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DiscussionAdhesivenessLevel379/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:53 PM
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People who spout anything about “masculine/feminine energy” PLEASE ignore. They’re fucking clueless and just parroting what the other clueless person on tiktok said. The only thing I agree with is to bin off a guy who asks what you bring to the table. It’s tacky and rude and tells me he’s socially inept and/or chronically online. No, being a woman isn’t enough for a relationship. Things that matter are compatibility, logistics and genuine attraction/affection for one another with the maturity an…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 12:55 AM
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If someone tries to tell me how to enter my “feminine energy” one more time I am going to start crawling up the walls I stg
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 12:25 AM
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Idk why wanting a peaceful home and a non combative partner is seen as something exclusive to men. I also have no interest in a partner that stresses me out and gives me a headache, isn’t that just a given for everyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 12:23 AM
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Work but also stay home? I mean you could get a WFH job but they’re not exactly “traditional”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 12:21 AM
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How would you behave if you were expressing your masculinity unencumbered exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:21 PM
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You on about female athletes or women not worshipping female athletes enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:15 PM
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https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/christmas?utm_source=pmax&utm_medium=ppc&utm_campaign=christmas2023&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI75LA4rejgwMVWpRQBh2G_wGHEAAYASAAEgLIbfD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:13 PM
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How is me not worshipping an athlete getting in their way? Hero worship is bizarre whoever is doing it. There are plenty of people I have great respect for without getting weird about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:12 PM
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Not just “chads” just any normal, well adjusted person handles a rejection without getting spiteful. It’s the difference between “no worries have a good one” and “you’re ugly anyway!!”. I’ve literally been told I’m ugly by a guy who offered to buy me a drink and I politely told him I had a bf - not an exaggeration.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:09 PM
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And if she did get trafficked you’d be the first to admonish her for not doing more to prevent it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 01:36 PM
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There’s actually an interesting theory about the shape of a man’s penis being designed to pull out the sperm from the previous man inside the woman’s vagina - suggesting that women are also designed for sex with multiple partners as it means the strongest sperm “wins”. I don’t suggest having back to back raw sex and it kinda sounds like bro science but yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 12:34 PM
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I know plenty of women who are assertive, career focused all the “alpha” traits but also extremely kind and generous and have great relationships. Your issue is forgetting that people are multi dimensional. How I behave at work is completely different to how I am with my fiancé, friends, family etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 09:41 AM
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I’m engaged sweetie. And you’re clearly unable to pick up on satire, work on that rather than crying over what meanies women are for not fucking you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 12:05 AM
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What’s p4p?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 10:54 PM
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Mmm not buying the “stability” selling point buddy, and you still didn’t realise where you misunderstood me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:40 PM
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I’m sure it’s his delightful personality and intellectual prowess
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:32 PM
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What do you bring to the relationship exactly? Don’t act like having a job is special because we do too, as you aptly pointed out. It’s clearly not reading comprehension because you completely misunderstood the point I made.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:30 PM
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You sound like a real charmer, absolute madness you’re still single.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:28 PM
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Because your very issue with women thinking they’re the prize is how you’re coming across. This isn’t an interview, don’t expect someone to be a performing monkey trying to dazzle you with all the reasons you should date them. If you have to ask what they bring to the table, you clearly don’t see it and you two aren’t a match. So keep it moving.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:26 PM
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I bet Chad has those 🤩
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:03 PM
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Okay then. Virgin men are yucky. I demand a 10/10 Chad who makes 8 figures or you’re scum to me. Happy? You’re clearly keen to get this out your system.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 08:58 PM
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How many more times is this going to be posted
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 08:53 PM
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That’s just you projecting your biased interpretation of it. Nobody here is expressing disgust at a woman proposing so we can’t offer insight on why they feel that way. Ask the people in the YouTube comments why they feel that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 08:27 AM
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A traditional woman has traditional values. One of those being that marriage is proposed by the man. It’s fairly straightforward. Most traditional men would also be mortified by a woman proposing to him. My fiancé planned his proposal for months and it was a really special moment for him, if I had done it he would have felt like I took that experience from him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 07:50 AM
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I don’t really care either way, if a woman wants to propose more power to her- but stats show that married men have better quality of life than single men, whereas single women report more happiness than married women. It’s not the case that marriage is a win-win for women and nothing but sacrifice for men. Especially as these days due to social changes and the economy, most couple split expenses, you have to be earning a shit ton of money in order to “provide” for someone which is only a minori…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 07:36 AM
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Teenagers having children isn’t a good thing, pregnancies in women under the age of 20 are classified as high risk by doctors
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:42 PM
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That doesn’t ensure a happy marriage or prevent a dead bedroom though
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:48 PM
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Funnily, the states in the US that preach abstinence the most having the highest rates of teen pregnancy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:02 PM
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I went to catholic school, the extent of my sex education was “pre marital sex make God mad, here’s a graphic slideshow of all the STDs. Btw if you have an abortion you’re going to hell.” Thankfully I had somewhat sane parents who were horrified by this and gave me a proper education.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:00 PM
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Anyone who calls themselves “alpha” or “leader” is cringe as fuck and I’m not too bothered who they end up with
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 12:57 PM
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I’ve already answered your question you window licker
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:08 PM
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No - obviously youth plays a part in attraction, not disputing that. But RP males fixate on it way more. They explicitly say that younger women are better not necessarily because they’re more physically attractive but because they’re more naive and malleable. Which speaks volumes about the type of relationship they desire with a woman. Not really a good faith question when you’ve cherry picked my point and left out other attributes I mentioned…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:35 PM
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r/menandfemales
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:08 PM
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I’m just going off what I’ve seen from RP men - isn’t the whole point of increasing your value (going gym, focusing on career) so that you have more options and that you’re less “replaceable” to women and you can “spin plates”. I’ve seen a lot of fixation on how replaceable people are from the RP community, a lot to unpack there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:35 PM
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Yeah, I feel like it’s pretty common knowledge they don’t want real relationships, they want a yes man who’ll stroke their ego and expect absolutely nothing from them. Hence their fixation on younger women who don’t have a higher education or much real life exposure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:21 PM
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Someone being financially independent doesn’t automatically make them better than you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:17 PM
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Right. So why exactly is that your type?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:03 PM
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So by your definition, a woman who’s over 18 but doesn’t make money? Since your definition of an adult is something who makes money through the value they provide. Which is bizarre, as most people have jobs before they’re 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:47 PM
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Chuckling that’s the only thing he could think of that men can do women can’t. Pissing from a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:37 PM
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What proof is there that a woman without dependents gets more government support than men? Specifically - without dependents
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 12:35 PM
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Lol, those weren’t my worst experiences, just average ones. If I judged those men based on my worst experiences I’d be saying far worse. To work at the bar I worked you had to apply via DM over Instagram so they could check your social media and decide if you’re attractive enough to work there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 08:57 PM
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I can see the cheating. I’ve been a waitress at a restaurant and the chefs are always incredibly flirty with the waitresses (who are often teens), it’s even worse at bars. I would never date someone involved in the club/bar industry they’ll try to fuck anything with a pulse and only hire women they like to look of.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 06:23 PM
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I guess it was probably easier to cheat back then as there was no digital footprint to follow. You would just have to trust that the people around you would keep their mouth shut and have an explanation for your whereabouts. It’s a double edged sword but everyone having autonomy in dating is a good thing. My friends parents divorced due to her father being physically abusive and putting her mother in hospital. Her church completely shunned her. She could attend mass but they’d all blank her and …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 06:22 PM
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Anything but an actor or a lawyer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 06:13 PM
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I understand police but I’m curious about why not chefs
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 06:13 PM
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Regarding your last para - from what I heard from my grandparents, it was common for men of that time to hand over their entire paycheque to their wife who would handle the entire homes finances and then give her husband an allowance. Domestic abuse from women was also a lot more accepted, they’d joke about waiting up for your husband with a frying pan in hand when he comes home from the pub hours later than he said he would (obviously back then you couldn’t just text and let her know). I just f…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:53 PM
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Tbh the gross ones I lived with had plenty of girls over but I guess when you’re 18-21 that’s not something you factor in that much. It’s concerning if the only reason you remove skidmarks is if you’re having a girl over. Funnily enough the super clean guys I lived with were both gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:48 PM
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Interesting. All throughout uni I had both male and female housemates and the women were usually mid level clean, not gross but not super strict with it either. From what I’ve seen women usually have more stuff so their space may be messier/more cluttered. The guys I lived with either had kitchenware in their room collecting mould (I knew a guy who would just reuse pans without washing them and then throw them out when they were too gross to use) and bathrooms that were biohazards or they were m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:39 PM
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Ahh hope you’re okay!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:18 PM
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I’m not underestimating the effort I’m telling you the frequency of those things are very different. A guy who mows the garden twice a month isn’t doing nearly as much as someone who cooks daily, does dishes, hoovers, keeps surfaces clean, raises kids etc. but given you’ve not been responsible for these things your ignorance is understandable Let’s be real the average modern man can’t even change a tire let alone do any maintenance work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 04:40 PM
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Again - I rent a flat in a city centre, we have a garden but the landlord has a gardener. Unless you live somewhere that’s falling down around you I really doubt you’re doing repairs as often as you do indoor housework. Maintenance stuff like creaky doors/mould/fixing the boiler I’ve fixed myself, it doesn’t take that long and you don’t have to do it that often.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 04:13 PM
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Yard work and home maintenance aren’t done as often. If you rent somewhere like most young people do, you don’t really do home repairs at all you call your landlord and wait 6 months for him to sort it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:51 PM
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Yeah I get that, I think dirty is very different to messy - I can be messy but my home would never be dirty if that makes sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 02:38 PM
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On weekends we smoke weed and blast music while we clean our home it’s something I genuinely look forward to during the week
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 01:02 PM
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This is someone you’re in a relationship with?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 01:01 PM
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Yeah, I like my job and I like my partner who I’ve chosen to marry. Big up the suffragettes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 12:56 PM
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Male breadwinners aren’t the ones getting flack for not doing housework. It’s men who preach “50/50” until they’re blue in the face until it’s time to do the dishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 12:14 PM
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Homicides and assault for one
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 10:39 AM
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I mean, that is the definition of weaponised incompetence - doing something so badly it’s less headache for her to just take over. You’re a big brave boy you can figure out how to clean properly, I believe in you!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 09:57 AM
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I’m engaged to a Chad, so thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 01:14 AM
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I know. That’s why I’m saying it’s not a privilege that women can have casual sex easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 12:52 AM
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What’s that to do with my comment? Rant somewhere else
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 12:52 AM
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Sorry can we talk about those “compliments” real quick
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:28 PM
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Being used as a fleshlight by a stranger doesn’t mitigate loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:47 PM
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Well, I’m engaged so it worked out for me. Usually the first time you sleep with someone isn’t the best but anything’s possible with a can do attitude
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:26 PM
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Because they don’t agree with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 03:47 PM
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Same premise as when male friends get angry when their female friend isn’t interested in them despite giving no indicators. People aren’t always reasonable when they feel rejected/hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 02:38 PM
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I think there’s two sides to it. Women should practise more caution but it’s also pretty shitty for a man to do all the things I listed above and then act outraged when the woman thinks something more serious is going to come of it. Not everything’s purely black and white or a case of just one persons fault 🤷🏼‍♀️ If the mans explicitly clear in his words and actions he only wants sex and she still catches feelings, that’s on her to remove herself from the situation. Not hang around hoping he’ll …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 02:16 PM
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I agree there’s a spectrum, that’s why I think unless you’re very good at separating feelings from sex (which most women aren’t) just don’t have sex unless it’s explicitly clear both of you want a relationship or are already in one. Almost all FWBs/situationships I’ve seen that don’t lead to a relationship result in someone getting deeply hurt. Just not worth it imo. My friend had a set of “rules” which were - no texting unless to plan a hookup, no cuddling after sex (because that’s when the oxy…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 02:11 PM
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Talk about cherry picking lol - those things combined with the others is what makes it misleading The most efficient “strictly sex” situations I’ve seen where nobody gets attached - they usually only talk occasionally to plan the next hookup and some small talk. Going on date nights and paying for romantic getaways is not typical “I only want sex” behaviour. I do those things with my platonic friends but I usually don’t fuck them after.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 01:39 PM
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I wasn’t arguing that women prefer small dicks
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 01:03 PM
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Hasn’t happened to me but this is what’s happened to friends of mine. It’s when they’re casually sleeping with someone and the guy will say “I love you” talk about wanting to introduce her to his family/friends long phone calls/facetimes take her on dates/trips away have long, deep conversations where he opens up about his past traumas, mental health etc. the ole “I’ve never told anyone this but…” gets jealous at any mention of her seeing anyone else one guy started a conversation about what bab…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 12:31 PM
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Porn is problematic for both genders. I’m sure you’ve seen endless jokes comparing women’s labia to roast beef sandwiches as women in porn typically have very little labia. Let’s be honest no men are saying they prefer women with a lot of labia. As well as endless comments that women who’ve had multiple partners are “loose”. “In porn I’ve seen-“ okay so porn is not real life. Let’s get that out the way. Irl you do get “size queens” but the majority of women: A. Orgasm through clitoral stimulatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:54 AM
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Wasn’t it some Greek guy who decided big dicks were a sign of being dumb which is why Greek statues usually have small ones
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:25 AM
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Most men feel that way about small dicks. I’ve known guys deeply insecure for having a 5/6 incher when that’s literally average and can do a great job. You act like it’s only women who use “small dick” as an insult.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:23 AM
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Not related to dick size but it’s kind of a known thing that guys who brag about their abilities in bed tend to be all talk. Whereas guys who are more laid back and don’t tell everyone what a Casanova they are bring a better time. I guess small dick energy is the same premise as “little man energy” aka overcompensating for something lacking. To me an example of small dick energy are those guys who obnoxiously rev their cars lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:04 AM
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Very plausible hypothetical
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:40 AM
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If he’s busy shagging half the town sounds like I’d have plenty of time for my personal trainer. What would he know.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:29 AM
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https://www.firstpost.com/world/bereft-of-love-japanese-people-have-lost-romantic-ability-leading-to-low-birth-marriage-rates-says-politician-12219282.html#:~:text=Not%20many%20Japanese%20women%20see,colleges%20has%20seen%20an%20increase.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:26 AM
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Shouldn’t be a big deal if I get a little side action too then
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:25 AM
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What would be your price for being in a relationship where the woman can cheat as much as she likes but you have to stay loyal. We all have a price, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:24 AM
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Men here are sooo delusional and think all women would leap at this opportunity if a guy was rich and tall. Then they see all of us say nope and go “ok but you’re lying”. 💀 Like why even ask if you already have the answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:22 AM
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Why are you so keen for women to say yes to this lmao. Polyamory is different to what you’re proposing - one sided cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:15 AM
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In that situation I’d politely ask someone to leave or pull the “I have an early morning and I’m kinda tired soooo…”. And btw I’m not defending the woman in the story. From the sounds of it he made his stance clear from the get go and dragging it out was just embarrassing for her, I would have just gathered up my self respect and bounced. But I also don’t agree with how he went about it, that’s all. It’s not what you say - it’s how you say it. Like the other person said a normal person would hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 09:03 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 07:19 PM
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I didn’t find it to be “emotional labour” to treat that guy with kindness and respect when I was in the same situation as OP. Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:34 PM
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Obviously it was paraphrasing and this is just the gist of what was said. I got the same message across, we hugged and he was fine. We both got the best outcome from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:26 PM
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People on Reddit are weird, man. They act like being nice takes a huge toll on them and they simply won’t do it unless they absolutely have to or they have an ulterior motive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 03:53 PM
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Wasn’t particularly charming either to say “if sex is off the table can you get out”.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 03:22 PM
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I’ve been in this guys shoes before and I went about it very differently. Rather than saying “get out if we’re not going to have sex” I told him he was great and I didn’t want to hurt his feelings but I didn’t want anything more than what we currently had. Wished him all the best, talked it out until he felt okay and then we parted on good terms. Didn’t cost me a penny to be nice about it either, how crazy. Like yeah nobody owes anyone anything etc etc but why do people act like being kind is a …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 03:02 PM
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Because I’m not the Fun Police?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 10:07 AM
