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Probably gonna get buried in the election doomposting, so I guess I'll go ahead and say it now. I'm leaving, for good this time. It's been 6ish years of participating on this sub on and off. I've been meaning to leave for a while, but kept getting drawn back in. I will genuinely miss some of you. Others...can work on being the type of user worth missing, if they so choose. I talk about my love quite often here. We are now in the process of preparing for some major milestones in our relationship.…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 06:44 AM
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Moral alignment
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:50 AM
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I prefer a convent
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:50 AM
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I'm certainly not complaining
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:39 AM
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I prefer virgin men. Our morals and values are way more likely to line up than a dude who has had sex with a ton of women of any kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:26 AM
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Active aggression vs passive aggression
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:28 AM
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Preference =/= kink. Kink is explicitly about sexual gratification. I think that it is very romantic that my partner and I are both virgins and that we will get to share the experience of losing our virginities together. Specifically taking his virginity is not what arouses me. I have dealt with guys who did have that particular kink, not just preference, and quite frankly they were repulsive. One told me in explicit detail that he was looking forward to making me bleed and feel pain. Yeah I fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:12 AM
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I think that "spiral of silenece" theory is more appropriate. "Virtue signaling" suggests that the person is not actually taking action. A person who happens to live in a specific way that garners social approval, and talks about it on the internet, is not virtue signaling. So where are all the people who don't live like that? They're probably just not saying anything, because they know they'll be shit on for it. That's spiral of silence. That leaves the people who, while perhaps being truthful,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:40 PM
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It's basically a massive crossover event where chronically online weirdos are colliding with the normal people who are now getting recommended that sub for reasons that aren't clear
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:27 PM
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I disagree that introducing a hypothetical man who has gone to space already adds anything meaningful to this discussion. I would assume that would be a red flag for her as well, but hey she might say that changes everything. I don't know her. I am talking about possibilities. As I've expressed, I think the economic context is important. I disagree that I am forcing anything, or that the principle of Occam's razor readily applies to discussing any given individual's red flags and dealbreakers, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:23 PM
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Pray tell how being submissive and agreeable is "boss babe" behavior? The word "boss" is present in that term for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:05 PM
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An example from my own life is deciding where to spend the holidays. My BF and I are both close with our families, and we both spent 100% of every major holiday with our families prior to meeting each other. Now we spend the afternoon with my family, and the evening with his. We have made sacrifices in terms of getting to spend the whole day with each of our respective families, but we each still get equal time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:04 PM
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They always take an unripe or undeveloped attitude like ‘boss babe’ or ‘girlboss’. Do you know what these terms mean? Because the attitudes/behaviors you go on to describe aren't really compatible with it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:58 PM
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I think it's impossible to divorce the context of her economic status from this. A random middle class woman saying this is an "ick" for her is not the same as a millionaire celebrity who hangs out with other millionaires saying this. If she has noticed that the kind of man signing up for Virgin Galactic's next flight isn't the kind of man she tends to vibe with, more power to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:34 PM
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Have you ever read O. Henry's Gift of the Magi? That is probably one of the most iconic examples of wholesome, mutual sacrifice in a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:23 PM
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I think it's possible she's trying to vet for guys who are more down to earth (no pun intended) and don't plan to live in excess. Remember that this isn't just some hypothetical pipe dream for men in her economic bracket, civilian space flights are in fact a thing. You would have to drop more than 5X the average annual income for American families for a single trip though. It's like a male celebrity using "would you own a Birkin bag" to vet women. Some women might not like it obviously but if he…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:11 PM
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I was thinking anywhere from early 20s to early 30s. And my reverse image search investigation indicates that this is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:26 PM
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Two things are true here Your GF is crazy. First couple of months are "best behavior." It's only gonna get worse from here. You rebounded pretty fast and don't seem to be over your ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 04:34 PM
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I have a "never say never, never say always" approach to this topic. I find that definitively claiming you could never be attracted to an entire race or that you prefer a particular race comes from assumptions of what people in that group look like which are often limiting/incorrect. There can be a lot more phenotypic diversity in racial groups than people who say things like this are probably understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 04:21 PM
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Horseshoe effect in action lol. My faith discourages cohabitation before marriage. A lot of "girlfriend with wife duties" stuff seems to stem from cohabitation before marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 04:07 AM
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Eh as someone who grew up in wealthy conservative-leaning Bible Belt suburbs, there are definitely attractive people who care. Granted they generally aren't on dating apps, they meet through their likeminded circles of similar economic status.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:47 PM
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Oh there is definitely no genuine friendship here imo, this is just a dude who he's been waiting for his shot and missed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 06:53 AM
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Both people here rub me the wrong way honestly Her end: She was okay at first but then escalated very quickly to rejecting him in a very uncalled for way, honestly just not responding to him at all would've been better. His end: Guys who still think they have a shot and keep pushing when the woman's responses are clearly, intentionally brief and uninterested are annoying. Imo he's also disingenuous by framing it as him just trying to catch up with an old friend when the messages clearly indicate…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 06:29 AM
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Fear of imminent death and feelings of arousal are not compatible for me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:12 PM
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Definitely. I have pointed this out to certain male users here with more extreme stances on female modesty. But then you have a scenario like a bikini car wash, where the explicit attention is for the participants to sexualize themselves as much as is legally possible for the sake of raising more money than they have in previous years. I would absolutely not blame a dude for drawing the line there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:10 PM
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Oh you're not alone, there's no way in ever living fuck I would expect my spouse to be okay with this, but I acknowledge that my personal values can be a bit out of step with some of these threads
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:05 PM
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Type in "date night [insert your town/area]" on Instagram, look for stuff that's quirky and aesthetically pleasing. There are literally accounts solely dedicated to that sort of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:01 PM
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The chill spouses of Reddit strike again Excerpt from one comment: From my point of view, the only "drawback" is that men will have a chance to ogle your wife. I don't see why that is an issue so long as your wife is comfortable with it. I'm married and don't give a shit if someone looks at or hits on my spouse. At the end of the day, I trust them and know they're coming home to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 08:55 PM
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Funnily enough my BF fit a lot of these early on in our relationship, but I was very much attracted to him anyway. Granted I like to take things slow as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 08:35 PM
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Not saying this is your reason but you reminded me of this comment from one of the AITA or relationship subreddits I saved for PPD Not trying to be too cynical but one big reason for guys to continue playing in a band which will never be a huge deal, is to have access to a dollar-store rockstar lifestyle. You're not snorting Columbian flake off models' asses but you can pop some cheap Adderal and bang your choice from a handful of average looking women who have personality disorders and/or subst…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 05:55 PM
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That's her actually
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:40 AM
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Curious. I don't remember a PleaseTouchGrass user on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:08 AM
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Still haven't figured out who you used to be
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:48 AM
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She was great. I hope she comes back one day. Then again, not really. She deserves better.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:45 AM
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Nah, she went by CimZim at one point, another username the most recent time here. She runs a game store. Helped me choose a Christmas gift for my BF who's into DND.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:42 AM
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Yeah we don't do "one of the good ones", that almost never turns out well
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:36 AM
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Don't worry, there's plenty of that to go around. Remember the autistic tomboy female user who was very kind and supportive of the men here but kept getting shit on by them in return and left because of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:35 AM
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As a middle schooler I was so invested in their relationship. Literally the first episode I saw on Nick at Nite was the one where she has a shopping addiction and they kiss, but she faints and forgets it. I was hooked from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:53 PM
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Minutes ago. I am an elder Gen Z who much prefers calling over texting. It used to stress me out more when I was younger but thankfully I grew out of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:45 PM
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There's a shot of a Charizard in the first anime opening that specifically comes from an episode about giant Pokémon. They aren't always consistent about his size in the anime but if you were thinking Godzilla size it was probably because of the opening.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:54 PM
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You know that meme that's like "excuse me, he asked for no pickes"? That was very relatable for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 05:43 PM
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I prefer gentle and passive men while being the opposite of those things
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 05:30 PM
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I choose the quokka. Their resting smiley faces which do not actually reflect how they feel internally is very relatable to me. https://preview.redd.it/nqronsezskxd1.jpeg?width=990&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=07ad7a6b5fc67032f48ee74e2f634d791025c744
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 10:47 PM
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My answer for all three
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 09:50 PM
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I prefer to be a little secretive about that for privacy reasons lol. Most I can say is that we're waiting until I finish postgrad to get engaged. And then marriage within 2 years of that. I believe you're married, right? How long?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 06:22 PM
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In Catholicism, we believe in a middle ground between heaven and hell called purgatory. It is where an individual who isn't quite ready for heaven is prepared for it. It is believed that the vast majority of people who will go to heaven, believers or not, will have to spend time in purgatory first for various reasons. No one will be in purgatory forever. You cannot flunk out of purgatory and get downgraded to hell or something. Hell is for the truly irredeemable. In my view, it would take a lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 04:03 AM
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Thank you so much ☺️ My answer to that question is pretty entrenched in my dating experiences as a virgin well into her 20s. Some men, particularly ones who have built up particular fantasies in their heads, have very pornified understandings of what dating a virgin woman is like. I have talked on here about how I thought I hated French kissing, and that I would have to simply tolerate it for my partner. The guy who caused me to have that idea, knew I hadn't been kissed that way before, and deci…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 03:37 AM
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Pretty much every dude in Saint Seiya honestly (or Knights of the Zodiac as I knew it as a kid)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:41 AM
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Anything for one of my favorite users here gay rights?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:39 AM
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That "last 10 years" part is really screwing me over, most of my favorites are more like 90s to early 2010s. With that constraint along with the other criteria, I have to go with Devilman Crybaby. As long as you're in the mood to be depressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:36 AM
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A safe, walkable city with good public transport
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:27 AM
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I just let others diagnose me on that as they see fit
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:15 AM
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It's actually kind of funny. The prevailing understanding in TRP for quite some time was that it's cucked/BP for a man to be Christian in the west. And I'm a devout Christian, who likes Christian men. So, BP. It isn't deeper than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:12 AM
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No. That sort of thinking is more of a Protestant thing ime. Catholicism does not teach that non-believers are in hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:06 AM
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Uh...AMA?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 01:36 AM
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How did you find PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 01:11 AM
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Am I crazy or has the DND crowd kinda become "attractive hipster white people plus maybe a minority or two"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 03:40 AM
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Hey this sub claims that 30-something women are settling down with betas after fun in their 20s. At this rate she's going to be 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 11:41 PM
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Hello hello
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 11:01 PM
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Oh. Sounds like we need a deeper cut then. The Dark by VHS Collection?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:51 PM
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I mean if you can set aside the fact that their new vocalist seems absolutely bonkers Linkin Park's Heavy is the Crown is pretty catchy imo
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:46 PM
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Yes that is how I would define "involving someone", not just asking them a question about where you can sit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:02 PM
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Yeah we're gonna have to agree to disagree that this brief, ambiguous interaction indicates this woman expected OP to help her
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:48 PM
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There is no indication any woman tried to involve OP while the incident was unfolding. The "bus stop lady" talked shit about him after the fact. Again, I find it really strange that this woman was hyper-focused on chastising him for not stepping in when this kind of stuff happens a lot on public transportation and he could've simply not noticed or needed to leave and come back for any number of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:38 PM
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I don't think that's how people in mutually respectful, healthy relationships treat each other
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:34 PM
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Glad we've come to an understanding
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:32 PM
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I'm sure they appreciate your concern
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:31 PM
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The internet drama over Robert Pattinson choosing not to get roided out for Batman is pretty emblematic of the difference imo. It seemed like dudes had the biggest issue with it while the ladies were very content.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:30 PM
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Oh, hello again. I stand by my position that nobody has to stop giving a piece of advice because randoms on the internet don't like it/say it didn't work for them personally. I'm sorry that this concept deeply offends some of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:19 PM
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Good thing we don't have to relate to each other!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:13 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:11 PM
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I always use the good ol' photo for photo strat when solo traveling. I look for the nearest group that's awkwardly trying to figure out who's going to get left out to take this picture, and then volunteer to take it so everyone can be in it. A lot of times you won't even have to explicitly ask, they'll ask you if you want a photo there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 01:57 PM
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so I sat us both down at the kitchen table Couples in Reddit stories are physically incapable of having conversations anywhere else. The idea of having a serious talk and being like "wait hold up, we need to move to the kitchen table specifically" is so funny to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:59 PM
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It's definitely something he went without for too long
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:28 PM
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This thread on how men respond to the idea of being called "beautiful" is so fascinating to me. The top comments currently: A woman called me cute once. Coming up on 12 years since that moment Deeply, deeply suspicious. Pretty confidant she was loaded drunk I tell my SO that he's beautiful quite often. I don't think there are any other words that adequately capture the awe I feel staring at him. The term tends to have a feminine connotation when describing people. But we also use it to describe …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:21 PM
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I feel like the wildest parts of this story are that A. you threw off your schedule by 20-30 minutes to avoid some typical public transport BS. Seriously I've been the woman in that situation and I still didn't retreat for 20-30 minutes to avoid the dude. B. This "bus stop lady" has mind reading powers. There is not nearly enough information here to indicate how she knew exactly why you left. She probably also witnesses similar stuff daily, so it is also pretty surprising the one dude who could …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 11:39 AM
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The only evidence you've given is your personal experience. And I'm sure other men could chime in and say "this didn't work." But then, for any piece of advice regarding literally anything under the sun, the same thing is true. So should no one ever give advice? No, that isn't reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 10:53 AM
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Interesting. I thought tenderloin was one of the leaner cuts
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 06:11 AM
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What cut was this, ribeye?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 06:01 AM
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Yes. One of the most memorable episodes was when one of my friends from high school was having a bad day so she literally ran up to where I was sitting on the ground, dove on me, and sent us both rolling like something out of a cartoon. She wanted me to hold her and comfort her or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:11 AM
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If you stopped giving a piece of advice on the basis of "it didn't work for someone, somewhere and that person is now sad" there would be no advice to give anyone at all
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:52 AM
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The great thing about taking someone's advice is that it's not a permanent life commitment. If it doesn't work you can always try something else. I have gotten a lot of advice from many people in different areas that did not work for me personally. What did I do? Agonize over being "lied to"? No. I just adjusted my methods accordingly and accepted that there isn't a "one size fits all" key to success.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:24 AM
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She's mixed (Asian) but white-passing, baby looks white, he looks white. So...probably?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:20 AM
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I find that that was a bigger issue when purge week was still a thing and we were doing the reveal threads more often
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 01:35 AM
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Yes. Crying in public is a major taboo in my family, even if you're doing it quietly and not being disruptive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:17 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:15 AM
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For a sex worker, which brings a very different kind of connotation to this discussion than doing the same for a standard romantic/sexual partner
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 09:14 PM
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That's manic post-breakup behavior, do not get your hopes up for anything to come of it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:18 PM
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Doubt it. She has a job and I presume the parents are also helping her out financially. Didn't ask what her BF does for a living. Doesn't seem like the type who's working in a profession that could support a woman and child, even modestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:54 PM
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You really fucked up this analogy with the virtual sex worker part
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:43 PM
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In my experience yes. I must be the one person on Reddit who has witnessed shorter than average women mostly dating shorter than average men and people with similar sociosexual views mostly dating each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:32 PM
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I've met someone like this through mutual friends. Early 20s. She's attractive, has done pageants and modeling, no noticeable weight gain from the pregnancy. Last I checked she was dating an attractive young working class guy. Her parents watch the baby when she wants to go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:14 PM
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someone who's stuttering for words because he's nervous and has never felt the touch of a woman. 10/10 recommend
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:00 AM
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There's this meme about only being able to pull white dudes when your hair is natural. I mean...I haven't gotten a relaxer since high school. And my BF is white. Coincidence? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:32 AM
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Both. Face is absolutely the most important aspect of attraction to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:31 AM
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I meant it more in this sense
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:18 AM
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Jon Heder (Napoleon Dynamite) isn't a "sub 5 male" regardless of height imo, that is a case of "Hollywood ugly." I do agree that #2 is definitely more attractive though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:08 AM
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Depending on the professor, yes it's possible. Random one-off research papers do not need to be that rigorous in terms of methodology because of the constraints mentioned. The more serious research experience comes from writing a thesis, dissertation, submitting actual papers to conferences, and working with professors on their publications.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:02 AM
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I'm guessing that these are for projects that will not see the light of day outside of the professor or TA grading. Published academic research, dissertations, etc. have the higher standard for sampling. For smaller stuff with time crunches non-probability sampling is more likely to be permissible. Your professor will generally make sure you're aware of this distinction.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:07 PM
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There are two styles of argumentation I have noticed on PPD and even Reddit at large when it comes to discussing dating preferences: the voice of the collective, and the anecdoter. Ultimately, the two are not very different. You can infer that both of these people are speaking based on their personal observations and experiences, the sole difference is the presentation they have chosen. My theory is that the collectives feel some innate desire to be a part of the mainstream consensus while anecd…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:57 PM
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Honestly just the fact that she's married disqualifies her from the conventional understanding of what a "cat lady" is. It is literally just culture war BS that isn't persuading anybody and is mainly used by the types of people who were never going to vote for a Democrat anyway. It would be like thinking that any number of random ad hominem attacks commonly used among liberals are going to dissuade Trump voters.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:17 AM
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In the weeks following mainstream pundits will be shocked by the number of blue collar Democrat men who will vote for Trump over Harris simply because they hate liberal women. The much more plausible scenario here is blue collar Democrat men simply not showing up to vote, not suddenly switching to Trump. Yes it could still cost Harris the election but not in the way you're describing. Harris is a childless cat lady This is straight-up conservative culture war speak, trust me this is not going to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:32 AM
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The huge caveat of how men rated vs. who they actually messaged in this data has already been discussed ad nauseam on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 08:12 PM
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BREAKING NEWS "I can't imagine why women like these people," says man who likes these people
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 06:56 PM
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What the hell is b*******l
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 11:57 AM
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Got it. So it's not a case of a dude who is supposedly 100% against having kids but doesn't want the procedure done for...reasons. My view on this is heavily biased as someone who would personally never get an abortion. I can empathize with her view, but she came around too late and now she's in a relationship with a dude who signed up for one thing while she now wants another. Imo she's wrong not for keeping the baby but for not accepting the consequences of the prior agreement she had with her…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:25 AM
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Clarification: why has this man not gotten a vasectomy?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 12:43 AM
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It's pretty much a rule that any anime character who has a redemption arc will either die or hook up with someone in the main cast. Gaara is one of the few examples who became good, lived, and got no ass to show for it (that we know of)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:52 PM
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I became very careful about mentioning my lack of sexual experience specifically because some men are very quick to fetishize it and say extremely weird/inappropriate things or behave in ways I wasn't comfortable with. I would respond truthfully when asked directly. I would be very upfront about being a serious Catholic. I never believed in asking a man to share his sexual history with me until well after we had established some rapport and trust, around the same time I would be comfortable talk…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:36 PM
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Multiple times throughout my life in different areas. I've had it happen with coed academic competitions in high school, card games, video games, grades on assignments, simply being slightly more knowledgeable on a particular topic in casual conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:48 AM
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I find that one of the biggest issues I have with discussing loneliness as a societal issue is that it's not necessarily something that an outside force can rescue anyone from. If isolation is the problem...nobody can break down your door and force you to come outside. That's a choice the individual has to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:49 AM
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Forgive me if I misunderstood, but you seemed to be curious if women share experiences similar to men in terms of being rejected for opening up emotionally. I find that men don't mind it, because that sort of thing is a part of the gender role expected of a woman. Step out of your "place" so to speak, and then you may get a reaction more akin to a man crying in front of a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:46 AM
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No but I have noticed a very swift difference in a dude's demeanor after beating him at pretty much anything or turning out to know more about something than he does
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:32 AM
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I am absolutely guilty of laughing when I didn't even hear the joke because the person's energy was so entertaining to me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:50 AM
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Yeah. Though those who know me irl say it's very easy to make me laugh. I disagree, I think there are just a lot of funny people out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:36 AM
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Is watashi wa star tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:28 AM
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Okay I'm not afraid to admit I would've laughed my ass off at that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:26 AM
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We are not interpreting OP in the same way. This is the clarification he offers: Not in a literal sense of "Do you know why?" I mean in the sense of, can you see where men are coming from when they say they don't want to be the safe option? Can you somewhat empathise with it and say "You know I get that view completely" He explicitly says that simply knowing why isn't sufficient, he seems to be asking if we connect with men's feelings on this topic on a deeper, emotional level. Which I don't, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:11 AM
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Plus some of us are simply not sexually active yet, are basically horny 24/7, and can't even conceive of turning down sex for any reason once lawfully married. Not gonna name any names. Just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:05 AM
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I live to serve!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:54 AM
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I don't care what you're talking about. I trust the OP's judgment in how he flaired this post, which suggests wanting women's opinions as opposed to wanting to have his view challenged. If this post were "Debate: Being the safe option sucks", I wouldn't have commented. Because anyone has a right to feel that way, and therefore what is there to debate. If he wants to make that post, or you want to make that post, go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:51 AM
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The Menu. I like the kind of horror that doesn't overly rely on jump scares or gore. More the kind that's disturbing and tense and unpredictable, leading up to some crazy finale.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:46 AM
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When people on this sub say "tall" just assume they're quietly leaving off "and extroverted and athletic" because any other kind of tall man is invisible to them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:43 AM
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What "debate"? This post is clearly flaired Q4W.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:24 AM
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Imo part of the problem is that the kink window has shifted so stuff that would've been "kinky" is just vanilla to a lot of people now and "kinky" is truly unusual/extreme
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:22 AM
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The two men I dated before my BF were both under 6' and funnily enough did have prior romantic experience while my BF did not
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:13 AM
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Can't get more concrete than binary. Binary =/= concrete. Concrete refers to physical, observable phenomena. You can frame abstract ideas (like love and hate) as binary.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:12 AM
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I'm sorry to hear that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:07 AM
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Yep, which is how I know. I don't go around shouting it from the rooftops, I just answer honestly when asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:05 AM
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If so I don't blame her. Just admitting you have a BF over 6' on this sub in any capacity will get you dog piled so may as well lean in
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:53 PM
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I don't think this is a gender difference so much as people who have self-esteem vs people who do not
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:47 PM
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Some of the men on this sub definitely give me doubts about whether they want women to express feeling any kind of safety or security with them at all, because to them it means "no attraction." Yeah my perspectives are not easily pushed around by strangers on the internet. Thankfully, I promise that my personal views on this are not going to affect any of your lives. My BF and I firmly agree that feeling safe and secure are important aspects of our relationship that are absolutely compatible wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:43 PM
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Not everyone can run or jump as fast as each other so why is it any different for love. In the same way that nobody is obligated to send someone who doesn't do those things sufficiently to the Olympics, you are not obligated to be in a relationship with someone who is a shitty partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:34 PM
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When she is not showing enough love, we assume that's all she has to show. Are we supposed to judge her on that? That seems mean. She just love us, she says as much ... Why would anyone lie about that. No, having standards and not tolerating the bare minimum isn't "mean." Please make it a mantra and repeat it in the mirror every single day if you have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:26 PM
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And others simply associate safe with "protection, security, loyalty" as in "safe haven." Is anyone right or wrong? No. I am not the final arbiter of what this incredibly vague term means. Op asked for our personal opinions, and that is mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:24 PM
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"How does she view you" is an incredibly vague and abstract concept. How you are treated is concrete. Let's say you're not the hottest or most talented or whatever man she has ever been with. If she's treating you like she genuinely values and cares for you, obsessing over being these superlatives in her life makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:14 PM
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You don't have to. Let's say she shows up an hour late to every date and refuses to put in any effort whatsoever for your birthday. Those are behaviors that can be assessed in a vacuum. If respecting your time and being thoughtful are things you value in a romantic relationship, the who what where why and how behind her not meeting your needs is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 10:02 PM
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Did you see the last part of my comment? No effort is no effort. I'm not magically okay with subpar treatment as long as every other woman he's dated got the same subpar treatment, or as long as he's dated no one else at all. Imo by the end of your post you are fixating way too much on the woman's experience as opposed to how she is actually behaving in the relationship. Virgins and inexperienced women can have flaws believe it or not. We are not perfect unicorn creatures who never let anyone do…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:35 PM
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I have only seen feminists shit on Marvel for various reasons so I'm definitely gonna press X to doubt on that one
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:19 PM
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Ironically, you left out the most important part of the "context" that matters: How are you being treated in your relationship? Are you satisfied with it? What makes you feel valued? What makes you feel appreciated? Is your partner doing that? I'm genuinely not sure some of you know how to feel that way unless you're comparing yourself to some other dude. Under another post a user tried to use the comparison with me "you know he did more for other girls." No effort is no effort. I'm not magicall…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:14 PM
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If it's any consolation, I have never said that ever to anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:31 PM
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Like "muscle mommy" stuff? I think the particular body part in question is what matters more. Admiring arms and abs is simply not considered sexual in the same way admiring an ass is. If a man is zeroing in on a muscular woman's ass or breasts I'm not sure it would get the feminist<sup>TM</sup> seal of approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:24 PM
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Iirc the show actually pays out, not the loser. So that alone would probably be enough incentive for a good number of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:08 PM
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Husband, son, dad
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:03 PM
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Why didn't you use the actual straightforward equivalent, which would be a woman's abs
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:02 PM
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Didn't have my awakening until 19 when I basically got stuck in the museum equivalent of a mosh pit trying to see the Mona Lisa. I understood the basic mechanics of sex. The kissing and skin-to-skin contact made sense, but I never really got the appeal or desire for the PIV aspect until that day. Stranger's pelvis got stuck against me, and something finally clicked. Still not sexually active because I'm insistent on waiting until marriage, but I've been very aware of an increase in my overall in…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 07:39 PM
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I still can't forget the time I saw a Reddit post where a dude was trying to figure out how to convince his wife who isn't into two guys/one woman threesomes to try it. To him, her problem was that she would see him as a cuck, which is different from what he wanted. And so he needed to figure out how to explain to her that a husband wanting an mmf threesome doesn't make him a cuck. Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 04:27 PM
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It's not, dude is looking for validation and DMs on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:27 PM
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That is a connotation that specific people have assigned to it, which I disagree with. We are fundamentally not going to see eye-to-eye on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:04 PM
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Noope. I am a teetotaler who values a similar lifestyle in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:52 PM
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This is just straight-up not being treated well by your partner, the inherent issue here isn't being seen as safe. I think a mature adult should be perfectly capable of seeing you as safe while also not saying they would leave at a moment's notice or putting in zero effort. What he did with other girls doesn't even matter, if he has no romantic experience and treats me like he doesn't give a shit, I'd be out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:50 PM
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Goes out every weekend Assuming you're referring to night life like bars, clubs, etc., big dealbreaker for me Has a kid with another woman but still pays his way I prefer men who haven't had sex (like me) and this situation means he probably doesn't qualify Has a dark sense of humour This can work in small doses but I couldn't date a man who takes it too far/says twisted shit all day Not fond of having kids I want kids Is someone who gets into fights I don't like fights
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:41 PM
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Has he literally said that or am I just making up his lack of enthusiasm because I assume that desire is mutually exclusive with appreciating competence and maturity? I would see a far bigger issue if he's turned off by my ability to cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:33 PM
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I would envy top pro golfers a lot more. Apparently the highest paid right now makes $218 million a year and he's not risking brain damage every time he swings a club.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:43 AM
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Thank you. It is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:09 AM
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A guy told us his kid said "they're going to be together forever." That one was kinda sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:10 AM
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I remember having similar feelings as a teenager in high school. Grown adults fretting over their SO admiring them for grown adult traits? Yeah no I can't relate to that as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:07 AM
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Yeah there is no shortage of gym rats who hate themselves on the dating market
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:53 PM
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I don’t know why people keep thinking muscle always feels like rocks. Dudes who have body dysmorphia and flex whenever a woman touches them. I speak from personal experience with that unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:40 PM
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Submission is a weird and at times paradoxical concept to me. My love, for example, is as gentle and docile as it gets. I admire him deeply. I think in terms of morals and virtue he is a far better person than I will ever be in this life. There aren't many people like him in this world. Among men, in my eyes, he is the greatest. To the extent that he has authority over me, it's not in a domineering or commanding way. Not in a way that leaves me feeling trapped or ignored. It's more that he has t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:28 PM
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Why does this 20yo woman look like a 40yo woman with plastic surgery
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:05 PM
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Mutual attraction Shared interests Shared values
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 08:56 PM
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To me, it's all about patterns. Almost every person I know, male and female, who has had at least a couple relationships had that shitty one that may have at least crossed the line into emotional abuse. They learned from it. They didn't have that issue again. And then there's the ones with a pattern of ending up in these sorts of relationships with terrible people. My own sister is unfortunately a prime example. I love her, because she's my sister, but I would definitely hesitate before calling …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 06:49 PM
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Feminist discussions often focus on how male-dominated media objectifies women or how men fail to respect boundaries, but they don't sufficiently address how narratives created by and for women can also perpetuate problematic dynamics. Specifically, they overlook how media that resonates with women can condition boys to push boundaries in pursuit of women. People on this sub have a tendency to conflate "I don't look for this/am not personally interested in this" with "doesn't exist." I Google se…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 06:37 PM
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Does he drink/do drugs? Is he okay with waiting until marriage? Does he get along with his family?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 05:59 PM
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I consider my BF to be the most romantic out of the three guys I've dated. I'm also his first SO, and he admitted he spent a lot of time fantasizing and daydreaming about the kinds of romantic things he'd like to do with his first partner. Some stuff that particularly stands out to me: -He kept detailed notes on his phone about all of our major milestones as a couple. He'll often remember/start coming up with ideas for occasions like our anniversary and my birthday before I have even started to.…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 05:54 PM
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Or it could just be a matter of any of the variables discussed that you are conveniently ignoring here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 09:27 PM
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I have had many discussions with friends and family, as well have read many threads on here where stay at home spouses with and without children complain that their “job” is just as hard, demanding, stressful as the other spouse who is out working 50-60 hours a week to make sure their family is taken care of This is where I got the impression that you aren't just taking issue with a SAH claiming to do more, but also claiming they work just as hard. I was SAH parent of my children It took me thre…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 09:05 PM
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I think a disconnect here to be cautious about is how one defines "friends." In terms of men I am closest to, communicate with often, and hang out with regularly one-on-one, that is mostly my BF and my brother. I'm friendly with just about everyone, and I've been in friend groups with men. Would I be having prolonged direct text chains with them or meet up just the two of us? No. And if that is what one considers a "real" friendship to be then yeah I guess I don't really want or need that with g…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 07:53 PM
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It's understood between my BF and I that I'm more suited for the provider role and my BF is more suited to be a SAH parent. I think "fine, then why don't you take my place?" is a pointless gotcha. We know my abilities. We know his. I can't do everything he can, and he can't do everything I can. That doesn't make either of us inherently more valuable than the other. His mother was SAH for his entire life essentially, my dad did it for a few years in my adolescence. We both know that the provider …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 07:30 PM
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Books written for and targeting a female audience. So like chick lit and 99% of new adult romantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 06:34 PM
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Depends on the book
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 06:10 PM
