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EDITORDIE/r/Divorce_Men28/03/23 08:24 PM
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Trend 3; social media. It’s a huge influence and echo chamber.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/25 10:27 AM
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Listen to this. She’s no longer your friend. And the sooner you accept that the better. Read that last bit again. No, she isn’t different than the others. A shit storm is coming and you can hope for the best but you better plan for the worst. Remember, whatever bullshit you agree to now, will become difficult to amend later. You want 50% custody - fight for it. Just be prepared for her to fight dirty.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 04:19 PM
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Agreed. You cant really make people take accountability. But you can enforce consequences for their behaviour.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 07:57 PM
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Nice to hear you’re finding your way and gaining perspective. That sounds healthy. And you don’t come across as bitter etc - which is also to be commended. Keep it up. 👍
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 07:48 PM
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Anonymous letter sent to all affected parties or just her, sent by a “concerned” third party. Simple as that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 12:22 PM
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Yeah, so don’t do anything beyond the status quo. Keep your paranoia in check but your radar dialed in. Collect your data, IF there is data to be collected. Remember you could ruin a good thing by reacting to what is possibly nothing. But there’s no harm in being prudent. Spend a few weeks monitoring things a bit more closely and you’ll likely either know something is up or need to do some self work.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 09:04 PM
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I don’t think any of us are qualified to comment on the nuance of your interactions with her that you described her because each situation is so unique. But I’ll say this; your spidey senses are tingling. I’d say listen to your gut but be logical. Don’t ruin what might be a good thing with paranoia. But don’t be foolish either. So, maintain the status quo. Observe and gather your data. If her patterns of behavior feel off, randomly turn up at her place some time. Or, randomly ask to use her phon…
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 08:51 PM
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I agree. But would extend it to say men have their own stuff to deal with too. I certainly did/do. My suggestion for a third-party was a therapist, I like to think that can help some couples or, at least, help the wayward spouses, like the original poster here, to realize they are deserving of better and for their spouse (now ex) to get a bit of a wake-up call. Might not work. But might for some people here. Again, agree with your sentiment that you can’t be all things to all people, even if we’…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 07:28 PM
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Thanks for sharing. There are many overlaps with your own story and mine, as well as many others here. It's a bit like losing someone you love to a cult, right? They change so quickly. A few reflections on your post that resonate with me: when things get tough, unfortunately, they can absolutely get worse. But you can only skip along the bottom so long. Statistically, if nothing else, if you hang on long enough, the storm will abate. When feeling overwhelmed, shorten the time horizon: take it da…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 04:18 PM
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Her relationship with her family. Is there healthy boundaries? Great. If not, be weary. If the family are wack jobs it can be ok if there is healthy boundaries. Often there isn’t proper boundaries when it comes to bad in-laws. This is hugely draining. How is she with finances, specifically budgeting when compared to you? Get aligned. Money is a huge stress at the best of times. Gets worse then times are tough or someone is frivolous. Talk about sex and alcohol. How much, how often, etc, what’s o…
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 05:27 PM
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Relocated to her home country so she could be closer with a family that turned out to be toxic, and unsupportive. By doing so, backed myself into an untenable position, but realized she held all the cards when it was too late. Boundaries were crossed again and again. I recognized the red flags but didn’t recognize how to deal with them properly. Other little things eventually become big things, even if you try to suck it up, such as cultural differences related to parenting or one’s idea of a fa…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 03:38 PM
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I can relate to what you've written here. Im slightly further out than you, (an extra 6 months or so) and have (young) kids. My ex completely changed. A shadow of her former self. Selfish, cold, resentful, confrontational, and no remorse. It's...jarring to say the least. I spent many months beating myself up, with her criticism of me, and her justification of cheating, ringing in my ears. Did a lot of therapy and still do. It helps. Eventually turned a corner, saw how ridiculous her accusations …
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 11:51 PM
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Very welcome. Your point about boundaries is something I failed at too, and by not upholding them, that led to me being frustrated and sometimes belligerent. To add to your point, my learning would be to identify what my boundaries are, but also identify what am I going to do if they are ignored. Ultimately one probably needs to be willing to walk away which I didn’t want to do. Looking back, and my takeaway for the future, is to simply broach the subject of getting outside help in order to defu…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 12:11 PM
