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| 3 | Use 'Call to Action' to Filter Women/Build Interest on Dating AppsSightly related, but how to handle women that do this? E.g. when they have stuff like "say something funny" or "don't be boring" in their bios. Or "tell me why you're different from all other men". I've seen shit like this a lot on Tinder | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/18 05:24 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesCan't do much about that, can I? | /r/TheRedPill | 14/10/18 07:13 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesI do, I look fit but not huge. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/10/18 07:13 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesYes, lost it at 21. 50% of my friends lost it around 18, other 50% are still virgins or lost it after me. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/10/18 07:13 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesI know. Will avoid being this pushy in the future. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/10/18 07:12 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesI know. Doesn't change the fact that if were more attractive I would've had more leverage. Do you think that the guys she had a threesome with took it slow and easy? She was probably hornier and they were probably more attractive. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/10/18 07:11 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesSure, there's always a thing as "too pushy". My point is that the threshold for "too pushy" depends on how hot you find the guy. If an ugly guy approaches you and asks for your number you might feel offended and call him a creep. If an attractive guy does exactly the same you will perceive the interaction differently. Don't believe that people who read TRP are retarded incels. All the information here is pretty logical and based on biology. Obviously everyone is different and reacts differently … | /r/TheRedPill | 02/10/18 05:47 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesThey're all from Tinder. Have never cold-approached a girl yet. Got a few numbers from parties/transportation but I always got ghosted | /r/TheRedPill | 02/10/18 08:11 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesIf I were on a date with a guy and he acted like this I would be repulsed Only if you didn't find him hot enough. Biology is biology. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/10/18 11:32 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesTo be fair, I am not looking for just a hookup. FWB (and possibly LTR, after vetting period) would be the best thing for me. I'm just irrationally afraid of being led on and being seen as beta. She tells me about the threesome yet she rejects my kiss - my first thought was: "she sees me as a beta, I don't turn her on". My current FWB (fucking regularly 6+ months) was a Tinder date - she rejected my first kiss saying "not here", but when we went to a more secluded spot we made out. I brought her … | /r/TheRedPill | 01/10/18 06:03 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesI'll send my next match a dick pic, thanks for the feedback | /r/TheRedPill | 01/10/18 05:57 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesNever said that. I would do the same if I were 20mins late. It's about respect, not making her wet. Coincidentally women are more attracted to men that demand respect. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/10/18 02:29 PM |
| 9 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesThanks for your feedback. This is really valuable to me. I already have a steady fuck buddy anyway, and it's easy to get dates, so I honestly don't care if a particular date goes anywhere. If you're not getting laid regularly this will all be a lot harder. This hits home. I have a FWB but we only see each other once every 1-2 weeks. I get 2-3 dates per month, and only rarely I'm very attracted to the girl (like in this case). I fuck it up because I get too pushy as I think I "finally have a chan… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/09/18 04:32 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesHow many people were around when you tried to kiss her on the walk? [...] When she gave me a peck there were probably 5-10 people around. It was a "romantic" place with a nice view. I then moved to a park nearby where there were just a few people but we were quite isolated in a dark spot. That's when she told me about the threesome and when I tried escalating again. Regardless, I think that the right move would have been to try to bring her to my place with a plausible excuse and then end the da… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/09/18 01:00 PM |
| 17 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesSometimes you just gotta be patient. Besides, if she is good company, enjoy yourself. When I am enjoying the company of a girl I'm sexually attracted to, I have an unsatiable urge to escalate. The reason is that I'm terrified of getting rejected/LBJF later on in the process. I'm scared that she just enjoys the validation or me chasing her, without genuinely feeling attracted to me. I think this comes from my low self-esteem, but also from having internalized TRP concepts such as "always be closi… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/09/18 12:54 PM |
