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Been there and understand how you feel…my ex said “that’s just what happens during divorce”…dumb. Record everything you can, find a way to do domestic conciliation(if you can) limit interactions, and if you have to- make sure someone is with you. Kids make things tough but apparently women can say whatever they want…complete bs. Serving papers sets the tone in your favor IE you get to set the schedule (for now) but it doesn’t really mean much in the end…people can be horrible, don’t underestimat…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/22 04:04 PM
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I don’t care what anyone says, fight for 50/50… “back and fourth isn’t good”….fuck that. The kids need equal parenting…unless there’s a reason (abuse, drugs, etc) no reason to not let the kids grow up w the parents equally in their lives. Even if you don’t get it, you’ll get to (one day) tell your kids you did everything you could or even better, you get it. Courts want 50/50 there’s a crazy amount of studies that show that kids benefit from equal parenting time. Don’t let people “tell you what …
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 02:05 AM
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My ex hired a female and so I did the same…I would highly recommend you do the same. The odds are already stacked against us. Also it depends on what state you’re in…but my experience is you’re already behind if you’re a man…extra fair.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 04:23 PM
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My ex made up some crazy shit about me and ran my name through the ringer…told friends, family and anyone who would listen false stories so she could look “brave” and justified for leaving….who cares about our 2 kids, who cares that one day they’ll hear crazy shit about their dad (that’s not true) who cares we broke our home up for a selfish, covert narcissist who just wanted to have more $, better looking husband, better everything….it’s all worth it (for them) she made false CPS claims, crazy …
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 04:23 AM
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Without a doubt go to mediation….I understand everyone has different outcomes but mine was in favor of 50/50 if it things get dirty they’ll be able to tell the judge on your behalf of your character and moral judgment. If you rely on attorneys, they will always paint a picture of you that makes you seem like the bad guy. I would do mediation or even better would be domestic conciliation. If you have questions or want to discuss strategy I would be happy to help.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/22 05:29 AM
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No illegal but ill advised- I wouldn’t talk about anything…friends and co workers could be telling people about your strategy, financial situation, whatever…there’s also a chance someone is telling your ex. People told me this and I guess I didn’t listen, friends who I thought where trustworthy ended up not being loyal. Just a warning- talk to your therapist, lawyer, or pastor…but save the rest to just family or a very, very small circle.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 05:13 AM
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Bro…Absolutely not. This will be a huge mistake…I don’t care if you guys are cool now or CS gets adjusted….nope nope nope.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/21 03:29 AM
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Yes, that’s a great idea and I have no idea how to do it but I would support this however I could.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 02:37 AM
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I agree w you on all fronts, the thing I struggle with the most is the fact that cause you’re a man- you must be guilty. Everything my STBX says is taken for truth cause she’s tiny and cute….I will never hear someone’s “story” and not think about the other side of the coin again. My wife has said the most cruel, horrible shit imaginable and people just see her as the victim….now…the ONE guy I leaned on during my divorce is dating my wife….that’s right. You can’t make this shit up….I sat next to …
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 02:36 AM
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I wish my story was false….so much shit it doesn’t even seem like a lifetime special….funny, I’m portrayed as the bad guy too…lol you have to laugh cause this shit is too sad to be anything else. Covert narcissist and she checks every box…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/21 10:35 PM
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Agreed- I feel like my attorney and my wife’s are in cahoots. Sorry for what you’re going through. It truly sucks, I think I’d rather be shot than deal with this shit. My wife has made this such a difficult process too- why?! My wife’s a scary, rude, dishonest narcissist….I just put those things to the side because that’s what you’re supposed to do in a marriage. You forgive and move on…til you have to repeat. It’s amazing all of the shit my wife has put me through and now she feels like she nee…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 02:56 AM
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You Haven’t met my stbxw then
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/21 11:52 PM
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Too late - shity advice
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/21 07:46 AM
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Also...we can use it. In my state, what I have is legal
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/21 05:45 AM
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I have one- we are holding it incase she gets weird. (Weirder)
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/21 05:45 AM
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I’m in the same boat....I don’t understand how someone can lie to someone you spent (in my case) 13 years with. I sacrificed almost everything for her, now she makes up stories and lies about the dumbest shit....I’m trying to take the high road, I have proof of some very, very damning evidence but I’m trying to keep things cool even through the bs. I was on level 1 at the beginning, now I’m @ level 2- there’s one more level and she would be completely screwed if I played my (several) aces I’m ho…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/21 04:55 AM
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How long do you keep “your income low” I’m getting ready to file a motion and not sure what to do. I’m unemployed but have made 6 figures for the last 15 years. How long til I can get a regular job back?
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 04:02 AM
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I wish I had good answers- the one I went to yesterday was trying to ruin my ex’s life. I’m not to that point...yet. I would try and make sure they listen to what you want and make sure it’s at the pace you want. I’m still looking myself- so if you figure it out let me know too
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/21 05:33 PM
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Doesn’t feel like I do....1.in the temporary order she gets everything in our joint checking and savings....2. She’s getting everything she asked for 3. She gets to take our kids “whole” room. TVs CPU and beds, so essentially she took all the money. How am I supposed to let them sleep or want to come over with all of the video games and beds gone
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/21 02:42 AM
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K last question- she didn’t ask for alimony or child support cause I’m unemployed (still paying for tons of other stuff) should I stay unemployed or is she going to take me back to court after I gain employment?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/21 02:29 AM
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Appreciate that- it doesn’t feel like anything will work out but got served tonight, finally. So it’s not as bad as I thought but it’s not great. Is there a way for me to say money here? I have to pay for everything and she gets everything in our account....plus she took cash we had.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/21 02:01 AM
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It’s such shit- I’m never getting married again.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/21 03:45 AM
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Appreciate that- I’m trying not to cry in a Wendy’s right now. I haven’t cried in 20 years...last few days I’ve bawled my eyes out. When my kids told me the reason they didn’t come home was because “mom didn’t feel safe” I lost it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 11:21 PM
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I can’t fight the lies? Just her word vs mine? I have stuff to play dirty but I’m not sure I can go down that road. I also have our last fight recorded- I told her I had it so that might be getting used against me. I’m feel so fucked right now. No record, no abuse, no claims of abuse- she just doesn’t like our life situation right now...just bs. Sounds like they’re not trying to do 50 50 either
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 11:03 PM
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Thank you- she dropped the kids off but I only have them for a bit. She told them “she didn’t feel safe to come home.....” that really fucked me up. I have a feeling she’s going to try and be a bitch. Completely unfair...one of my text messages was “just be truthful” and apparently telling our kids she didn’t feel safe really pissed me of. I don’t understand why this is all happening like this....we could have fucking talked. Nothing required this....especially not lying
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 10:53 PM
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What happens when I’m served? What does that say? Just a date to go to court?
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 10:25 PM
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That’s good advice- I wish any of this was fair
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 10:25 PM
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Thx- I’m trying to get my shit together but I can’t seem to
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 10:24 PM
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