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Take a break from dating. It’s not necessarily a break-up (even though most breaks end that way) and it can allievate some anxiety of you actually having to break up with him. I know how you feel. I was in a similar situation last year where I knew my ex wasn’t good enough for me, yet I loved him and couldn’t be without him (or so I thought). I also suggested to him to take a break and during the time we were apart, I was thriving. I could finally focus on myself, my friends and my hobbies. Afte…
/r/askFDS10/07/21 02:44 PM
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Can you recommend some good websites/material? I’ve tried to read some fanfictions with my favourite characters, but sadly most of them are written by pickmes with bdsm fetish 😔
/r/askFDS10/07/21 03:35 AM
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Man this was a roller-coaster. Yeah, like the others suggested: block and delete him (someone who’s pushing thirty has no business pursuing a literal teenager) and read the Handbook. Then read it again.
/r/askFDS08/07/21 03:35 PM
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If something feels off, it probably is. Trust your gut.
/r/askFDS07/07/21 01:54 PM
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Yeah, I know how you feel. I always hated when the guy only responded to my question, without continuing the conversation any further. Or if they asked something irrelevant instead (e.g. “Have you eaten [xy]?” without an actual intend for an invitation/date). Doesn’t sound too well at this point. Might want to B/D (Block and Delete).
/r/askFDS06/07/21 05:00 AM
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No worries! Glad I’ve been able to help ☺️. Do you have an update, btw?
/r/askFDS06/07/21 04:52 AM
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More than focusing on the whys, ask yourself a question; is this behaviour acceptable to me? If so then continue dating. If not, find someone else. Refocus your enegry on yourself and what you want rather than on what he’s doing and why. It’s really hard from your post to determine if he’s low value or not just based on one-time lack of texting. Could be anything. He could be not as interested as you suggest, or just lying in bed from being sick. That’s not important. What is important is how yo…
/r/askFDS05/07/21 01:06 PM
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Not a boyfriend. She said they weren’t exclusive
/r/askFDS04/07/21 02:14 PM
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This. Their primary purpose is to sustain life, NOT to be attractive for the male gaze. I also recommmend visiting public baths (if possible) or going to any other area where you can see real naked women.
/r/askFDS30/06/21 05:20 AM
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Yeah, I’d probably be too embarrased to tell my friends the real reason as well. Well, live and learn. Also, just for future reference: you shouldn’t introduce a guy to your friends and/or family unless he introduces you to his first.
/r/askFDS28/06/21 02:22 PM
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Hi! Are you me half a year ago? I also moved to another country and got a boyfriend as soon as I’ve arrived. Our relationship has been pretty shallow, too. We only seen each other once a week max (bcs he was so “busy” 🙄), and pretty much all my social fullfilment came from this relationship, too. I felt miserable and later on found out he was cheating on me. That was the last straw. The best part about breaking up with him was me realizing how much free time I have now and not obsessing over him…
/r/askFDS26/06/21 01:42 AM
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Yeah, ofc. I meant more like moving to another app (like LINE, Whatsapp, etc.) not giving them your real number. Is this why I’m getting downvoted or bcs FDS doesn’t support dating apps in general?
/r/askFDS22/06/21 06:54 AM
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As with real life dating, it should be the guy that always initiates. Moving from app to call/text should take couple of days imo (or as long as you’re comfortable with). But yeah, best is to avoid datin apps as most men using them are trash.
/r/askFDS22/06/21 04:18 AM
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That's so true. My NVM ex had his whole career path planned out, but when I asked him about our relationship, he was drawing a blank. Funnily enough, he told me he wants to get married and have kids despite me not wanting to. He kept referring to his "future wife" 🤦🏻‍♀️. Should have seen his true intentions coming and left him right then and there.
/r/askFDS12/06/21 02:15 PM
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Definitely don’t tell him the purpose of the call (we never reveal our cards). If he asks, you can just say that you wanted to see what he looks like. He should be the one asking you questions and steering the conversation. If he’s not, he’s probably awkward or not that interested. You should finish the call within half an hour or so regardless (unless he’s giving you creep vibes - then sooner). You don’t need to explain yourself, just tell him you “need to go”. Also, don’t overthink it; it’s ju…
/r/askFDS11/06/21 05:05 AM
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Thanks for confirming this to me. I think it also goes vice versa - they count on you being attracted to their physical appearance rather than their personality of a wet sock
/r/askFDS10/06/21 08:43 AM
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“The conversation needs to continue between now and the date”. Thank you so much for saying this. I’ve read men on another subreddit claiming that talking between setting up the date and the actual date is just a waste of time or that they won’t have anything to talk about (as if meeting someone in person would magically change that), or they’re worried they might say something wrong which would lead to their date being cancelled. What do you think about that? Personally, if a guy doesn’t messag…
/r/askFDS10/06/21 03:52 AM
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He doesn’t care about you nor respect you. Why are you still with him? You already broke up once so why take him back? Do you think he has changed to the better? If so then how exactly? People don’t really change unless the motivation to do so comes from within and they spend YEARS doing hard work and going to therapy. Has he done any of that? We are the reflection of five people we chose to spend the most time with. Him chosing Jack over you makes him an a-hole by association. The text with the…
/r/askFDS09/06/21 03:46 PM
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Thanks for your reply! I don't think it sounds boring or crazy at all.
/r/askFDS01/06/21 08:09 AM
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Thank you so much for your reply. It feels extremely validating. Sometimes I feel I lean more towards hetero, sometimes I cannot imagine myself being with men at all. I’ve read somewhere that that’s normal for a bisexual person so thank you for confirming this. ✨
/r/askFDS29/05/21 02:30 AM
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Thanka for your reply. Lately, I’ve been trying to “re-program” myself, too, but it usually works only towards the climax. How long would you say it took you to change your mind about that completely?
/r/askFDS29/05/21 02:29 AM
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Thank you for taking time and replying to my comment. It feels validating knowing I’m not alone. I think you’re right about not being 100% sure until having the experience itself. The thing is that I live in a country where most women here are not my type (East Asia). On the contrary, I find men here really attractive. Maybe I’m just sexually attracted to feminime looking guys and vice versa? IDK. Basically if I can’t tell your gender, you’re my type 🤣
/r/askFDS28/05/21 04:03 PM
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I know how you feel. I’m kind of in the same boat here. I’m bicurious, but I’ve never had anything with a woman. Men have put me off of sex too bcs I’m worried they might be too violent or still secretely getting off to violent porn like most of them do. However, when I masturbate, I imagine having sex with women. I don’t think about men sexually at all, quite frankly, I find their genitals disgusting, yet I’m strongly attracted to them irl. Has anyone ever had similar experience like this? That…
/r/askFDS28/05/21 03:08 PM
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You did the right choice. Also, I’m wondering, if he’s a friend with your PickMe friend, why didn’t he ask her to introduce you? 🤔
/r/askFDS26/05/21 02:52 AM
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I don’t think he should meet your family/friends before you meet his. Read The Rules.
/r/askFDS24/05/21 05:37 AM
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I think also the age is a tell all. He’s just 22.
/r/askFDS24/05/21 03:21 AM
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He tried to mask his insecurity by fishing for a reassurance. How did you respond?
/r/askFDS24/05/21 03:19 AM
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I’d definitely wanted to know if I was the mom!
/r/askFDS19/05/21 11:22 AM
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Or by yourself ☺️
/r/askFDS17/05/21 03:14 AM
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Absolutely do not feel bad about this. That’s his issue. Look up “retrospective jealousy” and dump his ass. You deserve better. Remember - exes are exes for a reason, people don’t really change (in a 2 year span anyway).
/r/askFDS17/05/21 03:12 AM
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First of all, I’m so sorry you went throught that. Second of all, I don’t think they’re your real friends. The “I’d kill myself if I was sexually assaulted, but you’re so strong” is textbook negging. I don’t know any woman who hasn’t been assaulted so your so-called friends are most likely lying. I’m astonished by their lack of empathy and tone-deffness and I suggest you cut them off as well in order to proceed with your emotional healing. Please don’t internalize your feelings of jealousy, they…
/r/askFDS15/05/21 03:44 AM
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I was being lead on by an engaged man who “will break up with his fiancé soon”. Oldest tale in the book. Turns out not only he did not break up with her, but they got married shortly after he ended up things with me. I was itching so bad to send his fiancé copies of our texts, but after consulting with my (back then pickme) friends, they all told me not to mingle in his personal life. Yawn. Should have texter her the receipts and help her make an informed decision about marrying this cheating an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:26 PM
