Looking for advice on texting and anxiety through ex-redpill filters

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2025-08-15T18:31:34+00:00

In general, and I know some people have anxiety, but you have to not put someone on a pedestal or think of this as "the one shot with any woman".

It will make you overthink texts, and even make you hesitate excessively long.

You will be too busy trying to impress her instead of enjoying her company. This will hold you back. t will make you commit too much emotional space to the outcome

If she doesn't text back, hey, this is someone you don't really know very well. You don't know what she is like in a relationship. You just know you find her attractive, maybe appealing, but you have no idea if she's a good partner.

There are other women, do not treat this like your last chance. Look,imagine if a woman treated you like her last chance, and treated your actual personality, and how you both relate, as irrelevant, but instead treated you as a placeholder. That would suck, right? Don't do that and do not carry that mindset with you.

I am going to put the redpill into context for you: it's a scam that works by making you feel like you never really win, and it intentionally makes women out to be scary monsters that will hurt you; It just sells adclicks and ebooks. Drop that. There is a reason it Is an internet phenomenon mostly.

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2025-08-15T18:35:35+00:00

Also, detach emotionally from dating apps. Dating apps suck. If you use one, don't rely on it. There are way more men than women on those, and among women, they are not all serious about being on there. And dating apps/sites are even weirder than when I was young, and they sucked even then.

Do not think of any rando on a dating site as "the one" until you are going out for a while.

If you have other avenues of meeting women, you are better off. Do not invest your self worth on dating sites. Do not attach to people that you have only seen a profile of.

IndicationForeign894 · 2025-08-15T19:24:38+00:00

Nothing will be changed by worrying about this. The world will still be the same the next day no matter if you get a response or not.
I guess there's no correct time frame to ask someone for a date. Buuut you should also try to get to know the person a little to make sure you actually want to take them out on a date not just for the sake of a date. I feel like this is related to the 4th point aswell. Do you feel like you're gonna lose your chance if you dont go hard at it? If they're interested they wont just magically disappear and if they do then maybe they weren't the right person for you.
There is no universal right or wrong thing to say. I mean yeah dont go insulting people you're texting etc like have common decency. There are no correct things to say to women because all women are different thus each of them have their own "correct things" they might be looking for. But in the end if you say things that are true to you they are the "right things", since the goal is ultimately (hopefully) to find someone who loves you for you.

In general, you don't really know these people. The point of texting is to somehow get to know them a bit and assess if they're someone you want to take out on a date or not. It might also help to think about it from their point of view. Perhaps they would be more willing to go on a date with someone they have been texting with for a bit more than a couple days. They probably want to get to know you too before saying yes/asking you out themselves.

If you feel really intense feelings about people (who you dont know) immediately then you might have to slow down a little and think why that is. Physical feelings in your body are often reflective of emotions that you are feeling. To some extent they are good to have, but if they get severe then it would probably be useful to sort out why you're feeling such intense emotions.

Title	Looking for advice on texting and anxiety through ex-redpill filters
Author	AGuyWithoutAName_
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Date	August 15, 2025 3:51 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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