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“Lol wat? I’m 6’3” but I I said I’m 6’0...”
/r/askTRP17/05/21 03:57 AM
1

“Prove it ;)” Then fuck her the way you like.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 06:25 PM
22

Drink the first, sip the second, hold the third. Or drink water. No one’s paying attention to what’s in your cup.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 12:24 AM
4

Yeah, if the dude is ugly.
/r/askTRP17/03/20 02:33 AM
1

Fuck other girls.
/r/askTRP10/03/20 09:21 PM
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You do attract sluts. I’ve gone on a lot of tinder dates. but I’ve still fucked them on the first date usually. See? the girls who always fuck me and get interested in me are virgins, or girls with a low count in general. Do you think you're the only Tinder dude they've "dated"? Why would they fuck you on the first date and not any of the other dudes they've swiped right? Look at actions, not words. They’re not bad looking either. Good on ya. All women will be a slut for someone; are you that gu…
/r/askTRP10/02/20 11:13 PM
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"Well, now I am!"
/r/askTRP06/02/20 05:43 PM
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she told me that she wanted to take things slow. told me that she was busy and never tried to reschedule “damn I wanted to smoke (not be sexual) with you before work”. You're an orbiter. Also, your grapes are sour and that kind of attitude is unattractive.
/r/askTRP06/02/20 05:28 PM
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Do YOU think anything about YOUR choices or actions in this situation are anything to be ashamed about? If the answer is “No”, then fuck her couch. YOU get to decide if you want people who behave like that in YOUR life.
/r/askTRP04/02/20 08:34 PM
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Positive or negative, it doesn’t matter. Mouth sounds made about your muscles means you have muscles to notice. Good work; keep lifting. If you encounter enemies, you’re going the right way.
/r/askTRP30/01/20 09:13 PM
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Violin player? Get gigs. Math geek? Make money Chess wizard? Do competitions. Be passionate about it. Basically, figure out how to do what you like in public, well l enough that you get social proof.
/r/askTRP24/01/20 07:02 PM
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Humans like sex, including female humans. That's why we all exist. Get over it. This is the answer. My ego is not so huge as to think that I'm the best lay they've ever had Good. Don’t. Be the best lay you’ve ever had.
/r/askTRP25/05/19 09:49 PM
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Hold the phone. Who's the fucking prize here? ​ She should be worried about what YOU are doing while she's out of country. ​ "Have fun on your trip!" You'll miss me? "Yep." Are you going out/doing whatever social thing you do? "Of course!" (hamster hamster hamster about who might fall on your dick) ​ Next thing you know, Snapchat is blowing up and your phone is full of naked pictures in her hotel room. Maybe you'll wait until you get home from whatever TF you're doing to look.
/r/askTRP18/03/19 04:10 AM
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Why, are you going to stop when you "get there"?
/r/askTRP08/06/18 08:49 PM
2

Yes. /thread The real question is she a slut for YOU or saving her best?
/r/askTRP08/06/18 08:43 PM
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Girl: "Lets go to a ballgame!" You: "Fuck yeah! You've got Cubs tickets?" (immediately sets the frame as "she's taking YOU on a date") Girl: "Uh, no..." You: "NP, you get the tickets and I'll handle refreshments. See you there!" (makes her invest first. If she flakes, you didn't spend any money.) Assuming you even like baseball... The other chick- i countered “ I really want to meet you, i’d like to get coffee and see if our text chemistry has real world legs. Saturday afternoon?” Pedistalize mu…
/r/askTRP29/05/18 04:24 PM
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Ignore her beauty. She's just a chick who wants to get fucked. Go do something free and not boring.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 04:05 PM
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The tight asses in lulu lemon pants doing downward facing dog in front of my face is just a bonus. I'm partial to the cat-cow series...
/r/askTRP29/05/18 03:59 PM
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The one thing I agree with in this thread is that its a bad place to pickup, women are sweaty and uncomfortable talking and its supposed to stay quiet. The hot women usually go straight to the showers and leave right after and there is no chance to talk to them This is true. But then you see Yolanda from Yoga in Trader Joe's later that day/week, now you have a plausibly deniable way to open her.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 03:21 PM
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Does that mean it's not a good venue to meet women since you don't interact with them? Nope. It's a great place to see/be seen by women. Just a terrible place to approach them.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 03:19 PM
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Don't forget to equally train the backs of your shoulders to stabilize the joint. Pendlay rows, kroc rows, facepulls, lots of them.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 04:31 PM
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Obey the laws of thermodynamics.
/r/askTRP22/05/18 08:01 PM
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I've been pushing for anal sex with this FWB (escalating with fingers), but she always keeps saying she doesn't want to do it (with you / right now). First problem is that you're "pushing for it". Your frame should be "Anal is NBD, I've had it before, I'll do it again some day. She gets to decide if it's with her." Getting girls to do things is one thing, but getting them to WANT to do that thing is something else. Escalating (with actions) is good, but when she pumps the brakes, her actions say…
/r/askTRP11/05/18 07:38 PM
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Sounds like you just read "The Fountainhead"…
/r/askTRP11/05/18 06:56 PM
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It's been said, but learn a musical instrument. Don't forget to learn how to sing. Also, shredding in your bedroom won't wet any panties. You need to perform in front of people and be relaxed and charismatic while doing it. I'll also second the dancing suggestion. Latin is good, but if you don't like that, check out country (Texas two-step). It's fun to move your body, chicks like it when you lead, and lots of places in cities have lessons for both at bars. Instant kino with built-in plausible d…
/r/askTRP09/05/18 11:30 PM
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Jesus. Be a human and accept an invitation to hang out with some other humans.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 05:30 PM
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I want to do an instrument but no money rn so need others Can you make mouth sounds? Learn to sing. It's free. Then join a band.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 03:40 PM
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how on earth do people pick up in a place where you can’t hear anything? The environment is what it is. Don't wish it were different, use it to your advantage. Loud just means you have to get physical sooner. Judge IOI by body language and eye contact. Get physically close to talk. Pull her by the waist to talk in your ear. Brush her hair behind her ear to talk to her. Isolate by "lets go (outside, over there, where ever) so we can actually talk."
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/18 12:31 AM
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Sock Guy
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 11:46 PM
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Question about socks: in a casual outfit (say jeans and cool, colorful sneakers--bright blue with white trim), is the advice to go with short no-show or ankle-length white socks, or to go with full-length socks that aren't white? Black, tan, or charcoal crew socks are OK. But it's also popular these days to wear loud, clashing, "Rad socks". Basically, if you're going to wear socks, make sure everyone knows you're wearing socks. It's better than a fuzzy tophat for peacocking. Obviously with short…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 11:44 PM
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Find. A. Tailor. Wanna look like Chris Mehan? Do not tolerate the poofy muffin top! Buy shirts that fit you in the neck and shoulders with "high arm holes" then take them to get altered. Ask for the "sides taken in and back darts." I'm tall, broad shouldered, but have a 31" waist. I usually pay $15 per shirt for double-stitching. Sleeves a little too long or too baggy? They can fix that. They can taper and hem pants too. Asian dry cleaners often will do alterations. Wife have a Nordstrom credit …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 11:30 PM
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she told me she loves me (plus all that other gaslighting) What she says, vs heavy eye contact… she was lightly running her fingertips up his stomach/torso. What she does. Especially the touching. Instead of getting pissy and physical, this should amuse you. You're the prize, remember? She doesn't want to be exclusive anymore? Fuck yeah, you get to go fuck the other girls who want a turn. Don't get angry that she disrespected you, recognize that she chose to do it and adjust your actions accordi…
/r/TheRedPill25/04/18 10:27 PM
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If you have to ask, you shouldn't be getting them. taking nude pictures or recording video while having sex While she's enthusiastically fucking you (or clearly enjoying getting fucked from behind), say "OMG, you have to see what I can see. Gimme your phone!" Take a couple pictures or short videos with her phone. The next few days, she'll find them, maybe send 'em to you if she has a sexy flashback. Also, don't keep nudes. Just fuck more.
/r/askTRP24/04/18 04:14 PM
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So you're saying the switch to a standing desk helped you lose 150 lbs?
/r/askTRP23/04/18 09:49 PM
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Read The Fountainhead. That'll make you loath "people pleasers" if you don't already.
/r/askMRP23/04/18 09:40 PM
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Plate If she cums, and you cum, there's no problem. Really, even if you don't cum, but you're still having fun, there's no problem. You could start gaming her earlier and get her mind working before the physical encounter so she'd feel turned-on for longer.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 07:14 PM
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Chad-dad here. When I'm with my kids, we're usually doing something awesome. I play with them at the playground, I get approached by the moms and nannies, single or not. Their aggressiveness is an order of magnitude more intense at the pool (because I lift and it shows). I date child-free 20-somethings. Always professional women with their shit together. In my post-divorce dating life, only one woman wasn't OK with me having kids. The vast majority find it attractive. I think it must be a common…
/r/askTRP23/04/18 06:53 PM
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Alexa! Where the fuck are my gloves?
/r/askMRP20/04/18 11:44 PM
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Sure. Don't ever expect to fuck her. Don't cock block each other. Don't get butthurt when she doesn't want to hang out with you. Don't give her validation for just being a chick. Don't buy her shit. Don't do random nice things for her. Basically treat her like a dude. It's not that easy, but it is that simple.
/r/askTRP20/04/18 08:34 PM
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If only she would let you eat steak…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 11:11 PM
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Whichever outfits or pieces you feel conscious about, wear them around the house when you're not going anywhere. Just get used to the feel of the clothes on your body. Then when you're out, you already feel comfortable in those clothes. It's obvious when a man wears a blazer, or leather-soled shoes, or pants that aren't jeans when he usually doesn't. He'll carry his body differently.
/r/askTRP17/04/18 03:58 PM
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I'll take this one. Just like single-blade shaving your face, you need to stretch the skin tight. Wrinkles are what get caught in the blade. Pick your favorite method, Cat Brain or Sailboat, and work your way around until you've covered the whole area. Don't forget the gooch, you might have to squat for access. You might break out with a bunch of tiny zits or in-growns whenever you shave your body hair. Tip #9 by /u/2ndal is effective, or you can use what hospitals use to keep post-surgury shave…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 11:17 PM
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Wait until she's bored and sexting you during the day. Then send it.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 04:38 PM
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Instead of everyone immediately getting hung up on the details of the path he chose, can we not focus on the fact that the man saw a problem with himself, made a choice, took action, and stuck with it. According to his own standards, his life is better. Well done /u/NotMeAtAll2091
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 03:51 PM
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Cashews, buttered coffee, whole fat greek yogurt, Halo Top ice cream, bone broth
/r/askTRP13/04/18 03:52 PM
2

Do you work in an urban area? Add 30 minutes to either end of your commute, park a little farther away, and open chicks you see walking. Go out for lunch (even if it's walking to a nearby park or bench to eat what you brought), open chicks you see then. Open chicks you see while doing your weeknight errands. Grocery store, gas station, waiting at restaurants, whatever. I find that adding time to getting places lets me saunter around at a relaxed pace, spot people to talk to, but still have a mis…
/r/askTRP12/04/18 10:05 PM
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Well, is your requirement <160# or not? Who TF cares what they say unless it's obvious from her pictures that she's a 98# gymnast. Then, sure have some banter.
/r/askTRP16/03/18 08:56 PM
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Congratulations, you're dating / seeing a heterosexual female. You should be worried if she DOESN'T show signs of attraction to attractive males. At the end of the day, if she rides your dick into the sunset, you're the higher branch and you've satisfied her hypergamy (right now). Enjoy your turn.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 07:33 PM
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It's a subtle difference, but make yourself the source of the validation you're giving, not just confirming what she may or may not already know. "I like your style." rather than "You have great style." Edit to add: Like was mentioned in another comment, confirming her attribute comes from below. But, expressing your judgement of the attribute comes from above.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 06:13 PM
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I fall asleep and then wake up 3 hours later to piss and can't go back to sleep. I used to do this too. My Dr. suggested that I might be eating too close to bedtime (in particular sugar and alcohol) and that my insulin level was doing something a few hours later. I stopped having nightcaps and ate dinner earlier, fuck if that problem didn't just go away! Also, I stopped drinking so much water right before bed so I wouldn't have to pee anyway, and ZMA works better on an empty stomach anyway, so t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:55 PM
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Rippetoe's "Starting Strength". It's a basically a kinesiology textbook.
/r/askMRP13/03/18 03:13 PM
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Not unless you want her to line the bottom of her sock drawer with it.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 09:52 PM
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Wearing womens' clothes, Drag racing 0_0 You actually racing other 'queens or just trying to sneak onto the podium?
/r/askTRP12/03/18 09:40 PM
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I already have an excellent gym membership This your gym, bro?
/r/askTRP12/03/18 09:20 PM
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Nah, judging by everything he's posted, Homeboy wants to BUY a THING, not DO a thing. Doing something would divert time and effort away from smoking weed and guzzling light beer while gaming.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 09:18 PM
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100% sure you missed the point.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 08:55 PM
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Boom.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 08:45 PM
1

I like to blow a raspberry on her cheek, smirk, then carry on with whatever.
/r/askTRP09/03/18 11:57 PM
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A wise man once said: "Think you can do better than her? Prove it. If not, STFU."
/r/askTRP08/03/18 12:31 AM
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The medium is the message.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 06:36 PM
2

www.ifixit.com They have fantastic step-by-step manuals with pictures. Fix all those cracked screens and dead batteries of all your family's devices. Even if you don't actually have something to fix, you can click through the procedures and see how things go together. You might not know how the logic board on an iPhone WORKS, but you'll know how it's held in there.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 04:38 PM
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sex has been used as a weapon against me It's only a weapon if it hurts YOU. Imagine her saying "I'll hold my breath until you buy me a pony!" I'm finding it hard as hell not to engage, argue, and blow the fuck up. Oohhh, you don't have abundance (or even the mentality). Yeah, that will make things harder. You should get some of that. do I have any other option than to STFU, remove my time and attention, and nurse my sore balls alone? Yep. Rub one out or go bang some strange. Banging strange mig…
/r/askMRP02/03/18 11:21 PM
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You- "Hi CG. We're going to postpone our date until next weekend." CG- "OK. Is everything alright?" You- "Yep. See ya then." CG's hamster- run, run, run, run all week. Or not. Who cares. OR You- "Hi CG. We're going to postpone our date until next weekend." CG- "What? Why?" You- "Got invited to a threesome. I'm sure you understand." CG- "You asshole!" You- "Yep. See ya then." CG's hamster- warpspeed!
/r/askTRP02/03/18 09:28 PM
2

Let it be. Make sure you're jacked from lifting. Lots, and I mean lots, of young women like some salt 'n pepper on their beefcake.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 08:46 PM
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Ignoring the fact that you don't lift (really the barrier to entry if you want to be taken seriously around here), here are some thoughts: Your wife is getting all the oxytocin she needs from cuddly interactions with your kid. Your lovey-dovey sensuality is like trying to cram-hole more gas in the tank after the pump hit the auto shut-off. Literally the last thing (nature says) she needs or wants right now is another child, so you MUST create polarity between the feelz she gets from your kid and…
/r/askMRP02/03/18 05:16 PM
1

she can't hamster her own failure Ha!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 10:22 PM
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No. If your fingers are too fat to click a link, hit the gym fatty. You don't deserve what the internet has to offer.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 09:16 PM
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No, they have a BF if they want one, and if they want a different one, they branch swing. Be the higher branch. If they don't want a BF, you won't be the one to change her mind.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 05:11 PM
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Would you say that boat is, you know, full of "sea men"?
/r/askTRP01/03/18 04:51 PM
1

Cool story, bro. Lets imagine for a second that you got home and she "was tired". Would you still have called the event a success? I mean, her being tired didn't change the fact that you executed like a boss, right? Right? Remember it wasn't "you" that made her wet for sex, it was the way you made her feel.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 12:46 AM
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i don't mean about me, asking in general. Oh. In that case tell your, uh… friend, to stop giving a fuck about internet randos validating his personal preferences.
/r/askTRP28/02/18 09:57 PM
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DEVI
/r/askTRP28/02/18 09:47 PM
2

Do those girls actually have dicks and put them in your butt?
/r/askTRP28/02/18 09:46 PM
2

Do you mean that the only reason she would even be thinking about the times that she's gotten frustrated is that I reacted poorly? Bingo. Except she's not thinking about it, she's "feeling" it. Also, it's not really about the dishes hair.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 04:44 PM
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If there was ever a woman who would break out of needing a high-SMV mate to calm her inner demons, I think it would be her. Now why the fuck would you want her to do that? So she'd "give up", stop trying to impress you, and you could lollygag down easy street with your shaggy hair and dadbod? The ultimate insight is that you need to get your SMV up in order to calm a woman's hypergamous anxiety. No. Hypergamy <> anxiety. That's an oxymoron. Hypergamy is her feeling confident she can do better th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 04:05 PM
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I like to make myself feel better by thinking he's beta. Maybe you shouldn't think about him at all.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 07:36 PM
4

If you're going to booty call, at least stick with the program. Wait until 2am and text "u up?"
/r/askMRP22/02/18 10:08 PM
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Yeah, I linked it already.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 06:45 PM
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I don’t see any practical way to create any sense of scarcity. I had some thoughts about this on my commute this morning. My current GF and I are very active. We take long and short adventure trips all the time. One of the reasons I've chosen to have her in my life is that she NEVER says no. To anything. In fact, when I'm excited to do something, she amplifies my stoke. There's no doubt that I'm the Captain though because I make the strategic decisions (and always have a tactical plan to fire at…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 05:46 PM
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Too many boozes and nothing will work. I've used Cialis quite a few times for a sport boost when I knew I'd be drinking more than usual and would still be expected to fuck later. No negative interactions IME. I also don't drink that much. I'm not a doctor though, so do your own research.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 04:47 PM
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You clearly have no problem putting drugs in your body, so take some Cialis. /thread
/r/askTRP21/02/18 11:26 PM
1

I don’t (want her to be a SAHM) But admit it, you do find some validation knowing that you can afford for her to do this. It's a classic milestone of success according to the "old rules". she is a mama bear and wants to be home. I think that's your projection / wish. She’s had trouble owning this, but it’s gotten easier. She’s expressed guilt and resentment over not bringing any money in… she’s engaged and social at work, happy to be home, energized Because that's what she does. See the cognitiv…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 06:35 PM
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I read 2gunsgetsome’s epic story. Oh… hey. It’s mind boggling that she is so overwhelmed when our life is like playing a video game with cheat codes. And you're frustrated that she doesn't show her appreciation the way you want, in your case, by presenting herself like someone who can afford to keep up her health and appearance because that's her meal ticket (according to Marriage Rules 1.0). Since no one has pointed it out, there's your obvious covert contract. I know, I had it. Advising someon…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 03:23 AM
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Give / do whatever YOU want to / for others in the way you want to do it. Don't predicate your enjoyment of your own act of giving on the way the gift is received and / or appreciated. Make the choice to give, don't be persuaded to do it.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 10:16 PM
1

Who doesn't wonder about bikes sometimes?
/r/askMRP19/02/18 04:08 PM
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google "tagthesponsor".
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 04:51 PM
1

Dudes who rarely wear suits tend to move stiffly and act more serious than they otherwise would.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 09:19 PM
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When more women lead, workplaces are stronger and safer for everyone. Stop it! My sides!
/r/askMRP14/02/18 10:39 PM
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Depends, are we talking french fries?
/r/askTRP14/02/18 08:28 PM
1

I think we're all underthinking this. A story devoid of female victims? Sure, it's easy to have the deadperson be a dude, but what about his widow? Who will take out her garbage next week? She da real victim. Take that a step further- what if that dead guy was fat and ugly and liked to compliment random women on the street? Yes, #themtoo. The mere mention of those poor women in the backstory technically makes the story contain female victims? Even worse, what if he was a hawt domanant billionair…
/r/askMRP14/02/18 07:16 PM
1

"Shanked in Solitary" is a good working title Tell me that's the sequel to "Logjammin'".
/r/askMRP14/02/18 06:57 PM
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did i miss anything? Yeah, the "Ugogurl" feelz when the retribution comes from a heroine or former victim.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 06:54 PM
1

Tomorrow is Valentines day. How should I handle this ? Obviously, you should play her a song on your Didgeridoo. Preferably, surprise her at work.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 05:32 PM
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"sexy comments are what I'm all about" be playfully obtuse that she said "sexist" and you heard "sexy"
/r/askTRP14/02/18 04:53 PM
2

to fly to Dubai to ride around in their Ferraris be literally pooped on for money.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 04:01 PM
1

It's statistically based, and being The Navy, they have access to quite a vast sample population. That method will get you close enough to stop bullshitting yourself. But if you hate actual numbers, this page is pretty good too.
/r/askMRP13/02/18 11:24 PM
1

Change the status quo. Until now, in this LTR, her stinky pussy has traded at the same rate as your hard dick. You've decided your dick is worth more and if she wants the exchange to continue, she needs to take action to improve the value of her pussy (because just like there are lots of other dicks out there that will trade at the same rate as a stinky pussy, there are plenty of freshies out there for you too). It's entirely possible that she just doesn't smell herself and doesn't know that odo…
/r/askTRP13/02/18 10:56 PM
1

Helps her back pain. You know what else helps back pain? A Hitachi Magic Wand.
/r/askMRP09/02/18 05:12 PM
1

i know people that have actually shit there pants on the way to work in the car Not me, but this, uh… guy I know… keeps a spare set of clothes, including underwear at the office. For a completely unrelated reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/18 04:30 PM
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should you seek comfort from her if you feel down? Absolutely not. Is she your mommy? Or should you just be quiet and play daddy, providing her with a place where only good things happen Absolutely, but not at the expense of your own comfort/needs/desires/mission. I'm not sure how to handle all this "love" stuff since I had some bad experiences in the past (which is the reason why I'm here obviously). It's healthy to love. Just eliminate the expectation that she will love you back the same way y…
/r/askTRP08/02/18 09:05 PM
1

Read a book
/r/askTRP08/02/18 12:43 AM
7

Stop being fat. Your face will sharpen up. In the meantime, grow a beard and shape the bottom square like.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 12:41 AM
3

Prepare your ditch kit (money, documents, etc.) Get the divorce papers and settlement ready to serve. Buy a remote control vibrator and put the buzzing part where the phone was. While you're both in the room, hit the button. It might be prudent to do this when you have someone from your family staying the night, witness and all... Be calm, play out the scene Divorce Live happily ever after
/r/askMRP08/02/18 12:05 AM
1

OP: "Why does the mic on this phone smell like cum?"
/r/askMRP07/02/18 11:54 PM
3

Maybe she's cooking meth. OP, did you recently buy a carwash?
/r/askMRP07/02/18 11:42 PM
5

the dude immediately said something like “You work out enough?” I know, right? I'm going hard for a dadbod, but nothing is working. How do you do it? Craft beer and cheese?
/r/askTRP07/02/18 04:57 PM
1

"Hi. Maker's on rocks please. Nope, close it out."
/r/askTRP02/02/18 10:08 PM
1

You want to know what is a bit frustrating: no
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 06:55 PM
1

What is FFS, even your wife gets it > Mean ..? You quoted your wife statement to de-link your personal value from sex. words, words, words, wife, wife, wife… You are choosing to participate in this relationship. You control that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 06:29 PM
1

/u/AnimalFactsBot, in which direction does a drake's penis corkscrew?
/r/askMRP01/02/18 06:18 PM
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Guess at this point I am just a guy that gets the money, works for her and does what she wants me to do to make her life easier. Guess - that does not = sex or = sexual desire. That is the part I need to get.. I am the one that trained her that way. You trained yourself that way too. YOU must break the association in your mind that sex is earned (even by being hawt). It's not a reward. It's something people who want to feel good do with each other for the sole reason that it feels good in that m…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 06:13 PM
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good bot
/r/askMRP01/02/18 05:12 PM
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Women dont want VALUE sex the same as a man does. Fixed that for ya. They want it alright, they just don't have to work for it, ever, so they don't value it like men (who have to work for it) do. Nice Guys get disappointed (and bitter) when they realize women don't value it the same way they do.
/r/askTRP31/01/18 04:53 PM
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So… when is this trip happening? Asking for a friend…
/r/askMRP31/01/18 04:38 PM
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The nurse told me Herpes can lie dormant in the immune system for as much as five years after an exposure and really, it's more a stigma than anything. This. Also, "Asymptomatic Viral Shedding" is a thing. One of you or someone you bumped uglies with in the past had it, maybe knew it, maybe didn't know, passed it to you. You can get HSV-1 ("cold sores") on your junk and HSV-2 ("genital herpes") on your mouth. Condoms don't prevent the spread because the lesions or shedding can happen in the enti…
/r/askTRP31/01/18 12:10 AM
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But make sure the picture of you together is on top, in a gold frame.
/r/askMRP30/01/18 11:44 PM
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Find an opportunity to allude to the fact that you ended your last LTR because she got fat. She usually responds with stuff like “if you’re out of shape, I’m obese.” She knows she's fat. But there are no consequences so why should she do anything about it? Don't absolve or forgive when she says that, but don't rub it in. "Ha! Just don't fail my boner test! (wink)"
/r/askTRP30/01/18 07:39 PM
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by looking good af Easier said than done No it's not. Shower every day. Have a sharp haircut and groom your face. Put on an outfit that you took off a hanger, not the floor. Stand up straight and don't be fat.
/r/askTRP26/01/18 05:36 PM
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No weights or gyms for miles and miles, anyway. Or other skinny women, probably. What's the body type of the women coming to learn yoga from your wife? Seems like that could be an opportunity for your wife to see them drool over your manflesh.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 05:03 PM
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Be congruent. She'll polarize herself. If she sticks around, you can keep fucking her. If she bails, you get to fuck someone else. Edit- people change jobs all the time for reasons. Sometimes it's earlier than you planned. If you aren't living hand to mouth, this is no big deal. Unless you're afraid of being being employed, you can find another job this week (yes. it's Thursday. Go spin a sign if you have to.).
/r/askTRP25/01/18 06:18 PM
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This, OP. What would you do if you were a single dad? Do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 04:07 PM
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One thing that feels as a huge relief is that I have stopped whining and complaining completely. Not just to my wife but in general. That feels good. The worst I think was that I was whining not only externally, but also internally… This shit dragged me down… I also usually manage not to get dragged down when my wife is in bad mood (morning/PMS/middle of the night usually) Fuck yeah. People are as happy as they decide they want to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 04:01 PM
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"How was your day, Mr. Penguin?" … She then presses into another question, "How was your day at the north pole?" Women… Everyone knows penguins are ANT-arctic!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 12:58 AM
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Why would you want a day off from being awesome?
/r/askMRP22/01/18 11:54 PM
2