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Would you like to share some tips? I don’t want to go there bcs every time I do it just boils my blood and it’s so incoherent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:36 AM
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They won’t change, sis. Give up on the false hope. Don’t tell them your values. Let them tell you on themselves and then act accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:35 PM
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It’s not about being disgusting or not. They like anal bcs women don’t. They get off on degrading and humiliating us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:33 PM
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I’d look into why do you want that? Does your self-esteem and/or self-worth depend on whether or not males find you attractive? If so then why? That is the ultimate pickme mindset. I don’t think trying to get rid of it will work, just really look into yourself and ask those questions. I think, for me, the greatest realization re. men has been that they ain’t shit so their validation/attention means little to me and is not worth it. Also, therapy helps as well.
/r/askFDS13/05/21 03:21 PM
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If you want to be a HVW stop seeking male attention/validation. You’re trully not missing anything. It’s a blessing in disguise.
/r/askFDS13/05/21 02:20 PM
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Mood 😂🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:21 AM
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It’s true. Men never actually heal or move on from they past relationships/trauma, etc. They just carry it on indefinitely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:11 AM
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Low Value Male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:56 AM
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This reminded me of a post I’ve read yesterday about a man complaining about his “worst rejection ever”. The girl basically told him “I don’t want to date you” and all the men in the comments were circle-jerking themselves how she was being rude. Excuse me, what? 🤨. Women get beatened, harrased, threatened, stalked, and murdered when they reject a man yet simply hearing “no” is the worst possible thing that can happen to a man. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:46 AM
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"Men might think they're smart by playing the dumb act, but they're actually too stupid to remember to play dumb when their egos are at stake." This. Beautifully said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:29 AM
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Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:29 AM
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Omg that clears up why so many men don’t take women seriously when they are angry and/or upset and diminsh their feelings 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:37 AM
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Sounds like my ex 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:31 AM
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It’s one thing to eat food your wife has prepared (=manly) and another one to go by yourself to an ice cream / crépe / sweets shop. The opposite goes for women - if you go alone to an izakaya or ramen shop, you’ll get some dirty looks bcs it’s not considered feminime. Needless to say, this hasn’t stopped me from enjoying my favourite miso ramen 🍜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:24 AM
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You’re learning 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:21 PM
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Imagine living in a country where you cannot eat an ice cream or crépes and other types of sweets alone bcs it’s considered unmanly cough cough Japan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:15 PM
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Oh so that’s what those are...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:14 PM
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“Don’t you have a fucking life?” This. This right here. Of course they don’t. Any high value person spends time doing better, more productive things than watching porn. So saying “99% of men watch porn” is literally scrotes telling on themselves they are low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:16 AM
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That’s a great idea, but I’d also like to raise you this: my LVM ex-coworker tended to praise/rise women himself. He just always made sure that he was never praising you. For example: “ooh my [female] coworker so and so is great and skilled, I’m glad I have her on my team”, etc. etc. He’d go out of his way to compliment everyone else except for... you. It was a narcisistic tactic to subtly put me down without realizing his short-comings because “he praises other people so highly so surely he’s n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:31 PM
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Exactly!
/r/askFDS04/05/21 02:26 AM
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Yup. Welcome to the club, sister.
/r/askFDS03/05/21 03:59 PM
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She wasn’t talking neccessarily about you or saying that men think that about you.
/r/askFDS03/05/21 02:45 PM
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Exactly! 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:05 AM
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It makes me happy reading encouraging stories like these. I wish I could help so many women that still have wool over the eyes, but whenever I try to give some advice they just brush me off or say that I’m bitter or don’t trust men. (Which is true. Wonder why 🤔). So I just gave up. The only great and valuable female friends I’ve ever had were either lesbian or asexual - so out of touch with men completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:47 PM
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Don’t be so hard on yourself. We’ve all been there. It’s really hard dismantling patriarchy and mysogyny that has been engrained to us ever since we were born. The good thing is that you were able to recognize it and you can take it as a valuable lesson / experience and act accordingly. Bonus points for seeing your co-worker as the true LVM he is and being able to take off your rose coloured glasses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:41 PM
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Well in that case I’d only disclose it if a man would flat out ask me about that. If it’s important to you to know whether a man was married or not (for whatever reason), why not just ask him? Also, I feel like someone who’d be judgemental of your past marriage(s) would exhibit other red flags than just this one. The reason why I’m advocating not disclosing this information until the man is properly vetted and a relationship has been established is that, much like with your past trauma, it can b…
/r/askFDS02/05/21 02:37 PM
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Why do you feel like it’s something that needs to be disclosed? 🤨. Frankly, it’s none of your dates’ business until potentially getting married. And even then it’s doubtful whether to disclose it or not. They don’t need to know. Unless you’re still legally married, it doesn’t change anything.
/r/askFDS02/05/21 02:22 PM
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The counceling was a blessing in disguise. Doesn’t matter if he purposely chose the timing to hurt you, you should thank your therapist for freeing you from such a low value scrote. Good riddance.
/r/askFDS02/05/21 02:18 PM
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Bets on he also fucked her unconsentually after she passed out. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:06 PM
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Natural selection at its finest. Just like her quick spaghetti, I give it a chef’s kiss 👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:51 PM
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This. Better safe than sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:47 AM
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IKR??? It pisses me off too how much not only money but time it goes to being a woman and performative femininity (such as shaving, wearing make-up, etc.). It sometimes almost make me feel as if women were intentionally conditioned to do that so that the men can go out and do things while women just sit at home and...get ready 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:46 AM
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“I still feel paranoid at the thought of falling asleep in the presence of a man”. This. This right here. The other day, I saw a post on another subreddit where a guy was genuinely asking if all girls have sleeping problems because all the girls he’s been with couldn’t sleep properly. I mean ummm??? Hello?? If all the girls you’ve been with don’t trust you so much they’re anxious to fall asleep next to you, wouldn’t the problem be you? I mean do men not realize that for a woman to sleep in their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:16 AM
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“10 mins in? Time to leave” sent me lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:08 AM
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He’s just so jealous/salty the “perfect” (read: bare minimum) man ain’t him and instead of doing smth about it and working on himself he whinnes on the Internet like the manchild he is 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:05 AM
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Gurl, I stopped reading after that "spark" thing. It seems like he wasn't really as into you as you'd thought. I know it sucks, but as you've said - you barely spent any time together so why hang up on it? Let it go and move on. Good luck~
/r/askFDS30/04/21 03:52 PM
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Your mom knows. Hence the expensive gift cards. She feels guilty for not stepping up and protecting you. Stay safe.
/r/askFDS30/04/21 02:44 PM