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Yeah idk, I got catcalled the most when I was a preteen/teenager in school uniform
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:20 AM
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Then that’s their issue? It’s up to you what “have fun” looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:19 AM
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Thanks :) I honestly feel really lucky I ended up falling in love with a man. Things would be really tricky in my family and personal life if it was a woman. Friends of mine who are more masc have been harassed by men and called slurs or been offered to “fuck them straight” 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 06:43 PM
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They’d go nuts if they ever looked up LoveHoney
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 06:20 PM
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Jesus of Nazareth
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 06:15 PM
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Do I even want to know what dog pill is
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 06:10 PM
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Ok as a bi woman who is very feminine and “passes” for heterosexual this is my 2 cents. I am very privileged that I “look straight” and have a male partner. When I dated women in the past, we would never hold hands or have any affection in public. The one time I pecked my gf as I was getting on a train we were both aggressively catcalled. There are cases of a lesbian couple in my city being beaten up for cuddling up together on a bus. I’ve been asked graphic details of my sex life, a guy once of…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 06:08 PM
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Transmaxxing 😅 just when I think I’ve seen it all
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 06:03 PM
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Mothers who hate their husbands are often the worst MILs as they turn to their son to meet their emotional needs that are being neglected by their husbands. The single mothers I know of tend to be more self sufficient and don’t lean on their sons as much but that’s my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 05:05 PM
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Sure. Or you could actually discuss it at length, get to the root of the issue and work on resolving that. Maybe there’s a bigger issue in the relationship, maybe the eco friendly deodorant you’ve just started using isn’t cutting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:27 PM
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Like I said, dead bedrooms are often a symptom of bigger issues in the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:25 PM
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From a young age I was told to pick a career that would easily allow me to go part time once I had children. I think feminism now has now calmed down from the point where the only way to be feminist was to wear a power suit and work a 9-5 and from what I see women are generally more accepting of SAHMs. However, I do believe in fail to prepare, prepare to fail. Half of marriages end in divorce, placing your entire wellbeing into your husbands hands is not a gamble I would personally take. But eac…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:12 PM
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Agree with the last point. I’ve known women who’ve forgiven their bfs for the most heinous shit but will cut off their long term close friends over a misunderstanding. With all the “what do you bring to the table” talk I think a lot of relationships have become very surface level and transactional. When you look at things that way, you’re always going to feel dissatisfied and like you could get a better ROI elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:05 PM
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Haven’t been there for ages but Ive seen some posts of men venting their outrage that their wife won’t sleep with them even though he works and makes money - even though they’ll mention she works too (“she always uses the excuse that she’s tired from work”). Like… how can you be shocked she doesn’t want to sleep with you if that’s your attitude
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 01:06 PM
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The deadbedroom sub is pretty telling about this matter. You’ll also notice a lot of cases where the woman has a higher libido than her husband/bf. To answer your question: it really depends how big the discrepancy is. If one of you wants to have sex twice a week and the other would prefer every other day - you can work with that. If one of you wants sex twice a week and the other only once every 3 months - probably not. How you deal with it also matters. In some cases where men have the high li…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 12:42 PM
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That’s why it’s so important who you pick to have children with. If nothing else I’d make sure my kid had better things to do than to watch that RP shit. When I was a kid every evening I was either playing sport, studying or with my friends, I didn’t have the time for all of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 08:48 AM
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The masculine role model would be his father
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 08:14 AM
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Involve him in sports and other activities young and ensure he’s socialised as much as possible. Being sociable from a young age is really important for development, confidence and interpersonal skills. My fiancé and I are both pretty outgoing so I hope this would be passed down. I would leave most of the rearing to him and be very happy if he inherited the same morals/values and approach to dating and socialising
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 11:26 PM
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It wasn’t relevant to my situation which you responded to
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 09:31 PM
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I’ll inverse what actually happened with me and my fiancé. If he saw some old crappy pictures of me and wasn’t interested - then met me irl and realised I’m cute and he’s attracted to me, I wouldn’t care. We’ve both gone through our old cringy photos and laughed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 09:20 PM
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What kind of equivalency is that? Before my fiancé I barely used dating apps and I never slept with anyone I met from them. I had one LTR before him who I also met irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 09:16 PM
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Tiktok isn’t real life. I’ve been going to coed gyms for years and haven’t had any major issues. Weird guys usually go away if you ignore them/politely reject them, no drama. Because I live in an area with a lot of BAME people my gym now has a women’s only sections. Funnily it’s much tidier than the men’s area, except men still go in there to take our equipment. I wouldn’t mind segregating them so I can enjoy clean equipment that’s been put back instead of having to go for a treasure hunt for ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 09:14 PM
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Nope. It was only a few weeks. I wouldn’t even call it a rejection as he didn’t reach out, it was our friends clumsy attempt at matchmaking. I knew I was his “type” but not that he was attracted to me or liked me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 07:29 PM
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Not sure, but we laugh about it now. He knows his Instagram back then was awful and didn’t blame me for not being interested lol. I didn’t have a roster of men at the time, nobody rejected me or dumped me I just wasn’t feeling him based on some random pictures and I turned out to be wrong. It happens. I didn’t “settle” or treat him as a safe bet, I fancied him when I met him in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 06:46 PM
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Potentially? It’s not the same but when I met my fiancé at a party, my friend sent me his Instagram beforehand saying “you’re his type what do you think of him etc” and I said I wasn’t interested. His pictures were old and unflattering and without meeting him there was no way for me to know how well we clicked. Obviously we met and he was way hotter irl and we clearly got on well
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 05:25 PM
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You’re making the assumption she’s only going for you after she got rejected by other men. If that’s the case then yeah sure that’s a valid answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 05:08 PM
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I think the reason more people are single is more complex than just the rise of dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 03:57 PM
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Where do dating apps come into this? Nearly Half of all couples meet online so I think there’s something to be said for them. Sounds like you’re saying people shouldn’t date at all. Meeting someone through friends or work is arguably staying in your comfort zone as you have things in common and familiarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 03:52 PM
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What’s makes you believe people don’t know themselves well enough to know what they want from a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 03:48 PM
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It depends - they can also be used as a way to meet people outside of your usual circles. It really depends how someone choose to use them. It’s also not unreasonable to want to be with someone you’re compatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 03:37 PM
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What’s the reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 03:30 PM
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Why? Maybe you’re better looking in person than in pictures. Most guys I know are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 02:47 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 02:46 PM
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I met my fiancé at a mutuals birthday party, my friend had sent me his Instagram beforehand saying “you’re his type what do you think of him” and I said I wasn’t interested. His pictures were old and unflattering and without meeting him there was no way for me to know how well we clicked. We laugh about it now but really made me realise how rough online dating must be.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 02:39 PM
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Unless you mean drag/super glam makeup - regular makeup isn’t painting and reshaping a whole new face. For most women day to day it’s just covering up skin imperfections and mascara. Idk any woman who looks drastically different without her “everyday” makeup unless she regularly wears full beat. OP is talking about everyday makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 12:49 AM
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What’s lacking exactly? There are now endless lines of skincare for men, haircare, beard grooming, gym/fitness info. Plastic surgery is becoming more common among men, even height extending surgery. There are even makeup lines specifically for men who want to subtly enhance their looks - https://warpaintformen.com/products/daily-essentials-set. I’m genuinely curious what you think men are being denied of in terms of artificial means to improve their looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 12:08 AM
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Makeup doesn’t help either of those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 10:27 PM
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Women also get shamed if they don’t. If you work a white collar job you’re expected to look the part. Like men being clean shaven wearing an ironed shirt. Not wearing makeup to work makes you look sloppy and you haven’t made an effort so it’s damned if you do and damned if you don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:25 PM
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Sorry to hear that you were picked on even by your mum, that’s horrible. I have an “almond mum” so I know the pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 02:20 PM
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What are the DV murder rates on this?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 11:01 AM
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Find more lovely what?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 08:31 PM
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How is it stepping on other women by simply hiring them for a job they already do? Do you have the same energy for high earning men who hire gardeners?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 08:08 PM
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She’s not in a relationship with her nannies and housekeepers… besides, they’re getting a paycheque to feed their kids for their work, so what’s the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:37 PM
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Okay, go make all the male friends you desire nobody’s stopping you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:36 PM
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Then why are women always blamed for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:17 PM
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Men: we have an loneliness epidemic and nobody cares! Also Men: there are no good reasons to be friends with a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:04 PM
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How does OP exhibit it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:00 PM
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What do you mean by “a real man doesn’t let his wife do everything unless he’s a full time lawyer” lthat’s very specific
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 03:20 PM
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I don’t think there is a rigid “ideal” in terms of logistics - everyone’s different. Ultimately the best relationships are where both people are dedicated to building a good life together, have shared goals and values. Logistics matter a LOT - if one of you wants to live abroad and the other wants to stay in your hometown that’s an issue. How do you manage your finances, how would you want to raise your kids, do you share religious/political beliefs enough it’s not a point of contention. People …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 03:01 PM
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Not really. If anything not going to college is a plus as you’re not saddled with a ton of debt. Degrees are so common and many of them useless, I don’t think they hold the same social status unless you go somewhere very prestigious.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 01:46 PM
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And TRP sub is quarantined and they refer to women as “plates”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 01:03 PM
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FDS is nowhere near the level of unhinged as TRP, it doesn’t teach how to ruin your partners self esteem so they don’t leave you (dread game).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 12:37 PM
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I’m sure Rome was built by a man who had a bitch fit about his gf having social media or breathing near other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:58 PM
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Maybe because some men aren’t nice to be married to
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:54 PM
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Yep. Have you ever even been in a relationship? You should like a 15 year old who’s spent too much time listening to fresh and fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:51 PM
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She’ll get it from someone else and be just fine
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:51 PM
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No but being controlling is
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:43 PM
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I’ll pass on the message!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:37 PM
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You can be monogamous without being “submissive”.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:33 PM
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Life’s way too short to be held hostage by your pride. Sad way to live. If you like someone, make it known. What’s the point in being with someone if you can’t be open about what you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:26 PM
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Oh dear. I have male friends and go clubbing. Better break the bad news to my fiancé.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:23 PM
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What does “submits to you” look like. Do you want a gf or a yes man?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:20 PM
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Ok but what happens when both people think “I won’t ask for commitment or monogamy because if they wanted it, THEY’D ask ME” then you have two people tiptoeing around each other and their egos. Nothing gets done.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:19 PM
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What does closing all other options look like? Most men here complain they have none to start with
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:18 PM
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One time a guy rubbed his crotch on me on the train does that count
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:19 PM
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Not unless they give me a reason to by saying/doing something creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 09:22 PM
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I don’t really get the ick from men just by looking at them, but enlighten me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 09:18 PM
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He was probably wondering wtf was wrong with her eyes 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 08:57 PM
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Abortion in North Korea was banned in 2015 and some birth controls are banned (IUDs). I suspect that’s why they have a higher birth rate despite their living conditions. They also have a much higher infant mortality rate that countries in the west - (15.4/1000 compared to 4.2/1000 in the UK).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 04:41 PM
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Your rebuttal to facts about the economic state of the world making it very difficult and unappealing to bring children is ridiculous incel lexicon
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 04:11 PM
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The birth rate is lowest in Japan and Korea where feminism is nowhere near as advanced as the West. The issue is the insanely high cost of living. Most people struggle to keep their heads above water and literally can’t afford another mouth to feed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 04:06 PM
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If I’m dying it sounds like a doctor would be pretty handy. Also in your example am I locked in my house or something? I can’t go out and buy water? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:39 PM
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https://amp.theguardian.com/world/2022/nov/19/fear-older-future-japan-south-korea-birth-fertility-rates-population “While the low birthrate problem may seem important on the surface, the real issue is that no one is taking responsibility,” Jung said, referring to the high cost of raising a child and real estate prices – not least in Seoul, where the average price of an apartment in has doubled in recent years.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:32 PM
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Real question: if there was a guarantee you could get away with it, would you commit SA?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:22 PM
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You realise there are more ways to contribute to society outside of being a plumber?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:16 PM
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Businesses outsource labour from developing countries as it’s cheaper. The US mainly do it for tech related services.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 02:09 PM
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You can accept someone’s agency to leave a friendship but still be upset it had to happen. Doesn’t he also only see her as a utility for himself if he won’t be around her unless sex is involved?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 01:56 PM
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55% of med students are women, same for law students too. If your pet gets ill most likely you’ll be taking it to a woman as 80 of vet students are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 01:51 PM
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Are you like her?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 01:33 PM
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Freud is spinning in his grave
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 01:28 PM
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Date your mum then and stay away from the pesky females
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 01:24 PM
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It’s funny how males here are so unfamiliar with friendships where you open up to eachother and are vulnerable they refer to it as being an “emotional tampon” rather than just like… being a friend and having a connection with someone? I feel bad for you, what an isolated existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 01:23 PM
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It’s about realising you were operating in a reality that didn’t exist. Thinking you had a good friend, and then realising that friend had ulterior motives and just wanted to fuck you. Forget who’s entitled to XYZ - do you not realise that’s the reason she’s upset?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 01:21 PM
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I asked what’s attractive about sleeping with a woman who isn’t actively consenting and participating, aka sexually assaulting her If someone’s a murderer they’re clearly tapped in the head already, the SA isn’t about sex drive it’s about the gratification from overpowering/violating someone, which sane people don’t have
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 11:13 AM
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Not me but my aunt - she’s a nurse and back in the day she really fancied this doctor. She put eye drops people use for MRIs to make her pupils expand as she heard it’s alluring to men or some shit so walked around her hospital all day partially blind. Sadly did not do the trick but makes for a funny story.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 11:04 AM
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Plus the fact more women are outnumbering men graduating university nowadays
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:53 AM
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Sex and SA are very different things - I’m talking about the latter. Nobody sane views rapists in a positive way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:51 AM
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I never really got what’s attractive about sleeping with someone who isn’t enthusiastically consenting/participating
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:46 AM
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I like to think most men are morally opposed to SAing women, not merely just holding themselves back from doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:44 AM
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Why would productivity sink?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:36 AM
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Men don’t SA women because they’re horny, it’s rarely anything to do with sexual drive/attraction it’s about the power of violating someone in the most invasive way possible. If that were the case all men with a sex drive would SA people. I think some men would be happier with a lower sex drive and be able to work on their lives without being motivated by sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:33 AM
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I don’t really understand talking about it at all. I’ve never taken an interest in who my fiancé slept with before he met me. I made him get an STI test before we slept together, he was all clear, that’s all that mattered to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 09:13 AM
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This is just degrading to men. You aren’t charities or pity projects and women fare much better at being single long term than men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 09:04 AM
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Where is the long term gain in dating someone you find unattractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 09:01 AM
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There are men here who expect paternity tests to be subsidised by the government? Wow the entitlement never fails to surprise me here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 11:05 PM
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You’d rather be with someone you resent than be single? That’s just desperation, don’t put that on your gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 11:01 PM
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If the consequences are that bad just leave the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 09:50 AM
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Agreed. The only time in my life I really felt “lonely” was a few years ago and I had a bf and was in a group of friends I was around 24/7. None of those relationships were genuine or fulfilling and I felt less lonely once I left those.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 09:27 AM
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You realise child support is to feed/clothe the child, not for the mother to enjoy the finer things?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:21 PM
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Just because you’re being “allowed” doesn’t mean you have to do it. Women’s autonomy doesn’t impede on yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:49 PM
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You can’t do in utero paternity tests until 8 weeks at the very minimum, which is past the threshold of when a woman can have an abortion in many states.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:13 PM
