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You get approached by gay men because you're attractive. Period. I get approached by gay men every time I go out. The reason you don't get approached by attractive women is simply because that rarely ever happens outside of movies; you have to do the approaching. As for tinder and big women, big women tend to be a bit ballsier with the approaches from my experience, simply because they're not approached often and everyone needs some dick. As for tinder, it is not a measure of anything. I know fo…
/r/seduction10/02/19 10:36 AM
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It’s not the booty we deserve but the booty we need
/r/seduction07/02/19 06:06 AM
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The majority of women will hit on guys in the sense that they’ll do practically indecipherable things by most men, such as hang around them or stay within site of them or go to places the guy goes to. Maybe go with the guy along for a walk to the bus or the train. But that’s the extent of it. And that’s if they’re balls deep crushing in the guy. And the reasons are simple, and explained in all of the other comments: they don’t need to. A below average girl (don’t mean this in a derogatory way, j…
/r/seduction07/02/19 12:26 AM
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Friends, mutual friends, work circles, extracurricular activities in things you enjoy (idk, Yoga for example), etc...
/r/seduction02/02/19 10:38 PM
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Because you’ve placed this girl on a pedestal much higher than the rest. I’m guilty of it too, it’s fine. The important thing isn’t to deny this feeling, but to know that you can date other women without obsessing over them and eventually build up that respect and love and oneitis. If you can get the girl you’re obsessing over, kudos to you. But never allow yourself to get tunnel vision. Be prepared to force yourself out of it. With enough dating experience, you become less and less susceptible …
/r/seduction02/02/19 10:36 PM
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Thank you for posting this. Not enough people (here on this sub and everywhere else in the world) know this, and it’s frightening. They think the key to getting laid is working out and looking good and dressing good and getting money. But it’s so much simpler than that. Sure all of that helps, but if you’re not a self respecting human who’s comfortable in his own skin, you won’t get far.
/r/seduction02/02/19 10:31 PM
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Different reasons. Some are incompatible, some have different goals in life, some have one fight too many, some cheat, some move away. It’s different for everyone.
/r/seduction16/12/18 12:16 PM
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It hurts because you put a lot of pressure and meaning to it. You’re stepping out of your comfort zone so you should be rewarded by not getting rejected, right? Wrong. But that’s your mindset. As you approach more women, it becomes natural rather than stepping out of your comfort zone, and rejection will then only be a natural part of the game; take the L and move on, nothing more nothing less.
/r/seduction16/12/18 12:14 PM
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Lol this is the most ridiculous thread I’ve ever witnessed on here
/r/seduction06/11/18 06:15 PM
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When approaching a group, you talk to the entire group. It’s rude to single a girl out, and chances are she will ignore you because she’s already engaged in a social interaction with her own group. You talk to the group, then single the girl out. If the girl isn’t in a group, just talk to her. As to what to say, it’s simple. Some variant of “Hey, i don’t know you, I’m John Doe” extend hand. And just talk from there. It requires no wingman or woman. Having one might help, but you really don’t nee…
/r/seduction19/10/18 04:56 AM
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I can’t help you much with that, this is a social skill you’ll just have to pick up on. Sense the vibes, and act accordingly. It’s never one size fits all. Maybe you kiss her, and the kiss turns into a make out followed by an invitation into her place. Or maybe you ask her something like “so what are you doing after this?” It all depends on the girl, the situation, the vibes, etc... Like I said, there’s no one size fits all. Just be natural, act from your gut.
/r/seduction10/10/18 04:16 AM
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You can't ask a girl out without holding a solid conversation with her first. It's not like the movies. Imagine if random girl came up to you and asked you out flat out, you'll probably say no. You have to warm her up, then throw the "we should do activity soon." Then she'll be me inclined to say yes and not flake, because she knows you on a more personal level than "she commented on my social media."
/r/seduction09/10/18 07:06 PM
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Drinks are still the best, in my opinion. Because they loosen the nerves. Everyone is tense on a first date, even if only a little bit. Drinks help break the tension. And drinks allows for close-seating, in a bar, which is one of the best environment for escalation. Ideally, you can do one of the things you listed, with a few drinks.