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He isn’t even in the library 🤣🤣🤣
/r/askFDS28/04/21 05:02 AM
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Wow, did you date my ex?? All the points are spot on. It’s funny how all scrotes seem to follow the same manual. And yes, you did the right thing. You’re already way ahead of him (mentally, emotionally, and financially) so there would be no future where you could grow together. He’d only drag you down. I don’t think your standards are necessarily high, I’d want my partner to be an equal as well, but he sounds like a very low level / low value man. Good riddance 👏🏻
/r/askFDS28/04/21 05:00 AM
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Stay mad and bent lmao 🤣🤣🤣👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:05 PM
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When I was teaching English, one of my clients was telling me about his childbirth and how he was so uncomfortable because he was hungry and there weren’t any good snacks in the nearby vending machines! Like your wife just literally pushed another human being out of her vagina but okay dude cry me a river about you being hungy 🙄🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:10 PM
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For someone who says is “livid”, you come across as very calm and collected. Kudos to you for regulating your emotions better than her. I’m sorry you missed the meteor shower, but on the other hand you finally saw her true colours and can cut her off. LV people will do anything in their power to bring you down (be it consciously or not) so it’s good that you were able to recognize this and act accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 11:11 AM
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We been knew, queens, we been knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:45 PM
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This reminds me of the meme of the person riding the bicycle, sticking a stick into their wheels causing them to fall down, scraping their knee, and blaming it on someone else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:36 AM
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Have you tried going to your local clubs for hobbies? You mentioned you like working out - join a gym! You like to drink sometimes - is there some activity you can incorporate with that? Another great way to meet new friends is learning a new language ☺️. IDK where you live, though, so the face to face options might be fairly limited because of the pandenic, but I’m sure there are some options online? Like virtual drinking parties, discussion forums related to your passion/hobbies, etc. Good luc…
/r/askFDS19/04/21 10:32 AM
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This. Men only help other women when they want “something” from them 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:21 AM
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Ding ding ding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:01 PM
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This can be applied the other way round: watch how he acts when something unexpected happens to him. Does he go into radio silence and hide? Does he sulk to no end like a child? Does he make you your therapist while having fun with “the boys”?? Etc. Etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:58 PM
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This is one of the reasons I think we should be paid more. Not only do we perform more work, but our monthly expenses are way higher than an average man. Think about all the hygiene and grooming products (like hair care, skin care, vaxing, etc.) and all its TIME it takes to get ready. Sure, you migt chose not to do that and not partake in perfomative feminity, but how many women feel self-conscious and worthless if they do that? How many women are literally expected to wear make up and heels and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:01 AM
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Yeah. I had to unfollow many female artists for the exact same reason. Their comics were otherwise the bomb, but once it came to glorifying LVM behaviours like video game addiction, laziness, blatant disrespect, etc. etc. I just couldn’t take it anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:56 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:45 PM
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I’m sorry but this is lowkey creepy 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:41 PM
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The ending killed me 😂. I thought she was about to add smth after that, but she just cut it at the best possible time I’m howling 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:36 PM
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Boy why u smellin your brothers wife 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:33 PM
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He says he’s 27, but he sounds like a child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:17 PM
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“I’d normally date other women to move on” 🤢. Smth tells me the only reason he wants her back rn is bcs she’s dating someone else. Fucking scrote 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:13 PM
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Your comment made me laugh :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:25 AM
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There comes a point in your FDS journey where your former pick-me friends just serve you no purpose and you no longer can relate to them. It’s better to realize that sooner rather than later and focus on finding new high-value friends, otherwise they’ll just drag you back into the pick-me state you’ve worked so hard to come out of. I know this sounds harsh, but you gotta stay ruthless and apply FDS principles across all forms of relationships. Good luck. Stay vigilant!
/r/askFDS09/04/21 02:25 PM
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This looks like my LVX’s house lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:08 AM
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I think the only thing you can do at this moment is to be a support system for her. If you directly tell her to break up with him, she might become stubborn/rebelious and reject your advice. Just listen to her, offer any help she might need, and tell her she’s welcome to stay at your place and have your support anytime she needs. Another way to help her realize what an absolute POS he is, repeat any LVM thing he does she tells you about. For example, “oh, he didn’t allow you to put the grocery b…
/r/askFDS07/04/21 03:26 AM
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Thank you for talking about this! I’ve just seen her video about this yesterday, and been mostly worried about her not getting an engagement ring (like wtf??? Even during the pandemic, you can still send stuff), him still living with his parents (didn’t know he was 20-something, but still... Chances are his mother does everything for him, so the chores, etc. will just fall on Kayla for sure, the 50/50 division of labor is a lie), plus he’s going to depend on her financially and emotionally for t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:17 PM
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Projecting at its finest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:49 PM
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Thank u!
/r/askFDS04/04/21 04:42 PM
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That’s true. Once their mind is truly pornsick and their neurons are re-wired from watching too much pornography, they will normalize shit like objectifying and sexualizing other women right in front of you or telling you details you never wanted to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:36 AM
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“Does he follow half-naked models on Insta/other social media?” This. This should be more high-lighted. My LVX did that and I downplayed it as “oh, it’s better than watching porn”. Turns out he beat his dick three times a day to this (alongside with consuming other forms of pornography of course) and had an ED at 21.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:21 AM
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Omg that reminded me of the girl who acts like a dog and is popular on YT/TikTok...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:50 AM
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That’s not a man, that’s a child 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:37 AM
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😂😂😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:46 AM
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I think it’s because how sex and sexuality is so readily available in porn and social media these days :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:44 AM
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This is gold. To be honest, since following FDS, I kind of naturally fell out of touch with my pickme “friends”. It’s nothing against them, it’s just that their presence didn’t bring any value to my life and one can talk only about guys so much. I’m happy to say that I’ve been able to find new, high-value friends whom I treasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:33 AM
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The last part is so true - it SHOULD BE exciting to any healthy sexual male to provide pleasure to their partner and not seeing it as a chore. Too bad they ruined their brain and dicks on porn so having sex with them is usually just painfully one-sided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:29 AM
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Yup. I saved her comment 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:08 PM
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😂😂😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:09 PM
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I know what “banter” means, I’ve just never heard the word “banterous”. Since I’m not a native speaker I wasn’t sure if it’s an actual word or not. Thank you for confirming to me that he, in deed, bastardized the actual word. Now I can continue living in peace~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:08 PM
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Banterous... Never heard this word before tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:31 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:04 AM
85

