Instagram is just as good as the other.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/14 03:08 PM
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Glad that I could help. I've always thought that "final 10" came down to experience. I've always been somewhat of a natural in the sense that there isn't a thought in my mind of "I'm here but how do I get there." I would say, don't focus on closing. Too many people take the journey itself for granted. You've both had sex before so you both should have that understanding of "logical" progression. When it gets there, you'll know. After hanging out with a young lady and, eventually, being one on on…
/r/TheRedPill29/04/14 12:48 AM
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In all honesty, if she is who you have said she is, she was going to be a project, either way. Don't become "stuck" on her and treat the situation with a casual attitude. As in, don't WANT her to be something, give her a position in your life befitting who/ what she IS. You felt something was off, found out about her "situation" and came here with a vibe that you wanted to SAVE her and MAKE her your girl. That's dangerous. That leads to putting time and energy into a situation that might not lea…
/r/TheRedPill28/04/14 08:08 PM
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I suspected as much as far as kino is involved. To think that a young lady is "worth" more than another young lady and settle into playing the long game is setting yourself up for failure. What you do on that first date has a big hand on what type of relationship you could have with a girl years down the line. Don't treat her different because YOU WANT a LTR with her. As a man, you have to show your worth upfront. Don't shy away from that. Now, what if she was actually waiting on you to make som…
/r/TheRedPill28/04/14 07:12 PM
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A girl asking for an open relationship is demoting you. Plain and simple. She doesn't think that you're good enough to give her EVERYTHING to or she would be doing just that.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/14 06:15 PM
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When people come to the board asking questions in a manner that make it clear they are NOT one of "us", it feels like a scene from the Godfather. We're being asked for a favor from someone that doesn't even truly respect our position. First, One-itis will never do you any favors. As someone in an actual LTR of several years, don't out-think your desires because you are afraid to "lose" her. You will miss out and, ultimately, she will as well. Now, from your "Cliffnotes," it appears that she is m…
/r/TheRedPill28/04/14 06:01 PM
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If you're hanging with men that "over-report" their number, you need to start subtracting.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/14 03:48 PM
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Space out your availability. Be more busy than usual with the idea of pulling back everything you were/ are giving her until she gets the idea that you just "don't have any time for her." And then you agree by telling her how hectic your days have been recently. Within this, sprinkle in times where you are available to just text back and forth with her a little bit to show that you are actually making an attempt to give her some of your time. Eventually, she'll make the decision to move on herse…
/r/TheRedPill23/04/14 03:37 PM
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You're telling "red pillers" who fear being cuckolded to hope that the mother of their child looks like this so no self-respecting alpha will want to have sex with her...even though, to really call yourself a "red piller", the very aim of your life should be TO BE a self-respecting alpha. This would be better served as a warning of what could happen to your partner should you impregnate them. Especially if you encourage them to "eat for two."
/r/TheRedPill22/04/14 04:25 PM
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Saying how old she is would be helpful, as well. Someone that's been "hooking up" for years, suddenly stops and still hits up guys that she used to hook up with is probably trying to bait you into something more.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/14 08:46 PM
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If you really think that her cat dying is having an effect on her then you should understand that she's lashing out and the book gave her an outlet. In a LTR, your masculinity, your frame, isn't just for you. She needs that strength when she's drowning in her emotions. EVERY BIT of what you've said seem like tests. Maintaining frame is never a walk in the park in a relationship. You have to always be on your toes about how to react to this or that including how to react when you know the argumen…
/r/askTRP21/04/14 08:20 PM
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You should understand what your desire for her to apologize is. You have a desire for her to justify your feelings that what she has done is wrong. You're desiring her to VALIDATE your feelings. Even in a LTR, this is poison. If a situation like this ever happens, it should be the other way around. She should be worrying about what you're doing with who and waiting on your calls and communications. You need to realize that her "chatting up a bunch of other dudes" is a sign that she's starting to…
/r/TheRedPill18/04/14 03:20 PM
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Well I've seen it...all week, in fact.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 01:49 PM
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Okay. This is the ONLY question you should be asking yourself: "What do I want?" That's it. Your red flags are one thing, the next thing that you should be considering is sex one a week enough for you? Can you accept a 28 year old young lady that doesn't know how to give affection that feels "right"? Are you okay with having no support system (male friends) and having to settle for unfulfilling conversations with someone you're contemplating spending your life with? You've been committed to her …
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 01:46 PM
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That preemptive break-up is terribly under-rated.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 01:22 PM
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The thought in your mind should be: "Strike when the iron is hot." Don't mindlessly associate, have an idea of where you would like the relationship to lead and steer the conversation there. The only logical place it could lead after sexting and "really heavy stuff" is the bedroom, a bad performance there or, even worse, never even making it to that point, WILL dull that "edge".
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 08:24 PM
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"Trust, but verify." Repeat it as much as it takes to remember it.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 06:36 PM
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The real tip would be to actually be unavailable. Have times where you're so absorbed in what you're doing that you don't even check your phone. When I'm at work (classified area so no cell phones allowed), at the gym, reading, etc., I don't check my phone. Any girl that's around you for a while will notice that you always keep your phone on you and consider that when you're trying to make it seem like you're not available.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 03:47 PM
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I definitely understand what you're saying. My thing is this: when I'm giving advice to guys I view it as a battle of the sexes and we're brothers-in-arms. We're in the trenches together. So, if a young lady gets over on you...if you felt that tingle in your balls and can't understand why the kick even came then giving someone the best advice possible enhances our forces. Now the blunt advice would have been: You know when she won't be really busy? When the next blockbuster movie comes out. When…
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 05:49 PM
1