/r/seduction09/10/18 07:00 PM
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Kiss on the cheek? I kiss my girl friends (notice the space) on the cheek at the end of a hang out. If at the end of the date all you get is a kiss on the cheek, this is up there with a handshake. Ideally you want to start making innuendos at the end of the date, or maybe find a way to bring her home or go back to her place. But the typical average scenario will end with a kiss. A kiss on the cheek, you might as well have been hanging out with your sister. Granted, those are my two cents, but I …
/r/seduction09/10/18 06:56 PM
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That’s true to an extent, but it extends to everything in life, and definitely not exclusive to women, let alone dating. People always want what they can’t get. When it comes to dating, this isn’t what many people believe it to mean; it isn’t a license to be a dick because women like what they can’t get. If you think women don’t like so called nice guys because they can get them, you’ve been misinformed. Women can get nice guys, and women can get bad boys. A confident woman will not care if you’…
/r/seduction09/10/18 09:01 AM
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Confidence was never my issue, it was my neediness to impress girls I find attractive, which always resulted in me shooting myself in the foot, even from sure situations. I faked interest in things I never was interested in, carried on bullshit conversations I couldn’t care less about. I went from that mindset, to “fuck it, here’s me. Take it or leave it,” and instantly saw results in my game, within weeks my matches shot up, I was getting more numbers than ever in my life, more than I could han…
/r/seduction07/10/18 11:31 PM
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Nah anything drinking or sex related that could potentially get me in legal trouble scares the shit out of me, mainly cuz parents are religious so it’d suck if they find out.
/r/seduction07/10/18 10:21 PM
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The idea is that I know I’m a guy whom you would expect to be having sex with a different girl every other day, my friends always wondered how I was still a virgin, and people got surprised when they heard it. Coworkers were all under the impression that I was a playboy, through no fault or lies of mine. But there I was, a 23 year old “incel” (I hate that word). It wasn’t looks or confidence, although those do help. It all came down to personality. And that, I think, is what a lot of people don’…
/r/seduction07/10/18 08:39 PM
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I misphrased it, it wasn’t nervousness, I was confident in myself (and buzzed so that helped). It was moreso the excitement. Even still, there is half a truth in what I told her, I didn’t even try holding it in; I went faster when I felt it coming because I didn’t feel comfortable doing it in a busy bar bathroom like that and just wanted to get it over with. It works different for everyone, obviously. She didn’t even think I was a virgin, which was impressive on my part; those homemade pornhub v…
/r/seduction07/10/18 08:12 PM
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Neither places work without prepplanning for standard reasons (parents, etc...). That’s why hotel was the first choice
/r/seduction07/10/18 03:58 PM
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Right, but I wish I had had that realization earlier. I guess everything happens in the right time, and I developed a lot in the process, but I wasted so much time and shot myself in the foot so many times trying to be or do something “smooth” when the solution was to literally just be myself. Worked like a charm.
/r/seduction07/10/18 02:10 PM
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I’m not an idiot, I went to health class. I put them through my keychain. EDIT: just to clarify, that was sarcasm. I don’t put them in my wallet either, just in my pocket
/r/seduction07/10/18 11:27 AM
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That’s my secret, I’ve been walking prepared ever since I put my mind to it
/r/seduction07/10/18 05:17 AM
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I went prepared
/r/seduction07/10/18 05:08 AM
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I would probably say something like “can I help you?” with a friendly smirk.
/r/seduction29/09/18 06:28 PM
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I didn’t check the time stamps but yea if it’s within the same few minutes then double texting is fair game. Personally, I would probably do something like just forgetting about her for a couple of days then texting something like “I was thinking about you,” or “miss me?” Depending on the personality of the girl I’m talking to.