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It wouldn’t be fair to allow financial abortion past the threshold of when a woman can have an abortion. Because what is she supposed to do at 6 months pregnant and all the sudden he pulls the rug? And before people bring up late term abortions - they are very rare and usually in the case where the mother or foetus’ health is at risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:12 PM
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Agreed, that’s why I find the whole concept ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:10 PM
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That’s too bad. Use your power where you have it, wear a condom/don’t have casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:54 PM
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Men also have a choice in who they sleep with and if they wear a condom, what? Why are you unable to understand it takes two to create a child?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:45 PM
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Men can wear condoms or just not have sex with anyone they don’t want to raise a family with. What would men having the legal right to abort look like? It’s not “equal” because biologically we are not equal. You do not have uteruses. Giving children up for adoption is massively stigmatised and there are many men who abandon their kids. I know a guy with a 12 year old daughter he has 0 involvement with bitching about his taxes go towards public schools as him “paying for other people’s kids to go…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:43 PM
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That’s why it’s men who have parallel families, not women 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:45 PM
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Because men want sex/companionship and aren’t going to just stop pursuing it to level the playing field for men who can’t
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:22 PM
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Okay, and many people have experienced men singing a very different tune once they realise they’re not going to fuck them for being a pleasant person. There’s multiple sides to it. For your first point - I mean yeah if you’re saying something nasty ofc people are going to think you’re the “bad kind of nice guy”?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 12:10 PM
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That’s only the case for people who are only nice when there’s an ulterior motive, not for every single nice person.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 11:55 AM
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Where is anyone saying we should all start being awful to one another just because we can?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 11:29 AM
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I’m not hostile to anyone but I don’t expect pay out for it. Apart from my close friends and family I don’t actually expect anyone to give a shit about me or my issues but I’ll be polite/pleasant to everyone regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:56 AM
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Ok but what’s that to do with the statement that if you’re only being kind because you have an ulterior motive, you’re not being kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:37 AM
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What does playing your part to maintain balance look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:07 AM
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There are multiple medical journals about women in the 50s being on various drugs - it’s not feminist propaganda. I don’t get any joy from this fact, it’s a huge shame women back then were hooked on those drugs for whatever reason. Prescription drugs today don’t have the detrimental affects that the drugs back then 50s did.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 11:03 PM
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My mother had me at 38 lmao, my friends mum had her kids into her 40s. I’m not denying fertility gets more complicated with age but acting like every woman is barren the day she’s 35 is just silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 10:47 PM
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Examples of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 09:43 PM
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I’ve explicitly said my own experience with men irl means I know this isn’t most men. I’m addressing the men who do believe this. If it doesn’t apply let it fly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 09:43 PM
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There a western countries that aren’t the US btw
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 09:41 PM
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I’m bi and I have dated women before. Never met any who did OF or a crazy sexual past.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 09:40 PM
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Such as?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:32 PM
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Nobody’s stopping men from rejecting women, you’re free to be with who you like
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:21 PM
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There’s no grey or nuance area in this discussions. I go clubbing but not every week and my fiancé usually comes with me. I have a masters degree and work not because I’m a ‘boss babe’ but bc like most people my fiancé couldn’t pay rent by himself and I like my job. I wasn’t a virgin with my fiancé but I hadn’t slept with entire football teams either. I’m very normal and most women I know are in the same boat as me. My fiancé isn’t some weak pushover, he’s a risk my a STEM gym bro but (thank god…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:50 PM
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If the average age of marriage is 28 and the average age women lose their virginity is 17 - 6 partners in 11 years really isn’t that wild. Ofc these are just based on the average statistics and everyone’s different.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:14 PM
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People can be good looking/rich etc and have a desirable personality, the two aren’t mutually exclusive
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 11:33 AM
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Surely being on medication is a sign someone is treating their mental illness and getting help - which is a positive? I just found it a funny observation given how many 50s housewives were on literal cocaine and meth.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 09:51 AM
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I mean it makes sense. I’ve left men when they got controlling and have 0 regrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 09:10 AM
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How are we supposed to tackle sexual loneliness?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 08:57 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:58 PM
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Your lack of reading comprehension doesn’t undermine my point
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:58 PM
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Idk why people struggle so hard with this concept. We’ve never wanted musty men it’s only recently we’ve had a choice in avoiding them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:26 PM
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Not really, your proposal would result in a lot of people being miserable at best, trapped and harmed by abusive partners at worst. Most likely though, majority of people just wouldn’t get married at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 03:35 PM
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Ok, so if you were married to someone physically and emotional abusive, you’d be happy to forfeit your right to leave?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 03:01 PM
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There’s a rise of women out earning their partners so how far does “compensating” go here?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:53 PM
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The result would be victims of abuse unable to leave. Other than that, nobody would get married in the first place if divorce were illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:52 PM
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Maybe that’s an indicator of todays men?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:51 PM
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First sentence also apply to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:09 PM
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Making divorce illegal surely wouldn’t have any negative repercussions you’re right
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:07 PM
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If it makes someone happy and shows them you care why would I get caught up on economic efficiency? Also we don’t really do gifts but experiences/trips
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 12:58 PM
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I’ve done a decent bit of travel and there have been endless times I’ve seen a couple in public and the woman is carrying bags, a baby and has another kid hanging off her while the husband is enjoying his holiday. Given how many marriages end it’s not really ideal for all of your health insurance to be dependent on your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 12:57 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 12:49 PM
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Because she wouldn’t be subservient to him?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 12:11 PM
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Because I’m a generous person and I like to spoil my fiancé, why is it wrong I enjoy to be spoiled back?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 12:10 PM
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Why is having a job playing a “pretend independent game” does that go for everyone or just women?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 12:08 PM
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Like I specified - im talking about working mothers who work all day and raise their kids. The majority of households are dual income you realise? And there’s a difference between a good, present parent and a parent who gets their 7 year old kid to microwave their own dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:06 AM
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Where did you get that idea
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:43 AM
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Just mirroring your choice of words. How is following instructions from her employer on par with being subservient to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:32 AM
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Most jobs don’t require women to get on their knees for their boss
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:27 AM
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You realise how ridiculous it is to calculate based on your pre tax income? That still less than what a parent spends on their own kid. If you can’t afford that, don’t have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:02 AM
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You realise child support is only 12% of your gross weekly income? (for 1 child, for 2 it’s 16% and 3 it’s 19%). Most parents spend far more than just 19% of their income on raising 3 kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 08:43 AM
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The majority of households are dual income, this expectation for men to sustain his partner doesn’t exist and you’re all getting yourself into a twist by your own imagination.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 08:37 AM
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So is having the diet of an unsupervised kid - so sounds like we agree it’s not a match
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 12:48 AM
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I couldn’t even entertain the “fact” about “nutrition”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 12:20 AM
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There’s a difference between not subsidising someone and then just being a cheapskate
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:49 PM
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They’re running on vapes and red bull lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:47 PM
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It’s not really about nutrition - I like cooking and trying a lot of different foods, not really compatible with someone who only eats chicken strips and chips. Tipping isn’t much of a thing in my country so that wouldn’t bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:46 PM
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Yet remains unpicked 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:24 PM
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She’s a next level grifter, I don’t think she even genuinely believes the stuff she says she’s just constantly trying to be more outrageous, get more clicks and her mouth breathing followers fall for it every time
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:19 PM
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Bad hygiene Calls himself “Alpha” 🤢 Takes himself way too seriously/no sense of humour Doesn’t eat fruit/veg (random but a guy I dated briefly had the palette of a 10 year old and it was a huge ick) Rude to staff/servers Always having some sort of drama going on or starting fires for me to put out Wanting me to heal his past wounds/trauma rather than working on himself
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:17 PM
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This seems like a weird thing to harp on - do you disagree with my answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 02:59 PM
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I meant it metaphorically - like get your shit together before pursuing a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 02:56 PM
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A lot of men object to that statement so I have a fairly neutral view that it differs from each individual. I know men who wouldn’t sleep with a woman unless he actually liked her and found her attractive and men who’ll sleep with anyone for the sake of “getting their numbers up” so 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 02:05 PM
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A pick me imo is a woman who puts down other women to lift herself up to seem more “appealing”. It’s a sign of deep insecurity and bitterness toward women they feel threatened by. Non pick me “I don’t like clubbing” Pick me “I don’t like clubbing, unlike other women I’m not trashy and begging for attention etc etc” or whatever drivel they come out with, idk I don’t hang out with those sorts. On the flip side, I think “pick me” is overused as an insult to describe women who simply like/want diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:57 AM
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What negative connotations?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:02 AM
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What kind of jokes were you making?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 09:57 AM
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Same advice I’d give anyone - clean your house before inviting someone in. Be confident enough in yourself that a partner isn’t there to complete you but rather be a nice addition to a nice life. Be interesting, do things outside of work and social media. This should be bare minimum but make sure your finances are in order and you’re self sufficient, putting yourself in a position where you’re financially dependent on a man makes you way too vulnerable. Always have your own savings and income no…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 09:51 AM
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Nobody likes feeling used or only valued for what they can provide for another person, sounds about right
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 09:01 AM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 09:00 AM
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Okay? Not sure what that has to do with my comment
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 09:00 AM
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Doesn’t everyone like a bit of an ego boost?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 08:59 AM
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Not really - my point is everyone has different types and preferences, one persons 5 is another persons 9. An individual woman still knows what she finds attractive or unattractive, it’s just different to what another woman might deem it. Guys here claim they’re always seeing Greek gods with ugly women but if the guy thinks his gf is stunning, what does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:44 PM
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On average men have higher body counts than women. Guys being hornier doesn’t necessarily mean they’d be willing to see a prostitute. Biologically we’re wired to be pickier as we carry the risk of pregnancy as well as other risks. Put it this way - if a girl wants to hookup she can go on an app and find someone willing in 10 minutes. For a guy, it’s a little different as well documented in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:21 PM
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And how do you know how many men are attractive to women? Women have different types, my friends have dated guys I thought were ugly but they thought were gorgeous and that’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:08 PM
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I guess it’s very much dependent on age. I met my fiancé aged 20 when we were both far from finished products and I like to think we’re still working to improve ourselves and be better partners for one another. I’d probably be less interested in a man in his mid 30s that still didn’t have his shit together given my own trajectory.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:07 PM
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Most men I know are in relationships so..?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:03 PM
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I don’t agree with “most men” but overall yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 10:19 PM
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More if someone only views you as sexy and takes nothing else into consideration. You’re just a body he likes the look of, nothing more. we’re always told most men would shag anyone willing so it’s barely a compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 10:19 PM
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I’d guess because we’re constantly told that men would shag anything with a pulse, so knowing that a man wants to fuck you is… underwhelming. Whereas women are generally pickier with who they sleep with so it’s more of a novelty if a woman wants to sleep with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 10:11 PM
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Where exactly? Chances are if the woman didn’t make more money she’d be manipulative regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 07:42 PM
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Just bc your partner makes more than you doesn’t mean they have to maintain your lifestyle?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 05:58 PM
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What do you mean “financial backing” you can manipulate someone regardless of how much money either of you have
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 04:39 PM
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Ah yes because prostitutes have been out of work since it became illegal
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 10:36 PM
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I was addressing the above posters point about being bad at vetting etc. He knows there were red flags etc but bc he was young he overlooked it. Same way I overlooked red flags in my ex because I was young and inexperienced. It’s always the cheaters fault either way ofc and some of them are incredibly sneaky with it so it’s not always as simple as being good at vetting
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 05:05 PM
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Oh yeah a lot of people have a tendency to bleed on people who didn’t cut them. Definitely important to weed those ones out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 03:05 PM
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Fair enough that’s your prerogative. My fiancé was cheated on by his ex but he was very young at the time so I don’t really blame him for it, he’s been to therapy since and it’s never been an issue for us. My ex didn’t cheat (that I know of lol) but he told massive lies. I could use that as a reason to be paranoid and neurotic but I dealt with it and didn’t carry it into future relationships, again I was very young so I have some grace for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 03:00 PM
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I think it’s only an issue if they don’t move on and treat all future partners like they’re waiting for the opportunity to cheat. I couldn’t deal with someone paranoid breathing down my neck 24/7.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 02:52 PM
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You realise family courts want children to have both parents in their life? There is no boogeyman trying to snatch kids away from fathers unless there’s neglect or abuse. The vast majority of fathers who request custody receive it. If I have kids it would be with someone who would prioritise their well-being above all else, whatever that looked like. Children are not pawns or leverage.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 09:08 AM
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In some countries they believe having sex with a virgin will cure AIDS so no, not a lot but that doesn’t mean every country has it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 07:20 AM
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Your first sentence doesn’t make sense. Should I just not leave my house? We all know hot girls lack male attention, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 09:34 PM
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And misogyny’s been around for how long?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 09:30 PM
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I wouldn’t say any of this weird stuff to anyone. Telling a kid they’re useless doesn’t make for a confident, well-adjusted adult which would be my goal if I had kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 09:26 PM
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I mean it doesn’t really bother me as usually they’re pretty chill when I tell them I’m not interested/I have a fiancé. My country is cold as shit I’m not wearing skimpy clothes trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:46 PM
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Why would a virgin want your ran through dick
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:43 PM
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Sorry for being irresistibly gorgeous :/ also funny you equate male attention to bird shit
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:41 PM
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I don’t post them though so what’s your issue here? Like I said im not arsed how other people act online if nobody’s getting hurt
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:45 PM
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I don’t post thirst traps so I wouldn’t be okay with my partner following thirst trap girls online. Idgaf what the rest of you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:29 PM
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If we’re just out and about, more often than not it’s unwanted
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:20 PM
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I was never talking about women dressing scantily either
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 03:24 PM
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I’ve received attention wearing a puffer coat and trackies, was that wanted and therefore cheating? Men don’t gaf what you’re wearing they’ll hit on you regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 02:49 PM
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Women receiving unwanted attention is cheating 💀😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:58 AM
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What do you mean by “playing a second fiddle” to his wife exactly? If they’re both successful and bringing good money into the household
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 11:11 PM
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My fiancé has punched someone at a bar for groping me, it didn’t do much for me and I would have rather he handled it in a calmer way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 07:55 PM
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I live in a dodgy part of a capital city and I’ve lived in other cities before this. It happens for sure but if you’re with someone your odds are much lower. Everyone I know who’s been mugged was alone when it happened. Also, what’s this got to do with me being a higher earner? And assuming they’re attacking both of us - wouldn’t he also be defending himself?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 07:53 PM
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I like to think we both have the good sense to run. Muggers in my city carry knives. I always find these examples so funny. How many times does the average person get mugged? And the odds would be even lower if we were together.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 07:28 PM
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I’m talking about instances of men cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:55 PM
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Do you understand the difference between living by yourself and living with a family you’re partially responsible for
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:56 PM
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If you’re someone who wants a family then you want a partner who can contribute to your household, no? Shits expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:49 PM
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In a LTR, logistics matter and part of that involves finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:43 PM
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Yep, I wasn’t being gender specific. If you treat people badly, that’s on you. Not sure how this is controversial.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:42 PM
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If you choose to treat people badly, that’s on you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:33 PM
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Can be trickier if you want children as that requires time off work which could cause financial strain