| 9 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesShe probably thinks that there was no real connection between you - that she was just being played. Sounds silly, but I thought the same thing on my side. I thought she just wanted me to chase her or just enjoyed the validation but rejected my escalation because she wasn't into me. I want requited physical escalation as it is proof that the other person is sexually attracted to me. If that doesn't happen I'm terrified of LJBF or - even worse - getting led on just because she enjoys the validatio… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/09/18 12:44 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesbringing her back would have been a good call Agreed, there's a chance she was just not comfortable in public. I just wanted at least a proper kiss before telling her to come to my place, but maybe that was my mistake. Asking her if shes not gonna say bye when your the one walking away is butthurt though I was honestly just weirded out because I was the one who said "let's go home" and she just stared at me silently. TBH I'm not gonna contact this girl again so I don't care if it came across as … | /r/TheRedPill | 28/09/18 10:51 PM |
| 12 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesYeah, I definitely should have tried to take her home instead of pushing more and more. I just was confused because I assume that "no kiss = no sexual interest". In general, how can I differentiate a true rejection from a girl that just doesn't feel comfortable in public? | /r/TheRedPill | 28/09/18 10:48 PM |
| 45 | [FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple timesIt's going to come back to haunt me in 30 years when I try to become SCOTUS | /r/TheRedPill | 28/09/18 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Tinder opener for extremely generic girlFair enough. Was my reply OK, or do you think I came across as a douchebag? An alternative would have been something like: "hey, I put a heart at the end", but I was scared I would be giving into her frame (trying to justify myself) | /r/askTRP | 27/09/18 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Tinder opener for extremely generic girlTried this today, got "Rude" as a reply. I replied "Who ever said I was nice?" and got immediately unmatched afterwards. | /r/askTRP | 27/09/18 07:33 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Tinder HB5 first date closeProbably just a combination of not being turned on enough, she not bring great at sucking, and having masturbated the day before | /r/TheRedPill | 20/09/18 12:59 PM |
| 9 | [FR] Tinder HB5 first date closeI'm 168cm. She was probably around 175-180cm | /r/TheRedPill | 15/09/18 01:46 PM |
| 72 | [FR] Tinder HB5 first date closeNot proud of fucking her, proud of being able of ignoring my stupid insecurities. Feel free to report/delete if you think there's zero value in the FR. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/09/18 09:06 PM |
| 10 | [FR] Tinder HB5 first date closeI've picked up my FWB (HB7, petite, just my type) the same way, first Tinder date close. But it was a one off and I've been craving more since. Failed quite a few dates after that. This is not a close I'm proud of but it's a good reminder of how things are and that confidence/DGAF is key | /r/TheRedPill | 14/09/18 08:30 PM |
| 3 | Tinder opener for extremely generic girlSort of, anything that doesn't require context. I've used "someone has been lazy about her bio" and "I like empty bios like yours - it's more fun to get to know each other over a drink" a few times before. Low success rate though | /r/askTRP | 04/09/18 09:13 PM |
| 122 | LTR refused sexYou can’t force someone to have sex when they don’t want to. She's right. She doesn't find you attractive (or as attractive) anymore. Apply dread and consider nexting - this is all covered in the sidebar. | /r/askTRP | 04/09/18 09:06 PM |
| 13 | Convinced LTR to open relationship, she shows up to random nerds house and fucks him within 20 minutes of meeting himDoes it matter? You would have still felt like shit. I don't understand how people can even think about their SO getting railed by someone else, the thought disgusts me even though I'm not in an LTR. We're biologically programmed to avoid cuckold. What you really wanted was to fuck other girls on the side while having her still be exclusive. There's nothing wrong with that. You should have told her and broke up if she wasn't up for it. Instead you pussied out and went for an "open relationship" … | /r/askTRP | 04/09/18 08:43 PM |
| 38 | A plate I have not spoken to in a week calls and tells me how she tried to give head to some guy?Ignore, keep fucking her with a condom. Never even consider promoting to FWB or LTR. | /r/askTRP | 04/09/18 08:27 PM |
| 40 | Convinced LTR to open relationship, she shows up to random nerds house and fucks him within 20 minutes of meeting himCongratulations, you cucked yourself. | /r/askTRP | 04/09/18 08:20 PM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herI had another date say the same thing once, and I pushed a few more times to no avail. What could have I done to pull her home after she said that without looking needy? | /r/TheRedPill | 23/08/18 11:48 AM |
| 1 | FWB asking about me fucking other girlsI never said that. I'm working on myself and attempting to get more options. In the mean time, I still want sex and companionship. | /r/askTRP | 22/08/18 01:43 PM |
| 2 | FWB asking about me fucking other girlsYou're naive if you think that your plate/FWB will wait for you with her legs closed for weeks in the era of Tinder and going out with the girls. There are no unicorns | /r/askTRP | 21/08/18 11:00 AM |
| 1 | FWB asking about me fucking other girlsThat's every LTR. | /r/askTRP | 21/08/18 10:59 AM |
| 1 | FWB asking about me fucking other girlsI'm not saying I'll jump in an LTR with her, but we're getting closer to each other and maybe she will give me the talk. If things progress the way I want in the following months then I might LTR. I don't care that she fucked someone else as we're nonexclusive now, so there is no breach of trust. How doesn't this make sense to you? | /r/askTRP | 21/08/18 10:58 AM |
| 1 | FWB asking about me fucking other girlsCan't have abundance mentality without abundance, so I'll fake it until I make it. Golden shower sounds fun! | /r/askTRP | 21/08/18 10:57 AM |