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Sorry you went through this, OP. My ex has accused me of being a narcissist and emotionally abusive. That messed with my head for a long time, did lots of therapy, and eventually came to the conclusion that I might not have been perfect, but I wasn’t a demon either. In saying that, I think the list you shared, while good, should be considered from multiple angles. My ex was spending money excessively and that was creating stress for us all, particularly me who was bailing us out repeatedly. I co…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 11:38 AM
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Similar situation here. Although I’ve also been blamed for any unwanted behavior by our kids claiming they learnt bad behavior from me, as I was respectless to my ex wife. It’s incredible mental jujitsu once you can finally step back and look at what’s actually being claimed. And it’s audacious. I do have compassion for her but she doesn’t deserve it. She’s created a circus. I just try to focus on kids and protect my own peace and theirs above any of her accusations.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 05:04 PM
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As is the plethora of claims about abusive, emotional abuse, and narcissism. I’m sure there is a small maybe even a significant subset of men who are guilty of that stuff - but not anywhere near the levels thrown about during divorce or on social media. The world has gone a bit mad.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 03:06 PM
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“There you go again, with your not listening to my feelings. I would have left sooner. But you were emotionally abusive and I was scared, walking on eggshells. Thank god I met Mr Wonderful to realize how everything you’ve ever done for me, every sacrifice you ever made, was really just manipulative and toxic. You’re so narcissistic! I don’t want to waste one more second on you. All you do is trigger me. I’m proud of myself for leaving you. I really hope you find happiness one day but you are rea…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 03:03 PM
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I’ve wrestled with why my ex didn’t communicate more clearly as well. I think it’s too easy to shift blame and the dynamic/situation, at least my own, was more nuanced. Sometimes people don’t really understand why they are behaving the way they are. And perhaps they hadn’t figured out what it was they ought to be communicating until it was too late. And then if there were attempts to deliver a message but it wasn’t received, that can cause problems too. There’s lots of ways that things breakdown…
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 06:01 PM
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So true. My ex couldn’t comprehend and literally asked “how did I know?” When you are with some a long time, and things really start going awry, the signs are there, some more obvious than others. Once you acknowledge that cheating is actually plausible, you see through so much bullshit and it’s very obvious. Doesn’t take a genius or private detective to know. Or perhaps my ex thought I was literally the dumbest guy on earth.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 11:15 PM
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Word. Whatever is agreed on now, even during extreme duress, becomes set in stone. Fight tooth and nail now or pay heavily later.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 12:41 PM
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Agreed and somewhat similar situation here. OP, you could mistake these comments as anti-women rhetoric. But it’s not. I was compassionate and considerate to my own detriment. Be compassionate to yourself and your kids. Do what’s right be them. Not her. Step up and take autonomy for your own decisions and particularly those related to your kids. Don’t involve your ex until you know what you want and be prepared to stand your ground. Finally, and I’m sorry to say this, but it’s well intended; a s…
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 12:38 PM
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No. Not for me. People always want more nowadays. It’s never enough. By many definitions the OP has everything a person could want. Yet they want more. That search is unending unless you look internally and acknowledge that dissatisfaction and try address it yourself. I’m flagging that this could lead to self-sabotage. Maybe not, but it’s at least a highly risky move and most, although not all, end up in situations where their next relationship isn’t really “better” just different.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 06:21 PM
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Solid advice
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 02:32 PM
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Yes. No one will be happier. It’ll just be different at best and horrendous at worst. Plenty of us experience the latter. Tread carefully op.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 02:30 PM
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The grass is greener where you water it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 02:28 PM
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I hear you. Personally I find the gym absolutely inane. I’m not practicing what I preach, but what resonates with me, is finding an activity you actually enjoy and getting fitter is a by-product of that activity. Martial arts can be good for getting our pent up stress while using your brain and the by product is getting that bit fitter. But really, it could be anything.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 02:50 PM
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Sounds interesting. If you’ve time, could you summarize what resonated with you?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 11:19 AM