So, what did she do that made her worth a second date? Did she pay for the movie? Did she buy the alcohol and make the drinks? Did she jump all over you to initiate the making out? Did you sleep better with her there than alone? Did she pay for the gas you used to drive her to the car? If you've done everything within your present ability and truly can't find a moment where you were in error, it probably wasn't you. Move on.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 08:19 PM
3

But drinking, making out and staying the night at a young man's house isn't a big deal? This was a first date and she did everything but have sex with you. Don't even consider the "super religious school" angle, she was there for the taking and stayed additional hours to provide you further opportunities.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 07:58 PM
1

Stop. You watched a movie, went back to your place, had some drinks, watched ANOTHER movie, started making out, ..........., and then she stayed the night? You're missing something VERY important. Sex. The fact that you said nothing of being turned down for sex is the red flag. She will forgive you for being TOO BOLD, she will never forgive you for NOT BEING BOLD ENOUGH.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 07:09 PM
1

I used to work with my girlfriend and her previous young man before they started dating so I knew him, what type of person he was and what he was generally into. He dumped her because she was moving an hour away to go to college and I started talking to her...eventually we begin dating. Now, after some time of being with and around him, she begin to act and dress differently as she adopted his style and mannerisms. Behind the scenes, which I learned after various conversations, she also tried sm…
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 02:29 PM
1

You messed up and missed out on the moment. At that time, with how you felt and what you knew about her, she WAS the girl for you. You should have been figuring out your life while having this girl in your clutches. The crazy thing is that neither of you actually saw the other as a friend. You had every intention of getting with her, if possible, and she's treating you like the penis in a glass that you have been to her. She didn't give you a shit test, she gave you the response girls give that …
/r/TheRedPill10/04/14 02:39 PM
8

I want to become a man in full. I need to keep approaching hotter and hotter girls, and start fucking them. I need to set my own path 100%. I don't want a safety net - incentives matter. I'm only a couple weeks into full-on RP and a few days into telling her I wanted out. We're in our early 30s. She doesn't want kids. I'm not sure I do, and definitely not with her. She asked for a week and I accepted (she is strong and persuasive). The dread game is working like magic, but I still want out. It d…
/r/TheRedPill09/04/14 03:28 PM
1

