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DISCUSSIONworldlysentiments/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 06:48 PM
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DISCUSSIONworldlysentiments/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 01:36 AM
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Idk where you live but the target sets in the intimate section are soft silky short and collared night shirt sets. They have solids usually and cute patterns.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/25 02:51 AM
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We’re these people like volunteers or workers that stand on the corner getting people to sign petitions etc- if so, then it’s not uncommon but you can just tell them you’re not interested … if this is some random people you just ran into, unusual for them to do lol.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 05:04 AM
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It was around that age that I stopped being okay with empty words. It’s one thing to say to you that he sucks at planning, gift giving etc.. and another to promise these things, say he will do them because he knows you like it… then not do it. He could easily have said.. “babe I’m really bad at gift giving or planning things because I’m just not sure what exactly to plan, why don’t we make those popsicle stick date night ideas and you can pick one every other week for us to do?” (Link for refere…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 02:42 AM
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These are some things I could see becoming an issue later if not addressed earlier: -Similarity of morals/beliefs -Do you guys have a compatibility when it comes to alone time/ time together ratio -Desire for future things (children, etc) -Financial spending patterns (are one of you really loose with spending vs the other being frugal) -Family involvement (are you both okay with the amount of time and involvement you want with your family or theirs.) -Compatibility of decision making skills (if …
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 08:53 PM
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Since we don’t know his temperament, do you think bringing up wanting him to participate more would cause an actual argument? Or is that just a fear? You know him best. Could you guys make a calendar for the month that goes on the fridge so he can fill in when he wants to golf and you can fill in times you want to go to gym etc meet a friend blah blah. You shouldn’t have to ask, if you just put it on the calendar you’re both monitoring then he should be able to pick up what to do from there. Tra…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 08:30 PM
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Yea but honestly I might enjoy that by 50 or so lol
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/25 06:22 PM
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Yeah, you guys gotta figure out who’s doing what and who’s what part in this. These poor kids probably don’t even know who they’re supposed to report to. It’s hard with blended family systems, but doable! Maybe just being around them is enough for now. Take them out for ice cream alone, or to a movie. Building some rapport before you do anything life changing (not sure how much you do alone with them now at this point)… but just being a confidant for them could help kind of open the door to figu…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/24 05:38 PM
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Just a clarifier question, Is there something keeping you from having a more traditional role with the kids as your own? It sounds like the kids would really benefit from you both modeling good behavior and life skills… esp as the daughter comes of age. I was just curious if you don’t have interest in helping raise them since he has full custody. (I come from a household where my mom remarried after my father was absent and the man adopted us legally… so I have a diff perspective). Tbf 14 is rou…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/24 04:54 PM
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If he isn’t willing to change you can deal with it or not. It’s hard when one party won’t work on themselves. Edit: maybe suggest to him the art of manliness podcast, it touches a lot on culture psychology, men’s health exercise and stuff. Maybe it could inspire him. I even listen to them sometimes I find them interesting
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:33 PM
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He needs professional help, hopefully he would be amenable to couples counseling; esp if you word it that “I need us to do this” so he doesn’t feel attacked.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:26 PM
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It sounds like you’re both burnt out tbh. You with the kids (they both sound young by the time line) and him with 2 jobs. Him isolating is his response to this. Based off the first post and this, could you guys reevaluate the division of labor? You mentioned before he messed up clothing; Ok so could you wash/dry then it goes to a basket which he folds. Ask him for meal ideas (themes)- Italian, Chinese, etc And then you do the shopping so there’s no “well what veggie” back and forth. Also we use …
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:18 PM
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You can utilize the time before your wedding to make sure your labs are all good vitamin wise, start taking pre natal, overall just preparing your body!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/24 12:48 AM
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I know someone who did this - she started trying before the wedding thinking it would take months to get pregnant… she got pregnant right away.. didn’t fit in her gown, etc. they ended up just doing a quick ceremony and moving the actual wedding… THEN 2 years later when the real big wedding was happening she got pregnant again and was 6 months pregnant at that event 😭😭😭 she didn’t seem to mind but it def made them have to move a lot of stuff and just overall make things hectic lol so I can’t say…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/24 04:18 PM
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You have to just ask him what it was, be respectful but ask. Maybe she was reaching out to him? Did he even respond? The message he received could have been a response to him or an initial message so it’s hard to say what his part was. How he responds to your request to know will tell you more about his mindset right now. Imo. “Hey last night when I saw your phone screen I saw a message with a heart emoji on a random app; could you tell me who that was and why they were sending you that? It woul…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/24 11:44 PM
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I would go to a medium brown/medium length human hair wig, even a shoulder bob would be cute!