Sex God Method.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 07:12 PM
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Will making yourself assertive, healthy, strong, fit, Well groomed, well dressed, friendly, responsible, reliable, charismatic, interesting, self-fulfilled, and fun increase the percentage of the 3.5B women in the world who will want a rodeo on your dick with the lights on at lunchtime? You bet it will.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 12:43 AM
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good bot
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 10:40 PM
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Yes, but only if you capitalize on the social proof potential. Play gigs. Talk to people at your gigs. Go to other bands's gigs and talk to them. Be recognized in "the scene" so that you're greeted when you walk into venues even if you're not playing that night. DON'T talk about how much you practice. No one gives a fuck about how the sausage is made. FFS, learn to sing.
/r/askTRP16/01/18 11:53 PM
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Yes. My GF was pretty but a little chubby when I met her. Passed my boner test, but not the hottest girl I've dated. She fucks exactly the way I like and adds lots of other value to my life, so here we are. Hotter, skinnier chicks frequently flirt with me, especially during "shirt-off season". GF mateguards like crazy and makes sure her dress and grooming are always on point (and she tells me this, to get my validation). That was satisfying her hamster for a while. She also knows a major reason …
/r/askTRP16/01/18 05:53 PM
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So, uh, what's your question?
/r/askMRP12/01/18 10:59 PM
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Freaky 23yo HB7 virgin with previous boyfriends? Wanna buy a bridge? At least you've recognized the 'itis. One time i said to her "oh you got a little crush on him? Why don't you go talk to him?" I guess to show "idgaf". Good textbook response. Next time, open the dude for her. "Hey man, have you met Stacy?" then walk away. Or, "He's cute! Go work dat ass and see if he'll buy you a drink! Get me one too." Her response was her getting upset. She said to me before that I never get jealous Shit tes…
/r/askMRP12/01/18 08:41 PM
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maybe some girl don't like that kind of sex With you.
/r/askTRP12/01/18 08:15 PM
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you know the specific plug I've done anal with other girls who knew what they were doing. Current GF wanted in on the fun so she went to the "high end" sex store. She told the gay dude who was working that she wanted to do butt-stuff. "Oh honey, here's what you need." Fun Factory Bootie Plug. Start with the black (small) one then move up to the maroon medium one. Coconut oil is the best lube but incompatible with latex condoms.
/r/askTRP11/01/18 09:50 PM
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You can help physically with prep, lube, gradual training, etc, but in the end, she has to want to do it (with you). "It's OK, some girls just can't do it." That puts her back in the position of qualifying to you and "how dare you suggest she 'can't' do something?" You decide if no anal is a dealbreaker for you. If it is, find a girl who wants to do it (with you). You decide what you want, she decides if it's with her.
/r/askTRP11/01/18 09:28 PM
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Be sure to buy her some overpriced lingerie, wrap it up, then hover while she opens the "gift".
/r/askMRP11/01/18 07:29 PM
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Exactly. Pressure flip. "What? Her ass looked good. Are you disagreeing?"
/r/askTRP10/01/18 09:15 PM
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Ambition and therefore frustration of not meeting your goals is the driving force here. And the frustration of not being compensated (with sex) for the resources we expended. You know, before we learned about covert contracts :)
/r/askMRP10/01/18 06:23 PM
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Dafuq? Why sneak? "Going on a date. Might be back later."
/r/askTRP10/01/18 12:34 AM
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It looks like this forum is selecting beta bucks in some way Of fucking course it is. Do you think a man who's already alpha fucks would be googling "Why is my wife always too tired to fuck me in the beach house I bought her?"
/r/askMRP10/01/18 12:05 AM
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Tie a tie, shine your shoes, iron your clothes. Troubleshoot a small engine, build a good fire, hone a knife, read a map. Cook an egg, make a sauce, carve a turkey. You'd be surprised at how many people can't do those things.
/r/askTRP09/01/18 10:19 PM
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Meal 1: Ingredients: Steak, whatever cut and however much you want. I usually get 8-12 oz of tenderloin or filet mingion. One package of instant mashed potatos (makes 2 cups), one shallot, 6-8 cloves of garlic, Shiitake mushrooms (about half of the package they come in), one sprig of rosemary, 1/2 stick of salted butter, some red wine (I like Cab Sauv), and some heavy (whipping) cream. Thinly slice and separate the shallot (onion ring style), mince or press the garlic, coarsely chop the mushroom…
/r/askTRP09/01/18 10:02 PM
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D E V I
/r/askTRP08/01/18 09:14 PM
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At the end of the day, it's your problem. Women will fuck how they want to fuck. Sometimes that's the way you want/show/tell them to fuck. If a girl doesn't fuck how you like, pick another girl to fuck.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 09:11 PM
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Moving in with my girlfriend Framing it this way is already a losing position. I'll describe my situation then give some advice about yours. My girlfriend moved in with ME. (yeah yeah, IR#4…) Financially, it's mutually beneficial. It's my place. She had a little input when we did this, but in the end, I picked it. I can afford it on my own, and while shopping for the place, I explicitly told her that this was a requirement. She isn't on the lease. The utilities are in my name. I pay the landlord…
/r/askMRP08/01/18 07:56 PM
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According to who's paradigm are these guys "losers"? Nature or "Society"? Sexual desire is judgment according to Nature's paradigm. You're judging value according to Society's paradigm. AF/BB Read Rollo.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 08:51 PM
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If you internally place more value on money than money is objectively worth, then yeah, you have it on a pedestal and that's bad, m'kay. Abundance, man. Don't be stupid, but you can always make more money.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 06:46 PM
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The 12 steps of dread has fuck-all to do with "her" and everything to do with YOU. YOU are correcting YOUR own deficiencies. It's a program to increase your ability to have sex with women. Period. She gets to decide if she's one of those women. for the purpose of causing her to change is by definition passive aggressive. Yep. But you don't do covert contracts, ever since you read and internalized No More Mr. Nice Guy, right? I personally feel better than I have in years, and now see this LTR as …
/r/askTRP05/01/18 06:02 PM
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but without looking like a weightlifter Don't worry, you won't. At least fix your posture, Emo hipster.
/r/askMRP05/01/18 05:25 PM
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D E V I You can be dominant without being rough or aggressive.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 04:26 PM
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good bot
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 01:56 AM
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I'm currently at 74kg (163lb) for 1.86m (6.1 ft) 13% BF. Dafuq? Where did you start? Did you accidentally cut 20 lbs too far? That was about 3 years back What lifting program have you been on? I want to avoid it. Muscular is subjective Found your hamster. I second the request for more info about your Strange Game success beyond Workslut #1.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 03:58 PM
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Read this.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 03:40 PM
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I smell a bit of myself in here, so I'll chime in. A part of me afraid of sending 10 years down the drain Stop that. You are who you are now because of your experience with your wife, but other than recognizing that, you don't owe her anything and she doesn't owe you anything. A part of me still thinks we could have done better if SHE did better. That may be true, but it's still your fault. I don't subscribe to the notion that a man can be so alpha that EVERY woman (ergo, any specific woman) wil…
/r/askMRP02/01/18 07:52 PM
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And she probably doesn’t. That's her choice. So what are you going to do about it? Nothing. No, he has a choice too. "Do nothing" is one choice, but "Stop tolerating a wet blanket in your sex life" is another. Because you’re still doing all of this for you. Don’t do it for her. Do it for you. Cutting the drag because that's the action he decides on to get what he wants is for him. If he does it to punish his wife for not wanting to be on board the awesome train, then it's not.
/r/askMRP02/01/18 07:05 PM
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All those things definitely make you push back when your BF puts his dick in your butt. So yeah, gayer than cum on a mustache.
/r/askTRP28/12/17 11:28 PM
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I'm not a photographer, but I did learn "Photography 101" via the internet. I'm guessing you have a DSC-HX400. Yes, that's fine. If your lens indicates what focal length / zoom setting you're at, put it somewhere between 100 and 135mm then move yourself until the subject fills the frame, and try to use the "rule of thirds".
/r/askTRP28/12/17 07:58 PM
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Does it have to be a dslr? I have a 20mp Sony with GPS and wifi, nfc, etc... that takes decent pics Resolution is not important. Focal length of the lens is what matters. Read this. And here's a previous discussion about profile content.
/r/askTRP28/12/17 06:51 PM
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Im 35 and lift 3x a week Get your T checked. If you aren't already, take ZMA and Vit D3 supplements. I'm 37 and my 28yo GF and I fuck hard every day, frequently more. I like it that way and she gets cranky if we don't. That said, you do you. If you're satisfied with every few days, she'll either deal with it or not. Does she have a vibrator?
/r/askTRP28/12/17 06:39 PM
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Can confirm. Go on Friday nights to the bouldering gym to find all the single, fit women you can imagine.
/r/askTRP28/12/17 05:13 PM
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Here's a little more detailed reference for visual comparison: http://truth-dealer.com/physiology/fundamentals/lean-body-weight-03.html Some chest development and a tan would help him a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 04:34 PM
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The facts of the whatever story she's telling aren't important. If you want to engage, you need to decipher what feeling she's trying to convey and validate that. Or plant whatever feeling you want her to have. "Dad's cheating on mom, here's why I think he's a shithead." You: "Damn, that's a shitty situation. I can't imagine what it's like to have your family split up." Or whatever to regurgitate how she says she feels about the thing without without inferring that she should feel any differentl…
/r/askTRP28/12/17 12:11 AM
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If she no longer adds value to your life (which is awesome by your own making, with or without her), you'll next her. THen you'll have time for some other chick. Be Chad, don't compete with him.
/r/askTRP27/12/17 11:14 PM
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I wouldn’t be able to handle the fallout from any of this. What could possibly happen? Are you afraid of that? Why? what do you think about setting a boundary here? Depends, are you prepared and able to defend it? I’m pretty tired of her telling me how to drive and she’s been doing it a lot since I started my journey. In your frame, of course you're driving correctly, you've been doing it for decades and any suggestion to the contrary is laughably absurd. Now imagine a bossypants 6 yearold girl …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 08:52 PM
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more likely - you are dating / plating girls who want a BF. I had a similar experience right after my divorce, before I decided to actually do the GF/BF thing and I thought a lot about it. What TRP, and in particular MRP encourages us to make ourselves into is the "Alpha Positive" on this chart. If you subscribe the "women fill the container a man provides" theory, it's natural that the hot-mess, overtly slutty women (LSE/HSD) would gravitate to the Alpha Negative guys. The (HSE/HSD) women who t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 07:07 PM
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I'm driving. Sunday morning, there's nobody around, there's basically zero chance of cops. Prime zone for Agree and Amplify. Have fun with it. “You know you’re going pretty fast, I don’t want us to get a ticket” “Well then I better not get a ticket” playfully Then almost stop, barely set the parking brake, and Ghost Ride The Whip. Or some other shenanigan, which probably would have diverted her from bitch mode. Or if you can't pull a shenanigan, some verbal A&A like "Oh, I was hoping to get a ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 06:03 PM
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If your marriage is that smooth why is she shit testing you? Because when the woman is attracted to you, shit tests are called “flirting”. They never stop, and really you don’t want them to.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 06:37 PM
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No, you don't "not have time to do anything," you just "don't DO anything". I work 9-10 hours per day, commute for 1. I hit the gym on the way home 4 days. I'm in two bands and each one rehearses once per week, 2 hours each. On the other 3 days, I meet friends for dinner/drinks, cook dinner, read books, plan my next adventure or weekend project. My GF and I have sex every night, which takes about an hour, and I sleep for 7. There's still time for spontaneity and adulting like laundry and housecl…
/r/askTRP22/12/17 12:01 AM
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Her actions will indicate either "fuck yeah" or "no". Anything other than "fuck yeah" is a longer way of saying no. Find the "fuck yeah" girls. Now, life happens, things come up, schedules will sometimes need to adjust. If she's a "fuck yeah girl", she'll make the time and reschedule the date. If she doesn't at least suggest a reschedule, you have your answer (the long no). That doesn't always happen instantly, sometimes you have to give them the space to do that. But that's OK because you're bu…
/r/askTRP21/12/17 05:56 PM
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Here Also read Starting Strength to learn how to use your body to move a barbell.
/r/askTRP20/12/17 11:04 PM
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"Bump Uglies" I call trademark!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 09:28 PM
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My forms are shit but the programs keep saying increase. Dafuq kind of program says "don't worry about form, +the weights!" Read Starting Strength to learn how to move weights with your body the right way.
/r/askTRP19/12/17 07:14 PM
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If that's what's in her laptop, imagine what's in her spank-bank! You know, when she's using the showerhead without you? Fact: The chick you're fucking has fucked other dudes. Now think of the filthiest sexual thing that would possibly turn you on. Yep, she's done that with them, and more. She liked it, but for some reason, she or them decided to stop fucking each other (maybe). Guess what- if she's still fucking you, she likes that too (right now). Enjoy your turn. Do those filthy things that t…
/r/askTRP19/12/17 07:04 PM
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Maybe I just need to go full monk mode and leave sex off the table for a while. Monk mode… "Deciding" "I'm not going to have sex" when you're already not having sex has always struck me as kind of silly. I don't like that label because while monks have chosen celibacy, it's because they can't be bothered with the burden of sex because it clouds their thoughts, which are focused on something else they prefer. Monks have no expectation of a deluge of pussy after they've prayed enough. TRP label of…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 05:45 PM
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Me: 33 yr old… Her: 26 yr old… Been with the GF for 11 years now She was 15 and you were 22?
/r/askMRP18/12/17 07:54 PM
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I just can't understand how a simple one night stand can ruin a chick Ever hit a PR when squatting then deloaded? In the months working back up to that PR, what did you answer when someone asked how much you squat?
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 07:56 PM
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She plates herself. You next her on good terms (or bad, whatever) then start fucking other girls. If she enjoyed the sex with you enough, she'll come sniffing back around. Or she won't.
/r/askTRP14/12/17 07:35 PM
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She doesn't want to go down. On you. I know she has done cock sucking before See? You aren't the kind of guy she wants to get sloppy with. That guy exists, but it's not you. In parallel, find another few of the 3.5 billion other women in the world who do want to lick their own juices off your dick, and improve looks, status, and behavior so that more of those 3.5B women fall into that category.
/r/askTRP14/12/17 07:30 PM
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Basically the same thing they do; Tailored shirts, pants that fit right, stylish shoes, sharp haircut, clean skin. Skip the makeup. Also, posture, but don't move so stiffly in your sharp clothes that you look uncomfortable. Think about how ridiculous newb-thots look as they baby-giraffe down the college bar strip in their heels. That's what you look like when you're uncomfortable wearing a blazer or new nice clothes.
/r/askTRP14/12/17 04:57 PM
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She had to swipe right on you too. "Oh shit! You're on Bumble? I thought that was your mom!" Or smash / plate. If everyone hates her, who cares if she has to eject from your friend group when word gets out.
/r/askTRP12/12/17 09:59 PM
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His whole approach is very low weight, lots of sets, with absolute perfect form - muscles tensed the whole time, no momentum, no jerky movements, total control, etc. Maybe you should "test your strength" 3-4 times per week with heavy weights, you know, to make sure that volume program is working.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 07:33 PM
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"Naw, I just crush a lot." Then wink.
/r/askTRP29/11/17 12:05 AM
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You know, you can request money on Venmo too. "Venmo me and I'll be really happyyy" Sure! Requests $5 for 'That thing you asked me for on Tinder ;)', sets visibility to "everyone"...
/r/TheRedPill27/11/17 07:31 PM
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Here ya go.
/r/askTRP03/11/17 12:12 AM
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Faster or slower, IDK. Bulking in the winter lets you gorge on holiday meals, stay warmer with those extra calories, crush it in the gym when it's dark and cold outside, and not care that your thicker winter clothes don't show off your bod. Grow a beard to hide your chubby chin. It's way easier to eat less and drink more water when it's hot out (spring / summer).
/r/askTRP03/11/17 12:05 AM
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Leather oxfords or bluchers. Start with two pair, one light brown (walnut) and one dark brown ("chili"). I'm a huge fan of Allen Edmonds. The Strand in walnut and the St. John (double monk) in chili are both really versatile; I wear mine with jeans, chinos, even suits. If you can only afford one, get the Strand in chili. For boots, Wolverine 1k Mile. Get real ones, don't fall for Thursday Boots' amazing photography. Get belts that match each pair of shoes, and learn how to polish.
/r/askTRP27/10/17 08:09 PM
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In my job, I do everything in my control that needs to be done to ensure the successful completion of a project; I put in the hours, the effort, and the passion. I take control of more things just so I can ensure they get done. I learn new skills in a constant state of improvement. This improvement is mine and I do it for myself. If something doesn’t work the first time, I do it again without hesitation. I hold my team to the same standard. Even though I frequently delegate, I am able and willin…
/r/askTRP25/10/17 03:16 PM
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a night where i would otherwise basically be playing video games and yanking it. Then you said it again here: passing up cuddling with a chick tonight in order to, like i said, stare at reddit... facebook... play a little overwatch... fall alseep watching some dumb netflix show... Get some things going on in your life dude. If you want chicks to be more overt about what they want to do with your time, your time needs to be more valuable. Also, this chick is DTF.
/r/askTRP25/10/17 02:43 PM
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Senior Engineer here. If I had to guess, you're incorporating changes that someone else has already decided on to a design that already exists and not having your "creative juices stimulated" or using all that fancy stuff you learned at school. ECNs suck. You probably feel like you have to ask permission to make any decision. You're not getting the figurative "attaboys" of graded tests like you were in school. You're making good money, but not great money. Yes, some large companies do have their…
/r/askTRP24/10/17 11:26 PM
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To be quite honest, it's so god damned pleasant in our house that sometimes I wish we could have a good ol' fashion fight! I miss that passion. Hide her gloves.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 11:29 PM
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Depends on the man.
/r/askMRP04/08/17 07:35 PM
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I never used a dating site, only swiping apps. The burden of performance (to approach or message first) is on the man, so the avalanche flowing toward women shouldn't be a surprise to anyone. Yeah, on the swiping apps, women will also get hundreds of matches. But, when I started swiping, I expected to get a couple matches per day / week like some of my coworkers. However, I was shocked at how many happened in the first couple weeks (literally dozens per day). Now, a match isn't a guaranteed anyt…
/r/askMRP04/08/17 06:07 PM
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Plus roid rage is a myth unless you have underlying anger issues. Which, clearly you don't. Don't you have something better to do than argue with a broken record? Maybe go pop some back zits?
/r/askMRP04/08/17 03:12 PM
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Ever seen a moderately attractive woman walk into a bar alone? Same thing, old news. Be an attractive man (if you can project high social value, even better), make a new account, and start swiping on Tinder or Bumble. For the first week or so, you'll get an avalanche of matches too, even if you're picky about who you swipe right. Maybe not 1000… She just has a lot more chaff to shake out than we do before schedule and logistics line up between two people who already decided they want to fuck eac…
/r/askMRP04/08/17 02:59 PM
1

Here's a few dominant moves I like to use. First and foremost, they feel great for me. Secondly, they look really hot for both of us in a mirror- get a big one that you can see from the bed. Thinking about it, none of these are ever the first position I go to, but almost always finish with one. Get her good and riled up, really wanting to get fucked, then bust these out. Next thing you know, she'll be rushing things along to get to these moves (and you get to "give" them as a her reward for bein…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/17 10:39 PM
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Here's a few dominant moves I like to use. First and foremost, they feel great for me. Secondly, they look really hot for both of us in a mirror, as /u/anythinginc mentioned. Thinking about it, none of these are ever the first position I go to, but almost always finish with one. Get her good and riled up, really wanting to get fucked, then bust these out. Next thing you know, she'll be rushing things along to get to these moves (and you get to "give" them as a her reward for being your slut). Ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 10:28 PM
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Read this. Do whatever the fuck else you want, but no matter what you do (bulk or cut), you must lift heavy. End of conversation.
/r/askMRP27/07/17 02:47 PM
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Lotta dudes swear it helps with semen production, too. Bigger loads. Can confirm. Not just a little bigger either. I've taken it for a few months, then not taken it for a few months, then started again. I noticed the increase after about a week the first time and paid attention to when I'm on it or not. ZMA definitely affects my semen volume and sleep quality.
/r/askMRP27/07/17 02:41 PM
2

This guy fucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 06:52 PM
1

Here ya go.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 09:42 PM
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compliment her when she takes chances sexually. Definitely complement when you like something, but make sure it's not thanking for a "favor". Remember, trying things that (will probably) feel good is something you BOTH enjoy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 09:34 PM
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"I don't have any of the right clothing, you do this all the time but I don't" and starts crying. it's never about the dishes (or the shirt in this case). trip with my gf (her first) and another couple (very experienced) … afterwards I discovered it may have been that she was just overwhelmed about a new experience. Bingo. RP kicks in and I just grab her into a big hug and hold her for a bit until she stops crying. Good. But then: because all she really needed was to grab a Tshirt out of the clo…
/r/askMRP28/06/17 12:02 AM
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But I'm glad that every commenter on MRP has decided to attack our religious choices instead of actually offering any helpful advice regarding potentially low testosterone levels. Way to gaslight. Fuck off. /r/Testosterone is probably what you're looking for.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 04:59 PM
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Sure, "what gets measured is what gets managed". That's true when the things you're measuring have objective value which is assessed the same way by the "giver" and "receiver". Career advancement / salary- quantifiable compensation for the value you provide to your company. Objective within a range of your peers in experience and ability. You earned a dollar / worked an hour / met a deliverable or you didn't. Real estate and asset value- quantifiable and objective. Someone will pay X dollars for…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 08:49 PM
5

The good - Like with workouts I started documenting this part of my life through a spreadsheet starting last Nov. This way I can track progress and trends. I track about 10 values each time I have sex based on what the sidebar authors pointed to as keys. Dude, that's not "good". Stop spreadsheeting about sex right now. Turn off the scoreboard. Trust us. I can't find J10H's post about "the scoreboard", but it's money. Maybe someone can help me out? (Thinking of writing a thread on this and sharin…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 05:46 PM
3

If you enjoy a good BJ, show her by enjoying that BJ! If you want condition some association with pleasure, get her off good after you're done and recovered. Don't reward sexual activities with non-sexual "payments". Also, don't keep score.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 04:39 PM
6

Complimenting her in the hopes of getting laid is a covert contract - Beta Complimenting her because she looks good and you do it from frame and building some sexual tension - Alpha To add on to this, make sure the phrasing indicates you and your frame as the source of approval. "You look hot." vs "I like the way you look today." "That skirt is sexy." vs "I like that skirt on you."
/r/askMRP20/06/17 02:32 PM
3

What would you say if your girl then asks you directly: "Do I look nice?" Close the distance, eye contact, put her hand on your junk, "No, hideous." with a smirk or a wink.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 02:26 PM
2

Make it with ice cream instead of butter You just changed my life. Same portions?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 05:16 PM
1

and LISTEN more. Yep. When talking / flirting with women, I really don't contribute much content after my initial ramble. I steer the conversation by picking up little tidbits of whatever she's talking about and tease/ask/disagree/agree with that thing which gets her talking in that direction. Remember not to focus on extracting information when gaming women, you want them talking about their feelings / experience in regards to the topic. The same steering tactics work with men too, but this tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/17 02:54 PM
5

There's plenty more where that came from. TBH, you're holding frame pretty well and filtering the good advice from bad in these threads that are definitely not free of personal attacks. So kudos. Since you're engaged in this conversation, I'll throw in my two cents about what you think you've identified as the problem: Honestly think about the way you're "constantly praising him", specifically the tone. Is it one of admiration, respectful banter between equally footed competitors, or a mother pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 11:50 PM
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Stop trying to one-up your husband constantly. Stop trying to "win." Yep. From her response to the top comment: He is jealous at the fact that I'm more successful than him, always getting what I want when I strive for it. I am proud of his accomplishment too and constantly praise him "I'm awesome. Look and tell me how awesome I am. I mean, you're pretty OK too, I guess…" At least someone called that BS out too. fuck him on demand. It sounds like she's the one demanding to fuck (or suck), probabl…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 11:21 PM
0

dat hairline tho… Black belt with brown boots? Girl, plz.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 11:07 PM
1

glossed over the accusations of cheating Aaaannnd I'm in The Band for directly asking OP if she did. Too bad, because since she answered directly that she didn't cheat, without any DEERing, I would have recommended she do the same thing we do: Realize that his she doesn't control his behavior or choices, only her own choices, values, and her participation in that relationship. If she values herself and her own frame, she can choose to categorize his accusation as bullshit and not even worth addr…
/r/askMRP13/06/17 10:59 PM
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how I cheat on him Well, did you?
/r/ExRedPill13/06/17 07:27 PM
2

Til, bitch husbands get blown. Never would have thunk it was possible. Right? Of all the things, letting her suck a little dick seems like the best possible way to make the chattering about the Donald stop for 2 minutes.
/r/askMRP13/06/17 07:16 PM
4

Quite the post history… Dude apparently stopped her mid-Blumpkin and "went out". That'll show her! OTOH, maybe she needs to spend a little less time bitching about politics on the internet. Just sayin'
/r/askMRP13/06/17 06:40 PM
2

What you do every day. NOT what you have This. I have some very nice and quite expensive musical instruments. Nobody cares that I own them, but everyone likes it when use them to make music on stage or around a campfire. I have a bad-ass dirt bike. No one gives a shit that I own it, but every woman I've dated loves that I ride the piss out of it and come home worn-out-but-grinning. I take adventure trips (usually with my GF, but sometimes alone). That costs money. No one gives a shit that I spen…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 05:32 PM
1

This. OP, change your paradigm of what distance is "too far" and and your problem goes away. My commute is just under 30 minutes each way (in a big city). It takes way longer than that to drive across town to do shit I want to do. Even longer to drive out of town for hobbies, which I do all the time.
/r/askMRP12/06/17 05:30 PM
2

Here ya go, OP.
/r/askMRP12/06/17 03:03 PM
12

He'd have to Let it Go.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 12:19 AM
1

One tip: use cold reads instead of questions. Lot less like an interview, and more fun. Oh yeah. The answer isn't important, it's that she answers, period. Even if you're wrong and she explains why, she's still talking to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 10:40 PM
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I'll just say it was like that with sex and it changed, mostly. If I initiate and she goes along unenthusiastically, I cut it and go do my own thing. Did it really? a long time issue - her lack of enthusiasm in may of our activities. Think hard and objectively about the way she's acted for the entire time you've known her. Is this wet-blanketness inherently part of her personality? in general, she is not an outgoing or spontaneous person. It sounds like maybe it is, and that's OK. So, ask yourse…
/r/askMRP05/06/17 11:49 PM
1

A little bit of an hugely exaggerated analogy, but do you think JFK would do if Jackie said, "you need to lift for me to fuck you." Did you just…? I am in a similar position where I can easily get other women… Yep, you did. Oh, but I feel if it costs me less than 1% any of my salary to get some high quality 20 year old tail… It's not actually similar then, now is it? You know THOT don't want to fuck you, right? I bet if you paid your wife "1% of my salary" via a negotiated contract, she'd fuck y…
/r/askMRP05/06/17 07:29 PM
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Nice write-up. Process and technique-wise, your method is tight. I completely understand that you're intentionally practicing pickup and you've chosen a target-rich environment to maximize your quantity of interactions. That said, a few things come to mind: This seems like a lot of time and money invested in an activity with no other value than temporary social interaction. Is that something you want to sustain? What else are you getting from this other than superficial validation? Can you run s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 05:25 PM
1

she eventually said she wants alone time to figure out what she wants in life… I really do want to break up. You two sound perfect for each other. Any suggestions? Yes: I eventually said that it seems I can't do anything about that feeling of hers and maybe we should split if she sees no future or stability with me "OK". FTFY I do have a solid plan though and have no significant financial issues. Sounds like you'll be fine.
/r/askMRP05/06/17 03:23 PM
2

Sometimes your purpose is to serve as an example of what not to do.
/r/askMRP02/06/17 04:31 PM
1

Funny story. I'll play too. That "you need to shower first" excuse is super flimsy. A few months ago, I plated a girl from my gym. Every once in a while, we'd do our workouts in parallel then leave together for a team shower at my place. One time, she was in such a hurry to get my dick in her mouth, she wrestled it out of my sweaty shorts in the car in the parking lot. Eww. But hey, if it wasn't a problem for her, I wasn't going to make it one. Personally, I like my crotchal region to be fresh b…
/r/askMRP02/06/17 04:26 PM
5

I've been toying with a post outlining my particular approach including logistics, etc. i just havent gotten around to it. I'd read it. Just sayin'.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 12:29 AM
1

Not a natural. I'm far from it. There's so much good material in that book, but that particular routine is too much like a "gate process" with a lot of background thinking to really immerse in the conversation. fear of getting caught Getting caught making pleasant conversation with another interested human?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 11:44 PM
1

Routine from Day Bang. Not required, if you ask me... To many hoops (chances) to talk yourself out of just handing her your phone.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 10:11 PM
2

