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| 155 | Huge disparity between men and women when it comes to empathy | RANT | Radenoughyet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 05:21 PM |
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| 32 | Take your SO to a haunted house and see what happens.Omg yes. My LV ex brought me to a haunted house and kept using me as a shield! At the time I thought he was just trying to be funny and pretending to be scared since he’s kind an “alpha male” comedian type but I always had doubts about that. I mean… he didn’t let up on the “joke” the whole time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:09 PM |
| 15 | [deleted by user]As a woman, I can say that the trick is to be really charismatic and kind, with a little bit of flirtiness. Men that love women in general, and everything about them, have success. If you’re truly interested in what they have to say (and not just pretending to be), that is the key. Taking care of your body never hurt, but that’s not the key- I’ve seen plenty of not great looking guys getting tons of attention from women because they genuinely love women- and I don’t mean love in a creepy way- I … | /r/seduction | 21/10/21 05:16 PM |
| 7 | Girl keeps sleeping over but won’t have sex?Finally someone with some reason on this thread! You guys want to know why women don’t want to have sex with you on date #3? It’s because they know most guys just want sex and will lie about it, and they want to make sure you’re not going to just not talk to them again afterward. All of the times I’ve felt most shitty about myself were after I had sex with someone too quickly and never got a call back after. But if we wait, we filter out the guys that are intending to use us. We’re protecting ou… | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Girl keeps sleeping over but won’t have sex?The first comment is saying her excuse doesn’t hold water and she has no intention of having sex with him. The second comment is someone saying she’s using him as a bed and breakfast. | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 05:26 PM |
| -2 | Girl keeps sleeping over but won’t have sex?Some of these comments are disgusting. No one owes you sex, no matter how many times they sleep over. Some people take things faster than others. It’s likely she wants to get to know you a bit before she does literally the most intimate and vulnerable thing with you. I think it’s so gross that men expect sex after 3 dates. | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 12:45 PM |
| 41 | This is why we don’t do hike or walk “dates”…he proceeded to MAKE FUN OF ME, before I unmatched. DANGEROUS.I know it’s not allowed, but I wish you could publish his name. I don’t feel like it’s doxxing if you’re literally warning other women for their safety. Are you able to report him? This guy is a predator and shouldn’t be allowed on the apps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 03:09 PM |
| 32 | Bachelor Party And Strip ClubsI don’t understand the tradition of strippers at all. Is that really the way people want to start their lives together? Most people that get married are already in a relationship, so it’s not your last night of being single- That ship has sailed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 12:34 AM |
| 61 | All the red flags rolled into 1 little red pill incel ('I'm dominant, blow your back out, women cheat on nice guys') the women in the comments having a field day bc he's using a shower curtain as a bedroom curtain + no curtain rod. All jokes aside the fact that this has 50k+ likes is frightening....Oh my god, who would be in a relationship with this guy. I feel awful for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 01:30 PM |
| 36 | Sometimes I feel a little bad being single and then I read something like this and know I’m better off😂Jesus. What disgusting excuse for a human being WANTS their spouse to clean their shit? Unfortunately this is pretty common, at least in my experience. I threw a birthday party for my ex and he threw up on my bathroom floor from a single shot of vodka. Thinking he was actually sick, I came in and offered to clean it up so he could go lie down. While I was cleaning his infinite sea of puke, I could hear him laughing and partying in the living room. I should’ve dumped him right then. It would’ve s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 04:40 PM |
| 3 | Single fathers will date women for free child care. Don’t let a man dictate which car you buy because they don’t want their child in it. This woman needs to 🏃♀️But when he makes a decision that directly impacts her I can guarantee he won’t consider asking her first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:29 PM |
| 23 | “Girl, you got a good one! Hang onto him!”That seems so catty to me. My friends would say “he better treat you right.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 09:20 PM |