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 06:38 PM
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A: probably that I have an easy command of a group lol, appearance wise, I’ve been told im very expressive, though dare I say in a Bea Arthur kind of way. 😂 B: my husband def loves my laugh, and I think a lot of people do not get that side of me. Im very stern looking and such in company. He says Im witty and resilient and many people don’t get the privilege to experience it. I also make him his favorite desert each year for his birthday, and I know he is weak for that treat hhehehehe.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/24 05:20 AM
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I definitely used to be like this with guys; for ref I think I am somewhat on spectrum as well. An opening for you, may be to let him do things if/when he offers. I found myself being like “no I’m good” to any and all requests to serve or help me in any way… mostly bc I have particular ways I like things and anything offsetting that makes me uncomfortable/ and a lot of the time it felt dumb to be like “sure” over small stuff. (Hyper independent and constant need for efficiency vibes here lol). N…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/24 10:52 PM
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Dying that explains why I subbed to that Reddit then immediately couldn’t comment or anything 😂I didn’t even consider this.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 01:07 AM
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You could try one of those flora tests where you swab and send it back. My suggestion would be get a gentle boric acid suppository and sleep with it in overnight (it’ll melt) on week one. Then week two do a vaginal probiotic suppository. And try that for like 3 months. See if it levels out at all. Also, do not clean your vagina with anything but warm water and unscented soap. I would literally get a unscented bar of goats milk soap. Nothing- dyes fragarence etc.. and make sure you’re def not goi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 05:58 AM
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I think first asking yourself what it would be like to just accept responsibility would be like for yourself might be helpful? Why do you tend to shift blame? Was wrong-doing in any manner growing up shameful? We’re accidents not allowed? I feel like that’s a common trend in people who later as an adult feel like they gotta push off blame to someone else.. stems from fear of making mistakes or accidents. 😂 my little psychoanalytic moment. You don’t lose anything from admitting when you’re wrong …
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/24 11:18 PM
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So many questions here- When he’s home from military in 4 months.. is his home, in your town? Or is he just be home but still nowhere near you? I feel like he doesn’t really want to be in a relationship. Why wouldn’t someone want to call you as soon as they get back? Idk I don’t think he’s forgetting - just not doing it. Forgetting milk when you have a long list of groceries is - forgetting… not calling your significant other when you are traveling, is not forgetting lol. What would happen if th…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/24 10:54 PM
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You have to decide where your hard boundaries are. I wouldn’t stop performing if I truly loved it and was making $ off it. It’s an art. Doing it in a studio is not the same thing as performing imo. If you feel that it’s something you don’t want to compromise on, then you should stand your ground. Unless it’s truly harming someone, you should be able to express yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/24 07:43 PM
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Honestly this is one thing my husband and I let fly with no input from one another really… and it’s 99.9% because we have such diff styles and preferences lol. I can’t even buy him a simple tee shirt because our tastes are so different😂 if I love something I wear or style, he loves that I love it. And vice versa. I think there’s been one time ever where I begged him not to wear a specific button down but I still just let him wear it because he likes it and I felt bad after 😭 this probably didn’t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 04:31 AM
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Maybe you’re just dealing with like fomo (fear of missing out) but retroactively. I have felt like this in the past about my husband because he dated a lot before we married and I do wonder time to time like “I wonder what he and “Sam” did or were like” .. then it leads you down a road like “well what was the dynamic”..”what did he like about her”… “was she better than me”.. I realized later this is just part of me being NOSEY af about things that were in the past and didn’t even have to do with…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 04:00 AM
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Sounds like maybe you guys have different ideals for socializing and such. My husband and I are different in the sense… I’m quiet, not very social, he is a social butterfly… we make it work by scheduling some time for public activities and make time for indoor (me) activities. He would never say the things your bf says to you. Plus the leg thing… is insane for him to comment on. You deserve to find someone more your style. If you try to hone in on things you’re not willing or wanting to change (…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/24 08:04 PM
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Yes! I know it’s so hard. My issue is efficiency… if I see my husband doing something I feel can be done better I always want to interrupt and be like “actually you could do this like….”, and it really irritates him when it’s something small like.. how he cleans a dish or whatever or order he chose to do chores in.. blah blah. I need to just trust that he is capable. But it doesn’t mean my eyes are not like 👀👀👀👀👀👀 when he is doing things that trigger my compulsion to control lol but I just shut …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/24 08:30 PM
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I have the same issue… I love giving advice, I became a counselor after all. 😂 I got good advice from a professor once… If you’re listening to someone and you’re immediately ready to give advice or respond, then you were not listening to them truly. Sometimes it’s better to listen with your heart not your mind. If you’re preparing to give advice on the topic then you’re kind of thinking elsewhere inside your mind while he is speaking. Some good responses for you may be: How can I support you dur…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/24 07:07 PM
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I drive everywhere because I have horrible motion sickness lol unfortunately, I usually just pump gas since I’m on that side Heheh with his card. If I’m in a nasty mood I just stare at him and he does it 😂 I think from a non rp view, “chivalry” most dudes prob offer to pump the gas but driving cars is so popular today that most folks will just do it themselves if they’re the one driving.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 12:45 AM
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I think first realize that you can’t raise someone to be a virgin. Everybody has their own path. You can raise them in an environment that they feel confident in their decisions to remain a virgin or not, and share with them your experience (hopefully without instilling shame)… and see where life goes. “Raising pretty thin virgins” is not only a hard expectation to put on people who don’t even exist yet but also is a reflection of the hate you have for yourself it seems. There is also a plethora…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/24 09:25 PM
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The fact that you had a novel to write about the dynamic and none of it was good, should shed some light on it for you. There’s nothing wrong with “out growing” people, especially ones who maybe have some emotional immaturity or issues they don’t plan to resolve anytime soon. She sounds like she has a lot going on mentally and physically and isn’t in the right mind to be your friend. I would just phase her off socials or anything and block her. Just know she could come for you on fake accounts o…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/24 05:58 AM
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Have you sat down and told him straight forward that you require quality time? Suggesting watching a movie or any other activity is still kind of expecting mind reading on his part. If you haven’t, I would talk about it in direct terms. Sandwich it between some praise but make sure to state your needs too. There has got to be a middle ground somewhere in there. Not sure what your finances are like for grocery or anything but have you tried meal prepping? Making and freezing a bunch of meals that…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 05:09 AM
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Well he is also involved in the ivf, so maybe there’s an emotional disconnect between you and him and sex rather than you just find others desirable. There is a little trauma there between you guys that you gotta heal together. Have you guys discussed how things intimacy wise have changed over time and maybe identify some feelings that could be causing this? I personally don’t believe you’re sexually done with him, but I think he is a reminder of the tough medical trauma you guys have gone throu…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 04:34 AM