| 8 | FWB asking about me fucking other girlsYou think an FWB wasn't being chased by other guys and possibly banging them? I'm 99.9% sure she banged other guys while I was away, but we're not exclusive. Why does it matter? She is not LTR material now or ever. TRP mentions that a plate->FWB->LTR progression is possible, assuming that you do proper vetting. I don't want a wife, but I don't see anything blue with wanting a LTR where I know it's "just my turn"? | /r/askTRP | 20/08/18 10:02 PM |
| 2 | [Dating Apps] Here is how easy it can be...Good examples and advice if you can reliably get matches. OP, could you post a picture of you so that we can get an idea on how much looks impact your success here? | /r/TheRedPill | 18/08/18 07:44 PM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herWhy do you say that? I thought that's one of the worst things you can do on the first date as it shows that you're BB | /r/TheRedPill | 09/08/18 06:41 PM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herThings like pulling away from a make out first. Or after having already kissed her, going in close like your going to kiss her again and then pull away. I literally did both these things on the date. I will search for more... | /r/TheRedPill | 08/08/18 05:40 PM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herI struggle with pushing, I've never had a girl initiate a makeout or sex on a date. They might do light kino on me but anything else requires me to take the lead. Would love to be pointed to material regarding effective push/pull and how to make her the pursuer. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/08/18 02:57 PM |
| 0 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herI honestly just wanted to tease her and was expecting a playful angry response from her. My intention was teasing, not judging. I wasn't angry, I was just operating under the mindset of "tease her to get her pussy wet". | /r/TheRedPill | 08/08/18 11:39 AM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herThanks for your perspective. Doesn't saying "relax, it was just a joke" fall into DEER? | /r/TheRedPill | 08/08/18 11:38 AM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herAny resource/tips on how to beat the kind of ASD I encountered without seeming needy or changing my own plans? Should have I just insisted? | /r/TheRedPill | 08/08/18 11:36 AM |
| 2 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herHappy to chat sometime if you're up for it. Feel free to pm | /r/TheRedPill | 05/08/18 11:51 PM |
| 6 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herit has to come from a natural place born out of confidence Unfortunately that's my biggest problem right now. I have a decent life, a great high-paying job, decent looks (would say slightly above average)... but I've always had trouble with girls and social situations and that makes me very unconfident. Every time I fail with a girl I feel even less confident. Every time I succeed I feel a rush of happiness and well-being. I'm dependent on this shit. However, the number of failures is astronomic… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/18 10:38 PM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herMy intention was teasing her, I expected her to react by jokingly hitting me saying something on the lines of: "how dare you!". I thought my delivery and body language made it obvious that I was not insulting her, but something went wrong in the process. I guess I just didn't read her well enough and that I didn't think about my words too carefully | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/18 10:29 PM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herAlright, that makes sense. I was put off by the "bitch" mistake and by comparing myself to the guy she fucked in the bathroom, thinking I was not good enough for a first date fuck. I also tried being persistent to pull a girl over other times, and it never worked well. I am still not sure what the best thing would have been yesterday - I made it clear that I was going to go home on my own terms and that she was welcome to join me. Therefore staying out for longer just to try and convince her wou… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/18 10:25 PM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herHow can I do that after she says "I am not coming back to your place" with a dead serious tone? Trying to convince her sounds really needy | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/18 07:20 PM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herYou have a point. When she reacted, I immediately thought "I should hold frame here". However, after teasing her on her sensibility, she still looked genuinely sad/offended, as if she was disappointed that I said that especially when everything was going so well. I felt like she really wanted to fuck me but could not bring herself to do it after she felt disrespected, and that she didn't leave immediately because she felt attracted... but she was probably thinking something like "if I fuck this … | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/18 04:06 PM |
| 9 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herNot sure if you're serious. Did this ever backfire? | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/18 04:00 PM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herHer body language and reaction made me believe she was genuinely offended/disappointed, as if she was having a good time and it was ruined by saying something stupid. What would you have done? If it was indeed a shit test, how could have I passed it? | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/18 04:00 PM |
| 6 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herI don't care about this particular girl. I care about avoiding mistakes in the future. DGAF is nice, but you don't really learn anything with that attitude. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/18 10:53 AM |