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You can’t make someone be accountable for their actions. But there can be consequences. I understand the anger, I have it. I’ve parked mine on a shelf for my own mental health and my kid’s relationship with their mum. But it’s there. I’ve vowed not to be consumed by bitterness. That would own torture me more not her. I can both apologize for my part in the failings of the relationship and refute responsibility for her actions and cheating, which she’s attempted to blame on me. I can validate som…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 11:21 AM
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Empty. Quiet. Like a vacuum.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 09:47 PM
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I’ve been thinking about reshaping my ring into a ring that says “Dad” on it. I think that’s a pretty darn great idea actually. I feel proud to be a father. And kinda naked/weird not wearing a ringing despite being divorced because I technically still “feel” married. So this idea fulfills a few things that are personally important to me, the most being a Dad, through the shitstorm that is divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 06:17 PM
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Therein lies the problem. They need to take responsibility for their happiness, and I agree we have a role to play on contributing to that. But they have to take responsibility and be accountable too. Happiness is not found on social media or some fantasy world. It requires work. Keeping a mental logbook of your apparent shortcomings I can also relate to. It’s unhealthy behavior that likely lead to resentment. Again, she should have took off the backpack full of resentment and addressed it clear…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 11:12 AM
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Eloquently explained, thanks
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 09:56 PM
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Oh really? Do you know what’s it’s officially called? It boggles my mind.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 11:30 AM
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Sure, go ahead
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 11:27 AM
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Crypto, which you subsequently “lost” in a “boating accident”. Banks in the Isle of Man. (Seriously). Prepare for a shitstorm bigger than you can imagine, no matter how much integrity you think she has had in the past. Seriously, be careful.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 10:06 AM
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Similar here. 18’years together. Two kids. One moment I’m the best dad and husband ever. Weeks later she’s fucking her “unicorn”, I’m a narcissist and been controlling her forever. The kids are suddenly and inconvenience and any trouble they cause is learned behavior from my apparent lack of respect for her/women. It’s been overwhelming. In the face of these shit shows you gotta really protect your sense of self and protect your peace. If you’ve kids, focus on providing stability because they’ll…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 10:03 AM
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Uncanny how accurate this has been to my own experience. Just, wow.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 09:25 AM
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As cold as ice. A story as old as time. Turns out both are true. Sorry dude. Same situation here. Except mine is also aggressive and constantly confrontational now. Such a weird emboldened departure from before.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 10:04 PM
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This was nicely said, OP. What do you mean by “punching down”?
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 12:12 PM
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Is it dependent on the kids age? Some things they simply don’t need to hear at a young age, even if it’s true. Time will reveal all. Walk the high road.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 03:16 PM
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I don’t know your situation OP, and don’t mean to claim our situations are the same because they are not, but regarding my own divorce, I know deep down that the divorce was from me and from our kids; she grew tired/had a breakdown being a parent to two high energy kids. It doesn’t make me feel any better. And there’s no solace or satisfaction in knowing this. Just sharing. It’s overwhelming. Focus on putting one foot in front of the other. Inch by inch you’ll figure things out. Stay strong. Foc…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 07:18 PM
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Same situation here. You just gotta accept there’s got to be women in same spot on the other side too. Give it time and good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 01:23 PM
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Tend to agree. Not a criticism at all on the OP (good on ya, buddy), but think I need to get my head straight without women before getting involved with one again. Plenty of time for that. Right now, I wanna focus on myself first.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 01:22 PM
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Wildly accurate for my own situation too regrettably. I’ve said it before but I think social media plays a hugely negative role. Algorithms can feed into what you interact with on IG, for example, and funnel you towards more content that seemingly resonates with people in vulnerable times. You really gotta be mindful of what you are consuming or it can propel you down a messy well-trodden path.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 02:00 PM