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Not a doctor or anything, but two of my cousins have had infertility issues and have done ivf etc. I saw on your history there’s some infertility stuff … they have told me that the process of doing all the medical ivf and all that jazz made them feel like they didn’t want to have sex with their husband because it was shrouded in that medical stress. Sexual encounters turned into “ok let’s do this to see if we can get pregnant blah blah” and there was a loss of intimacy over time. I wonder if spe…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 03:20 AM
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I got my husband flowers when he got a new job and apartment (this was right before we got married). I lived a state over and I thought sending something nice for his apartment counter to brighten the day and show my appreciation for his hard work would be nice. He enjoyed it. I sent a variety floral, not like roses or something strictly romantic it was in a dark silver vase so not too frilly and just looked nice overall. Some floral places let you send people a fern or other kinds of things too…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 07:07 PM
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Priorities change as you age. At 55, do you think the majority of women are in a “competition” mindset with 20 year olds? If they were, how did any generation before today survive? Lol Being hot in your younger years feels like the sole purpose of living because you’re in the mindset of mating etc, when you’re 40, 50, 60 that won’t be the forefront of your mind. You’ll have lots more to be dealing with. There’s something to be said of “passing the torch” too as a woman. In my early 30s now, not …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 12:42 AM
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Honestly, if you get off it, and wait 6-12 months, you’ll be able to see your real cycle, use ovulation strips a few months and test and see if your cycle is ovulation regular day 13-18 and then you know any Sperm entering on day like 10-20 can be likely fertilized. That on top of a secondary barrier, ie: condom, you’re basically good to go. Because if your cycles regular at day say 14-16, and you have sex with condom on day 8 with a condom, there’s essentially no chance of pregnancy. Granted it…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 01:45 AM
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Was he like this in past? Did this just begin in last year? What changed? Was he doing 12 hour shifts then? Maybe he is experiencing burn out and can’t get out of the loop. Burn out can make people act very out of character. They can get compassion fatigue, basically become someone else. Not saying it’s this but could be good to look into. Sometimes true burnout isn’t like being tired from work and resting on the weekend and feeling better. It can be debilitating to the point where it can affect…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/23 04:19 PM
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Not in the same culture or religious group as you, But don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re certainly not a slut or a disgrace. You’re figuring out life. Maybe the third date you can bring friends or a chaperone, so you can also discuss if you’re both on same page about boundaries and where you want this To go. If he likes you, he should want to help you uphold the boundaries you set for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 04:54 AM
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The $$$$ is the present in his mind probably. Say you wanna go get your nails done or something, a facial, something more than you typically do. He will pay right? And then come home and order some nice take out.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 04:50 AM
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ADHD is very hard to manage without medication. You can make schedules, set alarms and do the whole dance… but if you’re executive function system is running low;;; how do you remember to set alarms? Reset them? Make schedules? Prioritize items on each list. Medication helps with that. My husband finally got on meds at like 28 and he said it changed his life.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 04:42 AM
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I kind of get him not wanting to deal with the expiration date organization thing (because that’s a you ocd thing), but the other two things.. as a 26 year old he should know how to do. Like cold items go in a cooler. He must know that…. Or like chips don’t go in the fridge. Why is he putting non cold items into the fridge? What did he say when you ask why he puts random crap into the cooler and not cold things? I feel like he doesn’t want to do it. He’s kind of detached already by sitting in th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 04:17 AM
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I think this would be 100% true if we never developed frontal lobes. The difference between just using hind brain to run our lives (such as primates) vs humans. Fortunately, we have those to decision make, look at things from a non evolutionary only view (aka mating isn’t the only reason someone may pair). Also, in a unique situation here but my husband slept with over 100 women in his life before we met (no judgement) and had 0 kids with any of them, but says he could never continue doing that …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 07:32 PM
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I didn’t wait, I had sex at 16 for first time. Only regret would be I wish I had waited to be an established adult, maybe 18+, and not a teen but otherwise, I feel it benefited me. I have had sex with people it was horrible and never got better and also people it was great the first time. I don’t think I could wait until marriage solely for the fact that some people suck at sex and it doesn’t change or get better. I just wouldn’t be long term compatible with someone no matter how much I loved th…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 10:20 PM
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Yeah. I know a lot of guys save Reddit photos from experience. He likely doesn’t speak with these random women; plus they’re from who knows where. But it’s good to just set boundaries together that you’re comfortable with!
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 03:13 AM
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You guys need to have a talk about what you both expect regarding personal intimacy/porn etc.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 01:11 AM
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Chances are by the time you’re looking “old” for real, your life will be settled already (outside of some odd circumstance where you’re like 45+ and have no spouse/partner, hobbies etc). You guys can grow old together. My husband and I joke that once both our hair is thinning enough we will shave heads and be Mr Clean for Halloween together, so we have potentially Halloween like 2050 planned 😂 But for real, don’t waste the youth years worrying about getting old. You’ll get old one day, and today…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 05:04 AM
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One of the only good “red pill” pages I watch on TT is @2bebetterPeaches. Her husband and her run the podcast “2 be better”. Her husband Chris is also like actually a well rounded man and doesn’t really play into all the weird rp man stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 10:25 PM
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Hm, okay based on your edit; my response …. And kind of related to a situation I was in so I’ll give my approach to how the moment was handled. I think this also depends on what was happening. Was he chatting with someone online? Or meeting up with someone? They’re both bad but I feel they’re weighted differently. Anyway; I would first give it a day or two and think about what I want to say and how. Let my anger settle because typically I would go feral on people. Tell them in the first sentence…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 06:52 PM
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This is a hard stop for me because, for one, I am definitely liberal in my politics, progressive even, and in my life. Lol I don’t necessarily denounce feminism, I get that rp is essentially anti feminist but I guess that also depends on your interpretation of feminism and it’s applications. I’m also a therapist, I’m highly educated on a lot of topics that typically conservative, rp communities are either against or not necessarily well educated on (human sexuality, gender, etc) so I think that …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 08:32 PM
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After full brain decision making development! Not saying there are not outliers but I personally would want to make sure I’m making the most informed decision of my life and our brains start to completely finish forming the pre frontal cortex at about 25/26 years of age and this is also the time where risky and impulsive behavior will wane. So anything 25+ I feel confident is, as the best age empirically. Our personalities, emotional development will change throughout life somewhat but those for…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 06:54 PM
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Ooof two parts. One, I think it’s valid you’re upset because you were expecting xyz and it didn’t end up how you envisioned. That being said, I think what happens moving forward will show if you’re overreacting or not. It seems like he def felt bad because you got him a gift so he just pulled the trigger on your big anniversary gift to counter your gift. Two; when you guys spoke in the past about your anniversary, did you guys like formulate a plan? Did you describe getting each other elaborate …