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 03:11 PM
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I should make it clear I’m not the woman I’m describing in the post it’s just a hypothetical. That’s the question I’m asking as well here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:53 PM
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That’s crazy lmao, at least his ego is safe now ig
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:37 PM
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On combined 260k surely they weren’t wanting for anything? Plus MBAs aren’t cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:30 PM
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Developing countries having higher birth rates is usually down to lack of education/use of birth control and having more “traditional” expectations in place.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 01:29 PM
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I used to nanny for super rich families which I why I know arguments about money are definitely not exclusive to people who lack it. But it would be interesting to have a more comprehensive breakdown of families who divorce where the woman earns more.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 01:26 PM
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Only if it’s used by different men though! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 01:17 PM
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What’s that to do with my comment? We’re talking about me quitting my high earning job.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:55 PM
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Try the last sentence of my previous comment again. Besides, my parents gave up a lot for me to have a good education, why would I throw away those opportunities to appease a man’s fragile ego? I also plan to take care of my parents when they’re old. Should I expect my husband to do that too?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:50 PM
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Comparing apples to oranges here. Besides, I’m very happy making my own money and spending it how I like, there is no attitude about it. I like my work and find it interesting/challenging, I’d go insane if I wasn’t working.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:43 PM
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Not on his salary alone, no. You realise the majority of households are dual income?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:41 PM
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My single friends who are successful/high earners have been treated worse than any other set of women I know. I wonder if it’s some type of revenge fantasy these men have, or a way to “level”? Glad to hear you found your person!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:37 PM
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I’d say my silly habit of paying rent is the main thing stopping me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:31 PM
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Eh, if he’d be happy to pay for things I like then sure. I wouldn’t sacrifice my lifestyle to appease a man’s ego. I’m not a frivolous spender by any means but I have a couple “splurges” I enjoy. My fiancé makes decent money, he’s by no means struggling to get by so I don’t have to subsidise him in anyway - it’s never been an issue. We’re both young and maybe down the line he’ll outearn me, who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:30 PM
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The main cause of divorce tends to be financial issues - how much money you have tends not to come into it. Marriages are also at higher chance of divorce when the woman earns more but studies don’t fully determine why, other than it’s societally expected for men to be the main breadwinners.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:27 PM
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A lot of men here believe if a woman doesn’t sleep with you early on she’s just not attracted to you and she’s probably sleeping with someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:24 PM
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We have our systems in place to ensure that our relationship is as happy and mutually beneficial as it can be. Neither of us want children so that’s a big factor for us as children typically put a huge strain on marriages. Logistical stuff can be protected with prenups and if we do divorce one day, I wouldn’t regret experiencing the love and joy we’ve had. Better to have love and lost etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:23 PM
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Love a gamble
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 11:59 AM
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Relationships should be a mutual effort to always be there for one another and improve eachothers lives whenever you can. That’s the approach my fiancé have in our relationship and it works for us. I would never expect him to put my needs before him and vice versa. If we’re not improving eachothers lives what’s the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 11:46 AM
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I mean, you chose the example of Gone Girl and you’re cherry picking arguments. Pick me’s are women who put down other women to make themselves seem more desirable aka “I’m not like the others!! Pick me!” They tend to be incredibly insecure and needy for validation from men yet somehow always seem to be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 10:43 AM
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Women are still fertile at 28 lmao, and I didn’t say she necessarily had 0 past relationship experience just nothing current. And why does a relationship equate to putting other people before your own desires? You seem to think relationships entirely hinge on the woman’s behaviour and not the man’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 10:39 AM
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Her personality type is sociopath - she’s not representative of the average woman. And again, she didn’t actually earn much more she just has a rich family.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 10:06 AM
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I make more than my fiancé
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 10:04 AM
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They both lost their jobs in the recession, his bar flopped and he asked for her trust fund to keep their heads above water. In the book, her parents go broke and need trust fund back and he got pissy about it. Besides - the woman is a literal sociopath and she didn’t actually earn more (they were both journalists) she just came from a wealthy family. Okay, so vows only hold water unless the other woman is really hot?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 09:59 AM
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Can you link one? I’ve only seen it from the angle that it’s men who are reluctant to be with women better educated/better paid than them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 09:47 AM
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Didn’t he steal a ton of money from her and cheat on her with a younger woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 09:43 AM
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I’m engaged and work very long hours in IB, he works in cybersecurity. We both accept that our work lives are taxing but we choose to be eachothers rock. I’m so glad that when I have a rubbish day at work he’s there to give me a cuddle and cheer me up and vice versa. I’ve found being in a LTR reduces your odds of any awkward interactions with the opposite sex, especially as I work almost exclusively with men. I guess it could be an issue if one of us got a job opportunity in another country but …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 10:47 AM
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Another projection of insecurities how refreshing. Been with my fiancé 3 years and I’ve never thought about my exes or compared them unless it’s in a positive way for my fiancé. There’s a reason I’m with him and not them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 10:41 AM
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Or rubbing the labia like you’re scratching off a lottery ticket
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 01:10 AM
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You can focus on your career while being in a relationship unless your career requires you to travel a lot. Ultimately nobody needs an “excuse” to not get into a LTR, that’s their business.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 01:05 AM
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You realise most women don’t engage in hookup culture/hedonism? You’ve just been warped by social media. Our generation has less sex and drinks less than every generation before us.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 01:02 AM
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A “traditional” woman wouldn’t be financially independent
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:47 AM
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I thought men were ego driven. Even if it’s casual, are you cool with being seen as lousy in bed?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:44 AM
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Which points?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:27 AM
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Depends on the woman. I’ve had a model try to sleep with me and I didn’t go through with it as it felt too icky sleeping with someone I barely knew even though he was gorgeous.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 10:41 AM
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You realise most women don’t want meaningless sex with randomers?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 09:09 PM
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A lot of relationships struggle after having children because the husband struggles to adjust to no longer being the wife’s main priority and feels neglected by her. The wife then feels that she’s not being given a break as she’s still recovering from birth and now having an extremely demanding infant to keep alive and while this is happening her husbands sad he’s not getting laid enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 05:51 PM
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I think people take issue when said gender roles no longer benefit them
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 05:01 PM
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If a guy is “sweet on someone” he can use his intuition to see if she feels the same, he’s still able to control his actions. Let’s inverse it - if a girl is stuck in a FWB situation with a guy that she likes but he just wants sex, you’d argue that nobody is forcing her to keep sleeping with him and giving him “girlfriend treatment” while not being his girlfriend so the predicament is on her. Not the guy who’s stringing her along because he likes sleeping with her and getting his dishes done. Un…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 01:39 PM
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Idk about that, every time I’ve been hassled on a night out it’s always been women who I don’t even know who’ve stepped in and either told the guy where to go or stuck by me. Men are always either unaware or just don’t care and that’s fine - I don’t think I’m entitled to protection from anyone, I’m just saying I’ve only ever received it from women or my romantic partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 12:50 PM
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Get help
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 12:33 PM
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If the guy is doing all of that he’s doing it of his own volition, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 10:40 AM
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Why would I care how much my friends make
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 09:36 AM
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Enlighten me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 09:32 AM
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My ex was a trust fund baby and didn’t let me pick up a single bill and it still couldn’t make up for our incompatibility, when I dumped him his income wasn’t a factor to me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 09:27 AM
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Which are?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 09:12 AM
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I kinda like my fiancé though. Money doesn’t replace love.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 09:47 PM
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Yeah, so date someone who fits those standards and it’s not an issue. The issue is if you dated someone with A cups and then let her know you only like women with DDs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 09:36 PM
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I must be doing something wrong bc I have more money than my fiancé
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 09:36 PM
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Nobody’s “standards” matter to anyone but them. Date who you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 09:35 PM
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I’m well aware of the atrocities happening to men. My comment was addressing someone diminishing rape and not understanding it as a form of torture
/r/MensRights22/11/23 09:31 PM
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Women have had their pelvises broken from the rapes. It is absolutely torture. Especially as many of these women have been burnt alive and killed after.
/r/MensRights22/11/23 02:46 PM
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Your comment is literally you siding with male Karen’s saying they’re just being “interpreted badly”. But please let know how I “misinterpreted” males starting brawls, groping women or yelling at a bartender and smashing glasses.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:11 PM
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You’ve clearly never worked in a bar ahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:08 PM
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Thank you! Men here love to talk about entitlement but haven’t experienced having someone twice your age get pissy that you won’t give them your number. Also men are way more likely to complain, send stuff back etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:35 PM
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? Do you live in a town of assholes or something
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:33 PM
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I worked in a bar all throughout uni and there are way more male Karens. Everyone I know who’s worked a customer service job has had way more trouble from males. The worse thing a woman ever did was be sick or fall down some stairs. Even the most shitfaced ones would be apologetic and ask me what eyeliner I had on lol. We had countless males who got kicked out for being a lech, starting a fight, being rude to staff etc. Sport nights were complete nightmares. Get your head out your ass and stop a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:30 PM
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People who claim to be done with dating seldom seem to be done talking about it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:58 PM
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They exclusively get clips from a very specific demographic of women and are then like “yep that’s all of them covered”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:32 PM
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Women and their pesky autonomy!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 03:48 PM
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Not really. Both Timothee Chalamet and Jason Momoa are heartthrobs are they’re pretty different to me. Some women like a guy who’s the human embodiment of a cigarette and others like a guy who’s husky. My exes look nothing alike. If women only went for 666 guys we’d have like 4 children being born a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 03:27 PM
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I mean yeah? In the same way most men’s “ideal” is a slim woman with big boobs and ass, why do people get mad that attractive people … are attractive. It just comes across as sour grapes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 03:13 PM
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You’re only seeing 666 guys in relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 03:08 PM
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I think for those guys their only exposure to women is those dumb viral snippets of like 4 women saying they want a tall guy that makes 600k so they’ve now taken that as universal truth
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:56 PM
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The matching hypothesis literally shows that couples within eachothers “leagues” are usually drawn to eachother. Yes everyone’s “ideal” is some smoking hot supermodel, Oscar Isaac or woman equivalent and it doesn’t mean that we don’t find people out of our league attractive but the majority of couples are in the same league. I’ve only ever seen couples that aren’t “matched” when the woman is better looking but y’all aren’t ready for that conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:55 PM
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Funny story about the pupil theory - my aunt is a nurse and back when she fancied this doctor she would put eye drops in her eyes that make your pupils expand (you use them for MRIs) hoping he’d get the hint. Didn’t work out but have to admire the hustle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:59 PM
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Y’all act like no man under 5,11 has ever been near a woman. How does this dispute that you have more couples where the woman is more attractive than the man than vice versa? Men here even admit themselves they’re very visual and prioritise looks in partners. I know unattractive guys who can make up for it by being funny, fun to be around, smart whatever. If you’re an ugly woman you’re just an ugly woman regardless of your other qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:25 PM
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Outside of social media “influencers” which are a tiny minority of women, most women think they’re worse looking than they are. Hence why it’s normal to see a gorgeous woman with an average guy and much less common to see a handsome guy dating an average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 09:16 AM
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Freedom is a fundamental right, not a privilege
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 06:22 PM
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From what I’ve seen plenty of overweight girls get attention
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:01 AM
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What’s your social life like? If you don’t get out much it’s not that surprising. On the other hand, some really pretty girls can be off putting as guys feel like there’s no point in even trying, especially if they have RBF. When I had a “glow up” I got less attention after. Usually, girls who are pretty but approachable get the most attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:53 PM
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A lot of the time when we’re upset about something it’s not that we don’t have the solution - we just feel shit about it and want to vent, it’s that straightforward. For example “my job is shit I hate my boss” “okay so find a new one” like yeah no shit that’s the answer, but chances are she’s already considered it - maybe she can’t find a new job that pays as well, that’s a good distance etc. plus applying for jobs and going through interviews takes a lot of time. Let her feel shit about her job…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 08:54 PM
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https://www.forhims.co.uk/blog/porn-induced-erectile-dysfunction It kinda makes sense. If you’re only used to seeing flawless bodies in porn and then you hookup with someone who doesn’t have big fake tits and non existent labia, in your eyes she’s going to be “less attractive” as you’ve conditioned yourself to get hard for women in porn. Or you’re so used to watching extreme porn that vanilla sex isn’t exciting enough. This is only the case in actual porn addicts - I don’t think normal porn user…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 08:29 PM
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I can see how porn removes incentive for guys to try and hookup and has a negative affect on a lot of people sex lives - hadn’t thought about how this can actually improve dating for men who don’t partake in it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 08:18 PM
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So what do you want? For freedom to be rescinded?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 07:50 PM
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But he sounds like such a catch!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:41 AM
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You’re not doing much to help the stereotypes of Americans being awful at Geography. I can go to and from Milan in a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:27 AM
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The EU is a supranational political partnership which has no bearing on the fact Europe is a continent of which the UK is a part of.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:05 AM
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As a European woman we respectfully pass this man back to the American women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 11:49 PM
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Tbh it sounds miserable being in a relationship where the people are like “I worked X many hours this week and earn this much, therefore you should do XYZ”. My partner and I do a fairly even split of chores but it’s never something we’ve argued about or even kept track of, we’re always looking to make the other persons life easier. I hate hoovering and he doesn’t like laundry so we do those things for eachother, if one of us cooks the other will clean up etc. If one of us works late the other wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:09 PM
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Yeah, idk why men here refuse to acknowledge the fact the majorities of mothers work
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:04 PM
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Go ahead and live your life terrified of what other people may think, I hear it’s really fulfilling
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:44 PM
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SAHM mothers usually aren’t the ones complaining about men’s lack of housework it’s women who also work long hours at their job and still have to do the bulk of housework once they get back. The man gets to half his rent and bills and get his laundry done, it’s a win for him. I’m not a mum but being a stay at home wife would be fun af for like a fortnight and then I’d get bored and start crawling up the walls.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:15 PM
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Build a bear boyfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:12 PM
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Nobodies stopping you from shagging your mates, go for it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:09 PM
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When women choose poorly they can end up dead :/ and yeah iT hApPeNs tO mEn ToO but not nearly as much. In the UK two women are murdered a week by a partner or ex partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:43 PM
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They just want us to “stop having unrealistic standards!!!!!” and date men we find unattractive and dull, simple
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 11:08 PM
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Btw - if you’re out and a girl cockblocks you it’s bc her friend asked her to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 11:06 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 11:02 PM
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Easily done in this booming economy. What if the husband dies?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 10:56 PM
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Being raped?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 08:32 PM
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Let’s hope this very specific scenario of your unearthing emails about your partners old sex life doesn’t happen to you then
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:23 PM
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If you were happy and wanting for nothing in your sex life, why pry into what she did in the past? Its a conversation nobody will enjoy. If I was dating a guy early days and he wanted to know every kinky thing I’ve done in the past I’d tell him to get on his bike.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:21 PM
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You realise everyone wants to feel like their partners best option? And again, in what scenario would you know so much about your partners past sex life? Very weird
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 06:46 PM
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I mean without specifying what the act is idk what to make of that. Is this even something that happens regularly?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 06:35 PM
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“Let’s it slip” lmao, as one casually does. I’d assume she was a weirdo and pay her no mind. The point is we’re both very happy and fulfilled in our relationship so why care about eachother past relationships that ended many moons ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 06:14 PM
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How does that compare to doing something sexual one time and realising you hate it and not wanting to do it again?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 06:13 PM
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Ngl it’s very weird to have this much detail about your partners exes. I’ve never asked my fiancé what he and his exes did sexually or otherwise and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 05:23 PM
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Subjecting her to a sex act she doesn’t want is “fair”?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 04:48 PM
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Can I ask why this is? Like what if she tried something with a past partner that she didn’t like so doesn’t want to do again - why does that mean she now has to do that thing with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 04:21 PM
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It sounds you’d be compatible with someone asexual or with a low sex drive. Romantic relationships require compatibility or one person feels pressured and the other feels neglected.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 01:28 PM