No. She talks, you do. e.g: I met this girl who ___. Do you _? You should always be taking more "territory" within a lady's boundary in the sense that, if that's what you want her to do, you push for that. Whether that is a girl cooking for you, cleaning for you, fellatio or some other sex act...always be advancing. It keeps you in a constant state of aggression. Don't try to jealousy her into doing things, have her thinking she's willing to do these things FOR YOU. e.g: My friends think I shoul…
/r/askTRP08/04/14 09:22 PM
10

You're keeping her overflowing with emotions, she's willingly having sex with you without protecting herself AND you're cumming inside her...how could you not feel in control. That's your woman, at the moment. The messiness comes when you're not submitting to her cries for commitment, when her feelings of frustration and rejection start getting the best of her, when that pregnancy "scare" arrives on a random Tuesday. If she wasn't this submissive and pleasing during your relationship then you sh…
/r/TheRedPill08/04/14 08:04 PM
0

You not being able to "get it back going" after something that was basically her fault was a form of rejection. It was a heavy blow to her pride and self-esteem that occurred in the presence of a man that she, admittedly, has been working hard to impress.
/r/askTRP04/04/14 03:52 PM
1

She was definitely unicorn material. It's like people can't possibly keep anything sacred. Some manipulative cheater that couldn't make it out of high school without showing signs of being tainted before she fully swam in that sea of ****s was unicorn material because when she date you, in high school, she was the "classic" good girl? She's no longer capable of even being considered a unicorn and you're trying to plant a horn on her forehead. She's going to kill you with it. She "realized" what …
/r/TheRedPill03/04/14 03:25 PM
1

For guys attempting to digest the pill while already in a relationship, your frame is EVERYTHING. Your frame is the material the ship you captain is made of so it has to be strong enough to support you AND her. As it is a personal reworking, I would suggest things to improve and strengthen that before anything else. That means working towards that stoic state until you're no longer leaking emotions like aggravation, anxiety and jealousy. The more you wear your heart on your sleeve, the more the …
/r/TheRedPill02/04/14 03:34 PM
1

I think it's terrible. No one would dispute that the man was robbed in that example. The man with the gun should simply be changed to a much larger man and the guy that regularly donates vagina should willing walk into the alley with said larger man and be taking out his wallet to give the man a couple of dollars when the man takes the whole thing. They should then peacefully part ways with the guy waiting until he got home/ discussed with friends to call the police.
/r/TheRedPill01/04/14 06:37 PM
1

First, start working out. If you're already working out, pick up the intensity. The almost unconscious mental effects this has on people cannot be understated. You will just feel better. Next, build your frame. As she already has a feeling of what to expect from you, you can't just come in, tear down your old way of doing/ reacting to things and put up something entirely new. Slowly, but surely, shift your focus inward with the thought that "this my journey, she's just accompanying me on it." Wi…
/r/askTRP01/04/14 02:22 PM
5

I thought that you sound silly. You're in a LTR: hold your frame, impose your will, take care of your first-mate. It should be made clear that as long as you're getting what you need/ want from the relationship, she will always been taken care of.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/14 04:00 PM
5

Firstly, how in the heck can she bathe in her own emotions, in her own vulnerability, if you're constantly drowning her in yours...? It's impossible. She doesn't need to shit test you. She knows you're weak. It took one night, ONE, for another man to actually LEAD her somewhere and she was immediately interested as it was a contrast to the young man she's been with. ONE! And, most likely, she didn't send that text but, if she didn't, she DAMN SURE told that other girl that that was how she felt.…
/r/TheRedPill21/03/14 08:21 PM
1

I fell into that mode last week after trying to "master" a more stoic frame. You should identify and overcome a true challenge. Something that actually tests your "powers."
/r/TheRedPill20/03/14 06:23 PM
28