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 02:26 AM
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My first thought was based off what you said; if you can afford the upkeep, my mom found that getting a very very light “lip flip filler” helped her lips even out. She has a small scar on her lip from childhood that makes the lips uneven. Her face person used a minute amount of lip inj to fill in the gap where it is uneven, it looks like her normal lips just without that one area being slightly off. Maybe an option if you really hate the unevenness but it’s prob not too noticeable (in most case)…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 07:44 PM
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I think this is really subjective. There have been times where in a mess of communication my husband and I (before we were married) would make plans for us on same day, lol. In that event, we would just go to our own events without each other. For instance I told my mom we’d come by for dinner and he somehow scheduled a game night with his buddy, I would just go go my moms and him to his plans. It wasn’t like a “gotcha”moment for us when these little conflicts came up. I think a white board with…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 04:10 PM
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Then if he’s cool to work on doing some things you like, outdoors things then, I mean it sounds good to me. 😀
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 02:08 AM
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Compromising here could be a good thing. Unless the political issues are like “this is against my morals therefore-“ kind of deep arguments and not just arguing about ideals, then you could be a good match judging by the other info. As it pertains to lifestyle, some things you guys should be doing together even if it’s not your vibe. In fact I was like no way I’ll be camping ever lol and when I met my husband he was an avid camper… a few nights in a tent and some mountain climbs later, I love ca…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 10:22 PM
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I think it depends on the person and man. Obviously outside of the general “womb” situation…because I would also look at a man 35+ and be like “he is shooting dusty boys now”. The same way I’d look at a woman. Lol A lot plays into it. You could develop a talent or hobby or skill at 30 that makes you desirable as fff compared to when you were typical at 24. My husband says he thinks I’m hotter now (at 31) than 3 years ago. I don’t get why but he does lol and hoping to ride that out to at least 40…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 09:13 PM
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My thoughts are; it could be, that he’s not adjusting well to viewing you as a parent and partner. Before kids, you were 100% his. Now, splitting time and energy between kids and him, maybe he is having trouble seeing you as anything but a mom and not a sexual partner anymore. Its harsh but apparently common for men to have trouble shifting their view of wives from “partner” to “mom” to “partner”. Whereas women see men through a more faceted lens. To remedy, perhaps moving towards giving him som…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 09:00 PM
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/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 06:31 PM
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Honestly, the real serious men out there aren’t so focused on complete body count (in my experience) unless they too have like 0 people under their belt. But it’s very common in teen years or early 20s to go wild, and end up still settling down later and being a bit more conservative with sex. Any emotionally mature person should know at 16 you were not a fully formed thinking adult and probably did some dumb fun stuff and if they hold that against you when you’re 25 or 30, then I mean, I don’t …
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 10:41 PM
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I’m medium height 5’6 and have dated a variety of heights. I ended up marrying a short king lol but maybe it’s just an inherent thing to see someone bigger or stronger and thinking wow they could take me out (honestly I’ve even seen big ass women and thought “yeah they could kick my ass”).
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 06:43 PM
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Definitely a “men don’t want to be seen as wrong or weak” thing. I think if I was like meeting family for dinner and someone said “where’s “husband”? And I said “oh he’s sick”… then I went back later and said “I told my aunts you were sick and couldn’t come” he would definitely worry about if they were judging him for not sucking it up even if they weren’t and my aunts and I were simply having a convo. But if I said, he’s working overtime, he would feel on top of the world thinking my aunts assu…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/23 10:43 PM
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Ha! Listen, cooking is def hard. I think it’s best to find a few easy staple dishes and then change up the spices, sauces, to get some variance.. then once you’re bored of those and you’re comfortable ,branch out. 😂 I’m def no chef but not horrible.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 01:37 AM
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Thanks! Lol I would love that
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 01:14 AM
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Sausage and tortellini, any red sauce you like; I sauté some mushroom, Sun dried tomato, and spinach and mix that in. You could do any meat; chicken etc but I feel like Italian sausage would go good if he likes meat and potato kinds of meals. You could ask; “do you like Italian” or something similar to narrow down his tastes but that way you don’t give too much away. Another easy one would be to buy flatbread; Get some toppings like dairy free cheese, veggies, sausage or whatever else and kind o…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 03:10 AM
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I think this would be a good opportunity to explore what sex means to you without influence from childhood/media/etc. You said you were raised with the intention it’s for baby making but, realistically when applied, we know couples are having sex multiple times a week in an “average” marriage, and if you’re having sex during all 4 weeks, THEN you are having sex knowing that it isn’t just for babies (as most women won’t be fertile more than a handful of days a month). If that makes sense lol, the…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 01:39 AM
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Yes I had to really sit alone and think “what am I really looking for”. It’s easy to slip from one relationship to another and never make the changes for what you want the outcome to be.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 02:43 AM
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Your future is working out then! Lol
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 09:01 PM
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For sure! 25 is literally fine! I had a break up at 25 thought “that’s it I’m done for” then my subsequent engagement break off later lol and again was like “damn ok we done for REAL NOW” and then now I’m married and happy lol I was on some kind of delusion at 21 thinking I was gonna be married with a kid at 25. Lol I also grappled horribly with the fact that my fiancé was a really nice guy and wasn’t mean or bad in any way. I felt like I was ruining his chances at marriage and life. But I had t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 08:13 PM
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I was 29 and married at 30 so I was definitely leaving my engagement previously like “I’m elderly” but then I just came to terms with that I wasn’t elderly I was insane. 😂😂😂 in fact I feel like all my early 20s and mid 20s relationships I definitely had “I should settle im old” mentality haunting me but then when I got to 28/29 and wasn’t married I realized my life didn’t end and I let that go and it helped my mindset a lot in actually finding a husband.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 07:28 PM
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Oooof. Perfect example for ya! I thought I was in love with my bf; we dated 3 years before he proposed. When he proposed, honestly that’s when it hit me I loved him but wasn’t in love with him. He had a lot of unresolved issues, and I feel like once the reality of settling down came on, I was like “wait, these aren’t things I might be able to live with but i love him soooo idk if I should let it just play out”. I was so emotionally attached to him just out of the love and respect I had for him, …
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 07:10 PM
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No you’re not wrong, you will essentially be the same at 24 and 27 physically and health wise, without a serious event occurring; even at 30 honestly. I think you definitely have time to take 1 or 2 years to work on you and see what you want and who you want to be. Better than jumping into something and then growing so much in next few years you change completely and no longer relate to the person. I also feel like it’s common place that also once you start working on yourself you end up by chan…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 06:13 PM