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Too vague. It really comes down to what your specific goals are. Some education/career trajectories are more demanding than others and could require you to buckle down and put your social life on the backburner for some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 05:27 PM
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My dad is one of the most serious people I know but he still has his "Mack lines" as my mom calls them. A lot of wordplay not in a "haha funny" way but in a "damn that was smooth" way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 05:23 PM
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I wonder if they are also using it as evidence that normal women find the idea of a dude removing her tampon with his teeth sexy (yes according to a review I saw this is literally a thing that happens in the book) Edit: The teeth part is actually wrong apparently, but the actual scene is still...something He reaches between my legs and pulls on the blue string… what! And… gently pulls my tampon out and tosses it into the nearby toilet. Holy f***. Sweet mother of all… Jeez. Yeahh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:49 PM
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Ranked from most to least concerning (with some notes where applicable). I just left out the ones that aren't dealbreakers for me at all. has done a violent crime has done a non violent crime (e.g. fraud, tax evasion) does illegal drugs does legal and socially acceptable drugs single father and raising the kid knocked someone up and bailed out 5.5 has extreme political views Note: Forgot this one and didn't feel like editing all of the numbers, so 5.5. it is. bad relationship with his mom no col…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 03:00 PM
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Yeah that makes perfect sense but I've known guys like that who were still expected their fiancée to go half on everything
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 02:15 AM
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Ah. The classics. I was in high school when that song came out. That beat drop lives in my head rent-free to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:52 PM
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Now that's a proper motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:48 PM
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I appreciate it, but please don't fight with them on my behalf. If they have any questions about the source of my observations they can ask me directly. But they probably won't, because then they don't get to make up stories in their heads that suit whatever they wanted to believe before they even opened up this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 06:58 PM
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🎵Sipping from your cup 'til it runneth over, Holy Grail🎵
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 06:41 PM
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Yeah sounds about right. Dudes with money are some of the most tight-fisted you'll ever meet. You'd have an easier time getting a broke dude to spend his last money on you, as counterintuitive as that sounds. Or a dude whose parents have money. If I had any concerns here it would be the demands and risks of being in a relationship with someone who has that occupation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 06:22 PM
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For some people yes. I know a girl who's BF straight-up told her she wasn't attractive to him early on in their friendship, but then also later admitted he fell for because physical attraction isn't the most important thing to him. And she was fine with that. Granted I'm pretty sure they're both autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 01:14 PM
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Matthew Hussey had the market cornered on that for a long time. I bought one of his books once out of curiosity. I don't remember anything from it. Learning from the women in my family played the far bigger role. I also went to a high school for young ladies who often go on to marry into well-connected families. It wasn't explicitly to attract men, but the qualities rewarded and instilled there (attractiveness, modesty, warmth, graciousness, selflessness) definitely have that affect imo, at leas…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 01:05 PM
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Conflicted. I used to want to learn/own one myself, but the safety concerns deterred me. So I understand the desire, but I would feel even more worried for him than I would myself. And I would express that. But ultimately, it's up to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 12:39 PM
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You made me remember this cute Asian guy who worked at a restaurant near my undergrad campus. I never had to pay for my (non-alcoholic) drinks when he was my server. I got the vibe that he was flirty and probably doing similar things for lots of girls. But I was always a nervous mess when he would come over.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 01:25 AM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 01:07 AM
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I hope she sees this
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 07:24 PM
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An average woman (~5'3) can weigh up to around 140 pounds and still be technically considered a medically healthy weight, albeit borderline overweight. These women aren't just "healthy." Granted there could be some creative editing going on. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 09:41 AM
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Got 99.9% of the dating advice I ever needed from women in my family. My parents have been married for close to 30 years. Grandparents, over 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 02:32 AM
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So I have never searched the words "dating advice for women" on Youtube before in my life, but this post inspired to me check it out. The first thing I notice is that the top hits are from skinny, heavily made up conventionally attractive women talking about their personal experiences. I highly doubt these women ever struggled with men because of their looks or needed to be told that looks were important to men. They struggled with dating for other reasons, so that is what they are discussing. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 01:25 AM
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I've seen this said a lot. I'm skeptical though, particularly when it comes to internet discourse. When I watch annoying/boring/stupid male lead #1007 my instinct is not to go complain on the internet about it incessantly. I think the sentiments on badly written women are not sus so much as the sheer level of obsession. Like if you've started an entire YouTube channel dedicated to complaining about fictional women you've probably gone off the deep end.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:55 PM
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Ah yes, the "one thing." I feel like people need to come to terms with the fact that one thing is indeed sufficient to make two people incompatible. It's like a jenga tower. There are individual blocks on the tower that will not disrupt the stability of the tower. There are individual blocks that will send the whole tower crashing over if disturbed. Those are the blocks players try to avoid. I don't really have much to offer on your particular situation. I would personally never do that sort of …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 02:28 PM
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Black leather jacket. Mmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 10:11 PM
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Doing that kind of shit would be an absolute reputation destroyer in my social circles and even if anybody is they're probably taking it to the grave
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:21 PM
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My best match was Skylar from Good Will Hunting, I have never seen Good Will Hunting so I have no idea what to make of that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 08:56 PM
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I meant pass as in "still had a career after", unlike the dude from your post
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:07 PM
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Some of them absolutely get passes though if they're famous/essential enough. Remember Kai and Jenny?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 04:41 PM
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Told you it was funny
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 02:32 PM
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The funny thing about being a southern trad Christian is that you know guys who have literally been with the same girl since elementary and guys who have never dated. So it ends up being a pretty even mix of struggle, moderate, and literally as easy as it gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:00 PM
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Is the man asking if I go to the cloud district often
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:57 PM
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No problem at all. And thank you very much as well
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 04:56 AM
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At a bookstore. I thought I was being rude and standing in his way so I kinda stepped aside and glanced over at him. And that's when he asked me if I liked Tolkien, since I had been looking at LOTR. On my end, it just felt like a pleasant conversation with a guy who seemed a bit nervous and shy at first. We talked about fantasy novels, and then we bounced around topics from there. Especially as I got him to loosen up, smile, and laugh I thought "wow he's gorgeous." I was actually a little nervou…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 04:36 AM
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You're a sweetheart sheila ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:40 AM
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Jessica wears it! <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:17 AM
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Thank you <3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:15 AM
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Hello Sarai <3 Ever since I swore off relaxers I keep it braided lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:04 AM
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Funny you should say that. That exact jacket is actually worn by one of the main girls in 13 Reasons Why. I looked it up and apparently they had some kind of collaboration with Urban Outfitters, which is where I got it. Not Disney, but it is a high school show.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:03 AM
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I'm terrible at lying, especially to them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:57 PM
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Late body reveal featuring one of my BF's favorite outfits (some stuff marked out in the background for privacy) https://preview.redd.it/8zgesl6p3mud1.jpeg?width=1015&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=642c3b49cbd63a3de20a7cf3f27e2a3aed2cabba
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:56 PM
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In that case, it would be two options I don't take their money and struggle as a broke postgrad student I take their money and date no one until I'm financially independent Thankfully my family is more open-minded than that. They think that a man treating you well is more important than the color of his skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:30 PM
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My family spoils postgrad students. They're not making me fend for myself until they're satisfied with my income/QOL. So I do care about theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:20 PM
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Fascinating. Thankfully he doesn't pay my bills
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:06 PM
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Thank you!! We do live in the Bible Belt lol but thankfully the worst we get are confused stares every now and then
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:05 PM
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Who the fuck is that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:02 PM
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Sure. I don't see much of a point in fixating on potential outcomes when we're literally going to know the real, concrete outcome in less than a month. Unless you're genuinely into betting and have money on the line lol. But not wanting to deal with that stress is precisely why I don't gamble.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:02 PM
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If betting odds were magical prophecies Trump would still be running for his first term right now
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 10:34 PM
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Indeed he is
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 10:23 PM
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They deadass stole my BF's face for Hungary
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 09:43 PM
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You can choose not to date anyone for any reason. What is the alternative even? You date someone you're not attracted to and not happy with because it would have been "wrong" to reject them? Who would even want to date someone choosing them out of obligation?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 02:04 PM
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In general this sub seems to struggle with the concept that who you choose to associate with reflects on you as a person. "I'm a nice guy but here's what I noticed about the dating lives of all of the assholes I somehow get along with."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:10 PM
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I wouldn't be with anyone else regardless of how he dies. Hell it could be a car accident that was entirely his fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 05:32 AM
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I could perish tomorrow regardless. Such is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 05:30 AM
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Has anyone ever actually changed someone’s mind from debating on here? Is the question supposed to be about whether we changed someone else's mind or if someone else changed ours? I'm reading it as the former but people seem to be answering the latter. In terms of changing minds I think talking about my BF has had that affect on some people. He didn't have his first GF until 25 (me) so his experience seems to be relatable to certain users. For having my mind changed, nothing stands out really. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:51 AM
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If this sub ever needs a mascot I definitely vote for the sea lion
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:36 AM
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I appreciate the clarification and sharing of your personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:44 PM
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According to this sub I sound like I'm from the west coast. In reality, I was born and raised in the Bible Belt.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:59 PM
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I think the heart of the discourse is essentially "what human beings owe to one another." That often gets wrapped up in "need" language for better or worse. I would feel obligated to give a stranger dying of thirst water. I would not feel obligated to fuck a stranger who hasn't had sex in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:57 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:41 PM
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Some of these scenarios are just textbook sociosexual orientation stuff and isn't simply about "hot guy vs. average guy." Do you really think hot guys never encounter women who don't want to fuck a stranger within hours of meeting? The difference is having options; for every girl who doesn't do XYZ on a first date he can find others who will.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:51 PM
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Even as a devout virgin Catholic I never heard anything about that article until I came to Reddit and have never heard it mentioned beyond Reddit. I never really thought of preserving my virginity in terms of my desirability to men. My decision not to get tattoos was based entirely on simply not seeing the appeal of them in the first place. I do have student debt, "but what if this makes me unattractive to a man" certainly was not on my mind when weighing whether to take a full ride at a lower t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:31 PM
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That isn't a recent thing at all lol. Black women still face a lot of pressure to date within our race. And interestingly enough I find that the kinds of black women who have the most opportunities to and are most likely to succeed at interracial dating (very pretty, educated, well-spoken, generic Christian name) get the most pressure to stay within the race. Source: Black woman dating white guy
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:00 PM
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Dad?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:37 PM
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Then I know you're a lucky lady
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:06 PM
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She adores my father. They've been together through thick and thin since she was in her late teens and he was in his early 20s. She can't really stand for him to be unhappy, or to be wronged.Their 30th wedding anniversary isn't far off.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:06 PM
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I always appreciate your kind words!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:42 PM
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I think that people are free to apply whatever semantics they want to the arrangement. I just know that having a happy spouse running the household while I bring home the gravy sounds way more satisfying than the alternatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:42 PM
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Lol np. I don't necessarily even agree with all of her takes but I love her voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 07:12 PM
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Do you watch kidology on youtube?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 07:01 PM
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Nah. I was never really conditioned to see physical strength as an intrinsic part of my value as a human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:55 PM
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Yes. My dad was SAH for a good portion of my adolescence and those were some of the best years of all our lives. My mom could see that he was exhausted, jaded, and underappreciated in his workplace. So as soon as she got a major promotion and raise she asked him if he wanted to leave and stay at home for a while. So he did. My dad is a very organized and internally motivated person. He cannot leave chores undone and he cannot half ass them. Having him at home was critical to my mom's career prog…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:49 PM
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And if they had a problem with you or "hated sluts" they could just not hang out with you. Which is why I think OP's claims are nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:13 PM
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Anecdata can be useful and very necessary because many people on this sub do not understand data, particularly when it comes to translating the numbers to real life. For example, some seem to think that anything short of a majority is an irrelevant, tiny group of barely existent unicorn people. A 30% minority is still a shit ton of people when you're speaking on the level of a large population. A group doesn't even have to come close to 30% for you to encounter it on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:06 PM
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It was coined by a rich actor who actually had them problem and was appropriated by a bunch of dudes who will most likely never have that problem
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:35 AM
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There are definitely people on this sub more qualified to give newcomer recs than me. But one of my personal favorites is Code Geass. It's crazy and over the top. But pretty easy to get into.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:38 AM
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Smh. Missing out
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:31 AM
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Seems like you got the spelling right on your first try. I'm impressed. Fun fact: my username used to be a more on the nose reference to an anime called Evangelion. Nobody mentions it/picks up on it anymore so I guess it's too subtle now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:25 AM
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The two great truths of life You're allowed to do whatever you want Nobody is obligated to be attracted to that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:47 PM
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I'm not saying that this is his definitive issue but I feel like not knowing whether you want kids at the age of 28 is kinda strange
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:36 PM
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The neat thing about adulthood is that you get a lot of control over the types of people you surround yourself with and the environments you put yourself in. The women hanging out with promiscuous women are probably other promiscuous women living similar lifestyles. I don't really think about these types of women unless people, usually men on the internet, bring them up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:01 PM
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Mother and wife if and only if my current BF and love of my life sees it through with me. If anything were to happen to him before we make it down the aisle and/or have kids, I'm not pursuing it with anyone else. I would devote my life to other pursuits, work being one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 09:54 PM
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But they wouldn’t make eye contact with me, they would talk over me to each other, they wouldn’t ask me a single thing about myself even though I kept asking them questions about themselves Yeah if I invited women over and they treated my SO that way they wouldn't be getting another invite. These are basic respect and civility issues, not "getting close."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:59 PM
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Ah yes, dannyphantom.exe I may or may not have had a massive crush on him in undergrad. And also Brandon the Lover.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:21 PM
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I think a major issue with these conversations is people treating the concepts "majority", "many", and "a lot" interchangeably
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:16 PM
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That is a really strange claim to make especially when you are talking about an era where comedy movies had way more pop culture influence than they do today. And we all know that the male leads in these movies, who were in fact comedians, were not nearly as attractive as their female co-stars. Unless we are going to sit here and argue that Adam Sandler, Kevin James, Vince Vaughn, and co. are top 1% men, which wouldn't surprise me on this sub at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 03:23 PM
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Didn't the same user literally make a post saying that age gaps are fine and it's just jealous older women trying to restrict men's options?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:28 PM
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Conditioning myself to like unsweetened tea is one of the best weight maintenance moves I ever made as a southerner
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 12:09 PM
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My BF and I don't live together but we do our grocery shopping together anyway. Once it was pretty late, not that many people, and my favorite song was on so we danced in the aisle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 05:22 AM
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No he didn't https://preview.redd.it/3xifevjj72td1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3600eed7cdbf1080ed17db096fa46a9d4befc7cb
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 03:58 AM
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Yeah two big problems here: It wasn't asking for advice, it was asking women what they would do in the hypothetical scenario, so you're just blatantly lying about that. This sub doesn't even allow advice posts. That post was literally the opposite situation of what I commented. The respondents would be relationship material in the dude's eyes while the 19yo was not. I specifically said that our values would not be compatible because I don't believe in having casual sex. It had nothing to do with…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:38 PM
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And then later on, you found out he did the exact same thing, the exact same way for women before you; but simply way earlier in those previous relationships We can try every single analogy under the sun and it won't change the underlying reality that this isn't as viscerally upsetting to everyone as it is to some people who obsess about it constantly on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:19 PM
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A guy can disagree or dislike a woman arriving at a healthy weight via eating disorder or crash dieting but that won't make him appreciate the end product any less. Both of those methods have serious issues which can include rapidly relapsing or even death. "Appreciating the end product" under such circumstances says a lot about the dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 01:39 PM
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There are two parts to virtually any process: means and ends. Some believe that the ends are what should matter ultimately, not the means or how they were achieved. Others believe that both the ends and means matter. So the process for obtaining an objective is also subject to scrutiny. Compare someone who made gradual changes to their diet and exercise and lost the recommended 1-2 pounds per week or whatever their doctor signed off on vs. someone who acquired an eating disorder. They can arrive…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 01:20 PM
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16k. We'll get em next time
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 12:11 AM
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Can anyone in that store explain what pot of greed does tho
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 11:50 PM
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For me it's my dark magician girl shirt lol. I don't play the card game but I'll nostalgia binge the anime every now and then.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 11:37 PM
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Let's measure the two things you claimed I said against the actual quote you have provided They would shit on a man for reacting like this too. This isn’t exclusive to women. That was YOUR original claim, that women take heat on those subs that is unique to them. So now we know you just added in a bunch of random shit I never said about exclusivity or uniqueness to female users and then decided to argue with that. I'm glad we got to the bottom of the miscommunication here. It's been a pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:02 PM
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Quote it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:40 PM
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I used to think it was gross. Then I discovered the problem was specifically the way my ex went about it and the visceral reactions I had everytime afterward. I love doing it with my current BF.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:13 PM
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Tbf the question wasn't just about being into anime, it's specifically about having a parasocial relationship with a fictional character. At least one of the top commenters I see there has talked about enjoying anime.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:07 PM
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Coddling would be telling her she's right and she needs to dump him, not "your feelings are wrong" worded in a polite way. Unless what OP actually means is that "Reddit should be nicer to men even when they ultimately side with women."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 07:54 PM
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Please quote where you asked for "situation where woman would be shit on but man would not." Oh wait you can't, because that isn't what you asked for and you are moving goal posts. No I am not trying your fetch quest again by an entirely new set of parameters you are arbitrarily introducing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 07:44 PM
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Yep, last month. Apparently it was so successful they ran it for an extra weekend too
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 05:43 PM
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Agreed. And this happens all the time. "I'm not comfortable with my SO sharing a bed with their opposite sex friend on a vacation I'm conveniently not invited to, am it the assh-" "Are you saying men and women can't be friends?! Here's my stupid ass anecdote nobody asked for about my partner's totally platonic best friend they go on dates friendly friend outings with every Friday night. And I'm fine with it because I'm so secure and cool and everybody upvote me because I'm going to seek the vali…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 05:10 PM
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I went to see the first 3 eps with my BF in theaters! They really need to chill with the 30-minute mini documentaries before every anime showing. That's getting old fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 04:58 PM
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Done Reddit's hard-on for being the chill, secure spouse is not exclusive to either sex
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 04:39 PM
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My favorite gender: redditors
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:57 PM
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I don't think it's simply a gender bias. Those subs seem to lean contrarian on pretty much any kind of traditional expectations in romantic, friendly, or familial relationships. That will favor women in some situations, like housework and childrearing, but go against them in others, like being a mom who doesn't want her adult child living at home strolling in after 3 A.M. I wouldn't say they represent mainstream opinion or the future of mainstream opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:26 PM
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Reminds me of this Y2K staple https://preview.redd.it/6viqz1lpunsd1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6c8f1992ecc6402428c2540aa41617e312e0fcf2
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:41 AM
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But, sometimes you notice how not nice people have everything and you start to wonder. Wonder about what? This is children's storybook level morality. Did some of you truly not discover that there can be material benefits to not being a good person until adulthood? Or how to weigh those benefits against personal values?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:35 PM
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Believe it or not some of us are in fact nice even when we don't stand to gain anything from it and prefer people who do the same. I don't understand people who interpret every opinion stated on the internet as a command.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 03:18 PM
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First and only. I wouldn't marry again.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:17 PM
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My husband will be my first and only sex partner, so no
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 12:37 PM
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There is literally a dude who claims to be worth 7 figures who regularly makes posts here about how he still struggles with dating despite his income. I personally think it would be a dick move to tell him to shut up and enjoy his money because others are starving. But that's just me I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:52 PM
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Nothing good comes from following your exes' lives
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:48 PM
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Yeah I bet plenty of people might look at UMC redditors arguing about their dating problems and wish that were the hardest thing they were experiencing. So what? People are allowed to talk about their problems. Their problems do not magically cease to exist because someone else has worse problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:44 PM
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You have this woman's permission to call out anyone who tells you should be grateful to not be lobotomized, institutionalized, or locked in a basement
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:41 PM
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Why are you specifically directing this question at women?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:26 PM
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That is so fascinating. Once I start going on dates with someone I feel like I owe them my full time and attention rather than entertaining others. Maybe that's why I can't relate to any of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:23 PM
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I can't imagine agreeing to be in a romantic relationship with someone and then freaking out when they checks notes have romantic feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:03 PM
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3-4 months is the longest I've taken. If the feelings aren't there by then it's never happening ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:02 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:25 PM
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There isn't a correct way to do anything that involves interacting with other people that will make 100% of them happy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:24 PM
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"But think about how good you have it now relative to some other group" is a common tactic to deflect about a person's dissatisfaction with their current situation. It would be like telling an autistic man who struggles with dating "well at least you're not in an asylum or locked in your family's basement. See how far we've progressed as a society?"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:03 PM
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Call me out of touch but I feel like this entire concept is so cynical and weird. I always thought saying "I love you" or something along those lines for the first time is throwing the gauntlet. Are we gonna do this or not? Shit like "what are we" sounds like a way to avoid vulnerability by acting like you're negotiating a business contract instead of just directly admitting that you have feelings for this person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 01:25 PM
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Something you might find interesting is the concept of high vs low context culture. Basically, even at the societal level, research has indicated that some cultures lean more toward bluntness, directness, and verbal cues while others rely more heavily on nonverbal communication and "reading the room" essentially. From an article about conducting business in a high context culture For low-context communicators, high-context cultures can seem frustratingly mysterious—even sneaky. But these people …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:01 AM
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Yes, particularly my best friend from high school
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:45 AM
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Something tells me if they make it into the White House we will be looking at one of the worst pres/vp relationships in history. A dude like Trump can only handle being upstaged by his younger more eloquent subordinate for so long. And that's not even touching the shit Vance has said about Trump in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 01:39 AM
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I am possibly autistic with masking deeply ingrained. Definitely diagnosed with ADHD. Many social cues did not come naturally to me. They were more something that I adopted through consequences, either real or anticipated, and positive reinforcement. My first two years in high school were a major source of this as well. It was all-girl. I accidentally fell in with a pretty popular group of girls because we all went to middle school together and they remembered me fondly. Other girls would try to…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 12:05 AM
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Hmm
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:45 PM
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Too poor to leave Rich and benefitting from the city's corruption to some extent Rich and holding ancestral property you can't just pick up and move Edit: Wait I forgot some things Idealistic moron who thinks they can make the city better Batshit crazy vigilante
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 08:46 PM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 08:27 PM
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I got various answers when I tried to get to the bottom of that. I find that the overall TLDR is "privacy." Here's a longer version from the ask Japanese subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:37 PM
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Have you been on this website for long? For a lot of these people talking to a woman may as well be meeting Moses for the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:27 PM
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Fun fact: In Japan it is very common for locals to hide their face on their OLD profile
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:23 PM
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That's more like a "yes" because I don't see where we're disagreeing
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:15 PM
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Funnily enough "just talk like a normal person and see where it goes" is a stance that I also have. To be fair, I come from one of the friendlier parts of the U.S. where people don't need a reason to talk to each other. It is not at all unusual to find yourself locked in a 30-minute conversation with someone you just smiled at and said "how are you" to. I've traveled to places where I could clearly tell people were less friendly and less chatty with strangers in general. I can imagine that tryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:06 PM
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Ah yes, the age old "good vs bad personality" discourse We're all anonymous strangers who were born, raised, and live in contexts where those incredibly vague words can be meant and interpreted in dramatically different ways. My BF is a good person imo. He has always had a lot of friends. However, there are aspects of his personality that made dating a lot harder for him, like being withdrawn and not great at engaging people he doesn't know very well in conversation. He took a massive chance tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:58 PM
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By far the more logical solution is to vet for character/temperament instead of assuming someone smaller/weaker could never be a danger to you. Don't get me wrong I know plenty of women fail at that but it's still the better option. I still remember this depressing glow up post where the "before" was OP in the hospital after being near fatally stabbed by his girlfriend. He was a big guy, but he basically blacked out between her walking up and waking up in his own blood. So it was never really a …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:30 PM
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God must have a different woman in mind for this man because he definitely didn't put that desire in me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 04:02 PM
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No. Socializing didn't come naturally to me either. At the end of the day the only difference between us in that area is that he was allowed to be who he was, and I was not.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:52 PM
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Yes, I second this user. If you are one of the few people left living under a rock who doesn't know about the corruption and abuse in the church you should probably stay more informed. Oh? Was I supposed to deny it? Make apologies? No thanks. Because unlike some of you I don't feel the need to argue about every single life choice I've made with strangers on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:40 PM
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Relax, I just thought your contribution was funny
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:33 PM
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Can't believe I forgot that one 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 04:02 AM
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Something something bandwagon https://preview.redd.it/itnuw91m7ord1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d2fd7b239d618a272e3dbd808aaa0845ce719701
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 03:49 AM
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Some men get that way in the first place because they want to date larger women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 01:46 AM
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I was that girl for my BF lol. I don't regret it. AMA.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 01:40 AM
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Crazy coincidence but I'm still pretty sure you're not my BF. At the end of the day I care most about his feelings. And I know how this sort of thing would make him feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 01:36 AM
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My understanding is that an escape fund is more like paternity testing in secret. You risk your partner finding out, and I believe it is 100% reasonable for them to take offense.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 01:35 AM
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BPers give plenty of other suggestions like just having the discussion with your partner before marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 07:30 PM
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I mostly think of it in terms of what I bring to the table for my BF in particular. He comes from a well-to-do traditional values Southern family. He's a bit of an odd ball in that circle, favoring nerdy and quirky hobbies over fishing/hunting trips, golfing, etc. He has a very introverted and gentle personality. Quite liberal and disagrees with his family on many political issues, though he has maintained some of the religious/cultural values, like going to church and waiting until marriage. Ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 06:19 PM
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I love how the culture war nerds can't choose between using that game to shit on Ubisoft or dismissing it as more DEI. "See? This is what quality representation looks like. We don't hate female leads we just hate bad games. Right guys?" "Fuck off shill" "Wait what?"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 04:35 AM
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Not touching the semantic tangents or we're going to be here all weekend. You put forth a question which included an example that has nothing to do with intimate relationships. It's a person doing the job they are paid to do and a random civilian. Because you are not the first person to conveniently avoid examples that actually represent meaningful human relationships I am pointing out that pattern.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 04:23 AM
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It's interesting how these bad analogies always seem to involve strangers and not people in an interpersonal relationship. In a loving interpersonal relationship hopefully built on a solid foundation of mutual trust, tests that insinuate infidelity are in fact accusations. It could be demanding they take an STD test before you sleep with them again. It could be suddenly demanding access to your partner's phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 01:16 AM
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Neat!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 01:11 AM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 11:58 PM
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Yeah well in my view trying to argue that it is somehow not an accusation, when the only biologically possible way for a woman to wind up pregnant with another man is cheating on you, is manipulative. Thankfully since I am not in a romantic relationship with anyone on this subreddit, what they/I see as manipulative is irrelevant to each other's lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 11:43 PM
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Yep. I was shocked this topic made it over there. It's funny because I feel like a lot of the users there are not super active on Reddit or familiar with gender wars discourse. So they sound really confused. Like, "is this really a question that needs to be discussed? Of course it's going to damage your relationship." That said out of morbid curiosity I need at least one Catholic man to bring up that he wants all of his kids to be paternity tested during Pre-Cana and report back on the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 11:38 PM
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So that isn't something the devout among us do lightly Finding out that your child's blood type is not what it's supposed to be is a grave situation that would absolutely warrant and arguably even obligate DNA testing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 07:48 PM
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That's ancient in PPD post time. Two people within a few hours of each other commenting here is not a coincidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:16 PM
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Are you 6'2, white, and a virgin by any chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:10 PM
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Okay did somebody link this post in another thread? You're the second person who has replied to my response on this 2-day old post today.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:08 PM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:20 PM
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I never called it a justified accusation Yes I'm aware. I'm calling it that because that is literally all your argument provides grounds for whether you intended it to or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:20 PM
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There are definitely those of us who simply didn't respond to the thread because we don't/have never hooked up with anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:07 PM
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I appreciate that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:03 PM
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Until the legal perils for not checking paternity are removed, it’s not an accusation of cheating per se. The former has zero bearing on the latter being an accusation. The only case you've provided an argument for is it being a justified accusation. And as is the case of justifying anything others may or may not agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 01:54 PM
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That actually came up in the thread as well. Since my BF and I are both virgins and will only be having sex with each other for life, yes the same would especially apply in our case.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 01:50 PM
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Yeah that's reasonable imo
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:42 AM
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This really just shows how different men and women are. How? Do women actually read? The pretty much universal consensus, among both men and women, was that asking for a paternity test is an accusation of adultery.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:35 AM
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If dad knows his kids are not mine Mine? Don't you mean his? Since you're not a man and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:29 AM
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So I recently read a lively thread from a Catholic subreddit on this. I'm Catholic myself and lurk there occasionally. The pretty much universal consensus, among both men and women, was that asking for a paternity test is an accusation of adultery. And given the significance of marriage as a sacrament within our faith, adultery is a very serious accusation to make against your spouse. You accuse them not only of betraying you. You accuse them of violating some of the most sacred vows we make bef…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:05 AM
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There are definitely some suspiciously specific denial vibes when men do that out of the blue in a middle of debate lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:42 AM
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Are you referring to 100% aesthetic changes or stuff that would also objectively make you a healthy person with longer life expectancy in addition to aesthetic benefits
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:51 AM
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As someone who doesn't drink or participate in any kind of true night life I'm not really qualified to speak on social dynamics in those spaces. They don't appeal to me for anything, whether it be meeting men or bonding with other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 01:27 AM
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Unlucky shake in terms of environment/social circle/demographics. Same can be true for men who inexplicably struggle despite having all the right qualities on paper.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 10:53 PM
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What kind of environment are you referring to OP? Coffee shops? Night clubs? I ask because in the places where I spend my time people are overwhelmingly generically polite and strive to call as little attention to themselves as possible. Even if a woman doesn't want to be approached she'd probably just say "no thank you" or laugh nervously/give short replies until he stops talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 10:46 PM
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There seems to be a recurring pattern with nerdy/awkward billionaires defying the stereotypical wisdom that men at that level of success "should" be dating the hottest women possible. My theory is that wealthy men who are in the more image-focused industries (like Hollywood or music) are more likely to prioritize looks over everything else in a partner. And our culture is especially obsessed with these industries so they kind of set this standard of how people think wealthy/successful individual…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:09 PM
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Vetting isn't "asking for permission"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 01:11 PM
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It kinda reminds me of the frustration that will inevitably happen with the above average friend who constantly calls themselves ugly to fish for compliments. Like he's fishing for a certain response from them, not acting on the response, fishing again, rinse and repeat. I'm not saying that is actually OP's intention from triggering this scenario again and again when the obvious answer is "stop pointing out cute girls to them." But it could be how they're seeing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:59 AM
2