/r/seduction29/09/18 05:07 PM
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For starters, you’re always the one to text first. That’s a giveaway. Guys should approach, yes. But you’re past that. Trust me, when girls want to text, they text. In addition, you occasionally double text. That’s a big no in my book. Last but not least, it’s obvious without you saying anything that you like this girl. It’s way too obvious. You’re a sweet guy, and that’s a good thing. Sweet can have its tricks. But it gets boring when you don’t switch it up. There isn’t much excitement, it’s th…
/r/seduction29/09/18 04:44 PM
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Nobody is not funny. Everyone has their sense of humor. You thinking that you’re not funny is giving yourself the ultimatum, which is not true. Even your most serious professors have their sense of humor and can make jokes. It’s just a matter of who appreciates that humor. Humor isn’t objective; what you think is funny might not be funny to me but be funny to someone else .
/r/seduction29/09/18 04:25 PM
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Just my two cents, I don’t know you and maybe in your language it’s not so bad, but your texts come off as needy to me.
/r/seduction29/09/18 04:21 PM
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Girls do the same. It’s all about selling yourself. Don’t worry, everyone does it. The reason? Tinder is the one platform where you can be purely superficial. Girls, even average looking girls, get tens of matches everyday from all kinds of guys. They get bombarded with texts. This is why there’s a very good amount of girls on tinder who have notifications off. But that also means that for you to get swiped right on, you have to look presentable, look good. Now, for you to stand out from her pil…
/r/seduction26/09/18 07:50 PM
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As soon as you sense the chemistry flowing. Think about when you interact a girl in person. You don’t ask for the number right away, but it is your number one priority. You engage them, and once she’s loose and comfortable in the conversation you ask for it.
/r/seduction25/09/18 11:15 PM
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This is one I haven’t tested out, but I can see why it would work. Ima give it a shot now, I have a few good pics. Thanks!
/r/seduction25/09/18 08:04 PM
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I think that people get too caught up in the “gender-equality, she has as much responsibility approach as I do” bullshit they’re fed on the internet, and forget about reality. Should girls start approaching more? Sure. But gender roles have always been defined: men approach, women reciprocate or decline. 9/10 girls you see will adhere to this, it’s hardwired into us. A girl can in fact like a guy and drool over him for the longest time, but still never approach, it’s just how most girls you meet…
/r/seduction13/09/18 08:01 AM
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Normal human being is what this sub is about, in my opinion. People overthink everything, try to come up with pick up lines and clever ways to pick up. When the easiest and simplest way, in Tinder for example, is to engage her from her bio, or her music taste, or if all else fails give her a genuine compliment, not some sleazy shit.
/r/seduction12/09/18 03:58 AM
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This. I’ve been a smartass on Tinder, and I’ve been a normal human being, and I can tell you smartass never got me anywhere. Maybe they’ll laugh, maybe they’ll reply, maybe they won’t. Instead, be a normal human being. Engage her, two or three messages later come up with something smooth to ask for her number, and voila. Simple and straight to the point.
/r/seduction12/09/18 01:36 AM
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I think your problem is you're trying to have a conversation on a dance floor on the club. You dance with her, and dance some more, then break the touch barrier then pull her around grind a little, and you're on your own from there. It's a lot easier than it seems so as long you're not thinking about it.
/r/seduction17/03/18 12:56 AM
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Looking good helps a lot, but open your eyes and look around. Half the guys who are in relationships aren't physically attractive.
/r/seduction17/03/18 12:50 AM
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Examples tend to be set to the extreme for emphasis. I would never use the kiss on the cheek thing with a girl I just started talking to, for example. But later on after everyone's comfortable? Sure, why not. The thread has essence that I think is of extreme value: make her impress you. Many men (myself included, still to this day) fall into the whole "I need to impress her," when the truth is, she is just as anxious and she is just as rooting for you as you are for her, and you can easily use t…
/r/seduction02/02/18 07:39 PM
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A good trick you can do is imagine yourself at home sitting with you siblings, or someone you're incredibly close with that you just never think about comparing yourself, or worry about how they might judge you. Notice how you act around them: uninhibited, free, careless; you don't care if they're better than you, and you don't think you're better than them either. Take that mindset with strangers. Become aware of your flaws, don't lie to yourself. You'd only be hurting yourself. Bad manners, ba…
/r/seduction12/01/18 08:32 AM
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I'm really not sure what you're getting at with the first point sentence. But no, don't accept yourself. Reread my comment closely. The only thing worse than needing external affirmation (insecurity) is accepting yourself and thinking you're hot shit (narcissism). They're two sides of the same coin. Notice how I said in my comment work on yourself, and worry about yourself. You always have to acknowledge your flaws, you always have to be honest to yourself, and you always have to work on the are…
/r/seduction12/01/18 08:24 AM
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I wouldn't go so far as to say they hate themselves, they just don't feel secure about themselves. There's a deeper issue at hand, that even they are not aware of.