Wait...the crazy crying would be COMPLETELY overshadowed by the herpes. This isn't even close. In fact, I can take everything she did except telling you she has herpes AFTER you've already had sex with her. Condoms don't "stop" herpes. Outside of that condom breaking and suddenly submerging yourself within some Dead Sea, herpes is EVERYTHING you should be afraid of.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/14 06:37 PM
0

Your victory is defeating you. Fwb often don't last long or, at the very least, go at it with a regularity that both parties remain happy with. You'll be thrown in that underground prison with your back broke soon enough if you don't remember your A.B.C.'s...Always Be Closing.
/r/seduction18/03/14 03:18 PM
1

I remember kicking my girlfriend out and sending her home without her doing anything. And that was the problem. The only thing worse than adding a negative energy to the room is adding absolutely nothing. I got up, told her to get her things, walked her to the door, wished her a good night and told her to text me to let me know she made it home safely. She was stunned because NO ONE had ever done that to her before. Now she knew that, should she ever return, I wouldn't ALLOW her to add nothing a…
/r/TheRedPill10/03/14 04:55 PM
4

You're putting yourself in a bad position. I say that because he "used to beat her on a daily basis when she was in high school" and "She still loves him." That is their dynamic. I would sit her down and ask her, point blank, "can I beat up your brother for touching you?" She, most likely, is going to say that she does not want that. Next, I would tell her that she BETTER talk to him then because she's your girl now and there is no way in hell you're going to tolerate anybody putting their hands…
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 10:45 PM
1

Not really training but having some sort of experience to back up that opinion would be ideal. Being young isn't a disadvantage, actually. You could potentially have several areas to experiment and experience all things having to do with life and relationships. It doesn't seem that you have. I hope your relationship stays strong. Good day.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 08:40 PM
1

At first I thought "why do we, as a community, let people that don't believe or are against the red pill create these topics." After more consideration, I can see the worth in them but I do want to know one thing: what are your credentials? How old are you? How many relationships have you been in and how long were these relationships? Do the people in your life come to you for advice or do you seek out others? Have you ever been a part of what you THINK the ideal relationship looks like? And, if…
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 05:27 PM
33

He's 25 and his girlfriend of 2 years is his "first." His friend, who he calls his "BFF" (which is extremely feminine for a person his age), is older, smells better and just does something that gets his girlfriend off. She gets off to it to the point where she is willing to break up with this goober to immediately be with his "BFF." A young man who lacks an abundance mentality and a girl succumbing to hypergamy. And he's moving in with her. It's too sad.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 03:55 PM
1

I meant I wanted to hear the tale of how one of these well educate, smoking hot white girls were turned out.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 01:54 AM
1

I'll bite. Can you provide the story of one of these "turnouts"?
/r/TheRedPill04/03/14 08:37 PM
2

I thought everyone got the "what would you do without me" question? "I'd have to get another girl", or some variant, is the correct answer. It's the correct answer because it's also the one that you should BOTH believe. It shouldn't be said with any more emotion than you would use to answer any other question. That said, understand that she needs SOME of this. If you feel that she's trying to pull you down to inflate her ego, stick a pin in it. Don't keep a girl around that feels you are lucky t…
/r/TheRedPill04/03/14 04:00 PM
3

Maybe I'm just having trouble understanding your style of writing but: what exactly are you trying to say?
/r/TheRedPill27/02/14 09:13 PM
1

Balance is everything. You handled the situation "well" in doing what you wanted to do. I would say that you could have handled it better by doing what you wanted to do WITH her and then doing what she wanted to do, the movies, WITH her as well. You're the captain so go where you feel the wind is taking you but also make sure your first mate is taken care of. Recently, I was in a similar situation with my young lady and I grabbed her hand during the back and forth and told her "I WANT you to go …
/r/TheRedPill25/02/14 09:20 PM
3