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Maybe it’s just me, but I just don’t even consider it on an emotional level. What does their values being different than mine have to do with me or the task at hand. Ya know? Like I’m helping them with their goals not mine. Lol if someone wants help building relationship skills and they are a lesbian, I can still help them build the skills even though I’m not a lesbian. If they’re Muslim or something else I just educate myself on the ideals and beliefs of the group and do what I can to help them…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 08:27 PM
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Therapist here; therapists are not supposed to put their views on you. I have worked with clients who have different religions, cultures, belief systems and never once did I push my belief on them so I hate thinking that some do this. 🥲 I think your best bet for someone who probably is more aligned with you in the USA would be to look for Christian counselors, even if you aren’t Christian. Many have in their profiles that they utilize Christian values etc which may allude to them being more rece…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 02:10 PM
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Ah, the classic “if you didn’t make me mad I wouldn’t do xyz” next he will throw a punch at you and say you did something to cause it. There’s nothing you could do; have anxiety, blah blah to cause someone to act this way. He probably secretly loves your anxiety because it has been disabling you from seeing who he really is.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 09:28 PM
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This is abuse. I’m sorry but straight up. Do you want to spend another 40, 50 years with someone who “mocks, makes fun of, says hurtful things, says he could knock someone else up???” about and to you. I’ve been in one of these relationships before, they suck. Best thing you can do is ask yourself if you want to be with this kind of person. It has nothing to do with your anxiety and 100% with him being what sounds like a nasty person. He’s belittling you so that you feel you have nothing else in…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 09:25 PM
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I wouldn’t rehome any animals of mine unless their was a specific health need or behavior that required them to. If you’re rehoming your cat bc of the dogs I would be annoyed about that for one. But idk about asking someone to give up animals.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/23 10:42 PM
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I buy bulk potato’s (chop and freeze) frozen squash, frozen Brussels, and carrots (chop and freeze), so no matter what day we can do veggies and potato’s and a chicken breast. If you time it right it can all go in oven on same pan. Or you can grill the chicken on stove top while veggies bake in oven.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 08:03 PM
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I think that the roots of giving someone away for marriage is pretty clear that it’s been historically an exchange of property/persons recognized as property/creating family alliances, etc; not forgetting that these were the social norms of the time (so I can’t comment on the “if it was wrong or right” in the eyes of those people at that time). But, that’s not to say you couldn’t make the giving away of a daughter now, a new meaning and tradition in your family. A tweak on tradition that focuses…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 04:32 PM
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I don’t think anyone really gets over a wandering eye. I’m a lady myself and I see hot men out in public I might do a double take lol not that I’ll be leaving my husband for them but they are beautiful specimens of men sometimes. I have a different relationship with my husband, more than our looks. We have a partnership. Sometimes we both see a lady in public and will give each other the “omg” look because she’s got a rockin body or something but it’s just like a normal response I think to seein…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 07:59 PM
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I think most people summed it up in long form but I think the best way to not feel as bad about breakups, is to grieve it. Holding back on your feelings usually drags it out. Be heartbroken, but know your life isn’t ending. It’ll pass naturally once you allow yourself to feel what you need to feel. Don’t let yourself get into a depressive state by not doing your regular life but it’s ok to cry, grieve, eat a little ice cream while crying, and feel confident in your choice. People telling me to b…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 05:50 PM
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You look completely normal by todays standards, esp if you had a baby in the past year. I think you look better than I would expect myself to look after a baby 😂
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/23 04:42 PM
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BMI makes little sense in terms of health; what I would focus on is body recomp. I’m smaller physically now at my higher bmi, because I cut fat and have been building muscle. So it’s possible to go down in inches but up in physical weight. But you also should let your body do what feels natural. Regular exercise and a colorful diet is typically enough. Focusing too much on losing weight vs living healthily can destroy your metabolism too, if taken to extremes. Having energy to do things with my …
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 02:46 AM
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I guarantee you his family has a history of mental illness he is not aware of as well. So many people don’t disclose their struggles with anxiety or depression and if you look at numbers, I mean.. That being said, bipolar is completely treatable and manageable in todays age with medication. Yes it does require lifelong meds in nearly 100% of cases but that doesn’t mean they won’t live a good life or anything even if it does pop up. Idk about your past with a bipolar sibling/what their situation …
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 09:06 PM
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Reading online, depending on the source gives me different values for SMV; some list, networth/ Career/height etc in the factors and others list more physical traits only. Could be that they’re over simplifying it (enmeshing the two) for mass readers. Which has led me to believe they are kind of overlapping or the same. If that’s not the case traditionally, my bad.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 03:59 AM
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Yeah, I feel the same way, I don’t think you really need to be calculating/applying specific ratings, because we all know what’s obviously “a step above” financially etc. I think it’s more of a calculated awareness of yourself and where you fall in society and wouldn’t necessarily be actively applied lol. But maybe we are wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 02:13 AM
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From what I interpret; Long term SMV things are not as specific to each individual (such as you sharing you like rustic men which is personal aesthetics), and more so a social SMV based on resources, status, networth, degree/career etc. The idea is once you know where you fall, you want to identify partners on the next levels above you. I think it’s common sense kind of overall though because if you’re say “looking for security” and you’re a teacher (pay is ok but not fantastic), then going on d…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 02:03 AM
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I think the overarching theme that can be taken away from any political /social ideology, etc is that we as people should be challenging ourselves to hear and learn new ideas or understandings of the world. It’s easy for anyone on the left right middle to end up in an echo chamber; some of this is completely out of our control because technology uses algorithms to feed you more of what they think you believe in. A great skill is to be able to question your own beliefs and change ideas with infor…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:39 PM
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My go to; shorter/medium almond shape acrylics (most femme imo) I get clear base with a pink or purple French :3 Have you ever done dip? If you grow your nails and do dip, it’s a bit sturdier than gel alone. https://ibb.co/mGQMNtq reference
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 08:36 PM
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Sorry
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 03:37 AM
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Reading the title of this, why are you together? Are you just holding on for past 4 years for something that isn’t coming? After that amount of time you’d think he’d be planning his future with you not his mother. There are two separate issues going on here. 1/ your and his relationship and then 2/ his mom and his relationship. I don’t think they’re necessarily causing one or the other but existing together as two issues. I don’t see him marrying you. His mom is there for his day to day care. He…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 04:54 PM
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I kept editing my post as I thought of things to add lol so skim it again to get the full effect (I promise I won’t add anymore).