Right now you might feel like it doesn’t get better, but give it couple of months and you’ll be surprised how it gets better beyond anything you could imagine. Trust me; been there done that. Also, the cheating part lost me - I could never ever tolerate infidelity no matter how “good” my partner was (spoiler alert: good people don’t cheat). The moment they cheat on me, they become my ex. I’d also suggest looking into why you were into BDSM in the first place and write down a list of the shitty t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:41 PM
3

He used to to be abusive? No honey, you just got used to it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:57 PM
1

Don’t get married. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:55 PM
29

Why is liking (and saving??) half-naked women’s pics such a trope?? Had bfs from Two continents and almost every single one did that. Why???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:46 PM
44

You mean besides audacity and unsolicited advice? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:19 AM
17

Umm is this my ex?? 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:39 PM
43

Personally, I don’t agree with this. As someone who doesn’t want to get married (been there done that), according to this guy, I’ll stay single forever. The thing is, that if I were trully single, I’d date other guys, which I obviously won’t do in a commited relationship. Also, nothing guarantees that HVM will stay HVM even after marrying you. On the contrary, some men show their true colours only AFTER they “lock you down” and marry you. Divorcing a LVM or NVM can be hell and can drag for years…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:14 AM
3

Thanks for sharing the story. It sounds really awful. Like couldn’t he pick a better ring and timing? Anyway, it’s in the past now so we can just move forward~~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:44 AM
1

Okay thanks this is actually helpfull what to do before reporting him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:37 AM
8

Oh my god, speaking of that - can we talk about people who are mentally challenged yet try to sexually advance on you? Does any of you have any experience or advice on how to deal with that? There’s this client at my work who, can’t put a finger on it, but is highly possible to be on the spectrum, and he always make coments about women’s bodies and tells us how he wants to get a gf. I think he’s genuinelly harmless (don’t want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I can’t really imagine him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:19 PM
12

The first one is so gross... I’m so sorry for you 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:09 PM
7

Omg I hate when my LVX asked me that. Like sure I can, but do I want to? Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:06 PM
16

Spill the tea, sis 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:56 PM
0

*you 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:50 PM
12

Ugh. My LVX used to tell me my body was “juicy”. At first I contributed to his English not being a first language, later on I found out it was just his porn-fried pea sized brain 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:45 PM
3

I love her accent 😍👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:27 AM
2

Couldn’t be me 😌💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:25 AM
4

Lmao I thought this was a joke until I got to the “plate” part 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:14 PM
7

5-head 🤣🤣🤣🤣👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:23 PM
9

This part killed me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:14 AM
37

So, a doll?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:29 PM
13

If mental gymnastics weren’t the only sports he does, he already might’ve been in a good shape 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:55 PM
39

He might just be testing your boundaries to see if you’ll adjust your schedule to better suit him 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:38 PM
16

Isn’t it funny how guys are NOT okay with that bcs they know what men can do and about their ulterior motives, but when the roles are reversed it suddenly doesn’t apply to them? Scrote logic 101
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:32 PM
8

Love this 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻. Saved for future reference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:29 PM
4

Tingle in his dingle sends me 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:37 PM
6

He probably wanted you not to make V-day plans with other men who’d put in more effort. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:49 PM
12

I second this. I don’t really get what OP was trying to say by this post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:51 AM
24

As a Slavic woman, can confirm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:48 PM
9

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:27 PM
2

Wow this is really pretty and your office is so neat!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:52 AM
3

That’s sad 😟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:28 AM
114

You know what? It’s not even in dating. I work in a teaching profession where we deliver personal, face to face lessons with one client at a time only. The amount of (male) instructors who’ve told me how they clients were going through some personal trouble or a rough time yet didn’t follow up with them was astonishing. When I called them out on it, they simply retorted they’re “not their therapist”. So now you have to be a professional therapist in order to ask someone about their day or follow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:32 PM
14

Omg, as someone who’s recently dated a person from another culture (Japanese) this is extremely usefull. I should have done my homework lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:24 PM
78

As they should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:40 PM
1

Pls post more pictures of your cat 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:04 PM
6

Absolutely fucking love this 😍😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:55 AM
7

Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:14 PM
7

For some reason this killed me 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:36 PM
11

Solid advice. I’d just add - if you can - don’t be at your home on V-Day. Stay with your friend/family (lockdown permitting)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:17 PM
55

Ladies, take notes, and don’t sit like a rectangle. And men complain about this sub for not being about self-imrpovent 🙄 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:13 PM
57