| 5 | I'm REALLY struggling to escalate all the way to sex with a girl.I’m a woman. Relax, he’s only met her twice. Sure if things went on for months with no progress then maybe, but I think MOST women don’t actually want to have sex that fast, and we are much more likely to walk away if things are escalating too fast for us. For the women that like one night stands, many have no problem being assertive themselves. Edit: Also I want to add that taking her lead for a little while will likely come across as you waiting for her consent. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 01:34 AM |
| 1 | I'm REALLY struggling to escalate all the way to sex with a girl.I feel like you’re rushing it and putting too much pressure on the situation. No girl in the history of time was like “I don’t want this guy anymore because he’s taking it too slow.” If you dont rush it and keep doing what you’re doing, it’ll come naturally. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 12:34 AM |
| 13 | POV - you’re talking to your ex-boyfriend - steezygarlicbread on TikTokIt’s like she was reading an actual conversation between my ex and I. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:34 PM |
| 7 | Being in a good relationship has made me realize how women are being gaslit on a mass scale to ask for lessYup. It honestly took me dating a woman to realize how mistreated I was by ALL of the men I’ve dated. I realize most of the women on this sub don’t have the luxury of bisexuality. The last guy I was with called me clingy, needy, insecure etc because I asked him NOT TO SLEEP WITH OTHER WOMEN. We were in a closed monogamous relationship that was his idea but somehow I lowered my standards so much that I truly believed I was being uptight and crazy for wanting him not to cheat on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 04:26 PM |
| 5 | Why do men leave yellow stains on the sheets?Yup I can attest to this. My ex would turn our sheets yellow and then insist on lying on the couch without a shirt on. And it’s not just color, it starts to smell after while. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:50 PM |
| 7 | The new "shit test" and Another common Neg Found on OLDHe sounds so awful. Reading this is giving me severe dejavu with my ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:41 PM |
| 5 | I’d like to hear your opinions here.My fiancé goes to college full time AND works a full time job and runs a side business. I own our home by myself but we still split all of the bills. This dude can pay the taxes. You’re a grownup! Figure it out like we’ve all had to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 11:40 AM |
| 0 | Stop Being Ashamed of Your MasculinityAw thank you! That made my day :) | /r/seduction | 21/07/21 08:25 PM |
| 11 | You are allowed to eat.YESS this. Negging is a very common tactic that men use in dating - even the ones that seem nice. They know they need to make it subtle enough for you to be able to overlook it, and if given the chance they WILL keep very slowly increasing it until they’ve eroded your sense of self. It goes something like this: kind gesture, compliment, romantic gesture, alluding to future together, appeal to your sense of empathy, kind gesture, BOOM- neg about something intended to deeply hurt you but can also … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 04:01 PM |
| 10 | Stop Being Ashamed of Your MasculinityI feel like some people on this post have a misunderstanding of toxic masculinity. No one is saying that having a sex drive or sleeping with women is “toxic masculinity”. I have literally never heard that anywhere else. Toxic masculinity are traits that harm society, including men- violent things like homophobia and misogyny. Our society promotes certain things in men like suppressing emotion, physical confrontation, and aggression/domination, that are toxic. There are plenty of masculine traits… | /r/seduction | 21/07/21 03:28 PM |
| 24 | When he says "You're so insecure"...I would not be surprised. He was very charming and great at love-bombing, but the older we get, the better women are at seeing through that bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 03:31 PM |
| 70 | When he says "You're so insecure"...Yup. My LVX was constantly hitting on other women, texting women when we were spending time together, and slowly withdrew his affection but if I brought it up he would say “I’m tired of how insecure you are.” If I tried to be vulnerable with him in any way, he would label it as insecurity. I started to believe him- I mean, I was pretty insecure for sticking around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 03:04 PM |
| 227 | This is an actual “settlement” proposed by the pro se defendant in a divorce case. Unbelievable.He doesn’t even understand how cooking works. Almost all fine dining includes salt and pepper in dishes. Clearly he’s never cooked a meal in his life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 01:42 AM |
| 39 | One of the Benefits of Living Together... Splitting the RentMy LVX would leave his dishes in the sink until I cleaned them. He wouldn’t use a normal amount of dishes either- every meal he cooked for himself was a multi-course feast. (You wanna bet how many times he offered me some of what he made?) After years of leaving a clean kitchen and coming home to a full sink of dirty dishes and messy counters, I decided to stop doing that and see how long it would take him to wash them. The answer is never. He would never clean them. They attracted maggots and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:07 PM |