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 04:47 PM
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Nah, I think you’re making a statement. The versatility of women. You can work white collar and still be the most femme of femme; think Legally blonde, great movie lol. Just because your income is not “nurture” based doesn’t mean you aren’t warm and fuzzy inside or in your personal life. I would imagine you might be even more so in your personal life because when you get home you can take off the “work persona”. The right type of man will definitely see this as a plus if he is in similar field o…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 04:40 PM
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Developmentally, I think most adults have their baseline persona, idea of what they like, goals /plans, set up around 25. So anything between 24+ I think is good for marriage. Obviously people get married under 24 but having lived to 30 now, 21 is just WAY different than 25 compared to 25 and 29. If that makes sense. Those first 5 years of your 20s are really pivotal. I think everybody / men and women, should be learning things that aren’t really taught by parents anymore. Basic cooking, cleanin…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 04:24 PM
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Thanks for all the input :) love it
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 10:52 PM
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Just for fun I suppose; I have my living already but I do get bored because I don’t do it much, so was trying to fill, put my professional knowledge to use, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 06:14 PM
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I believe substack also has an app. Someone had suggested it to me so I made an account and am browsing it’s features. It seems pretty standard; you can do mailing lists etc
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 01:58 AM
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I was just on there and substack!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 01:39 AM
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But that was established that it isn’t the case. She doesn’t use it for photos of herself, it’s for work. It’s not her personal page of her vacation photos of her in a bikini. He’s choosing something she needs and values as a way to control her decision. Even then if she was putting her own photos up; her simply existing on social media; whether or not men like what they see, is not the same as him actively seeking out and watching porn. Women can’t even exist without dudes lusting over them and…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 01:12 AM
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Asking someone to give up the forum in which they advertise their career (they’re a dj and already said it has little to no photos of themselves on it) and asking someone to stop watching porn are not comparable. He doesn’t want to give up porn and is using her work as leverage because he know, if she is in her right mind, she won’t give up her work page and therefore he won’t have to give up porn. Mystery solved.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 11:14 PM
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He’s just picking something that you have and making that an issue so it feels like a true comparison. You having a work IG is your livelihood, his porn watching is extracurricular. That being said, if he doesn’t want to stop and it wasn’t discussed as a pre-req to your relationship maybe you guys are not compatible values wise. Sounds like regardless he has no plan to stop.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 11:11 PM
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He should appreciate your body as it changes. You made a whole person, be kind to yourself!
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 03:49 PM
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Right? I hope they are well mentally and grow as a person because they’re 25 and child free according to their posts and recovering from an ED. In 10 years your stomach will not be as flat as it was at 25, if you have children, age, etc.😂 it’s rare to be able to have 1,2 etc kids and have a flat stomach because of all the skin stretching. Most of it is genetic even if you are healthy during and after. They should be cherishing you as your body changes in life. We will all be grey or wrinkled at …
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 03:45 PM
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I would ask yourself, even if somehow it worked out, would you be getting along with his side of family/ vice versa for the rest of your lives? You can love someone and still it not be a great match because of their desires. If he isn’t willing to put it all aside for you (as you said he is atheist but basically under family pressure), then I would foresee major stress in future when you have kids etc. His family may be overbearing or controlling what you guys do with the kids, he might feel inc…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 07:50 PM
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I think my first question would be; why are you two together if he is telling you out rightly you’re not his type and also doesn’t want to participate in the way you receive love? I get not wanting to compliment you all the time but, any man who plans to be with you long term should adore you for who you are and be happy with his choice. Even if I’m in my pjs looking a mess my husband will come grab my ass and kiss on me and say how pretty I am. If you have to beg for that, then personally, I wo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 04:53 PM
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He sounds like he’s here for one thing.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 04:34 PM
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A lot of people are Rec remote but it def is hard(er) now to find these positions in relevant fields. If this job will give you guys the security you need for xyz period of time; I think you should be kinder to yourself. You’re not a monster. While being home is ideal, plenty of moms work and they are not all monsters (I mean I respect them at least idk about anyone else). Would it make you feel better if you could work together to set a timeline. Like working from now until spring 2024? Somethi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 11:28 PM
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A few points to this; I’m a cryer when it comes to arguments, I think mostly because growing up I was never heard /felt heard and every time there was a disagreement I got pushed to tears. I wonder if he grew up in a situation where conversations or disagreements took on a really volatile mood. I’m not saying you aren’t listening but maybe he’s assumed you aren’t because of his past in some way. To help alleviate this, I think my husband does a good job at saying “I hear you saying xyz.. “ when …
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 09:25 PM
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I’d ask myself and in therapy; why do I go 0-100? Did you grow up in a household where you constantly had to argue your point, where people only listened when things were heated? Maybe not those exactly but you can probably find some points in your life that made you develop this reaction. The above scenarios apply to me and I sometimes find me snapping off going full 100% on my husband for no reason other than I know growing up that’s the only way we communicated; by being aggressive and nasty.…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 06:43 PM
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With only a single day? Id buy a year of pilates- easy lol 😂 unless I have a membership I will not do it at home 👀
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 08:09 PM
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My husband knows a lot of women 🙃 he’s a friendly person and through his 20s met a lot of people, traveled, was military. A lot of people on his socials are women. Because of this I do sometimes see my eye be like 👀👀👀👀 over when I see one pop up on his feed or whatever but usually I just ignore it. It could be anything, maybe they got a new car or dog or posted something interesting and he went to go look at it again on her page. Maybe he thinks her fiancé is ugly so he took a second glance lol.…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 03:31 AM
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I’m addressing the comment on here that “men don’t grieve” that someone made; just inherently false. I understand they have a specific faith based mindset regarding that but it’s simply not true from a science standpoint. They can call it “contemplation” but it’s grief. Anyway- I think the best way to help anyone is to keep a sense of normalcy. Nobody likes to be reminded that stuff is heavy. Don’t be overly like in their face about the fact theyre grieving. A simple look sometimes with your eye…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/23 09:46 PM
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Could you get him a few more boxing classes? He prob buys like 5 or 10 at a time as most gyms and things do packages. Personally I love getting people gifts that don’t clutter their life; objects add up. Could you plan an adventure? This past month I took my husband to a nice whiskey place for tastings because he likes specialty alcohol. I booked the reservation, got him the nice dinner and whiskey tasting. If he likes hiking/outdoors, you could find a nice hiking adventure you wouldn’t typicall…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/23 06:27 PM
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What’s he into?