I'm not 50 (actually mid 30's like you say you look…) but I have recent experience with this exact situation. I met an 8.5 at a really cool swanky bar a couple of nights ago, got her number. She's 26. This shouldn't shock you. She was at that bar to get hit on, you were there to hunt. I look very young for my age. I was vague about my age when talking to her. She knows you're older than her. The fact that the conversation went farther than "Fuck off" means she's OK with it. There's no need to ex…
/r/askMRP30/05/17 09:32 PM
2

This, OP. Own it. You think you're surprised at getting attraction from hot women in their 20s, wait until you see how many of them like the fact that you're the "hot dad" at the pool or park or wherever. Remember, when dating younger women, you're essentially becoming her "daddy replacement" in a non-creepy leadership way.
/r/askMRP30/05/17 08:31 PM
1

Cue grandpa voice. You boys like Popsicles?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 04:48 PM
3

Yes! This is the kind of "living life" that I like to read about on here. Modern country is hot right now. Knock it all you want, but chicks love it and it's fairly easy to learn and get into. Can confirm.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:19 PM
2

I wonder if I could change her into the kind of person… No, YOU can't. Maybe you can inspire her, but SHE has to change HERSELF.
/r/askMRP23/05/17 11:40 PM
2

"I should. Close your eyes and open your hands." Hand her the empty container of whatever you've been drinking. Smirk, get called "asshole", move on with your day.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 03:29 PM
2

A flirty wink and light ass-pat goes well after a complement. (edit) from your woman. Or just smile and say "Thanks".
/r/askMRP18/05/17 06:23 PM
5

Law 30. Just like you can't negotiate attraction, you can't negotiate appreciation either. Even if she made the choice to leave, it'd be your fault for "putting her in that situation" where she suddenly has to adult. She needs to see her peers adulting and do the math for herself.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:11 PM
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The only thing that should bother her is that I'm going to fuck someone else if she doesn't come around in "x" amount of time. It SHOULD bother her. But that shouldn't bother YOU.
/r/askMRP17/05/17 03:46 PM
1

Desert Goggles Or farm, or Alaska, or wherever. Men wear 'em, women not so much.
/r/askMRP16/05/17 11:43 PM
3

my girlfriend doesn't really give me anything to pick a fight (with you) over, she's pretty sweet Then encourage her to get mad when she's venting about one of her frenemies. Just remember not to solve her problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 04:01 PM
2

they will fail if stressed too much. Oh, you mean like ANYTHING in the history of EVERYTHING? Can you walk yourself into the weight room? Pick up the fucking barbell. Start light and make your knees and legs strong slowly. From your OP: Can someone tell me the rationale behind it? When was the last time someone asked you to come help them move a truckload of kettlebells? Don't you think deadlifting a 200+ lb box is way more useful?
/r/askMRP11/05/17 10:53 PM
1

https://www.instagram.com/mensdapperhub/ That's a good mix of information and outfit ideas.
/r/askMRP11/05/17 08:07 PM
2

"I love you and want to be with you. But I am not sexually happy. when I initiate you turn me down and you never initiate. You have no idea what it does to my ego. I want to be with you, and whatever you need I support 100%. But if things don't change, our marriage will". This is essentially DL10, AKA "FMoFY". Maybe skip the victim puke about your ego… A nearly ubiquitous criticism of MRP is "Why don't those idiots just talk to their wives about it?" Well, it's important to consider the state of…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 04:26 PM
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The entire tone of your post seems calm and optimistic. I hope that's reflective of your mental state. Keep that up!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 04:05 PM
2

There's an instructional video "out there" featuring Nina Hartley called "How to eat pussy like a champ". Highly recommended. Porn folks are in it, but it's not porn.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/17 03:13 PM
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A bigger issue is finding a venue that has any women to game to start with No. Women are everywhere. Do you shop for groceries? Do you pump your own gas? Do you you take your dog to the park? Do you go watch live music? Do you stand in line for anything? Have you ever set foot in an airport? Humans enjoy interaction. Get past the shaming notion that you're bothering a stranger (especially a woman) by talking to her in public. If you're friendly and not a creep, you will make her day.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 02:37 PM
2

Really nice report. Good on you for identifying true value-added. I didn't get the impression she did any of that stuff out of anxiety, instead she genuinely desired to elevate her level of FO execution. Sometimes you can't actually do the thing yourself and the task must be delegated. She recognized that and did it.
/r/askMRP28/04/17 05:21 PM
2

When I get to Dread Level 11 When you get to DL11, you'll have other women trying to jump on your cock for free. Save that hooker-money for condoms and lube.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 05:38 PM
1

Unfortunately, they're expensive, damnit. Don't be afraid of Goodwill. Go to the one near the rich neighborhood in your town.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 03:41 PM
1

this is the best fitting jacket I have every owned. I have one too and I second this opinion. It looks and feels like a Carhart but the trunk and sleeves are tighter. Arm holes are high and the sleeves are long. Really a nice jacket.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 03:13 PM
1

In the new role I'll need to build respect and approachability with a range of clients and internal stakeholders and it's expected I'll be a little bit creative. I think I've been brought on board to go against the grain of the existing culture - but not by too much. Don't wear a tie and pop an extra button on your shirt.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 10:54 PM
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I’ve posted a lot of this before, but in scattered threads. Since finding MRP two years ago, I’ve really taken a shine to dressing well and like to encourage other men to do it too. A lot of dudes are just plain lazy about what they wear, but it’s important to GAF about the value you project through your personal presentation. It's often said that you should be one step better dressed for the occasion than the rest of the crowd. It's pretty easy to do this just by wearing leather shoes instead o…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 10:33 PM
1

Pin-rolled chinos and chino shorts look good in the summer and align with your move to ditch the cargo shorts. Dark brown topsiders are a natural fit for that look. Leather Back Ribbon belts go great with the casual-chinos vibe and are an option for that "one" accessory.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 07:33 PM
1

Timex Weekender
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 07:10 PM
1

I have a pretty nice watch which looks nice, but would like a couple other colors as accents. If you have a watch with neutral or versatile colors (mine is just a simple silver case with a black chronograph face), you can add variety with NATO straps. I have a strap to match each of my belts and a couple more with catchy patterns for ultra-casual situations.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 05:43 PM
2

all of my 32 inseam jeans are a little too long. Depending on the rest of your look and the shoes you're wearing, you could try a pin-roll. That's definitely in style right now. shine all of my regular leather dress shoes Shining my shoes every week (only takes about 30 min for 4 pair) is one of those "living deliberately" activities I really enjoy. Tune out the world and focus on a simple task.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 05:36 PM
1

And then what? Be alone? I'm not interested in finding another woman. No one else that I dated was better. my parents will move in with me and try to set me up with some woman from their church, because they're insisting it's time to have kids. Ahhhhh! Why can't I look away?!
/r/askMRP21/04/17 04:50 PM
1

How do you handle these? Ignore or A&A? At a bar I tried the line, "It's OK, she's not the jealous type," when a girl who pulled me onto the dance floor asked about my ring. When I was still married (and wore my ring while gaming), I'd go with any one of these: "Yeah, but I'm trying to cut down to two girlfriends… that she knows about." "Yep. That means I'm only good for sex." (smirk) "I sure am. Why aren't you?" "So?" (with a raised eyebrow) They'll either care or they won't. Polarize early.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/17 05:06 PM
1

I found a scent I like which is a combination of wood, whiskey, and tobacco (very smooth). What's the brand, and do they also make ice cream?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 07:23 PM
2

Dude... she decided to come along was because I asked her to. So far so good, you're acting as the leader. I was thinking it would be a honeymoon where we explore together, have frequent sex Sounds awesome. So far, only the frequent sex is happening… my girl is around me and always wants to do something new each day. Sounds like she's sticking to your plan. If you're changing course, you don't have to explain why, but you should probably let her know so she can support the new mission. My girlfr…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 04:02 PM
1

It's hard to find them cause they're busy and don't owe me anything Did you mean "mentor"? Because you said "role model". A role model doesn't require interaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 03:14 PM
1

I have been on plenty of hiring teams. The kid that took a year off versus the kid that is chomping at the bit; no competition we always take the hungriest fucker we can get. They're all smart enough, we want the guy that is ready to kick ass and take names. Not judging, just laying out the facts. The industries you will be looking at are not filled with the type of people that consider taking time off; they are mostly filled with Type A hard chargers. I literally typed this same paragraph then …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 03:06 PM
2

Picked it for money! Here's the thing: Think of money in the career of engineering like the RP sidebar describes sex / attention from women in the field of masculinity. If you live an awesome life you're passionate about and obtaining sex isn't your primary objective, you'll get it in abundance. If you primarily pursue sex, you'll be frustrated and feel like you're "sacrificing" to get it. If you're passionate about mechanical engineering and designing and building awesome shit because you love …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 12:25 AM
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I don't fucking care anymore. I've set myself up for success but am tired of sacrificing now for my future… degree in mechanical engineering buh huh! I actually LOL'd when I read this. You're in fucking college and burned out already? I'm sure you'll do well in that field with no tolerance for delayed gratification. You know most design projects take YEARS before showing the fruits of your labor, right? recommendations for beginning engineering careers I'm all ears. Have interned in mfg factorie…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 11:32 PM
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without a word she held out her handbag and shook it a little, which meant I was supposed to take it. "If you shake it more than twice, you're playin' with it…"
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 07:27 PM
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I rewarded myself by taking the day off, jacking off, getting high and cheating my diet The failure is that you see those things as a reward.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 07:16 PM
4

Pit stains Certain-Dri prescription strength roll-on (Aluminum Chloride). It's thin enough liquid that it gets through the hair (and wicks around). Put that on every other night before bed and the pit sweating literally stops. Then, just in case, top off each morning with a couple swipes of Arm & Hammer deodorant (not antiperspirant). Oxyclean works pretty well to get the old aluminum zirconium stains out.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 04:18 PM
2

Try different kinds of soaps. I found that going away from the "medicinal" or chemical kinds of soaps and using something made from oil or tallow had an immediate effect on my skin and the softness of my beard. This stuff kicks ass. I can soap up twice a day and not feel dried out. One thing my endocrinologist told me though, is that if your T is climbing (from heavy lifting or otherwise), body zits are going to happen. Once it's stable, that goes away.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 03:26 PM
5

holy info-density!
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 03:19 PM
2

Been getting the bubble gut (FARTS) since starting IF. I think it's because I consume a lot of protein later in the day. I need to find something to mitigate that asap. I noticed the same thing and I'm interested in this as well. For now, I've just been sneaking off to fart in the bathroom, pulling my drawers down so it doesn't get trapped.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 03:14 PM
10

LOL! Which book? Asking for a friend…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 11:34 PM
21

Where TF do you think she learned how to do all those things that you like? It's your turn (right now). Unless there are things that she won't do "anymore" (for you), relax and enjoy the experience.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 10:08 PM
3

Beer is your friend. Not if you're trying to cut… Discipline is your friend. Straight liquor (or something without sugary mixers), on rocks or neat. A wise man once said "Drink the first, sip the second, hold the third."
/r/askMRP14/04/17 03:04 PM
2

Possibly different for me since I initiated my divorce. If they ask on the first date, I shut it down with "Whoa, jumping right to a 3rd date question?" When it comes up later ("So really, what happened?"), I put it out there: "We had different visions for the future of our relationship. I wasn't willing to compromise so I ended it." They usually say "What does that even mean?" "I realized one day that I'd spent my life busting my ass to be someone I didn't even like so I started living for myse…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 06:30 PM
2

Lol walk dude No, skip.
/r/askMRP06/04/17 05:12 PM
2

all I'm missing from being in an LTR is the sexual component. I'm wondering about how to get that in a life after divorcing. You get that after divorcing by being the same valuable, quality, interesting man you became by following your MAP prior to divorcing.
/r/askMRP06/04/17 05:08 PM
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I've had remarkable success by just going to a decent bar at happy hour on Friday and opening women. Be "hawt", have zero fear, zero expectation of any given outcome other than "this'll be fun". This is how I roll too. They were pushing their single friend on me It's incredible how often this happens. Lots of time, she's actually pretty cute, not a party girl, and would rather be at her yoga class instead of HH. If you're looking for someone with a little more inherent urgency, go out on Wednesd…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 04:34 PM
1

I'm curious how you manage a budget for plates. Only pay for yourself. I do this as a single guy too. OK, hotel rooms might be tough to own up to, but drinks and activities should be shit you'd do for yourself anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 04:24 PM
2

Just took my belt in one more notch this AM That's funny, I thought TRP was all about adding notches to your belt, amirite?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 08:18 PM
1

Short answer: It doesn't matter as long as you sing. Play the one you like to listen to. Medium answer: Acoustic Guitar. And learn to sing. It's portable, versatile, and really not that hard to learn. Yeah, everyone else plays guitar too, so you can pass it around a campfire or your living room, or whatever. You can pick up someone else's guitar and strum a few chords. Solo violin sounds ridiculous unless you're Andrew Bird. It's also loud as fuck. Long answer: Whichever one will net you better …
/r/askTRP03/04/17 11:56 PM
1

Yeah, if you're actually butthurt, it's pretty useless to try and hide it. Say you're pouting about whatever the fuck you went to do instead of sex. Hopefully it's ridiculous and comes off as A&A. Are you mad / What's wrong? "It's 9pm and the mower won't start." "The pages on this book are beige but I find 'parchment' to be easier on my eyes." "It's summer, the pipes are hot, and I want to take a COLD shower!"
/r/askMRP03/04/17 10:48 PM
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What would you do if you were single? Own your shit and get a fucking job.
/r/askMRP03/04/17 10:36 PM
5

Yet to see one yet of a guy upgrading his wife. Is that because the ones who do upgrade just get girlfriends or plates and don't marry again?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/17 11:41 PM
1

Appearance: Is my absolute weakest area. Plan on improving once I get to level 5 since that is the focus. Elaborate on this. Surely there's something you can do TODAY to improve your appearance. Grooming? Haircut? Posture?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 09:34 PM
1

I have lately started adding a pushup before every up-dog. Oh yeah?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 09:19 PM
1

"can you move my car?" "Let me play with your boobs and I'll think about it." No. That's transactional. Only trade sex for sex. "Oh, I'll move it… by rockin' the back seat! Lets go!"
/r/askMRP27/03/17 11:28 PM
2

I thought it looked good. No further thought needed. "Hush your face; I look like Johnny Cash!" (said with a cocky/funny smile and tone) That said… the gray shirt on gray pants might not be the best choice. Does the shirt have a pattern to break things up? Almost any other complementary colored shirt and tie pairing will probably work with those pants and blazer. Can you add a burgundy sweater or sweater vest? Can you pull this off with jeans instead? EDIT to add for guys other than the OP (sinc…
/r/askMRP24/03/17 07:24 PM
1

what is her incentive to improve? None, especially since he's not willing to express his true expectations or desires. He said: My wife is a wonderful woman, but I am not attracted to her. But if she was told the truth she would be wounded. Way to martyr your own happiness, guy. I actually stumbled upon this red pill philosophy by searching the web for ways to become more attracted to my wife. It's good that he's trying to own his situation, but I think Cap'n Save-a-hoe is on deck. So far all I …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 05:41 PM
2

Father refuses to provide her with advice or assistance unless she can confirm she has already asked my opinion and followed through on any advice I have given her. Slow clap for Dad, BTW- respecting chain of command on another captain's boat.
/r/askMRP21/03/17 10:02 PM
2

I realize this was a giant wall of text/faggotry/smell of puke however… Awww man! No need to leave us with that as a parting impression! Great work!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 04:49 PM
2

material related to MRP on Maintenance Mode would be great. Here's the thing: Levels 1-5 are pretty much just "being a quality man." The nuance with DL 4 in an already mutually-satisfying sex life is that "not right now" isn't a big deal because you do have other shit to do, even if right then, you wanted to have some sex. In the same situation, Levels 6-7, with the frame of "just being an outgoing, social, fun guy" are how she'll see that you're a desirable man. You don't have to actively pursu…
/r/askMRP21/03/17 03:43 PM
1

Fitted shirts are key? Yes.
/r/askMRP20/03/17 11:04 PM
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I'll see if I can drudge up this great MFA chart, ranks shoes based on formality. I like this one.
/r/askMRP20/03/17 06:13 PM
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About how old are you? As a baseline, you need to pick out: Leather shoes Dark jeans that aren't baggy Shirts that don't billow A haircut that complements your head / face shape And no, don't take your wife shopping, especially the first time.
/r/askMRP20/03/17 06:03 PM
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Shoes are king, especially to women. Never had so many compliments on clothing as I have had with these bad boys, ever. Shoes are king... Can confirm. Women fucking notice your shoes, almost before they look at your face. Recently, I watched "Crazy Stupid Love" (the one where Ryan Gosling red knights Steve Carell) with my current GF and some other dudes and chicks. When the first scene in the bar comes on, they show RG's black bluchers (and they look sharp). I mentioned this and all the hens sta…
/r/askMRP20/03/17 05:52 PM
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my thighs won't fit anything else well and the waist is too baggy otherwise. You guys need to check out Bonobos Jetsetter jeans.
/r/askMRP20/03/17 03:25 PM
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Here are where I'm getting work shirts Whoa. How long and how's the quality (materials and workmanship)?
/r/askMRP17/03/17 04:34 PM
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Tailor / alterations. Expect to pay ~$15 per shirt. It's TOTALLY worth it. Buy shirts that fit you around the neck, have long enough sleeves, and are the right width across your shoulders. Pay attention to the the arm holes- you want 'em high. They might be too long in the tails but that's OK. Find a tailor or alterations shop (I second the recommendation of Vietnamese) and have them "take in the sides" and "dart the back". If the tails are too long, they can hem them. You'll try on the shirt, t…
/r/askMRP17/03/17 03:57 PM
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If you want to bring food and eat it with her, bring the fucking food and eat it with her. Do it whenever YOU want to- sometimes that might coincide with when she asks, but that's not important. DON'T expect reciprocation or appreciation.
/r/askTRP16/03/17 11:42 PM
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is it that hard to wait a couple hours til you get back home? jesus.. D, E, V, I
/r/askTRP16/03/17 11:30 PM
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My strategy was to build up some basic strength and then move to free weights. If you can ambulate yourself into the free weights area of a gym, you have enough basic strength to move an empty barbell. Here's what Rippetoe says about the Nautilus circuit.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 06:46 PM
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Cunt Wife… Her Majesty… her pea brain… You sound like a spiteful prick. I hope that Nautilus circuit is consuming your anger on the days you don't puke it onto the internet.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 04:23 PM
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From there work in talking to others at the gym Or don't. Sometimes a bro-nod is sufficient.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 04:01 PM
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No sex that night because she is ovulating this weekend and she is off the pill. They don't sell condoms where you live?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 10:53 PM
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I'ma big, bad ass, double hung bitch. You guys should start a club.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 10:23 PM
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You blow your grandpa with that mouth??? Nope, just yours. And all his buddies.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 10:17 PM
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she's making us dinner (chicken wings bc I didn't want steak)… I get BJs and sex all the time So it's Tuesday at your place too?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 10:13 PM
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Fuck yeah.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:29 PM
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Action. You took some. Well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 04:14 PM
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Have established my own private ebay and paypal accounts and liquidated some unneeded items to start building my own personal rainy day fund. Once I have enough built up I am going to open a separate checking/invest account that is not linked to the main household accounts IDK if you're building your D-day reserve, but you might want to think about keeping this fund as cash.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 03:57 PM
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Been actively adding at least one new experience every week. No matter how minor, I make sure I ask myself what I have I done that is new and exciting Excellent. Fun/Mood… In effect I had become my own energy vampire Great addition and observation.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 03:51 PM
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If you're pressuring yourself into approaching and you don't want to, you could actually be a good candidate for Monk Mode. I get kind of a depresso / Negative Nancy vibe from the tone of your writing. Like fun or passion for anything is absent from your life. Which of your hobbies can you go all-in on?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 03:40 PM
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Not in the same drink. I take the YHCL with water when I wake up and the creatine in a whey shake mid-afternoon.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 10:07 PM
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Are you showing muscle definition and vascularity in your arms and legs? I have prominent vascularity on my biceps, forearms, and obliques / Adonis belt. Definition is pretty good all around on upper body. Legs don't have either of those, but I'm pretty hairy so maybe it's just obscured. As far as the dysmorphia, it's for sure all in my head. I measured my chest, arms, waist, shoulders, etc and they're all the same size as they were, but for whatever reason, I don't look "swole" to my own eyes. …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 04:51 PM
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From your OP: (I did once and her response was basically to beg me not to leave her, it was not fun). From your comment later: I don't want to hurt her feelings by telling her why. You're scared of her feelings and you're afraid of short term discomfort. Read this. I don't want to live a double life Good, you sort of know what YOU want. I want my wife to improve herself But you're still placing responsibility for your happiness/satisfaction in the hands of someone besides yourself, someone who's…
/r/askMRP07/03/17 11:47 PM
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Own Your Shit 03-07-2017 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will continuously strive to improve myself, becoming the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade B. Action: maintain. Socially skillful and confident- Current grade A. Social life has been busy. Played some gigs, took some trips. …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 08:10 PM
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Solid fucking comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 05:50 PM
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if I develop my game, can I expect to get a 1/10 lay ratio? Don't get hung up on (or even pay attention to) statistics. Game because it entertains you and enjoy the sex when it happens.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 04:19 PM
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Thanks for the shout-out. OP, your path through steps 1-8 is the same, you just don't have a single sparing partner anymore. It's still on you to build yourself into the man you want to be and conduct relationships on your terms. The difference now is that instead of DL9 when the situation doesn't meet your requirements, you can just "NEXT". Now is the time to live your life for yourself, be and do everything YOU want.
/r/askMRP06/03/17 03:44 PM
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"What does SHE have to have besides a twat?!?" - Patrice O'Neal Yeah, that's after he's actually engaged someone. I was with you, and then you lost me @ what he has to offer. Fuck that. You dont need to be better to fuck. You're right; That special snowflake is fine just the way he is. The right girl for him will come along someday and love him forever just for being himself. Looks, game, status. OP only has one. Maybe.
/r/askTRP04/03/17 01:00 AM
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I asked some women if I'm attractive online… Most of them found me attractive anonymously. That's what they say, I never got any interest from women my entire life. Rarely, I notice expressionless stares from women. That's it. But that's what they do. Not a single girl in my entire life started a conversation with me. As a social Alpha, starting conversations is your job. The problem is you. If I'm good looking... hell if I'm normal looking, then why the heck nobody wants to talk to me? Just sta…
/r/askTRP04/03/17 12:01 AM
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Appearance is still the same, feral looking mountain man You know this is a variable you control, right? I can't quite tell from your tone if you're counting this look as positive or negative, but if you don't like the way your hair and beard look, go fucking cut it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 03:48 PM
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By your own admission, in your posts, your interactions with your sons have been a challenge for you to navigate successfully. That is absolutely true and in fact why the improvement of those interactions is a huge part of my mission. Yes, huge. While lower in quantity, the quality of interactions with my sons is higher now that my time with them is compartmentalized and not continuous. If it isn't for them, at least it is for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 05:32 PM
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I would imagine the unspoken caveat of "they are a huge part of my mission" is "when they are a part of my mission". IE when he sees them, he goes all out doing cool manly shit with manly intensity. This. As well as the mental energy I dedicate between our time together to planning the things I'll do with them. /u/SampsonBrass: Do I recollect correctly these are both sons? Yes, sons. Four days a month with your sons who are otherwise left to marinate in your wife's estrogen nimbus? There may be …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 04:48 PM
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Not in my state. CS is what is and based on individual income ratio regardless of custody time which is negotiated via a parenting plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 03:30 AM
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Man, that is some truly excellent pressure flipping.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 12:13 AM
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A lot of Roosh's conversation involves somehow getting onto the topic of "I travel the world" and then going from there. That's just his "thing". Figure out what your "thing" is and use his technique to steer conversations toward your thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 12:06 AM
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I know EXACTLY the cognitive dissonance you're having. I don't have 50% custody of my kids after divorcing. I didn't ask for it. I have them two weekends and two weeknight evenings per month. We video chat frequently. They're young enough that they don't have regular performances or sports games, but when they do I'll attend. When I do have them though, we all greatly enjoy it. For me (and I think for them), having separate and together time exaggerates the contrast between the two and makes bot…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 12:04 AM
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Taking what isn't yours "She" isn't yours, or the other guy's. It's just your / his turn with her. She is free to choose to fuck whoever she wants. Would you steal your neighbours car to do some shoplifting? The car or stolen materials don't get to make a choice not to open their legs.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 11:38 PM
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One more thing about money: Figure out which of your assets are joint and separate. Separate assets are things like inheritance or something one of you acquired before the separation AND DID'T CO-MINGLE WITH YOUR JOINT ASSETS. You only split the joint assets. Lets say you inherited a stock portfolio or had one before the marriage. You can pull from it into your joint account and the portfolio will remain only yours. But if you move funds back and forth, all of it is joint property. So if you hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 11:11 PM
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call up a lawyer and say "hey I'm not looking to divorce right now but want to know the financial impact if I did...can you help?" Sometimes, you'll even get a better answer from a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. Basically a CPA. They know the tax laws and can calculate a variety of scenarios for a fraction of the cost of a lawyer.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 11:03 PM
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The medium is the message Ignore her words, what do her actions say? Do what /u/mrpCamper said. And start spinning up the next girl in your pipeline.
/r/askTRP24/02/17 10:10 PM
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Nature says you're no longer a reliable source of offspring (and that's OK). Lots of men (and women) are living an activity-rich, adventurous life and aren't interested in kids slowing them down. Many of those same men enjoy the companionship of an enthusiastic First Officer, partner-in-crime, adventure-buddy-who-likes-to-fuck. And by "adventure", I don't only mean "ziplines and mountain climbing"; this can be urban socializing, open-mic duets, car shows, whatever. My point is, you should market…
/r/askTRP24/02/17 05:51 PM
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On one hand, men walk alone, bigger shoulders, etc. You don't NEED her support. OTOH, she's finding excuses (possibly real) not to be with you. People make time for what's important to them. I told here it’s important for me that we all go and that we go together and are seen as a strong family unit You expressed your vision. The answer is either "fuck yes" or "no". Excuses are a long way of saying "no". The medium is the message. You're not her captain (right now). Take the trip in your frame a…
/r/askMRP24/02/17 04:05 PM
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I watch a lot of PUA stuff on YouTube If you come at it with the PUA mindset, you'll be focusing too much on gaming women for sex. Forget that for a second and just be outgoing, eventually some woman will give you an IOI (which you now know how to spot), and you can shift into PU mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 07:14 PM
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I guess maybe i should rename this post: AWALT All Faggots Gonna Victim Puke, a case study There ya go.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 03:54 PM
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What should I say? Literally anything. OK, maybe don't open with "I want to shit in your mother's vagina."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 03:32 PM
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WTF is the problem then? You didn't "invest" anything because you were spending your own time and money on shit you wanted to do, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 03:24 PM
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Day Bang and the practicing of it is my next goal It's kind of a shame that DB is written as such a PUA book. All those other "charisma" type books (How to Win Friends and Influence People, etc) seem to skip right over the fact that approach anxiety is a real thing and in order to get into a conversation (with anyone) where you even have a chance to be charming, you first have to approach! Like I said, I constantly cold-approach people and I use DB tactics on nearly everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 07:53 PM
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I have yet to see an HB9 want to ride my cock just because im wearing boots. Yeah, but I bet you've had a woman open you with "I like your boots!"
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 07:46 PM
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The key is the end . . . zfg on the outcome. Right. I was friendly, the other person is into it or they aren't. Your hamster translation had me rofl. Ha! Obviously I'm making the hamster shit up in my head; it doesn't even matter what's going through hers. I say something, she says something back. In nearly all situations (gas pump, coffee line, public transport, etc) I would rather interact with someone than stand there scowling. At minimum, I get entertainment value from the interaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 07:41 PM
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I was in a very similar position as you and can offer a different perspective than the dudes who slayed all the pussy before they settled down. My exwife was my first and only (and afik I was hers). I had massive FOMO, and although I was getting sex, I wasn't getting any sexuality, which is what I wanted. We got divorced. Four months ago, my n=1. Since then, I've had sex with 5 new women, all of them multiple times. Like others have said, "pussy is pussy" and the isolated feeling of my penis ins…
/r/askMRP22/02/17 07:21 PM
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Mtailor cool website. No shit! Dude on the right in the pic on the home page seriously needs a longer tie and blazer, but whatever… Prices look to be in line with Bonobos but without aftermarket tailoring cost. /u/sempernullus, how's the quality of those shirts? Fabric, stitching, etc?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 04:00 PM
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I'd like to get my game up for our vacation in March with her parents - being that her parents can watch the baby, it'll be a good time for me to work on gaming her. Should I set an expectation of sex beforehand? IDK what to do with that one. She already knows you want to have sex. A covert contract made overt is still a contract, and still a negotiation for desire. She might have sex with you, but unless she's looking for reasons TO jump your bones (and sees free childcare as an opportunity), i…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 11:01 PM
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jesus fucking christ, wrote a goddamned novel this week I know that feel, bro. I've been intermittent fasting (in a very loose way), but I'm thinking a shot of veggies and protein in the morning will do me good, especially if my new goal is adding calories while trying to lose body fat. Try 2 tbs of unsalted butter in your morning coffee. Goes a long way towards holding your appetite until lunch and keeps your body in "fat=fuel" mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 07:27 PM
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I am still worrying about how I will be perceived by others during an approach. You're worried that someone might think you're friendly? Everyone subconsciously knows what's up any time an attractive dude engages an attractive woman for any reason, but your obvious reason doesn't have to be "Hey, want some dick?" Read Daybang if you haven't- I use the tactics on EVERYONE and it changed my life. approaching a MILF at the gas station last night. I do this ALL THE TIME. She's standing there, bored …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 07:12 PM
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Yes. Buy shirts that fit you in the shoulders and take them to the tailor to get "taken in and darted". Expect to pay $15-20 per shirt. It makes a HUGE difference in how you look.
/r/askTRP19/02/17 04:04 AM
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Today? Sure...
/r/askTRP19/02/17 03:58 AM
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a low/no carb diet...resisted the temptation to order chicken wings Are you a retard? Assuming those wings are naked, skip the fries and get the wings, dumbass. Only true solution to my finances is to get a job. Your fucking job hunt… If you're not applying to jobs LIKE IT'S YOUR JOB, you've got some time to get a shitty interim job. IME, the only people who can't start a job within two weeks of needing one don't actually want to have a job. It probably won't be a good job, but if you need money…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 06:58 PM
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How did you measure yours? Judgement based on pictures. EDIT: to add this more detailed site. Me last week
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 04:38 PM
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Isolating your question to the behavioral aspect of my examples, So is this "any guy could do this"? In the widest scope, I think anyone (with training) can recognize the subtext of a social situation and act accordingly. Moving a layer closer, the behavior I exhibit in these situations is also something I think anyone can do. Extroverts will have it easy while introverts will need to put some effort into playing the part. For most of my life, I thought I was an introvert, but I've always been a…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 12:43 AM
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Next time I will consider the effect on her and chat more in her presence Don't change what you're doing. Just be hawt, charming, and talk to who you want and the impression you make will get around back to your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 10:18 PM
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If you are worth showing off, she will find a way… you and your (woman) may capitalize on this each in your own capacity. I changed one of your words to fit my situation, but this has been happening to me frequently in my plate-spinning bachelor life. Nothing humble about this bragging… Story 1: I posted this in OYS a few weeks ago, but here it is again. Plate 3 invited me as her date to her company holiday event at a swanky downtown hotel bar and it was fun as hell. I met her there, ready to pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 08:05 PM
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those music hobbies don't really increase my SMV (I think) Are you hunkered in your basement doing these things? Because performing on stage with a (good) band is one of the biggest DHV there is. I'm here on this red pill section to rebuild myself so I can satisfy my sex hunger and the bodily attention I crave from her. FTFY. I won't lie, that sexy stuff you want most definitely will happen (maybe not from her...) if you build yourself right, but you cannot, CANNOT make that the only goal of you…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 03:54 PM
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The note then moved to my computer's keyboard Then it moved to the curb with all her shit and the old locks from your doors. Right? WTF are you doing man?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 03:19 PM
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I watch porn for an hour or so before bed. Dude, hopefully you don't need the internet to tell you to knock that the fuck off, but knock that the fuck off! Or at least multitask and lift while your watching. Jesus, an hour per night?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 10:17 PM
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Buy used shit And make friends with folks who have kids +/- 6 months from yours. Pass all that stuff right on down the line.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 03:35 PM
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I'm feeling burnt out and lazy. I need more discipline. A little accountability probably wouldn't hurt you either. One of the things that helped my HW burnout in college was daily meetings with HW/study groups for each class. We'd all sit down and do the HW together. It was really more about committing the specific time to the task. Like someone said below, you seem overwhelmed by the big picture. Not having compartmentalized definition to your day is a recipe for indecisiveness and doing nothin…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 03:32 PM
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Even with the fact that she makes significantly more money than me… So I'm not in a position of having to reconcile with the idea that half my $ goes to her in a divorce. Bro, have you even been to a lawyer?
/r/askMRP08/02/17 03:11 PM
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Sure. And bring one of your plates. Wife occasionally shows signs that my frame has been working. Who cares. I'm doing this for me. coughbullshitahem, because: I'm thinking "I'm strong. Not the same blue pill dweeb I was" - still a long way to go but still... Thinking I can go on this trip next month and work on Alpha'ing the wife… Yeah, you'll show her, won't you.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 12:59 AM
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Here ya go
/r/askMRP07/02/17 10:38 PM
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Waiter is a good idea - provides opportunity to hone your game as well. Drive an Uber like /u/RPAlternate42
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 08:28 PM
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Not sure how to take those little moments or what to make of them (if anything) It's always your option to say "OK" then do whatever the fuck you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 07:12 PM
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What kind of pictures should a guy post on tinder? Women want to know: will he look good in public, will he look good in the bedroom, can other people (women) stand to be around him, and most importantly- will my basic life less boring if I hang around with him? Just like any communication, actions speak louder than words, so SHOW with your pictures that you're fit for the job. It's your "Awesome life resume". All my bio says is my height and neighborhood. Pic 1: professional quality or at least…
/r/TheRedPill07/02/17 05:36 PM
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I should be practicing my martial arts more often... So do it. What are you doing instead? Holding the couch down? I should be eating better. So do it. What's stopping you? Identify the problem then correct it in a measurable way. Also, I need to keep up with my college HW. I have been feeling pretty lazy and burnt out. I need to fix this. Yep, you do. How are you going to do that? I need to be more proactive with finding a summer job. What does that mean TO YOU in terms of measurable action? bl…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 04:31 PM
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Too tight isn't me. I'm a metal dude. Right. You need "Way too tight".
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 06:21 PM
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"Old enough to know better", then wink at her.
/r/askTRP03/02/17 05:06 PM
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I won't have the post sports bar scene available right now Other than mobility, any reason you can't continue to go and hang out?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 04:45 PM
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You guys need to check out Bonobos Jetsetter jeans.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 04:20 PM
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I'm in control of every circumstance of my life, minus pussy Nope. You're in control of that too. You just don't like your current options.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 04:13 PM
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She never ever corrects me or makes any crazy comments toward me, Then what's the problem? and if she does, it's always with respect. Oh, except for that one time in college… and tons of times after that! sister n' law… y'all are so fucking stupid… I would have thunder-slapped her into eternity… My neck is pretty red, but damn dude… I moved around a lot and never had a good foundation Just like your house? Hey-oh!
/r/askMRP02/02/17 09:07 PM
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I also need to figure out how I can get rid of the smell from my leather shoes. Besides all the other home-ec tips, you can try cedar shoe trees. If those shoes are nice oxfords, you should be storing them like that anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 06:30 PM
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By the book, FMoFY is DL10 and you should have at least expressed your expectations without overt threat of divorce prior to this (DL9). In my case (together for 16y, married for 8.5 when I started my MAP) I got to DL9 in precisely 17 months of hitting the self-improvement bag very hard. A few days later my wife said "I choose not to follow your vision", we filed for divorce and that's that. As /u/GargantuaBlarg29 so eloquently put it, she doesn't want to play the way I want to play. I also neve…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 06:26 PM
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Oh yeah. Them and /u/VasilyZaitzev It's hilarious to me just how close to their examples many of my encounters have been.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 08:56 PM
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Some sort of "Spinning Plates like a boss" guide would be relevant too. Shit, I'd like to read that too! I read a lot of posts / guides from the obviously older TRP members. All I do is "live awesome" and keep the pipeline primed. I'm only 4 months and 4 plates into this thing…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 08:12 PM
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Thanks dude. Everything you need to know is right over there ---------->
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 07:31 PM
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so I asked which local bars she likes. She responded well by picking a place and saying that she would like to get a drink with me. That's where you went wrong. Define the date for her. Do this: "banter, banter, banter" but not too long. 3-4 volleys max. You: lead the banter to "This would be more fun to talk about in person. Lets grab a drink. I'm free Tuesday night." Her: "That sounds great" or whatever You: "X place at 8pm" (this should be a place YOU like and would go alone if you wanted to)…
/r/askTRP01/02/17 06:09 PM
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Another interesting incident and evidence that truly unplugging, completely internalizing my status as “the prize” and “getting it” is a very long process: right after I got over my sickness last week, both plates were hitting me up for sex. P4’s schedule worked out first so she came over. We fucked, cooked dinner, then started making out, moved to the bed, presumably to fuck again. She started shutting me down. After a couple tries, thought to myself “I’ll try the freeze-out.” So I got up, hand…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 09:03 PM
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Own Your Shit 01-31-2017 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will continuously strive to improve myself, becoming the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade B. New project team is selected but I’m waiting for confirmed funding / kickoff from customer so there’s not a lot of external pressu…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 09:00 PM
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As a guy with N=1 when I divorced, I came here to write this EXACT comment.
/r/askMRP31/01/17 12:59 AM
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Pussy is pussy. Tits are tits and asses are asses. What really makes the difference in my experience is how they approach sex. Are they willing to be as fun and sexual as YOU want in and out of bed. If your wife can be your slut- good. If not - the advice is not different. She meets your needs or she doesn't. You stay with her or don't. This, OP.
/r/askMRP31/01/17 12:52 AM
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"Wet shaving" is a process, "Bic razor" is a tool. You can wet shave with any type of blade, but it's fun to use vintage equipment.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/17 08:38 AM
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Can you point out the part where I said it needed to be done all the time for the life of the marriage? No, because you never typed those words. Are you suggesting we do this "test" once and accept the results for eternity? Because women never change their minds or opinions? If your wife (or the woman you're fucking) isn't already reflecting your sexual interest (because it's your job to initiate), removing your interest won't make her magically pick up the slack. You're not taking away somethin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 07:58 PM
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a surefire way to test your wife's desire for you is to not come unto her for sex. Yep, that screams neediness. Not that part. This part: a surefire way to test your wife's desire for you is to not come unto her for sex
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 03:24 PM
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Sometimes 3, sometimes more than 5. You can tell when it's "sticking" from gunk buildup. They're so cheap, I don't worry about squeezing a long life out of them. But apparently (see above) there are tricks. I've always just treated the blades as a consumable.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 03:15 PM
1