| 15 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting meHow is buying a house, or going to grad school, impulsive? She knows what she wants and is working her ass off for it. It’s only “impulsive” because she didn’t ask permission from her boyfriend of 4 months | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 02:50 PM |
| 27 | Hmmm.. I wonder why this is?This didn’t even occur to me! I was just thinking that men were placing the blame on us by making us feel like we’re the only ones that can’t climax. (Which caused me to feel really insecure about it for years) It seriously makes me so sad to realize women are faking orgasms. Like why even have sex if your pleasure matters so little that you’re going to have to fake it to make him stop? You’re telling him that his ego matters more than your pleasure. Plus you’re setting yourself up to never have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 12:52 PM |
| 209 | Hmmm.. I wonder why this is?Most men when you don’t orgasm: “I’ve seriously never had this problem with a woman before” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 12:35 AM |
| 3 | Huge disparity between men and women when it comes to empathyI feel this so hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:49 AM |
| 5 | Huge disparity between men and women when it comes to empathyYes!! It’s infuriating. He’s “not responsible” for your feelings but he’s also mad that you’re upset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:45 AM |
| 1 | Female Perspective On Online DatingI think it’s ok to play the game to an extent as long as you keep having empathy for women. It’s a game for us too, and we don’t really like that part either. We’re trying to figure out who only wants to use us, who might not be fun to be on a date with, who could be an actual safety threat, etc. I started to get really depressed too about OLD and changed the way I was seeing it. Instead of having an end goal and expectations, I started to intentionally just enjoy the process- meeting new people… | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Female Perspective On Online DatingI see where you’re coming from for sure. Women are typically not as direct as men and that can be frustrating for both. I want to clarify from my post that it was a turnoff for me when men said they wanted sex before they met me (I.e. prior to the first date). If we were on a date and they said they wanted to take me home, I don’t think that would be a dealbreaker. If I liked them and the vibes were there, it would definitely be a good thing. I might not actually go home with them that night bec… | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Female Perspective On Online DatingFirst of all, I didn’t say Tinder. I used Hinge for about a year for everything from hookups until I met my SO. Second of all, why are you so opposed to getting dating advice from women? If you’re successful at getting women by just asking for what you want, why use a dating app at all, why not just cat call on the street? This is a dating strategy sub, and it’s really not a good strategy to show your hand. We already know you want sex. And since you haven’t been on the first date yet in this sc… | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Female Perspective On Online DatingI’m sorry that happened to you. I mean everyone is different. But I think women often are already coming from a place of emotional exhaustion because the men they’ve known use them as a therapist. Of course we should be able to confide in a friend when we’ve had a bad day, but it can for sure be a red flag if it’s too much too soon. | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Female Perspective On Online DatingI would say the main things men were doing wrong with me specifically (I was 29F) when I was doing OLD were: Implying they wanted to hook up before we met up (even if I want sex, that takes all the romance out of it and feels gross) Asking to meet somewhere I didn’t feel was safe, or not considering convenience for me- like asking me to meet at the bar next to their house halfway across town Straight up telling me before the date we had to split the bill (at the time I didn’t mind paying but say… | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 03:26 PM |
| 21 | (Not my post) but my own dad told me to use this strategy to weed out the losers, and here it is working!He thinks he’s somehow entitled to hook up on the first date, after meeting at the coffee shop of his choice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 06:37 PM |
| 6 | How is this even a question??!!Exactly. Someone needs to tell her about FDS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 06:35 PM |