| 3 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herI did try pulling her to my place, but she said "I am not going to your place" in a serious tone. I assumed that pushing more would have just been needy and ineffective. How should I have escalated further after she said no? | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/18 08:05 AM |
| 1 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herI don't understand how I should have escalated more... She told me "I am not coming to your place" in a serious tone. I thought that pushing for it would have demonstrated neediness and that ignoring it and continuing the date would have shown that I changed my plans because of her reaction. How should I have escalated further in this case? | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/18 08:01 AM |
| -6 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting her"Jokingly" as in doing it while smiling with a sarcastic tone. My body language made it clear I had no intention of offending her, but I cannot control how she reacts and she got offended. Point taken though, will not do this again with someone I barely know. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/08/18 11:56 PM |
| 40 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herYou're right. Even if it worked once it doesn't mean it's a good idea to insult a girl so quickly, even when joking with a visible grin. I will avoid doing this in the future. The main reason I'm this overconfident and "aggressive" is because I have this fear in my mind of "acting too beta" and not being seen in a sexual light. I am scared that if I say something nice I will not be able to turn her on, and that if I don't constantly tease her she won't get wet. This mentality makes me over-do ne… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/08/18 10:51 PM |
| -2 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herI agree with your general advice of "just be yourself", and I also agree with the fact that she does probably sound like an easily offended materialistic bitch... but at the end of the day I just wanted to fuck her, and I went home with my dick in my hand. I would obviously never LTR a girl I need to act like I'm someone else around, but if playing it a little bit safer helps me get some pussy I do not see the issue with that. I think she was totally shit testing your frame with that faux indign… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/08/18 10:45 PM |
| 20 | First date failure, killed the vibe by jokingly insulting herDefinitely fucked up here and learned a lesson. I tend to behave over-confidently and more like a douchebag on dates as I have this constant thought in my head that says "don't be beta don't be beta". I think I need to take it more easy and avoid negging that could be offensive. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/08/18 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Develop a positive mindset and abundance mentality. Why you keep failing in life.This is exactly my problem. I have a great job and financial situation, but I'm very unhappy with my sex/social life and with my looks. I literally spend hours every day thinking that I'm a failure because I cannot bring myself to approach a girl, comparing myself to my hotter/more confident friends, looking at myself in the mirror and wishing I was more muscular and bigger. I even jumped on steroids hoping to get the looks I desire and to have a confidence boost but neither things have happened… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/07/18 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Ghosted after they give me their number. What gives?Any example of what you mean by going nuclear? I feel like there's not much I can do over text | /r/askTRP | 02/06/18 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Reacting negatively to flake without being beta - how did I do?The correct answer is "k" She suggested rescheduling to tomorrow, I want to believe she was genuinely tired this once (she has never flaked before). Next time I'll do that. Did you have no other plates you could call? I only have 3 plates, and they're all a pain to schedule with except this one who flaked. Funnily enough one of them wanted to come over tonight, but I told her I was busy because I had already scheduled with this one. | /r/askTRP | 25/05/18 09:02 PM |
| 0 | Can't give my FWB an orgasm - tried a few things but nothing worked. Ideas?Apologies for not replying back then - I did see your post and found it extremely useful. I think it helped me get through my "performance anxiety". The way I see it now is that making her cum is not a priority anymore for me, but it's something I want. I will also admit that I'm still a little bit scared that her never having an orgasm will drive her away, but I also genuinely like seeing her cum. | /r/askTRP | 20/05/18 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Anal sex testing shit test - how did I do?Nope. Haven't seen her yet | /r/askTRP | 12/05/18 09:02 AM |
| 0 | Anal sex testing shit test - how did I do?Might be. I still need practice and fun while working on my SMV, so why not try? | /r/askTRP | 11/05/18 12:29 AM |
| 0 | Can't make her cum from vaginal sex, breaking my frameAs I said in a reply above, I played the "asshole dominant alpha" part since the first date and I've been paying for it. She doesn't want to submit outside of the bedroom, and constantly shit tests/resists/tries to out-dominate me. We're both very stubborn and we both want to have control so it can get very annoying. I don't think you can teach a person like that to have respect - the only thing I can do is tell her to fuck off... but as I am lacking abundance at the moment I'd rather see how th… | /r/askTRP | 06/05/18 09:42 AM |
| 3 | Can't make her cum from vaginal sex, breaking my frameI kinda brought that upon myself. I played role of the "dominant alpha asshole" since the first date and I've been constantly shit tested and resisted. The dynamic here is that I want her to be submissive, but she constantly resists until I get rough and fuck her. The problem is that not being able to make her cum is making me feel insecure, and she can smell that outside the bedroom as well. But yeah, she's a bitch... As always, the underlying true problem for me is lack of abundance | /r/askTRP | 06/05/18 09:38 AM |