A site you missed with a massive selection Jezus. You're not kidding!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 11:54 PM
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they use a propane weed burner torch to singe off the cows udder hair. Do they call that "moo-nscaping"? I'll show myself out…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 06:11 PM
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Her "lol" isn't nervousness, it's amused mastery. Find a selfie she posted on social media and send that to her.
/r/askTRP26/01/17 05:34 PM
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Like I said, there are more efficient ways of removing your whiskers than wet shaving. Care to expand on which fuel you found to work the best? Propane, MAPP, Oxy-Acetylene?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 04:21 PM
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Seems like that trick would work on cartridges too.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 03:40 PM
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then made him this for Christmas. Holy shit that's awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 03:38 PM
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"You smell like my HS science teacher"… but I think it smells like an old person's house. Funny what different people associate smells with. When I first tried Clubman, I immediately thought "my dad's barbershop". I tried to like it Luckily there are hundreds of others you can try! I've gone through about a dozen so far. As far as women around me liking Clubman, what can I say? Either they actually do, or they're lying to get in my pants. Doesn't matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 03:29 PM
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Let's put it another way - if you can't honestly and compelling communicate your passion in a way that's infectious to other people, it won't matter how much sex appeal the hobby has since your delivery and emphasis is going to fuck it up. Don't blame other people for not being interested in your hobby - start blaming yourself for your failure to communicate it properly. Learn to tell a story. Can confirm. One of my hobbies for a very long time has been scouring the backcountry for remnants of i…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 04:05 PM
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Just my experience: I live alone. My place is always in order; I put shit away when I'm done with it, I fold and iron my laundry as soon it's done, and when I cook I deal with my dishes as I go or immediately after eating. I like cooking for/with my plates. When they come over for a meal, they SEE the standard I've set. After eating, they SEE that I take care of the dishes before moving on to the next activity (sex or adventure with them). What do they do? THEY jump up and knock out the chore be…
/r/askTRP24/01/17 10:26 PM
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Agree with just about all this. You probably don't agree with my "against the grain" pass... It's not generally recommended, but it works for me with no burn, so I do it. If I don't go against the grain, I look like I shaved but it doesn't feel like it. Proraso is great stuff, although I didn't have any pre-shave cream, just the normal shaving cream. Both products are excellent, I even keep some canned lather on hand for travel or mornings when I need to save 5 minutes. Instead I used Shave Secr…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 03:44 PM
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Yes I'm working out, but it will be a while till I get a real good body. If that's you in the selfie you posted below, you've at least got something to work with. Emphasize your arms and chest. Own it. You can get a sharp haircut this evening. You can step up your clothing style this weekend. Fuck, do what models do and safety pin your nice shirts so they look tailored for the pictures. Like /u/Redpill1591 said, 13% is nothing special. I'm approaching the end of a bulk. I'll take a new picture c…
/r/askTRP20/01/17 01:00 AM
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Ignoring the part where you describe yourself as a very tall guy with a good body Fair enough to ignore my height, but don't ignore the fact that I work hard for my physique and dress well to display it. I also have a sharp haircut and keep my beard tidy. Maximize the variables under your control.
/r/askTRP19/01/17 11:40 PM
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Caveat / qualifier: My goal with Tinder/Bumble is to attract women to fuck AND date (fuck multiple times). My picture group is designed to portray myself as a hawt boyfriend prospect. I daygame too. I'm mid-30s, 6'3, 195#@~13% BF. I live in a major city. When my account is fresh or reset, I get 10-20 matches PER DAY in the first week, then it tapers off to 2-3 per day for the next couple months. Women want to know: will he look good in public, will he look good in the bedroom, can other people (…
/r/askTRP19/01/17 08:02 PM
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The number isn't important. She could have drawn dickbutt on that napkin and OP still would have achieved his goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 04:11 PM
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High five! She'll be looking for you the next time she goes in there. Did the giggling cashier see this go down? Keep an eye on her too.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 07:41 PM
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Could simply be a charismatic dude with common interests. She would rationalize the interests and not the tingles as the reason for giving him her number. "Yeah, a run by the pond WOULD be fun!"
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 07:36 PM
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I’ve switched to shaving with a safety razor and got a wet shaving kit. It’s harder than it looks and it’s leaving me with razor burn and cuts and bumps all over my neck. Yes, it does take practice. Some razors are more aggressive (show more blade, hold the blade a slightly different angle, etc). Some razors (not necessarily the cheap ones) have some slop in the way the position the blade so that one side is unpredictably more aggressive than the other. IDK what you have, but I tried 4 different…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 07:17 PM
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wife spontaneously brought up some online "intimacy acceleration quiz" that prompts us with questions designed to increase bonding. Do you really think she needs more comfort to find you attractive enough to fuck? Unless it's this quiz, you're roping yourself into more sexless cuddles, footrubs, and "communication". Friendzone-soulmate shit. Said "we can do that, if you want; I'd rather do this one." FTFY Obviously feeling me pulling away a bit. I take this as a good sign. Sure, she might sense …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 06:37 PM
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I just make sure the homestead is tip-fucking-top, Because YOU like it that way, right? RIGHT? snacks are laid out and the wine is poured when she gets home. Because YOU like those snacks, YOU like to eat with your eyes first, and the time you're hungry for a snack just happens to coincide with the time she gets home. Right? RIGHT?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 06:09 PM
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The good thing is, a new gal gets all focused on proving herself can confirm
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 03:24 PM
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because otherwise I would have bailed when I first found RP. ("you" in this reply isn't necessarily the OP, but any guy considering applying the advice) Yep, you could have. If you somehow made the the choice on RPD+1 to burn it all down out of pragmatism, not anger, and YOU owned the consequences, you would have "made it" right then and begun living your life for yourself; caveats of timing and milestones are just splitting the hairs of theory. 2 years of lifting means you can pack the boxes he…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:57 AM
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These two ideas can coexist. Yes, she made a choice to marry the beta/manchild/whatever. You don't control her choices and there's no blame to be applied. It really might be what she wanted, as demonstrated by her ACTION. Likewise, "it" is still all your fault. "IT" being your continued participation in the relationship that doesn't meet your desires, expressed or otherwise.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 08:26 PM
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So you're fixing yourself… when do you know when you're alpha? ~~~ Or is it an internal realization? It's when you make the choice to live your life for yourself, on your terms, for your reasons, and own the consequences. It's NOT when you "know" you could make the choice, but don't actually make it. Stay married or don't, but MAKE a choice and own it. But I'd like to know if I'm going to spend the prime years of my life committed to someone who will never give me what I want Fuck that risk-aver…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 07:48 PM
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is there any way we could trick our brains/bodies into thinking the wife is a new partner? This guy might know…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:10 PM
1

I'm only a sample of one, but I can confirm that my refractory period drastically reduced when I started fucking new women. With my exwife, no matter how much second round foreplay we did, it was never less than an hour, and usually it just didn't happen. With plates, I'm ready to go again in 20 minutes max, even if we're on round 3+ for the day. Also interesting is that when having sex with my exwife, we would both cum in about 5 minutes, 10 if I consciously controlled the pace and position, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 04:50 PM
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36yo divorced dad of two here. I have my shit together looks/money/activity/attitude wise and I date kid-free 25-30 year old women who also have their shit together in life. The fact that I have kids inevitably comes up during the pre-meet texting or on the first date. It's a polarizing topic but out of ~30 first dates in the last few months, I've had exactly one woman explicitly say it was a dealbreaker for her (but then proceeded to make out with me…). Once the topic is addressed, I own it but…
/r/askTRP11/01/17 10:53 PM
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I was prepping weekly meals on Sunday and per usual and she is standing there and has been making a big deal of being my sous chef. Then she finally says, you need to give me something to do… Let her cut up all the veggies. Nice. I liked cooking with my exwife and really enjoy it with my plates. That's an easy way to reinforce the "teacher/student" dynamic. She'll automatically check with you or seek approval to see if she "did it right". Lately I've been pulling a move where when things are alm…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 05:52 PM
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Well, I'm still always trying to close But instead of "close", it's more "always trying to get the next one balanced on the peak of the curve" so my pipeline is primed with women who can add value to your life (or at least, your lifestyle). at least for a while, until they cool down and their turn is over. It's also better at filtering out HSE girls, who are better suited to plating and relationships who take a little longer to warm up (say 3 dates instead of 1 date…), but stay warm for longer (…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 08:22 PM
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Day 1 of the rest of my life You're damn right it is!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 05:47 PM
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Holy shit, congratulations on pulling the trigger. I'll find myself walking through my day with a big goofy smile on my face for no fucking reason other than that I feel like I've had a thousand pound weight lifted off my shoulders. Can confirm. Going on dinner dates Knock that shit off unless you're cooking or she's paying. Once she's a plate, sure, but only if you want to. Remember, date yourself first. Still trying to figure out what exactly it is I'm looking for. I know that one night stands…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 05:36 PM
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Go mow the lawn.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 09:00 PM
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Yep. And among other things, taking that action has allowed me to develop non-sexual elements of myself and my life in ways I couldn't before.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/17 04:09 PM
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In this situation, how do you talk to him? Like a man, about man stuff. Open him the same way, and if he's interested in conversation, you'll both participate. If he's not a complaining, phone scrolling man-child, and you're enjoying the conversation, keep it going. If he opts out, continue as OP did. If you want to. How do you talk to his wife? Cordially, but if you've engaged the dude, who cares. Sure, you can pull her into the conversation, but more than likely she'll feel an attention vacuum…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 04:34 PM
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You seemed to be moving in a very positive direction. I still am! Did you ever write out where it all turned to shit? Check out my OYS posts from September; that's when I wrote about it, particularly this one. There wasn't a single cathartic moment or even a downward spiral. A bunch of things all developed in my mind and life in parallel and eventually tilted the value balance away from staying married. But you went from 69 on the couch to divorced in record time. Throughout my writing, I've con…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/17 05:47 PM
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So there it is, one of my biggest fuckups in a while. I know better Meh. Was it really? You saw the code. Sure you said you'd entertain her plan, maybe you did for an evening. But you also told her it is absolutely not a sustainable plan for me and that eventually I will initiate with her when I’m in the mood and realize sometimes she’ll say no and I’m fine with that…I fog my previous response So do what you said you would, maintain congruence. If anything, I'd say the fuckup is that you're stil…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 11:35 PM
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My gym is the opposite of kid-friendly… but that's OK. The way I schedule my workouts is compatible with my weekend kid-sessions. The other stuff, meal planning, library, museums, zoo, etc is stuff I already do and yeah, those activities are great. But 5) use other families with kids. You're good at AMoG, so do it. I planned a hike with twenty people over the holiday break. Your kids have friends. Put them together with other kids. It's a lot easier to parent kids when you can play zone defense …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 05:55 PM
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Yeah, it's kinda faggy Remind me what's faggy about being a dude in a room full of fit female bodies with asses in the air? Namaste, bro.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 11:47 PM
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Own Your Shit 01-03-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will continuously strive to improve myself, becoming the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Newly started project should offer opportunities to learn some new skills; I will actively look for something new to take on. Soci…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 08:37 PM
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I'm a bit worried about some discomfort I'm getting in my shoulder. Its hard to explain the feeling, but maybe a bone spur. Starting to wonder if it could be a rotator cuff issue. I'm not a trainer or a doctor, but: I had a funny pinching feeling and sometimes a popping during bench press. Even with extreme attention to proper arm angles and shoulder blade squeezing, it still happened. It turns out my rear delts were not symmetrically developed even thought I was doing rows, and that weakness wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 05:17 PM
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Also join singles groups on Meet up in your city. I met the last guy I dated before my boyfriend in a 20s and 30s singles group at a happy hour OP, do this. Also, go to bars that you like and look for the women the party girls dragged out with them. Talk to people.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 01:01 AM
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Instructor is male. When you approach a mixed group in a bar, you open the dudes first. So open him. You're just a friendly guy making conversation. You already think the MILF is interested, so ignore her while you talk to the instructor. MILF will feel excluded and strive to get your attention. Kind of difficult to open if I'm running into her with either her husband or kids in tow After you've opened her once, you can approach in that situation like you're old friends. Make friends with the hu…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 03:56 PM
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Upon closer inspection she was also far less appealing to me, Doesn't matter. Open her. You're probably not going to fuck her. Hell, open the instructor too. but she is definitely throwing up lots of eye contact IOI's Give the woman what she wants, some adult interaction and damn conversation!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 03:29 PM
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Own Your Shit 12-13-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Maintain Socially skillful and confident- Current grade A. Schmoozed the shit out of an art gallery Meetup I went to with Plate 3. Got a few holiday parties coming up and I’m …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 10:55 PM
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Fuck that noise. Own your shit because it's your shit to own. Decouple it from sex in your mind because it's not coupled in your woman's mind unless she's already looking for an excuse to not fuck you. I live alone. My place is always in order; I put shit away when I'm done with it, I fold and iron my laundry as soon it's done, and when I cook I deal with my dishes as I go or immediately after eating. When my plates come over, they SEE the standard I've set. After eating, they SEE that I take ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 09:50 PM
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Leather shoes make a huge difference on appearance. Right?! So simple, so easy, yet so often just not done. Making it a point to polish them every other day. I enjoy the few minutes of deliberate dedication to the maintenance of quality items. Honing your kitchen knives is another activity like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 05:17 PM
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The funny thing is that this happened years ago, before I knew about Game. I remember thinking "Yeah, you don't usually see a guy doing this, but why are they all staring at me?"
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 03:28 PM
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changing how I shave. You going old-school wet shave style? It feels manly, looks manly, and can straddle the line between self-care and indulgent hobby. I fucking love trying new soaps, aftershaves, and techniques. I've collected a couple vintage razors from elderly family members and thrift stores. If you do it right, it's 30 min (or more…) or combined intense focus and immersive relaxation, all to yourself. It's a skill that takes practice and you'll want to high-five yourself the first time …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/16 09:11 PM
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Every single time she refuses you, you seem to obsess over it and to have existential doubt about the relationship; are you sure you're OI at a deep level? Ah, the Observer Effect.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/16 03:54 PM
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If all these percentages rolling around in this thread are even remotely accurate, Here's an article that breaks down the statistics pretty well: http://projectaccept.org/straight-dope-herpes-statistics/ 30+ year old woman The age range for most of the generally quoted statistics is 14-49 and the occurrences are averaged for the entire sample population. Naturally, the younger end of the spectrum will have less occurrences (because fewer sexual encounters over time) and the older end will be hea…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/16 03:43 PM
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depending on how you want to lead your life, become stupid. I'll probably have to make that call one day when some HB9 tries to jump my bones in the grocery store bathroom.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 10:41 PM
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irrelevant. What's done is done. Here's the spiel given by both my Dr. and Plate 3's doctor: STI screenings (at least in the US) don't include a HSV blood test unless it's specifically requested. And it an approximately 70% false negative rate so one could say it's more dangerous than useless. Unless you've had and recognized an outbreak, you can't really know for sure if you do have it, and if you've rubbed genitalia or swapped spit with anyone who's had any other partners besides you, you can'…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 10:10 PM
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Uh, those odds suck. No shit. The law says now that I know, I have to disclose my infected status to potential partners before we fuck or there could be legal/financial consequences. I've basically reduced my potential sexual market to the women who already know they have it or are willing to take the risk.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 08:09 PM
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However, I think this is a different strain than genitals. I have ate the wife's pussy a zillion times, including with cold sores; and neither one of us has anything strange going on below the belt line That's because you both have the same strain and your bodies know how to deal with it. Yeah, HSV-1 typically shows up in the mouth and HSV-2 prefers the genitals, but you can pass either one mouth-to-genitals. I've read a few statistics (some of which seem dubiously credible), but something like …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 08:02 PM
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No cure. Once you have the virus, it's for life. If your immune system is in good shape and functioning, it usually stays suppressed. Stressful events or other sickness can trigger an outbreak. You can augment the natural suppression with daily medication which is 50% effective. Taking suppressive medication, using condoms, and abstaining during outbreaks statistically puts the chance of transmission around 2%. The worrisome thing is that asymptomatic viral shedding can still infect a partner. h…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 07:50 PM
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Own Your Shit 12-6-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Confidence, competence, and congruence. Current grade A. Calm, comfortable, and composed regardless of the situation I find myself in or what people are doing around me. Current grade B. Got some bad news and I’m still reeling- See …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 06:05 PM
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So when you "run" to do those other things after rejection, makes sure you still do those other things normally. If she never sees you doing those things EXCEPT when she rejects you, then it looks butt hurt This is critical and also something you'll need with whoever you want to bang, regardless of the continuation of the marriage.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 03:28 PM
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Can you gift from an RP frame? Yep. Give whatever YOU want them / her to have. Release any notion of the recipient appreciating or using the gift in a way you've imagined. Release any expectation of reciprocation. It's not that easy, but it is that simple. Or just give skittles.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 06:47 AM
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"Dont you have something else to say?" Yes. I love… … cake.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 07:14 PM
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IDK. I really like eatin' pussy and though it's not necessary for my satisfaction, I enjoy when they lose themselves and cum from it. Not trying to show off or prove anything to them, I just like it. I wouldn't be surprised if it's the same for chicks. Felt like they were trying to prove value Plate 3 was the only one who showed some disappointment and appologised when I couldn't (but there's a whole context in which it was the morning after our first session together, we fucked hard a few times…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 12:29 AM
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/u/hambley, even the thought of initiating just seems like a turn off for me. You're not wrong and it should be a turn-off. Your wife has demonstrated through words and actions (way past the token LMR and ASD) that she doesn't want to have sex with you. Rhetorically, why would you want to have sex with anyone who doesn't want to have sex with you? Like /u/PurpleVeteran said, at that point it's about power not pleasure. I could stick around and play catch and release for a bit, I haven't scoured …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 01:40 AM
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Own Your Shit 11-29-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Maintain Socially skillful and confident- Current grade A. Maintain. Displays congruence between my internalization of actual physical, social, and professional achievement an…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 12:43 AM
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In theory, sure, but I haven't internalized it. I'm in an excellent position to confirm this for you. PM me if you want more details than I already post. I even have kids. Exactly one woman so far has explicitly said she wants a kid-free man. The others DGAF. You won't have this problem. In fact, the fact that you DO eventually want kids will open you up as an option for the women who know their clock is ticking and bring it up as entrance criteria.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 09:44 PM
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Realized I'm probably missing some key opportunities at my kids lessons to chat up some moms however there's nothing there worth really looking at. Still, I realize it would be good practice Don't just talk to women you might want to fuck. Seriously, chat up EVERYBODY. And by "chat up", I mean get them talking about themselves. Be that guy. If you have the unconscious habit of engaging everyone, you won't think twice when that new-to-town, recently divorced HB9 MILF shows up one day with no frie…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 05:36 PM
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It has been said that the big ones appreciate it a lot more, she might be putting in a lot of effort behind the scenes With a sample of one, I can at least agree, if not confirm. I spun up a new plate last week/weekend who's my first "bigger" girl. She's 27yo, ~5'7, ~140 lbs, and I'd guess 30% BF. Seeing her in clothes, I thought she might be chubby, but when she got naked, it turns out she's on the "curvy" end of the "athletic" range and everything is firm. In her mind, she thinks she's chubby …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 05:10 PM
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HB7 are waiting for dick. Can confirm.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/16 06:46 PM
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I mean she follows my direction without hesitation, but I want her to admit it. I think you have to let go of this. Watch what they do, not what they say (or don't say. /u/drty_pr, you're your own judge and you define your own requirements. But I'm with JDR on this one. Forcing her to say the words you want in that context seems like you need an ego stroke to reinforce your insecure position. Like you need some kind of trophy to concretize your "win" instead of accepting her improved behavior as…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 05:41 PM
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Otherwise you are forced to cold approach the women you do want. Why not let her see the skills with another girl? Yes. GTF out on the floor ASAP and be seen dancing. A few things can happen when you approach other women after you've shown that you aren't a wallflower: If she can dance, her anxiety shields will be down because now you're a known quantity with lower risk of embarrassment to her. She's not worried that she'll be stuck in full view of everyone else awkwardly trying avoid being trip…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 05:18 PM
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So you're saying dancing with an ugly chick is better than not dancing at all? Yes. Partner dancing is all about making the woman look good (by smoothly leading). The other women don't GAF how hot the woman is that you're dancing with, but the are hyperaware of how much fun she appears to be having. They don't want YOU, they want the FEELZ you cause.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 05:01 PM
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Everyone is jumping on this, but your hallway interruption incident is interesting. There's a lot there to (over)analyze. Would YOU have behaved the same way if she were talking to another mom? (Were you subconsciously mateguarding or trying to AMOG the other dad?) Why the actual fuck did you even need her attention at that moment? Go find your damn kid, get on your way, wave over your shoulder as you head out the door, man. Why the actual fuck did you BRING IT UP AGAIN LATER? You stewed on it, …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 04:32 PM
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Slow clap
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 12:15 AM
1