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We’re in the UK and she was 20 at the time - I’m pretty sure she went private and paid out of pocket 2-3k. Very unlikely the NHS would have covered it and if so, she would have been on a waiting list for years. On the plus side she has no complications and is happy she got it - some surgeons leave women butchered with irreversible damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 11:21 AM
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How a vagina feels is also related to where you are in your menstrual cycle - when your period is close your cervix drops, whereas it’s typically higher during your follicular/ovulation phase. For me sex feels a lot “deeper” during during my luteal phase and my fiancé says it feels tighter for him 🤷🏼‍♀️ the more ya know. Only morons think that how much labia you have is any indicator of your sexual history or how “tight” you are. My friend had a labiaplasty (it was causing problems other than co…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 10:24 AM
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My friend got labiaplasty (in her case her labia was causing her pain and chafing so it wasn’t purely cosmetic) her ex said that “he didn’t mind, but it was clear she’d been around the block” 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 10:15 AM
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People tore her apart for having a “mom bod” bc she has big boobs and a stomach that isn’t completely flat. They were absolutely not praising her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:04 PM
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Probably because after years of wearing baggy clothing, when she did one shoot in something revealing everyone lost their shit and made comments on her body
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:03 PM
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I can see why her view is skewed due to the endless scrutiny and criticism she’s dealt with over her weight and appearance since she was underaged. There are memes all over Reddit about her gaining weight while she was still a normal, healthy weight. That’s bound to screw someone up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 07:37 AM
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Most women in porn don’t make much money and often leave the industry broke. Calling it an economic opportunity is a joke. Where are my feelings mentioned in the OP? It’s based off the fact the industry is exploitative and has resulted in many women being physically hurt and traumatised.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 05:39 PM
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Hadn’t considered that angle but good point. When I learned recently is that a pornstars career is typically less than a year, and they don’t even get paid that much (a few hundred per scene, depends what it is) and what they do get paid mostly goes into maintenance - hair, nails, waxes, their own outfits/lingerie etc aren’t cheap. Most leave the porn industry broke and now have a much harder time finding a job. I don’t think someone’s history of sex work should have any bearing on their career …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:59 PM
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What about the dads that willingly leave?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:19 PM
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Female teachers having sex with boys is reprehensible but you can justify having sex with a 14 year old?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 03:48 PM
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Good thing I picked a different career then, I’m the youngest on my team by several years and considered a kid at my job
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:09 PM
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Not opposed to it, but I imagine that stance would cause an uproar. If porn were completely banned, it would still be produced and distributed but illegally which would bring about more exploitation as there would be no regulations in place protecting the actors. Child porn is illegal but we all know there’s no shortage of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 01:31 PM
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Here in the UK you can consent to sex at 16 but you can’t do porn then - two separate things
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:20 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 09:51 AM
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There’s no way for future employers to ever know about your previous sex life if it’s not been recorded and distributed online. Also, far fewer people participate in hookup culture than you realise. Statistically we’re all hooking up way less than our parents generation. In porn it’s not sex for enjoyment - it is a performance people for money. The sex itself is usually very dull, imagine having a camera 1 ft away from your ass while you’re trying to fuck and you’re under studio lighting and con…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 09:29 AM
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Consent for regular sex? 18 is fine. But let’s not act like having sex is anything comparable to joining an industry known for exploiting vulnerable women and having lifelong impacts on them. Hence why the age threshold should be higher so women can spend at the first 3 years of their adult lives exploring other option before jumping into porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:56 AM
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Not opposed to it, just think it’s an impossible task. Even by banning the production of new porn there’s still a crazy amount currently online and what people have downloaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:48 AM
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Think you’re reaching a bit there. I meant life paths that don’t have such high rates of mental health struggles and drug abuse that porn is well known for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:46 AM
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Not really, slavery and trafficking is rife in the world if just happens in different countries than before.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:45 AM
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Why wouldn’t I just directly blame her dad? Is he catatonic or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:44 AM
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I’m guessing he’s referring to online porn how it is now, it’s only relatively recently we can access thousands of hours of content with little/no effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:42 AM
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I guess by banning the production and distribution of porn we’d still have a crazy amount of porn that’s already out there, that people have downloaded and can reupload. Men here get so outraged when they talk about banning porn they forget that online porn has only been around 20 years or so. Before you then had to buy a movie in person and porn back then was far less violent than what’s commonly seen today.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:41 AM
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Pornstars actually make very little money. Most of it goes to the directors and producers. I’m fine with them losing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:34 AM
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I don’t find it icky I’m not really bothered from that side of it - it’s more about reducing the number of women exploited by the industry and later turning to drugs/suicide
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:33 AM
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They can use those 3 years to explore other life paths 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 08:29 AM
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AI porn sounds ideal - nobody gets hurt or exploited in making it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 01:19 AM
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It’s alarming how much violent porn is being produced and it’s definitely having a bad impact on young people watching it today - but idk how we’d get the genie back in the bottle now
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 01:16 AM
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How the performers are treated has an impact on how young viewers think sex should look, so there’s that angle. I hadn’t really considered the idea of outright banning it bc everyone would get hold of it illegally, idk what difference it would make.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 01:13 AM
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I have mixed opinions about outright banning porn but I would be curious to see it happen for a short period (although everyone would just get hold of it illegally so what difference would it really make)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 01:10 AM
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So what’s your favourite kind of window to lick?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 01:06 AM
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Ok, what are the downsides to not having people in porn under the age of 21 to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:53 AM
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What’s your leg day routine bc that jump was impressive
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:41 AM
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Doing porn is not a human right 😂 and again, I’m talking about all performers not just women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:39 AM
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I realise the wording in my title was bad sorry 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:32 AM
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At 23 I’d be a hella young grandma but go off
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:21 AM
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Is “she” somehow every woman in existence?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 11:07 PM
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Didn’t ask you to name them all you can just mention one
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:58 PM
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Cop out
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:53 PM
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Eh, guess it’s just something people like. There’s also stuff like power of attorney at death, you can also transfer money and assets tax free to your partner, in the UK you can get marriage allowances which save you some income tax
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:46 PM
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Which standards do you feel you’re being held to
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:33 PM
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There are some financial/legal benefits to being married which is why gay people pushed so hard for it. But if you don’t want children then I agree there’s no huge importance in getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:18 PM
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Which issues do you feel women’s opinions trumps facts?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 07:58 PM
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How is this related to bias at all? It’s literally a trend of male and female creators showing their comments/DMs from men versus women and the trend is that the majority of nasty comments are from men. Tf are women supposed to do about that, confiscate their phones?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:41 PM
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And a birth control that doesn’t have a cocktail of miserable side effects
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:19 PM
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In that case let’s make birth control and abortion free and easily available, as well as vasectomies and tubal ligations for those who don’t ever want children. Get off your high horse he looks tired, it’s not the 1950s and it’s not your business.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:18 PM
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You’re the one mewling about not being able to find a hot young woman to marry while having precious little to offer in return - pot, kettle?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:42 PM
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Society will be fine if you can’t find a hot 21 year old to shack up with, don’t stress about it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:37 PM
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What solution do you want here? We kind of stopped forcing people to get married a while back
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:36 PM
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You’re taking the metaphor a bit too deep. You should aim to be in a good mental space because life is simply better when you have a good social network and support system - your partner should then be the cherry on top of that support system, not the entire infrastructure
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:33 PM
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The issue is you being miserable not your lack of relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:28 AM
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I disagree, my friends have been absolute rocks for me when I’ve been going through bad patches. Frankly, much more reliable and empathetic than all of my exes. Besides, how fulfilling is a relationship if you’re just latching into the first girl that says yes because you can’t stand being single?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:27 AM
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Fair or not it’s still codependency
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:35 AM
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But that doesn’t have to be a girlfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:28 AM
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Being in a relationship is not a prerequisite for being happy or mentally stable
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:20 AM
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Uhhh god the amount of attention I got when I was a teenager is DISTURBING. I’m way cuter now, and my hips/ass didn’t really come in until I was 20-21. Back then I had just had questionable eyebrows and fashion choices, but looked way younger than I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:14 AM
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What would happen if you two broke up tomorrow?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:12 AM
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True, I’d also say it’s lack of support system and social network so if a woman were to come along, they’d latch onto her and be very codependent which isn’t conducive for a lasting relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:11 AM
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Before my relationship I had a good circle of friends and a wide network, so when my fiancé came along he was a lovely addition to an already happy life. He’s never been a crutch or a means to avoid loneliness, our relationship would not be nearly as healthy In the past I got into relationships while not being in a good headspace and all those relationships went down in flames. You have to sort out your house before inviting someone in.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:06 AM
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A lot of men believe that having a girlfriend would solve all their mental health struggles and it really wouldn’t, it also sets very unfair expectations for future partners
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 10:02 PM
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I don’t think there are arbitrary rules and timelines, our experiences define us more than simply just time passing
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 08:41 PM
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As someone in their early 20s and engaged - safe to say I’m not jealous of women my age in relationships with much older men. When I was 18 I met a guy at a festival and turned out he was nearly 30. We saw eachother for a bit and my findings were: he was somehow more immature than me we had very little in common he was definitely drawn to me because of my age. I didn’t tell him until after we’d met over text and he said “it would be tricky if you were 17 but you’re not” openly admitted he liked …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 07:06 PM
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Pay for the paternity test yourself then
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:07 PM
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It’s only recently it’s become more common knowledge how much pregnancy/childbirth can fuck you up. You can lose teeth from the foetus taking calcium from your body, get gestational diabetes, ectopic pregnancies can kill you, hypermesis gravidarum, post natal depression is still horribly stigmatised and dealt with by professionals. Physically its a huge gamble that nobody is allowed to address, we’re all supposed to see it as being glowy and happy all the time and if that’s not the case then you…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 11:21 PM
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💀 nah this actually sent me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:51 PM
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It’s impossible to give an arbitrary number - depends on where you live, how much your mortgage is, cost of living etc. Without children I guess it’s my fiancés current salary - around 60k. With children - a fair bit more.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:44 PM
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My fiancé was a student when we met so what he had in his bank account was student loan and minimum wage summer job. But to seriously answer your question - I wouldn’t want to subsidise a man. If I have children I don’t want to have to keep working until weeks before giving birth and having to come back after a month. Since carrying a child and the early stages would be entirely on me, I’d want to be with someone who can take the financial stress off my shoulders for that time. So whatever salar…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:25 PM
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You’re convoluting two separate things. Nobody is applauding self proclaimed male feminists who assault women - they’re just wolves in sheep’s clothing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:48 PM
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Okay? I’m all for height filters being scrapped. Like others have commented it’s easy to tell if a woman is overweight via pics even if she’s sneaky with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:10 PM
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Wouldn’t you rather get rejected before seeing someone profile than going on a date with them and they reject you after the date? It’s obvious when a guy is wearing lifts/chunky shoes for his height.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:05 PM
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He will be the reason for her bad times
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:02 PM
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What are they, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:00 PM
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Someone can be thin and still unattractive to you/not your type though. Do you then want filters for tattoos, hair colour, straight teeth etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:46 PM
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One clue is if all their pics of them are sat down and never stood around other people. But otherwise that, true. I don’t have an issue with the height filter being scrapped.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:41 PM
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Almost everyone Ik who’s used dating apps has been “catfished” in some form, either with looks, height, weight etc. it just comes with the territory unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:38 PM
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It’s such an ick when they lie. I’m 167cm so not that tall - I’ve dated guys my height and shorter before, I’m not bothered about height. But if you’re going to lie about something as dumb as your height what else are you going to lie about?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:35 PM
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aCkShUlLy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:33 PM
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Okay well unfortunately dating apps don’t work by plucking your dream partner out and dropping them in your lap what can they feasibly do about that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:32 PM
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Nearly half of couples meet via dating apps so it’s working for some men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:15 PM
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But you’re mad about women feeling the same way Also - would the weight option apply to women who don’t want to date obese men? They also exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:12 PM
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Haven’t been on hinge in 5 years but isn’t it free?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:11 PM
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Is swiping really that strenuous? Besides, most guys lie about their height anyway on those apps. Once went on a date with a guy who claimed to be 5’11 and when we met he was eye level with me in flats. I’m 5’5.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:08 PM
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BMI is kinda bs. My fiancé is technically “overweight” but has a six pack. I still don’t see the issue with just looking at someone’s pictures and deciding from there?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:05 PM
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A weight preference is a bit more ambiguous. A 150lb 5,0’ woman would be pretty overweight whereas a 150lb 5,9’ woman would be thin. Then you have muscle mass etc. at my heaviest I had visible abs and triceps. Idk why it would be necessary at all, can’t you tell by someone’s pictures if their body is what you’re into? ‘Fair’ doesn’t really factor in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:00 PM
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Men focus a lot on how younger girls are more “fertile” but ignore that the majority have 0 interest in having children and do not have the maturity or bandwidth to be a good mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 08:26 AM
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Have you ever been in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:50 AM
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The same criticism can be applied to your own conclusions then
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 08:51 PM
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You’re pulling this from 1991 divorce data… For instance, if there is a one-year gap between partners, that increases the divorce odds by a mere 3%. Increase that gap to five years, though, and the divorce odds go up by 18%. Increase the age gap between a couple to 10 years, and the divorce odds are 39% higher. 20 years + = 95% higher https://www.sachsandhess.com/blog/2021/04/do-age-gaps-between-a-couple-make-divorce-more-likely/ Besides, men here aren’t talking about women a few years younger t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 07:47 PM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:06 PM
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Which is convenient when they try to justify wanting teenagers half their age
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:54 PM
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If they’re the general public how do you know the guys an asshole
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:54 PM
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May just be the company you’re in. I know plenty of amazing guys with gfs. My fiancé is pretty great too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:50 PM
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I’m in my early 20s now - if I were single I would not seriously date anyone older than 30. I don’t want children until my 30s by which point the guy would be in his 40s. While it’s fine to have kids then i assume most guys in their mid-late 40s or even older don’t want to be dealing with sleepless nights and nappies. So I’d be with someone pressuring me to get married and have kids within a couple years if he was in his mid 30s or older which just wouldn’t work out and we’d both be wasting our …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:48 PM
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I think it depends on how old the woman is. When I was 18-19 I fell for manipulation tactics I’d spot from a mile away now. Personality disorders, upbringing, traumas also play a large role in why people choose “obviously” bad partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:41 PM
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I’m in my early 20s now - if I were single I would not seriously date anyone older than 30. I don’t want children until my 30s by which point the guy would be in his 40s. While it’s fine to have kids then i assume most guys in their mid-late 40s or even older don’t want to be dealing with sleepless nights and nappies. So I’d be with someone pressuring me to get married and have kids within a couple years if he was in his mid 30s or older which just wouldn’t work out and we’d both be wasting our …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:37 PM
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The average age gap in hetero relationships is 3-4 years. The majority of men in their mid 30s are dating women in their early-mid 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 08:37 AM
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It doesn’t say it in there, was hoping you could provide a source for your own argument
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 08:24 AM
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https://news.gallup.com/poll/283979/women-handle-main-household-tasks.aspx Plus, divorce lawyers who’ve spoken out about why so many more women leave their partners and on an anecdotal level I’ve known multiple women who’ve left their partners bc they were sick of doing everything around the home despite working the same Can you prove women only want traditional perks without giving traditional perks back?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:39 PM
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Yeah, the opposite never happens
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 07:55 PM
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A lot of guys want a modern woman who’ll go 50/50 on all bills and expenses but do the lions share of the house work and child rearing. That’s wanting to have your cake and eat it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 04:27 PM