| 4 | How To Get Out Of Intermediate Purgatory (So You Can Start Dating Beautiful Women)How often do I go out to meet woman? Zero. This is my main issue. I feel anxiety just thinking about going out on my own with the purpose of meeting women. I feel like I wouldn't know where to go, I wouldn't enjoy myself, and I would never have success because I would bring a negative vibe. I feel similar when thinking about cold approaches. However, I'm perfectly comfortable in interacting with women and escalating when the intentions are clear or during a social setting. As an example, online … | /r/TheRedPill | 02/05/18 12:04 PM |
| 2 | Blocked and removed from Tinder after scheduling date. WTF?You kidding me dog? Not funny. This is the kind of thing that in my opinion would work well in person with a sarcastic tone and a smirk. I hate texting. Just say yeah, lets go to X destination instead... I wanted to date her on my terms and close to my place to escalate. I also don't want to spend 20+ minutes travelling on a first date without knowing if the girl is going to show up or just be weird... I'd rather walk 5 minutes away from home so that I minimise wasted time. | /r/askTRP | 01/05/18 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Blocked and removed from Tinder after scheduling date. WTF?it almost seemed like you were trying to “thumb in” a date I see. I was trying to follow the advice that I often read here, which is to ask less questions and lead more. Try and find the line between what you did and asking what her availability is like. For the next chick I'll try something along the lines of: "Let's go get that drink - when are you free? Friday is looking good for me" Then confirm a date Next time I will make sure I get a "yes" for her, even if I have to ask "so are we on for … | /r/askTRP | 01/05/18 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Blocked and removed from Tinder after scheduling date. WTF?She is fat and/or ugly. She had full-body pictures and face pictures on Tinder and she looked cute. 7/10 probably. Move on. Absolutely. I'm just trying to understand if I fucked up with my texts and learn from it. | /r/askTRP | 01/05/18 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Why do Tinder girls like leading on and then doing a 180 turn?I'm 24. Got around 350 matches in 5 months, less than 20 dates, fucked 4 girls, only still fucking 2 of them. Not that great TBH, but time investment isn't that much (autoswipe + some time to open convos). What are your stats and what do you look like? (Feel free to PM) Would be interesting to compare SMV/success | /r/askTRP | 17/04/18 09:03 PM |
| 3 | Why do Tinder girls like leading on and then doing a 180 turn?Elaborate | /r/askTRP | 17/04/18 08:04 PM |
| -1 | Why do Tinder girls like leading on and then doing a 180 turn?I've only had negative responses when being direct about an hookup. I've had a "let's get a drink" date with the few girls I managed to fuck thanks to Tinder. | /r/askTRP | 17/04/18 07:56 PM |
| 2 | My LTR chose to look to Reddit before talking to meI read her post. If her words are accurate, she is rightly frustrated and you need to be aware of what you do in the bedroom. Read Sex God Method. Anyway, regardless of whether or not her post was accurate, she's lost all respect for you. I don't think this is salvageable - next her, improve yourself, fuck other women well. Motivate yourself to prove her wrong by making other girls worship your cock. | /r/askTRP | 16/04/18 10:22 PM |
| 1 | LMR when trying to escalate on first date - should I stop trying to F-close?I like to get physical and if you don’t want to you can leave is some serious butt hurt bro. Fair. But the alternative is that I waste my time doing something I do not want to. I enjoyed getting to know and gaming the girl during the date, and took her home to fuck. I don't want her lying on my bed looking at her phone or just talking to me about random stuff. If I'm not getting what I want, she's not getting my attention. I honestly wasn't butt hurt, I just felt like I was wasting my time and t… | /r/askTRP | 08/04/18 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Should I flake on someone to see a plate on her terms?You're right. I replied "I'm busy tomorrow night" and I'll go on the date. I'm being needy because I do not have true abundance, but I'll never achieve it if I keep being needy. I'm trading guaranteed sex to fight my neediness - hopefully it'll be worth it. | /r/askTRP | 06/04/18 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Should I flake on someone to see a plate on her terms?I want to see the plate. However, I think I would be entering her frame if I agree to unconditionally reschedule. I've already done this once (cancel some other plans to see her), and we had good sex - but I don't want to always do things on her terms. She didn't come over last week because she said she "was busy". She takes ages to confirm/reject a plan when I make it. I feel like she's gaming me and that I need to give up sex in order to re-gain my frame... OTOH maybe I'm just being autistic a… | /r/askTRP | 06/04/18 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Should I flake on someone to see a plate on her terms?I would completely agree with you if I were in a position of true abundance, but I do not have many other plates on rotation (and the ones I have are not available this week). I still want to fuck while I try to build up my selection of plates. Would telling the plate: "I'm busy tomorrow evening, come early during the day" be entering her frame? | /r/askTRP | 06/04/18 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Screwed up with this traditional Chinese girl by over escalating, what now?Can't tell if serious or April's fools. If serious: hard next her. You did well by escalating, she simply didn't find you attractive enough. She would have fucked on the first date if she found you attractive enough. Raise SMV and game other girls. This one is gone. Also, the correct reply after her telling you that you were too aggressive should've been "K" and radio silence. Don't fucking waste your time | /r/askTRP | 01/04/18 04:29 PM |
