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| 8 | She has HIVThere's only a few ways to get it. Sex. IV Drug use (including medical). Blood transfusion. It's easy to leap to cheating, but it is possible to get it other ways. Some totally innocent. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 03:49 PM |
| 28 | What is one line or quote you can share to help fellow divorced men?This too shall pass. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 02:08 AM |
| 5 | What’s the point of life if she is going to take half eventuallyHer attorney and the court know all the hacks, probably better than random people on reddit. Your best way to maximize you asset is to get an attorney who will get you the most you can legally. What you want is irrelevant. Sorry. The sooner you accept that you are bound by the law, the better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 09:38 PM |
| 10 | How do you manage the anger of a 50/50 financial split?You accept the fact that marriage is a partnership, and "we" earned that wealth, not "I". The person who was part of your life every day contributed in some way to it. You can also acknowledge that you entered this agreement of your own free will, and this was alwasys a possibility. Any marriage can end with the two people each going their own ways with half of the accumulated assets. You can also stop comparing and looking for relief that others have it worse, or be annoyed that others have it … | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Have there been any updates from the guy who found out his new partner slept with over 100 guys?LOL I am kinda bizarre :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 02:31 PM |
| -2 | Have there been any updates from the guy who found out his new partner slept with over 100 guys?Do you have a source for that "statistically more likely" statement? All of the paragraphs I summarized were value judgements about what is special or right, which are not "true". They are just value judgements. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 01:32 PM |
| 0 | Have there been any updates from the guy who found out his new partner slept with over 100 guys?To summarize main points of your paragraphs: Women can have sex more easily than men can. Only woman should be picky and not just choose to enjoy sex like men do. A man picking a woman is not special. Only women picking men. Women who have a lot of sex are more likely to cheat than men who had a lot of sex. Or to summarize, "I want to take lots of words to sound like I'm accepting when I'm not at all. " | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 12:06 PM |
| 1 | I "make" $11.05 per hour".Breaking laws and lying often work until they don't. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 02:16 PM |
| 12 | I "make" $11.05 per hour".Dude, you need to charge more for anal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 02:15 PM |
| 3 | Closure possible?Closure is like forgiveness. It's about you deciding to let things go and move on. Getting the other person to do what you want them to isn't really a part of it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/24 11:49 AM |
| 11 | Getting a vasectomy in your 40s, why it might not make senseThis is where statistics do not tell the right story. Pregnancy, when it happens, will cost several hundred thousand dollars, plus time and emotional investment, for the next 18 years vs a complication for a vasectomy, which is a few days to weeks of discomfort... you're comparing the percentage risk of something very small against the percentage risk of something enormous. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/24 10:36 AM |
| 16 | What to do? AP's kid started going to our kids school - I have proof of their affairJust let it go. Don’t tell anyone. Don’t announce anything. You don’t need the drama and you don’t want your kids dealing with the fallout. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/24 09:19 AM |
| 1 | Could she have done anything?I begged for the change I needed and for how she could help me be better for almost two years... all she had to so was ACT, not just say she was going to. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 01:00 PM |
| 4 | Want some hacking advice to get information about my wifeHaving criminal hacking charges filed against you when she finds out is not a way to help yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/24 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Where to bust?First, don't call it "bust" in front of anyone. Second, expect they will require a condom. If they don't, use one anyway. The risks are not worth it. Inside the condom, do whatever you want. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/24 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Separated rulesIt depends on the state. A few still consider it cheating AND it will make a difference in the settlement. Most of them don't care though. In general, the bigger issue you make of it, the more you are setting yourself for an expensive legal battle where only the attorneys win. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/24 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Socially acceptable or no?None of the above. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/24 11:20 PM |
| 18 | ConfessionEasy. You don’t. Let it go and move on with life. Like many other times, you can put your energy into proving yourself right or you can be happy. Not both. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/24 02:26 AM |
| 3 | Argument over turning over financial documentationIt's called discovery. I'm surprised no one asked for that information before now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/01/24 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Will I lose half my business?Most likely, yes. And every business document is subject to discovery if it goes to court. It's a really bad idea to hide or misrepresent anything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/24 10:26 PM |
| 10 | Revenge on stbxwDo yourself a favor: disengage from the drama. No good can come of it. You still have to co-parent with this person, and you're doing more to hurt than help the future relationship you need to have. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/24 02:01 PM |
| 9 | Feeling conflictedNot your circus, not your monkeys. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/24 09:24 PM |
| 2 | Typical for Attorneys to Charge for ConsultationsSome do, some don't. It helps weed out the time-wasters. The better ones apply it to your retainer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/24 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Hotels and my ps5it's an HDMI plug. which most TVs use. It should be easy to hook up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/24 09:10 PM |
| 6 | wife threatens ask 71k $ as divorce settlement, or she sue meTell her to go ahead. And be sure to get yourself an attorney | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/24 06:26 PM |
| 2 | The Gym is NOT the Answer for Everyone…and Could Even be Dangerous…That can and does happen in rare situations. It sucks hard, and my condolences on your loss. From the sound of it, the same thing could have happened walking upstairs or alking outside. 3mph (a 20:00 mile) is a walking speed. This could be mixing correlation and causation. It's possible he'd have had that same heart attack home on the couch at that same time. "It's thought" is not exactly conclusive evidence that exercise was the cause. Most gyms recommend medical clearance before starting an ex… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 01:35 PM |