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Same boat here. Nothing I said or did would help. There was an affair on her side and I think that massively clouded her judgement, coupled by her toxic mother and sisters influence. We had a 6 month cooling off period during which she remained confrontational and resentful. I left lines of communication open and hoped for a miracle. It never came. Mentally, I told myself the day the divorce goes through, was when I tell myself to give up “trying” and start moving on. That was a rough day. But I…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 03:20 PM
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I tried to hold her accountable to our family/house rules mainly about our kids but also finances. On many other topics I would back down but on these two I dug in. I had grounds to be upset and concerned. But at times I was belligerent in communicating them and too hard. I regret that. I pushed when sometimes I perhaps should have pulled, but I was exasperated, too. My patience had disappeared and resentment built on both sides. While I have regrets and did apologize, she later used this path w…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 02:14 PM
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Agree with all of this and in particular the bit about “no sudden moves.” Be careful. Things can get volatile and usually do very quickly.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 09:42 AM
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Exactly. And when it’s all said and done, one of you gets to hold your head up high. One of you has remained dignified. One of you will have a clear conscience. That’s your salvation. Because really, is her way truly better? You aren’t shackled by any emotionally responsibility to your ex any more. Isn’t it time to act like it? Do yourself that favor, don’t get drawn into her emotional turmoil. Walk your own path.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 08:05 PM
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I have personal experience with this. And your feelings of being an angry Dad etc I recognized in me. I’m now divorced. No longer an angry Dad. But lonely and in a broken home. I believe my ex had undiagnosed ADHD. I told her that and she claimed she didn’t. But there was a history in her family. Let’s cut to the chase: this situation is bringing out the worst in both of you. If I could go back in time, I’d offer you the same advice that I’d give myself. Stop attributing blame. She feels attacke…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 08:26 AM
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I’m about 8months deep. All I can say is it takes time. That’s not comforting, I know. But you won’t find any comfort in the bottom of a bottle of whisky. Look after yourself. Feel your emotions. Accept its sad. Focus on putting one foot in front of the other. Try be compassionate and considerate to her. I think being dignified is a mark of respect to what you shared. Brace yourself that she might not treat you with much respect and may resent you. I wish you the best.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 10:35 PM
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I agree with you. I try not to judge people. Better to talk about me; i won’t introduce new women to my kids until we are dating 1-2 years. I’ll probably get downvoted for that but I’m trying to protect my kids. Their mom walked out after being with me for 18 years, hard for me to trust someone again. If I’m gonna invite them to my home, it’ll be on occasions when my kids aren’t home. My own ex is dating. I’ve told her my opinion. She’s on a mission to get with her affair partner. Imagine how th…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 04:08 PM
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I think about the kids in these situations. If it’s real love, the introduction can wait a year or two. That sounds long, but what if the relationship cools after 8 months. That’s another breakup for the kids to experience. I don’t wanna lose sight of that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 10:49 AM
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Exactly. I doubt they ultimately end up happier. Their later relationships always feel more like arrangements in my experience than actual love. But I guess it works out much better for some than others. And either way, I think it takes many years for the level of happiness to reveal itself.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 08:03 PM
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I’ve learned and accepted that some people view marriage as a chapter and many of these always have a “get outta jail” card in there pocket. I’d argue that if you’ve come from a broken home, that formula of divorce is more familiar to you. For the rest of us it’s not a well-known path. And when you find yourself on it, true colors come through. But like many things in life, timing is everything. Some times it works for us and sometimes against.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 07:28 PM
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Great point. I hadn’t considered that.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 03:49 PM
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Not from the US, but have read here about parents stipulating that they have first right of refusal when it comes to babysitting their kids on behalf of the other parent. Basically, when parent X has responsibility for the kids and requires a babysitter, they need to ask parent Y. I think this is good and should be more formalized.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 11:05 AM
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Sounds good. I find it quite intimidating to do stuff like this solo, imagining what could go wrong etc, and being totally self-reliant. Then I wonder whether I’d actually enjoy the solitude or pine for my ex etc. to get around this I’m going start off doing one night solo camping and see how it feels. Build from there.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 10:18 AM