I know how you feel. As a bisexual woman, I sometimes feel afraid of coming off as coming onto someone as well. I’d argue that since she kept chasing LVM, she was a LVW as well. I guess your package just sped up the process of showing her true colours. Good ridance imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:00 PM
55

IKR??? But you know he won’t. POS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:14 PM
12

Lmao it’s funny how they always turn it against you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:13 AM
6

It just shows that no matter what you do, sick and depraved men will always interpret your behaviour as you wanting to fuck them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:10 AM
194

Wtf is this. Stop calling it a “romance” and tell it like it is. It’s SEX. All you want is SEX. If it was about “romance” as a concept you wouldn’t mind wining and dining us to hell and back and taking us on actuall romantic dates. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:42 PM
87

I have yet to come across a woman who actually enjoys it. (I’m not putting anyone down, just curious)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:00 AM
53

Yeah. Also the “lesbians will understand” remark. Come on girl, this is what other subs make fun of us for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:32 PM
38

This. Everytime I start to feel weak (read: lonely) I think of all the unfulfilled relationships and am happy to be single 😂🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:51 AM
3

Yeah she kinda looks like her 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:38 PM
13

💀👏🏻👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:51 AM
9

flashbacks to me getting my LVX new socks bcs he couldn’t be bothered to wear matching ones 😂🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:12 AM
18

Lol, the other day I also got a 19 yo boy sliding to my DMs asking for s*x. I’m 10 years older. Fastest block I ever made 😩. (Imagine if the roles were reversed tho 🤢)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:00 AM
91

If nothing else, it further encourages it, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:26 AM
18

This 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻. Thank god I live in Japan now, where this culture is normalized 😂🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:29 AM
18

Your comment is gold. If I had some Reddit awards, I’d give you one. 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:16 PM
3

Yes, omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:01 PM
10

They did nothing wrong to you except for raising your POS NVX so 🤷🏻‍♀️🥴 Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:34 PM
18

IKR? I was just thinking about using it as a vetting process...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:20 AM
43

🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:58 PM
12

My LVX used to do this and it drove me crazy. Every time I texted him, he waited 3-5 HOURS to reply back, yet when we were together, he used to text his family/friends all. the. time. He also had the app we used to communicating with on his desktop so he got the notification from my text on at least two devices lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:37 AM
23

“Scrotation” 😂. If he’s playing games and showing low energy just move on 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:32 AM
9

Okay but can we talk about how do they think it’s normal to take and post a picture of their feet??? Like what the actual fuck lmao flashbacks to having scrotes back in the day sliding to my DMs with nasty ass feet 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:26 AM
12

Lmao this killed me 😂👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:20 AM
23

Why would he buy his own bottle when his gf can bring him one obviously? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:32 AM
11

Lmao in the country I currently live in (Japan), it’s expected of women to confess/give gifts to men 🤡. Needles to say I’m currently staying single 🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:55 AM
41

Man I wonder what kind of excuse he pulled to his parents. I bet he still has NO IDEA WHY you left him lol. Btw, you dropped this: 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:42 AM
13

Me too 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:38 AM
60

He didn’t want you to feel confident with yourself, he thrived on making you feel uncomfortable 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:21 AM
3

This 😂😂😂👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:45 PM
21

Dude I need to get me a fake wedding ring 💅🏻. Also, the strategy of “amping up your energy” and overwhelming them with questions works magic bcs they expect you to be just shy or they want to just listen to themselves talking~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:29 AM
19

Absolutely this. You consent, then the act turns into something you didn’t expect to, your trauma gets triggered and now you’re in too deep & affraid to say anything so you just let it happen and pile up the drama furthermore. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:17 AM
27

Yup. I was thinking the alternative as well 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:05 PM
11

Girl, are you me? 😂. Same thing happened to me and my LVX (love that abbreviation, btw), but in November last year. And to answer your question - no, I haven’t seen him on OLD yet bcs I’ve decided to put off dating men for the forseeable future and haven’t used any dating sites since I met him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:07 AM
57

I also come from a different culture and here calling someone “daddy” in the bedroom would be an instant turn off for all parties involved (unless, like you’ve said, they’re mentally ill).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:03 AM
8

I’m crying at both of your replies 😂😂😂👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:57 AM
7

“YOU ARE NOT A VACUUM.” Beautiful analogy 😂😂👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:34 AM
3

Ah, I see. Thanks for explaining. It’s true that men usually don’t leave relationship unless there’s another woman in the picture, but I was wondering why would he put in so much effort in the beginning if he just wanted to get laid (I don’t think man just wanting to get laid would bring you flowers, but correct me if I’m wrong) UNLESS he felt like OP was his only choice. Regardless, I still feel like he was just salty, hence his response. But who knows... 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:30 AM
198

The game is rigged. The only way to win is not to play 🤷🏻‍♀️. Beautiful post btw, saving it 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:14 PM
25

Do it for yourself, gurrl ☺️💁🏻‍♀️💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 02:43 PM
23

“Don’t waste time when things feel weird.” 🙌🏻. Should be a motto. Always listen to your instinct, ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:36 PM
11

What do you mean? (Sorry, English is not my first language..)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:25 PM
7

Preach sis 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻. Yeah, the only good thing about my last break up was that it lead me to FDS and made me a better person 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:14 AM
4

Yes. This. If you show a man he can treat you with disrespect, that’s how he’s always goin to treat you from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:08 AM
3

Experienced this with my last ex. At the beginning of the relaionship things were relativelly fine, but shortly after it was NOT just working out. He became unavailable and shady, yet I was still madly in love with him even though I’ve realized he’s not treating me right. Later on, found out he was cheating and that was the last straw (I can tolerate a lot of BS, but infidelity is NOT one of them). Anyway, turns out this whole time I thought I loved him I was just trauma bonding. Fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:06 AM
78

Yeah, I think THAT’s the reason. If he was not really into you, he wouldn’t go out of his way to keep asking you out, buying you flowers, etc. Men are so lazy nowadays he would’ve just moved on to someone else. Why else would he put effort into your relationship if he was not trully interested? I think he was actually hurt, but just tried to save his ass by agreeing with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:55 AM
23

Excellent post! 👏🏻. I’d like to add few points to the equity between men and women: • Regarding paying on dates: not only do women take longer to prepare for them, but the products they use are much more expensive than men’s (usually). And if not for that, women still have higher expenses than men simply because they need to buy sanitary products and there’s also a thing called the “pink tax”. Statistically, women also make less than men, so basically men paying the bills only make sense. (If he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:51 AM
13

This. Or he’s going to do it only to later on rub it in your face and ask you some favours for it. (“I did the dishes like you asked me to, so can we have a threesome now?” 🥺)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:27 AM
31