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/23 04:34 AM
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While that may be true to a point, data shows that more often women take on an emotional load from men (the parent child effect), than vice versa. Which is where my statement above came from. Hopefully society can de-stigmatize MH faster for men so that gap can close.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/23 12:50 AM
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So my advice, find a man and immediately vet them (without being obvious) what their self confidence is like, how they view themselves, plans/goals. He should be able to explain to you ways he’s grown in the past 5 years emotionally.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 10:06 PM
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I was just basing it off what you said “I fix their fears”. I don’t know you so I can’t say for sure, but it sounds a lot like my life in the past. You give love and acceptance for them to figure their life out, learn to trust, then they bail. It’s not about what other girls have but it’s what they want to present to the new women. They wanna come off as perfect from the start and not let on that they just wasted your time training them basically.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 10:04 PM
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They don’t have anything you don’t. You spent the time fixing them basically and then now they want to express that to another woman as “how they’ve always been” and forget the process. It doesn’t make sense but it’s how they operate. IMO. I added a bit to my original post which I think explains that more, if it makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 10:01 PM
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My thoughts, because I had this happen a lot in past. They are emotionally immature and latch onto someone who is nice, mature, willing to “take care of them” until they’re ready to fly. Any guy this ever happened to with me looking back, I realize they had a lot of problems and I was the “mommy” nurturing person they wanted to help them. Focusing on dating men who are already established in their identity and self worth. You guys should be growing as people along side of each other, not to be h…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 09:54 PM
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Check out the post from like 6 hours ago about work. Most of the people there posted about a lot of soft sciences or non science fields. What I’ve learned from dealing with people who say “psychology is easy/less valuable/ whatever” than other hard science fields, is that they are ignorant and or manipulated by society to think that STEM is the only reputable field for “smart people”. If you enjoy something or it’s your passion, who cares what they think. Why didn’t you become a doctor? Simple- …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 04:26 AM
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That’s so wrong of them, no matter who they are seeing or what their POV is. They’re supposed to help guide you within your own belief systems. Sometimes I don’t understand all of my clients beliefs but I educate myself on their specifics and help them in any way I can.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 04:21 AM
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I’m a therapist. I can work contract hours, make my own schedule. I plan to work a handful of hours when I have kids to keep my licensure up to date but working 1099 is an easy way to pick like 1 or 2 days you see a handful of clients. Obviously as a counselor I feel like I have a good sense of communication in my relationships. I will be a great source of comfort to everybody in my family. Because of this path and personality type (nurturing/helpful) I tend to go towards people with what I call…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 10:48 PM
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Poshmark! You can get a lot of tunics and such to wear with leggings but cover your body mostly. Madewell is a nice brand.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/23 12:50 AM
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I suggest a therapist, even if you want to go 1-2 times a month (not everybody goes weekly), to process things that maybe keep coming up, themes etc that you overshare. Maybe some are wounds that you could get a perspective on to start processing them. Oversharing is a common trauma response as well. Nothing wrong with discussing and healing from a wild childhood to ensure a better marriage later.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 05:34 PM
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It’s not healthy to just sit around on your ass, in general. Not having a job isn’t the same. If he’s contributing to daily life, has passions or hobbies etc, that’s normal. But it’s just not healthy to be completely stagnant. They said he cooks dinner and takes trash out but … I mean, I feel like that’s stagnant. Maybe because they didn’t outline his day I didn’t get a vibe he’s doing anything.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 04:46 PM
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And I don’t mean to say any of that in a negative way, it’s just another perspective to look at while decision making !
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 07:05 PM
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It’s smart to do. It’s not purchasing a car or something, it’s a whole person. Being wise about your decision is 100% the first step to being a good parent. There’s plenty of other opportunities for them if they want a parenting or care giving role. Could look into fostering/transitional care, volunteering with children, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 07:04 PM
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That’s a valid concern. You can desire having kids but know it’s not necessarily right for you. I do think more people should ask themselves these questions before having kids and being like “oh I’ll adjust”, because sometimes people don’t. Or else there wouldn’t be r/regretfulparents Personally I think it comes down to committing to knowing you’ll have virtually no immediate freedoms once you have a child, and even getting an hour for yourself a day may need to be strategically planned vs livin…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 04:42 PM
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I think you can be open to them having their own way if they’d like, some people do thrive on diff kinds of power, maybe she’s into some financial domination of him that we aren’t aware of lol. But I don’t think they should look down on your way as well. To those saying they don’t hold company with people who have different “values” or whatever, I differ on that because people are different and have their own expectations of their life, but they should respect yours as well. My point is, if she’…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 03:52 PM
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I would ask what are you going to do to make her secure in giving up her career? Will you be contributing to her retirement fund, etc? That is the first way I think to showing her you’re going to make sure that what she started will continue. Maybe she’s worried about the future and not having a job under her belt in an event of emergency? Maybe start slow with her trying out a part time gig? Present a plan with all those aspects. Also show how she is contributing via keeping a home, doing more …
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 03:48 PM
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Going to school won’t change your chances of pregnancy. You both need to get examined by a fertility specialist. You could be not ovulating (women of any age can have this problem) or he could have sperm abnormalities (very common). I think decide which one you want to do first because ivf and other fertility programs do take up a lot of time physically and mentally.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 01:03 AM
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Tbh it sounds like you guys are kind of just different people. I think it’s a baseline given that on Valentine’s Day you guys have plans, even if that’s him and you cooking together romantically, watching a movie, etc. Youve done a lot of changing for the relationship, to better it, I guess my question would be what is he doing to better it? Saying you’re listening to your partner but doing it in a bitter attitude is something he could work on. I guess making sure you’re communicating in a way t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 12:36 AM
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People are having kids into their 40s now, we need to adjust what “the wall is” as time changes. As I said you could have 2-4 kids easily in your 30s. People do it all the time (Michelle Duggar had like 8 or 9 in her thirties and beyond). If his perception of fertility is that you’re hitting a wall at 30, then he is uneducated on the information about fertility out there. I personally would want my husband to be educated on actual data as it changes since he will also be dealing with his fertili…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 08:10 PM
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I started my masters at 27 and that’s where I met the most intelligent and goal oriented men. I know there are plenty of blue collar type men who are hvm but I didn’t really have any in my circle. It’s never too late to build a family or advance your own interests. Either way, both kinds of men; if they are the right one, will want to lift you up in what you do. We as women need to stop feeding into the “the wall” concept. Chances are, if you take care of yourself.. at 28,29 you’re going to appe…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 03:12 PM