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Like guys never ghost girls ahahah
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:28 PM
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He bought his friend with him without warning me, it was meant to be a quick coffee date and they then said let’s go to a bar and tried to hype me up about getting drunk with them. Texted my group chat our “call me with a fake emergency” code and left asap and blocked his number.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:39 AM
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Right and those handful of videos account for every single divorce that happens
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:36 AM
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You’re literally agreeing with her
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:16 AM
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Specify exactly what women are trying to receive and refusing to give?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:16 AM
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Sorry have you not heard the barrage of men who whinge things like “tAkE hEr SwImMInG” or “one wipe and it’s all gone” If a woman’s actually clapped, makeup and a nice outfit won’t help that much. Also, after a certain point makeup just makes you look worse in person and only looks good in pictures under heavy lighting
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:13 AM
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Unconditional love is only for children and pets, no romantic love should ever be unconditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:11 AM
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I mean, men are now calling models and women like Margot Robbie “mid” as if they could even make eye contact with them irl 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:10 AM
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Yeah this isn’t a widespread thing though. I have never heard a woman say “his face triggers my fight or flight mode” pls be fr
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 04:45 PM
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Women generally don’t say this about men unless they’re making them uncomfortable or they’re being creepy. Hope this helps!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 04:39 PM
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I’m talking about cases of dead bedrooms post children … like you were … I hear after kids you don’t get much time for yourself and you don’t get much sleep
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 03:54 PM
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It’s most usually down to the stress of having children and the toll childbirth has on your body?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 03:26 PM
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Really cherry picked there, didn’t you. There’s nothing that actually proves the link between BC and preferring feminine features. The age of the study is relevant because birth control is always being adapted, with new/different options becoming available. But again, the study doesn’t even bother to specify which birth control they’re referring to. Edit: 100 is considered the minimum for meaningful results in a study. However, we’re discussing birth control which is known to affect women comple…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 03:06 PM
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The study doesn’t even specify what kind of BC (it says oral but not if combined or progesterone only- and what brand). There are SO many kinds of birth control that affect different women differently. Same pill, one woman will have 0 side affects and loves it, the other has endless bleeding and endless side affects. The study only involved 170 women. The study is ten years old. “Both facial measurements and perceptual judgements demonstrated that partners of women who used the pill during mate …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 02:56 PM
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Birth control can mess up your mood/libido but it’s bs that it changes who you’re attracted to. I’ve been on 3 different types of birth control since being with my fiancé none have ever affected how I feel about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 02:38 PM
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No, if someone looks down on your for being a human who has shit days and sometimes has a reaction to the shit days - they’re just a bad person. And they’re not the majority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 10:03 AM
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I feel sad for guys who really believe this. I’ve seen my fiancé cry multiple times and all it’s ever done is bought us closer. I’d be far more upset if he bottled stuff from me, everyone needs a cry now and then. What is interesting is that the men I know are more comfortable opening up to women (their gfs, friends, sisters etc) than the men in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 11:41 PM
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The wording “help around the house” doesn’t sit well with me. It’s not “helping” when it’s your own home, you’re just being a self sufficient adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 07:47 PM
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It was a rubbish date it doesn’t require this level of sulking three decades later. That’s different from simply learning from a bad experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:12 PM
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Think it leans more towards political economic and social rights for both genders but good try buddy!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 03:37 PM
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It’s a literally a whole meme that men don’t get over the girl they liked when they were 15 lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 03:35 PM
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Maybe it’s just the women you’re interested in - since that’s where you drew your conclusions from. You sound the same as women who get ghosted by a few guys and say “all men are trash!!” Which I assume you’d have an issue with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 03:31 PM
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Proof of what, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 03:27 PM
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Unless you’re one of those few people who remember every single thing - you remember that date because you’ve stewed about it a lot. Everyone’s been on a bad date. Most chalk it up to experience and get over it. Fair enough, I wasn’t born then and I thought most people didn’t start texting until the early 2000s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 03:16 PM
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Yeah sounds like a crap time but it’s strange you remember it in such detail when it was so long ago. I barely remember bad dates I had 5 years ago. It would serve you more to just forget about it. I promise you she has. Also- did people text in the 90s? That stood out to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 03:05 PM
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Still pissy about a bad date 30 years ago?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 02:59 PM
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By posting a gif on reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 02:55 PM
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Men being horny doesn’t make them exempt from accountability, they’re not animals or children
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 07:41 AM
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Then men should take it upon themselves to stop paying for OF if they’re that worried about the generations marriages prospects
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 07:20 AM
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You’re acting like the number is significant enough that it’s impacting how many men can find partners. Which is also weird, as many sex workers settle down with someone. It just may not be you. Without seeing stats I literally don’t know, it’s not really a sector I’m involved in. I know a lot of porn stars are moving to OF to make more money and have more agency and I think that’s great.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:59 AM
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you’re wildlyyyy overestimating how many women are sex workers
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:55 AM
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Quick, which demographic murders the most prostitutes??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:54 AM
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The “pill” views are very biased as they imply that anyone blue pilled/left leaning is unaware and asleep
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 10:42 PM
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It’s sad you think porn is even slightly comparable to having sex with someone you love and care about
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 10:34 PM
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Politically neutral but ideologically left learning (UK based, all our politicians are clowns). Pro choice, pro LGBT etc. Due to having family members who are LGBT I wouldn’t bring someone homophobic around them. I wouldn’t say it’s really affected my dating life just that I know what kind of people I’d be compatible with. For example if I had an unplanned pregnancy, it’s going to be awkward navigating that someone who’s anti abortion, so these things have real life application and matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 10:32 PM
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A lot of it is the manner you go about it. Barking orders vs having a mature, polite conversation and reaching an agreement together.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 10:29 PM
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Sounds like he doesn’t trust himself around other women then
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 09:40 PM
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I know plenty of women, none of them in relationships flirt with other men. If a guy hits on them they’ll politely turn them down. If that’s interpreted as flirting then 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 10:58 PM
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Women can’t really help if they get hit on. Multiple times I’ve told a guy I have a bf/fiancé and trust me they don’t give a flying fuck lol. Obviously it’s not okay if they reciprocate while in a relationship but what do you want them to do about getting hit on? If someone hits on my fiancé I trust that he’ll handle it appropriately and I don’t get vexed over it. If it bothered me I’d get an ugly fiancé.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 06:47 PM
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So what are you mad about
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 06:27 PM
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Sorry who’s said it’s okay for women to flirt while in a relationship? News to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 06:18 PM
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My grandmothers take on feminism was “I don’t want to be treated equal to a man, I want to be treated better” she was a cryptographer in WW2 and a baddie. It was also common back in her day for the man to give his entire paycheque to his wife who did all the bookkeeping and she would give him an allowance for his own spending money.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 10:03 AM
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What, “no, you have to sleep with me now actually”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 08:44 AM
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Most women’s g-spots are only 3-4 inches deep. Hence why most people can hit it with just fingers. So if you’re sleeping with a guy that can’t hit it, unless you’re g spot is unusually far in you’re probably dealing with a smaller one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 07:20 AM
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Oh yeah I know that and same, just saying you don’t need to have slept with a huge number of men to know what a small or big dick is
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 07:16 AM
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Sorry how’s that connected to the post
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:19 PM
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The vast majority of women know the average dick is around 5” regardless of how much experience they have. Virgins aren’t necessarily oblivious to all things related to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:01 PM
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Before you had sex did you have absolutely 0 knowledge of anatomy? A virgin woman still knows what good and bad sex feels like or what a small dick/erectile dysfunction is. Especially adult women and I really hope that’s who you’re referring to here. Men can do what they want ofc but this is silly reasoning
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 08:18 PM
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Okay so as someone who doesn’t feel sexual attraction until there’s an emotional connection - When I first met my fiancé I didn’t feel that “spark” people talk about simply because I’m not wired that way. What I did feel was deeply enjoying his company, knowing I wanted to see him again and feeling very safe and comfortable in his presence which is rare for me when I first meet someone. I agree that chemistry is temporary and overrated but connection is built much deeper. I didn’t instantly fall…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:00 PM
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Don’t have a kid if you’re not financially able to then. Most mothers work and at least in my country and have a solid maternity leave plan. What’s your actual point here? All I said was if you only like someone under insane conditions that they be completely subservient to you, you don’t like them you just want a yes man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:49 PM
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Who’s they? I must be doing something wrong bc I’m splitting rent and bills with my fiancé.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:47 PM
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If you only like someone on the conditions they bend over backwards to do all but wipe your ass for you, never express an opinion and are as obedient as a dog - you probably just don’t like them
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:09 PM
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Some fellas that start out treating you like a princess end up treating you like trash. That’s what I’m on about in the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:17 AM
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Spot on. Or basically “why did you let him mistreat you when you should have let ME mistreat you!”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:14 AM
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Usually low self worth, we accept the treatment we think we deserve
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 10:29 PM
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Not really, you can find someone hot and a good laugh and only want to spend a night with them. You’re very vexed over this, take a xan or something
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 09:18 AM
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You have to like the guy enough to find him fun. If you meet a hot guy but he’s boring or douchey that’s going to turn you off. Also, most people aren’t in the mood to have a ONS at any given moment
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 09:02 AM
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Most men aren’t abusers or coercers lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 08:34 AM
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How many times are you going to ask this Enjoying sex doesn’t equal fucking every hot guy that looks your way. There’s your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 08:19 AM
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Imagine patting yourself on the back for not abusing or coercing anyone, the entitlement is insane
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 08:14 AM
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I don’t think necessarily fewer women are autistic, they’re just diagnosed less as they’re typically better at masking and they have different traits which aren’t widely known. All the autistic women I know weren’t diagnosed until adulthood. Funnily enough, Asperger himself was a Nazi who only conducted his studies on young white boys. I wasn’t diagnosed with my ADD until I was 20, I kept being diagnosed with anxiety and offered SSRIs/beta blockers because my symptoms don’t manifest the way it u…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 08:08 AM
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I chose a high income career so that I can support my parents when they’re old and need care - is that unethical? You can advocate for whatever you like but this is the system we live in. It’s also none of your business how other people spend/make their money assuming ofc it’s legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 10:46 AM
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I’m implying you’re a bible basher/thumper
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 03:53 PM
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He’s literally just mad he’s poor ahaha. Poor and unlikeable, no wonder he can’t get a second date
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 03:52 PM
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Yet here you are
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:16 PM
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There are more than the two options of bible basher and hedonist
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:07 PM
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Ok go live in a forest and survive off the land nobody’s forcing you to do anything
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 11:02 AM
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Finding religion 😭 you are not Kanye plsss
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 10:51 AM
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Btw pregnancies in women under the age of 20 are also considered high risk (a friend of mine got pregnant at 19) it’s bs that women need to be popping out kids as soon as they hit puberty.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 07:57 AM
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I’m not singling you out btw, or at least didn’t intend to come across that way I’m just saying that if you’re constantly being belittled and accused of lying when you speak out about your preferences that don’t align with a lot of people’s ideas. I’ve realised it’s a waste of time and I can’t be arsed putting myself in the firing line to soothe peoples egos. Men have seen a few clips of women saying they want a guy who makes a ton of money and they’ve latched onto that as universal truth when i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 03:49 PM
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Every time a woman says “actually I don’t care if he’s under 6ft or earns less than me” guys here fly into a fury that we’re lying because “hYpErGaMy”. You’re not exactly making it easy. And if that’s the reception we get - why should we bother?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 02:27 PM
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Therefore you’re not going to get arrested for approaching someone in a tasteful manner
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 09:38 PM
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My fiancé and I were long distance for the first 9 months of our relationship and it worked out for us. Main things are: we knew we’d eventually be moving to the same city after uni so we had an end date, and we have a lot of mutual friends so it’s unlikely one of us would have stepped out without the other finding out. It was also during covid lockdown so I knew his ass wasn’t going to clubs lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 09:27 PM
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Most people don’t get arrested when they rape someone, you’ll be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 09:21 PM
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What’s the easy way out
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 07:42 PM
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Pick better
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:58 PM
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I did my fiancés eyebrows one time and now he pouts if I don’t do them every fortnight I thought that was sassy man behaviour? I didn’t know it was that deep lmao. Good Lord you lot sound exhausting, it’s just a joke
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:02 PM
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Red flags are just indicators of future problematic behaviour. It depends on what your idea of said “problematic behaviour is” and how you believe it manifests
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 01:30 PM
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To get granular about one thing that comes to mind - it’s men who pretend to care about men’s issues such as mental health, lack of body positivity and male victims of DV but only bring them up in response to someone talking about women’s problems. You do not care about those men, you’re just playing the victim olympics and you care more about trying to “prove” that women don’t struggle with XYZ (which is stupid, as two things can obviously be true at once). You’re doing the men who suffer from …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 11:48 AM
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Most guys idea of “fucking the entire town” is anything more than 3 people
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 06:36 AM
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Common sense is seldom common
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 06:35 AM
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I don’t have an issue with any preferences people also uphold themselves, the hypocrisy bothers me. The guy I mentioned had been on multiple lads holidays and one night stands. He had 0 right to have an opinion on my past.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:41 AM
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most
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:22 AM
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Funny that men in this sub never have this energy for DV victims or single mothers. What happened to accountability and spotting red flags? Like I said - gold diggers wouldn’t talk to a guy again if he split the bill or took her somewhere cheap and cheerful. It’s very different to actually abusive people who hide their true colours.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:17 AM
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Sure, and I get that because that’s exactly where I fall into. But I don’t make judgements on people based on their history. Be real, the majority of guys who are fussy about n-count isn’t because they think sex is special because they also think men should have as much sex as they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:16 AM
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Gold diggers aren’t inherently abusive and they’re not going to go after broke guys, they’re going to go after guys who’ll gladly take them on £1000 dates and buy them designer bags without breaking a sweat. I’ve known gold diggers and they can sniff out a guy with money from a mile away. They don’t go for guys who run up credit card debt to keep up with them. Questionable values and prioritises but it’s very clear from the get go what you’re getting with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 11:06 PM
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And my preference is men who don’t view women as objects with mileage and depreciating value. I’m fully entitled to it as you are to your preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 11:04 PM
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Let me reiterate - don’t date broke people or people trying to exploit you. Unless you were literally robbed, it is a hole you dug for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 11:00 PM
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Not everyone who likes sex is promiscuous or visits prostitutes. Most of prostitutes customers are married men so it’s not like those men are unable to find a woman without paying by the hour.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 10:43 PM
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Men like that spend so much time dreaming up rage/revenge fantasies that entirely contradict eachother. Don’t want to financially support a woman but career girls are yucky because god forbid she earns more than me!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 10:35 PM
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Probably not great! Jokes aside idk why so many men here stress about gold diggers when most don’t have any gold to be dug and not being financially exploited is very preventable. Don’t date broke people or if you do, don’t pay for all their stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 10:31 PM
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Which principle
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 10:29 PM
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Last time I was single and dating a guy asked for my body count and I stupidly told him and apparently it was an “good” number and I was grossed out. Should have told him an insanely high number, unsurprisingly I ended things with him very soon after. It’s fine to ask when they were last screened for STIs, birth control, if they’re currently sleeping with other people but to demand someones entire history so they can make a judgement solely based on that? Yeah bye. Even worse if they try to be c…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 10:17 PM
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This is such a ridiculous comparison I can’t entertain this Weirdly, despite having a very tame past (catholic school managed to beat purity culture into me for a few of my younger years) I wouldn’t be with someone who had a bee in his bonnet about body count. It tells me how he views women, and that’s not compatible with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 09:31 PM
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You familiar with the phrase “date rape”? That’s a bad date for a woman. Women have been murdered on dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 03:48 PM
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My friend went on a date with a guy who not only insisted on splitting the bill but fully got his calculator out to figure out who owed what. He’d been drinking pints, she doesn’t drink so she’d only had a couple diet sodas that cost £5 overall. Instant ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 03:46 PM