That wasn't giving away false power. So, instead of doing what he wanted, he did something that, most likely, they both enjoyed and she got exactly what she wanted. Allowing her to think she has ANY power over you is a mistake. She should be thinking "my MAN doesn't take s**t (you get it?!) from anybody...me included." I remember asking my girl, after a conversation about women withholding sex to control their men, why hasn't she ever tried that on me. She said: "It wouldn't work." That's exactl…
/r/TheRedPill24/02/14 09:17 PM
2

Listen, if you're a winner, women are going to try to scoop you up. Period. I've been on bases where girls won't date anything but soldiers, hop from soldier to soldier and one soldier is unknowingly raising another soldier's baby because he had the nerve to go TDY. So, for the time being, any chick with you is AUTOMATICALLY upgraded. Consider that anytime a girl is pursuing you unusually hard. She's doing that because, to her, that's what you bring to the table is WORTH. As for your 3-4 date ru…
/r/TheRedPill24/02/14 07:14 PM
6

I like to take up her personal space when we're familiar, we've been touching, I've done something to ramp the situation up and things suddenly turn "confrontational." Stepping to her with a smirk and never breaking eye-contact would have ended with you kissing her if you ever opt for the bold move. Recognizing a shit test is good. Passing it is better. Using it to skip levels of escalation is ideal.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/14 06:35 PM
8

You can never go back home.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/14 06:08 PM
2

My problem with this story is, outside of meeting her on OKCupid and all the weird things that came of it (meeting her parents already?!), you didn't sleep with her. So, you're burning time on a young lady that you can't be sure that you even like. Now, with intimate knowledge of how the military and military spouses work, your spider-sense shouldn't be screaming about how crazy she might be. That doesn't really matter if things turn out casual and you practice safe sex. What you SHOULD be worri…
/r/TheRedPill24/02/14 05:43 PM
1

Wait...so you "allow" her to mess with other people at her college but you're all torn up inside when she messes with some local? I don't get the complexities of people's emotions, I see. I think an error many people make when giving advice is not wanting you to step through s**t. So, you have this great knowledge but not the actual FEELING and EXPERIENCE that should go with it, You're hurt. Let yourself be hurt. Truly absorb that this is what woman are and/ or can be in an instant and use that …
/r/TheRedPill23/02/14 03:30 PM
54

She took you back to her place after coffee, kissed you goodnight and you haven't seen her since. And she's the one making plans that pull you in and breaking them...which, then, leaves you in orbit. And, to make matters worse, you REMAIN in orbit. You throw out "I've been pretty icy" as if you're gaining some satisfaction from passive aggressive responses, disregarding that, as soon as she contacts you on Facebook, you're waiting hand and foot for her again. You wouldn't say "next" for 95% of g…
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 04:44 PM
1

LoL! That first time is going to be a little crazy after you help her break through that wall so I wouldn't recommend tying her up until you see how she rides that wave.
/r/askTRP18/02/14 10:24 PM
2

Alright...this is probably the first time that you're going to here this said...you MAY be in the best situation possible. When that first explosion runs through her body, it will forever be connected with you. Force her through it. Talk to her beforehand, talk to her during and have her in a position where you can keep stroking when she's trying to push you out. As a reference, my girl had never had an orgasm while riding me, she would ALWAYS drop all her weight down when she got to feeling "to…
/r/askTRP18/02/14 08:06 PM
2

First, she should be having regular orgasms. This tends to "allow" her to relinquish control to you in the bedroom. Next is a slow escalation. I would start with being rougher with the mind state that you can't just destroy her butt the first time you spank her...it's a firm spank to test her reaction...if she likes it, the next one is a bit harder. In missionary, those legs start going a bit higher every once in a while until they are on your shoulders and, then, by her head. The thing with ine…
/r/askTRP18/02/14 05:31 PM
29

Physicality shouldn't be praised as a means of "handling" females. It's literally what they need to make men appear to be the crazy, oppressive monsters that they've been painting us as. These girls might have "learned" a lesson but it's doubtful that any other girl has. This isn't making our position better, it's making it worse.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/14 04:28 PM
1