| 0 | Re-initiating contact with potential plate/FWB after 10 days of radio silencewho cares.. you are doing the same thing, right? I'm trying (have some dates set up), but this is the only girl I'm fucking at the moment. As I said above I don't care much if she fucks other people, but I'd simply prefer her to worship my cock. ya I will. Thanks | /r/askTRP | 18/03/18 10:54 PM |
| 0 | Re-initiating contact with potential plate/FWB after 10 days of radio silenceWhy'd you tell her you don't like sharing for? Because I don't like it. She told you she would see someone else to see what you would do. And you stepped right on in and played the right card for her, But not for you. Can you elaborate on this? Neither of us is pushing for commitment. I am OK with her fucking other people, but I would prefer her to only fuck me. I simply told her that I don't like sharing... because I don't. I didn't tell her to not do it. | /r/askTRP | 18/03/18 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Re-initiating contact with potential plate/FWB after 10 days of radio silenceI will. It's not about "making a contest", I'm just actively trying to avoid to display neediness, which has been one of my biggest weaknesses in the past. | /r/askTRP | 18/03/18 10:49 PM |
| 1 | FR/analysis request - two dates with girl I met on TinderYou're not being a dick. The point of the post is just analyzing my behaviour and hers, in order to learn from it. Nothing more. | /r/askTRP | 04/03/18 11:57 PM |
| 2 | FR/analysis request - two dates with girl I met on TinderNo. I had fun and like her, but nothing more. The point of my post is both sharing a FR experience and trying to learn from it. I would like to see this girl again, but it doesn't matter if that doesn't happen. | /r/askTRP | 04/03/18 11:56 PM |
| 1 | FR/analysis request - two dates with girl I met on TinderAll the thinking was done way after she left, I'm just analyzing the way I acted and trying to learn from it. I was "in the moment" at the time, despite consciously thinking in a RP way. I don't think I acted in an autistic way, but I'll try to avoid overthinking during the date in the future. I like analysis afterwards, though | /r/askTRP | 04/03/18 11:54 PM |
| 2 | Textbook RedPill stuffSave this post. Whenever you start getting oneitis, consider getting in an LTR, or god knows why consider marriage... give it a read. Not to completely discourage you from doing what you want, but just to remember that shit like this happens and it's in the biological nature of women. AWALT. Know what you're getting yourself into. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/02/18 07:28 PM |
| 1 | First date: when to kiss/pull? Conflicting advicebut scheduling the second date felt so painful (one-sided effort), so she'll probably flake And she just flaked, saying that she's sick. I replied "alright", she said "sorry" and made no rescheduling effort. Honestly feels like shit... hard to have any sort of abundance mentality when nothing works out. | /r/askTRP | 24/02/18 12:47 PM |
| 1 | First date: when to kiss/pull? Conflicting adviceIf yall meet on tinder and go back to your place, they want to smash. Then I am obviously doing something wrong. Girl 1: making out on my bed, dry humping. After some resistance I manage to get her shirt off, start fingering her. She immediately gets insane LMR and starts saying that "she needs to go" and "doesn't do this on the first date". I attempt to play it cool and pull back but she dresses and leaves. Girl 2: making out on the sofa, she lets me touch her boobs under the shirt and I start … | /r/askTRP | 23/02/18 06:09 PM |
| 1 | First date: when to kiss/pull? Conflicting adviceThey were all Tinder dates except one OKCupid one (UK based, maybe expectations are different compared to US?). I am totally fine with not having sex on the first date... but does that mean that I shouldn't try? Should I avoid escalating that far even if the girl seems to be into me? | /r/askTRP | 22/02/18 10:02 PM |
| 28 | Videogames are ruining our boys and future men,we must help the youthThis is just a personal anecdote, but video games had some benefits for me: I learned English through online gaming Made a group of friends thanks to online gaming and gaming events Gaming got me into programming (I wanted to make my own games), which is now my job and my main source of income Online gaming helps me stay in touch with friends in my hometown I owe a lot to video games. As with everything: do it in moderation. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/02/18 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Any chance left to save this LTR?Extremely similar to my old situation: https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/7a3dt2/_/ I loved her, wanted to save the LTR... but I knew it was already over, and you do too. The only action to take is to break up with her - you are her bitch and depend on her validation. You don't deserve this shit, find someone who desires you. Your turn with her is over. Read the comments on my thread for more wisdom, then suck it up and break up with her. Zero contact afterwards. Take your life and self-re… | /r/askTRP | 03/02/18 05:53 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Tinder date, several makeouts but failed to F-close. Analysis of possible mistakes + questions.The first thing that made me stop was her paying for drinks. She offered, saying something like "I'll get the first round, it's the 21th century". Why the hell would