/r/seduction12/01/18 08:17 AM
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Narcissism is simply a method of overcompensation. When I see a narcissist, they don't piss me off, I just feel bad for them, that's all. Because narcissism is the person's way (consciously or not) to bring themselves back up to par. They're lacking in an aspect, usually being self esteem. They're needy, need affirmation, and most importantly, want to be needed. This results in a lack of self esteem. Because their goals are unreasonable, they give in to their defense mechanisms: in this case, ov…
/r/seduction11/01/18 11:53 PM
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Your problem is clear: you need external affirmation to feel good. That's a wrong mindset to be in, not just for pick up but just for life. It's a terrible habit to compare yourself to others, it's a terrible injustice to rank yourself based on your surroundings. By that, I mean you seem to decide your self worth by the person you're interacting with; if you seem to find them less accomplished than you, you feel good and confident, if you find them more accomplished than you, you lose that confi…
/r/seduction11/01/18 11:48 PM
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Take it however you like
/r/seduction15/12/17 04:58 PM
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points at title STOP right there. There's no one. There has never been the one. It's a joke, a fairy tale, a Cinderella story. It does not exist. We view others as the one because of the things we share in common. Common actions, common quirks, common preferences, common dislikings, etc... But take a step back, and I really mean a big step back, and observe again. We're all the one. Human nature is a template. Everyone has their own traits, and once you get to know them on a personal level, you'…
/r/seduction15/12/17 12:15 PM
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My advice is always the same in situations like this: polarize her. You don't have to say anything, you just have to do something small, sleight, something that will convey "I'm interested in you." And you know what? If you do it right, she doesn't have to be have been interested in you to begin with in order to be interested in you now. The other comments have provided good enough methods to do that.
/r/seduction15/12/17 12:07 PM
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There's usually a point where you can leave the text on read without being a dick (like a comment you don't necessarily have to respond to). I generally either send a one-worded response (not a dickish one) or a smiley face or such, when appropriate.
/r/seduction09/12/17 01:37 AM
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Genuine question: Why don't you like that? Less talking for you, and it's a sign that she likes you enough to share with you.
/r/seduction09/12/17 01:30 AM
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You don't. Yes, that includes college age women (I'm in college too). Your attraction should've been made face to face. Texting is only to set a date. If a girl says you don't text often, just say "yea well neither do you." If she starts texting, be nice and respond, and be clear and succinct. But that's about it. You want to be another "hey wyd :) " guy? Go ahead. You'll be just like every other college student. But keep in mind that texting is a short-attention-span activity, and if you do tha…
/r/seduction09/12/17 01:26 AM
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There's no telling what she'll do. She might drop you, or she might start showing interest again, depending on her personality. I'm definitely not the best to give you advice in a situation like this. But here are my two cents: you should be transparent about your intentions in the future. That way, if you're ever in a situation like this, you'll be in the clear, in terms if your own personal dilemma. You should let Kate be aware of your intentions with her. You don't owe anyone anything, you ca…
/r/seduction04/12/17 01:04 AM
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How do I act as if I don't need her? It's not an act, it shouldn't be an act. It should be your actual state. It's one thing to be interested in a woman, to want her, it's another to need her. One is healthy the other is needy. If you see her, be nice, engage in conversation. Don't be afraid to show her that you want her. What you don't want is to want her more than she wants you. Ask her out even, "what are you doing this weekend?" Simple. But don't show neediness, you shouldn't ever be needy. …
/r/seduction03/12/17 06:57 PM
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You're not the only person she has a streak with, I can assure you that. Snapstreaks don't mean shit. End it, but not because you want to end it. That's just petty. End it because you just don't care enough about Snapchat and forgot about the streak one day. You really think she'd reject you for ending a snap streak? Let's turn it around, would you reject her for ending a snapstreak?