Spare coochie? 😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:43 PM
9

😂😂😂😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:58 PM
15

Yess 😆🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 09:42 AM
29

Omg it reminded me when my ex told me how when his ex broke up with him he told her it was okay bcs she was “one of the girls” he was dating 🤢 and then after some time he felt so guilty he had to message her friend to ask if she was okay 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 09:42 AM
51

I don’t understand what was his reasoning behind this?? To make you congratulate his family or to tell him how much you miss him?? Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 09:40 AM
53

Yes. I once read that men don’t ever actually move on, they just get used to it. Makes you sick esp. regarding men with high “body counts”... Like imagine how many women he’s not really properly emotionally over yet and chances are would take back if he had the opportunity to do so 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 09:39 AM
35

Story time: before coming to the country I live in now, I was chatting with one dude. He was so excited to meet me, yet when I finally told him I’m here, he replied “ok, are you free two weeks from now?” instant turn off. I haven’t messaged him back, but AFTER A YEAR he had the audacity to slide back into my DMs and ask me out (this was pre-FDS hence he wasn’t blocked). Anyway, I had no intentions of seeing him again, but I’ve decided to humor him. He then had the audacity to ask me to come and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 09:37 AM
83

Yes lmao but I bet he’d want to make it 50/50 if he’d agreed lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:41 AM
16

Lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:37 AM
33

Same 🙌🏻. It’s NOT worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:36 AM
10

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:35 AM
21

This 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:35 AM
34

If all women eatablished high boundaries like this and tolerate absolutely no BS from men, they’d either have to change or gtfo our way. Until then, I don’t see our society changing towards better anytime soon 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:32 AM
9

Can vouch for this! Never have I had so many vaginal problems as with my ex-LVM 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:52 PM
29

“Don’t let shitty men in your life.” “Okay, I will raise my standards and block/delete ruthlessly.” “😳. No, not like that”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:24 AM
5

Can 100% confirm this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:43 PM
6

Oh yeah that’s a good one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:08 PM
19

One guy wanted to go to IKEA with me 🤣🤣🤣. Prolly to build a better man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:03 PM
7

Yup. 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:49 PM
7

Shit like this makes me happy I’m single 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:32 PM
3

Yes. And not just Indian, but East Asians, too. They glorify white poeple lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:26 AM
16

Same goes for Asian guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:42 PM
46

I’ve got banned from r/feminism for the exact same reason 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:28 PM
120

Family Guy is a really LV show. It used to be one of my favourites, but now I can’t unsee how unfunny it is. 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:31 AM
5

I can’t understand how Swarowski (or any brand in that matter) would want to endorse something like this. Don’t they care about their corporate branding / image?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:05 AM
2

IDK, it’s just the culture 🤷🏻‍♀️. But they have the opposite on 14th March - where men give gifts back to women - it’s called “White day”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:25 AM
1

What do you mean? How the tradition “happened”? IDK 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:38 AM
11

Yes. Honestly I think they might be even worse 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:39 PM
18

This. I’m living here right now and not much has changed. Imo they glorify rape and paedophilia. (Have you ever seen Japanese p*rn or hentai? To them girl screaming “no” and crying is sexual 🤦🏻‍♀️). From my personal experience, they also suck in bed, putting only their own pleasure first and considering pleasuring you as a “chore”. (Imagine “porn sick limp dick”, but on a nation-wide scale 🤦🏻‍♀️). The worst part is that they don’t even realize how sexist they are, or they deny it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:39 PM
13

Couldn’t have said it better 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:40 PM
78

Same here. That’s why I’m very hesistant to try dating again in Japan. I’ve got a hot take about Japanese men being mostly LVM/NVM bcs of this patriarchal society, but ain’t gonna spill the tea 🍵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:15 AM
34

I don’t want to downplay this, but mental health is heavily ignored in Japan. So dissapointed, but not surprised 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:13 AM
43

Who says I like kids, though 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:08 AM
139

Great post! It’s inspired me to come up with another vetting question: “Have you ever gotten a girl involuntarily pregnant?” 🤔. Cuz that’s a hard NO for me 🙅🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:24 AM
5

I currently live in Japan where the tradition is reversed (women are expected to give men chocolate, take them out, etc.) 🤢. Needles to say I’ll be single this February 😂🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:32 AM
2

Yes 😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:36 AM
3

Be also ware of men who use other accounts to view soft porn or follow models/sex workers. cough cough my ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:42 AM
57

Why don’t you want a deadbeat dad who knocked up his ex not once, but twice? (But the second time she “tricked” him, let’s not forget that) /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:38 AM
217

is on a dating app 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:10 PM
12

Besides his porn-sickness it was his comment that “I look cute when I cry” 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:26 PM
9

What do you girls think of this show? I’ve just finished it recently and I loved it until when Daphne and Simon got married. Then it was just one uncofortable sex scene next to another. Not to mention he was deceiving her the whole time and didn’t care about her pleasure at all?? (He only went down on her twice afaik, yet he came 99% of the time...). IDK great show until the last two episodes or so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:32 AM
4

I thought the ending would be she made it of dog food or smth, now I’m disapointed 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:43 PM
4

Why would you? She needs a therapy, not a boyfriend. (And I feel you, OP, my mom is the same...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:57 PM
19

Or three - he’s using his current gf to make his “best friend” jealous 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:11 PM
145

I thought the woman in the picture was your fiance 😂. I’m too gay for this 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:06 PM
15

Yes 😂👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:39 AM
7

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:32 AM
-5

Wow how can you be so hateful on a sub that’s supposed to lift other women up, not bring them down... Such a gross generalization of Eastern European women 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:23 AM
19

Which line of work do you do? Just curious where I can find HWP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:59 PM
2

It’s not petty. If he gave you nothing why should he get anything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:19 AM
2

In a heartbeat. Even the scrotest of the scrotes I’ve been dating ALWAYS gave me gifts for various occations (B-day, Valentine’s Day, Xmas, etc.) Real man should take pride in buying you gifts and cherishing you. If not for you then for his own ego. Imagine his friends asking him “so what did you give your partner for [x]” and they just say “nothing” without any sense of feeling like a failure? Lmao. I also wouldn’t give him an expensive gift to begin with. I wouldn’t even give him a reason for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:14 AM
2

What did he say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:15 PM
7

Yeah, thank you for not being “understanding” enough to cover for my pedophile bf 🙄 /s. Honestly, good riddance. She’s a LV pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:03 PM
3