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God, I could write a whole paper on this. Lol In short, I’d say societal and economic stress have caused this.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 11:41 PM
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Well the good news is it’s April. I thought you were going to say like august or something kind of outside the current timeframe. Can you take a break from it for a day or two and recoup your energy? Maybe sit down and see what you need to do vs what can be offloaded? Do you have any bridesmaids or friends who could help with something trivial like calling to confirm things, or researching some info for you? Even having someone take a look at your seating chart and giving you feedback rather tha…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 12:19 AM
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How far out is this wedding? Can you move forward with something smaller; I’m sure at a loss of $ in places but better overall for your MH? I had started planning a wedding in my first engagement and it began spiraling out of control with the guest list etc. plus my fiancé barely had interest in helping, I have no sisters, so basically it was just me and my mother hounding me. This time around, we secretly eloped. Hardly any planning and 7000$ total cost. Well worth the nasty reaction from famil…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 11:57 PM
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My husband liked the mushroom coffees that are on the market, they’re supposed to be better for you and less caffeine.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 11:55 PM
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Oh for sure, there’s a chance. But what she said about his attitudes towards specific things like women having careers, is what irks me. People are fluid, she can’t guarantee him that she won’t have an interest in something later and I feel that he will resent her for that if it came up. Hard situation all around lol
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 08:18 PM
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Yeah his career looks good, but he has never had a long term relationship because no woman can fit his mold over the age of 25 so he’s shooting lower now and saying it outright. A 23 year age gap is way too much lol.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 08:12 PM
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As if he also isn’t a 31 year old with baggage too lol ya know? 😂 My uncle is VERY red pill Catholic etc he’s 42, he is trying to court a 19 year old right now. People have explained to him “what could you have in common” and his thoughts are the same; she’s young with no kids, will let me raise her into a wife basically, and has 0 knowledge of the world. It’s unnerving.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 07:59 PM
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I don’t know, even living in the “feminine” I would be cautious to a man who has a problem with “women being career oriented” for one. What if 2 years from now you find a passion you’d like to pursue? How is he going to feel about that? Your kid is in kindergarten and you’d like to go back to school for nursing.. how’s that going to fly? I get a “control” vibe but this is just from what i know in the posting. Just know, you’re less likely to ever leave once you have a child. So make sure you did…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 07:15 PM
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Let me put this empirically, there IS; as much as people want to say “it’s about love etc etc”, science behind longevity of relationships and age gaps. Under 5 years for an age gap is ideal. Anything above 5, and approaching 10 years increasing your chances of divorce by a good percentage. Couples under 3 years difference have the least amount of chance to be divorced. Of course there is other things at play here; education gaps also tend to lead to more divorce. Children, etc etc. But why? One …
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 07:04 PM
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I have a lot of free time, what kinds of things would you want to hear. I’m a mental health therapist too so I do think that gives me a lot of insight on people (aka I’m cheating) lol 😂
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 06:49 PM
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I could write a whole dissertation on settling and realizing your worth //unfortunately lol
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 04:54 AM
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It definitely is a wild ass ride, but if you’re going into it like “I don’t wanna be alone” that’s not a fantastic reason lol. Learning to be happy while alone will be a great lesson to learn first. Invest in you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 12:20 AM
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Can we pause to address 30 isn’t the end all be all for women? Lol I didn’t find my husband until about 29, and I had to go through a lot of wackos to get there. Because of that, marrying at 30 was better than anything my 20s could bring. I would consider you to challenge yourself on why you feel this way, and if a lot of the time constraints and pressure you’re putting on yourself are your own or brought on from society? Edit: tbh I was the same way. I was in a 5 year relationship from 20-25 th…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 12:03 AM
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Does he plan to stay exactly as he is, keep all his hair and also plan to have a 25 year old dudes stamina in bed at 50. Hmm? I would question if this guy loves you for you? Or is he chasing a dream?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 07:33 PM
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If you’re unsure what you like and don’t want to pay arm and leg; get a Poshmark account once you find some brands you like. It’s all second hand and half the price most times, plus you can haggle. Downside is that you can’t return but you can list to resell.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 03:21 AM
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Could be that his grieving style is 'space'. Some people don't like being smothered when they're upset. Just reiterate that you're always there for him. When he's down maybe he'd like to smell fresh cookies baked just for him or something warm and safe (run a hot shower for him) instead of talking it out.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/21 10:03 PM
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Poverty trauma. Realizing that you are deserving of these things if they are available to you and he can manage it financially; is the first step. You are worth the vacations or nice things if he can afford it and would like to provide it while you do your work at home. You two will have to compromise on what to do for those fun things like if he wants a budget of 15,000 for a wedding, then maybe see what you can do for 10k. Find a comfortable middle between your two ideals.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 08:20 PM
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Ugh, your story feels life changing, seriously. I’m new to really deep diving into this but have felt myself moving in this manner for some time. Good luck figuring out what makes you happiest :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/21 01:35 AM
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That’s a really good point, there is a line when it comes to “That is just how I am”.. that is unacceptable; like so if you’re a very rude person you should accept that and not be.. less rude? Lol 😂
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 11:57 PM
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My whole life is debt without further context 😂 getting a masters in mental health counseling basically ensures you’ll be cutting even forever but your sentiment is true.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 09:37 PM
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I do agree that some of modern feminism is tied into how we live in a spending/fast everything society. The push to have sooooo many options in every aspect of life makes it hard to have fulfilling amounts of anything because there’s always something else waiting right there for your satisfaction. It’s hard to have solid relationships with people when our lives are Overflowing with messaging that tells us we aren’t satisfied or shouldn’t be ever. . As a means for us to keep consuming.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 09:02 PM
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I have to hear more about your situation if you’re open to expanding. You are still with that same husband I assume? Did much of his behaviors change when you implemented new practices? Or how has it helped the relationship from the perspective of the issues you stated like him not noticing you or making you feel bad, drinking, etc?
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 08:51 PM
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I feel this on a spiritual level lol.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 08:07 PM
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I agree! So many people have been standoffish when I tell them I got my masters and would like to maybe work part time and then do SAHM things half of the week so my kids aren’t in daycare day in and out. They will say “why did you even get the degree then” ... because I wanted to. Lol That does not mean different portions of my life won’t look different at times. It’s a happy medium.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 06:55 PM
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