Do you not know what the expression "different strokes" means?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 09:36 PM
2

It's Date Psychology. One male writer I've seen on there multiple times seems very liberal/anti-RP (Alexander). Idk if a libertarian woman would be affiliated with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 04:40 PM
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I can't get over the fact that this one website where writers basically just poll their social media followers to collect data has the internet's balls in a vice
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 04:28 PM
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Some of us adhere to religions that require the government contract in order to be married in the church. If I have fallen in love with someone, similar values and religious beliefs are going to be a part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 04:12 PM
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A stranger? Not much. Someone I've chosen as a life partner? We wouldn't be there if I didn't trust him unconditionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:08 PM
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This woman made this comment less than a week ago in response to a post from a man that complained about women not advising men to be proactive enough When I talk about how my BF and I met, which entailed him being somewhat proactive and starting a conversation with me, it is mostly dudes here who say things like "you would've called the police if he wasn't attractive." There is no advice on this topic that men here will accept. If you tell them not to be proactive, they say that doesn't work. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:05 PM
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Okay I thought the question was stupid and the answer was obvious at first but some of the replies genuinely made me reconsider
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:00 PM
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My experiences with these types of situations almost universally indicate otherwise. But hey, different strokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:57 PM
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I point a girl and tell them she is cute They're taking it as you indirectly asking them to hype you up. I wouldn't expect a guy to keep randomly pointing out women he's attracted to for no reason. How else am I supposed to respond as someone who's not attracted to women? "Interesting!" And then nothing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:06 PM
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I have met a ton of women who play Skyrim or at least had that phase at some point. It is an insanely aesthetically pleasing game. Plus there's just so many options. Not the dragon-slaying type? Don't give a shit about the main plot? Let's go make some soup and adopt a dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 08:22 AM
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I will die on the hill that teachers make some of the best partners for high earners who want kids, regardless of sex. Those weekends and summers off are huge advantages.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 08:10 AM
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Disrespectful in my view, but then as someone who has been casually watching the NFL since I was a child, sports fans will put all kinds of crazy shit on a sign to be on TV for like 10 seconds. And clearly this woman succeeded and the player in question has facilitated giving her exactly the attention she was looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 07:58 AM
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He would rightfully take it as an accusation and I can't stand the idea of putting my SO through that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 08:34 PM
5