| 12 | How is this even a question??!!This is what I don’t understand about men- particularly men on OLD and dating threads in Reddit. Most women have choices when it comes to OLD. They have men saying “I want to take you to this great restaurant”. They only have time to say yes to maybe few a week at the most, probably fewer. So why would they say yes to someone texting them saying “you plan the date, but we have to split the bill”? Men on Reddit get so salty when you explain why they should foot the bill. But then they don’t under… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 04:41 PM |
| 5 | How is this even a question??!!Does he even have a job?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 04:32 PM |
| 2 | I’m 35, I love being single, and I honestly can’t see myself being in a relationship with a man ever again. For me, it’s not worth the troubleI feel lucky that I’m pansexual. I was in long relationships with men most of my adult life and a few years ago met woman that is now my partner, and experiencing the difference is a big reason I turned to this sub. I’m physically attracted to men, but the entitlement and emotional immaturity are an enormous burden. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 09:37 PM |
| 2 | Men can’t handle life changing eventsOur society doesn’t promote healthy expression of emotion in men so they do things that are counter productive like shut down, avoid the situation, and drink. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Dating Subs on Reddit are Social Engineering Hubs to Normalize Sexual Violence and Disrespectful Behavior toward WomenWhy is Reddit so full of loud men? What you said is true- men run those subs. I have several people on one of them currently trying to tell me I’m sexist (against men) because I wrote a response about everything women go through while dating including risk of sexual assault, to a post about all of the terrible burdens men face while dating... like being expected to plan a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 09:45 PM |
| 11 | Hypocrisy of men: Women are not allowed to kink-shame, but they are allowed to boundary shame women?!I really think kinkshame can and should never be a word that is used against the sexual partner of the person that has the kink. Here’s why: you’re the one that is (usually) the object of the kink. You have the obvious right to non-consent. If you don’t like it or don’t want to do it, that’s not kink shaming. Even if you then go to your female friends and go “omg my husband wants to do x” that’s still not kink shaming because you deserve support and sometimes need a friend’s advice. If the perso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 02:26 AM |
| 16 | Update: I dumped him!I feel like the fart fetish is a turnoff for you not because you’re uncomfortable with a kink but because he’s literally turned on by women being humiliated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 09:26 PM |
| 124 | "empowerment" is such an empty wordExactly, for someone that’s oppressed to be empowered it actually requires the oppressors to willingly give up their power. And usually when people willingly give up power, it means that they also have the power to take it back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 03:03 AM |
| 42 | Guys on OLD who write “Message me first” 🤡My girl friend and I used to play the “tinder drinking game” where you make a list of all the dumb things you see on guys profiles and then swipe through and drink when you land on something on the list. List would include things like cliche quotes, fish pics, not being able to tell who the guy is in group pictures, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 07:27 PM |
| 87 | From HV to NV, a short story.This was very similar to my experience dating a narcissist long before I discovered FDS. He was amazing and love-bombed me for the first year or so- just long enough for me to let my guard down and start really believing it. But no one can keep up a front forever. Then I got sick with a very severe UTI when I was visiting him (it was a LDR). Mind you the UTI was from having sex with him! He wanted to go to another city to party with friends but I was in a lot of pain and didn’t want to be far fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 02:28 PM |
| 34 | TradWife Twitter is Like Watching A Slow Moving TrainwreckAlso does your husband have an HR department? Is he paying into your retirement? Are there laws monitoring how many hours you work and whether he’s giving you enough time off? And is there a backup earner in the event that your husband loses his job? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 03:19 AM |