I take the check? That's not being dominant, it's being an ATM. I paid for the second round. Or was it some intense making out which resulted with you grabbing a hold of the bitch? Could have been more aggressive/intense, but it certainly wasn't a delicate touch. I grabbed her and pulled her closer to me while making out. She never … | /r/TheRedPill | 31/01/18 08:14 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Tinder date, several makeouts but failed to F-close. Analysis of possible mistakes + questions.This is good advice, thanks. Then suggest to go listen to music and drink wine on my balcony. What if she is resistant to this? Should I try to convince her a few times? Or should I just end the date there? (In a normal, non-butthurt way) | /r/TheRedPill | 31/01/18 06:29 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Tinder date, several makeouts but failed to F-close. Analysis of possible mistakes + questions.Regardless of making out, you were talking about her with other guys. That action builds orbiter trust, not alpha respect. This makes sense, and I will avoid doing so in the future. I was also talking to her about other girls though, including some success stories. I thought this was showing value/abundance, but I guess that it doesn't work that way - words don't get women wet, actions do. Give them a confident pass next time. They will swing back around to confidence in time. I think it still m… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/01/18 06:25 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Tinder date, several makeouts but failed to F-close. Analysis of possible mistakes + questions.Give her a text or call if it suits you. Yeah, I want to do this. My only problem is deciding what to propose for a date. What do you think the best option is between: Ask her out to do something fun/active (e.g. rock climbing/ice skating) without mentioning my place, then trying to transition there with an excuse? Ask her out to do something fun/active and mention that we'll cook dinner at my place afterwards? - This seems like it would give me a good reason to go there without pulling it out o… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/01/18 06:22 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Tinder date, several makeouts but failed to F-close. Analysis of possible mistakes + questions.Give her a text or call if it suits you. Yeah, I want to do this. My only problem is deciding what to propose for a date. What do you think the best option is between: Ask her out to do something fun/active (e.g. rock climbing/ice skating) without mentioning my place, then trying to transition there with an excuse? Ask her out to do something fun/active and mention that we'll cook dinner at my place afterwards? - This seems like it would give me a good reason to go there without pulling it out o… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/01/18 06:22 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Tinder date, several makeouts but failed to F-close. Analysis of possible mistakes + questions.How long did you make out for? A while might be too long. Need to push and pull. Every session was around 15-30s. I forgot to mention that after the first two sessions she said "You're a good kisser", and I did attempt to tease her a little bit (being the first to pull away, touching lips without kissing, playfully biting her lip at the end of a kiss), but could have done better. The fuck? Explain this. After kissing and maintaining eye contact, I put my arm around her back (at tummy level) and … | /r/TheRedPill | 31/01/18 06:20 PM |
| 6 | [FR] Tinder date, several makeouts but failed to F-close. Analysis of possible mistakes + questions.Thank you for the analysis. You make a really good point about physical push/pull - I have been the one initiating all the time and could have teased her more. Some of the other comments gave good advice regarding the "let's go home now" as well - it does make sense to have it as a natural part of the date instead of just saying it at the end. Anyway, do you think I should tell her to come over in the weekend, or be less direct and go do something outside? I'm afraid I'll either go too fast and … | /r/TheRedPill | 30/01/18 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Another weird Tinder date - K-close - should I next or try to schedule another date? What to take away from the experience?I wait 4-7 days and send out a simple text I'll do that - not sure whether to be direct (e.g. come to my place) or have an active date as /u/master_beta89 suggested. I'll probably just ask her to come over for a swim | /r/askTRP | 28/01/18 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Another weird Tinder date - K-close - should I next or try to schedule another date? What to take away from the experience?Make the second date a fun event / activity that is inexpensive. See how that goes. Any idea for something that's both inexpensive but also good for kino? I was thinking about rock climbing, but it quite expensive where I live. I also have a pool at my place, so I might just invite her over for a swim, but I have a feeling she would be resistant to the idea. | /r/askTRP | 28/01/18 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Another weird Tinder date - K-close - should I next or try to schedule another date? What to take away from the experience?why would she make out with you and let you grab her ass if she wasn't into you? This is a good point, but maybe out be she just wasn't that into me and wanted a make out before leaving? That confused me as well. Keep in mind that the date lasted about 2hrs and she never was very comfortable/open. That's the only thing I can say because this same scenario has happened to me plenty of last few online dates. How did you continue? Simply send her a text a few days later? I was thinking of simply sa… | /r/askTRP | 27/01/18 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Another