If I had a nickel for every married RPer I've seen on this sub who bragged about paternity testing their kids, had an extremely confrontational attitude toward everyone, and liked to drop random East Asian lingo in their comments, I'd have two nickels. Which isn't a lot but it's weird that it happened twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:33 AM
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Pride and Prejudice, the 1995 BBC version. The one you posted is Darcy from the 2005 one with Keira Knightley
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:18 AM
1

officer kondo was old too. Been roughly 5 years since I saw anything from that user.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:06 AM
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Okay there are way too many similarities for you to not be officer kondo at this point. You got banned? That's why you can't admit you're the same dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:59 AM
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He's not bad but Colin Firth will always be goated Darcy imo https://preview.redd.it/52gzgruuxnqd1.jpeg?width=864&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8d17a9264f6dc3e459651bf7d1e1c4b4aa92ae4e
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:50 AM
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This debate sub wouldn't exist if nobody wanted to debate? Yeah clearly
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:47 AM
2

Lol glad to hear I'm not missing out
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:52 PM
1

You the dude in this video?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:50 PM
1

Chai, coffee fucks up my stomach
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:43 PM
2

Victorious easily had one of the most attractive main casts out of all the sitcoms I watched growing up, I don't think any choice is wrong honestly. Even Robbie, the resident "unattractive nerd" had a really good-looking actor, as proven when they let him dress up in other styles besides "weird nerdy guy."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 08:53 PM
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My GF told me these rules she said she wants me to follow Yeah I knew from this point the post was going to be a flaming hot mess. Idk why I bothered to keep reading.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 08:45 PM
1

We go to very different restaurants apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 08:01 PM
1

That's just the sensible choice imo. It is not worth him getting bit and having to cut our date short so he can go get a rabies shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:58 PM
2

Hey I've been compensated over far less. Assuming it's a reputable restaurant they are not going to have this shitty attitude toward a customer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:56 PM
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That is exactly the kind of thing my BF would do lol. Then flag the waiter, explain what happened, fresh piping hot fries. I see no issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:49 PM
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I've only blocked two men in my life, one was a friend's ex harassing me for info on her whereabouts and the other was my ex who tried to ultimatum me into losing my virginity with him. I don't like to casually block people in situations where it isn't necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:00 AM
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For me at least the sub's biggest draw is the daily thread. I genuinely can't think of any other subs on Reddit that has an entire daily thread dedicated to posting whatever the fuck you want as long as it doesn't violate TOS. I genuinely wish that more subs had something like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 03:52 AM
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Yeah that's wild to me. Particularly as a Gen Z woman if gaming is an absolute dealbreaker, you're going to be limiting your options significantly. I actually have yet to meet a woman my age irl who wouldn't date a guy who games. Hell the Switch got a shoutout in one of the most popular songs of the summer by one of the biggest "it girl" rising artists right now. If I weren't on Reddit I wouldn't even know this is still a view a significant number of women have in 2024.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 04:16 PM
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I kinda alluded to this in a recent Q4W about men's quirks and hobbies. If you're a moderately attractive woman with nerd hobbies, you're all set as far as dating goes. Outside of...you know, it's one of the greatest assets a young woman can have in the dating market today. Women who like those things, and want a partner who likes those things, don't have to complain on the internet about how modern men are blah blah blah. We're eating good. It creates this effect where women who are vehemently …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 04:06 PM
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People should do what works. If she's struggling to find someone and currently doesn't take initiative, yes I would suggest taking initiative. If she already gets plenty of dates without that, why change anything? Same goes for men. I don't think you're actually reading my comments
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 02:31 PM
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Let's recap shall we Me: this is taking initiative You: women should do it! Me: people should do what works for them regardless of their sex You: but not taking initiative works for women, not men! So apparently you don't believe that women actually have to initiate, in spite of your first comment. You believe they should...just because? To make men's lives easier? I'm approaching it from a fundamentally different standpoint, which is "the burden is on the person not getting results to change wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 01:37 PM
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Asia. Hell I preferred dating in East Asia as a woman, for reasons similar to the ones given here for wanting to date in Asia as a man. My BF is an exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 01:13 PM
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Men shouldn't do what works for them? Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 01:03 PM
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This is probably a result of the background I grew up in, but I definitely believe that both men and women need their own spaces. I went to an all-girl high school after all, and most of the men I interacted with growing up went to boys' schools. Apparently there is actual evidence suggesting that women perform better in some subjects and express greater interest in them, like STEM, at all-girl high schools, and that definitely fit my experience. That said, I think it's questionable to frame wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 01:02 PM
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People should do what works. If she's struggling to find someone and currently doesn't take initiative, yes I would suggest taking initiative. If she already gets plenty of dates without that, why change anything? Same goes for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 12:44 PM
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Even if women were to start doing that if a particular man on the internet isn't seeing the fruits of it he's gonna tell us we're gaslighting him and it doesn't happen ever
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 05:28 AM
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I do appreciate the kind words.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 05:04 AM
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Shared hobbies and quirks are some of the main reasons my BF and I are so compatible. I do find that unless she actively isn't trying to date, moderately attractive women with any kind of nerdy hobby in this day and age are almost always taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 02:46 AM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:48 PM
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Done and done. Best of luck to you all because you're gonna need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:48 PM
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Initiating conversation. Talking to people. Not just waiting for others to address you or for opportunities to fall into your lap.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 04:52 PM
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No there was actually a news story that the "I can get arrested for approaching" squad was circulating on this sub where this one autistic dude had the police called on him by a classmate
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 04:50 PM
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The feedback I get isn't just "really hard", the feedback is "this is irresponsible advice that will cause men to wind up in prison." Do you understand now?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 04:04 PM
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It happens when the dude is vague and using euphemistic language like "success with dating." If he just outright says "I wanna get laid" people will likely give more appropriate advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:23 PM
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When I talk about how my BF and I met, which entailed him being somewhat proactive and starting a conversation with me, it is mostly dudes here who say things like "you would've called the police if he wasn't attractive." There is no advice on this topic that men here will accept. If you tell them not to be proactive, they say that doesn't work. If you tell them to be proactive, they'll say that you're unempathetic and don't realize how risky it is for men to approach in this day and age. This i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:20 PM
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For me the answer is never. My BF had his first kiss at the age of 25 with me. Dating isn't easy and it's not getting any easier. I wouldn't jump to any conclusions simply from hearing that a man doesn't have romantic experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:14 PM
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Assuming he was transparent about it and she chose to date him anyway, his response should be pointing out that he was transparent about it and she chose to date him anyway. Breaking up is always an option. My BF and I both game very casually, 2 hours a day and more on weekends would be a lot for us. But that's part of the reason why we are compatible with each other and simply wouldn't date people who play that much in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 10:41 AM
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Interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 12:05 AM
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You sound a lot like a user who used to go by the name "officer kondo" here
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 11:00 PM
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Sometimes the husband will find out about this secret stash and feel hurt. He feels that his wife doesn’t trust him. She must think he’s secretly a monster biding his time, or some rabid animal that might hurt her without warning. His feelings are valid, but he shouldn’t take it personally. This is not an indictment of his character, it is merely a precaution for her safety. What is "his feelings are valid but he shouldn't take it personally" supposed to mean? Those are directly contradictory se…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:53 PM
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I've definitely gotten some less than accepting comments both irl and on the internet for dating interracially. It's not even a preference of mine. When your race makes up like 12% of your nation's population it's not outlandish to fall for people outside of that group. In terms of motivations to do this, I think it comes from various sources. Jealousy, possessiveness, historical baggage, and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 06:11 PM
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A good parent doesn't value their child's happiness over everything else. If your child is happiest when they're eating shitty food and not going to school a good parent would not just roll over and let their child become fat and uneducated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 02:40 PM
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Nowhere did I say anything about my happiness. You (hopefully) don't pick an entire moral framework based on what makes you happy at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:35 AM
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"Women dodge accountability" "I would be accountable for raising such a shitty son" "Ahh not like that!"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 07:51 AM
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Your argument boils down to equating prosocial values with solipsism and antisocial values with empathy, which makes zero sense. Hope this helps!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 07:49 AM
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This is basically just the deontology vs. utilitarianism philosophical debate that's been going on for centuries and is not getting definitively resolved by random people on Reddit. In other words, "do the ends justify the means?" To me the answer is no. It is better to be unhappy than to seek happiness at the expense of others. Once they're over 18 and/or not living in my house I get virtually no say in my children's actions of course but I'm still allowed to have my opinions on how they turn o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 07:42 AM
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You should not prioritize any individual's happiness above all else 100% of the time, including your own child. That's not how life works. That is how you raise an entitled little shit who can't handle adversity. If my son little Johnny wants another kid's candy am I solipsistic if I don't push that kid down and take it for him because it would make Johnny happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 06:55 AM
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"I don't want my kids to be shitty people" is not a solipsistic take, I don't think any of you people know what that word means anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:37 AM
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Definitely Adam. His dad would be able to empathize with him since his story is very similar. He struggled with the idea that maybe he'd never find someone, only to meet the right person out of the blue one day. As much as we'd like the world to be a certain, secure place where we know exactly what milestones will happen when, it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:32 AM
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It seems crazy to young people who understand how the internet works, this is some boomer grandpa shit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:02 AM
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Now I have. It sounds like a plot straight out of South Park
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 12:07 AM
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One of the my favorite America's Next Top Model contestants of all time lost the All Star season because of that. Iirc the final shoot was in a sunny field and she has very sensitive eyes which also happen to be blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 11:36 PM
2

There were lots of girls like this in my undergrad Catholic group but nobody cared because becoming a nun is always an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 04:09 PM
2

Big. Hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 04:06 PM
3

First law of PPD: Men and women are different except for when we are exactly the same for the purposes of this dubious analogy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 11:43 AM
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The most hinged take you can have on this is that women have different preferences and both will be popular with different kinds of women. I don't get the point of arguing over which of these conventionally attractive bodies is slightly more conventionally attractive than the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 11:31 AM
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every man would love a quiet, nerdy, introverted gf that just sits at home and reads books This is far from universal and very much dependent on the man's own personality and interests
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 11:23 AM
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Tbf I said the same thing about Transformers One based on that corny ass trailer but the reviews have been surprisingly good so far
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 04:16 AM
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It was definitely pussy-related. But not the kind people were probably expecting. Not too far down, just scroll until you come across a funny image.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:35 AM
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You should tell them you like tall girls with big butts like Jennifer Lawrence
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:25 AM
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Were you waiting for the Steakman one? If so yes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:24 AM
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Do people ever say you look like Haley Joel Osment?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 01:55 AM
1

He was weirdly interested in my masturbation habits
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 06:39 PM
2

People speculated the Foo Fighters dude was in an open relationship months before the scandal broke lol. Pretty sure his wife was looking the other way but he crossed the line when he got another woman pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 02:49 PM
4

Huh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 12:38 PM
5

Do you by any chance remember a user who used to engage in "salting" operations, or defrauding sugar babies? Used to post lengthy field reports about it. Think he was on the heavier side.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 12:35 PM
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OP also left out some key details of the scene Dude had his dick out before any verbal exchange about sex happened. So at the very least, even if she said no and the incident turned out differently, he still flashed a woman without her consent. He isn't just threatening her job, he's threatening to report to an organization of the most powerful superheroes in the world that she attacked him, because her powers flared up and destroyed multiple tvs in the room. So presumably there would be consequ…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 11:26 AM
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Thankfully this subreddit has a convenient sidebar that explicitly lays out what each pill means <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:20 PM
7

Dating isn't a social justice project
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 06:39 PM
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For women who do that, she may essentially be applying female social dynamics to men. Rarely have I had to ask or tell another woman why she's/I'm upset. Women who struggle with that to the extent that men can will often be ostracized socially by other women. My own BF is very close with the women in his family and has always had a lot of female friends, so he just gets it. Hell he's brought up something that happened and apologized for it before I even realized it was bothering me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 04:08 PM
2

Isn't that objectively what happened with razors and body hair norms
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:49 PM
1

Both are different flavors of BP with a small minority of RP who side with Republicans to own the libs
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:47 PM
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I have to remind myself that for people on this sub not getting a second date from someone is a fate worse than hell
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:40 PM
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Your comment didn't read like that of a person with a neutral stance on OP. If you are truly neutral, and believe it's okay for the woman to not want to continue to see him, we're on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:20 PM
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I'm on team "people can break up for any reason they want." Noping out after a first date, like OP's scenario, is nothing. Dating isn't a charity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:34 PM
2

Good for her
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:28 PM
3

Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:28 PM
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The "Debate" attached to this subreddit's name isn't just there for decoration. If I ever invalidate anyone's worldview here it's specifically because they asked me to in the form of a Debate post. Unless they have no idea what the flairs mean or what the point of this sub is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 04:31 AM
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Yes, I wouldn't bother otherwise. I was never raised with weird fantasies that Reddit was apparently told by their parents like "looks don't matter." I was taught that they are very important because sex is important for marriage and having sex with someone you aren't attracted to would be miserable. You have to be careful with the "what percentage of men do you find attractive" question. I'm attracted to roughly 50% of 20-something-looking men I run into on a regular basis. If you just ask me m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:05 AM
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To me it's whatever when the dude is expressing his own preference. But I've literally also had men on here argue with me, a virgin, that my preference for male virgins is wrong and my actual "match" is an experienced man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:53 PM
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I'm one of the most scrupulous people on this sub in terms of opposite sex friendships and policing to that extent sounds ridiculous even to me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:40 PM
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But when it's a man liking a woman's Instagram post at the beach, or even a workout pic. Then, it becomes a huge issue. Okay are we talking about complete strangers or friends? I understand not wanting your SO to thirst after influencers or whatever but encouraging an opposite sex friend since childhood's 100 pound weight loss journey with a like and nice comment is completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:30 PM
2

Dude's cat songs are legendary Here's my personal favorite
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 01:30 PM
2

JJK is mega popular on TikTok which forms like 99.9% of the men on this sub's perception of what young women like. In the real world where a fortunate circle of chosen ones are still living, young women watch plenty of other anime.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 05:07 AM
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Put your right foot in, take your right out, put your right foot in, and shake it all about. We'll see if you know what the hokey pokey is all about.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:02 AM
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If you want that sort of thing and have to beg your SO to do it you're with the wrong dude imo. I think the situation is pathetic but not because of "submission." I don't get people who try to mold other people instead of just vetting for what they wanted from the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 05:17 PM
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Yes it is indeed typical on this sub to make up a bunch of details that aren't present instead of simply asking for more information
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:58 PM
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If he had said anything about my looks or started flirting outright I probably would've shut him down.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:13 PM
0

Sure, just as there's a bigger picture beyond the dude who is deeply distressed about his inability to approach random women in public even though no couple I have spoken to regardless of their age met that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 02:32 PM
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My LTR started from small talk at a bookstore. He didn't even intend to pursue anything romantic. He wanted to take a risk and talk to a cute girl he hadn't met before. We talked about books, our favorite authors, and random things for a while. It was fun. I was the one who suggested that we keep in touch. If he had said anything about my looks or started flirting outright I probably would've shut him down.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 01:49 PM
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Weird and out of touch with reality is a very good summary of a lot of the content on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 01:26 PM
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I'm not allowed to have my own preferences because someone else may be inconvenienced by it in some way? What a depressing way to live that would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 01:25 PM
2

Last I checked he was getting ready for work and confirming our date tonight
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 01:23 PM
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So people are going to follow the general advice which is to "stay away from them everywhere." Yeah I can live with that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:35 AM
2

Once again this is a case of "man on the internet says" because men I've dated irl have taken offering to split as a sign of rejection or that I didn't enjoy the date
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:34 AM
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Men who were already in favor of approaching like to hyperfixate on these women to use as a gotcha against women who express discomfort with it. The simple reality is that some women want to be approached, others don't. Nothing is going to make everyone happy. Similar to how men on the internet insist men love it when women split the check while my own experience indicates a lot of men vehemently prefer to be the one paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 02:53 AM
1

Man secular dating looks...great
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 01:02 AM
1

Nah and I've been here on and off for like 6 soon to be 7 years now
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:53 AM
2