There is no such thing as "common" human decency. What you're calling common is simply the decency that you would show as she, the woman you loved enough to marry/ safe from an abusive household, has shown that she does not possess it. As much as I hate to say it, with you also having children, you have become more than the rock men are expected to be. You have become a levee and, as such, when you break, EVERYONE gets wet. So, say in 5 years should, god forbid, your father dies. She can hold ou…
/r/TheRedPill16/02/14 04:59 AM
5

Suffering from one-itis, talking about using dread game while making home-made chocolate FOR her. You've swallowed the pill. That's the first step. Now go experience what the food really tastes like out there. You're already skipping steps.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/14 07:06 PM
-3

If you don't live together, I'd actually consider just slowly downgrading her. It has way more upside than simply cutting a girl free.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/14 05:58 PM
3

Oh! The thing that you need to understand is that there is no formula. There are always tougher guys who will put up with less but, with girls, so much of it is feelings based that we're all stabbing in the dark at times. Due to different circumstances and situations, there is no "always a turn on." That's why you and some weight-lifting champion high on steroids with little patience both have a chance at getting that girl.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/14 05:41 PM
6

So, being "full red", you're going to run into several situations where everything in you is confirming that you can have sex with this girl but she is clearly not worth the effort. This girl is the perfect example. You knowingly gave up your self-respect and were happy to get a couple of minutes of vagina in exchange. It even seems, in fact, that she ran into NO ONE of higher value willing to make that exchange besides you...so you "won." Your prize: A broken girl that completely fell apart dow…
/r/TheRedPill15/02/14 05:24 PM
11

Okay. Firstly, I am not trolling your post by repeating that TRP is not a cult and, as such, we should be able to have discussions with people who adhere to all forms of thinking. That said, there was NO need to say "since going full red." That statement bothered me more than everything else in the post. Second, I haven't seen a single person say that Beta behavior, even the 120% variety that you "used", makes you incapable of getting girls. Beta's actually have girls. They, or mostly likely all…
/r/TheRedPill15/02/14 05:04 PM
17

I like the karate class analogy for situations like this: You let your guard down, thinking that she would know not to test the master on such a sacred day, not considering that (1) that day was important to you, NOT HER and (2) she can't respect displays of weakness from the person who is supposed to be her rock. This led to her, not only kicking you but, kicking you with no consequence (which was your real error). Those two issues she picked a fight over: not doing anything around the house an…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/14 04:39 PM
20

You're venting while understanding that you made the mistakes. This is a world of martial arts. Your home/ relationship is a dojo...YOUR dojo. You're letting her throw punches and kicks at you, to see how far she's come, without you leading her into counter elbows and throws. She SHOULD be waking up to smelling salts with her body sore. In a LTR, THIS is what happens when you fall into that habit of treating her too good. You know it. I know it. You telling her what you do for her does absolutel…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 08:36 PM
2

No one has given bad advice but, if you want those three, be playful, be physical and then be physically playful. As an example, I used to bag groceries at the local army base and there would be barely any girls that would be acceptable to deal with. The ones that were I would (1) joke with, (2)steady escalate the "kino" starting with things as simple as just sitting/ standing RIGHT next to the point where that became just what "we" do and (3)having them come with me when I was going to get some…
/r/askTRP10/02/14 06:34 PM
15

In the end, he's just another dude in a long line of many. She will continue to do what she's doing as long as she is able. I, of course, wouldn't acknowledge it and I also don't bond with anyone over something negative because fortunes turn.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 05:16 PM
1

I have a long term girlfriend, I have a mother, I have a sister, I have a daughter...this isn't a marriage thing. It happens in any relationship with a young lady that feels entitled, for lack of a better word, to your time. Should you cave to ANY of them, it will strengthen the belief that they can dictate what you do with your time.
/r/TheRedPill06/02/14 04:30 PM
7