/r/seduction03/12/17 05:24 PM
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You should create all the rapport and tension you need during the interaction. Texting is (unintentionally so) women's game, and you can only lose at it. You create rapport, make the conversation interesting, exchange numbers, set a date. When you leave, text her later that night something like "It was nice meeting you" or "I had fun tonight." Anything simple, concise, that's it. No conversation. Nothing. Text her the day of your date, just a simple "Hey, what are you doing tonight?" Don't use y…
/r/seduction03/12/17 05:11 PM
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You can almost always comeback, but never with the intention to come back. What you do is you start worrying about yourself, put yourself first. And change your attitude, not just towards her but towards all women from "I need her" to "I want her, but I don't need her." This, naturally, will make you not always available, and not always predictable, because you'll be caring for yourself more. In a situation like yours I'd start by pausing a little. Cut contact a little. And when you reinitiate i…
/r/seduction03/12/17 04:50 PM
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This article is essentially bullet points from Models.
/r/seduction03/12/17 04:37 PM
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Go hit on her
/r/seduction02/12/17 02:13 PM
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Aside from the obvious (back straight, shoulders back, neck in line with your bag, eye contact, all that stuff), I think it comes down to this: just be genuine. Express yourself genuinely and honestly. Don't say something to impress someone, just say it because you mean it or believe it it, but don't antagonize anyone. Even if you disagree with someone, agree to disagree. If you fuck you, admit you're wrong. Smile (unless you're upset, obviously. Another thing you need to do is to make your emot…
/r/seduction02/12/17 12:25 AM
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Oh you don't know how stupid guys can get. You can hit us with a sign that says "KISS ME" right in the face and we might still be like "huh?" From first hand experiences, you've no idea how many times I facepalmed because I suddenly noticed an obvious sign for me to make a move in hindsight. It's just how we are. It comes down to a simple fact: men and women communicate differently. It's the way we're wired. Men tend to be direct, logical, and clear with this communication. 1+1=2 type of thing. …
/r/seduction01/12/17 11:55 PM
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"we should ___ sometime" in a guy's head equals "yea that's never gonna happen." And not because they don't want to, but because the thought is this: if she wanted, she would've asked. "Sometime" is synonymous with never. Imagine if a guy asks you "let's ___ sometime." It's never gonna happen. You won't ask, and he probably won't ask again. Instead, change to something like "wyd tmw night?"
/r/seduction01/12/17 11:52 PM
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You shouldn't have to. As long as you make your intentions and actions clear (ie that I'm hitting on you), she will tell you she has a boyfriend if she has one. And when this is said, you just move on. If she happens to have a boyfriend but doesn't bring him up, it's fair game (but if you find out later, it's up to you to check your morals).
/r/seduction01/12/17 11:45 PM
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They will, but not intentionally. Both parties play part in it. If you go with the intention to impress, then yea you'll fail the shit test. The intention should be "can she impress me?" If you sense intentional shit testing, pull out. Not worth the time or effort.
/r/seduction28/11/17 11:13 PM
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Just hold a lite beer in your hand or something you don't have to drink it..
/r/seduction28/11/17 11:11 PM
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Possibly she got tired of you not making a move?