| 2 | The Gym is NOT the Answer for Everyone…and Could Even be Dangerous…I would say the more general advice is "find productive hobbies, get healthier, and make yourself more attractive." "Hit the gym" is a method that potentially hits all three and requires a few caveats (but calling it "dangerous" is dramatic) | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Advice- We both want to keep the houseUnless you have tons of cash laying around, most likely neither of you will get to keep the house and it will have to be sold for the equity to be split. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/23 02:24 AM |
| 16 | Rock bottomAs a high level athlete, you know the tricks to get going. Use them. Tell yourself it's only a 10-minute workout so you will go. Lay out all your stuff in advance so you will go. Schedule someone to meet you there so you will go. Get back in the routine any way you can. It will help you feel better too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/23 07:47 PM |
| 2 | I stopped talking to my daughter because of her onlyfansOne way to guarantee a worse outcome is to remove positive influence. I wouldn’t recommend letting go of your daughter for any reasons. Your absence doesn’t help her. Your presence might some day. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 02:22 AM |
| 7 | Photos and history?I downloaded and stored them. You can delete them in an instant but later realize you wanted one for some reason. I would recommend unfollowing her, though. That gets unhealthy at some point. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/23 09:54 PM |
| 4 | Mortgage/equity questionIf your name is on the mortgage, most banks would not allow her refinance without your approval. As always, an attorney is your best resource to make sure there's not some loophole. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/23 10:13 PM |
| 4 | Could STBX force me to pay for BAC program?If it goes to court, it all becomes about splitting child expenses "proportionately and fairly", which is absurdly subjective. She can totally ask for it. It would be up to you to convince the court that's not a fair expectation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/23 03:41 PM |
| 6 | Could STBX force me to pay for BAC program?Your ex can't force you to do anything, but the court could. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/23 03:32 PM |
| 9 | My (28M) wife (24F) won’t stop bringing up the past. Any help?This is the kind of thing to work through in therapy. She probably has some sort of issue that causes this, and you are unlikely to be able to unwind it in a way that makes things better. Be ready for this to be an issue that gets worse and worse until it's resolved. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/23 02:36 PM |
| 5 | the step-"dad" walking the daughter down the aisle along the bio father has to be a humiliation ritualThe wedding day is about the bride. She picks who walks her down the aisle. Shes lucky if two guys loved her and supported her enough that she wants them both. Or maybe one of them is an asshole and makes it easy on her to pick just one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/23 02:44 AM |
| 49 | I will never let my kids call my wife's AP "step-dad."It sucks all around, but you have no control over what they call him when you're not around. The longer you fight that concept, the harder it will be for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/23 09:23 PM |
| 12 | Relationship - Bday party with ex - what would you do?It's their party. They get to set the rules. You're the guest. You get to decide whether you are ok with the rules. I understand not wanting to take your new gf and not create any drama at the party. I also get not wanting to leave her out (which I would add, your friends chose to leave her out as well in favor of your ex... they could have excluded your ex and invited you and your new gf instead). In that situation, I wouldn't go. It lets you avoid the ex completely, which seems like the best o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/23 12:52 PM |
| 4 | Need to rant this morningIt could be that too! | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 05:26 PM |
| 3 | Need to rant this morningPeople have a reason for doing what they do... it just may not be the one they tell you or the one you think it is. You thought she wanted to keep them. Maybe she wanted to sell them. Maybe she just wanted you not to have them. Maybe something else. It's impossible to say. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Should I get an Attorney?If she has an attorney, you will want one too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/23 01:05 PM |
| 5 | Woman I met said we have to be exclusive to have sexIt sounds to me like she's stringing you along and/or playing games. I wouldn't put much effort into her, if any. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/23 07:42 PM |
| 11 | Woman I met said we have to be exclusive to have sexSome people take sex very seriously. Some people take "safe" sex very seriously. That's up to them to decide. If you're not ok with it, you can decide not to have sex with that person. It's also possible it's some kind of test/game, in which case I'd just get out and be done. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/23 06:17 PM |
| 4 | Wtf is stbxwhttps://letmegooglethat.com/?q=stbxw | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/23 12:57 PM |
| 3 | Can someone explain to me the downsides of getting married and immediately following that up with legal separation? What exactly does it protect?It sounds like an urban legend. I would recommend talking to an attorney to find out if that ever holds up in court. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/23 02:18 PM |
| 1 | When to call it quits?Is there's a Cliff's notes version? | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/23 09:41 PM |
| 7 | STBXW getting serious with some dudeDude, it's over. Just let her go. This isn't worth starting a fight over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/23 03:39 PM |
| 23 | Men that cheated before they left, what’s happened to the woman now?You're probably right. No one wants to hear it, and no one believes it, but you're right. Study after study shows that married people feel massively in love with their affair partners because of their environment, the added excitement, and the lack of real-life issues, all of which collapse when they leave their spouse and get together. It almost never works. Not never, but almost. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/23 02:27 PM |
| 3 | No peace for men without a wifeWe are social creatures, and many ways exist to meet that need without a spouse. As long as you tell yourself you need a specific societally-defined (and I'm guessing religiously) role like that, you're correct that you will not achieve peace. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/23 02:19 PM |
| 5 | Struggling with divorceHiding income is a way to find yourself in more trouble, not less. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/23 07:57 PM |
| 1 | My fiancée won’t marry me if I get a prenup. This dude needs to talk to some of us dudesIt sounds like you see the red flags and already know she is trouble. You just need to break it off, which is a lot easier said than done. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/23 12:12 PM |
| 1 | First Date: Why is it bad to talk about past relationships?You're assuming they would tell you the truth or at least the whole story. A woman who was cheating with a different guy every night might say her needs were not being met at home. A woman with a drinking problem might say she liked going out more than her partner did (and guys are no different). Whatever they tell you about their past is their side of things, which may or may not be accurate or heavily spun. | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 12:23 PM |
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