Or in hell
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:40 AM
4

Hey I'm just on team "I don't have time to entertain all of these people." So it's always been exclusive by default (at least on my end) from the point I start talking to someone. That said, I still consider myself single until we have officially agreed to the relationship. Not in the sense of feeling like I have a greenlight to talk to other men but moreso "how I'm describing my relationship status to my family."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:31 AM
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Hello! This is AngeCruelle's out of pocket thread bookmark. If you see this comment, I'm convinced that a thread is so out of pocket it's gonna get deleted. I am not a moderator and not in charge of making such decisions. But just in case this post gets deleted, I want a convenient way to access the record of the shitshow that unfolded up until that point. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:09 AM
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Walk into a bar
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:07 AM
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Periods. It would be great not to have them. I very reluctantly started birth control after about a decade of trying to treat extremely painful/debilitating ones with ibuprofen. I think that is the definitive way in which I believe my life would be easier if I were a man. Everything else is debatable, at least for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:41 PM
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those women are now no longer party girls and basically like minded to the guy A "no longer" person vs. a "not ever" person are not necessarily likeminded. As a person who does not drink and has never done it my lifestyle may be superficially similar to a former alcoholic who is now sober. However, I tend to have more in common with people who have been teetotalers or very close to it for their whole life. Yeah I'm sure this gets told to women, but it is not difficult for young women to date old…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:22 PM
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I'm BP and I don't necessarily agree with that. I think it's more a matter of waiting for a likeminded woman who also didn't indulge in that lifestyle. "Guys your age are immature, focus on other things and wait until you're a bit older" is definitely something I remember hearing a lot in high school. "Find your bridesmaids, not your groom."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 10:15 PM
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Ehh I know someone who speaks native level Spanish and lived in Spain in the 2010s. Their experience was that hostile/overt racism isn't prevalent but "clueless Southern grandma" racism is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:43 PM
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Yes. I lived on a predominantly Asian floor in undergrad. There were definitely girls who got into League and stuff like that to try to get closer to particular guys lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:18 PM
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As a result there were books and novels with covers of more ‘gentle-looking’ I suppose feminine men. That is really weird considering the fact that there is no man featured on the covers of Fifty Shades of Grey. Are you sure these books A. existed and B. were actually written and sold as some kind of counternarrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 05:56 PM
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I feel like both of them are overthinking this way too much. It's a homecoming invite, not a marriage proposal. I'm elder Gen Z and when I was in high school nobody was taking it that seriously. Homecoming invite/acceptance basically meant "I can tolerate being around you for one night."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 01:58 AM
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You are technically correct but it's still way more than "some", at least for the U.S. The United States has long had one of the highest rates of unintended pregnancy in the industrialized world. It has declined 23 percent in the last three decades, and 46 percent of pregnancies are now unintended. In Western Europe, by comparison, 36 percent are unintended, and the rate has not changed much.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 01:35 AM
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Lol some? I think that's giving a lot of credit
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 01:04 AM
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What will stress you out more at this point, canceling or going
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:59 PM
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Not enough info here to speculate on why exactly she plays games. Maybe it's wanting attention, maybe it's something else. Doesn't really matter, I still personally find people like that annoying. Does hanging out with her this weekend sound fun to you? Then do it. If it doesn't, don't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:32 PM
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You may be thinking, "Well of course she likes you! She's just shy." No that just blatantly sounds like her playing games to me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:19 PM
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A key caveat for this is that the woman has to be attractive. An incompetent ugly woman is every man's worst nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:16 PM
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Explain to him that is a specific type of girl, like his aunt, and well...you know. Yes I know the "throwing your relative under the bus" card is controversial but if you're gonna be the family trainwreck the least you can do is educate future generations through your example.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 08:42 PM
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Ha see what I mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 05:16 PM
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Every male therapist I've known is gay, that's probably the last thing she needs to worry about
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 05:10 PM
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A good wife wouldn't have married this dude in the first place imo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 03:02 PM
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I am 75% confident there was some kind of arrangement in that marriage and "knocking up another woman" was not a part of it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:57 PM
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Early in courtship should be the easiest time to walk away. You barely know this person. If you are that emotionally invested already there's a strong chance it's not based on what you actually know of them and moreso nice things you're making up in your head about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:05 PM
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Not Reddit forgetting that politically conservative women exist again
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 03:39 AM
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Do we have to revisit the Kelly Stafford incident again
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:02 PM
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Not just Hollywood. It was quite a day to have eyes when it came out that Robert fucking Kraft had an arrangement with his girlfriend who wound up pregnant with another dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:56 PM
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I think it's a realistic aspiration but also not a guarantee by any means. Let's say your 100% loyal wonderful spouse gets by a bus tomorrow. It's certainly possible. Hell you might be the one under the wheels. Either way, the aspiration to grow old and die together is gone. So what do we do with the knowledge that everything can fall apart in an instant, even by no fault of anyone in the relationship? Keep living. Keep pursuing happiness, regardless of how fragile and uncertain it may be. Or do…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:45 PM
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Ime it really depends on the circle. For example, it's basically a prerequisite that a woman has to be college-educated to be a serious romantic option in mine. Hell I know a girl who got burned because his family thought her degree was worthless/too easy, much less considering a woman who didn't go at all. This probably would not be a huge deal for men in other social contexts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:28 PM
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Be the daughter of a man who fit that description
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 08:20 PM
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I think the two are treated differently because while women generally believe that a dude can have female friends who don't want to fuck him, men have a harder time believing that guy friends don't want to fuck her
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:47 PM
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No particular order I, Robot Ender's Game The King of Elfland's Daughter Pride and Prejudice Slaughterhouse-Five
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:01 PM
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My sister is convinced I could have been a very successful one if I weren't such a prude. To me, allowing your partner the freedom of powerlessness is an act of love. I can't throw that around with just anyone, or commodify it. It can only be my life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 05:06 PM
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Gotcha. Damn everybody looks the same under that helmet. Karl Urban is a good-looking dude, it's gonna be an 8 from me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:57 PM
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That's Sylvester Stallone right?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:44 PM
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Give me that mushroom cloud pattern <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:45 AM
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My family can trace our roots back to Louisiana, and we have relatives there, but I'm not from there
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 12:41 AM
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I don't like that dude. I'm a slightly left-leaning moderate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 12:30 AM
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Maybe the "very sensitive" person is right to be sensitive? Most people feel like they are right to be whatever they are. Nobody has to agree with them. Regarding the example you gave, I would argue that weight loss will likely pay dividends vis a vis other people being attracted to that woman, if not necessarily the original object of her desire. That's great but she was unjustifiably angry at this one dude because of the kind of attitude you describe in OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:19 PM
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Isn't being able to see who likes you without matching a premium feature? I get the advantages but I feel like having to see everyone who thinks they have a shot would be a minus in other ways. Like this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:09 PM
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Do not take it personally usually means "do not take it as an insult or attack." A person rejecting you romantically is neither of those things. A rejection in most cases is in effect telling the person that they're not good enough to date. That is how a very sensitive person interprets rejection. Moreover, there may be some instances in which it's useful to take rejection personally, as it may be a catalyst for change (where such change is possible). Being the catalyst for a positive outcome do…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:05 PM
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The era of a handful of incredibly gorgeous borderline photorealistic cutscenes while the graphics are highly questionable for the other 95% of the game
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 03:21 PM
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St. Elmo's Fire
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:32 PM
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U.S., Catholic, suburbs in the Bible Belt, African-American (descended from slaves, no recent immigration). Although I was raised Catholic I did not have a strict traditional "purity culture"-type upbringing. My parents didn't wait until marriage and made it clear to me that it's the norm for couples these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:30 PM
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I can't get over the people defending asking out your doctor Hypothetically, if the doctor said yes, he or she would just terminate the doctor/patient relationship and tell you to find a new doctor. Some bureaucratic hoops, perhaps, but perfectly doable. This sounds incredibly stupid and irresponsible to me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:45 PM
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Male body hair is a confusing one to me. On the one hand, I'm sure plenty of women love it, like me. On the other, there seems to be a weird aversion to it in Hollywood and professional modeling. My BF grew up really insecure about his body hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:31 PM
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I think of what wise people in my live have told me about dictating what others do with money/earnings that are rightfully theirs. "He can wipe his ass with it if he wants to" In other words, it's his reward. I didn't win. I don't really see it as my place to be concerned with what he could have done with the $10,000.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:17 AM
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You know what goes really well with peanut butter?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:01 AM
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So have the Kelces officially replaced the Mannings as the NFL family that is going to be shoved down our throats until we beg for mercy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 03:14 AM
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Nothing. It i's really funny though when you put two people who were raised to spoil/prioritize their SO's comfort together. I come from a family where the woman always serves her SO before eating. My BF comes from a family where the man is supposed to do that. So here we are, both at the catering table together, when one of us is supposed to be sitting down and chilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 03:08 AM
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You okay dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:59 AM
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Oh no. Anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:29 AM
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Yeah it's definitely the people who can barely get by themselves financially supporting their adult children
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:28 AM
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Not necessarily. Nobody is giving a guy shit for relying on his family financially when they also provide one of their nice lakehouses for everybody to get lit on new year's eve
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:27 AM
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In a socioeconomic class where that is not at all uncommon or considered an embarrassing thing
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:12 AM
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Having a very calm and understanding partner definitely helps. Also texting very little. Phone calls used to stress me out a lot but since I got used to them they are way less annoying and mentally draining than texting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:07 AM
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This seems very normal to me but I'm also from the south where people are more friendly to strangers in general than they may be in other places
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 03:32 PM
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My understanding is that a lot of the skepticism comes from OP getting basic facts of how breast augmentation works wrong. This story literally cannot be reconciled with reality. It would be like a post that allegedly took place at an aquarium claiming somebody got attacked by a zebra.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:05 PM
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Finding those particular ones would be a hassle but here's an example of a BORU post where people are calling out a story written by a woman with evil cheating husband for sounding like BS
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 01:46 PM
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That is not true. Two I can think of recently are the one with church kids harassing a woman at a theme park and the woman claiming her ex husband and biological children treat her like garbage for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 01:35 PM
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Yess I forgot about her. I also just remembered Smurf. She was a real one
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 01:16 PM
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Thankfully no. However, it's not exactly surprising to me how others would.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 07:04 AM
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For some people, men and women alike, there is a very high threshold to truly hate anyone or anything, like physically harming other people or animals. For others the threshold is low, like just being annoying or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 06:58 AM
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Vaguely remember the name, but not a whole lot about his posts/comments
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 03:02 AM
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👑🐝
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:59 AM
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Atlas is definitely still here
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:57 AM
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I know I've seen these names before but I don't remember them as well
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:55 AM
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I think he might still be here. There is a user who posts suspiciously similar content with a similar writing style.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:53 AM
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Just not here. Wow I forgot about him already.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:51 AM
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Who are some older PPD users you remember who are (probably) no longer with us? I remember hiso_hiso, mwk, jokengonzo, mercedesbenzoamg, poppyblue, andrue, dental, officerkondo, lewiscross, bookofseil
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:48 AM
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I find it funny that without fail the "look at how mid this female celebrity is without makeup" photos always have the hair pulled back and some weird/neutral facial expression. If she just takes her hair down and smiles she's going to look a lot more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:02 AM
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Finally, a post where the man is actually more attractive and PPD isn't underrating the woman like crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 01:51 AM
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Enlightening!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 10:39 PM
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Does it have more to do with lifestyle incompatibility or a potential insecurity, i.e. thinking that other women will constantly be hitting on a guy and he might cheat or she might have less control over him? I genuinely don't think a woman is looking at a dad bod of the type above and thinking he's way less likely to cheat or easier to control than the six pack guy. If anything six pack guy may have less time/opportunity on his hands to cheat vs. a dude who still manages to look good enough for…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 10:28 PM
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I'm just a postgrad student who already has to read a lot of research anyway so what's a little more. I think six pack gets the advantage for hookups from OLD. Dad bod has the advantage of looking like he may have more freedom to party and drink, and that lifestyle comes with more irl opportunities for casual sex than a person who chooses to lead a more restrictive lifestyle. Reminds me of the non-athlete frat boys from undergrad. For relationships/marriage, I think that gets a little more compl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 08:25 PM
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I mean people take out their impotent rage on completely uninvolved people all the time. The barista who treats customers like garbage likely has something going on in their life which is manifesting in how they treat these random people who just want a latte. From there it's not a massive leap for people to take out their impotent rage on others who are, in their view, the source of their problems by some likely dubious reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 07:24 PM
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Waist becomes wider yes, but will not necessarily throw off the man's shoulder to hip ratio depending on his frame. Consider this body for example. <image> Dude clearly has fat on him and I would personally call it a dad bod, but shoulder to hip ratio is still solid.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:59 PM
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I tried to post a picture of the models they used for the study but Reddit deleted it for being NSFW. None of them have significant body fat. Whether women like "dad bods" is not what they were studying. It's basically wide/tall frame vs medium frame vs. short/narrow frame.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:14 PM
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Nobody should ignore what they observe in real life in favor of what the anonymous strangers say. If that's your experience, so be it. Who are we to tell you otherwise. The rest of us may have different experiences. So there is no "we all just accept."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 04:59 PM
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While 18.4% of women reported that intercourse alone was sufficient for orgasm Are you reading carefully?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 08:15 AM
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That still directly contradicts your own source which said 18.4% of women reported being able to orgasm from PIV only. Are you reading carefully?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 08:11 AM
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My mistake. Clitoral stimulation during PIV, not before. That still doesn't support your conclusion that good PIV is all that women need to orgasm and people who say otherwise are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 08:04 AM
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Good memory. Yes, emphasis on "was." She had already gotten out of it by the time we friended each other. Last time I checked she was a foster mom. No idea what she's up to now or if she's even still on Facebook.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 07:48 AM
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While 18.4% of women reported that intercourse alone was sufficient for orgasm, 36.6% reported clitoral stimulation was necessary for orgasm during intercourse, and an additional 36% indicated that, while clitoral stimulation was not needed, their orgasms feel better if their clitoris is stimulated during intercourse So your own source is saying that good foreplay results in good PIV. Is that not the mainstream consensus?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 07:33 AM
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I think the biggest predictor of ending up in those types of dynamics is the behavior you witnessed in your parents. If a woman grows up watching her mom tolerate that shit, then there's a good chance that will be her idea of "normal." I grew up with a father who never raised his voice at my mother, never slammed doors, or anything along those lines. The second a dude shows signs of not being able to handle his temper, I'm out. I don't care how much people are like "well if it was a one time thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:34 AM
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I have never been in the position to communicate with a sex worker and I don't know why I would be
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:20 AM
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The difference is very relevant considering the fact that you decided to compare soliciting sex work to soliciting any other work. So I used an example of another form of work to demonstrate how absurd it is to treat soliciting sex work the same way as soliciting any other work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:15 PM
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If your neighbor rings your doorbell and offers to pay you for a blow job, would you view that exactly the same way as offering to pay you to feed his cat while he's away?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:36 PM
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While I would take reality TV intended first and foremost for drama and entertainment with a massive grain of salt, I do agree that the advice to simply "choose better" is very simplistic and naive. I think a major factor here is one-off vs. pattern. Virtually everyone I know, male or female, who has dated at least two people has that one ex who screwed them over. They learned the warning signs to look for and went on to have a healthy relationship with an amazing person. Then there are people w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:31 PM
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So my experience in Japan kinda indicates that the neat and tidy benefits you imagine do not necessarily happen in a society where sex work is essentially legal. Overall I love living there, and the men are pretty great. But I did have a rather questionable encounter that made me start to think about these things more. I know that one culture with legal sex work does not represent all that currently have it or ever will. But I do think it's an interesting case study. I have never had a random du…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 07:48 PM
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Probably will. I actually don't mind ads most of the time but if they're gonna start promoting that kind of shit here it's time for me to explore other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 06:54 PM
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Reddit is already sending me enough of those cringey Seeking ads as it is and accidentally clicking that link is about to make it a whole lot worse
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 06:46 PM
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I see you've been visited by the "what's unattractive in the opposite sex" karma farming bot that makes the rounds every week
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 06:38 PM
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That is such a lukewarm take I don't know or care who's getting defensive over that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 06:25 PM
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Yes I know, Reddit gets really defensive when its precious Witcher/Warhammer husband isn't spoken of like the second coming ot Christ
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 06:19 PM
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Glen Powell is a way better example imo. He really brings the charisma aspect of "Chad" that Henry Cavill does not. If he weren't famous I think he'd absolutely slay with geeky women while normal women would think he's hot but boring and kinda weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 05:51 PM
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I see. I don't recall if Buss has anything on French attitudes toward sex and infidelity specifically, but I have a wild hunch that France is closer to Germany than the U.S. on this sort of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:12 AM
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Not sure which European country you're from but this is from a Scientific American article citing Buss, the researcher you mention in OP ​​Second, the degree to which males find the prospect of a female partner's sexual infidelity upsetting varies significantly among cultures. For example, only about a quarter of German males report sexual infidelity to be more upsetting than emotional infidelity. Interestingly, Buss and his colleagues have themselves noted that the German culture has “more rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 02:54 AM
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Any man who goes into that lifestyle needs to be prepared for the major risks involved, including STDs and becoming a father. Additionally assuming there is alcohol, drugs, or other such substances involved in this lifestyle, because there often is, all of that opens up its own bucket of health risks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 12:44 AM
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Short term: freedom Long term: loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 09:52 PM
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I'd laugh so hard I'd go into labor
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 09:41 PM
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Very good. You as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 09:38 PM
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There is no way to make me bounce from a piece of media faster than portraying infidelity as a beautiful, flawed, bittersweet part of life we're supposed to sympathize with or something. A children's novel I read at the age of twelve had a scenario that made me feel very uncomfortable but I didn't know what to call it because nothing physical happened. Later I learned the term "emotional affair" and was like "oh okay that's what that was."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:58 PM
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I find the answer to any question involving "why does Reddit have X response to Y relationship thing" is "depends on what agenda has taken over any given thread by the point that you came across it." For me at least Reddit is pretty unpredictable. Right when I think I have a good idea of whether people are gonna take OP's side on any given issue I end up wrong. I think there's a lot of brigading and other nonsense that contribute to this instability. "I can't believe this isn't top comment, thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:50 PM
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This is some 50 years down the road grandparent love shit, if you're both still young and the most attractive you're ever going to be this kind of talk already is kinda concerning ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 04:12 PM
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My BF insists that I'm hotter and he's the lucky one but I really don't think he understands that he's a very good-looking man. Not just in the cutesy "of course my GF would say that" way but in general. At worst we're tied.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 04:06 PM
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People who think about relationships in a materialistic light would possibly view me as planning to "marry down." I admittedly have a very priveleged life and that's why I can afford not to care about my partner's earning potential. It's as simple as that. I don't need to add a man to take care of me in the material sense. For me it was always about other factors like emotional intimacy and shared experience. I would only be marrying down if I compromised on what actually matters to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:57 PM
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If the master key is giving its locks incurable diseases maybe it's not a good key
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:30 PM
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That's valid. Makes me think of Morgan Freeman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 04:12 AM
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Ngl when I first heard that voice I was like "damn sounds like me"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 04:10 AM
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I watched a lot of Disney Channel as a kid and their studios are based in California. There is probably a connection there.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:56 AM
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Bible Belt. Yeah that confuses a lot of people
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:49 AM
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No but a lot of people here are saying that my accent sounds like it. Another user theorized that I may have picked it up from TV as a kid without realizing it and honestly that would make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:29 AM
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TV would make sense. A lot of studios are in fact based in California. I wasn't really given unrestricted access to the internet until well after people had already taken notice of my voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:27 AM
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Yes and I've gotten a lot of the "you don't sound black" throughout my life
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:12 AM
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Handmaid's Tale is standing right there my guy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:47 AM
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You aren't the first person to suggest that I sound like I'm from the west coast. Sounds like my accent has found a home! Even though it is nowhere close to where I'm actually from.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:28 AM
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You are correct on both counts
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:24 AM
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TIL I'm a changeling kidnapped from California
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:23 AM
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That is interesting and I also have no idea what accent that would be
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:22 AM
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The real AI was the friends we made along the way
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:19 AM
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Mostly when I'm nervous or excited
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:17 AM
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Really? First time I've gotten that. I am not from the west coast and from a young age my family has had no idea where the fuck my accent came from. I was born and raised in the south.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:16 AM
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https://voca.ro/1hWuXLY8UQfE
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:08 AM
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You bet right lol. My hair is actually microbraided, not bone straight. That requires chemicals, heat, or wearing a wig. But I guess microbraids can look like straight hair from a distance. Or if you're an AI.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:13 AM
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Nah I do have one of those from Snapchat though https://preview.redd.it/dqmvvhy3svmd1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=108568ea4f8f88205b796fbc1bfab9f1b7f878c6 I wanted to use this one but some of the features came out too suble to show up well on a tiny pfp. The nose and mouth basically disappear entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 11:56 PM
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I recently discovered that she was one of the main girls on the Boy Meets World sequel show on Disney Channel
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 11:38 PM
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For the sake of preserving AngeCruelle's dms we're all hideous
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 11:29 PM
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Yes exactly like that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:49 PM
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So imagine a hypothetical situation where a person is horny as fuck and openly soliciting women on a subreddit not intended for that. Would never happen here. But like...in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:41 PM
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I'm Christian and at one point TRP vehemently insisted that western Christianity is BP and were big on distinguishing themselves from "tradcucks." I personally still flair accordingly but other users have informed me that they don't think I'm flared correctly. I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:39 PM
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You ever see a post on Reddit you should definitely report but it's so hilarious you can't do it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:35 PM
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Dating apps aren't working, time to look lost on PPD
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:27 PM
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What true bluepillers are even left at this point? I'm basically blue by self-imposed technicality. I can't even begin to name anyone else. Maybe you're blue? I don't know, the app doesn't tell me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:25 PM
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I only pursue debates that are worth my time. I usually test the waters by asking questions to clarify the OP's stance and get a better idea of the logic behind the conclusion they came to. The results have indicated that my time is better spent elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:46 PM
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Likewise
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:38 PM
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I'm not the person who made this post, but thank you for your interest
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:36 PM
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There were a couple of articles/social media posts linking back to that one study. And sure enough I collected a convenience sample from social media (N = 368) to test a few of these questions. Below are the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:28 PM
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By your extremely vague definition any person who expects their SO to bring in any form of income is a "golddigger"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:17 PM
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Called it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:10 PM
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They also did the infamous "young men aren't approaching" study
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:09 PM
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Also does Burger King's union have a representative on this subreddit? For fuck's sake these posts always namedrop and white knight for men working at that specific company.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:04 PM
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OP can you define gold digging and how literally anything else you describe in this post fits what that term means
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:01 PM
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I specifically remember being told not to cross a certain bridge or something, but the part we stayed in was nice
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:30 PM
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Rhode Island, particularly Providence and Newport
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:23 PM
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I went to a college where being able to write about some niche eccentric hobby in your essay really helped. Violin player #5431 wasn't cutting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:23 PM
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I've met two, went on dates with one. He was cute be he told me he wanted to move in together within like 72 hours of talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:15 PM
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That's so wild to me. I feel like most women I've met have been into one at least one of those groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:21 AM
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Those are very broad genres with plenty of female fans. Do you mean "why don't girls like the specific obscure bands that I'm into?" Or have you really never met a girl who was into BVB, MCR, Fall Out Boy, P!ATD....
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:09 AM
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The idea of dating a man older than my father is so wild to me. Different strokes and all that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:59 PM
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About 2 years total. My parents had concerns about my finishing postgrad if I married and got pregnant, so we decided to wait until after. Correct, we ideally don't intend to cohabitate before marriage either. There are exceptions in my faith if there's some kind of dire financial, logistical, or safety reason for the unmarried couple to live under the same roof. None of those apply to us at this point. His parents are pretty well off so helping him with rent is a non-issue for them. My parents …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:56 PM
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Ime yes. There's this "educated black power couple" aspiration that's still pretty prevalent among UMC+ black women. I think more and more are becoming open to interracial dating over time, but it's a gradual thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:12 PM
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Damn
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:52 PM
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Thank you very much!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:50 PM
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For a combination of religious and practical reasons. I'm a devout Catholic, but even beyond that I don't want to put myself in a position with any chance of unplanned pregnancy, regardless of how small it may be. And my love doesn't want to place that burden on me either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:50 PM
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I find that this subreddit brings out a very blunt and dry side of me compared to how I normally communicate with people. I wouldn't blame anyone here for not seeing me as a particularly nice or agreeable person. I also have zero interest in changing that however. Hence "insufferable."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:43 PM
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That would be an understatement. He makes me the happiest I've ever felt in my life. And it's the same for him. He says it, but I can also see it in him. He's my everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:36 PM
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Platinum because it's the name of an amazing Pokémon game
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:22 PM
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I feel you. Two years is also my parents' age gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:21 PM
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White. I have actually never dated a black guy. Mostly because I've been in predominantly white environments for most of my life and fighting over the handful of black guys looked like gladiator games.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:17 PM
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I am currently in a long term relationship with a 2-year age gap, the average for US couples. Largest gap I've ever had was 4 years (and that relationship sucked btw). AMA.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:11 PM
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I mean that sounds like a very trad/religious thing to say and I find that in our communities waiting until marriage isn't something that just applies to the woman typically. How would that even work? An open relationship we suddenly close upon marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:51 PM
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I find that a lot of this confusion can be chalked up to the problem of distinguishing between "trad virgin/low n" and the broader umbrella of "virgin/low n." I always try to be clear about where I'm coming from and the kinds of women I am typically interacting with. These are going to be the kinds of virgins who only want one sexual partner for life. Obviously that doesn't apply to all virgins, because everyone starts out a virgin regardless of where they end up ultimately. If it's not clear wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:45 PM
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How exactly is this one random woman's anecdote superior to some other random woman's anecdote. Because it aligns with what you already wanted to believe in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:46 AM
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Mods asleep
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:22 AM
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That isn't literally what OP said and if it were you would've just quoted it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:18 AM
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You might appreciate this Ask Philosophy thread where this topic is discussed at length
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:10 PM
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According to your opinion and values, yes. I am explaining how others come to a different conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:40 PM
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I see. At this point I would say that you're doing everything you should be. You're still young, and honestly patience is a fairly large aspect of this entire process. It can be daunting, especially if you know other Christian women who are already in serious relationships. But different blessings come to different people at different times. I met my love at 23. Because you believe in prayer, I would suggest praying for your future spouse. Not simply for him to come into your life, but that he i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:35 PM
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Are there Christian communities you can join? A lot of campuses will have a broader "all denominations" group and also groups for specific denominations
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:26 PM
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Are you in college?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:24 PM
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There's a good deal of overlap between people who wait until marriage and those who don't see abortion as an option for an "oopsie" that could've been entirely avoided through abstinence
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:23 PM
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The same way people gamble with unplanned pregnancy or any other number of life-changing things that can go wrong with premarital sex
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:18 PM
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That's really going to depend on your environment. I know young women who had an easy time finding all of that and women who had a harder time. The biggest factors will be the size and gender ratio of the local young adult community for your faith. Devout Christian men are a dime a dozen where I live currently so meeting my BF, who is also a Christian virgin waiting until marriage, was pretty easy. I have also lived in places where it was much harder to find men like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:16 PM
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Humans believed that acquired traits could be inherited by offspring as recently as the 1800s. Hell a lot of people still probably think that unless they've been formally and correctly educated on evolutionary theory. The argument you're making here kinda presumes some sophisticated innate knowledge we're all born with of how genes work. To the extent that humans innately look for indicators of fitness it's not gonna be on that level of sophistication.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 04:55 PM
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There is nothing that destabilizes redditors' views of humanity like one person talking on TikTok. As with virtually any other moral question under the sun the answer is that like attracts like. Women who cheat are probably going to be friends with women who cheat and/or tolerate cheating. Similarly, this woman is going to attract women looking for parasocial relationships with other women who think similarly. And by sharing and giving attention to this kind of content you are helping that perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:21 AM
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Trying way too hard to do some sexy model look that a dude has to actually be hot to pull off convincingly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 01:35 AM
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Thank you 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 07:48 PM
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Nah we live within like 30 minutes of each other. I will say that we don't see each other a ton on weekdays because I try to stay on a pretty regimented schedule for my postgrad studies. On those days we usually fall asleep on the phone talking though and then spend like 90% of our weekends together.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 07:36 PM
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I prefer to not throw that word around casually on anyone but I have a strong preference for virgin men over men who are not, regardless of what the specific number is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 07:04 PM
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When is the last time you've had an abortion? Been raped? Been murdered? Why talking about it then? I don't randomly make posts on Reddit to argue with strangers about these things so I literally cannot answer that question. Everytime you put a seat belt on, you actually do. I put on the seat belt to not be ticketed, not because I think I'm going to get into a terrible accident and die any time I drive around without one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 06:53 PM
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One practical underrated aspect of flowers is that they die, so they don't take up space for long. My BF and I love buying each other gifts but space is finite and at this rate I'm worried we're gonna end up on an episode of Hoarders one day. We should probably start giving some of it away, but the sentimental value makes it hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 06:47 PM
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I honestly think the ones who care that much just use surrogates. If you have a ton of fuck you money and are still having your wife carry the baby in 2024 the possibility of her gaining some weight for a period of time is likely something HVM is okay with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 06:24 PM
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I mean he's the one who gets to decide that, not randoms on the internet. They're probably doing the Steph/Ayesha Curry strategy, which seems to be let her have all the babies they plan on having over a couple years and then get this woman on a fitness plan asap.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:56 PM
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I don't really care if I what I'm saying goes against you or not. You asked a question and I gave an answer, which is that I don't get hung up on whether I fit my BF's exact preferences. He does fit mine, but he has never interrogated me or anything to ascertain that he does, just as I haven't with him. I learned that lesson the hard way in high school, when my own insecurities over features of the girls my first BF dated previously (namely, being white) led me to an insecurity spiral that ended…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:53 PM