Thank you for this post. Recently, I’ve had these outbursts of anger towards how my ex treated me, or rather how I’ve allowed him to treat me. I’ve thought that being angry meant I’m still somewhat attached to him (and perhaps I am, in a negative sense), and I didn’t want to carry out this negative energy into 2021. Reading your post, however, made me come at peace with my anger and I no longer feeling ashamed of it. Thank you, truly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:52 PM
0

No, it’s a selfish thing bcs everything costs money
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/20 03:24 PM
1

“I don’t care about your happiness if it costs me money” > found the incel
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/20 03:16 PM
22

You’re right. They’re 100% projecting or trying to take you down to elevate themselves. If it makes you feel any better, one time, when I was 12 or so, eating a melon in public, some random scrote told me not to “eat too much” bcs I’ll get fat 🤦🏻‍♀️. As if one watermelon is gonna make me thick or I live only to please your sick eyes 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:42 PM
5

Scrotes aren’t salty that women are being sexually active in general, they just can’t stand the fact it’s not with THEM 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:26 PM
5

PurplePillDepate. It’s a subreddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:35 PM
3

Is this my ex?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:31 PM
32

This 🙌🏻. My ex particularly didn’t mind using a condom, but would just go in raw whenever he ran out or pretended he wears one 🤦🏻‍♀️. But as soon as I’ve started to talk about going on the pill or having other methods of brith control, he started to wear it religiously claiming that he’d “cum too quickly” without it 🙄. Well, lesson learnt. Also, the part about only dating women after finding FDS is a whole ass mood 😂👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:54 PM
3

I’m sorry you have to go through that, but the “dudebro cumlord” part killed me 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:37 AM
3

Come to think of it, being a “cat lady” should be insulting to MEN (not women) because it proves that animals are waaaay better than LVMs. Go figure...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:27 AM
2

Wow, I’m sorry to hear that... 😟 That’s actually part of why I don’t want to get married again. I know FDS preaches “marriage within 1 year or else gtfo”, but as someone who doesn’t want to get married I cannot stand behind that. On one hand, I understand it’s so that it proves the guy is commitment-oriented, but on the other hand, he can still gaslight, cheat, etc. and all the horrible stuff even AFTER marriage. And some LVM can hold their mask well into marriage, believe me. Also, statisticall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:22 AM
20

😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:34 AM
16

Sometimes when I recieve distasteful gifts like these (from anyone, really) I wish I hadn’t received anything at all because not only does it show disrespect and lack of effort, it’s also somewhat insulting. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:59 AM
2

The last sentence killed me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:17 PM
3

My ex told me the same thing when I was breaking up with his cheating ass 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:15 PM
20

It is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:01 PM
55

Ummm hold up, “water on the wall”??? Wtf??? His aim has to be REALLY bad. Regardless, at first he not only lies to her about that, but blames HER and calls her controlling & immature while HE acts like a literal child??? Umm, projection much? Instead of making an AITA post on Reddit, she should just dump him and kick his ass out. This is why we don’t buy houses with a BOYFRIEND, ladies 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:34 PM
5

“WoMeN aRe gOLddIgErS” yet...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 11:17 AM
22

When men tell you you take them for granted they’re definitely projecting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:03 AM
31

*is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:47 AM
4

“Girl” hobby? 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:34 AM
2

Okay, judging by solely OPs post, her bringing up 'values' was a sign of her Christianity not jealousy so IDK where this part of the wife being jealous comes from. OP also said that the wife particularly didn't mind how OP dresses, but her HUSBAND "kept brining it up and reminded her this morning". It sounds like the wife is just being manipulated (and possibly abused) by her paedophiliac husband. Anyway, I thought this sub was about bringing women (pickme or not) up, not tearing them down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:50 PM
5

If someone asks me why I’m single again... I’ll show them this post 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:00 AM
5

Why are you putting the plame on the wife? According to OP the wife herself didn’t have an issue with how the babysitter dresses. It’s her husband and it’s frankly absolutely fucking disgusting he’s making such demands and trying to control the way a freacking TEENAGER dresses. It’s clear he has some sexual urges towards her otherwise he wouldn’t care. Also, the comment of “you a dumbass” for hiring a 25 yo woman as a babysitter is kind of unnecessary as OP is a teenager, and is again putting al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:54 AM
2

Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:37 PM
2

This 😂😂😂🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:35 PM
2

They don't care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:31 PM
56

"How do I get it into his head that I'm not comfortable performing sexual acts whilst I feel vulnerable like this?" you don't. You leave his pornsick ass 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:50 PM
131

"think of the boy who is my daughter's brother" bruh, what the fuck? In what world does the scrote live in??? So every guy I've fucked who has a kid now is my kid as well by extension???? The mental gymnastics of this dude 🤢🙄🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:47 PM
3

I recently got banned from that subreddit too based on the same reasons 🙄. I think the true reason for the ban is just our affiliation with FDS 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:36 PM
1

IDK. She seems like a pickme. I used to watch her videos on YT, and her dating history was just confirming that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:00 PM
4

This 😂😂😂🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:57 PM
13

I feel sorry for your mom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:57 PM
11

Same 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:33 AM
23

Lmaoooo (lowkey same tho)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:16 AM
43

This 🙌🏻. He’s not gonna change and I ain’t noone’s non-paid maid 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:16 AM
5

Amen. Very well said 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:47 AM
32

I'm screaming 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:39 AM
4

It’s good that you’re here then! You can teach/protect her ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:25 AM
10

It makes me laugh but sad at the same time as it's the harsh reality without any prospects of becoming better anytime soon.. 😟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:38 AM
13

Every guy I've been with seems to think the clit is farther down than it actually is Omg, this!! I've even had scrotes with the audacity of telling em "oh, I didn't know you like it SO high" 🙄. Like dude, no, scratching my urethra opening ain't gonna do it... Or have dudes trying to flick my clit from up and down (like from the urethra up and back if it makes sense) instead of gently rubbing the clit side from side.... Anyone else has had similar experience?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:36 AM
18

That's just sad 😟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:32 AM
12

“Doesn’t have friends on his own” > immediate RED FLAG 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:35 AM
5

Queen energy 👏🏻❗️❗️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:32 AM
1

“Thank you, I will ☺️” and BLOCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:52 PM
5

Dude I love her energy and she has gorgeous eyes!!! 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:22 AM
2

Yeah, so far I’ve hidden it away to maybe wear it later on if I change my mind? I guess it’s the emotional association for now, but maybe even so my pride/pettiness. As in, if someone asks me later where I got it from and I just reply “from my low value ex” lol.. Do you know what I mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:07 PM
18

