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| 1 | Looking for advice on texting and anxiety through ex-redpill filtersA very detailed response. Thanks! My main fear is "What if I stay single for the rest of my life?" "What if I'm unlucky?" or "What if I'm not meant to have a girlfriend/wife?" I only had one girlfriend via cold approach (meeting women mainly on the streets) but after that, regardless of approaching women and even getting some numbers, dates and kisses, eventually I got ghosted. This could due to be my neediness and stuff that I've mentioned in the post. 😕 | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/25 08:54 PM |
| 0 | How can a man get a relationship through social settings aka hobby groups, etc?Nobody "deserves" a romantic relationship. Relationships happen when the stars align and two people are both single and compatible. Well, then that so called karma or divine justice don't work on those people who cheat and transmit some STDs to their partners. And it's funny the fact that those people are found compatible by lots of women is... Just. Pretty interesting. your approach and thinking about relationships is what ultimately made me walk away. This mindset is exhausting. There are few … | /r/ExRedPill | 19/07/25 08:48 AM |
| 1 | How can a man get a relationship through social settings aka hobby groups, etc?I was 21 and she was 31. I met her on the street through cold approaching. I just wanted a girlfriend and to get rid of my virginity if possible, and she was the one that I came across with. Then we liked each other. We had some common grounds and the relationship was fun. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/07/25 08:39 AM |
| 6 | How can a man get a relationship through social settings aka hobby groups, etc?Supposing you lived in a counter-factual world where most men were gay and not pursuing women, would you still be interested in getting a girlfriend? If so, why? I would because if I'm interested in girls, I'd still be looking for a connection with them because I want a girl to be in my life. So yes, I'd try to get a girlfriend in that world too. Again, this doesn’t tell why you want a girlfriend in the first place. Suppose you were asexual and wasn’t attracted to anyone, would you still seek a … | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/25 04:26 PM |
| 4 | How can a man get a relationship through social settings aka hobby groups, etc?Whatever the case your self described neediness is probably a huge barrier here. How can I get rid of that? | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/25 04:19 PM |
| 2 | How can a man get a relationship through social settings aka hobby groups, etc?Considering you don't have much experience you can't really sell yourself to women as a non cheater. Having experience or not don't have anything to do with this. My first girlfriend was 10 years older than me and how do you think I "sold" myself to her? It just clicked with her. And I'm wondering what if I never click with someone one more time? And, is this really all about "selling" myself to women? Really? I mean, "selling"? Maybe I should also add some strategies and tactics there as well? … | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/25 04:18 PM |
| -5 | How can a man get a relationship through social settings aka hobby groups, etc?What I listed there are also the reasons why every people on this earth want to have relationships with other people. What else should I have said to convince you that I deserve(?) a relationship? "I want a real connection with women", maybe? Because that's what I want as well and that might be included in those reasons. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/25 04:15 PM |
| 8 | How can a man get a relationship through social settings aka hobby groups, etc?A lot of people say that if you rush things off you might scare women and they will also see you as impetuous and as a person who only thinks about sex. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/25 03:01 PM |
| 2 | How can a man get a relationship through social settings aka hobby groups, etc?But can I ask why exactly you want a girlfriend? When most men have girlfriend, are having sex, romanticism, fun time, are feeling some sort of a wholeness; I don't want to be left alone. I know about those "Try to feel good on your own. A girlfriend isn't gonna make you feel whole. Just work on yourself before getting into a relationship" advice but they don't help me at all. Why shouldn't I have a relationship? I'm a loyal, loving and caring dude and yet while those cheaters are having lots of… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/25 02:58 PM |
| 1 | I have read a good comment on YouTube regarding the so called dating coaches. But one question thoughAsk yourself after a failed date: what went wrong? How can I know that though? Even if I asked her, she probably wouldn't reply back or reply without details and with a couple of words. Sometimes the reason is not you or something you should change. Sometimes yes but if I'm doing something wrong how can I know that again? :) | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/25 10:50 AM |
| 1 | I have read a good comment on YouTube regarding the so called dating coaches. But one question thoughI see but what if I'm gonna do the same thing over and over again and expect a different result since I don't listen to any dating advice? | /r/ExRedPill | 11/07/25 06:23 PM |