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I don’t think having a relationship that aggressively transactional brings about happiness or longevity
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 03:43 PM
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Online numbers are never accurate but apparently his is 40mil. So yeah, significantly less than Taylor’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 03:42 PM
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Yeah that’s really weird to give your partner an allowance, does she not work? It’s a bad idea for any woman to be financially dependent on their partner as it leaves them in such a vulnerable position
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 03:37 PM
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Be real, how would you respond to a woman asking for you money or whatever “resources” mean to you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 11:10 AM
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Her bfs net worth is a fraction of hers lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 11:09 AM
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There’s a guy in our group who was morbidly obese and then lost some weight - he was still very overweight however. He started talking about how he’d love to date a skinny gym girl and when one of his friends said “going to have to lose some more weight then mate” he lost his shit. Idk what it is about former fat guys - but I know a few women who’ve been treated awfully by them. It’s like once they lose weight and get more attention from women they develop some sort of kill the cheerleader syndr…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 10:04 AM
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The girls you know, sure. My closest friends have been around for 12 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 08:53 AM
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If guys in their 30s are hitting on her then it sounds like they are looking to ‘waste their time’ on her
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 11:01 PM
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Neither do biological children
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 10:58 PM
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Because of the economy being fucked, most blue collar jobs don’t support a family of 5 comfortable like it used to. And back then, intellectual fields were deeply elitist and only available to those from wealthy families. I’m not defending the school system, but blaming women for the fact boys don’t do as well in school is a reach.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 10:10 PM
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When was school not sitting in a classroom ? This isn’t a new thing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 10:00 PM
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Boys are falling behind at school because they’re not motivated by having a wife and children ..?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 09:41 PM
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Not all men are obsessed with porn and barely legal women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 09:40 PM
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She said age gaps and porn should be shamed, not men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 09:34 PM
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You’re the one using examples of miners from 100 years ago… fucks that got to do with anything. Women are also dying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 03:47 PM
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Try being a woman today in any country under shariah law - look into what’s happening in Iran and Afghanistan to women right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 03:32 PM
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Who are you defending here exactly? Be specific
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 01:06 PM
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You’re over generalising - I’ve seen women be done dirty by guys significantly less attractive than them. ‘DUFF’ doesn’t necessarily mean you’re fat or even ugly, just that you’re the least attractive woman in the friendship group. I’ve seen women who’ve felt like the ‘DUFF’ talk about how they’ve been treated by guys and the realisation that if a guy doesn’t find you attractive he’ll either ignore you or be openly rude to you. As for your last point - this is off topic but a lot of people in ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 12:28 PM
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Unattractive women get treated like crap compared to attractive ones. You don’t even have to be ugly, if a guy isn’t into you they completely ignore you or be rude. The ‘DUFF’ refers to women. Look up the term “getting pigged” also only happens to women. Sure, someone desperate enough will sleep with you, but on the downlow and you’d have a much harder time finding a relationship. I’ve seen the way less attractive girls have been treated by guys they’ve slept with and it’s unbelievably cruel. Li…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 11:17 AM
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And yet you still complain you can’t afford one
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 10:53 AM
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Thanks for the good laugh this was truly something else
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 10:30 AM
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If the age of consent was lower, would you want a 17/16 year old?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 10:30 AM
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Homophobia is very different to talking about why there are problematic reasons some men deliberately date teenagers over women their own age
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 10:17 AM
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There’s posts here every day slating women for their standards and sexual preferences
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 10:11 AM
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And men don’t care about looks? All we hear is how men are more visual and care about traits that signal youth and fertility. This isn’t a gendered thing, being attractive makes dating easier for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 09:08 AM
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People who actually go outside know that plenty of men who are under 6ft, broke, ‘unattractive’ can date girls/sleep with them. They manage this by being not being socially inept and can actually hold a decent conversation. I’d take a 5 who can make me laugh over a dull 10 any day. But any time you talk about this they have an aneurysm so yeah they’re beyond help.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 07:38 AM
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Women get slut shamed even when they haven’t slept with many people. I’ve had men lie about sleeping with me when all we did was get a drink or kiss and then they told their friends a very different story. I’ve known this exact thing to happen to plenty of other women, too. I didn’t get much of an option there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 07:32 AM
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Specifically what kind of pushback are you referring to
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 10:16 PM
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It’s one of the most common topics in this subreddit, it has its own designated discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:58 PM
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Pretty telling that’s the one thing you took from that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:54 PM
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Misogyny/patriarchy is the reason women in many countries are unable to get an education, get married off to old men as little girls, have their genitals mutilated and often die as a result, can even get imprisoned if they get raped because technically they had sex outside of marriage. And the patriarchy with its misogynist beliefs hurts men far more than misandry does - the expectation that because of women being hysterical and irrational, men must be stoic and not show emotion which has contri…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:42 PM
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Sleeping around (don’t have to explain this) Being career driven (you’re a girl boss and men don’t like that!!) Prioritising yourself/being ‘selfish’, (Women should be maternal and altruistic but men should do everything they can to be the best versions of themselves at whatever and whoever’s expense) Being able to get around without having to take so many precautions to avoid SA. Rape alarms, drink covers, making sure to always be with a friend, sharing location, being cautious around men you d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:26 PM
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How is a woman accountable for being assaulted/harassed
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 01:16 PM
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You sound like a real treat!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 10:13 AM
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I believe you can hire a maid for that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 07:41 AM
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Yep men leaving their wives for a younger woman never happens! My fiancé is in a manager role in cybersecurity, he’s leading and mentoring people all day. He does not want to have to keep doing it when he’s with me. We operate as a team, not as someone he has to “guide” or “teach”, I think it would do his head in. We experience things together and don’t really think about who’s done what in the past. I’ve travelled more than he has, skydived and climbed mountains. This hasn’t changed our dynamic…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 07:23 PM
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he then misses having a young, naive partner who’s easily impressed by his mediocre wisdom and swaps her out for a newer model
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 06:37 PM
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Says a lot about someone if they seek being a teacher/mentor in their own relationship. Most likely that they’re lacking that “leadership” feeling in other parts of their life.And again. What happens in a few years when the partner is older and wiser and has learned what he has to teach?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:45 PM
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I’m not uncomfortable. I’ve slept with less than 5 people and I’m engaged so I don’t have a dog in the fight. But I really doubt that if I’d had 3 more hookups in my single years I’d suddenly be doomed for divorce. Men may not leave a marriage they’re unhappy in but that doesn’t mean that they’re not making it a miserable time for the wife or they’re stepping out. You seem convinced that in pretty much all divorces, the woman must be the villain.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:01 PM
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I accept that that sexual history can point to indicators about someone, but I don’t buy arbitrary rules like if you sleep with more than 5 men you’re 7x more likely to get divorced. I don’t think there’s a set threshold like many claim. 7 partners at 18 is very different to 7 partners at 30 for example. Divorces are largely filed by women but that doesn’t always mean the divorce was initiated by them. I personally know multiple cases where the man wanted the divorce and acted out until the woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 03:57 PM
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There’s something to be said for correlation v causation. I could do some research and find that men who’ve watched more than 5 Adam Sandler movies are more likely to get divorced. Does this strictly mean Adam Sandler movies are the cause of divorce? Or is it just two separate sets of data that happen to positively correlate? Because the “correlation” seems to only point to women’s sexual history having an impact on their likelihood of divorce, not men’s
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 03:47 PM
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Have you not seen the stats about getting married young being much more likely to end in divorce? This is nothing to do with sexual history so I’m not getting into that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 03:36 PM
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I’d rather take my chances later than be a single mum at 25 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:24 PM
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Yeah it’s funny we’re told that men age like wine and women age like milk. Women typically take much better care of themselves, especially their skin. Skincare and preventative ageing measures are especially becoming more widespread (to an extreme - you now have teenagers buying retinol and anti ageing serums which is insane and kinda depressing). I think good skincare and weight training are the best ways a woman can age nicely, both are becoming more popular. Most men have never made friends w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:17 PM
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What alternative do you propose then? Ageing is inevitable and it’s a privilege compared to dying young
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:09 PM
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I have, and my values stayed the same. If anything, it was the more attractive guys that got pissy and entitled when I hadn’t slept with them by date 3 despite having my standards clearly laid out to them. Really helped me sort the wheat from the chaff.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 09:19 AM
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They don’t struggle in finding someone to hook up with but I believe they’re more likely to be mistreated or struggle to find relationships. Ofc everyone should feel comfortable in their body but the FA movement has some doctrines I’m personally not comfortable with. Treat people with basic respect and consideration regardless of what they look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:38 PM
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Personally I’ve seen that big women have no issue in actually attracting men. Their DMs are full, they get asked for their number when they go out etc. But what I’ve heard is that a lot of men are scared of what others will say about them if they’re seen with a big girl, so they’ll try to keep the relationship under wraps. Alternatively some guys will intentionally go after a fat girl because they think she’ll be more insecure, better in bed, less likely to cheat and be more agreeable I’m not a …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:13 PM
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Just seems strange to pursue a family and commitment with someone you have that little trust in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:56 AM
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I’ve seen a divorce lawyer discuss this issue that a lot of married women today are sharing the financial burden of a household but not the rest. A lot of men want a woman who’ll do the cooking, cleaning, child rearing but still go 50/50 on the bills. And there are many entitled women too, I’ve been told that because I split the rent and bills with my fiance that I’m somehow being taken advantage of and that he’s my roommate not my partner which is ridiculous. We both make decent salaries and ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:54 AM
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How would you explain why? Without explicitly saying you suspect she’ll cheat on you and get pregnant by another man
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:44 AM
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How would you present the expectation that you’d want your child DNA tested?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:30 AM
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How are you this confident that this guy is raising another man’s kids 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:10 AM
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But free speech !!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:52 AM
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Not single but when I was I seemed to keep meeting guys who liked the fact I didn’t do casual sex. Until they realised they weren’t special and I also would not have casual sex with them. One even called me “frigid” lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:25 AM
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It’s more that I’ve seen men perpetuate this idea that if a woman isn’t hitched by 30, her dating prospects are doomed and she’ll forever be a cat mum. Whereas this “wall” doesn’t exist for men because they can simply keep dating women the same age, they think they’re all leonardo dicaprio and can keep dating women in their 20s until they die.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:17 AM
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No I don’t think the women from their parent country wants them, that’s why they’re passport bros 😂 I couldn’t care less what they do, I just find it funny they’re desperately trying to push this narrative that all western women are sobbing at the airport begging the fine specimens not to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 07:21 AM
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Where did I say it’s not normal to want kids? That said, me not wanting children isn’t because I’m shallow or narcissistic. My main reason is that genetic disorders run in my family and while I got lucky, I still run the risk of passing it down to my children. There are plenty of good reasons to not want children, it’s not a marker of someone’s character
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 07:18 AM
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I’m not trying to mislead anyone. I never saw myself as someone who’d be the first of my friends to get engaged but that’s how it worked out and I’m very happy. However, I’m well aware that my life trajectory isn’t the only one that will bring happiness. Also, my fiancé and I don’t want children. We may foster/adopt if we change our minds but don’t plan to have any of our own.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 07:13 AM
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It was more to mitigate comments like “c*pe” or being called bitter about being unable to get a man to commit 👍🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 07:09 AM
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Viewing dating as “Us vs Them” is this entire subreddit babe
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:50 PM
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I’m talking about the red pill idea that all women turn into gargoyles after 30. And plenty of women marry men they meet in their later years.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:56 PM
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A single guy is called a “bachelor” whereas a single woman is called a “spinster”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:50 PM
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Comparing being single to being black is WILD. And no. I’ve obviously been single before and like I said, my situation doesn’t stop me from being able to observe and comment on others. It’s a debate sub, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:49 PM
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As in I met guys out and about (I was at uni), they showed interest and I’d make it clear I wasn’t interested. If that’s how you want to interpret it, sure. In the same way he felt I “met his qualifications and standards”.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:44 PM
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They’ll say something about how they have so few options they basically are forced to be in a relationship with whoever’s game
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:41 PM
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Almost a year. Not sure why that’s relevant. Like I said, I wasn’t looking for anything when I met him, I was busy finishing my degree, working, and enjoying spending more time with my friends. A few opportunities cropped up but I never took them further. When I met him I knew he was someone I wanted a future with and luckily the feeling was mutual, so things worked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:34 PM
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Why is my personal situation relevant here? I can still observe others and comment on it. I just couldn’t be arsed dealing with an onslaught of “c*pe” comments or men telling me I’m bitter because I can’t get a man to commit
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:28 PM
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Sure. Women really don’t care about passport bros. They give the same energy as kids who announce they’re running away from home because their mum wouldn’t let them stay up past their bedtime. Genuinely, have a wonderful time abroad, best of luck to you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:24 PM
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Nope, after that I was fully single, not even talking to guys until I met my fiancé through friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:17 PM
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Okay, what can you give them that they couldn’t find in men from their own country? I’m not racist, I’m just not naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:14 PM
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Are they? I see a lot more men claiming that women are worried about passport bros than actual women complaining about them. We’re not worried that all the good men are leaving in droves, we just think it’s lame of those men to move to poorer countries to find a woman who just want a meal ticket and a green card.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:09 PM
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Women don’t magically impregnate themselves. And nope, I’m just referring to guys who call women “future cat ladies” etc. I even said I don’t know what their intention behind saying that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:02 PM
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Which repercussions are you referring to
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:00 PM
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I believe it’s more that women have realised that you can lead a fulfilling life outside of a relationship and therefore they don’t have to be with someone they’re not attracted to or don’t enjoy being with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:59 PM
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Even though I was young when I left my ex I knew I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than spend another day with him - and he had asked me marry him. Despite having a “choice” neither were great in that moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:58 PM
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What is “smoking” is this context though? Imo it’s simply women choosing their own company over a mans they don’t truly enjoy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:36 PM
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Men lust after older women too, where do you think the term MILF came from? Plus all the Mrs Robinson/teacher fantasies boys have growing up
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:35 PM
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This isn’t really the point of the post. It’s more that men fear being old and single more than women do and that women are generally better equipped to lead fulfilling lives without a husband and have a wide network of friends, projects etc
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:34 PM
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I have many friends who were much happier kids after their parents divorced. Children are perceptive, they know when their parents are miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:51 PM
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Maybe take a peek at all the posts made here about male loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:48 PM
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Being single doesn’t strictly mean being lonely
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:23 PM
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Well, the stats show it’s not always the case
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:19 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:18 PM
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That’s more than what an average guy in his 20s can comfortably afford to do 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:46 PM
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I think women are more likely to choose their own company over bad company
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:45 PM
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If anything an ugly guy is more likely to cheat. An attractive guy is used to getting attention so it’s not going to phase him if a girl hits on him while he’s in a relationship. An ugly guy who gets hit on is going to have an insane ego boost and be way more likely to step out if given the chance. I think most women know better than to intentionally pick an ugly guy because they think he’ll treat them better. My current partner treats me so much better than my ex and is also way better looking.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:43 PM
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Plenty of men here believe that women over 30 are hags who’ve hit the wall so swings and roundabouts
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:00 PM
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Maybe let’s talk about why the woman chose to leave as well
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:59 PM
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A lot of men here seem to be paranoid about being “settled for” even if they’ve been given no indication of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:58 PM
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I was just talking about average statistics and that people who buck the typical age gap trends tend to be either wealthy and/or very good looking, you just clarified you’re the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:57 PM
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There’s a difference between a young woman dating a guy in his late twenties/early 30s which is pretty common compared to a guy in his 40s or 50s
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:43 PM
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Most women don’t want casual sex with someone who doesn’t care about them or care that they enjoy the sex. We also risk pregnancy, more negative side affects from STIs (women are less likely to have symptoms from chlamydia but it will make you infertile). It’s like having access to all the sushi you want but you’re allergic to seafood. And then having people scream at you how lucky you are to have access to all this sushi that they’d love to have. Plus we’re constantly told that if we do take ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:13 PM