weird Tinder date - K-close - should I next or try to schedule another date? What to take away from the experience?You should have called it quits after the first drink. Based on what? On the fact that she didn't want to sit next to me? Seems premature to quit without having a chance to escalate... Go ahead and try to set another date if you want Not sure I want, unless she comes to my place to fuck. I might send her a text to come over to cook dinner, the worst that can happen is that she says no. | /r/askTRP | 27/01/18 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Rejection/break-up after great date - where did I fuck up?You are correct. She gave me sex/validation and I became extremely needy because I wanted more and was afraid to lose that. I can't help but feel this way with every girl that shows interest in me. I can hide the neediness for a while, but it always comes to surface. What steps can I take to solve this issue? Saying "game more girls" and "abundance mentality" won't work, as I feel like this is an issue I have deep within myself, which will keep happening... | /r/askTRP | 21/01/18 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Rejection/break-up after great date - where did I fuck up?Thanks for providing constructive feedback - I think you hit the nail on the head. I behaved in a very needy way, because I'm honestly craving validation after coming out of an LTR. This girl gave me the validation I wanted and I scared her away with my neediness. In any case, I don't feel bad for asking her to stay over or asking her when she was available - my mistake was being insistent on the matter instead of shrugging it off. I was scared that she was going to flake or never become comfort… | /r/askTRP | 21/01/18 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Rejection/break-up after great date - where did I fuck up?Fine, I have oneitis. I agree with everything you said. This is a next and I will game other girls. But I feel like I will keep making the same mistakes. I feel like I will always somehow fuck up and never learn from it. I want to be able to understand what I am doing wrong, and how to fix it - this is the reason I posted bible 2.0. What's the point of gaming other girls if I am gonna come back here every time, confusedly asking what happened and why the girl lost attraction? | /r/askTRP | 21/01/18 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Rejection/break-up after great date - where did I fuck up?No, I'm pursuing other girls and even though this rejection felt bad... it's OK. I just want to understand what I screwed up in order to do better in the future. | /r/askTRP | 21/01/18 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Weirdly rejected kiss on first date but coming over in 1h - what the hell?See update in OP, played out well! | /r/askTRP | 07/01/18 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Weirdly rejected kiss on first date but coming over in 1h - what the hell?Reported, see update in OP. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/18 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Weirdly rejected kiss on first date but coming over in 1h - what the hell?Nope, see update in OP. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/18 09:24 PM |
| 2 | Weirdly rejected kiss on first date but coming over in 1h - what the hell?Nope, see update in OP. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/18 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Weirdly rejected kiss on first date but coming over in 1h - what the hell?See update in OP. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/18 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Weirdly rejected kiss on first date but coming over in 1h - what the hell?Nope, you were completely wrong. She confessed she was a virgin and never tongue-kissed anyone. I escalated + push&pull for like 3-4 hours and F-closed. Was weird, but fun. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/18 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with feelings of inadequateness, oneitis, and regretI do all of those. Only logical explanation is that I do not eat enough - I will try to force myself to eat more. | /r/askTRP | 27/12/17 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with feelings of inadequateness, oneitis, and regretI've been lifting for 5+ years. I started at a bodyweight of around 90lbs (I was severely underweight). I am 23 years old. I've been around 138lbs for a year now - I'm having trouble gaining weight, mostly due to my lack of appetite. I aim for 2700 calories per day currently but it's hard for me to reach that number (I start feeling full very quickly) and I don't think it's high enough. My numbers roughly are: Deadlift: 135kg/297lbs (1 rep max) Squat: 110kg/242lbs (1 rep max) Bench: 72kg/158lbs … | /r/askTRP | 27/12/17 04:55 PM |
| 5 | LTR falling apart - she "feels trapped". Sent me email describing her feelingsWhile you're dying I am not dying. I feel like dying because I broke up with the person I love. can we talk of why you were so against an open relationship The idea feels disgusting to me. I'm not attractive enough for her, and she wants to have sex with other people while still having a relationship with me. You might not feel the same way, but thinking about her enjoying intercourse with someone else while she's still in a relationship with me feels really horrible. I don't care if it involves… | /r/askTRP | 01/11/17 08:52 PM |
| 8 | LTR falling apart - she "feels trapped". Sent me email describing her feelingsYou are right. I updated the OP. I kicked her out minutes ago. I feel like dying. | /r/askTRP | 01/11/17 06:41 PM |
| 2 | LTR falling apart - she "feels trapped". Sent me email describing her feelingsKeep us updated She's packing right now. I feel miserable and devastated, but I know that this is the right thing to do. | /r/askTRP | 01/11/17 06:26 PM |
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