I'm not a lifting coach, but according to Rippetoe in Starting Strength, balance shouldn't be a problem if the bar moves in a vertical path above your mid foot.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 10:55 PM
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she's eating 3000 calories of celery, it's still 3000 calories …myfitnesspal Surprised no one mentioned this earlier. She needs some accountability. MFP also lets you brag on Facebook so she'll get some validation from her "friends".
/r/askMRP16/11/16 08:59 PM
1

So if I misplace the 5th thing I've misplaced today and spend 20 minutes looking for all those things...and I say to myself, "cmon, who is fucking with me" Unless they're your gloves. Then watch your back...
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 06:57 PM
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I cannot imagine a more difficult type of woman to flirt with. Exactly why you should do it! Sassy BT's are blackbelt shit-testers. If your goal is to get shit tested and practice your A&A or AM, they're great. The bar sluts actually might want to get nailed so their shit tests are softballs.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 03:57 PM
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My biggest sticking point is row. I can't seem to get past 165. Maybe try heavy Kroc rows for a couple months. I wasn't slowing down on my Pendlay row when I switched, but after doing the Krocs for a while made the Pendlay seem suddenly easier when I got back to it. They seem to hit my rear delt a little harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 03:29 PM
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I know. I'm trying hard not to actively advocate "burn it all down to get everything you've ever wanted" when posting on the sub because if I hadn't worked that program with the preferred outcome of keeping my family together, I would have short cut something and none of this would have happened. Improvement plan aside, my new life is possible because I embrace the fundamentals of "put yourself first", "Be attractive", "Don't be unattractive", "define and fucking enforce your boundaries". Also, …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 08:34 PM
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Own Your Shit 11-15-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Maintain Socially skillful and confident- Current grade A. Maintain. Displays congruence between my internalization of actual physical, social, and professional achievement an…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 05:51 PM
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Last set, I scream "fuck yeah" and throw it down on the floor. I love that feeling. I pulled a DL PR(335) at the gym this weekend, didn't yell it, but said the same thing. A couple of the other regulars were standing there and we high-fived.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 03:42 PM
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I called that out as one of my motivations just to get that on the table and kill any covert contracts. Did you call that out to her or just to us? Because if it's just to us, it's still covert to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 03:27 PM
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It's stupid good. I like chicken thighs because they cook faster and have more flavor than breasts. They handle just as easily if you get boneless/skinless. In fact, I sub them whenever the recipe calls for breasts unless I need to stuff it, like Chicken Kiev or Cordon Bleu.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 01:04 AM
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I've gotta jump in on this. I always liked cooking but never really considered it a hobby until recently. In particular, I really enjoy preparing restaurant-style meals while camping. Since converting to bachelor life, I've really stepped up my cooking game. The kitchen in my apartment is pretty small and I purposefully don't have much equipment, so inventing meals that work in my apartment also happens to work for camping. Here's what I use to cook almost all of my meals: 12" cast iron skillet …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 06:51 PM
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Thanks dude. Your stories make me want to have an abundance mentality Remember, you can (and should) always have abundance mentality. Recognizing that you have actual abundance is another milestone on the road to "just getting it". Then it becomes your choice on how you want to act about it. In my case, even when I had the abundance, I was still faking the mentality because I didn't believe the evidence. It took acting on the abundance for me to get there. I'd like to think other guys can get pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 03:44 PM
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So what is she measuring? Your ability or capacity to allocate your own resources (attention, commitment, money, VALUE) according to YOUR desires. AKA your status. Is my SMV related to her perceptions of how easily I could lock down another LTR, Not just get another LTR, but your willingness to apply your value to that theoretical new LTR and remove them from her. And remember, your value isn't just money, it's your whole ability to make her life happen (Positive frame, social status, tingles, f…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 12:14 AM
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If your a truck driving, country music fan, you need to look it. Zing! I resemble that remark… Only partially related, but funny: A couple weeks ago, I went to see a rock band who's popular with the college-20's crowd. I wore my western boots, jeans, and a tucked in (and well-fitting) black V-neck tshirt. I would have fit right in at any country show, but at that event, my outfit was a peacock suit, mainly the boots. I basically did no work, but number closed three college girls. One of them han…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 03:46 PM
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I have a tough time finding shirts that are long enough (I'm 6'1") and have sleeves that are short enough to show my arms. Hem the sleeves. Or get JCrew tall slim T shirts.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 10:40 PM
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Shirt shopping is the bane of my existence. It's hard to find the right material/brand that doesn't become a wrinkly piece of shit without ironing. Or think about the fact that ironing your shirts for the week is one more way you can be busy doing something for yourself when you need to be. I find ironing to be good for 15 minutes of mind-clearing. I wear jeans and a long-sleeve button-up to work (not tucked in) and it's additionally difficult to find shirts that are tailored properly for not tu…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 10:38 PM
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Fuck it, time to be congruent. I said “when I stop grabbing your ass, you need to start worrying about where you’re going to live next”. Pretty solid DL 9 moment right there. Funny how easy it is to recognize the right situation and pull the trigger when you're mentally prepared and have more or less already let go. You're not bluffing or threatening, just stating how it is in your frame. Your congruence in that situation was excellent.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 10:21 PM
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Own Your Shit 11-8-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Maintain Socially skillful and confident- Current grade A. Maintain. Reading “The Game” Displays congruence between my internalization of actual physical, social, and professio…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 09:32 PM
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but if we ever went as a group I always thought it a bit creepy the solo guy looking for tail. Yep, the solo guy looking for tail is a bit creepy. But the attractive, confident guy enjoying himself because he likes the music/scene/whatever? Everyone is at least open to meeting that guy because he brings energy to the conversation.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 08:54 PM
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Yeah! One man DP!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 03:56 PM
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super boner is more like it Nah, it didn't feel any harder than usual, just way easier to keep it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 02:52 PM
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lmao, Cialis won't do anything? huh, gives me wood from hell. take it about 4 hours before your suppose to mount up No surprise here, but yeah, the Cialis worked great. I was expecting a really fake-feeling boner, but it was totally natural. Talk about a confidence booster… Still in process of T evaluation.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 02:25 PM
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I only put as many beers in the cooler that I think I need +1 or I only take enough cash to get the buzz but not wrecked. This is my move too. I also pack some La Croix or something else fizzy with no sugar so I can maintain the drinking motion but pace out the alcohol.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 06:11 PM
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Jerked once about 3 weeks ago, spank bank only (had been about 3 weeks since last sex with exwife). Haven't looked at porn in over 18 months. No depression, my mood is fucking great. Focus and patience could be a little better, but I've always been wound a little tight. The last few weeks of my last bulk, my joints and muscles were achy-sore for days after each lifting session. Probably not related.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 05:54 PM
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This is what I have It came with a tiny yellow scoop which is supposedly 5mg. Reading the reviews there and some stuff elsewhere on the web indicated that 15mg daily was appropriate for fat-burning use. So I put 3 little scoops in 8 oz of water with a scoop of citrulline Malate.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 05:41 PM
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A guy my age (with my health, blood pressure, etc) should not need these long term That's what the cock doc said this morning. I got an initial exam and blood draw. I would also recommend Ciallis. These will make your dick hard no matter what your brain is saying. Doc gave me a sample of Cialis just to see. He thinks it won't do anything. Plate 1 is coming over tonight, we'll find out... start taking Yohimbine HC I have some, tried it at the end of my cut in June. I never could tell if it was wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 05:11 PM
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Own Your Shit 11-1-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Maintain Socially skillful and confident- Current grade A. Maintain. Reading “The Game” Displays congruence between my internalization of actual physical, social, and professio…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:03 PM
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Met calorie goal on only 3/7 days. I guess it's an upgrade from last week's 1/7. It IS an upgrade. Quantifiable. Adjust that apathetic attitude and give yourself some fucking validation. Then go for 4/7 this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 05:00 PM
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I've tried a few diets (gluten free, lacto-free) with no results It might be trendy, but I have a few friends who discovered surprising food intolerance they never knew they had by doing the "Whole 30" program. Look it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 03:10 PM
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There comes a point where you get back to some version of the woman you married, but you have to decide, is that the woman I want? Fucking gold right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 03:25 PM
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Fuck yeah, man! That's a lot of gainz in two months. Great job spotting and trouncing that comfort test. asked me if I own a microbrewery in the states because I have that kind of attitude. Haha That's quite the line... What exactly is the defining attitude of a craft brewery owner? Looks like you've made great social improvements with the ladies, have you also enhanced your socialization with other males (in addition to your music hobby)?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 03:28 PM
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I'm not willing to lead on and number close some slut, but am fine flirting. So here's the thing: a woman giving you her number doesn't mean fuck-all besides "she thought, at that moment, you were attractive enough to think about maybe feeling good that she was valued enough for some random dude to give her some attention." Get those numbers and start calling or texting them, see how many respond. That will show you just how big a deal it isn't. Getting that practice is all about YOU and buildin…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 02:13 PM
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entirely ignoring women "because they have a right to be left alone no matter where they are" You wanna know who likes being talked to, no matter where they are? Humans, including the female kind. x2 on Don't bullshit me with the SJW crap, stop being a pussy and talk to the bitches
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 07:59 PM
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speechless Because of my ego even considering the possibility that it's not entirely my fault? IDK if it was me or her who caused that, probably definitely me There I fixed it. But dude, I'm confident in owning the statement that I tried to lighten things up, even if was in a ham-fisted kind of way.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 04:35 PM
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Update: Doubled my N count last night (now it's 2). I'll take that internet high-five now, /u/SampsonBrass. I read and thought about the advice everyone has given and just cleared my mind of any expectations except enjoying the company of my date last night. Part of my issue (and being in my head all the time) is that I think I need to be actively DOING something to progress the situation. I do this with everything, work included. Last night, I decided to do the opposite- just show up and let th…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 03:08 PM
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They sound very mechanical and scheduled Point taken and your feedback is appreciated. Please realize you're seeing the sausage being made and the scales being practiced, not the polished product on display. It reads like that because I'm a technical writer. In reality, there's no schedule other than the start time and no route other than the paved and scenic path. I'll admit that I do have the agenda of gauging their receptiveness to physicality because if they're not going to contribute in tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 09:11 PM
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you are not building enough anticipation, Agreed, and even if I am, I'm releasing it all too early. (buh huh!) they are at the point where the wall concerns are strong. Are you just a pump and dump guy? I want to be. Maybe not just one pump, but I don't have intentions of another LTR for a long time. This demographic is more likely thinking about getting their beta-settle down guy. Fact. And on "paper" I look like a great candidate to be that guy. I think I put out a different vibe online than I…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 08:24 PM
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You're being too physical outside of a venue where you can take it all the way to PIV. Interesting. And maybe right for my / their age. I'm trying not to follow a manual, but this contrasts what TRP and most of "the books" recommend which is "get physical ASAP" to polarize them. Basically, I've just been doing what I want when I feel like doing it. I'll give your way a try. It makes sense, kino builds tension, kissing releases it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 07:42 PM
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there's a hole in your game Fact. I'm trying to find it. This is pretty far from the core focus of MRP, but a lot of you guys have actual experience with the subject, so I welcome the feedback. I read Bang about a year ago, Models about 6 months ago, maybe it's time for a reread. I'm currently going through "The Game", but they all basically say the same thing. I know my text game is weak (or too thirsty…) so for now, I'll describe my game with the ones who actually show up to dates. I've tried …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 05:29 PM
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Own Your Shit 10-25-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Action: on track Socially skillful and confident- Current grade A. Went on another 5 first dates in the last two weeks. Displays congruence between my internalization of actua…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 08:57 PM
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Can confirm.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 04:55 PM
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There it is. Put that way, the concept just clicked for me. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 11:13 PM
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Nice work. I think you might find that ceasing the "be interesting for her attention" and starting to "be interesting for yourself" will probably feed your positive OI frame. At least what I found was that when I was more excited to go do my backup plan than push through a denial or LMR, it was way easier to leave with a spring in my step. Sometimes I see a girl at a show or bar who was obviously dragged off her couch and is still flicking her phone in a corner. I always chuckle because some gir…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 08:53 PM
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That all sounds soooooooo fucking complicated to me. It is. But it's reality. Accepting reality as it is instead of wishing it was how you thought it should be is basically TRP. I was on a pretty good path and pace with only IRL approaches when I was still married. Dating apps are still new and novel to me so I'm on a binge with them and going on lots of dates which has taken up the time I used for going to bars alone. I'll get back to that and plan to add in some non-bar coed activities. The on…
/r/askTRP17/10/16 09:40 PM
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I am surprised that you are not getting more action below 28 Same. 23-28 is my jam for IRL approaches bars and concerts. Not that I know this ahead of time (I just approach who I find attractive), but they usually find a way to tell me. I need to get back to doing this as much as I did before now that I'm "single". Got a few good shows coming up but shit's been busy. I've been on 2 tinder dates with 25 year olds. One was way chubbier than her pictures would indicate (actually my first tinder dat…
/r/askTRP17/10/16 08:25 PM
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Getting off topic here, but I don't care. Yes, my goal is to eventually maintain 2-3 plates. I've been processing matches / prospects roughly as FIFO then make a date as soon as convenient for both of us. For whatever reason, this weekend, I got a surge of new contacts that are notably hotter. Some of these girls I recognize someone I swiped over a week ago, so it's probably taking some time for me to even appear on their feed. I might try to string them along until I have some time next week. M…
/r/askTRP17/10/16 07:19 PM
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Good info. Maybe worth a separate thread, but I don't think I've actually embraced abundance because I've been spreading myself thin trying to keep the fresh matches warm AND line up second dates. Hoarding them all… Any advice on the sweet spot time frame or pace of matching, messaging, number, date? I've been getting the number after a few in-app messages, usually the same day as the match, but I've been having to schedule the dates a week or more out. Not making much contact between invitation…
/r/askTRP17/10/16 02:53 PM
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it would be different if you didn't fit in because you were some badass motorcycle gang dude or whatever, but in your situation emphasizing these differences will only point out your weaknesses You're right. There's my ego again… engineer <> pissing off dad
/r/askTRP14/10/16 08:57 PM
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And she wants to be put in her place even more now that other men are treating her as an equal. If anything don't ever acknowledge she makes more than you or the like and let her know you are the boss! Oh, I'm definitely the dominant one in our interactions. I plan the shit, lead the shit, she just pays. I tease her a lot and go with cocky/funny because it's natural. The moment she sniffs that you might possibly think you're below her some way, she will treat you as such. What I'm going for isn'…
/r/askTRP14/10/16 08:30 PM
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Guy… I'm trying. It will happen eventually. I have two others at about the same level of prospection. I'm not hung up on getting first-date lays, but if it doesn't happen by the third, then "next". My problem lately has been booking so many first dates that I don't have openings in my schedule for second dates with the ones I actually like.
/r/askTRP14/10/16 08:00 PM
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not try to be so fuck alpha all the time and have a little fun. Alpha <> serious all the time! Your life is fun, entertaining, and awesome FOR YOU and it's OK to show that. Nice work on the wardrobe. Isn't it amazing how simply wearing "clean and well-fitting" immediately puts you above the majority of people you see out every day?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 03:02 PM
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this annoying habit of answering "maybe". Ah, the "long no". I have a couple male friends who do this shit too when I can tell they're actually waiting around to see what someone with tits else wants them to do with their time.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 02:47 PM
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About how much should I save for a retainer and initial consult per lawyer? Budget $100 for an hour-long meaningful consult with each lawyer. Have your shit together and presentable when it comes to the current state of your assets, debt, and goals. Most lawyers will phone-consult in generalities for free but won't get into gritty details unless you pay. A typical retainer in my (large) city is $4-5k. Some advice I got was to stay away from large firms and go with a lawyer who works by himself o…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 02:31 PM
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isn't it worth trying that first to save money and prevent years of litigation? Hope for the best but plan for the worst. If you allocate but don't spend that money because of an amicable settlement, go buy a motorcycle or something else awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 10:17 PM
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Solid shit-owning, bro. I really like your mission statement, even if you think it's temporary. Nice work finding ways to train around your weakness. Also good initiative with the hobby and social improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 03:54 PM
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Your finances should be addressed because that’s part of your MAP. I'll add some detail to this. You should track and average how much of your money you personally spend (what you'd need to maintain your lifestyle as a single man) and how much of your money is spent providing for your family. For many of us, the boogieman is fear of living in poverty because you don't know for a fact that you can indeed live on what's left after paying child support and potential alimony. Every person has their …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 08:05 PM
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What do you like about it? I operated with sufficient autonomy before, but now my activities, schedule, chores, meals, the music playing, lack of clutter, everything, is my choice alone. Granted, I'm only a couple weeks in, but I'm as far from bored as I can imagine. no-effort pussy please, your not all that. there is no such thing Agreed. I must have been reading too much TRP... I actually REALLY enjoy the chase. My date last night was spectacular; I led the shit out of the whole interaction, h…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 02:21 PM
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Here ya go: Be the radest divorced dad on the planet. Current grade C. I haven't had "my" weekend yet, but I have had my weeknights with my boys. We Facetime frequently and I have all sorts of shit lined up for us to do when they're with me.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 06:47 PM
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Own Your Shit 10-11-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Action: on track Socially skillful and confident- Current grade A. Making friends in my new neighborhood left and right. Went on 5 first dates in the last two weeks. Displays …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 06:29 PM
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Nice gaming FR. I second the recommendation for 531 BBB. I'm no expert here, but if you're topping out SL5x5, you can probably move enough iron to make a couple months of high volume body building produce some results. I liked the BBB sets so much I experimented and just finished up 12 weeks of a PPLR routine The size gainz are apparent. BP, OHP, incline press, weighted chinups, Kroc rows, BB curls, squats, DL, plank, all done for 5x10. I started at 70% of my 1RM and added 1 lb each session. Tow…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 05:10 PM
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she says in mid conversation "by the way, your not getting any tonight" Shrug, grab keys, "the bars are open 'till 2...", walk out, ignore phone. Edit after thinking about this for 10 more seconds: Sex was on her mind right then, which is why she said that. I think a better response could have been "Damn right, we'll be tired from fucking right now!" or "Then we better knock this out early!" and escalate.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 04:23 PM
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Disagree. Those sound like bartering. "That's because I'm a terrible BF. Want some skittles?" (with a smirk and manspreading posture). Wink at the audience.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 04:13 PM
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Along with /u/Persaeus, I fully support mapping out the divorce with a lawyer early on. The facts remove this as a boogeyman; and afford an increase in OI. And I also agree with /u/sh0ckley that Only potential problem I see in talking to a lawyer is getting an itchy trigger finger. Having the information is good but with great power (knowledge) comes great responsibility. It's likely that you'll learn from the lawyer that the price you'll pay to extract yourself from the marriage contract isn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 04:05 PM
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Just metal-shred over rural-pandering lyrics and you'll do fine on the radio these days…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 02:56 PM
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That's why I originally started playing country, but I quickly started appreciating the deceivingly superior musicianship it takes to pull off a three chord song with a 5 piece band.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 08:56 PM
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Own Your Shit 9-27-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Action: on track Socially skillful and confident- Current grade A. Goal was: Find and participate in one new purely social function without the goal of practicing game. Results…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 07:59 PM
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Upping my SMV is my only option here. Two things: You should be doing this anyway, regardless of her response. It's not your only option… just sayin'.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 05:01 PM
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Only initiate with her when I'm legitimately horny, and not just because it's Wednesday and we haven't done it since Saturday… This is such an ingrained habit that it's hard for me to know what I'm actually wanting on a given night, so being more aware of myself will take some effort for me. Solid identification of a habit, not a need. Nice.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 04:57 PM
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Leadership: Nice use of fogging and broken-record.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 04:47 PM
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Third song, lead vocalist says again dance floor is open. I grab wife and start pulling her that way. Her: “where are we going?” We’re going to dance. “You don’t know how to dance”. Neither do you, we should go well together. So we go up there and break the floor open (i.e. as soon as I made my move a few other couples followed). Slow clap. That's some AMOG shit right there. There really isn't any such thing as "don't know how to dance", only "unwilling". It's fucking fun, ain't it? As the man, …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 04:32 PM
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Good info, thanks. Right now I'm eating ~3500 per day and not quite maintaining.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 12:08 AM
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I'm interested to see if any other woman will put up with your (blah, blah, blah) Me too. At least in the future I'll be able to just next them. I'll be sure to post all about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 07:04 PM
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At least she won't have to worry about brushing her teeth before sexytime with me for a while. Fixed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 04:50 PM
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OK, I'm with you now. You're right, it will suck for her. At least she won't have to worry about brushing her teeth before sexytime for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 03:33 PM
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I hadn't thought about it. Maybe, I guess, I thought she might try it for a week? It could be that while my words said my preferred outcome was to stay together, my actions said I would rather split up and she picked up on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 03:17 PM
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Yeah, she will eventually come out the other side, but don't assume she wasn't just fine with the way things were. She probably was fine with the way things were. She'll be fine again after the divorce dust settles and she still doesn't have to put any effort into sexuality if she doesn't want to. Are you saying my hamster / ego was running on the fact that she'd be happier if she chose to adjust her behavior? I know I'd be happier, which would make me want to include her more in my awesome life…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 02:53 PM
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If I'm understanding you correctly, you're getting the sex you want, just not the day to day pleasant, desirous behaviors of a wife of a man who has his shit together Precisely. For 20 minutes every couple days, things are great. It's the rest of the time that wasn't something I'm willing to tolerate for the next 30+ years.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 02:45 PM
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The only question she needs to answer for herself if she wants to stay married or if she wants to get divorced. Well, she answered it last night. We're separating and filing for uncontested divorce. In a completely levelheaded discussion, she told me that if she did change herself to align with my vision and things got "better", she would always resent me for forcing her to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 02:39 PM
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That's a nice jacket. Price is right too. Re: "Compartmentalized Sexuality" During the 20 minutes every other day or so that we spend on foreplay and fucking, she's into it, is all about affection, kissing, touch, moving her body in sensual feminine ways, all kinds of great stuff. During the rest of the time, it's all business; rushed peck kisses, dodging hugs, not many smiles, and just acting serious about everything. She laughs and jokes with her friends, but in the years I've known her, she's…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 02:27 PM
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Dread Level 9 /u/weakandsensitive ‘s words start thinking 3 or 5 years down the line, and not "my wife is going to be sad tomorrow". Don’t be afraid of divorce- have your standards.” rang in my ears all week. I know what I want from my intimate relationship(s) and I know other women are willing to meet or exceed those expectations. The ways my wife isn’t meeting them is inherent to her personality and would require fundamental change on her part which is something I do not control. That said, I …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 08:52 PM
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Own Your Shit 9-20-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Action: on track Socially skillful and confident- Current grade A. Goal was: Find and participate in one new purely social function without the goal of practicing game. Results…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 08:48 PM
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Waste size is unchanged; but six pack is waning. From everything I have read, there is no way around this when really trying to build muscle and add strength (any counter thoughts?). Yep. Here's a mental trickfuck I use while bulking: Imagine it like cooking a pork butt in the smoker. "If you're looking, you're not cookin'." Know that under the lid (of skin fat...) your muscles are growing and slowly becoming more delicious. Then, and only when the time or temperature is right, you'll take the l…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 03:00 PM
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It's just a date on the calendar. Celebrate whatever you want. I sold some shit on Craigslist so I'm going honkytonkin' tonight to celebrate. I invited the wife but she declined. You two don't have to be celebrating the same thing either.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/16 12:47 AM
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I also think about the past 11 years… Do I punish her… Still some vapors of the anger phase. I get 'em too. Remind yourself that the past is the past and there's no benefit for punishing her for either of your behavior before you knew any better. That absolutely doesn't mean you have to continue to reward behaviors that you no longer desire but tolerated in the past, but not tolerating <> punishing. In fact, spending your energy on a punishment to someone else is operating in their frame. The on…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 08:15 PM
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I'm not a gamer, never even owned any kind of console or played anything but minesweeper on the computer. So take my observation with that in mind. I have a friend who absolutely kills it at pinball and old-school arcade games. I've seen women make bedroom eyes at him after he got high scores on machines in bars, usually accompanied by some boisterous masculine celebratory shenanigans. In fact, he approaches it more like a performance, which turns it into a DHV. The same comparison can be made a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 06:46 PM
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I view it as, why waste this woman's time Well there's your problem. You view their time as more valuable than your time. Flirt with other women for your own entertainment. It's your ego telling you that she'll give it more thought than "Did that hot guy just hit on- OMG SHOES ARE ON SALE!"
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 04:50 PM
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I also need to work on laying big bait and continuing to engage on conversational threads that the women whoever I'm talking to drops. Use DayBang tactics on EVERYONE. My focus for now is becoming a better conversationalist in general. My introverted nature tells me that small talk is painful and something to be avoided, but this is bullshit and I need to embrace it if I want my game to improve. Good plan. Get out of your comfort zone and make light and medium conversation a habit. Former introv…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 03:21 PM
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Oh. I had fun and was relaxed. I had no agenda or expectations, so that probably meant I wasn't leading the experience. I wasn't Mr. Outrageous Party Animal, riling everyone else up, but I didn't sit there in a brooding simmer either.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/16 06:20 PM
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Was your inner dialogue (frame) consistently positive and fun, or where you faking it? Nope, not faking it. My mind was 100% in task mode, doing something I enjoy (compulsively organizing our gear so it's immediately ready for the next trip. Don't judge.). That's why I was momentarily confused if it was even a test. I've said it before, but either my wife only throws a couple extremely subtle shit-tests per week, or I just don't even notice them. I fucking love smashing flirty shit-tests from ba…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/16 04:07 PM
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You wouldn't have been concerned with that if your marital status were out in the open from the start. If she lets you know where she will be and knows of your living arrangements, the feared "doorstep visit" is averted. Your lie messed with both your abundance and outcome independence. Solid response.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/16 03:40 PM
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Some Shit I’m not owning Ego protection / being a pussy / guilt /u/weakandsensitive called me out for a couple things in my OYS from last week: You're just waiting for an "oops" plausible deniability woman. You're acting in the way that the girl with the boyfriend but is partying at the bar acts. And The reason cheating is devastating is because of the loss of trust and the implicit assumptions in relationships This is true. In some of my thinking, I did consider that was how I was acting but I …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/16 01:00 AM
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Own Your Shit 9-13-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Action: on track Socially skillful and confident- Current grade B. Goal was: Find and participate in one new purely social function without the goal of practicing game. Results…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/16 01:00 AM
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Spare yourself some embarrassment and don't post any pictures Here ya go.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 05:19 PM
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powerful reply. thanks X2
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 03:49 PM
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She wants you to dress better? What a coincidence; YOU also want to dress better! That guy in front of me in traffic doesn't want me to crash his car with mine? What a coincidence; I ALSO don't want to crash our cars! Just because two people happen to want the same thing doesn't mean that one is controlling the other or the frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 03:14 PM
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my goddamn BP ego tells me not to treat quality women like sluts....ugh. Agreed. The conditioning is deep. I gotta say I've ALWAYS liked the idea of a outwardly quality woman WANTING to act like a dirty slut (for me). Since finding TRP, I read all the posts about how "every woman can be a slut" and how it's on me to draw it out. I want to believe that stuff so bad, but because it's so far from any practical experience I've ever had in my life, it still seems out of reach.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/16 03:33 PM
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Interesting take. I read your response then thought about it over the weekend. You're right, I have achieved abundance- of disconnected sex only though. I realized a while ago that just getting my dick wet for 15 minutes isn't what I actually want. So yes, what I prefer is sex in a relationship and the non-roommate relationship is what I DON'T have with my wife. Even though we fuck every couple days, sexuality is isolated and compartmentalized. When I think about that more, if I were dating anot…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/16 03:27 PM
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The mother fuckin phone! Last week i was attempting to talk to her and she wouldn't even look up from it. Not just wives. I have coworkers of both genders who do this shit. Going back to the fundamentals, we don't control anyone else's choices or behavior but we do control our participation in the interaction. When I'm talking to anyone (friends, coworkers, kids, wife, women at the bar) and they pull out their phone for a reason unrelated to the conversation, I stop, sometimes mid-sentence, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 04:06 PM
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Often I find myself just browsing Google images for a look I like, then trying to find those clothes in stores. Yep. That's a good move. I like to specifically search for one piece or combo I already have and see what other stuff could go with it. For example "oxfords with dark jeans" yields this and this A few months (maybe a year?) ago, someone (I think it was /u/Redneck001) made a post (but I can't find it...) about something he called "Style Jacking" where you find a couple celebrities that …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 02:45 PM
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about how much does it cost to tailor a real dress shirt? In my neck of the woods, the seamstresses that do alterations at the dry cleaners charge $12-15 for a dress shirt alteration but I don't know if that includes back darts. I use a guy who only does menswear tailoring. He charges $10 to take in the sides and sleeves and another $10 for back darts. One time I had 6 shirts done at once and he did that batch for $100.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 02:55 AM
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Maybe something you'd call "new-fangled" back in your day?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 09:33 PM
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untucked-but tailored short sleeve button-up If you saw this guy at a campground or on a hiking trail, what kind of appliance do you think he'd be selling? You do you, but I've gotten some of my best pulls while wearing a tucked-in short sleeve plaid button-up, jeans, and boots at a country bar. That said, I'd keep away from this guy's van or basement...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 09:06 PM
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pedors ehrmagad. I had to google that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 08:50 PM
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So your guidance is to invest in new wardrobe items before weight is lost? (We're not talking about a substantial amount - probably 10-15 lbs). Yes, especially if it's only 10-15 lbs. (edit: at least for shirts. Pants, maybe wait). Even if your shoulders bulk up, your skeleton won't grow so your joints won't get any wider and you won't get any taller. It's trivial to make the body of a shirt smaller. Also, you don't have to do it all at once. Start with the items that are most versatile like a p…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 06:58 PM
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That's what happens when you go from size 36 to 31 pants. Shirts can be retailored, but pants are tough. Bonobos has "athletic fit" jeans, chinos, and trousers with a 1 year free exchange policy that includes "doesn't fit anymore". They cost about $150, but it's essentially two pairs of pants if you need them to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 06:21 PM
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Clothing: this is an area I'm honestly pretty dumb about. I don't give a shit what I wear, mostly. Start giving a shit. Not to the point that you primp in every reflective surface you pass, but GAF about the the value you project through your personal presentation. It's often said that you should be one step better dressed for the occasion than the rest of the crowd. It's pretty easy to do this just by wearing leather shoes instead of trainers, sneakers, or hiking boots. The next easy step is to…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 06:04 PM
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What is WM? Whole Milk
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/16 05:40 PM
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Smoking Doesn't that also affect your appetite? Knock that shit off and you might be hungry more often.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/16 03:08 PM
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Does anyone have a good bulking shake they like? I've been pleased with Optimum Nutrition Gold Standard 100% Whey, 1 scoop + 1 cup of whole milk every couple hours. Tastes REALLY good with a shot of espresso mixed in. The cheapest I've found is 6# for $50 at Costco. Lately I've been cooking up a cup of oats with a cup of WM, then mixing in a scoop of whey and 2 tbs of sugarfree peanut butter. 1000 calories in a bowl.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/16 03:05 PM
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Some Shit I’m Owning better than last week Away game [FR1] Some buddies were playing a gig so I went to see them and do some dancing. This week, the venue was full of early 30’s professional-type women, mostly in groups of 3-4. There were a few older dudes dancing, but the rest of the guys my age were not. I immediately opened a set, chatted for a bit, then pulled the medium-hot one out to dance. The hot one in that group wanted a turn after, so I obliged. I opened another set and did the same t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 10:29 PM
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Own Your Shit 9-6-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Action: on track Socially skillful and confident- Current grade B. Goal was: Find and participate in one new purely social function without the goal of practicing game. Results:…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 10:26 PM
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I fog the shit out of people all the time now. It's surprising how well people receive their own thoughts / words regurgitated back to them as if it's advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 04:27 PM
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When wife DEER's I just nod and say yeah and then go into action and fix/solve what she neglected...Teamwork. I don't gloat or give her a lecture. She knows I disapprove. This is exactly what I do. Maybe not related, but I've done this with my team at work for years. "Reasons" don't change the fact that a job needs to be done and it hasn't been. I see it as "better to be open about than hide the fact that shit didn't get done".
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 03:13 PM
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The construction worker and I carpool.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 11:12 PM
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Yo. 6'3" Tall skinny guy here too. Can confirm: You must eat like it's your job to gain mass. I used to think I ate a shitload and I DID drink a shitload but "my metabolism was just too high" so I never gained any weight. I also did fuck-all for exercise. I was generally between 170-180 from college until my beer drinking ramped up. Day 1 of my MAP, I was 6'3, 190 lbs, 20% BF, ~152 lbs of lean mass (it's possible I was fatter, I just guessed based on pictures). Reading the chapter in Pook about …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 10:14 PM
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my own concern over what negative feelz might come from my increasing absences. Too much thinking on my part Right. Key point right here. DWYW and if it's actually a problem for her, she'll let you know by some method, then you can assess if it affects you and act accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 06:30 PM
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2gun's post from last week that had me thinking about the dynamic of being scarce when young children are involved. So here's the thing: I'm not punishing my wife when I go do shit. She's fully capable of handling the kids by herself and so am I. I'm not fucking off and leaving out of anger- I'm legitimately leaving to go do the fun shit I want to do. On the nights or weekend afternoons when the kids are awake or know I'm leaving, I tell them what I'm up to. "I'm going to shoot guns / play music…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 04:05 PM
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Part 2 Some Shit I’m Owning better than last week Sex with wife I tried a couple new tactics for initiating: twice (but not in a row), she was on the couch scrolling when I finished my post-lift shower. I sat down next to her, pulled her legs onto my lap, started kino, eventually pulled her pants off, and slowly escalated until she was wet, grinding, and I was fingering her. Nothing timid or hesitant on my part, no pussyfooting around my intentions, just taking what I want because it’s mine. She…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 12:04 AM
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Own Your Shit 8-30-2016 Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. Action: on track Socially skillful and confident- Current grade C. Went to three social functions with wife, kids, and other families. I consciously turned off my GAF about kid…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 12:04 AM
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Will dread work if she doesn't believe I would ever divorce her? It doesn't matter if it works on HER. Reframe it as "Dread works on YOU". You get to find your balls. You get to build a warrior body. You get to do what you want and not what you don't. You get to be more awesome. You get to dress sharp. You get to be social. You get to interact with other, hotter women. You get to give less fucks. Just don't say "Baby, I'll never divorce you." Also don't say "We're divorcing unless you shape up."…
/r/askMRP29/08/16 05:03 PM
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I need to get her interested in spending time with me, it's a question of what I do to gain that interest. Whatever you do, don't do it with the goal of getting her interested. Do what YOU think would make you interesting or scratch an itch you've had. She DGAF what the actual thing you're interested in is, only that you're passionate about something besides kissing her ass. That said, if the thing you are passionate about happens to be something where she can absorb some social status by associ…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/16 11:00 PM
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X2 on exactly what he said. Sometimes I recap "remember when" stories and tell the whole thing over just to have some shit to talk about that isn't kid-logistics. I haven't read "How to win friends and influence people", but I've read a slew of other "small talk" books and articles and implemented their techniques. I find most of those resources focus on getting people who talk too much to shut up and listen. "Day Bang" has actually been the most beneficial to me when trying to draw investment o…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/16 10:39 PM