| 1 | I have read a good comment on YouTube regarding the so called dating coaches. But one question thoughSometimes. I'd do that just to get some ideas from people. And most people do this most of the time as well: They ask others' opinions on many things. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/07/25 06:00 PM |
| 2 | How to know which dating advice is the true one?What should we do when we met them? How should we act? Should we state our intention? If so, when; quickly or very slowly? Besides, how and where can I find answers for all these questions and questions that are gonna pop up later? | /r/ExRedPill | 10/07/25 02:30 PM |
| 1 | How to know which dating advice is the true one?Thank you very much for your detailed response. It's very kind of you. I appreciate it a lot! Actually I'm seeing a psychiatrist now and I have resistant OCD. I've used around 15 meds before and none of them worked. Therapy didn't work. I also tried ECT but it didn't work either. So I guess that makes it clear that I have RESISTANT!!! OCD :) When I was 21 in January 2021 (now I'm 25), I've met with a woman via cold approach (meeting women on the streets) and she was 31 then. On the first date, b… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/07/25 01:51 PM |
| 2 | How to know which dating advice is the true one?source: me with a very emotionally stable man who is short and fat and 0% chad but has sexy drs and nurses at work falling all over him Can it be because he has status? working on himself What does this exactly mean? Making money, being healthy, being social, etc.? Does this also mean if a man is needy, he has to work on his neediness issues? But isn't this getting rid of your neediness also a dating advice and contrary to just being yourself? And since you're a woman, you might answer my questi… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/07/25 10:48 AM |
| 3 | How to know which dating advice is the true one?It was pretty fun to read. What do you think about cold approach? Also how can someone give feedback to himself regarding what's he doing wrong if he's doing anything wrong in dating that leads him to being single? | /r/ExRedPill | 10/07/25 06:27 AM |
| 25 | What is truly the black 💊?The black 💊 says that: Looks matter and they are everything. Women don't care about the character or personality of a man unless he passes her looks test. Attractive men can get away with almost anything they do or say whilst unattractive men can't. Only very attractive men get successful on dating apps. Women only approach very attractive men and sometimes they even lead things. Etc... | /r/ExRedPill | 16/06/25 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Why don't women text back or text back after a very long time or just ghost men after good dates that sometimes you even kiss?than your previous relationship of dating the first woman you cold approached. How do you interpret this? Was it just luck? If so, why I'm unlucky now? | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/25 01:14 PM |
| 0 | Why don't women text back or text back after a very long time or just ghost men after good dates that sometimes you even kiss?Another ridiculous thing to say. You're absolutely talking in favor of some group. It's never other people's fault, right? It's always our falt. That's delusion IMO. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/25 12:41 PM |
| 0 | Why don't women text back or text back after a very long time or just ghost men after good dates that sometimes you even kiss?What you said is pure BS. You're not inclined to talk objectively. You're favoring some group. And no, I'm not harrassing anybody. What I meant was not someone keeps rejecting me but some people keep rejecting me. It's not happening lots of times with one person, it's happening lots of times with lots of different people. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/25 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Why don't women text back or text back after a very long time or just ghost men after good dates that sometimes you even kiss?How can someone have plenty of other options if he doesn't have one option in the first place and that one option keeps rejecting him for whatever reason? | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/25 09:45 AM |
| -3 | Why don't women text back or text back after a very long time or just ghost men after good dates that sometimes you even kiss?You can do everything right but still fail. Isn't this just... torture? And cruelty of life? I mean... It must be a joke, right? I'm saying this because I don't want to be single for the rest of my life. I'm 25 years old now and my first GF was 31 years old when I was 21 years old and I met her through cold approach. The relationship lasted for 1,5 years. But after her, I couldn't find anybody. I mean I've gone on dates and sometimess I kissed with them but probably because of my needy behavior,… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/25 09:31 AM |
| 0 | Why don't women text back or text back after a very long time or just ghost men after good dates that sometimes you even kiss?most of the time it’s because of something you did What could I have done wrong? Any ideas? | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/25 09:14 AM |
| 0 | How can I know if I'm being needy or not?Yes, Stoicism makes sense on that matter but I think like "Is there something else that's in my control that I also can do?" or "What if there's something more that I can do to save the relationship or make the girl like me?" I sometimes can't be sure on these issues. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/06/25 07:39 PM |