/r/seduction28/11/17 11:05 PM
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It's not a pickup line, but banter/teasing her. Then, and I don't mean this in an insulting way at all, you have no clue what banter and teasing a woman is. I won't expand on it, there's plenty of resources in this sub for it (check the side panel). Then what does work? Not pick up lines, I'll tell you that much. Movies make it seem so, but movies also make it seem like the girl will jump on top of you even if you're too awkward to approach. That's not the case. That's not true. What works is, i…
/r/seduction27/11/17 06:09 PM
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I see what you're saying, but I disagree. I actually think it's very helpful. As with anything, you should always take it with a grain of salt. But Mark breaks it down to this: you shouldn't care about the result, and the reason he does this is that readers of this book most likely suffer from approach anxiety. The whole level of investment and non-neediness thing is helpful, because readers of this book (including myself at one point) suffer from desperate-syndrome, and the idea is that you sho…
/r/seduction26/11/17 05:29 PM
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It's simple enough (the thesis is actually in the title): attracting women through honesty. No games, no techniques, no pick up lines, no bullshit. It breaks socialization down and explains everything about it, and it focuses on better yourself and your identity, and embracing it, rather than trying to change your identity in order to impress. It explains why techniques are bad, in the long run. It shows how to connect with women on the emotional level, which is the level that truly makes them c…
/r/seduction26/11/17 12:42 PM
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"Hurrican Irma is bad. How would hurricane [girl's name] be?" I cringed. Don't use pick up lines, for the love of god. For every time they work, they fail a million. I'll give you my two cents. Forget about pick up lines. Forget about technique. Most of the time they won't work, and when they do it's a one-off chance that won't last too long. You aren't afraid of girls. That's a start. That's good. You know how to approach a girl, and you know how to start talking. Many guys don't. What you need…
/r/seduction26/11/17 09:58 AM
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Not going to disagree: physique and attraction are always a plus, there's no doubt about that. If you take a guy with looks and physique and game, and a guy with no looks and no physique but the same level of game, the attractive guy will win. But if you take an attractive guy with no game, and an unattractive guy with game, the unattractive guy will win (this thread serves as an example of that). The key to a man is his eyes, the key to a woman is her emotions (not her eyes, not her ears). If y…
/r/seduction26/11/17 09:21 AM
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Cliche answer but I cannot recommend this enough: read Models by Mark Manson. It's quite literally life changing, not just as a dating book but just as a psychotherapy book. It will improve every single relationship in your life, platonic or else.
/r/seduction26/11/17 09:16 AM
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Don't thank me, thank Mark Manson hahaha. (The famous Models author). 10/10 recommended read, this book isn't just a Pick Up advice book; I don't even consider it to be a dating book. It's deeper than that, I consider it to be a psychotherapy book of sorts. Having game is just an aftereffect of the objective of this book, not the end goal.
/r/seduction19/11/17 11:50 PM
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That's simply a sign of her insecurity, not a fault of yours. Maybe she's been fucked over by guys in the past, whatever, it doesn't matter and you shouldn't concern yourself with it. Carry on. And hey, as long as you're getting laid. Think about it: if you say to a girl "you probably get this a lot," is that not stemming from some sort of deep seated insecurity that maybe you're an object, and maybe you're just another guy from the dozens of guys she's been with? Women are human after all. But …
/r/seduction19/11/17 09:30 PM
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Give me a recent scenario of when this occurred, I'm genuinly curious and maybe I can help you out a bit.
/r/seduction19/11/17 08:16 PM
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Things you experience with girls are a projection of you. Question yourself: do you somewhere inside of you hold a belief that, say, girls don't like having sex? Voila, there you go. That's the kind of girls you'll attract, and even if not, that's the vibe you give out, and people will adopt whatever behavior you expect of them, in this case, being a prude. The issue isn't the girls, the issue is you. Maybe you hold a belief that girls don't like sex (and for some reason, many men do, which is a…
/r/seduction19/11/17 08:14 PM
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I'm gonna take a guess that you're using a pick up line?