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Logically I understand why a man would want a paternity test but honestly I’d be deeply upset if I were pregnant/just had a kid and my partner said “can I check you haven’t fucked anyone else?” After I’ve spent 9 months carrying and birthing his kid. Especially if I’ve never given him any reason to suspect cheating or that I’m stupid enough to get knocked up by someone else. I’d agree to the paternity test, let him pay for it, probably have some serious thoughts about the future of our relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:54 PM
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Babe you’re not special. I work 12 hour days at times and come home to do my own chores. I don’t pat myself on the back over it because it’s basic adult shit. But I’m not doing all that and single handedly raising kids and picking up after a grown ass man who thinks he’s too good for housework and said basic adult shit. And many other women feel the same are divorcing over this. That’s what the post is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:18 PM
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Those types of men get salty about dating women who earn less because hYpErGaMy but they also can’t stomach the idea of being with a woman more successful who makes more money. They can’t even claim it’s about preferences anymore, they just hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 01:54 PM
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And what is it you’re doing right now? Could it be… complaining?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 01:47 PM
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You’re not defective just because you haven’t had much luck in dating FYI.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 01:40 PM
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I’d be curious why he was a virgin (early 20s) but it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker. With a new partner you usually have to show them how you like things done anyway. It’s not always like the movies where people hook up and have earth shattering sex with zero communication prior. The virgin shaming goes to men who are blatantly bitter and resentful about not being able to attract women and lash out at them, rather than doing some introspection. Despite everything you read here there are plenty of sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 01:01 PM
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Surely a monogamous relationship increases paternity certainty? What does is matter what happened before? Plus, tests exists if you’re really that paranoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 12:59 PM
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Yeah, the reoccurring payments that you’re on about are also paid for by the mother. The martyr act of the man breaking his back all hours to bring home money is old and untrue for the vast majority. Having a job isn’t special, everyone has one. Obviously, if you were a single income household, it obviously makes sense that the wife takes care of the home, I don’t have an issue with that and that’s not what I’m talking about here. Weaponised incompetence is as old as time, I had to snap at my br…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 11:49 AM
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People these days are much more likely to live with someone before marrying them and you quickly get a good idea of what their homemaking skills are like. I wouldn’t marry someone until living with them for at least a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 11:39 AM
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I’ve heard that the ones to look out are those who praise their mums for being able to “do it all”. Aka, hold down a job but also still do everything around the house. Those are the ones who will want to be babied by their wives who they split the bills with. I’m in finance, on a decent salary now but I’m 22 but I’ll be on six figures by late 20s, early 30s. And yeah I wouldn’t date a broke guy. My bf is in cybersecurity and makes slightly more but I expect will be significant outearning me in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 11:30 AM
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This entire sub is men talking about how having lots of partners increases their value while decreasing women’s. Women generally aren’t as neurotic about this stuff. As long as a guy doesn’t have STIs or a history of cheating/being an ass, we don’t care if the body count is 0 or 50. But for most guys on this sub, any body count over 5 for women is a “slut”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 11:26 AM
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https://www.ucl.ac.uk/epidemiology-health-care/news/2019/nov/women-still-doing-most-housework-despite-earning-more
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 10:42 AM
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if you’re a virgin seeking another virgin that’s fair game as you don’t have a double standard
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 10:34 AM
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How do you think it should be resolved?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 10:10 AM
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The foundation of your argument is undermining the issue and data because apparently women are emotional and therefore their perception is wrong. That’s textbook gaslighting. As well as blatant generalising, which you cry about if it’s ever women generalising men 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 10:00 AM
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Why would I bother engaging in an argument that starts by generalising all women and gaslighting? It doesn’t deserve further analysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:52 AM
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I’m not against it, I have enough happening in my life I don’t care what other people get up to in their sex lives assuming everyone’s of age, consenting etc. I’m what’s called “demisexual” which is just an obnoxious way of saying I don’t feel sexual desire for someone unless there’s an emotional connection. I can think someone’s attractive, but for me there’s a big gap between that and actually wanting to sleep with them. From what I hear from friends, casual sex is 90% of the time just being u…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:47 AM
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literally in your first point
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:45 AM
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yeah you lost me at “wimmen are emotional!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:43 AM
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When she asks, surely. Definitely within six months.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 08:33 AM
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It’s interesting how what’s considered the ‘mans’ job in the home are things that rarely need doing. Unless you live on a construction site how often are you fixing stuff? Things like mowing the lawn only need done once a week max during summer and most people don’t bother that often. Dishes, laundry, cleaning etc are things that need doing all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 08:28 AM
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Of course. But the biggest indicator of someone being a victim of an abusive relationship is if they were abused in their childhood. It takes years of therapy and support to work through that which most people don’t have access to. If toxic/abusive love is literally all you know, it’s much harder to identify a healthy relationship and to be in one. Humans crave what’s familiar to them, not necessarily what’s good.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 08:24 AM
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Because some mothers are single, working mothers who just happen to be married. Makes sense to want one less person in the home to take care of.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 08:16 AM
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It’s sad how common this is but glad your friend is doing better. I’ve heard many mothers say the workload is less after divorce as there are now set times where the child is with the father and solely his responsibility. When my friends parents got divorced there were times he’d refuse to pick her up from school even though it was his designated days to take her, and her mum would have to drop whatever she was doing to pick her up. Quite a few times she would end up coming home with me and my f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 08:14 AM
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Answer my question
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:52 AM
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What do them being married and having children have to do with any of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:50 AM
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People get good at lying and fabricating their past, I wouldn’t really expect transparency from a violent convict.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:48 AM
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Men make up the majority in influential, senior roles in politics and the Supreme Court.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:41 AM
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It’s not a matter about “picking better” when abusive men are very good at manipulation and appearing harmless in the initial stages of a relationship. You seriously think these guys are showing up on the first date acting like an ass and throwing hands? They work on these women for months, sometimes years to convince them that they’ve “picked” well before the toxic/violent behaviour starts. And then there’s a myriad of other reasons why by that points it’s very difficult for the victim to leave…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:39 AM
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Are you opposed to no-fault divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:20 AM
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In the words you love so much “men should pick better”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:19 AM
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This is a deliberate strawman I’m not diminishing the mans income. Obviously - mortgages, bills, food, insurance etc are essentials. And as of now, BOTH the man and woman play a role in contributing toward those things. You need eachother. But that mutual dependence isn’t being reflected at home. If you had a joint income of 150k you could afford help to help both of you out. But realistically how many men make enough money to cover those necessities- and enough also have a comfortable life? The…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 06:27 AM
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Can you clarify how you made the connection between those two things? There’s no witch hunt for men, women are finally just “picking better” like you’ve been telling us to.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 06:22 AM
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Given that cases where the woman is cheating and lying about paternity is a tiny minority of cases - yes. I don’t know why you’d be in a relationship at all with someone you trust so little.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 06:21 AM
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Do men define “mid” by the body or face? I was discussing a theory with a friend that men would rather a pretty face on a chubby body rather an ugly face on a slim body. However, I think women rate men by their body rather than face. I know a lot of ugly/mid men but because they were tall and/or in good shape, they still managed to attract women. Sorry to randomly ask this I’m just intrigued what other people think.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 11:33 PM
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Personally it’s something the majority of women grow out of once they realise how exhausting and miserable life is with a toxic guy. The ‘attraction’ is a disorganised attachment defined by high highs and low lows. In my case, it got old quick and I moved on to someone who isn’t toxic at all. I’m far more attracted to him and far happier :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 11:28 PM
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https://www.instagram.com/reel/CsmP7F1LRqn/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 11:20 PM
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You’ve made it pretty clear you didn’t understand my analogy and why some women have that mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 02:08 PM
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There’s a saying that “men have sex to feel connected, women have sex when they feel connected”. Let’s say the man isn’t putting in the effort with romantic gestures, letting his wife know she’s appreciated etc. If her emotional needs aren’t being met and she’ll feel that disconnect and be less inclined to want sex. You can’t expect her to have sex with someone who isn’t meeting her needs because “she knows he wants it”. Women tend to have responsive sex drives whereas men have more spontaneous …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 12:38 PM
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That’s the reason I don’t want kids tbh. Unless I could afford help and had a husband willing to pay for it, I don’t think I could put myself through that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 09:12 AM
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Yeah I agree it’s unfair that the harmless men get painted with the same brush. But I think I speak for most women when I say I’d rather be wrong than hurt or dead. On the flip side, a lot of women get painted with the same brush that we’re all obsessed with chads, lie about our body counts, we’re all obsessed with Instagram and just want a meal ticket. Of course those girls are out there but none that I know. People make those generalisations to protect themselves and as a result, end up bleedi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 09:08 AM
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The analogy I like is: imagine being given a box of chocolates but knowing a few of them are made of shit. You’re going to be wary because you can’t know which is which, not because you now have an issue with all chocolate. About clubs it just depends how you go about it. It’s annoying when you’re trying to enjoy your night and some guy keeps following you around trying to grind on you when you’re clearly not interested. What happened to me was extremely minor compared to what’s happened to othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 08:49 AM
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I think sexual desire can be sparked back to life if both people are willing to work on it. It’s unrealistic to expect the first 6 months of a relationship where you’re at it like rabbits to last for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 08:15 PM
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Real life woman here! I have a bf but I don’t mind men approaching. I politely turn them down, tell them I have a bf and then I don’t think about it again. If I were single and I wasn’t interested I’d go about it the same way. I’ve never known anyone have an issue with a guy approaching when he goes about it the right way. The issue is the guys who go about it creepily, or get pissy when you reject them. They are the ones who make women wary when a guy approaches them. And even if you don’t do t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 07:58 PM
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The best relationships I see are those where they openly simp for eachother. They don’t care about if they’re being cringey or cool, they just openly love eachother with zero shame or reservations.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 05:46 PM
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I’m an acts of service gal too. My bf always brings me coffee in the morning when we spend the night together and makes breakfast and it honestly means a lot to me than he realises. I always make sure he knows it’s appreciated ofc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 03:08 PM
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I’ve heard a similar phrase elsewhere - if it’s not a hell yes it’s a hell no. It’s a cringey catchphrase but its the reason I’ve never been strung along or ended up in a situationship. If someone’s not all in, move on and find someone who is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 03:01 PM
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Have a blast bbygirl
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 02:06 PM
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I’m a woman who never had a ‘hoe phase’ unless you count dates and kissing. I’ve always known that one night stands and casual sex aren’t for me so I never tried. I’m now in a LTR and neither of us care about what the other did before eachother, we have around the same body count, it’s all good ✌🏼He wouldn’t care if my count was 10+ more, I wouldn’t care about his.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 01:01 PM
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Please go talk to some real life women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 12:58 PM
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https://sociology.stanford.edu/sites/sociology/files/normative_discrimination_and_the_motherhood_penalty.pdf
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 10:50 AM
2

It’s been biologically proven that men and women don’t mature faster than the other. However, many people have been led to believe that young women mature faster than young men. As a result, this enables many young men to behave more immaturely as they’ve essentially been given a pass, it’s what is expected of them. All the phrases we have like “locker room talk” and “boys will be boys” and even telling young girls that if a boy is mean to you, it’s because he must like you. I’ve known a 21 year…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 10:39 AM
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Really? Because all the red pill preferences I see describe the ideal woman as “fit, feminine and friendly”. An ambitious well-spoken woman will be seen as argumentative and difficult in a relationship. It’s normal to enjoy shared interests in a partner - my bf and I are both super into weight lifting and working out and it’s fun to share that hobby, I’m not somehow more masculine because of it. That has nothing to do with the post. Men are also very misguided for thinking that women want stoic …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 10:27 AM
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I’m talking more about a teenage girl going out with a guy in his 20s - people argue that in those relationships the maturity level is equal as women mature faster. Think 16 and 21 rather than 21 and 40. You also pick apart and make a strawman out of one minor detail of my argument. So maybe try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 10:20 AM
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And they say women are the ones who can’t take a joke 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 08:23 AM
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I think you misunderstood this post
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 08:22 AM
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Is it not obvious? When you have a kid, staying after 5pm is not an option if you have to pick up the kid from the nanny/daycare/school. Look up “the motherhood penalty” which describes the myriad of ways mothers are penalised in the workplace for having children. It’s always been like this. Mothers who work all hours are seen as bad mothers, but a dad who does this is just a hardworking dad who wants to provide for his family. The mum who leaves work early to get her kids is a deadweight at wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 08:21 AM
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That’s why I specified “for those who want to get married and have children … what’s the IDEAL” chill out
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 08:02 AM
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I’d argue that women are expected to be more emotionally intelligent and illiterate as men. I mean isn’t that how we justify age gap relationships, because women mature faster? We’re also very quickly written off as hysterical, bitchy and demanding. There’s more pressure for women to behave in an ‘acceptable way’. Women are seen as emotional despite men being the ones far more prone to violence and aggression.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 11:07 PM
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The observation came from a relationship therapist who’s worked with couples for 30 years during divorce, affairs etc and her main observation was this: Men have a skewed idea of what 50-50 means. A lot of women divorcing their husbands do so because they’re insisting that they equally share the labour, they don’t realise how much the wife does so they’re doing more 80-20 while insisting it’s 50-50. Feel how you feel about it, it’s just observations from thousands of mothers who divorced their h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 10:18 PM
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It’s well established that we’re all past ‘needing’ relationships. Regardless, sometimes people love eachother and want to spend their lives together, wild concept isn’t it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 04:06 PM
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It’s not about ego, it’s about the power dynamic. Children ask their parents for money. Employees effectively ask their employers for money. Partners don’t. Also if she’s raising your kid - she is working. She just doesn’t get paid for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:57 PM
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How’s that relevant to anything? This is about how you’d work with your partner who’s raising your kid. I work in investment banking, safe to say I don’t need a meal ticket 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:53 PM
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Fair. Like I say I don’t want kids but if I did, I’d want to be the one raising them and instilling my values. I just couldn’t put myself in a position where I could be financially screwed over and unemployable if my husband decided to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:48 PM
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I think most people would find it demeaning and an unfair power dynamic having to ask their spouse for money, rather than having a joint bank account both contribute an equitable percentage of their earnings
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:46 PM
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Does that mean you’d be willing to pick up 50% of the childcare and housework, or are you just focused on her staying employed and being able to split bills
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:45 PM
2

If you have kids wouldn’t that make her a stay at home mum?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:14 PM
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I specified ‘for those who want to marry and have children’ for this reason
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:09 PM
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How would your wife access money, would there be a joint account or an allowance situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 02:48 PM
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Did you ever consider adjusting your hours to accommodate school time?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 02:11 PM
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Can I ask why you would want to have a child you only plan on seeing a few times a year? I’m sure you’re aware of all the statistical advantages children from single parent homes face.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 02:08 PM
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Could you be more specific?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 12:50 PM
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Why do you think improving yourself is no longer being yourself? I’m very different now to how I was at 18 and I’ve improved in a myriad of ways and I hardly recognise myself back then. I’m more attractive now in a lot of ways, but I didn’t do it for the sole purpose of becoming attractive. I wouldn’t say I’m not myself anymore, just that I’ve levelled up and changed for the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 12:38 PM
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Not really, I don’t know any women who claim to have unique taste in men. There might be small quirks and idiosyncrasies they find endearing but nothing that deep. Broadly yeah, heterosexual women want masculine traits in men in the same men want feminine traits in women. What’s the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 12:33 PM
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So what exactly are you upset about?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 12:30 PM
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People need to look up “pigging” and the horrible stories around it that have happened to women Insecure men love knocking women down a peg, even women who aren’t ugly but are confident will be flooded with insults. Men make damn sure to let women know they find them unattractive. Women, for the most part, just leave the men they don’t find attractive alone. Even when I’ve been hit on, or I’m turning someone down, I would never tell them it’s because I don’t find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 12:16 PM
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I’m a girl in a LTR who recently got a sizeable inheritance - enough to buy a property in cash if I wanted but I want to buy somewhere in the city I live in so that’s not so much of an option. My bf earns slightly more. Our idea is to find somewhere and I put down let’s say 80% of the agreed downpayment (easy number let’s say it’s 100k) and he’ll put down the other 20k. You can state very clearly in the mortgage exactly who is entitled to what when you two sell. We will be tenants in common. So …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 11:00 AM
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Can you explain how exactly? The issue is that women object to being made to work double shifts. Men gleefully pounce on the chance to split the bills, rent ‘because this is what you feminists wanted!’ but when it’s time to divide the household chores fairly, now you’re whingeing. The vast majority of mothers work. And even if they earn less than the father, her salary is the difference between being able to afford the mortgage payment, gas, insurance. Less urgent but still important things that…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 10:33 AM
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Yes I do, I have wonderful men in my family and a loving partner. I don’t value men who ask daft questions like this and genuinely believe men are undervalued
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 11:35 PM
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