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Here ya go: Dead baby jokes
/r/askMRP26/08/16 03:31 PM
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So if I don't feel like initiating cause of her attitude I don't? That's right. I've seen people comment that you should be initiating every day? This Simpsons quote is appropriate. Do what YOU want otherwise it's duty sex from you too.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 03:25 PM
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YOU are the prize to be had. This. I like to frame it as "dating myself" because that's what I'm doing. Where do I want to go, what do I want to do, how will I have fun regardless of her participation?
/r/askMRP25/08/16 11:40 PM
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As for your dates. is the goal for her to have fun, or the goal to have fun and have her along if she wants? Women hate the pressure of having to perform The goal is for me to have fun and include her in my fun. Whatever happens after the "date" is a separate interaction and not how I judge the success / failure of the date. you may be missing the charm in your interactions... Do people generally laugh when you speak to them, or do you notice any body language of a person looking for an exit? I …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 08:54 PM
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Especially with kids at home. Is it possible, if you will step back for a second, that maybe you've taken dread level 4 too far by being gone too much. Maybe. Only two of those nights I leave before the kids are in bed, and on those nights I'm home to cook dinner / play with them first. The other 3 nights, I leave the house after they're in bed and my wife is already on the couch scrolling. The nights I stay home are when my wife goes out to do her own activities (school meetings or mommy meetup…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 06:53 PM
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I gotcha. Before I put my ego aside, I will defend the first criticism (My threshold is too high to recognize her response) and confirm the second. I can say that over the course of my MAP, my wife's actions have indicated a mild response and I do recognize it. A few examples: I led by example and stepped up my wardrobe. She followed by buying some definitively feminine new clothes after asking for my approval of her choices (there's the response) along with some others that still fit her tomboy…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 06:38 PM
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sub-communicating your disappointment Well, I'm intentionally doing this. Both BPP and Athol wrote about conveying disappointment rather than anger with her choice not to respond in the DL9 stage or "Soft Ultimatum", and that's what I'm easing into. Objectively, I am displaying disappointment and not butt-hurt because that's really how I feel. My go-to phrase upon rejection or (more frequently) a declined invitation to go do something fun is a shrug and "OK... You're missing out." then leave or …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 04:01 PM
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Sounds like you need to hustle some other dudes into getting crushed by your wife. How are you still paying for your own drinks?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 12:50 AM
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Own Your Shit 8-23-2016 I like /u/Persaeus idea of a mission statement with graded criteria so I’m adopting it. Mission Statement: With an understanding of the variables under my control, I will be the man I want to be, choose the life I want, and live it deliberately. Variables not under my control will be ignored or circumvented. The Man I want to be: Professionally skillful and confident- Current grade A. I own the shit out of my job and everyone knows it. Action: maintain my current developm…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 12:45 AM
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I have a theory on your wife's "shut in" tendencies. Interesting idea. My ego fluttered for a second when I read that because "holy shit, this might be a problem that isn't my fault! (other than making those babies in the first place...)". But then there's the reminder that a man still has to be interesting enough to draw her attention and be her escape from the energy drain of raising babies. Because "everything-be-damned, if you're alpha enough, she'll walk on broken glass to suck your dick."
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 09:42 PM
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Great fucking post, man. I actually like reading the lengthier, well-structured essays and this one reverberated with what I've been thinking about lately. All but one of your bold headings is a concept that I've had a mini "grief-acceptance" process about in the last few weeks. The latest one, Outcome Independence doesn't mean you don't have a preferred outcome is something that I hadn't gotten my head around until I read your explanation. Just like you, I DO have a preferred outcome (of contin…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 09:06 PM
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Whoops, reading my question again, it sounds a little rapey. What I really meant was: After the initial initiation (which is of course the man's job), when does "plowing through" become chasing, which puts you on the wrong side of Rollo's cardinal rule?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 01:41 PM
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Also, the only no is a hard no, the rest is LMR, plow through my friend. I've seen this advice around here a few times and it's always bugged me that following it seems to be in conflict of accepting the message like Rollo talks about in "The Gift" and "Medium is the Message". Specifically that if she actually wanted you to fuck her, she wouldn't be putting up barriers. Is this a case of "In my frame, fucking happens; get in here!" or "The only communication an Alpha will tolerate is overt"? Or,…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 11:48 PM
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If you play an instrument, get on Craigslist and audition for some bands. Even if you don't join one, you'll meet people. Go to open mics and jam nights. Talk to people. Not into music? Go to the socially dense area of town or popular park, walk around and talk to people. Go to the most popular hiking trail in your area and hike it, greet everyone you pass. Like running? Find a local "Hash House Harriers" group. Bring your thick skin and prepare to have some fun. Whatever you do, it will involve…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 08:17 PM
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Lol! Lady is describing a dude who pulled game on her. Exactly. She'd already seen him "at the climbing gym" and the fact that he was even visible means he's probably hawt. He saw her in the bar and approached. He polarized the interaction as sexual romantic (small bait about "the study"), she bit. He built some rapport with the questions, broke it (with a potty break) to give her hamster some time to spin, then he used some plausible deniability to isolate her to the bridge and escalated. Prett…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 03:48 PM
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share experience is your hamster talking... Maybe so, and I did think about that being just another way of saying I want someone to validate that the good time I've provided them is indeed good. I used to have a really awesome dog. He never had an agenda of his own and would just match my energy level in whatever we were doing together. If we were just chilling in the yard, he'd do that, and if we were ripping around the woods in my truck, he'd have the same grin as me, and if we were mountain b…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 02:55 PM
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I thought WISNIFG had good information for gaming. Agreed. You have to choose the right tool for the job. The "Free information" section is good and Roosh has quite a bit about this in Daybang. The rest of the PUA material is good for keeping things light and establishing the interaction, but when the shit tests show up (they will if she finds you attractive), fogging is great when done playfully, and negative assertion / negative inquiry are great pressure flipping techniques to make her qualif…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 02:37 PM
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Own Your Shit 8-9-2016 Shit I’m owning Style, Finances, Parenting, Hobbies, The Ship, Lifting, Diet, Fitness. 8 weeks into a planned 12 week bulk. Gainz are happening so I might extend it. Currently 6’3”, 190lbs, 13% bf. 815 lb PL total. Social Life and Away Game I went to two shows and a family-oriented beach house party. Show 1: Was one of my favorite bands and I’ve had the ticket for months. It was at a new-to-me venue in a very hip part of town (where a LOT of single young professionals live…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 02:44 PM
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I see a lot of the flaired tell tales of women coming up to them and kinoing them...Any thoughts on that? I'm not flaired, but can confirm this happens. Don't be skinny. Also dress sharp in a way that shows off your upper body shape and stand with excellent posture. My random, unprovoked swolestations usually happen when I'm in bars or other nightlife venues, but women that I know (receptionists, wife's friends, etc.) now touch my upper arm or shoulder when they talk to me. None of that used to …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 09:05 PM
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I would try eating more throughout the day so that you don't have to cram 900 cals of nasty ass rice. I find, even if the meal was huge, it's pretty easy to slam an 8oz whole milk / whey shake after every meal and periodically throughout the day. That's ~280 cal and ~30g of protein each. 3 oz of cashews is 500 cal and trivial to eat if you just leave the bag open next to your work space. That also seems to remind me to drink water too.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 11:41 PM
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Thanks for the feedback, /u/FistFullOfBitches. You'd be right in remembering that as long as I've known her my wife has always been just on the feminine side of androgynous (tomboy). Don't get me wrong, she CAN step it up and really drop some jaws, but she doesn't do it frequently or (except very early in our relationship) for my enjoyment. Even back then, I knew playing that role was exhausting for her. It's not anyone's fault, it's just how it is. What IS my fault is knowing that's her inheren…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 11:23 PM
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Lazy chick was bitching and asking why he wasn't buying flowers, taking her on date nights, kissing her ass, etc. Dude said "Because you don't deserve it!" then went out to have some fun. /scene
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 02:30 PM
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she was bored because he's an lazy indoor fuck who can't think of anything fun beyond laundry. She wants to spend time with him, but she needs him to lead and give her some tingles. Funny how the problems some of us have sound like solutions to others of us.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 08:54 PM
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Dang. That's a heck of a reply. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 08:30 PM
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Is this something new? Ha! Here's what happened: I took an objective look back at my entire relationship with my wife and really tried to remember any time when I wasn't the one doing the chasing or investing. Don't confuse this with reconciliation of "the scoresheet"- I was looking for times when her behavioral message actually aligned with what my ego wanted it to be and also looking for times when my ego adjusted my perception of the events to despite the facts. Disappointingly, I couldn't th…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 05:11 PM
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Own Your Shit 8-3-2016 Shit I’m owning Lifting, Diet, Fitness, Style, Finances, Parenting, The Ship Social Life and Away Game I went to a show, continually scoped the room for approach targets, found most groups had the unusual demographic of a dude and his chick with a (male) third wheel. Normally these shows are at least 50% women and I can almost always find a group having a GNO. No ladies, no problem- I just chatted up the folks next to the spot where I’d posted up and enjoyed the performanc…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 04:12 PM
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And go see a lawyer. Your operating under a lot of assumptions that need verified. Agreed. I scheduled a consultation this morning. Beyond stating that, I'm going to keep news about this off the interweb.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/16 05:41 PM
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/u/reddjive brought up the fact that I seem bored a few times in the plating threads and I want to address that here. Thing is OP is punching out because he's bored. Is that what we are doing here? I am not judging the affair I am judging his decision process up to that point. He got so far...hell started out like gang busters and now because a buddy of his has the life he wants he decides...fuck the rest of this I'm out I agree that it might appear that I'm getting bored, but my attitude from t…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/16 03:39 PM
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I'm just going to leave this here... https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLVna2B64pQwolR2Y09aqHuIEwWh0RVuLq
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 09:33 PM
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A post I read here had him describing how for every job he took, he immediately wrote up a letter of resignation and stuck it in his desk for when/if the day came... and he did the same thing for his marriage. That'd be me, in this post, except I haven't yet done it for my marriage. Yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 08:09 PM
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https://markmanson.net/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/Happiness-map.jpg From https://markmanson.net/stop-trying-to-be-happy
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 06:06 PM
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Curious as to whether she was amped up more than normal with another woman's pheremones circulating? I'd say definitely maybe. The first time, she wanted it harder and deeper than usual. The second time, I just started kino and fingering while she was scrolling her phone. She wasn't wet but didn't resist at all. She quickly got wet and while she didn't reciprocate my effort, she was much more vocal about enjoying it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 12:25 AM
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FRAME ... The goal of my MAP, relative to my marriage, should be to end the marriage...I can see no other way to kill the mother of all covert contracts that is my MAP. YES! This entire paragraph puts words to what I've been wrestling with in my head for a couple weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 12:14 AM
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"where are your friends?" "I'm making some right now!" (with a smirk) is my go-to. I've also (a few times) said "We're pretty much friends by now." and immediately escalated kino with an arm wrap to pull her into me.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 08:31 PM
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Own Your Shit 7-27-2016 Shit I’m owning Lifting, Diet, Fitness, Style, Finances, Parenting, the Ship Social Life and Away Game Socializing and hand-shaking at the venues is paying off. I went out to three different shows last week and was greeted by name each time. Two of my new contacts are leads for future gigs, so this is good for hobbies too. Escalated past number-close with a high-quality woman. We had a mini-date the day after. Events were leading to sex, I came clean about being married, …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 08:25 PM
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Then no, I've never experienced this, especially from my wife, not even in the beginning. Probably not her fault though, because I set the tone of pedistalization from day 1 and likely preempted any chance she might have had to to walk on the glass by defaulting my behavior to pandering and begging even if I might not have had to. Reading Rollo's "The Gift" yesterday brought up a surge of rage at my past self for tolerating and entrenching myself deeper into what was very clearly the wrong situa…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 02:11 PM
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Do you think a cut all the way down to 15% before trying to bulk is the way to go? No. You should cut down to 12%. THEN bulk back to 15.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 11:26 PM
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Did you have unconditional desire from wife in the beginning? Only a few, isolated instances have I experienced "the look" from her, and you're right- it's unmistakable and not confusing. Before unplugging, I always put myself in a position to kiss her ass for anything sexual as a reward, just like Rollo's post describes.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 10:20 PM
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What changed between then and now? Two things: My behavior and my expectations. During the time when I was seeing the increase in sexual response, I was compulsively tracking data about our sexual activity. I was systematically (and scientifically?) trying to increase frequency and pushing boundaries in a calculated way with the goal of increasing intercourse quality and the array of "things" she would do. It was goal-oriented scorekeeping and I was way too focused on the PIV mechanics. On paper…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 08:10 PM
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Yep. See my edit to the OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 02:55 PM
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/u/iratemd , I really do appreciate your opinion and feedback. Definitely has me thinking about some stuff. It sounds like you're still pissed that your wife initiates like a woman instead of initiating like a man. Maybe I still am, but after getting called out for wanting initiation from my wife instead of enthusiasm in response to my initiation, I've adjusted my expectations and I've been both initiating when I want regardless of of any receptive signs she might give, but also looking for sign…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 01:10 AM
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Nice call out, and you're right. Since I started practicing my game in the field, there have been many women that I wanted to fuck but didn't escalate because she didn't meet some parameter in my head. This one met enough parameters (hotter than my wife, comfortable in the scene, not too young, not to old, has no reason to overlap with my wife's social circle, lives in an area I frequent alone for fun and errands...) so I chose to escalate past the number close. I'm such a robot...
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 09:40 PM
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I definitely have a ring tan but my farmer's tan probably draws more attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 09:33 PM
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Were you wearing your ring or are you referring to the mark? I was not wearing my ring with her in person. I am wearing my ring in SM profile pictures and a couple in particular (of my hands and face playing guitar) show it front and center.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 08:28 PM
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a woman who hasn't been able to settle down, and now has a shot at it with you Well, what her stance on that is exactly what I'll be judging when we talk about expectations. (I know, lots of talk of talking... but that's how I'm going to do it.) You are essentially exactly describing a mistress, my suggestion is to find one who can keep her mouth shut. If you have abundance enough to get some strange, you can have abundance enough to find a better selection of strange IMO That's what I'm going t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 08:00 PM
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Set the "Models" boundaries. Don't get oneitis for a fling. The moment the risk even dampens your fun in the slightest, end it. If she presses you for knowledge, end it. What is your goal? My goal has two points: attain real abundance and start something just to end it to prove (to myself) I can break oneitis. Worst case scenario, you knock up the plate I'm snipped, but that wouldn't stop an accusation. I'm more worried about catching and STD and giving it to my wife (which is very much the reas…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 07:50 PM
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But are you trying to plate her for when you ditch wife, Nope. I don't expect it to last that long or I'll be in another case of oneitis. or what? There are some things my wife has overtly told me she doesn't want to do (with me, right now, whatever...). Namely, look hot, go to shows, be social, dance, and fuck, maybe not in that order. She can make that choice for herself but not for me. I want to spend some time with someone who will do those things. This girl will do those things (with me, ri…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 07:39 PM
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Just reading this I see the train wreck coming. I think it was when I got to the "partner in crime" part. It should be just fucking or you'll fuck it up. Noted. The "PIC" element would probably be more applicable for another married woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 07:29 PM
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I appreciate your perspective and your advice. The grass is greenest where you water it. If, after a year of applying MRP to your life your wife is still low-value, then by all means divorce her and spin plates. I'm exactly at the 1 month MRP / year of relationship threshold. I'm mentally prepared for divorce, but not financially or logistically. I have a plan to get my wife re-employed once my kids are into full-time school. I'm still watering the grass at home, but playing with that metaphor, …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 07:27 PM
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LOL! topless making out not leading to sex- sounds like you're in high school! I think you mean Junior High... I knew everyone would latch onto that. There's no denying that my experience lacks breadth. At the risk of DEERing, when we initially got started at the bar and escalated outside, she'd had a couple drinks and was ready to go. Sex didn't happen that night because she lives in a studio and had a friend staying over after their GNO. When we met up alone the next afternoon (sober), I had a…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 07:12 PM
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Nice post, and great analysis. I really like the absence of any dickhead moves and it seems like you effectively employed your FO for mutual benefit. I haven't moved since implementing my RP lifestyle, but prior to that, some of my best and worst moments of family leadership happened when moving.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 06:57 PM
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You are literally waiting until the day of your exit plan like Christmas will finally come Thanks for the feedback. That's a great analogy and exactly describes my mindset. Continuing that, in my early childhood, Christmas morning was awesome and always blew my mind. But later, as I got older and developed expectations (probably as I became exposed to advertising...) I distinctly remember being disappointed most christmas mornings. I've not yet made the comparison to Christmas, but I have remind…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 04:10 PM
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at a minimum embrace the suck with passion. That's why it's in SINO... I'm embracing the suck, because I have to, but not because I want to directly so I'm not passionate about it. I've typed out some examples but then I deleted them because when I read it back it sounds like whining about adult responsibilities. Fuck it; here are a couple things I got ruffled about last week: I can choose to be uptight and stressed out trying to prevent the kids from making a hell-mess of the house or yard on t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 11:36 PM
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The nod - I nod down at people as a way of greeting, I keep feeling that I shouldn't do that. Change it to nodding up then down instead down then up. AKA The Bro Nod Make sure you're holding eye contact when you do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 05:50 PM
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OYS 7/19/2016 Shit I'm owning Style, diet, work, finances, hobbies, parenting are all on point. Had to prioritize sleep over socialization this week due to work surge, but I'm still owning it. Lifting Exactly one year ago Sunday, I lifted a barbell for the first time. Last Saturday, I completed my eighth cycle of 5/3/1 BBB and decided it's time to change things up. I've been progressing slowly in strength, and aesthetically I look pretty good, but when I admire myself after the strength sets vs …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 12:38 AM
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Another issue I face is a little anxiety before delivering the A&A: "Would she smile at me?" "Would she laugh?" or "Would she shit test me more?". Lots of work needed here I'm going to assume that since this phrase is in the shit you aren't owning that you've identified this as a problem. But just in case you're struggling with "why", here's what jumped out at me: Caring, predicting, or wondering about what reaction your conversation partner will have to your delivery of A&A or AM is definitivel…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 02:39 PM
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"Craft Cupcakes" are a thing these days. I've never liked cake, even when I loved all sorts of other kinds of sugary treats. I've gotten my wife and kids single cupcakes for their birthdays for years.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 09:25 PM
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[FR2] I exhausted my to-do list on Saturday. I had the choice of binge-watching some Netflix with my wife or seeing the other band, so I went out again, still a little high on how well the previous night had gone. I pretty much repeated the previous night’s routine: kids in bed, lift, invite wife to shower, get dressed, head out. When I got to the bar, I did the same routine as the previous night, introducing myself to anyone I recognized. This time, it was a lot of the same people and they reme…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 06:16 PM
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[FR 1] There were two bands I’ve not seen but wanted to playing Friday and Saturday night at my favorite country bar. I was on the fence about going out back to back nights so I chose the Friday night. I put the kids to bed then hit the iron for about an hour to A- burn some time so I could be at the venue during the prime 10:30-1 portion of the night, and B- get a little swole so my arms and shoulders looked better. I invited the wife to shower with me after lifting, but Netflix was on and she …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 06:14 PM
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Own Your Shit 7-12-2016 Shit I’m owning Lifting, Diet, Fitness, Style, Work, Finances, Parenting, the Ship Shit I’m owning better than last week Social Life and Away Game A few times now, some of you guys have given me the advice to build some social capital in the music / bar scene beyond just running some game on random hotties. I’ve been thinking about this and realized that even though I was in a crowd, I was indeed operating in a vacuum and only focusing on myself and acquiring targets. I h…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 06:11 PM
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Went to a bar with live music, and as 2guns had indicated this type of venue seems to make approaching easier (because there is a focal point (band) to key off of….). Chatted up several nice gals. One of my problems is I am intimidated by large (>2) groups of people relative to breaking in…. Need to work on that. Nice work. Big groups are kind of tough to break into. You can always just be that random talkative guy to open, but the group will usually just chuckle, acknowledge you, then go back t…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 08:15 PM
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According to this article, it looks like 5 sets of 10 at 70% of your 1RM, or 6x6 @ 80%, twice per week per muscle group is recommended for those of us prioritizing muscle size over pure strength. In your experience, are those numbers an appropriate quantification of what you meant by "Stay high weight and do high volume"?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 12:48 AM
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but she just doesn't know how to fix herself...therapy... She been saying she will for over 2 years but hasn't ever gone. Watch actions not words, man... She knows what to do, she just doesn't want to do it enough to pull the trigger. Our plan is to re-assess next June and see where we are Does she know about the plan (ie. is it your plan or you and her plan)? Worse, did she suggest this plan? It really sounds like you think you owe her something and you can "save-a-hoe" (caretaking, per NMMNG).…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/16 06:20 PM
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Shit I’m owning Lifting, Diet, Fitness, Style, Work, Finances, Parenting Shit I’m owning better than last week Social Life- threw a July-4th BBQ. AMOG’d the shit out of it with fireworks, grilling, mixing cocktails, firepit music, and flirting with wife’s friends and one of their moms. Hobbies- Activity is a little sparser than I want it to be but a surge at work is consuming most of my bandwidth lately. Shit I’m not owning Game Besides the BBQ flirting, I didn’t put myself in a position to acti…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 06:23 PM
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I am likely not owning my share of chores around the house - wife finds something wrong with my execution all the time. I don't know if this is frame or "not owning shit" or some combination. Crack open WISNIFG and read literally the first line of the inside cover: "You have the right to judge your own behavior (etc., etc.)". In your opinion, was the task executed correctly? Yes? Then fuck her couch; hens gonna peck. Regardless, I will attempt to be flawless. An admirable goal, but make sure you…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 02:17 PM
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Dominoes Pizza essentially went MRP on themselves. They introspectively admitted their product wasn't something anyone wanted to buy so they invested in themselves to get better.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 02:33 PM
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I had some reversal of progress, at least in my mind. I was getting frustrated that "everyone", but in particular my wife, wasn't responding with the effort I "deserved". Textbook covert contract. Returning the focus to myself in the latest couple weeks has helped get me back to not being butthurt about everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 02:05 PM
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I think you mean your not spending energy trying to sense what other people are thinking in response to you. That's exactly what I mean. I often feel like I've got a fucking loudspeaker blaring in my head with a non-stop feed of what other people are thinking. Yep, me too. I knew I was doing this, living in everyone's frame but mine, and overanalyzing nearly every situation. Is this something you came up with on your own I came up with this on my own. For a while as I was progressing earlier in …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 02:49 PM
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Shit I own Lifting- This week I surpassed all my previous weight maxes before the last reset on 5/3/1-BBB Diet / Fitness- 8 week mini-bulk is on track @ .5# per week. Style- Picked up some boat shoes and chino shorts, tossed all my cargos. Had to wear work shirts for a dirty project at work this and last week. I haven't worn them in over a year. I did the military tuck and rolled the sleeves. Caught the receptionist checking me out. Work- Crushing the prototype assembly phase of my current proje…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 01:00 AM
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Solid info. Thanks!
/r/askMRP28/06/16 02:09 PM
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So far, it's right up my alley in describing humans as determinate, engineered systems with a finite bandwidth for processing. I'm only a couple chapters in.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 12:22 AM
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I don't mind the fur on the parts that aren't my back, butt, and balls. If I do end up shaving it, it'll be to see my muscle definition, not directly to impress the ladies. Sometimes I get a little gay for myself when I gaze at my swole ripples after a good press and chinup session. I should have made my questions a bit more separated. That said, regarding the looks vs. game balance, I'll make an analogy: In my professional life and hobbies, I make a point to buy and use the very best tools avai…
/r/askMRP27/06/16 10:39 PM
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I (well, my wife) already use the Wahl clippers that I use on my dog. I might give one of those razor holders a try though.
/r/askMRP27/06/16 08:47 PM
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Chest hair is all good. I probably won't get rid of that. But I bet even that guy does something about his back hair.
/r/askMRP27/06/16 08:46 PM
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what did you do before her?? Nothing. 4 times in HS, I shaved my whole body for the state swim meet (and itched like hell for 2 weeks after). Those times, one of the girls from the team did my back. The rest of the time I was hairy. Then I started dating my wife and she did it.
/r/askMRP27/06/16 04:18 PM
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Not to validate your VP, but I feel you bro. (except for the giving up part; fuck that.) I had to do a mental reset over the last ~2 weeks after realizing that even after a year, I was still looking to my wife for validation of my improvements. I was lying to myself by saying I was gauging her response as "calibration", but that was bullshit- I was in her frame. Despite recognizing the existence of that massive covert contract, I was still holding it. Get that hobby. Then find another one. Focus…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/16 02:40 PM
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Cool... You know, after filtering the party-line bullshit, there's actually a couple useful observations and feedback in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 07:32 PM
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I'm very submissive and I never, ever initiate... he would like me to be aggressive and reach into his pants, which is something I just never do. I, on the other hand would like him to tease me and build up tension until I beg for it. You're so submissive you can't bring yourself to every now and then do the one thing you know he likes but instead you make him do all the work? Please... In the powertalk of WMP, you do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 11:55 PM
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the woman you thought you married, was never there in the first place
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 11:48 PM
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Did she become like this before or after kids? I think you mean "Did I become like this after kids?" The answer is yes. If you read my first post ever on MRP, you'll see that even though I was never super-alpha with the ladies, I had a pretty rad life. I dropped everything and became a damn boring as soon as our first kid was born "because that's what you do". I recognized it and am in the process of restoring myself. Now to answer your question directly, Yes; my wife also became like this after…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 11:46 PM
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I used to do this often times back when I needed to show it, but was not happening organically. Thanks. I think the basic plan is still pretty solid and I'm going to use it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 11:41 PM
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Expecting her to lead on the enthusiasm isn't realistic imo I quoted you in this week's OYS, but responding here for posterity. I don't expect her to LEAD the enthusiasm, but I do expect her to reflect mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 11:40 PM
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This is tons of effort Nah, not tons of effort. I was going to this show anyway. I'd already scoped the restaurant. The only thing extra I did was direct her to book the sitter and deal with the pre-logistics.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 11:38 PM
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Maybe your instincts are calibrated correctly - and you were headed for perfunctory sex In the entirety of my memory (which is both precise and accurate), any time she didn't get handsy with the first few kisses ended up as mediocre or just above starfish. She'll "warm up" with her wetness but not with her enthusiasm. I like your on-date moves. I'm going to use those.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 11:35 PM
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thats a good thing, than this is just a problem to solve Ha! I normally solve problems with math and spreadsheets... Are you saying I should go back to that...? /s
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 10:27 PM
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Shit I’m owning Lifting Tried the tips from a couple weeks ago to engage my pecs on BP. It works, I was able to add 5# to my 5x10 volume sets (now at 140). Pecs are getting sore, before they weren’t. Diet, Fitness Ate at maintenance for 4 weeks, stabilized at 188# @ 12.5% BF. Starting an 8 week mini bulk at +300 cal per day. Style, Work, Finances Got a fat bonus at work last week. I didn’t tell my wife; she’ll see it when it hits our account. Reading Thinking, Fast and Slow (at home), Rational M…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 10:17 PM
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Thought a little more about this. Nothing helps establish a submissive, pleasant wife like A good hard dicking For the last year, up until about 6 weeks ago, I was more-or-less compulsively initiating every day and both the quantity and quality of sex was increasing (as indicated by the spreadsheet I used to keep...). I decided I was tired of forcing my will without any reflected investment. Given that I was feeling like I made some progress back then, maybe I ought to revert to that mode. they …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/16 10:48 PM
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Thanks for the feedback, uh, Tiger. (edit) Honestly, you posted a FR about a couple having a good time Good. It's eventually my goal to have this kind of thing be so typical for me that it's not worthy of a FR. (end edit) not sure if making her do chores beforehand is the way to do it. I should have clarified, but it would have been more about "her". She took it on herself to clean up for the sitter, the same way she does before the actual house cleaner comes. I was busy doing other things, spec…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/16 10:36 PM
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Well, does she like the power enough to leave? Maybe. She's pretty stubborn. But I doubt she'd take the initiative to do it on her own without hamstering up some other "reason" to make it my fault. I don't withold information on anything other than funtime, no-risk surprises. OK, there was that one time I bought a truck, but in reality, I drove her past the dealership, pointed to the one I was going to buy, and told her I was going to buy it that week, just not which day. Now do I want that powe…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/16 12:16 AM
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I've yet to see a girl initiate divorce because she was surprised with dinner reservations. It's never really about the dishes... In my case, (as my wife overtly stated during our potential main event), it's about power. She doesn't like that I won't give her information when she demands it. At the time, my frame and abundance mentality was strong enough to not lose ground, but not strong enough to expand that boundary into new territory, so I've treated it like the DMZ for the past 6 months. So…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/16 11:32 PM
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Someday, I will do that. My wife is on board with this plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/16 11:02 PM
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Yeah, she usually unloads her stories of their shenanigans, but for the relative amount of time she spends with them, I think they're probably pretty well behaved. This takes into account that the situations she's in with them are almost entirely kid-centric with other mommies and little kids. (edit) If you're hinting that they might be acting out because they sense a power struggle, I suspect that too. I know kids behave better when they're on a consistent schedule, and their weekdays are exact…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/16 11:01 PM
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Thanks for your response, /u/PurpleVeteran Still, we're not at a point where we compete over completing chores. That sounds either passive aggressive or a covert contract, or both. I should clarify: I'm not looking for things I can do so I can stay even (I'm not keeping score), I'm looking for things to do so I can stay busy. She's started doing the things I used to do which frees up my bandwidth to do more strategic projects rather than the tactical shit. The vibe I get from her is that she's n…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/16 12:55 AM
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empty it out into the grass and replace with water in the same bottle. Are you advocating alcohol abuse? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gUDsQJxBRco
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 08:52 PM
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That I've come across before. http://i.imgur.com/9Nz2hG8.jpg?fb
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 08:03 PM
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I did some actual "live streaming" Reminds me of this guy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50FGrabuFoA
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 05:07 PM
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You think MRP is hard? Shit, parenting is 500000000 times harder. We're Men; we do hard things.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 03:37 PM
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The thing that I found most helpful was always focusing on what behaviors were reasonable given the developmental stage of the child. That way I'd know if they should know and be doing better Got a recommendation for a book or reference where I can learn about that?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/16 07:30 PM
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No, I got your point. I didn't call it pity, but after thinking over the week about all this shit I puked, I reached that conclusion too. It was buried, but in my OP I did say Why the fuck would a wife be attracted to a man weak enough to be pissed off by his kids? My problem is identified, now I need to solve it. I'm starting with #7 on /u/il-est-ressuscite comment on how to parent.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/16 06:32 PM
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you've managed to hamster a whole orchestra of reasons of why you didnt manage to find a social group. I sure did. Here's what I'm doing about it: Continuing to scour the offerings for something that fits as is Assessing my current commitments for things I can rearrange and accommodate the new actvities. Considering starting and leading a group that meets my requirements. I want you to know, that this week I have made it a personal goal to respond to every single OYS post. I broke frame, entered…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/16 06:15 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I thought about some stuff last night. I’ve made my preferences explicitly clear Have you though? I find your terms like "self care" and "personal presentation" to be coy. When I say "Self Care", I specifically mean showering, brushing hair and teeth, changing underwear daily. Basic personal hygiene stuff. The words I said to my wife were: "Wife, I like that you work out, but I think it's gross that you only shower every few days." The example I set is to shower and groo…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/16 05:49 PM
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Lifting, Diet, Fitness, Style Work, Finances Owned. Shit I’m not owning Leading My Wife I’m working to transition from Phase 2 (operate in parallel frames) to phase 3 (pull wife into my frame). There’s been a noticeable increase in the amount of household chores she’s did this week. I’m showing my approval by spending a little time listening to her tell me about stuff she did subtly commenting that “the house looks good” or other general praise rather than “Thanks for folding the towels.” This i…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 11:39 PM
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run a risk of blowing shit up before I am ready Now I'm curious. What will make you ready? Finances, wife stable in a job, kids older, haven't talked to a lawyer yet...?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 05:50 PM
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I still want my wife to desire me for who I am with no RP techniques applied. I know how stupid this is but I still feel bad for RP to work on my wife. I've felt this too and after drilling down, what I really want is for the techniques to no longer be techniques but be part of me and how I naturally operate. When I stopped thinking of the techniques as tricks and accepted that they are the way of things, the focus returned to myself and my quest to internalize the thoughts and behaviors of a na…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 03:47 PM
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Nope, but I just ordered it. Thanks for the tip!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/16 09:58 PM
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/u/stonepimpletilists said: Personal gains are the goal, the rest will fall into place, or fall away... Let's ignore your first paragraph and any other reference to your wife or marriage because, like he also said, using your marriage as the measuring stick is worthless. Let's say you're trying to target and address something he's identified as one of your weaknesses in context of social interactions; spending the time in your own head. You said: I have realized my biggest flaw is that I have be…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/16 08:26 PM
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Nice. Wendler's advice on BP technique in the 531 book says to imagine you're trying to bend the bar into an inverted U, but that never really clicked for me- I always ended up pushing the bar in a not-straight path. Your version is easier to visualize. I'll give it a try tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/16 03:33 PM
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But your left hand... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tx3wDTzqDTs
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 05:25 PM
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Thanks. So I'm doing 5/3/1 BBB (less boring). I already do 5x10 flat bench and 5x10 incline press, both @ 70% of my TM following the heavy sets on OHP strength day. On BP strength day, I follow the heavy sets with 5x10 OHP and skull crushers, both at 70%. My tris get plenty of work but my pecs hardly get any direct stimulation. If you saw me shirtless, you'd agree. My sticking point is just getting the bar off my chest, before the tris really start to engage. I'm gonna do the 5x10 flys for a mon…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 09:45 PM
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I think you oughta just pick one of those bar chicks and bang her, get rid of the fomo I'm heading this direction. I keep hamstering reasons why I haven't already like "I don't have logistics worked out" and "I don't want to pick up an STD".
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 03:59 PM
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Consider the fact that they may be faking an emotional response to your punishment while not actually GAF. This is the current obstacle.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 03:56 PM
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I definitely keep my trap shut. Every once in a while, one of my work bros and I will have a conversation that skirts some RP topics, but that's about it. Or, I guess I could just try to bang his wife...
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 03:54 PM
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Ideally, she should be the one feeling the dread of leaving me alone at home, with a 23 year old HB8 neighbour who I am sure hears me playing guitar across the wall. Your hot neighbor doesn't give a fuck that you shred in your bedroom, Yngwie. If you crushed a set on stage in front of a packed venue, she might be interested in the status boost she would get by associating herself with you and wicking your social proof at that time and place. Women don't care what you can do, they only care what …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 03:37 PM
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If yes, are there any reading materials you would suggest me to use this anger and fuel self improvement through it? You should read the numbers on the plates at the gym as you load them onto your barbell.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 03:24 PM
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Second that. I was going to highlight a couple items, but you've done a lot this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 11:29 PM
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Lifting Owned. According to this article https://www.t-nation.com/training/know-your-ratios-destroy-weaknesses, my bench is subpar. The mirror confirms this. Adding 50 reps of DB flys to BP day. Diet and Fitness Owned. 6’3, 188 lbs @ 12.5% (BI scale). I drank a lot of booze this weekend, but I planned for it, calorie wise. I thoroughly enjoyed that bourbon, but I still had some guilt that those calories weren’t building or nourishing my muscles… Eating at maintenance for 2 more weeks. Style Owne…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 11:12 PM
3