This isn't a marriage thing. She wants what she wants and you are going against that. It doesn't matter what you're doing if you are not doing what she wants you to do. This can come from a girlfriend, wife, mom, sister, etc. It should be seen as a test and passed accordingly.
/r/TheRedPill04/02/14 03:18 PM
13

I'm actually surprised that nobody has touched on the real issue here: you're scared. Your self-esteem is low and you're responding by trying to look at yourself from the outside perspective of people that only live in your head. The first step for you would be: Whatever is broke, fix it...or be working towards that fix. You are already. The next step is to simply say "hi." That's it. How many males do you think are so amazingly attractive that girls in public can't take their eyes off of them? …
/r/TheRedPill30/01/14 07:28 PM
41

To imply that he got "free" sex from her is to not understand how much your time is worth.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/14 04:03 PM
7

For someone in a LTR relationship BEFORE discovering TRP, you're stuck in a situation where you have to rewrite habits built up over time so you have to become tactical with your moves as you continuously solidify your frame. You're going to make several mistakes but those mistakes should be those a leader would make and, thus, a leader must take immediate responsibility. One mistake is that you feel the need to ask your partner to satisfy your needs. To physically make your intentions known sho…
/r/TheRedPill28/01/14 09:35 PM
2

It all starts with you. As you're stepping into the "game" on a conscious level, you should be focused and resolute. First off, to say that you'd rather not next too many women immediately indicates that they are worth more than your time. These young ladies, in all honesty, are worth next to nothing unless they are adding value to your life AND THEN whatever value they are adding is what they are worth. You read all of the required reading but you've surely overlooked one of the basic "tenets":…
/r/askTRP21/01/14 04:29 PM
3

NAWALT...
/r/TheRedPill20/01/14 07:40 PM
1

Wherever it came from, it was a selfish action that made him feel better. I don't mind it.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/14 05:13 PM
1

It becomes more "keeping options" than "spinning plates." Don't get numbers while in a LTR, keep numbers from before you were in that LTR. Do not start removing girls from your life because you're committed to this person. That temptation is often high but, in the long wrong, it's the wrong way to approach the situation. Some people don't enjoy the thought of keeping their girl on edge BUT, your girl HAS to know that other girls still want you and would gladly have you should she mess your situa…
/r/askTRP16/01/14 09:09 PM
4

I think your immediate issue should be your glamorization of marriage and looking at the "institution" from a more logical standpoint. She probably did everything a married couple would do outside of wearing a piece of jewelry and signing a legal document (besides a lease). So, if she has a habit of moving in with guys and the relationship not working out then that's what you should be putting the microscope to first. Is she some bum-chick that was moving in with these guys to "save" her from he…
/r/askTRP16/01/14 08:54 PM
3

You want to talk to him about it so you should, if only to make yourself feel better with the thought that you tried to curb this. Depending on dynamics of your relationship, as my brother and I would be straightforward/ slightly harsh but the point would be made, I say, while hanging out one-on-one, you ask questions that lead him to his own conclusions. That's the soft way to handle it. The harsh way would be to repeat things she's said verbatim while challenging him to stand up for himself. A…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/14 03:41 PM
1

intj
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 07:50 PM
10

As someone that dates black women pretty much exclusively, they have to be broken down and taught to be those things that you want. So, in essence, you have to see qualities in them worth working with and then mold her into what you want her to be. That said, it's not worth it. It can't be worth it due to the time/ hours of your life it takes just to get her to step 1: You're a young lady, be feminine. And even when they're broken, the shit test given out gives off a feeling that either she HATE…
/r/TheRedPill13/01/14 02:36 PM
2

"Common sense ain't common."
/r/askTRP10/01/14 04:35 PM
1

He's simply treating people like scientific experiments and started with himself. He's like the deranged scientist in his lab working on live human bodies. After reading that, and SociopathicFun's link, I'm actually a little worried. The depth is unusual but the worldview IS becoming more common as people become more and more disconnected.
/r/TheRedPill10/01/14 03:23 PM
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