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Ditch the poolside trip. I guess you’ll likely end up hovering on Reddit or social. Maybe not the healthiest. Do a solo hike. Hire or buy a tent/hammock. Get out in nature. Contemplate your stuff while throwing yourself into something that she’d likely not enjoy, or the kids can’t handle. Nothing extreme. But enough to feel a sense of achievement. Then maybe round it out with some relaxation at a hotel etc. These are my goals.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 10:30 PM
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The fact that you can recognize your own shortcomings and failures I think has to be a sign of growth. There is some liberation in that. Carry that with you into future relationships and it’ll likely help keep you on the right path and guard you against repeating the same mistakes. Also it’ll help you reinforce boundaries that were overstepped in your last relationship. Compare your journey to those who solely place all blame on their ex. I believe it’s the right path. Learn to forgive yourself …
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 09:37 PM
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It sounds kinda woo-woo but I knew something was off, and even questioned whether she was having an affair, before I had concrete proof. I had picked up on micro-expressions that felt off. I’d even verbalized by concerns about an upcoming party during which she later cheated. It was like a premonition. In the very beginning I noticed she was painting her toe nails. Something she’d not usually do. It was then I began to piece together this horrifying puzzle. When I asked her directly, i immediate…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 02:35 PM
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I’m in a similar situation regrettably. Have you walked this road?
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 02:29 PM
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Accountability and a willingness to change from both parties is the only key to success. Mine refused. I would have turned myself inside out for her. Similar to your wife, I suspect they often mentally checkout long before communicating that or perhaps consciously realizing it. Then one thing leads to another and suddenly you are facing a litany of infractions and failures. Some are probably legitimate. I know there were areas I’d failed. But being read the riot act was thoroughly unexpected and…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 09:37 PM
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I don’t honestly know anymore. I think she changed. I suspect her mother was/is bipolar or narcissistic. She did similar things to her husband. So there was a pattern there. Monkey see, monkey do. I knew she was damaged but I think she had hidden so much resentment towards me and not communicated it. Incredibly avoidant. But it also could be a tactic of sorts; explode everything, hope for a reaction, justify the divorce. The only silver living, and there is very little, is that she has changed. …
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 09:47 AM
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It's both sad and reassuring how much this post resonates with me and the crappy accusations made against me in light of my ex-wides affair. That last bit is neatly overlooked. Convenient.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 11:22 PM
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I respect that she wasnt happy. I completely have no respect for how she handled not clearly communicating this and then after i understood she went on to explode our lives, rather than give it a decent chance. Even after learning of her affair, I asked and gave compassion and consideration but was met with conflict, outright lies, or half-truths and deception. The person i fell in love with kinda morphed into some stranger before my eyes. It was and is truly sad and concerning. Still not got my…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 05:56 PM
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A broader question is what did she blame on her unhappiness? I guess it was you. The sad part is, that’s probably broadly not fair. She thought she’ll be happier elsewhere. I’d argue that it’s more likely that things will simply be different for her. Not necessarily better or actually happier. Problems and hassles exists wherever you go. Can’t run away from them forever. I think some people get caught up fantasizing about that IG lifestyle with their unicorn. But for most people, that doesn’t ex…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 09:20 AM
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Same here. I suspect she’s avoidant. I wasn’t happy either. But would have agreed to do couples therapy. Instead she had an affair. Even then i felt it could be reconciled. But then I was accused of all sorts of crap. She found her unicorn apparently. I have my doubts. Personally I think mine grew tired of me, our situation but also being a full time mom. Divorce meant she could get out of that responsibility part time. It sickens me. But I think it plays a role. My learning is to be direct but …
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 05:22 PM
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Literally reads like the end of my marriage. Ugh.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 07:19 PM
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Interesting. Why do you think these traits/storylines are so commonplace? Social media?
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 07:13 PM
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Install cameras in your home. You can big Cheap baby monitors on Amazon. They are cheaper and just as fit for purpose. Quite small. Put them wherever you are likely to interact with her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 01:52 PM
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Thank u
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 06:25 PM
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What’s the podcast?