| 1 | How can I know if I'm being needy or not?I have a huge uncertainty intolerance. How can I deal with this? | /r/ExRedPill | 08/06/25 01:22 PM |
| 1 | "If she's interested, she'll reply or text back no matter what you do or say" vs "You can have an impact on her reply via your actions or words"be yourself If I'm needy, if that's in my character and I just become myself; don't I become also needy? Also, do you think if I should follow some YouTube dating coaches' or "redpilled" guys' advice? | /r/ExRedPill | 07/06/25 10:21 PM |
| 2 | "If she's interested, she'll reply or text back no matter what you do or say" vs "You can have an impact on her reply via your actions or words"Can it be possible that due to me being needy, they lose interest? | /r/ExRedPill | 07/06/25 10:14 PM |
| 1 | "If she's interested, she'll reply or text back no matter what you do or say" vs "You can have an impact on her reply via your actions or words"First off you don’t spend your time texting her and being pen pals you use texting to set a date and you give her your attention in person. That's what I do as well. But my problem is, everything goes pretty good in person but then in texting, women act like they lost interest somehow. Replying with few words or replying too late or never. And after this, I start being needy. I'm not texting them all the time but when they don't give proper replies, I just lose my control and become needy. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/06/25 10:13 PM |
| 0 | "If she's interested, she'll reply or text back no matter what you do or say" vs "You can have an impact on her reply via your actions or words"Can you elaborate a bit? Because I think so too and I'd love to hear some opinions on it since most people think like "If you're being needy then you might make women run away." But this doesn't make sense that much. I mean just because we became a bit needy, does this mean women just sense it and say like "Oh ok he's needy. I'mma run now!!11!!!" | /r/ExRedPill | 07/06/25 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Any YouTube channel that gives good advice on dating and relationships?I'm actually trying too hard to be better. I'm going outside but I keep losing women I've met. They keep running away from me and the only reason that comes to my mind is me being needy and I just can't stop being needy. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/25 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Any YouTube channel that gives good advice on dating and relationships?Except for some obvious situations, I don't know if I'm being needy & clingy or not. That's why I thought that I could control myself via watching those videos since they talk about most of the stuff that might come across as needy. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/25 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Any YouTube channel that gives good advice on dating and relationships?Isn't it better to watch Youtube channels that have only one kind of opinion and give advice accordingly, rather than listening to mixed advice where everyone has an opinion and not being able to apply anything on real life? | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/25 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Any YouTube channel that gives good advice on dating and relationships?Isn't it better to watch Youtube channels that have only one kind of opinion and give advice accordingly, rather than listening to mixed advice where everyone has an opinion and not being able to apply anything on real life? | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/25 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Any YouTube channel that gives good advice on dating and relationships?Experience will change that only if I know the correct thing to do. But I don't know what is the truth when it comes to dating because there're lots of different opinions. I don't know which ones to apply. But watching Youtube videos might be a good start since the channel owners have only one ideology and they keep talking about stuff through that ideology. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/25 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Any YouTube channel that gives good advice on dating and relationships?I mean I want to follow a channel that posts videos regularly so that I can regularly keep learning about stuff. If I read a blog or a comment, that'll be all when I finished reading them. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/25 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Any YouTube channel that gives good advice on dating and relationships?be yourself But I'm a needy person and if I just continue being myself aka being needy, then I'm gonna scare women away. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/25 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Any YouTube channel that gives good advice on dating and relationships?I want to watch continuously. Besides YouTube, there's no place that I can watch or learn like that. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/06/25 07:06 PM |
| 4 | I went deep down the PUA rabbit hole and can’t seem to fully pull myself out despite how much I’ve moved away from red pill as a whole. Any advice?Dating apps don't work for the majority of men. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/05/25 12:40 PM |
| 3 | Why are there so many rules and strategies in the red pill ideology? I don't understand how people memorize them 😅Long answer is also appreciated. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/04/25 02:06 PM |
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