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In pretty much every recent photo that comes up she is pregnant or just had a baby. They are up to three young kids now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:16 PM
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I don't care very strongly about that sort of thing right now precisely because it's all gonna be moot down the line anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:09 PM
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Kamen Rider
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:01 PM
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Nope, 5'3
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:00 PM
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I mean that's kind of inevitable with old age. I don't realistically expect my spouse to be as physically attracted to my saggy grandma ass form as current me and that's fine. What matters more is treasuring the life we've built together and his emotional investment in the totality of me as a person rather than in my looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:59 PM
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I want to get to the heart of what these types of posts are trying to accomplish and why people get so worked up over this. Assuming you aren't literally paid to, when is the last time any of you have been in a position to save someone's life? When is the last time you needed a stranger to save your life? If it's a regular occurrence you need to consider moving. If something like this hasn't happened to you in years, if ever, why does this topic live rent-free in so many of your heads? I don't c…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:27 PM
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I don't do casual relationships at all and in all likelihood I wouldn't be compatible with a guy who has. The age thing is also weird I guess but not the primary red flag for me in this situation. If it were a woman our age I would still break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:47 PM
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I am Catholic, born and raised in the U.S. Bible Belt
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:40 PM
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Indeed you can
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:41 PM
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Solid foundation with shitty grooming choices. 4 currently, potential to be 5, maybe 6 if he gets his act together.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 06:32 AM
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Unless you are LDS, or the few genuine Catholics or Baptists who aren't Christmas/Easter Christians Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:19 AM
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See this is what I mean by "walked in on season 3" shit, I was present for none of that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:47 AM
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A woman larping as a man larping as a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:46 AM
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I feel like I missed some comment chain or TikTok trend culminating in this oddly specific hypothetical
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:41 AM
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Thanks to the Used Armadillo incident I'm convinced that every dude here could be a larping woman
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:39 AM
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This is one of those comments that makes me feel like I just walked in on a TV show three seasons late
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:34 AM
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Ick to men with high n-counts. Yes we exist, get over it Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 12:23 AM
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He said "just made out with a girl for the first time" not too long ago, so presumably yes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:50 PM
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Yeah this comment is a sequel to a different comment
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:34 PM
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I'm curious to know how difficult you thought kissing would be compared to how difficult it turned out to be. I personally think people way overestimate how long it takes to catch on to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:19 PM
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Nah I've fallen for men like that multiple times in the past. If it's what feels right to him and he's still sexually attracted to me we're good.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:07 PM
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Being a virgin on this sub catching strays for no reason <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 05:05 PM
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What dinner? A pizza? Steak with candlelight? I'm really scrupulous with this sort of thing and wouldn't be alone at a dude's house who isn't a relative or my BF. But I wouldn't blame a typical person for not seeing Pizza Hut on the couch as a romantic cue.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:49 PM
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I'd be the one telling him to finish the race. Sprained ankles heal. Knowing that he lost out on this major milestone he's been working so hard for because of me would be a lot worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:40 PM
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Men who claim that tall women have an easy time with dating are almost certainly thinking of hyper feminine waifish super models, not tall women with the kinds of build that you get you scouted for sports like rugby instead
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:22 PM
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Yeah I've basically accepted at this point that this subreddit exists in a hellish pocket dimension that will contradict my own lived experiences 95% of the time
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 03:25 PM
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I think the far bigger tee fucking hee there was managing to find a 25yo male virgin, because this subreddit told me for years that wasn't happening unless something was very wrong with him
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 03:19 PM
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Yeah we're definitely gonna need that because every study I have seen on this finds around ~30% sexless. Including a study from the same university.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 03:14 PM
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I don't get it. I feel like my milquetoast comments get downvoted and the hottest takes I have blow up and get awarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 03:03 PM
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Haha I know right
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 02:56 PM
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I was not looking for him, he came to me. Before him both dudes I dated were around 5'8 and I crushed on shorter.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 02:56 PM
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I'm 25 and I didn't even know that height obsession was a thing until I came to Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 02:47 PM
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Completely irrelevant to me since my BF was completely romantically/sexually inexperienced when we met
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 02:38 PM
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I don't do casual relationships at all and in all likelihood I wouldn't be compatible with a guy who has
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 02:37 PM
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So you somehow believe that it can happen in real life and that it's completely made up by people on the internet. It is not "contrarian" to point out contradictory logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 10:26 AM
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Saying that any person you ask would give the same result suggests belief that the counterfactual never happens. Glad we got that cleared up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 10:22 AM
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There's always going to be the occasional outlier Ask any guy By your own admission there's a chance that any random I ask did know a girl like that in school
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 10:16 AM
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"Sad, pathetic actually" sums up like 95% of the content on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 10:09 AM
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I don't think it's any crazier than the new fangled fairytale that people do in fact win the lottery. Good things can happen to people while being rare enough that others haven't witnessed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 10:04 AM
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My advice is to not lose hope in society over anything you see from random anonymous people on the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 09:59 AM
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They aren't gone entirely imo. I have a theory that all of the third spaces are just concentrated in a handful of areas in close proximity to wealthy people with lots of leisure time now. I say this because I have not noticed this decline in third spaces frequently discussed on Reddit, but I also live in a high income area that has seen crazy growth and development in the last few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 09:57 AM
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I think it could go either way honestly. I've known attractive men with autism who had no issues with dating and ones who struggled a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 09:49 AM
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Yeah I wasn't keeping up that charade indefinitely
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 09:37 AM
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I see it as an act of love. Freedom is a necessary but harsh burden. I am extremely open to relieving my partner of it in at least one way. And to a lesser but still prevalent extent, being relieved myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 02:44 AM
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Not until marriage of course <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 02:26 AM
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I read a study which found both women and men demonstrating preferred for partners with DT traits. However, the effect decreased when you controlled for extroversion in DT men and physical attractiveness in DT women. Basically, the DT men were liked because of their extroversion and the DT women were liked because they were hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 02:05 AM
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I think a far better reason is that an untrained civilian trying to play hero might escalate the situation and get everyone killed. Like if I'm a hostage I'd much rather have a trained professional on the case than "some dude." To me people way overestimate how helpful a random civilian's intervention will be in a lot of situations. Which is why I'm on team 911 all the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:56 AM
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I apparently have a very dry way of writing on the internet that makes it pretty easy for people to mistake me for a dude unless I'm explicitly indicating that I'm not somehow. This girl in an online mobile game became obsessed with me and started calling me her boyfriend. By the time I realized she wasn't joking I felt bad and didn't have the heart to tell her or the others in our group A. I'm not a guy and B. I didn't like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 08:51 PM
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At my university you see lot of the gym stacy undergrads with some anime keychain on their backpack. The most recent one I saw was Gaara. As mid as Naruto is it did have some really memorable characters.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 08:18 PM
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A dude on this sub just recently claimed that all of the Chads at his college are dating "mid" girls. I think some people are just harsher critics of the sex they're attracted to and very lenient when rating people they'll never be attracted to anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 08:00 PM
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I find this to be a highly regional thing. I kind of took it for granted growing up and outright disliked it, because I'd rather just fall or whatever, get up, and keep walking like nothing happened. But no, where I'm from 10 people of either sex will descend upon you asking if you hurt yourself and while well-intentioned it can be quite embarrassing. So yeah no nobody's getting full on mugged without people doing anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 06:05 PM
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He said cool things
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 04:27 PM
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At my school they would pretty much encourage us to choose a certain instrument based on our ability and what they actually needed. So if you showed decent potential on trumpet and saxophone, but they already had a lot of other kids for trumpet and not enough saxophone, they'd nudge you toward saxophone. If possible, it might be worth talking to the directors about their recommendation. For us there was never a shortage of trumpets and if you could play something else well they'd probably put yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 04:19 PM
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Depends. I was wary of that sort of thing. In my BF's case it turned out that he just had a pretty old school upbringing and thought that the woman asking for separate checks is a gentle way of rejecting you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 04:05 PM
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User gave a weird anecdote about an adult woman he was on a date with expressing attraction to a 12yo on TV and asked if attraction to young boys is common for women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 03:58 PM
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There was Q4W post in particular yesterday that specifically made me go "what in the sting operation is this." I doubt it's still up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 03:41 PM
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No because catfishing "for science" is just as bad as any other catfishing imo. I already accidentally seduced a chick on the internet once, we don't need to revisit that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 02:34 PM
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Lol I got called a misandrist on this sub for saying I wouldn't date a man without a penis
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 02:31 PM
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Mood
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 01:38 PM
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I think there have been changes in this attitude over time, especially as awareness of sexually transmitted diseases has increased. Because "I promise it was meaningless sex" doesn't magically ward off the medical complications or possible miscarriages that we now know can result from the man doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:27 PM
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No it actually makes a lot of since for someone to not apply economic principles to aspects of life that have nothing to do with economics
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:29 PM
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They want to argue with strangers on the internet and accusing someone of not allowing you to do something is great fuel for arguing
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:22 PM
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Some of you are terrible at picking up on alts
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:16 PM
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Claims about a society that we all participate and live in =/= Claims about somebody's interpersonal relationship. The only correct equivalent to defending women who get into relationships with bad men is defending men who get into relationships with bad women or also men for that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:14 PM
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I feel like with contact lenses, sleep, and rediscovering his will to live dude could be a 7
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:07 PM
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If she were fatter than him this sub would absolutely say he's the more attractive one who settled
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 11:31 AM
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You are replying on a thread about how grown men should deal with the possibility of paternity fraud perpetrated by their wife. Not about their children or anybody else who may be affected in some manner. I am answering and will continue to answer based on the topic of the thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:19 AM
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Keeping all of this in mind a man who is that concerned about paternity fraud in marriage has the option to not get married or have children in the first place. As I said in the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:26 AM
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That's great and all but you presented "not protecting all victims" as a fundamental flaw in the solution of not getting married or having children. That is an impossible standard to reach and therefore not a valid criticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 08:46 AM
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We can't protect all victims of literally anything
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 08:14 AM
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I see ProZD lol. My BF and I quote his videos all the time King Dragon sends his regards
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:24 AM
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My mom played a lot of 80s music while I was growing up so it's like comfort food for me. Bryan Adams, Def Leppard, and Don Henley are some of my favorites.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:20 AM
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25 actually. I forgot exactly what year in the 80s that song came out and was admittedly too lazy to look it up
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 06:50 AM
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Summer of 69 is like that for me. Even though I wasn't born until like a decade after it came out it still reminds me of really fun summers I've had.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 06:20 AM
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My faith doesn't casually allow divorce like that. Which is why my solution for those people is "don't get married in the first place."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:18 AM
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it seems the effect of a bad mother are less discussed. Can you think of an example of a bad mom in fiction ? The mom from Hatchet, a common required summer reading book. Fuck that lady. I dated a guy who grew up with a similar childhood experience of a cheating mom and he was a trainwreck. I don't think he's free from all accountability for the way he treated me, but I think it's undeniable that that experience affected how he sees women in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:18 AM
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Oh look it's the go-to gotcha that doesn't work on me since I'm not sure a woman who doesn't trust men like that should be getting married either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:13 AM
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Nostalgia goggles/culture war poisoning. It was absolutely worse back then. The most egregious part of the cartoons in particular was that the token kids look exactly the same and act the same across media. I genuinely don't think that animators back then realized that black kids existed outside of "kid with the flat top who likes basketball."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:05 PM
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r/genzgrouptherapy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 08:11 PM
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Nothing you are claiming here fits any observation or statistics I have encountered Can you at least cite where you're getting numbers like this And there's not many couples at all really with 90 percent of the guys getting basically no action. And this New data shows the amount of couples that met in college is under 0.5 percent and 60+ percent met on apps where we know that hypergamy and black pill reigns.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:28 PM
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Is this the same girl you've been worried about? If you keep ruminating and dragging this out it'll only make everything worse. Just tell her it's not working out and wish her well or something. She might be sad. That's life. She'll get over it. And if she doesn't there are deeper issues at work here than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:13 PM
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That is a completely different and irrelevant industry. I did not see a single ad for Tinder or Bumble until news of their decline and struggles to attract users started surfacing. And those ads pretty much exclusively target women because that is the demographic they need to focus on increasing, not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:05 PM
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That is some pretty important context for understanding your mindset here
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:42 PM
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OP in particular sounds very unenthusiastic about it, even for reasons stated in the post unrelated to paternity testing, to the point where I have to wonder if some of you are being forced into marriage at gun point
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:38 PM
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Long story short, I think the goal of these sites, including Seeking, is to make money. If it weren't for the targeted hack the world might never know what was going on behind the scenes of Ashley Madison. Everything about Seeking seems suspicious as fuck to me, but then I'm skeptical of any platform that openly promotes transactional relationships. I've unfortunately been getting ads from them lately on Reddit essentially promising that I will meet rich dudes to fund my beach vacations if I joi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:36 PM
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Have any of you simply considered not getting married or having children? I think some of you forget that neither of these things are mandatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:20 PM
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Yes they all have scammers and bots to some extent but some are way worse than others. I think it was actually Ashley Madison that got caught for that when they were hacked. Bots and employees straight-up pretending to be users were rampant to make the men think there were a lot more women on the site than there actually were.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:00 PM
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Is that the one that got outed as having a shit ton of scammers and bots?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:39 PM
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I would be very concerned about the legal ramifications
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:38 PM
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I'm pretty sure that my BF is a switch at this point if that counts
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:36 PM
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As usual with this topic, I am going to cite my parents who have been married for 25 years and consider each other best friends. If anything that made them better parents, because they liked to be around each order. They weren't constantly going out to hang out with other people all the time. They were happy to spend time together and with their children. That was their idea of a fun weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:28 PM
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Do I look like Bane to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:20 PM
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No because I already prefer virgins
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:22 AM
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It is incredibly eyeroll-inducing to me when a woman or man for that matter expects their partner to change instead of just dating someone whose style, habits, etc. they like in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:55 AM
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Nah I've always found him perfect. He has tweaked his own style since we started dating, but I didn't ask him to. Definitely wears graphic tees less and has leaned more into button down shirts. I call it his Hallmark channel era.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:30 AM
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Fun fact: in the before times, prior to user profile pics being a thing on Reddit (yeah I've been trapped in this hellscape for that long), people used to mistake me for Asian all of the time. Every week was "you're black?!" Nowhere did I claim to be Asian in any way, shape, or form, it just kind of stuck with people for some reason. I eventually graduated to "child of African immigrants", which was also not correct but at least getting closer.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:31 AM
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These are the numbers Pew found in 2022 <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 12:28 AM
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Apps that have always allowed men to make the first move have even worse gender ratios than Bumble. I think the problem with dating apps is and always will be that women are not as interested in them as men. No gimmick is going to change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:26 PM
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My BF is definitely the more anxious type while I'm gone and I haven't come close to this level of irritation with him. I think it's worth considering if you even like this woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:06 PM
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Girl nobody took your man, he left. I don't know why people use that lingo that treats men like a sack of potatoes you can just run off with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:12 PM
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I would suggest that the wholesome couples on this sub start writing lengthy reports about our happy experiences with our SOs more often, but then I realized that happy people don't have time for that lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:26 AM
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Being seated near an awkward first date table at a restaurant is like watching sports. I can practically hear a broadcaster in my head dissecting every failure and uncomfortable moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:20 AM
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I grew up Catholic and my BF grew up Protestant. We both were raised in environments where a man's virginity is valued and expected just as much as the woman's. In fact we are both virgins waiting until marriage together. Applying it equally to men does not magically endear feminists to purity culture. I'm not sure where you got that idea from.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:13 AM
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You don't have to. Valuing the opinions of internet strangers is a choice. If I ask Reddit "should I wait until marriage" I already know what the overwhelming answer is going to be. I do not care. I do not understand why any of you care this much.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:39 AM
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This isn't traditionalism, it's modern male fantasy disguised as traditionalism. In trad contexts the man is often expected to lead the woman by example through his own purity. "Do as I say not as I do" is bad leadership 101.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:34 AM
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Yes absolutely. Trust me I don't take it for fun. If my doctor ever has a better alternative I'll be happy to do that instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:03 AM
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I'm pretty sure that's the one that made me feel like I accidentally walked into a sugar dating site and didn't get the memo
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:34 PM
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Very heavy, painful, and irregular periods run in my family. I lived with it for about 10 years by taking about 3200 mg of ibuprofen per day while on my period, but on the heaviest days that would barely do anything. When my blood test results indicated anemia my doctor started to more strongly recommend that I use birth control. My periods are regular now, and while I do still bleed and my cramps are still bad for a day or two it's not nearly as debilitating as when I'm off birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:13 PM
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Believe it or not some of us have to take birth control for medical reasons and still manage not to have sex. The contraception isn't forcing anyone to have sex. A temptation merely existing does not excuse the person who fell for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:47 PM
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Even as one of the resident trads on this sub I can't agree with this. "Do not covet your neighbor's wife" wouldn't have been an ancient commandment if the institution of marriage in and of itself were enough to stop men from looking at other women. It has never been enough in any society that ever existed. At the end of the day the individual needs to have the willpower to deny their impulses. Not put the burden on everyone else around them to eliminate any and all temptation. That is never goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:17 PM
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You sure you're not shadow banned? They give you a handful of likes from fake profiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:07 PM
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It definitely took some adjusting for me. To this day I still accidentally drag my BF into tree branches and other foliage when we hold hands. He's a very good sport about it thankfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 05:31 PM
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I like you too bv <3
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 04:13 PM
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Come on, I'm sure you can do better than that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 04:12 PM
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I slightly preferred boys as friends until I was forged in the fires of all-girl high school. Now the only guy friends I need are my BF and my brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:47 PM
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You sound like a gender flipped version of my BF in many respects so probably
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:39 PM
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That's great!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:38 PM
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She can probably tell you're a virgin but not necessarily all of your hangups or insecurities attached to being one
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:34 PM
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I guessed that my BF was a virgin with a few seconds of meeting him. Virgin =/= incel
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:23 PM
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I don't go to bars and clubs. Barely felt any desire to do it when I was single, feel even less desire to do it because I'm taken and feel like it would be disrespectful to my SO to surround myself with a bunch of drunk, horny men. I've had sips of alcohol here and there, but never enough to even feel tipsy. My SO is the only person I would ever consider drinking around for real once we're married since I trust him and I'm open to whatever happens from there. So if a woman is going to bars and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:21 PM
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That's more like an upper middle class lifestyle. If you consider upper middle class wealthy, then yeah it tracks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 08:23 PM
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6'1 mega chad Mega Chad where? East Asia?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:30 PM
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I would go a step further and say that many people in general do not understand how fallacies work. Simply namedropping fallacies is not a substitute for an actual argument, nor do they prove the other person is wrong. A person can arrive at a correct conclusion through a logical fallacy. Take bandwagon fallacy for example, which is basically "I believe this thing because lots of other people do." While it is true that a lot of people can be wrong about something, a lot of people can also be rig…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:22 PM
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For me at least it's not so much the female body itself being more aesthetically pleasing as female fashion. And well...of course. The clothes are made to appeal to us in the first place. I think some women confuse the two. In terms of the body alone I absolutely find the male form more beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 04:55 PM
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To this day I don't do photo reveals anymore because some of them cannot see a picture of a moderately attractive woman without making it weird
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:01 PM
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Dad is 5'9, BF is 6'2. My preferred range before meeting my BF was 5'6–5'9 and both of the men I dated before him were around 5'8. Funnily enough, both of those guys dated multiple girls before me while my current BF did not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 08:40 PM
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Gatekeepers gonna gatekeep
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 08:30 PM
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Good thing this isn't a group therapy sub
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 02:10 PM
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Code Geass, Romeo X Juliet, Gundam Seed, Ergo Proxy, Evangelion, RahXephon
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 05:15 AM
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How on earth does an anti-gamer wind up in a relationship with a gamer. Did it never come up while you were dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 03:19 AM
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During one of the brief periods I have ever tried OLD a dude started saying I was the kind of woman he wanted to come home to after all of two text conversations. I think some men have a bad habit of taking a woman who is moderately attractive and polite and building an entire fantasy in their heads about her based on that alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 03:07 AM
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A match between two people with time-consuming hobbies they do not share sounds doomed to fail. I don't know how couples like that get together in the first place tbh. The sex must be amazing. Whenever they get around to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 01:05 AM
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I have never met a woman in real life who is vehemently against men who game in any way, shape, or form. I find that men who ask these questions have a very specific idea of what counts as "real" gaming and then ask why women don't like that. I am a very casual gamer and would only date a guy at the same level of casual. Not countless hours of yelling at strangers over a mic and overall just taking it way too seriously for my taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 12:26 AM
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That is not true. Is it technically legal? Yes. Would many women look the other way if her SO did it? Yes. Is it a career you would proudly announce that you have and/or your offspring has? Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 08:50 PM
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Considering the fact that this is the N count thread I'm going to assume these are all euphemisms for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:35 PM
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It's inevitable imo. We all know the person irl who will make it about jealousy if you give any non-positive feedback on their life choices. It's a convenient rebuttal when you have nothing else because it can't be falsified. There is no definitive proof you can submit of not being jealous. To me, it is what it is at this point and there's not much point in wanting it to be gone. Trust me, it isn't going anyway. Just say "Okay" or "You're right, you've shown me light, I'm in love with you. Marry…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:26 PM
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You can tell at what point in or before their career an athlete got with their SO by looking at her. If she's average they've probably been together since like kindergarten. If she's a model yeah he got that after he became famous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:52 PM
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What a pity
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 02:27 AM
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Lol whenever people say stuff like that I just tell them to report me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 02:01 AM
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That won't be necessary
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:44 AM
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Maybe? I dunno he just seems like the most normal dude on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:43 AM
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Yeah it's Lift and Lurk
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:26 AM
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Correct. Are you Asian?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:25 AM
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The ones who wouldn't leave me the hell alone until I started seeing someone
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:24 AM
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Y'all ever notice how this same question gets asked every week and the community survey never backs up this assertion
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:22 AM
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It's annoying when women on the internet police male attraction to certain celebrities. Like they feel personally attacked when some stranger on the internet isn't attracted to Margot Robbie or whoever. Girl how does this impact your life in any way. Log off.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 12:09 AM
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I think a factor that doesn't get discussed enough is the "is he shy or does he hate me" question. There was a guy I befriended towards the end of his time in high school; he was a year ahead of me. We had interacted regularly through an after school activity, but I initially misread his introvert tendencies as not liking me in particular. He started opening up a lot more as time went on and became much friendlier, which allowed me to feel more comfortable speaking to him. He was still pretty aw…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 11:02 PM
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I can't speak for every woman who has that requirement, but in my case it stems from what I witnessed in my own parents' relationship. They spend all of their free time together. My mom is an outgoing person by nature but there's no one she'd rather spend time with than her family, including my father. My dad has never been a very sociable person or eager to maintain deep friendships so my mother basically wins by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:38 PM
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In my SO's social circle all of those things matter. I've gone to outings with my BF where everyone already knew way more about my education, background, and accomplishments than I ever would have imagined because he loves to talk about them apparently lol. I think it's sweet but also a little nerve-racking to have attention on me like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:15 PM
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"Might be referring to?" Again, the burden is on the person making the claims to cite these studies and clarify their parameters. If you're not even taking your assertions seriously enough to do the bare minimum in that regard why should anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:08 PM
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Taking actual demographic data into account it is very unlikely that any person comes close to being attracted to even 20% of the opposite sex
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 04:24 AM
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If that many women were using Bumble for anything the company wouldn't be failing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 04:17 AM
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TIL. I assumed it could be resolved with weight loss
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:44 AM
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Man boobies?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:30 AM
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I think it's totally a thing, albeit rare and overrepresented online. As soon as I first read about it I thought of my friend since high school who has only dated two men in her life and has known both since elementary. I literally asked her if she was asexual once since her indifference to objectively attractive guys was uncanny to me. I couldn't even get her to name a celebrity crush. She's not asexual though, definitely attracted to those two dudes and has had very passionate relationships wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:30 AM
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Law and order? On this subreddit? Now that's a joke if I've ever seen one
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:04 AM
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Yeah we're gonna have to agree to disagree on that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:43 AM
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I mean we've all seen this script play out in some ways, she'll reject a guy with good intentions and fall for a toxic man, get impregnated then get abandoned and then look for a simp to help raise her kids No we all haven't, because some of our parents were fortunate enough to get the hell away from the kinds of places where this stuff is regularly happening
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:41 AM
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I literally only flair as BP because I'm Christian and TRP insisted that being Christian in the west is BP
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:36 AM
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Then they should use their words and clarify the parameters, not just assume everyone else also forgets that people outside of their preferred age window exist
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:15 AM
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Nah we're just into body parts men wouldn't necessarily intuitively guess. There was an entire mostly female subreddit dedicated to thirsting over dudes' hands. Now that I'm taken I don't lurk there anymore though, I drool over my BF's.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 11:56 PM
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No, 25
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 11:49 PM
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Injuries are so common in cheer you might be in there in like a week
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:13 PM
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This is one of the reasons I don't even bother with bringing up my BF. "No thank you", no eye contact, keep walking. I used to feel like I had to stand there and justify why I don't want to talk to this dude. And one day I just thought to myself "Leave. You're not a hostage."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:09 PM
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I think there are important parameters that you need to be clear about when asking someone that question. I would say that I'm attracted to a small percentage of men in general but attracted to like 50% of men roughly in their 20s. According to the data I'm seeing that's gonna be roughly 10% of American men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:50 PM
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I think body hair plays an underrated role in this. I wouldn't be surprised if there's a correlation between women who are really attracted to a good carpet of body hair and liking thicker men. Men who are really fit tend to keep their chests shaven. For women who feel that body hair is really sexy and masculine that can absolutely be a turnoff. Even when I see shirtless scenes in movies I'm like "okay but where the hell is the hair, I know y'all grow it."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:20 PM
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For me dating a person with that kind of body is what really entrenched by preference for guys with more "normal" bodies. I'm not even using the word dad bod because so many dudes here consider nothing short of morbid obesity as a "true" dad bod and like to gatekeep the everloving fuck out of the term. Here, this is the kind of body that I prefer. Call it whatever you want. I later learned from this sub that my six pack case probably had body dysmorphia causing him to flex every time I would go …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:58 PM
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Do you believe men that seek to travel outside of the US are predators? This is different from what you actually wind up asking in the post. The title should've just been "Do you think passport bros are predators?" I mean some of them definitely come across that way. We even have our own case on this very sub who is very blunt about what he does and why he does it and by his own admission is a terrible person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:41 PM
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My parents have been together over 25 years, grandparents over 50. I can't take credit for anything, virtually everything I say here is influenced by conversations I've had with them about their relationships in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:20 PM
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Can you describe your cultural backgrounds a little bit?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:59 PM
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This will get removed for being an advice post I feel like post is missing a lot of the things that actually matter. Are you in love with this man? Are you compatible in terms of beliefs and lifestyle?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:46 PM
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I really don't see anyone talking about it anymore. It's one of those trendy HR buzzword fads that sell books which will inevitably end up in the bargain bin at Barnes Noble once the trend dies.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:22 PM
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Article here describes it as a broader phenomenon not necessarily tied to stereotypical gender roles
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 03:56 PM
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I wouldn't want my partner to feel guilty or pressured to provide something I've managed to go 25 years of my life without. Yeah I'm looking forward to sex and hope we do it several times a week, I'm not gonna throw a temper tantrum if that winds up not being feasible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 03:46 PM
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I don't think that statement necessarily implies that the experience has to be from other relationships. My BF didn't date anyone before, but he also didn't have to be taught much since he grew up in a loving, close-knit family. That became a major part of my vetting because I found that men who grew up with healthy examples around them don't need relationship experience to understand how to be a good partner. Hell a dude who has plenty of relationship experience, but didn't grow up with healthy…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 03:23 PM
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I wonder what the larping chick behind Used Armadillo is up to these days
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 01:59 AM
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Ohh I see. Forgive me, in the U.S. we have a lot of fondly remembered presidents who were by all accounts extremely shitty husbands
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 11:12 PM
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Kennedy or Johnson? There's probably a lot of other ones those labels could apply to but I have a feeling it's one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 11:09 PM
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That is a very strong illustration of why forcing or coercing people into chastity is counterproductive. My parents were very liberal in their stances on premarital sex and ended up with the kind of daughter more conservative patents wish they had. Funny how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:27 PM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:18 PM
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Wouldn't the same thing be accomplished by just not having any form of sex and actually sticking to the spirit of the beliefs you claim to have?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:45 PM
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The kind of cultures that have virginity hysteria typically have even worse anal sex hysteria. Ime the "virgin who does anal" is more a porn fantasy than something that's happening regularly in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:36 PM
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Apparently I participated in this survey without realizing it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:49 AM
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If his taste in music isn't like this I don't want him
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 02:28 AM
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Changes every week. Right now What Dreams Are Made Of from the Lizzie McGuire movie lmfao, the slow version
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 02:21 AM
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You know how dudes on this sub keep talking about how you would get clowned on for dating "the town bike"? I knew an athlete in college who got made fun of for doing the opposite. His team and the girls they hung around didn't like his GF because she was too innocent and uptight to them. According to this sub something like that would never happen and all men fawn over virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 01:16 AM
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That isn't what autonomy means
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:43 PM
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Absolutely not
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:42 PM
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Dw if I had a crush on any fictional character coming out of that movie it was Lucario's trainer who dies at the beginning, not Lucario
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 05:29 PM
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Lucario, because of the movie
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 05:18 PM
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Still going to associate that one with Pokémon for the rest of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 05:15 PM
1