/r/seduction19/11/17 08:09 PM
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Polarize her. She agreed to be with you, so you know she doesn't dislike you. Now, the moment of truth: does she like you. There's one way to find that out: polarize her. Do something bold and proactive, whether it's saying something or doing something. Sometime as simple as casually laying your arm around her while youre watching the movie. Does she lean in? You're in. Does she not reciprocate or lean away? Call it a night and move on. Act like nothing happened, because it isn't a verdict about…
/r/seduction19/11/17 07:12 AM
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I actually started reading it as per your comment, and I'm about 25% in. Aside from picking up and game, this book is literally life-changing just on a personal level. It doesn't feel like a dating advice book, more like a psychotherapy book. I can't believe I never picked it up earlier.
/r/seduction17/11/17 08:21 PM
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Sounds like a doable starting point. I'm already trying to implement it; I have the self awareness down, give or take. Thank you!
/r/seduction17/11/17 08:17 PM
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I never thought about it the way you put it, that it's a defense mechanism more than anything. Reading your explanation made me go "whoa," it sounds pretty accurate. Now, answering your question: am I okay with those feelings? I think so. I've been through the worst with that girl I mentioned in the thread, those feelings should pass pretty easily should they come. Thinking about it as I type this, I think it's more of a "I don't ever want to experience that again" kind of subliminal reaction, b…
/r/seduction16/11/17 08:17 AM
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I should've been clearer. Maybe you're right, it's a very selective confidence. It's there as long as I have nothing to worry about, but when I see a girl I actually like, I start worrying about trying to impress rather than stay with the non-neediness attitude I had, and that kills it completely.
/r/seduction15/11/17 11:56 PM
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Yep, you hit the nail on the head. I want to be back in control, rather than letting my beta-induced anxiety control me.
/r/seduction15/11/17 11:54 PM
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Well in essence I would start getting a little indirect, for example I would maybe start throwing hints like "that restaurant is really nice," but I couldn't actually say the words "let's go." I'd be waiting for her to say them. I would allow my body to be in an open physical position to allow for escalation, but I wouldn't be the one to start escalating; I'd wait for the girl to do that. That's what I mean by I assume the beta position. I become the one waiting for the girl to do something proa…
/r/seduction15/11/17 05:56 PM
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I guess that's what I'm here for. I've no idea where to start.
/r/seduction15/11/17 06:32 AM
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No one said getting fit won't help your game. We all agree on that. The idea here is that many rush to the gym under the impression that they'll get laid the second they get ripped. But that's really not the case. Imagine this: there is a really hot girl. And you're a beta guy. The girl is under the impression that her hotness will get her laid. This is true, but it isn't going to get her laid but sitting there and watching the beta guy. She has to approach him and metaphorically jump his bones.…
/r/seduction20/07/17 04:21 PM
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Handshake. Only hug girls you know. The only exception is if she goes for the hug first, then out of politeness give her a brief hug. Otherwise, keep it professional.
/r/seduction20/07/17 11:19 AM
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It does, but gym alone doesn't help. I joined a gym two years ago, without working on my game. My assumption was that hot guys get girls, so if I get hot I'll get girls. Right? Wrong. Hot guys get complimented, mainly by the same gender. On very few occasions, ballsy girls will compliment you. But most of the time, they'll appreciate your looks in silence. At the end of the day, it comes down to your game. Does looking fit increase your game? Absolutely, it makes it a lot easier, and it increase…
/r/seduction20/07/17 11:18 AM
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I think the umbrella situation is more than fine, I think it's chivalrous, which definitely contributes to your game. People tend to confuse being an alpha with being a dick. For some reason, a lot have this sense of false dichotomy that you can either be alpha or be nice. Truth of it, being alpha is all about being a gentleman. A man who is nice, caring, thoughtful, attentive, yet at the end of the day stern and in control. The umbrella example is good because it shows you care. Overcompensatio…
/r/seduction19/07/17 06:50 AM
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My answer is a bit more complicated, but I'll sum it up in this: it depends. I think it's perfectly fine to slightly go out of your way to make a girl happy. Make anyone happy, as a matter of fact. Just be nice for being nice, not because you want anything in return. People appreciate niceness, and appreciate you as a person. More importantly, it makes you feel good to so something nice and see the happiness on their face (at least it does to me). With that said, don't go too out of your way, do…
/r/seduction19/07/17 12:27 AM
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