| 27 | Seriously?And yet, most men think them being in a relationship with you is all they should have to do to keep you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Show a woman the best time when you are with her and keep it short in betweenThat doesn’t sound like a bad life to me! But just wondering, how is it harassment to text someone one time that gave you her number? Seems like she may have been having some personal issues or maybe projecting another experience she had and I hope you don’t let that one instance stop you from finding someone if you want to. Nothing wrong with being alone either but also we’ve all had bad experiences with dating and I definitely think you should shrug it off as a learning experience at most. | /r/seduction | 18/12/20 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Show a woman the best time when you are with her and keep it short in betweenLol that’s a little extra but ok. To each his own. But if you’re trying to get dates you probably are going to have to give women attention at some point. | /r/seduction | 18/12/20 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Show a woman the best time when you are with her and keep it short in betweenI mean to me, it feels like, why should I put in the effort to get pretty and meet up with someone that can’t put 30 seconds into a good morning text? But what you’re saying makes sense- we probably wouldn’t be compatible but that doesn’t mean all women want the same. | /r/seduction | 16/12/20 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Show a woman the best time when you are with her and keep it short in betweenI get that and I think it’s good advice! I just wanted to make it clear that IMHO most women want affection- not necessarily the guy that plays it cool. It’s definitely a fine line to walk because you don’t want to come off as needy. But I did want to make the point that women are reminded over and over again that “if you’re wondering if he’s interested that means he isn’t” and that “men will make it clear when they like you”. | /r/seduction | 15/12/20 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Show a woman the best time when you are with her and keep it short in betweenI did! He said he really liked me and he would try harder. Took me on a nice date. On that date he said he would like to cook dinner for me and scheduled something for the following weekend. Then I didn’t hear from him all week so I broke it off and I’m still glad I did. Maybe younger girls respond to game playing or like men that give them mixed signals, but I was 29 at the time. I knew what I wanted and I like when people make it clear that they’re into me and let me know they’re thinking of m… | /r/seduction | 15/12/20 02:09 PM |
| 13 | Show a woman the best time when you are with her and keep it short in betweenAnnnnd that’s probably why you’re not having “luck” with women | /r/seduction | 15/12/20 02:25 AM |
| 6 | Show a woman the best time when you are with her and keep it short in betweenWell yeah definitely. If there is someone being aggressive or getting snarky because I’m not responding fast enough, I would totally be repelled. Just texting me often isn’t necessarily a turn off, it lets me know they’re interested. What can I say, I like attention haha. I just have found that guys often jump to conclusions about what women want. Just trying to bridge the gap a little bit. | /r/seduction | 15/12/20 02:15 AM |
| 10 | Show a woman the best time when you are with her and keep it short in betweenActually I’ve been with the person that texts me every day for almost 2 years now. Best decision I’ve ever made. | /r/seduction | 15/12/20 02:09 AM |
| 26 | Show a woman the best time when you are with her and keep it short in betweenAm I allowed to chime in as a woman? When I was dating I was seeing a guy that I really liked. He was sexy and confident and planned really sweet dates. He seemed so into me on our dates, but he barely gave me any attention in between. No good morning texts, no “I was thinking about this thing you said”, barely anything. Reading this, I wonder if someone gave him bad advice but at the time I figured he wasn’t that into me if I was getting mixed signals. I broke it off with him because of that. H… | /r/seduction | 15/12/20 01:43 AM |
| 11 | Study finds marriage is in decline mainly due to a lack of "economically attractive" menWait wait wait wait. If that’s true, how are there lesbians? And you’re saying women would rather be alone than date someone equal? I call BS on that. I can’t speak for all women but I think mainly they just don’t want someone to leech off of them financially (or otherwise). I have never dated a man that makes more money than me. But I have dated men that made close to what I make and also were against doing any type of house work or cleaning up after themselves, didn’t plan dates, didn’t really… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/20 08:56 PM |
| 32 | Why buy the cow...So not only am I a cow but you’re also only going to marry me for sex? I never understood this saying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 11:27 PM |
| 37 | Don’t let yourself get scammedJesus what is wrong with these men? After saying “I love you” for a year to each other, after listening to a Drake song, my ex decided he couldn’t say it to me anymore, because he “really only loves his bed and his momma”. Mind you, his bed is a very lumpy pullout couch in his mom’s living room that he actually did not love at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 10:06 PM |
| 4 | This is why EVERY woman needs FDSWe were on a weekend trip in a hotel room that I paid for because he was having financial trouble at the time, when his phone started buzzing at midnight and I found out he’d been cheating on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 12:30 AM |
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