There have been various words used in the exact same way since basically forever, see demeanor
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 05:04 PM
1

My BF is the same way. Basically no one would guess he didn't have a GF until 25 based on his looks to the point where many of my own loved ones suspected he was lying. If anything that only goes to show that personality matters. He doesn't fit the rugged cowboy bro vibe a lot of women look for out here in the south. There are plenty of worse looking men than him who get more success because they match the vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 04:58 PM
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For me tv/movie flirting is at its best when less is said and more of the interest is communicated through behavior and action. An hour straight of a Hollywood writer's idea of quirky romantic banter is just painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 04:53 PM
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You're preaching to the introvert choir here
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 10:15 AM
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You're conflating good conversationalist with "deep and thoughtful conversations." In normie land that's not what "good conversationalist" means. It's more like being charismatic and fun at parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 09:52 AM
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Great! If the men who run our churches and have the final say in who gets married come to agree with your point of view before I walk down the aisle, I'll be all for a prenup. But that day isn't here yet, so I am not personally compatible with any man who wants that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 08:28 AM
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Tests always put me at the borderline of INFP/INFJ with one or the other barely winning out depending on what the questions being asked are
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 08:05 AM
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Thank you for this deeply fascinating information about what other people who are not me are doing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 07:58 AM
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Based on my own unfortunate experience in that kind of relationship the answer is no. For men like that "the traditional girlfriend" sounds great in theory but it becomes an issue when the traditional stuff is inconvenient to what he desires at any given moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 05:37 AM
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I wouldn't take it personally, but it's still a fundamental fact that I'm not compatible with men who feel that way. Prenups are frowned upon in my faith and can be taken as a sign that the couple isn't committed to stay together until death. I also would never have sex or raise children with someone I'm not married to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 04:51 AM
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Imo yes but remember that nobody is obligated to have "fair" standards. Dating isn't a charity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 04:14 AM
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I would not suggest a guy ask for her number immediately. You approach to have a conversation. You see if there is chemistry and compatibility And with this you reveal that you haven't actually thoroughly read the comments in this chain and just wanted to jump in and argue with someone based on some preestablished beef you have with other people
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:28 AM
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You know a couple has called it quits when one of them suddenly uploads a new pfp with the other person missing. I've witnessed this so many times I don't believe there's a correlation between relationship stability and a pfp together.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:04 AM
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I haven't noticed a correlation personally. The sudden brand new profile picture with a certain person conspicuously absent is a tale as old as Facebook.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 03:44 AM
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many radical feminists Many in FDS Don't care BTW, nothing in christianity says it's wrong for men to approach women and christian women generally have no problem with it I spend most of my time with Christian women. Most met their partners through school, family, church activities, or other Christian organizations. Not a random stranger walking up in a public place, calling her attractive, and asking for her number immediately. If anything that works out even less for us than secular women beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 03:20 AM
2

Sure that works, as long as you're consistent
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:38 AM
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Yeah sure the "radical femininist" trad virgin waiting until marriage. You all would do well to learn that "woman who doesn't coddle strangers on the internet " =/= radical feminist
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:37 AM
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And you would say the same about a person who complains online about different people showing up at their door everyday to sell things?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:30 AM
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The level headed take is "I personally don't like it but he isn't doing anything illegal."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:21 AM
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Yes I'm sure it's barely anyone's first choice and many will bounce as soon as a better opportunity comes. Until then, figuring it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:56 AM
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If she's calling for all men who do this to be imprisoned or something, yes I would call that unhinged. If she is simply expressing that she dislikes it, or that such interactions make her uncomfortable, so what? People on the internet can express how randoms showing up at their door to sell them shit is annoying. Yet that is certainly not discouraging anyone apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:32 AM
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So option 3? Women can be annoyed, but shouldn't express it online or in the man's presence
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:08 AM
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Sales, people figure it out when they need to in order to pay rent
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:05 AM
1

So let's break down what you mean by "shouldn't be taboo." Which of the following statements come closest to your thought process? Cops shouldn't be called on men who do this Women shouldn't be annoyed by it Women can be annoyed, but shouldn't express it online or in the man's presence
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:00 AM
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I am personally very skeptical of "academics" who choose not to use their full names, don't list the institutions their degrees came from, and only publish their findings on datepsychology.com
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 12:30 AM
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I think a major flaw in discussion of "approaching" is the fact that different people have different ideas of what that even means and a researcher would have to be very specific about how they are defining it. I assume this is the article in question. It is not published academic research. "Alexander", literally whoever the fuck that is, polled a bunch of people on some unnamed social media platform. My suspicion is that he polled his own followers on X/Twitter. I can't find any indication that…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 11:44 PM
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If my SO came out as bisexual tomorrow it would change absolutely nothing. He's still the man I love, and as long as he intends to spend the rest of his life with me those sorts of details are irrelevant. All of the concerns you listed are possible regardless of who your SO is attracted to. The only way to prevent all of that entirely is to simply not have exclusive relationships. Edit: or sex at all for that matter
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:37 PM
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Thank you very much. Both for the kind words and sharing this sweet story. I hope that I get to spend so many decades with my love. My grandparents are still a ways off from their 90s, and while my great-grandfather lived that long unfortunately he outlived my great-grandmother by many years.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:23 AM
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Yeah writer of this article definitely made some...interesting choices. Like focusing on the top 5% and 1% of promiscuous people. Five percent of women have had 16 or more partners; five percent of men have had 50 or more. One percent of American women have had over 35 partners; the comparable figure for men is 150. How is information on these extreme minorities of people supposed to help anyone draw conclusions about promiscuity in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:49 AM
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Sounds like the things my parents told me. My love owns my entire soul. I decided not to settle for anything less. I made it from the ages of 19 to 23 single and was perfectly content to wait longer if I had to. My parents still have a very affectionate and loving relationships after over 25 years, and I want the same. He's one of the most beautiful men I've ever seen (I feel that words like handsome or attractive don't do him justice). I've had so many moments with him feeling like I was starin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 08:49 PM
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Yeah that's great and all, feel free to argue with the feminists about that. This is a debate formerly known as CMV post and I'm focused on your stance. This is a claim you made in OP He was falsely accused expelled without proper due process This gives the impression that the allegations were actually proven false. They were not. This is not a case of "we have evidence the dude was passed out at Denny's at the time she claims she was assaulted." This is a case of "he was there, at that time, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 12:06 PM
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OP do you know the difference between allegations that have been proven false and allegations that cannot be proven beyond a reasonable doubt? Because that's pretty crucial here and often gets muddled in these conversations. This is a case of the latter, not the former based on the sources you presented. "Beyond a reasonable doubt" is the standard that got OJ acquitted and at this point pretty much everybody knows he killed that woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 10:56 AM
3

It it very possible to share values without developing them in the exact same way. I see them as an example of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 09:47 AM
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What in the world are you doing wasting your time on this sub for? I've asked myself that for about six years now. If nothing else, I appreciate how this subreddit has made me aware of some things that my relatively sheltered background did not make so apparent. I realized "ha, VIRGIN" is a thing to some extent in secular culture but not how hurtful and alienating it can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 09:30 AM
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For me personally the answer is never. But I'm also religious and for the devout in my faith virginity is not a shameful thing. Marriage is a serious calling and the path to that vocation isn't always so straightforward. And we're expected to stay virgins until we figure it out, so naturally there are going to be men and women who keep their virginity longer than secular society might see as "normal."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 02:38 AM
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For Simone Biles's sake I really hope they have an arrangement or the dude's a unicorn, because if he ever gets publicly caught stepping out that would be an absolute circus
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 02:23 AM
1

Cough Tom Brady
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 02:07 AM
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Generally speaking I'm not but he's the brightest thing in this world to me. And I have felt quite angry on his behalf over less. Seeing him in physical agony would probably make me lose it. Calling 911 would objectively be the smarter thing, since there isn't much a 5'3 woman can do vs. multiple men, but I'm not exactly reasonable when it comes to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 07:19 PM
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Is guns and butter-posting the new PPD meta?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:54 PM
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Still a no, but I wouldn't be straight-up questioning his sanity like the coworker situation
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:49 PM
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I didn't see the first one, this will be a fuck no for me regardless of the gender or orientation of the coworker. Because if nothing else it's an HR fiasco waiting to happen. Hell coworker even asking for this is an HR fiasco in and of itself, I'd tell him to get ahead of this shit and report it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:37 PM
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Indeed. I never would've guessed that only 8% of American homes have a swimming pool until I stumbled across the statistic. For me that really shows how SES can shape your view of reality and what "average" looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:27 PM
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Yeah they're gonna have to kill me or knock me out
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:22 PM
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I misunderstood what he was talking about so I think that's gonna be a deduction from my based score this time around
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:18 PM
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Ohh my b
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:17 PM
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Doesn't matter. What does matter is how the insecurity manifests in the real world and what that means for your compatibility with any given individual. A dude demanding constant access to all communications I have with other people would be a massive dealbreaker for me regardless of what his reasons for that might be. Not wanting me to dress like a hooker or post thirst traps on social media is fine for me because I have no desire to do those things anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:03 PM
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I 10/10 endorse, especially if you're delicate like me and running outside in 90°F+ weather is not an option
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 03:22 PM
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Gym rat tastes can be weird, I wouldn't say they even exist in a well-defined league. Plenty of their GFs will have you going "is...this really the best he could do?" But if he's happy that's all that matters at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 03:11 PM
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I don't think the two explanations have to be mutually exclusive. As much as the term "manifesting" is ridiculously played out and cringey at this point, there's still something to be said for the concept of your own beliefs about your potential and how that takes shape in reality. I went to an all-girl school where many young ladies excelled at STEM and often outranked both guys and girls from other schools in competitions. And many do go on to become doctors, engineers, etc. I have a theory th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 02:13 PM
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I was just looking into this today because whenever you call kpop girls skinny some dude will come out and insist that they're actually not that skinny and most South Korean women look like that. So the average weight for South Korean women is roughly 58 kg or 128 pounds. Almost all kpop idols weight significantly less than that, with many coming in at less than 45 kg like Momo from Twice. She has literally claimed that she had to starve herself for a week before she debuted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 12:00 AM
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One of my personal favorites would be blushing. My own BF is particularly prone to it. He can't even hide nervousness or embarrassment if he wanted to. He certainly didn't at the start of our relationship. And I just found him all the more attractive for it. That sort of thing. I like men who wear their hearts on their sleeves. Who don't (or can't) play it cool, hold back, or try to fake anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 09:49 PM
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First of all, whoever did the marketing for that movie needs a raise. The displays I've seen for it actually do not highlight the romance. They instead focus on the flower shop which apparently factors into the story a lot (don't ask me anything else, I know nothing else about this movie or the book it's based on). It's basically "Pinterest: The Marketing Campaign." While sex joke popcorn buckets is what it takes to bring men, aesthetically pleasing hipster flower shop is the kind of thing that …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 03:12 AM
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Sounds like a passive aggressive response to this multi-part saga
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 01:53 AM
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If by "spontaneous desire" we mean "noticeable physiological response from your vaginal area upon seeing an attractive man", I would say it is very common for women to not experience that. I would even go as far as to say that it may be true for most women. I feel like the closest equivalent I personally have to that is my response to the voice. Something about a really attractive male voice goes straight to the nethers for me in the way that I imagine men are with good-looking women. He could b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 01:35 AM
5