Are you an engineer? How can you tell if an engineer is an Extrovert? He looks at YOUR shoes when he talks.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 08:41 PM
1

Addiction to the feeling of accomplishment. It is honestly not enough to say "I earned the right to sit here while this guy does my deck" It does not feel right to him...(us? /them?). I'm one of these guys. This is about half of it. Another part of it is that I fancy myself a Renaissance man with just a little more than basic competence in a very broad spectrum of skills. The adventure of learning is of more value than the checked "done" box. The other thing is the mindfulness of choice when it …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 04:59 PM
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Fucked 11 times on our first date. Was your first date a week-long camping trip?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 11:50 PM
1

Here's a related article on how your different lifts should relate to each other in order to achieve balanced strength development: https://www.t-nation.com/training/know-your-ratios-destroy-weaknesses
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 09:57 PM
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Lol. Math help ya understand it? No, but it helps me describe it. I'm just pointing out that the thirst is real. Real obvious. Thanks for the feedback. That's why I like OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 07:11 PM
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Your FOMO is driving the bus. Fact. It's like a oscillation from Oneitis. Healthy abundance mentality with emotionally present enjoyment of current partner is what I envision as the neutral position but I'm struggling to find a way to reach that point on a critically damped curve.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 06:47 PM
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massive incongruence... If your gonna pull this off as as married man, you need to be alpha as fuck. Yep. For sure I'm not there, but I'm getting closer every day.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 06:31 PM
1

how to determine what and address these frontal lobe blockages... a lack of general trust in you and your leadership is one possible candidate? Logically and factually, I really have never led us into a situation where we had to struggle to be comfortable or meet basic needs. If anything, my "leadership" has been too conservative and safe. But if her feelz tell her she's unhappy, it's obviously my fault (and my leadership) that put her in that situation; like when I enabled, encouraged, and agre…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 05:40 PM
2

Buy and read Starting Strength. Don't hurt yourself. Do whatever program you want, but learn how to lift the right way.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 11:47 PM
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Maybe so. If I see her around again I might reconnect. I was taking the "Polarize early and often" type of approach. It's possible I just came on too strong. She might have been socially polite but weirded out by my ring. She was never bitchy, just skittish. Reasons don't really matter; each encounter is an experience. In this particular experience, I was definitely the one chasing.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 08:20 PM
2