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 11:53 AM
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You will see sides to your ex that you’ve never seen before. It’ll shock you. I hope I’m wrong but be prepared.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 07:10 AM
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Trust me, things are bad now, but they can always get worse. Be careful out there is all I’m saying.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 10:38 PM
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Don’t think it’s a good idea to jump back into dating so quickly or you risk getting hurt or used. Lots of twisted people looking to use vulnerable people.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 10:13 PM
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Very similar story to my own. I’m similar age too. I found out 6 months ago. I can’t offer any insights on your ex other than she likely disconnected ages ago but didn’t lay her cards on the table, as is quite common. So she’s probably steadfast because shes done more processing than you. Maybe it’s possible she’s even met someone else. It’s horrendous, I know, but it does get better, with time. Get yourself into therapy. It helps. Focus on your kids. They’ll give your strength and motivate you …
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 08:09 PM
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Yes! Well spotted.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 03:49 PM
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Red flags look like regular flags through rose tinted glasses
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 01:43 PM
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I’ve nothing major to add other than this a great post.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/23 08:17 PM
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Totally agree. The emotions can be so overwhelming it can be hard to find words that adequately capture the depth of the feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/23 08:15 PM
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Haha absolutely not. Just saying that insecure women or people in a rocky period can convince themselves of delusional shit that isn’t actually true back irl.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 08:10 PM
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Needing more “alone Time” is a major red flag. If you hear that, buckle up.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 05:26 PM
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Dozens? Let’s be real. Any half-attractive female on IG will have a gang of cock clogging up her inbox. And the majority of women don’t invite this behavior. But That’s the world today. Social media facilitates this crap and through its algorithms will propagate any kind of crap she may or may not be pondering and shoves more of it down her throat.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 05:25 PM
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It’s possible you didn’t fail at anything and simply were secure and a bit complacent. Is that such a big sin? No. Could your ex have said: “hey polarshed, you gotta step it up because I think we are drifting, I love you, but you gotta do more of xyz”. I bet that didn’t happen. Men get a bad rap for being idiots. But really, both partners gotta talk in a way that the other listens and listen in a way that the other talks. Could you have done more? Yeah. Could she have communicated you needed to …
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 05:21 PM
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Well said. I’d argue that the switch flipping is often encouraged by another party. And I’d add to your list, changes in physical appearance and general upkeep. This can be as significant as a new hairstyle or experimentation with new diets, makeup, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 05:16 PM
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Similar situation here. Lighting fast. Monkey branched to her “unicorn”. Cold as ice. Hope you doing ok, dude.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 05:10 PM
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While true, I think this is late-stage evidence. Op, if you are here, you have concerns. Be direct. Address them. And don’t hesitate for one second getting into personal and couples therapy. In answer to your question, I’d say: a general sense of feeling disconnected, apathy, an inability or unwillingness to fix smaller disagreements. Individually, maybe not so problematic to the make brain, but it could be symptomatic of deeper problems. Seriously, go to couples therapy. It won’t hurt. Good luc…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 05:08 PM
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Social media, specifically IG, can have a horrendous influence on people (men and women). And their algorithm will feed you crap that you interact with. So, if someone starts fantasizing about a better life, and interacts with such IG posts with that message, it can easily influence them down a destructive path. I’d guess this happens a lot more often than we know, particularly when users are feeling disillusioned in a relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 08:51 PM
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YeH, you can get a child/baby monitor on amazon for a few bucks. Non-instrusive. Could be good to have if dealing with someone volatile or sneaky.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/23 06:08 PM
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Does this negatively affect kids?
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 08:44 PM
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Experiencing the same. It’s rough. But let me offer another perspective before you go torched earth; you probably had lots and lots of great moments together. Consider saving the pics to a HD. One day you might enjoy going through them with your kids and reminiscing about moments or trips etc. I totally get how things now are shit. But perhaps try to not let the divorce rob you of those precious memories, they might be something you and your kids will one day bond together looking through. Wishi…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 10:52 PM
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