I mean even that seems like a weird thing to not know about the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 12:22 AM
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So my approach may be somewhat controversial. I find that the best thing you can do is not assume "it gets better." If a dude isn't opening up about anything and dodging serious conversations before you make the relationship official I think it's best to assume he is going to keep doing that. It's one thing to not be at that stage after a date or two and another to be at the "making things official" stage which presumably entailed multiple dates and conversations without any kind of deeper emoti…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 11:24 PM
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It sounds like a breakdown in the vetting process if you're just suddenly realizing that your partner doesn't like opening up to you and that is a now a problem for some reason. My dad isn't the emotionally vulnerable type. It has nothing to do with women. By all accounts of everyone who has known him since childhood that's just how he's always been. Clearly that wasn't an issue for my mom, or she wouldn't have married him. I'm the opposite. I could never date someone with my father's personalit…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 07:02 PM
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It is absolutely possible for taller men to struggle with dating. To say otherwise is just typical internet gatekeeping bullshit. My BF is 6'2 and didn't have romantic success until 25 when he met me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:13 PM
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I'd give this marriage 5 years tops, if they make it down the aisle at all
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:24 AM
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It's advantageous if you want to date religious and/or culturally conservative people. If you have no interest in either of those then yeah, it doesn't do much except signal to a guy who isn't interested in dating those types either that you might be one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 06:25 PM
2

You mean being terrible at presenting yourself as an interesting and well-rounded functional adult isn't a problem unique to either sex? I'm shocked
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 06:20 PM
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Case in point
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 05:06 PM
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Tbf shirtless pic at the beach or on a boat is different from "low effort shirtless pic in dirty bathroom mirror," which is what 90% of shirtless pics on a dating app will be. That is probably what women are referring to when they call it a red flag. Don't get me wrong I'm sure lots of women will still bite if the dude is hot, but quality and quantity would likely increase if the shirtless pic has a better setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 04:52 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 06:40 AM
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Nevertheless, I stayed with him. Relationships, I knew, were made of compromises. Lmfao what the hell did she compromise
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 08:38 PM
2

You don't know what I'd give to be an NPC living a peaceful, predefined existence in some scenic side quest village
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 08:33 PM
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Very neutral with no accent from anywhere. I used to get "where are you from" a lot growing up because I never picked up anything that resembles the local accent. I've been told by English learners that I'm easy to understand because I basically have the generic voice that you would find on an English teaching app or CD.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 07:18 PM
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I don't think my BF feels particularly invaded when we cuddle and play on his couch. We make a great team in Kirby and the Forgotten Lands
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 05:54 PM
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Those are two common elements yes but not the full picture. Very rarely does smut start off with both parties on board to fuck within a page or so regardless of how physically attracted they are to each other. That's more like how porn operates.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 05:11 AM
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"Man who would make a good husband." Full package, basically what you're saying. It's basically the end-all be-all of how I assess men in a non-platonic context since I'm not interested in casual anything
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 04:18 AM
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No because they are two very different things. For one, women in porn are always ready to go just because. There is no build-up or tension to resolve, which is like 90% of what women get out of smut. I think the more relevant gateway for me were compilations of sex scenes from TV shows on YouTube before they really started to crack down on both copyright infractions and sexual content.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 04:15 AM
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For me, yes. I literally mean me, I find that I'm more susceptible to craving porn than smut. I can read a sex scene or whatever in a book and be like "that was nice" and carry on with my life. Not so much with porn. The next day I would want to watch it again. And the day after that. And the day after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 03:50 AM
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On social media you have a bunch of complete strangers interacting with limited information about each other. On a platform like Facebook, which stresses anonymity less, you'll often get people checking each other's profiles for information. It's interesting to watch people debate on Facebook and start dragging in information from each other's profiles like education, their job, their relatives, etc. It's kind of unsettling. Then you have a place like Reddit, where most people aren't readily sha…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 03:30 AM
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"Dad bod" has the same problem as "curvy", people having dramatically different images in their heads and talking past each other
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 02:57 AM
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Green flag
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 02:01 AM
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JJK's OST is fire so yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 12:41 AM
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Depends on the anime
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 12:15 AM
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Sorry I don't see anything weird about that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 11:22 PM
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Let's review the top comments shall we Korean Milhouse ain't got time for your problems. I cooked for this guy at his Bel Air mansion. He opened a $46,000 bottle of wine. I did the math and based on his net worth it’s more irresponsible for me to drink canned sparkling water than it is for him to drink that. Crazy stuff. Just a billionaire man in his fifties spending some quality time with a couple of ‘old souls’. What they stream ? Bang is the name or preferred activity? Remember fellas, you ai…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 11:11 PM
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I saw that thread myself and saw nobody calling those particular women victims. They were more making fun of the obvious arrangements happening here, asking for the girls' names for "research", or criticizing the kpop industry in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 11:01 PM
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Summary of an interesting article from the Economist on this. Full thing is paywalled, but anyone who has an Economist subscription can feel free to read "Can the rich world escape its baby crisis?" Birth rates have collapsed because young women are not having as many children. In 1960 American women had on average 3.6 children. In 2023 they had 1.6. Remarkably, women aged 30 and above are having more children. It is only younger women who are having fewer. The decline among younger women is its…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 10:11 PM
2

If you live in a house with a lot of rooms, something has to go in them. If it wasn't workout equipment it would've probably been some other even more useless amenity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 03:07 AM
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It really depends on the circle you're dating in. Men who value virginity typically come from religious or otherwise culturally conservative contexts ime. Social media is a wide open field where people from all walks of life are sharing their opinions. What other randoms say may not apply whatsoever to the particular context you're in. What you have to say may not apply to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 02:48 AM
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Thank you! I saw them in Kirkland's on sale a while back and figured I'd try them out. Funnily enough I saw the bear for the first time at a store in Tokyo. I was sad because I knew there was no way in hell I'd be able to travel home with that. I found him online a couple months later and the rest is history.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 01:42 AM
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Thank you!!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 01:14 AM
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I'm a big fan of plushies in general but this big ass bear will always be #1 https://preview.redd.it/l0dhyh247chd1.jpeg?width=3000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=caca9d33387223a927f8d5b425cf83d6ec64ac45
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 12:44 AM
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He's my best friend. Like 90% of our interests and hobbies were the same when we met, and the other 10% we took the time to learn and start sharing as well. Our sense of humor is very compatible too, so it's very easy for us to make each other laugh. We could easily spend a full day communicating in memes and quotes from movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 12:05 AM
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I'm personally biased toward the Blue Lions since Dimitri is one of my favorite video game characters. You would think at first glance that he would be the least interesting main character in that game but there's a lot more to unpack there than meets the eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 08:59 PM
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Fire Emblem Three Houses, just stick to the easiest difficulty settings and use the rewind time mechanic if you mess up. A lot of people just use that game as a dating sim basically
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 08:28 PM
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Seriously though, where do people find this debate stamina. I rarely get the last word in any argument here because I get so tired of interacting with any individual user so quickly. You're getting 3 responses from me max before I'm like "what is the point of this." It is so crazy to me when a chain has like 30 comments back and forth between the same two people. Did yall do nothing else all day? Just fuck already, damn
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 07:01 PM
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They're both crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 05:18 PM
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Check out this gender-flipped version also asked yesterday with the awkward phrasing "because I am a woman" in the title https://np.reddit.com/r/NoStupidQuestions/s/uusmuJ21hU Sounds like somebody was doing social experiments
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:26 PM
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What year is this, 2012? Man brought some Bumble bullshit to Tinder and then gets shocked when Tinder bullshit works better on Tinder
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 05:09 AM
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POV: You're not over your ex who cheated on you with "don't worry babe, she's one of the guys"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:36 AM
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For my BF it was the opposite. He's basically lived out here for his entire life, as have most of the people he grew up around and went to school with. Friends of his who have settled down suddenly started coming back out of the woodwork wanting to hang out more and go on double dates once they found out he has a GF. We've been on quite a few now. One of his old coworkers said that I bring out a different side of him. So that might be related.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:26 AM
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I mean Chris Pratt before he lost weight
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 10:47 PM
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I could not remember for the life of me why I thought he was black for so long. Yeah this is probably it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 09:33 PM
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Pretty much. My great-grandmother was barely literate and relied on my great-grandfather for everything. He decided that he would sacrifice to put all of his children through school. So my grandmother and most of her siblings had a good education and career. And then passed those values on to their own kids, including my mother. I decided not to engage with OP any further since he basically went on a bizarre tangent instead of reading anything I said. Tbf there could be a language barrier.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 09:24 PM
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Ah yes, the liberated person problem. If a person in a group that has been granted freedom expresses any kind of discontent or dissatisfaction with their life, the go-to response of certain parties will be "Aha, see! Freedom is bad. Don't you realize now how priveleged and happy you were when you didn't have rights?!" Rinse and repeat. Don't forget to ignore the people who are happy and thriving under the new conditions, because that would contradict the preexisting belief that freedom is bad (a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 07:33 PM
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Set in stone. I want to proceed according to the teachings of my faith. An engaged couple having sex is seen no differently than a couple that isn't engaged having sex. What matters is marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 07:08 PM
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Her problem is that she's too obvious. There's a woman on here who's been evading ban for years now
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:36 PM
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Marriage, sex, children in that order
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:49 PM
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Tbf I prefer men who've never had sex with anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:50 PM
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Layla Williams from Sky High, played by Danielle Panabaker
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:01 PM
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It happens. I'm glad I learned my lesson and dealt with it. Some people still have that kind of stuff going on well into adulthood
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:27 AM
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I think there's certainly room for them in a happy marriage. And my BF enthusiastically agrees
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:15 AM
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If high school counts, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:45 AM
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Based on her interest in handcuffs? Ehh there could be a lot of reasons for that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:43 AM
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Valid, I would like to see a particular good man in handcuffs
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:28 AM
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This is what I said I guess this will just be "war of the anecdotes." And then I proceeded to use an anecdote in that very comment. Did you actually read it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:20 AM
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No. I didn't even grow up in an environment where feminism meant much beyond "Congrats on your right to vote and work part-time to kinda supplement your husband's income if you feel like it. God bless America." (Yes I'm Gen Z but also from the Bible Belt.) Women in my own family were among the exceptions, being very ambitious and career-driven, and that inspired me a lot. They aren't "miserable." The career, the degree, the money aren't their entire identity. They love their families more than a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:16 AM
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It will definitely be interesting to see how the numbers shake out in the coming years. 30-39 is firmly in the millenial category. Gen Z is considered anomalous in many respects.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:56 AM
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I think "sex within the past 6 months" was what they asked specifically
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:25 AM
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Yeah I think what you're saying is plausible. I'm skeptical when people interpret the stats as "70% of young men have never held hands with a girl before"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:21 AM
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70% of young men claim to be having sex so something is definitely not adding up there
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:03 AM
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To the extent that anybody remembers who she is it's definitely as "the chick who dated Leonardo DiCaprio for a while" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:35 AM
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Yeah and you're gonna need to take up any arguments otherwise with people who actually say that. We don't have to give unconditional approval to all relationships as long as people are legal. Ask me how many of my sister's BFs my family and I have disliked even though everybody involved was legal and close in age.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:32 AM
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Didn't a model or actress come out and say her manager told her to fuck Dicaprio and she refused because she thought he was too old? At least nowadays the answer seems to be career advancement and networking. Notice how these women go from relative nobodies to having their name plastered everywhere overnight from dating these men. We'd all be going "Camila Morone who" if she never dated him. I've also seen reports that she was the one who didn't want to get married so who knows what really happe…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:24 AM
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He was very good to me and I realized dumping him was a mistake lol. The entire time, there was this voice nagging at me saying that I wasn't good enough for him and he would inevitably realize that. One of my friends who knew him well told me she had never seen him as happy as he was with me. And that was when I realized that the voice was the problem, not him. Too late though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:06 AM
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Yes but then he didn't take me back. I've seen mixed views on who becomes the "dumper" in that situation. He seemed to think he was based on what he told other people. I can see arguments on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:27 AM
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I disagree that men have to tolerate women's insecurities and validate us constantly. Lightning didn't strike my ex, nobody chased him with pitchforks for choosing not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:18 AM
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So as long as a person who doesn't approve of age gaps doesn't call anyone stupid or evil you're chill with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:16 AM
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I mean that's what my first BF told me when I dumped him and tried to get back together like a fool. He was completely right, my family agreed that he was right, and I'm grateful I learned from it 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:58 PM
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I guess this will just be "war of the anecdotes." During my college experience the primary double standard that drove pretty much anyone's criticism of conduct in a relationship was your pre-existing relationship with either party. If you knew the dude longer, the girl's a crazy bitch. Always. If you knew the girl longer, the guy's an inconsiderate POS. Always. I have never seen this routine where every girl is coddled and adored by everyone while the dude is an irrelevant punching bag with nobo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:49 PM
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What is that rationalization? Not liking what legal adults decide to do for some reason or other? That resemblance is highly superficial. People disapprove of legal adults' choices in romantic partners all the time for any number of reasons. If a dude doesn't like his friend's GF because her laugh is annoying is that somehow analogous to disapproval of gay relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:36 PM
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To this day the countries with the largest age gaps are the ones which are not the kindest to women or gay people in terms of human rights. So no you can't "equally apply" anything here because completely different attitudes and ideas of how the world "should" be underlie the approval of each.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:16 PM
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Bonafide Gen Z/late millennial classic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:51 PM
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One of my biggest problems with this trope, particularly as far as movie adaptations go, is our aversion to looking at average people on screen resulting in the "frumpy invisible best friend" still being a conventionally attractive person. Remember that time Sky High tried to convince us that this girl was some unattractive nerd guys wouldn't notice, including her best friend since childhood? Oohoohoo, pigtails. Absolutely hideous.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:01 PM
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Something I will note here is that she's likely wearing some pretty large wedge heels under those pants. If so, they would probably drag on the ground if she were barefoot or wearing a flatter shoe. She's actually shorter than I ever would've guessed (5'4) and looking at pictures it makes sense, because homegirl is pretty much always in mega heels.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 06:42 PM
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Don't worry I discovered long ago on this sub that "nice deflection" is code for "I have no rebuttal"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:43 PM
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Honestly I think that's whatever at this point. Some degree of playground antics will always exist in social media discourse on platforms that haven't explicitly created rules against it. My bigger peeve is posing this as a "debate." What the hell is there to debate? You can't reason someone out of shit they didn't reason themselves into. This is like "CMV: Margot Robbie is mid." Dude if you don't like her that's fine. Nothing anybody can say is going to magically make an OP with that opinion su…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:40 PM
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"I think every person who disagrees with me is ugly" is not a debatable topic. No one can logic you into finding other people desirable or imagining them as such. Every man and woman here is free to believe that anonymous people they dislike look like Shrek. I certainly don't blame anyone who doesn't want to risk getting doxxed to make a point to the internet strangers. Especially when the people doing most of the trash talk aren't posting pics either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 04:39 PM
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One of the many flaws in this discourse is presenting a binary where people are either 100% cool about it or "heavily" concerned. There is absolutely nuance between those two reactions, which is where I find most people fall in reality. "That's kinda weird but I'm not losing sleep over other peoples' lives. I wouldn't state my concerns unless someone specifically asked me." In a way I think certain parties are more uncomfortable with that than the idea that someone who is weirded out by their ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:53 PM
1

That post was ridiculous imo. A lot of ideas that people call fringe here is just "not true in my bubble/not true in my world." Even the user who claimed that age gaps are a fringe belief cited statistics from an article where the author says that disapproval of age gaps is common, particularly among young people. To me fringe is truly crazy stuff believed by an extreme minority, like lizard people, not "something I personally don't hear often in the environments I self-selected into in the firs…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:55 PM
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On a different sub I saw a very upvoted comment claiming that the actress who played Dorothy in Wizard of Oz was actually older than the lady who played the wicked witch. That is completely false. I let them know and they were like "oh sorry, I read somewhere that she was." Yeah well nonetheless there are now probably quite a few people out there who think they have this really unique, crazy piece of trivia about the Wizard of Oz that is actually wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:34 AM
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There were definitely more pressing reasons why my second relationship didn't work out but education was definitely a source of strain. He didn't go to college, I was attending one he considered very out of reach for someone with his background. He would make belittling comments about it. Didn't seem to understand that I had to study and wasn't simply goofing all day, that I couldn't just bring people back to my dorm on a whim without discussing it with my roommate. Since then I have found that …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:29 AM
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Sounds like a trainwreck
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:51 PM
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I can't imagine needing a man for that who isn't my BF or a relative
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:41 PM
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The whole age gap rigidity and obsession is in itself a fringe belief That is literally the opposite of what the article you posted says
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:18 PM
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Are you implying that this is unique to redditors? The vast majority of people live in some kind of bubble. On average Americans live within 30 miles of their hometown.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:45 PM
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Nah. Treat it as entertainment and nothing more
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:29 PM
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I think we would all be better off from valuing the opinions of the anonymous strangers less
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 07:29 PM
1

She kinda did it during purge, but she had sunglasses and a face mask on. Probably pretty based on what was visible. I think she's also a former booth babe.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 06:28 PM
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Lol we live in the southern U.S. If I called the police store security on every stranger who wants to chat they'd probably stop answering me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:51 PM
1

Do you think he resents you for having positive experience while his experience was extremely negative? Nope Do you think he resents you for the uneven power dynamics where it's his first relationship while for you it's just another one in the line of many? I'm not sure I would consider two prior relationships many Do you think he wants to cheat on you to compensate for the missed experience? Not to my knowledge How much are you together? On weekdays we always chat on the phone in the evening un…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:50 PM
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Lol we live in the southern U.S. If I called the police on every stranger who wants to chat they'd probably stop answering me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:39 PM
1

Yes and yes. Helps that being overweight is not at all common in Japan and dark hair/eyes is my type in general. Call it what you will lol, I wasn't complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 11:53 AM
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At a bookstore. We were hovering by the same shelves. And then he decided to take a chance and talk to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 03:30 AM
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Lol don't worry, they adore him and would do anything for him. They were relieved that his mannerisms indicated a genuinely awkward and inexperienced person instead of some asshole lying to get in my pants
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 01:14 AM
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My first thought was that the mustache was bringing him down, and then his picture without it was worse. He gets a 5 from me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 09:54 PM
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I have said nothing along those lines and have still gotten shit on this sub for being a woman who preferred short men but is in a relationship with a taller guy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 09:22 PM
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Gave that a chance once, was not my thing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 09:19 PM
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I don't feel bound whatsoever by what other women or men for that matter choose to do with their preferences
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 09:06 PM
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And so we're supposed to reject tall men for being tall to give those men reparations?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 08:48 PM
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Nothing short of saying "begone thot" to every dude over 6' who so much as makes eye contact satisfies these people
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 08:29 PM
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I was very open to the idea of dating internationally for a time. Especially after studying in Japan. Dudes I had talked to for all of 5 minutes would insist on buying me treats, drinks, helping me with luggage, etc. And most importantly, wouldn't be pushy or entitled after. Ultimately I met the love of my life in the U.S. so it's a moot point.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 07:15 PM
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It's interesting. He's had a lot of good female friends throughout his life, but not romantic interest. He has a stutter and struggles with eye contact. Possibly autistic. On top of that I thought I had a sheltered upbringing, but his was moreso than mine. One of his friends suggested breaking out of that bubble and meeting new girls. And literally not too long after he tried that he met me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:57 PM
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No. On looks alone you would never guess he hasn't had a GF. My family is protective and had suspicions he was lying based on pictures I showed them initially. When they actually met him they were like "nevermind, checks out"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:35 PM
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My BF had zero romantic experience at 25 when we met, AMA
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:28 PM
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There's "be attractive to women" advice and then there's "be attractive to her parents" advice. Many parents are gonna be more helpful with the latter than the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 02:38 PM
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Speaking of wandering in here and not understanding how things work, perhaps a little lesson on post flairs is in order. This post is "question for women" not "debate." It means that OP wants women's opinions. So that answers your little "so what" question right there and illustrates how people who don't bother to read need to maybe consider doing that before questioning others' intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 06:36 AM
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So what indeed. I really don't know why any of you care about my opinion. I state my piece because I have a right to like everyone else here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:56 AM
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Yeah I don't care. Sex before marriage is sex before marriage, how "difficult" it was to participate in an activity incompatible with my own lifestyle and views of sexuality is irrelevant to me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:35 AM
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They won't understand this. To certain people low n women are trophies, not sentient human beings with our own opinions and lifestyles that should probably be compatible with our partner for a successful marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:12 AM
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