My bioimpedance scale reads my BF about .5% different before and after a nice healthy dump.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 07:07 PM
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Did you get the definition of the phases from a post Here and here. Just like the Dread steps, having the "end condition" of the next phase in mind has helped me take the appropriate actions and look for the appropriate response at the current point in the process.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 04:21 PM
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You said the fun and interest-having of your dates: only verified what I feel is most missing from my wife It sounds like you had already determined that your wife is not reflecting your social energy. I assumed that behavior would be something you wanted now that you've verified other women will do it. If you already expected that though, I guess you didn't have to adjust anything. It seems like I'm projecting. I thought I wanted "sex and femininity", but I really want "positive energy and pass…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 03:41 PM
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Game Interesting week… [FR1] After talking with /u/Perseaus about “proving I can do better”, I thought a lot about how my wife has done nothing to me that would make me want revenge but I’m angrily disappointed in myself for the years of complacency and plain laziness when it came to skirtchasing. Since my N=1, I’ve also got this feeling of missing out that I either need to just forget about or take action against. I don’t want to prove I can do better, I want to just prove to myself that I can …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 09:02 PM
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*Lifting * Owned. Forearms are looking skinny so I bought some Fat Gripz and started using them on the pulling lifts (I usually have to take them off for the heavy set). Diet and Fitness Owned. 6’3, 186 lbs @ 12% (BI scale). Muscles are starting to puff back up now that I’m eating more. If I were tan and less hairy, I’d have a pretty solid beach body. I manually held up the piñata at my kid’s party and someone said “Jeez, look at your arms!” Eating at maintenance for 4 weeks. Style Owned. Just t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 09:02 PM
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It helped break through the mental barrier that I was that "weak nerdy kid" from school days Fuck yeah. Everyone's doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 04:28 PM
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have you found that you've adjusted your benchmark for her to meet? No, wife is hotter than any of the three women I fucked. She is pretty fuckin hot IMO…..asian thing and all…. Meredith (really fun, like the same things as me, laughing all the time) Ignoring looks for a second, what you've described is exactly what I've experienced with the women I game IRL. They're fun, flirty, energetic, and (seem to be) interested in what I'm into- basically the opposite of how my wife acts. Would those trai…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 04:01 PM
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Great FR. I'm really glad you made this a full post instead of burying it in OYS. in the words of WMP > if you think you can do better, prove it faggot... In hindsight my egos objectives were validation seeking and anger management. Regardless of your objectives, I can't think of another way to actually prove your SMV to yourself other than getting some strange. But like you figured out, what good does proving it do, really? And you even recognized that you weren't all-in, so was the strange you…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 10:22 PM
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It symbolizes my commitment to improving myself, my MAP Interesting. I actually have exactly the same mindset but every time I take my ring OFF to lift, I remind myself that the MAP is for ME, not her, not our marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 09:34 PM
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The SL App can export the data to a spreadsheet? Uh wow, I totally didnt know this. Careful, spreadsheets are a slippery slope...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 09:22 PM
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I'll play! I was a state champion swimmer all four years in highschool and I had pretty massive lats and triceps, but not much else. During college and after, I was into DH mountain biking and rode dirtbikes. Although I never did any exercise for the sake of exercise, I was generally very active until my first kid was born, about 5 years ago. I’d run a 5-10k with friends with no prep. The only “training” I ever did was for a half-marathon with the wife (one of her pre-children bucket list items)…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 09:14 PM
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This paragraph: Can I live with it if this is as good as it gets? I'm agonizing over it. I'm unhappy, and there's no other area of my life where I would remotely consider just settling for mediocre. I believe you only get one chance at life, and I could never just give up on happiness. is almost exactly what I've been simmering on for the past week, except I would describe it as "unsatisfied" instead of "unhappy". Somewhere, there's a point where "leading" becomes "pulling". I'm following your p…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 04:10 PM
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Oh I forget, some of you are annotating experiment results. Sample group (B) entry: "Forceful vocal intonation of 'lick my balls' yields unenthusiastic compliance by subject X - RESULTS INCONCLUSIVE" Guilty. (hangs head in shame)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 06:24 PM
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isn't that the unintended potential end game of dread? I don't think of divorce as an unintended potential result, I think of it as one of the two equally weighted possible outcomes. I'm mentally prepared and becoming increasingly practically prepared. What I am pondering is if I've really given them equal weight, or have I already decided somewhere in the background of my mind that divorce IS the goal and I just haven't admitted that to myself because "process". Am I just stalling until my wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 04:57 PM
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You're in analysis paralysis. Snap out of the fucking "poor me" apathetic low confidence mentality. Clearly things aren't going to get worse for you so let them simmer. Get your ass in the gym (barbell, dumb bell, whatever the fuck, just DO something). When you're not lifting SOMETHING, go for a damn run. If you're too stressed to sleep right, exhaust yourself with activity. Do you drink? Stop it. Not forever, but do it for a month to prove to yourself that you can stop a escapist habit. Start y…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 04:08 PM
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Discordant as compared to your clinically precise narratives. Point taken. Edit: After thinking about this for a few more minutes, I used to put exactly this much detail into retro-analysis of game attempts on my wife. When I stopped the sexual score keeping a few weeks ago, I also stopped journaling about the details of the pre-game. Writing a stream of consciousness brain dump about a single night out where I'm intentionally applying specific tactics and observing the response while in a very …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 10:15 PM
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Does the amount of time and attention you gave to the "game" part of this report answer your question about self-fulfilling prophecy? I thought this to myself. The thing is, I use a mixture of the same moves on my wife (without the get-to-know-you questions of course) literally every day. As /u/jacktenofhearts so eloquently put it in this comment string, my wife is the proverbial Poindexter of girl game and it's unlikely she'll magically develop flirting skills after not having them to start wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 08:58 PM
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Did this girl ever find out you're married? I wear my ring and don't hide my hands in pockets or behind my drink, but "Hey, I'm married!" isn't my opener. This girl didn't, but if they ask, I answer with "Of course." or "Yeah, but I'm trying to cut down to 2 girlfriends...that she knows about." In the past (~10 times now), that's been the end of that line of questioning and the girls stuck around for more kino, conversation, and still gave me their number. EDIT: In fact, besides this girl, the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 08:24 PM
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you aren't getting attention from other women because she is a 'mom' now but rather because you find people who are passionate, motivated, and in shape to be worth your time. From there she can see that she needs to not just be mom but must also take care of her body, try, and remain a motivated individual who creates value by your side - then you reward that with your 'love' - time and attention. Holy shit. Best comment I've read in a long time. This just made so many things click in my head. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 07:06 PM
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Shouldn't her natural inclination to provide and care for them It is. In fact, her natural inclination is to secure provisioning and care for her kids with as little of her own exertion as possible. So having a needy husband enervating her is actually worse than no husband present. As a man and (maybe) the father of her kids in modern marriage, your presence is irrelevant to her ability to receive provisioning from you. For her to consider you valuable, you need to be the source of something the…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 06:22 PM
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Lifting, Style, Work, Finances All Owned. Diet and Fitness Owned. 6’3, 184 lbs @ 11.7% (BI scale). Abs are blurry but visible. Increasing calorie intake to maintenance for 4 weeks. Parenting Implementing concepts from ScreamFree Parenting. Recognizing when I project my own anxiety onto my kids. Latest challenge is bringing my older son into my frame (of respectful treatment of other adults) after he blatantly acts like a shithead. I’m having difficulty NGAF about their judgement when other paren…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 05:07 PM
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Wifey keeps getting back that she reads into forums where it says once a week sex is all is required for healthy married life Bust out this Office Space quote for some A&A to that: https://vimeo.com/102830089
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 04:48 PM
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Like many have said, it's true that we should "just not argue with women". Especially for those of us in phase 1 and 2, this is sometimes easier said than done. For me, even when I do brush off an invitation to argue, or when I'm considering some input my wife has "given" for a decision I want to make, I still find myself admitting (internally) that her opinion might be founded on fact. I found value in this post (and the comment that inspired it) because frequently, in the aftermath of a shit t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/16 03:52 PM
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By old I assumed pre phone in every pocket era. Phones don't work without time They don't? What kind of phone do you have? Is that a good phone? I'm thinking about getting a new phone but I'm just not sure what kind to get. Mine keeps losing time and ringing when I wish it would just vibrate. I've been looking at the ipod nano; is that what you have? Do the calls sound nice and clear? I bet if I got one it could help me find a new laptop, or a pet shop. I've also thinking about getting a cat. No…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/16 08:02 PM
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my (your) wife doesn't think you have options. That's the symptom for which I'm hypothesizing a root cause.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/16 03:40 PM
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/u/ReddJive, you've been making some good posts lately. This concept of reasonable vs. logical arguments is something that a lot of us struggle to separate, especially during the times we are trying to establish our frame as the leader even though it seems like our wives are making good points in the exchange. Please consider expanding this comment into a separate post so it doesn't get buried here and forgotten.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/16 06:18 PM
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In other words, consider that what you think may be positive secondary selection from other women is not actually positive and your wife sees it. Will you please elaborate on this? Maybe it's worthy of a separate post. In my mind I'm struggling to achieve positive secondary selection that's visible to my wife. I think I get tons of positive IOI from other women (and my approach practice confirms this to a degree), but the behavior I observe from my wife isn't proportional. My hypothesis is this:…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/16 05:55 PM
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Some of the guys wanted to play Call of Duty, so I indulged. It's important to foster "bro time". Even if the activity isn't something directly value-adding, it's really just the vehicle for the social exchange. Quality Bro Time usually revolves around doing something else, often a task where you can all contribute toward a common goal. Don't beat yourself up that you guys happened to play some video game instead of discussing greek literature or building a school. Maybe next time you can guide …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/16 03:46 PM
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inb4 TFA says "You do you"
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/16 11:12 PM
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As an introvert, social gatherings suck my energy, and two long social events in a day is all it takes for me to slump down to basically shooting one liners once in a while rather than actively driving the conversation in group. Sounds like you've identified a red area of your MAP. Get to work!
/r/askMRP11/05/16 11:00 PM
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How are you measuring if you're energizing vs enervating with others besides your wife too? Good question. The engineer-haters should stop reading now. Because the energy reflected by my counterpart in a particular social interaction isn't really quantifiable on an analog scale, I make a qualitative assessment of his/her positive, negative, or neutral response to my input and how much further input it takes on my part to achieve participation on their part. For example, here's a common input of …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/16 08:52 PM
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I am curious in the chicken/egg of this fail. Was she just leading because she's like that or some Mother's day thing, or did you trigger her first with your no fun lets get this over vibe? I had a lot of time to think about this as I hiked in silence. I definitely triggered it, but not right away. I was Mr. Fun for the drive out and the first 100 ft of trail. But this 100 ft of trail was through a berry patch. All the low fruit was picked over and after eating a couple berries and giving some t…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/16 12:06 AM
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Lifting Owned. Making rep PRs 4 days per week on 5/3/1 BBB. Lately I’ve been daydreaming about lifting and I find myself wishing I were lifting instead of doing the other ship tasks at home. Current compound (actual) maxes are: Squat = 270, DL = 325, BP = 200, OHP = 130 Diet and Fitness Owned. 6’3, 185 lbs @ 11.8% (BI scale). Abs are popping right after my workout, but they soon fade away. Even though I have some clear muscle definition, there’s no arguing the fact that I just look skinny. The u…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 07:58 PM
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I am not getting this and feel cheated. Oh man, I have had some weird ones. The strangest was a lucid, first person, interactive experience with the animated characters of "Busytown". I literally woke up, looked around, and said "What the fuck?"
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 04:42 PM
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Airport was not very crowded; but made it my mission to talk to every alone HB5+ woman I could find. Went well, lots of good stories and no “get the fuck out of here” vibes Right?! They WANT to be chatted up! Are you opening pairs of women yet? That's when they start competing with each other for your attention. I fucking love approaching in airports.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 04:02 PM
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Did you ever have same issue? Is that what you did? Yes to both. Obviously this isn't applicable at your neighborhood pup or kid's PTA meeting. But cross-town bars, concerts, airports, busy urban areas are all low-risk, target-rich environments.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 11:19 PM
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When you fogged my question then followed up with negative inquiry, I realized that I had worded it in a way that could lead you to expect a singular and predictable outcome. When you change yourself, your relationship will change in response, but your contribution is only half the input so the character of the relationship can go either way. ITT you've been rejecting any advice that leans toward nexting your lady, but know that the only part of your current relationship that is fully in your co…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 08:52 PM
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You didn't mention a MAP or any way you've changed yourself to that might affect the status quo in your relationship. Where do you think she might be picking up unintentional dread? Phone snooping after you overtly defined a boundary sounds like disrespect, not comfort seeking behavior. edit: reworded the first sentence to redirect the intent of his personal change.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 07:55 PM
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if we are around each other I would rather her be pleasant than unpleasant There's a club for guys like that. It's called "Everyone" and we meet at the bar. The part of that equation YOU control is "when we are around eachother". If she chooses not to be pleasant, you choose not to be around her.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 07:43 PM
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She gets a fucking attitude is a woman FTFY. she doesn't trust me, like at all. Because I would consider her out of my league Well there's your problem. Be the prize. You need to be out of HER league. None of this shit will improve until you do. Do you even sidebar bro? Not just reading, but actually absorbing it? Remember, no mater how much lifting, dressing up, and holding frame you do, you don't make her choices or take her actions; she does. I just txtd her and said, "Just stop with the not …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 06:36 PM
1

How do you get over the anxiety of opening? Realize that it's almost a zero possibility of ever seeing that woman again and just go for it. Make the rejection your goal. After a few times of this, you'll actually be disappointed (and surprised) how hard it is to get flat out rejected by attractive women.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 04:46 PM
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That is some borderline serious drinking . Unless your snorting coke too , I will kiss your ass if you can get anywhere near 10% BF with that much alcohol ...not to mention late night snacks Here's an interesting article about alcohol's effect on teh gainz. Not that you should GAF about another internet stranger's opinion, but my experience agrees with /u/Persaeus; that much booze on the regular and BF<10% are mutually exclusive. Especially if those drinks are beer.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 04:19 PM
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For the record, me keeping a clean house has NOT inspired my wife to clean the house (at least in the year now that I've been paying attention). But IDGAF because I'm the one who wants the clean house, I make it so, and that makes me happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 04:01 PM
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Women don't poop, at least that's what I've decided to believe. Except those two chicks with that cup... Also, some folks just don't pay attention to the, uh, fallout. There are some dudes at work who will absolutely wreck our bathroom and walk out whistling. Then there are other's who can't execute if there's someone else in the room (with 5 stalls...). Like /u/irateMD said, You're missing a chance to have fun with your wife. especially since you have young kids. All kids think poop and fart jo…
/r/askMRP06/05/16 04:04 PM
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"Oh you want a dog? Cool. I want a girlfriend divorce! Lets get both!"
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 04:58 PM
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Delete your FB account. Problem solved.
/r/askMRP05/05/16 04:28 PM
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I do wish there was a decent 5/3/1 app like there is for 5x5. Yes. I completely agree. I tried 3 or 4 apps that claim to be for 5/3/1 and they all just suck. Now I just use a stopwatch and hard copy of the Black Iron Beast printout and it works great.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 03:55 PM
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About the shit tests the day after enthusiastic sex, I saw that too. I used to get pissed off by that, thinking "WTF. I thought things were turning around, and now it feels like I'm back to square one." I'm actually intrigued by the shit-tests because they mean some engagement other than indifference. Recognizing and laughing them off to myself is easy (AM, sort of), but I agree that I need to make them more fun (for me) by using A&A.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 03:53 PM
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Inspiration post here
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 03:38 PM
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Did you wait until progress stalled on 5x5 before you switched to 5/3/1/BBB? I didn't run it out into the tails. I reset once each on OHP, BP, and squat, never on Pendlay row and DL. It's highly probable that I had lots of linear progress left if I had gone to 3x5 then 3x3. But my aesthetically weak areas have always been my arms, chest, and shoulders and SL5x5 just wasn't meeting my desire to get big in that way. I also wasn't recovering from 3 heavy squat sessions per week, even with strict fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 10:48 PM
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The assistance sets in Wendler's 5/3/1 Boring But Big pump me up pretty good. The interweb seems to agree that it builds size effectively. I've found that the pump holds for a day or so once you can do the 5x10 sets @ 70% of your training max. Also I'm on a cut. I can't wait to see what happens when I do this on a bulk. If you're too cheap to buy the book, I found this.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 09:21 PM
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boy scouts ... that for most kids who had a parent there, it was the mother What the actual fuck? Where are these kids' dads? Are these moms single, self-aware, and trying to get some masculine experiences for their sons? Maybe I have some preconceived notions based on the fact that I earned an Eagle Scout rank in a troop known in our town as the "hardcore" troop, but I remember exactly zero moms attending outings, meetings, or anything other than award ceremonies. I can't fucking wait to be the…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 06:43 PM
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Pants are starting to piss me off. There just aren't any that fit me right. If there's one in your city, I highly recommend going to a Bonobos guide shop to see if their stuff fits you. I'm tall with a thin waist and large thighs. Their pants fit me perfectly.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 06:38 PM
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Lifting Owned. Still making rep PRs 4 days per week on 5/3/1 BBB. Diet and Fitness Owned. 6’3, 185 lbs @ 11.8% (BI scale). Gonna cheat this week because I have two taco parties booked and I fucking love carnitas. Also Mexican St. Patrick’s Day just doesn’t feel right without a couple cervezas. Goal: See my fucking abs. The cut doesn’t stop until I do. Hygene and Style Owned. A photo was taken at a company all-hands meeting and looking at it afterward, I was amazed at how stylish I looked compare…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 06:29 PM
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Past pressure when it comes to sex has made "pushing through" resistance beta rather than alpha. I have to either not give a fuck or I have to "game" through resistance playfully. When I push through I come off as the demanding partner... I'm assuming she feels all those times where I betad up and talked (built pressure) about sex coming back and turning her off. The second the pressure is off she comes initiating. Nice. I conducted a little experiment last week and experienced similar results. …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 08:26 PM
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-Fuck me or Fuck You, is a massive covert contract...because in reality, you are then doing this work to get to a point to yell this statement and it is anger that is controlling you and not your Frame. This is a great point. Visualizing that ultimate main event and framing it as a goal is a great way to run your MAP for the completely wrong reason. It's a revenge porn fantasy. For FMorFY to really have the effect I think OP (and most of us, at least at some point) is looking for, it has to be a…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 04:57 PM
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If you haven't, get through WISNIFG. I have actually been in a similar situation recently. [Mini FR] We rent (and I'm happy as a clam doing that for lots of reasons), but my wife has been dropping comments every now and then suggesting a timeline for when "we" might want to buy a place. My internal answer is "no fucking way am I buying a house with for you while I'm in the middle of my MAP, you aren't responding to my satisfaction (yet), and I'm OI if we'll still be married in 5 years." Here's t…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 06:19 PM
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+1 on these. I prefer the Champion brand. They're a little shorter and really flatter my junk and squat butt. They also stay put and don't ride up or move around when your shirt is tucked in.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 03:07 PM
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A buddy of mine likes to play a joke on his plates where he "forgets" to pull out or breaks a condom or something, and lets her freak out for a few minutes. Then he breaks her the news that he's snipped. Sounds like a fun, uh, gag.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 04:50 AM
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http://marriedmansexlife.com/glossary-of-forum-terms/
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 09:50 PM
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One of the best things I've ever done for myself. Just knowing there are no bullets in the gun and I can essentially point it at anyone does wonders for my abundance mentality. There's nothing that says you have to tell anyone (your wife will probably catch on...) and if I were to hit the dating / fucking scene, I wouldn't say peep. If you keep it to yourself, you might get the chance to do this: https://archive.is/Rzyw7
/r/askMRP27/04/16 09:48 PM
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it is to set an example of my expectations. I'm not looking to be rewarded - as I reward her - I am looking for her to match standards and expectations I've demonstrated. When she matches, she is rewarded. When she fails, she is disciplined In theory, this should only work when SHE identifies and comments on the example you've set. "Wow honey, The kids are wrangled AND the chores are done?" "Yep. Just the way I like it." Otherwise you're still pointing it out to her. "Look Honey mommy, the kids …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 09:20 PM
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Gonna quote myself here: This works even better when you actually DO awesome shit with your kids when she's gone I'm not advocating lying or making shit up, I'm saying we should do awesome shit with our kids. If it was awesome, the kids will tell her all about it. If it wasn't awesome, that's OK too. But as far as she needs to know, no shit hit a fan. "It sucked, but I handled it." This is drawing attention to some struggle you had to spend effort on. Remember Law 30. Our night was great! You ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 08:34 PM
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In her words spend time with me Has she earned it? This was not something I wanted to do So don't. Because you're busy doing your own shit, remember? my suggestion was for me to go fill her car, get her coffee that way she’d be settled down, started eating her dinner. Why? You're solving her problems; stop it. I was even accused of not listening to her as she talked about her evening But you did and you know it. And since you did and you know it, you also know that her statement is BS. Ignore he…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 04:13 PM
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Lifting Finishing up cycle 6 of 5/3/1 Boring But Big. I had to reset all lifts back 10% when starting cycle 5, but since then I’ve PR’d my calculated 1RM on every AMRAP set every week on every lift. I started taking Yohimbine HCL on Saturday morning. Stupidly, I took it right before my squat / deadlift session. I blasted through the squats but when I started to DL, I felt like my sinuses were going to explode (increased blood pressure) and I had to knock it off after only one set of 10. I made u…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 06:38 PM
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Yup. Linking it here for everyone following along at home.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 06:34 PM
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Nobody will ever be good enough if you're keeping score. I knew I'd read about this recently. Here's a great reply from /u/jacktenofhearts about keeping score.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 06:18 PM
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but there are exactly 0 consequences that I can tell for her not meeting your standards...In your current situation, she's getting the exact same standard of life as she's accustomed to even though she's not adding anything to your life. You nailed it. Right now what she adds to my life is childcare while I work. Otherwise her quality of life is better than it was before because now I do the majority of chores, handle the household responsibilities, and am hawt for her to look at. Higher levels …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 04:07 PM
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There are no standards to enforce, because until now he has had no idea what he actually expects from her I thought about this quite a bit this weekend. I've known all along what kind of behavior I want and like from A woman. What I've consciously avoided doing is making it a goal to get this behavior from my wife specifically because I keep coming back to the maxim that I only control myself and my choices. I agree that I need to make my wife aware of my expectations. I'm having trouble making …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 03:55 PM
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Increased my workout frequency and stopped keeping beer in the house in January. Immediately started losing weight. I started to look better in the mirror, and found my day-to-day confidence was boosted tremendously. Good move. That's really all there is to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 03:25 PM
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/u/whinemoreplease Your failure is you say nothing about consequences for not meeting standards. Do you mean I don't define the consequences to my wife for not meeting my standards? Isn't that essentially an ultimatum as recommended in Dread levels 9-10?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 11:21 PM
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Here's a couple other tidbits: If you want to jack up your rank and salary, you should switch companies every 2/3 promotion cycles because internal transfers are a lateral move and external hires are usually a tack. Say your company typically cycles promotions every 3 years (most large companies). If you stuck with the same company for 6 years, you'd progress from an E1 to an E3. But if you got a new job every two years, you'd be an E4 at the end of 6 years. If you're not growing, you're dying; …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 10:43 PM
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/u/jacktenofhearts- Thank you for the thought and time you put into your reply. I really do appreciate it. I thought about it a lot last night and today and naturally I have some responses. What I want from my wife See, if you're one if those men who say, "I don't like a woman who's all done up, I like the natural look." Haha. You fucking liar. You are lying, you fucking idiot, just as much as women who said "They don't like muscley guys." Nope, I love it when a woman puts effort into her appear…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 10:17 PM
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Yeah, I did, and I did it for myself. Someone said on here just the other day that if you constantly compare yourself to others you'll always feel like you suck. But comparing yourself to your past self will show you that you are indeed making progress. I track my weight, BF%, lifting progress, and the books I read on a spreadsheet. If a metric is important, it's worth writing down. In MRP, the two the most obvious metrics one can track for feedback are frequency and rejection rate (and BJs of c…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 03:32 PM
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That's fine, unless it makes you unhappy. Exactly. I'm happy as a clam doing this at work. Just "being better" is my mission and when I can't do that, it might be time to retire.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 03:19 PM
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I stewed on your question What are you trying to achieve through that for yourself, your marriage, or your family? for a few minutes just now. I can't actually answer this question about my career either. If someone asked me to write it down (I guess you just did...) I'd say "My goal is to do something better than I did yesterday / last time." That's certainly egocentric, but that's how I think at work. It's been effective, but it's not really long-term thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 11:17 PM
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You make a great point. Nobody will ever be good enough if you're keeping score. I actually came to the realization of this the other day as I graphed (yes...) my sexual frequency and rejection rate data from the last year. I decided to stop counting, starting yesterday. I'll probably have to own my shit about keeping score again in a few weeks. I'm lucky, I haven't had to go beyond level 5 for my wife to step up As far as my wife has been exposed to, that's as far I've gone too. I've always bee…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 10:44 PM
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I'd be lying if I said that wasn't floating around in my mind. And more than that, it's that I don't want to go down the path of divorce until my wife has a job again. I'd probably be OK with a finger in my butt from the family court, but not an unlubed giant dildo.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 10:20 PM
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What's the purpose of continuing to up the dread right now? I'm holding at level 7 until level 8 happens organically. Is that lazy? Maybe, but activity vs passivity in that level is the difference between DLV and DHV. What are you trying to achieve through that for yourself, your marriage, or your family? I think I want investment from my wife in our relationship. But since that still smells like external validation, I have a couple more layers of "why" to ask. So: Do you know? Does she know? No…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 10:12 PM
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It has been my experience that high intensity sports will cure the nervous energy; and provide a plethora of other important lessons. Maybe this is a discussion for /r/redpillfatherhood, but so far, my experience has been that the more tired they are, the more relentlessly they fidget, cling, and do dumb shit. My older son (4.5) can focus on books, writing, or legos for quite a long time when he's rested. But the more exhausted from physical activities he becomes, the harder it is for him to fol…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 07:16 PM
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Impostor Syndrome You're doing the right thing; owning your thoughts, writing them out, then sharing them with mentors. Now that you have a list of shit you worry about, pick one thing at a time and crush it. If you're already lifting and eating clean, start by kicking ass at your job. Also, make your wife worry that she's not good enough for YOU.
/r/askMRP21/04/16 03:46 PM
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Anybody looking at you and not knowing what goes on in your mind would think that you had the perfect life.... Anyone who's still plugged in... I'm pretty sure if a dude who knows what's up saw us at the airport, he could have guessed I wasn't running the ship. Women wouldn't have even seen me; invisible, remember? HA! The van was a Ford with the 6.0 diesel. Never again...
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 03:27 PM
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Women don't want to make choices. One of my favorite ways to confirm this is to watch my wife park her car in an empty parking lot. Of all the spots available, she inevitably chooses two at once.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 10:16 PM
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I'm planning to get to the same destination Remember, there is no destination, only the road...
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 09:42 PM
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I have been thinking about it for months as a potential problem, but after reading J10 comments last J10 set in this post ; I have concluded I must stop being spreadsheet guy (i.e. the data part….not the stupid talking about your data part). Given I have proven over the last six months that my wife is my mirror, my thinking about sex in a transactional/benchmarked manor can obviously be a cause for her lack of spontaneity (duh…..). So as much as I love data (engineer….go figure), I am stopping t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 07:25 PM
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^ this.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 06:48 PM
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I got you, bro. I may write a post on this, but someone already wrote something similar a few months back about comfort tests. If you want to see textbook shit-tests, go to a bar and talk to women. They're thinking about fucking everyone who engages them (but they're not sure...) so obvious shit-tests are obvious. In the first few months of your MAP, you have to realize that you're just not on your wife's radar; she doesn't want your attention. Your wife might not actually be shit testing you (b…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 04:03 PM
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Just knowing my chute is packed helps me stay cool any time I feel any friction at home.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 03:25 PM
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Thanks for the tip. I read his recommendation of that stuff too, shopped for some, but just never bought it. I'll give it a try.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 03:23 PM
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Mother fucker! That's my line. Why yes, yes it is! One of the best examples of practical Powertalk I've ever seen.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 04:54 AM
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I bought an entry level squat rack, adjustable bench, an Olympic barbell, and 350# of plates from some kid on CL for $300. I picked up a door-frame pull up bar for another few bucks and I was in business. I picked up some used olympic dumb bell handles a couple months later and my "kids" got me the ab-wheel for Christmas. It's time to upgrade the squat rack to a power cage for safety though.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 03:10 AM
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One thing that comes through is how much easier things are when you expand the circle of concern beyond just your wife. I found myself reading and sort of skimming over the stuff about the LTR because I wanted to find out more about all the other cool shit you've got going on in your life - which is exactly the dynamic you want. Yes. Exactly this. "Falling in love with myself" was essentially how I broke my oneitis and knocked pussy off the pedestal. had any dark nights of the soul, or any dead …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 03:02 AM
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Bit weird that you're not defined yet, but I guess it's down to genetics. Didn't look up your program, but are you doing anything to your core, other than squatting and such? I do ab wheel, and hanging leg raises. They're under there, there's just a saucer-sized last little bit of belly fat that needs to go... I think the real reason is that my BI scale is lying and I'm really just north of 12%.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 11:02 PM
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After researching typical alimony and CS payments in my state, I figured what my remaining income might be and shopped for apartments that I could afford, knowing my own basic expenses. Deposits are typically = one month rent around here, so my FU fund was 2 months rent + $1k for a lawyer retainer. I have a $20k credit card that's only in my name that I would use for expenses until I could regain access to my share of joint funds. I keep a "bug-out" folder at work with copies of bank and investm…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 10:59 PM
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Roger that. I unplug a bit more each day.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 10:06 PM
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Do you have the link for the YaReally James Deen article? /u/BluepillProfessor posted about it a few months ago Do you think FKATMC helped more than hurt, given your wife's comments about it later? I don't know... She hasn't finished the book even though she reads other books constantly. She (like anyone) will only do what she actually wants to do, so it's on her to receive the information I offered. Having read the book myself, I picked up on a few instances of her applying the "moves". But as …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 10:01 PM
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What people really need is an equitable relationship. This allows both parties to retain (and respect!) their own personal table of values that the partners choose to either honor for each other or adapt to each other. There is no end of the day measurement of whether everyone did the same number of chores or earned/spent the same amount of money. Equitable relationships are built on honesty, sacrifice, standing up for self and respect (for yourself and your partner). Thanks for this. I think th…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 09:37 PM
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Funny you mention that. As I was compiling this, I thought to myself that a goal I need to work toward is to stop recording every damn thing and just live. That's when I'll be Making It instead of Faking It.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 08:55 PM
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Month 11 I’m actually feeling a bit indifferent toward sex this month. I increased my social events again and I’m now going out alone more often than not. Every time I go out, I open 3-4 strangers (or groups) for conversation. I frequently go to a bar that features live country music and dancing. My mission is to enjoy the band, but I always take the opportunity to dance with women I find attractive. I’ve noticed (starting about midway through last month) that I usually get approached before I c…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 08:08 PM
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Month 10 The increased shit-testing is about to turn into overt disrespect instead of simple lack of respect. When I got home one day, the house was a mess and there were dishes from the day in the kitchen. I jumped in and did the dishes with no comments. She came in and said "I can tell you're mad that the house is a mess." I wasn't and hadn't said anything so I can assume she was feeling guilty and projecting. [Shit test] In the past I have explicitly said I want to set the example to our sons…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 08:02 PM
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Thoughts on FKATMC: I read the whole thing before giving it to my wife. There’s lots of good stuff in there. Even though it's a feminine book, I find myself identifying with many of the "controlling" mannerisms which helps me realize ways in which I've been feminized and have been behaving. I also identified my wife's behavior in most of the examples, which clarifies just how passive I allowed myself to be in our relationship. The concepts in this book seem like they'd be well received by a woma…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 07:57 PM
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Month 8 Boring But Big is definitely effective. All parts of me gained some size and I hit my peak weight of 212 lbs. I’m sick of feeling sick from eating so much food so I’m going to cut, even though I’m just one month into the program. I ate at maintenance for the last two weeks of the month. I got a bio-impedance scale for Christmas and confirmed my BF% is ~18 like I thought. I know those things aren’t known for their accuracy, but it’ll at least show me the trend when I start cutting. One mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 07:52 PM
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I think the RPL here is "I applied passive dread by enjoying myself in the company of others, which is especially effective when in a far-way land, and is doubly effective if I relocated and maybe I like it here fine without wife". You're exactly right.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 03:21 PM
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It's a year of journal entries. I'm working on paring it down a little bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 03:20 PM
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I am curious if this is a general warning you advise or their is something OP post/reddit account that is insecure? I also read this and was worried for a second...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 03:18 PM
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Precisely. Except I picked through my puke to look for clues as to WTF I ate that made me sick in the first place. (Doesn't everyone examine their puke...?)
/r/askMRP17/04/16 01:00 AM
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Calibration and correlating is exactly what I was trying to describe in my caveat. I'm going to steal your words for my repost in MRP, so thanks! I actually have a journal entry that I'm converting to a post about turning my career attitude toward my marriage as a way to kill my oneitis. Spoiler for my MAP report: Things are turning around, pretty much exactly as you've predicted, minus the wife seeing the groupies. Ultimately I don't control the actions or choices of anyone but myself. If my wi…
/r/askMRP17/04/16 12:50 AM
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I actually have a journal entry that I intend to turn into a post about killing my oneitis. I looked at my married relationship the same way I looked at my career (pretty much exactly as /u/jacktenofhearts alluded above). Experience has shown me there is an abundance of great jobs any time I decide to look for a new one. I've never been afraid to walk away from a job that didn't meet my desires as far as pay, respect, or (most important to me) stimulation. Basically, I embraced abundance mentali…
/r/askMRP17/04/16 12:33 AM
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Roger, and thanks for the feedback. My journal is on my work computer so I'll make the adjustments on Monday. I'll also see what I can do about adding some content navigation aides as mentioned by the vets above.
/r/askMRP17/04/16 12:10 AM
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Yes, and she doesn't even know she's doing it.
/r/askMRP15/04/16 10:32 PM
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