Dude I opened it on a train lmao 😂. (Apologies to people sitting next to me 😅)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:17 AM
60

Because it humiliates women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:09 AM
5

I was thinking about giving it out to someone, but I don’t want to “hand down” unwanted gifts. I’ll look into the second option - thanks for the idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:16 AM
10

Speaking of gifts, I have a question for you ladies. My ex gave me an expensive Swarowski bracelet, but now IDK what to do with it. I don’t want to pawn it bcs it would decrease its value (plus I live in a foreign country and don’t know how exactly to do that nor do I speak the language well enough to pull it off) and I don’t want to wear it either for obvious reasons. Thoughts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:12 AM
2

50/50 at McDonald’s killed me 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:54 PM
3

My exes in a nutshell 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:50 PM
35

Wtf his mom is a pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:28 PM
10

Gurrrl I hope he’s your ex now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:26 PM
60

Pornsickness at its finest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:20 PM
3

Don’t worry; me too lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:49 PM
1

Same 😂. It took me a while~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:49 PM
4

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:15 AM
4

The “I thought the clit was sensitive” part killed me 😂. Spot on!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 05:47 AM
19

Do you know why they do it? To keep you waiting and string you along as a control tactic?? 🤨 Lol not showing up on a date is a power move 😁🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 05:35 AM
25

Why is it always that they pull up excuses and start acting “right” once they sense they lost you? 🤣lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 05:33 AM
4

Sending virtual hugs!! I’m practically in the same boat as you. Been living abroad without seeing my friends and family for over a year. Just recently got out of a toxic relationship that too ended up with him cheating on me. Granted, there were plenty of red flags prior to that, but infidelity is something I will NOT tolerate in all shapes and forms. Anyway, I know it gets lonely, BUT it also gets better over time. What helps me the most is just reading the Handbook and browsing through FDS. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:55 PM
13

They’re projecting their ugliness (not just physical)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:17 PM
8

🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:21 AM
12

🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:20 AM
9

Well said 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:11 PM
37

Don’t call yourself stupid - you got out (I was in the same boat, too)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:06 PM
12

For validation from some strangers from the internet I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:20 AM
3

Like... a guy’s moan? 😳. Sorry I just can’t comprehend this...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:00 PM
3

wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:05 AM
1

Ugh sorry you had to go through that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:05 AM
8

How fucked up it is to live in a society where when justice is finally served we feel guilty for it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:54 AM
19

😂😂😂👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:40 AM
58

Omg this 😂. One time, there was this fboy introduced to our friend group and he kept telling ”jokes” like “women are behind men bcs they have tits” 🙄 and when I called him out on it, he just said “I think you don’t have a sense of humor”. I replied “and I think you’re an asshole” and left 💁🏻‍♀️ mf was speachless 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:04 AM
5

As I bisexual, I second this. My scrote ex kept pressuring me into threesomes and playing it off “as a joke” when I told him to stop 🥴. He actually went to a length to ask his another bisexual friend (female) to have sex with me (so that he could “just watch”) and when I told him I was NOT okay with that he thought I was “faking” my bisexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 10:47 AM
2

My ex’s “best friend” was a girl whose OF he was investing to 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:38 PM
5

😂😂👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:28 AM
1

some things are too much to give for love This opened my eyes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:19 PM
2

This😂😂👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:22 PM
7

Girl same... The scrote even had the audacity to claim I was his “priority” while he barely made time for me once a week... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:21 PM
11

I remember when I was talking to my now ex about potentialy living together he demanded to have his own “study / office” room (basically a man cave where he could watch porn guilt-free) and he said he’d never clean it bcs it’s just “not something what he does”. So when I asked him “so, is the room gonna stay dirty forever?” he couldn’t give me a straight answer. I guess he was expecting me to clean it lol. Also, his toilet had shit stains for weeks and his mom used to clean his apartment (in his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:55 AM
32

Sounds good! But, don’t forget that just deleting a dating app means nothing. It can easily be reinstalled with no loses. Unless he deleted his profile, I’d keep dating...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:10 PM
38

“I liked your longer hair better” “I like you better when you shut up” 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:46 PM
110

This literally happened to me yesterday 😂. Dude living 3hr plane-flight away from me was like "I'm in your city for the weekend... Wanna meet up?" Thanks, but no thanks 🤢💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 06:42 AM
59

And they call us "gold diggers" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:06 PM
9

"let's not" block and delete 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:14 PM
13

Lmaooooo nicely said lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 07:24 AM
20

As an Eastern European, I think your guess is spot on ☺️👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 07:18 AM
12

Been there, don’t that. They don’t care about your pleasure 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:09 AM
2

Yes.. I’m genuinely trying to understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:52 AM
1

How?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:55 PM
6

I wonder what kind of reasons they gave for why he shouldn’t do that exactly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:11 AM
2

OnlyFans..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:18 AM
17

This 🙌🏻. My now-ex has invited me to a trip to a beautiful location in the early stages of our relationship bcs his parents had a membership in a fancy hotel... Only to ask me for half like two days before the trip when it was too late to cancel? All this time I've been under this impression he'd cover it, but then he pulled this sh*t. Well, later on turns out he was paying for another girl's OF... So... Good riddance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:02 AM
17

Omg... This just reminded me of my recently ex-bf ... Last month was my birthday and the only thing I got from it was a bracelet and a trip to the most basic (and cheapest) tourist attraction in the city (that I had to plan). No flowers, no birthday card, no dinner, etc. ... Only to discover his income was going to another girl's Only Fans 😂🙌🏻. Thank you, next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:59 AM
3

So sorry that you had to go through this BS... But proud of you to finally break the circle, Queen!! ☺️👸👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:51 AM
3

As someone who just broke off with one... This 😂😂🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 06:09 AM
3

Thank you ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:27 AM
9

Thanks sis, I’ve blocked him everywhere now and told him to just drop my stuff to my mailbox... I’m so done with his ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:48 AM
9

Thank you. I guess the mental gymnastics was that he was not attracted to her so technically it was not cheating? 🤷🏻‍♀️ ROFL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:45 AM
11

This 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:19 AM
7

This. I need to print it and put it somewhere I can see it every day 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:18 AM
6

Absolutely disgusting 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:07 AM
6

IKR??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:07 AM
8

Of course not 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:07 AM
11

We’re still going throught the motions so I’ll keep you updated (we’ve left some stuff at each other places’ I’d like to get back), but so far he’s been denying he’s done anything wrong and blaming me from talking to another guy from my language class of course
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:06 AM
3

Thank you... But I wish I knew earlier than almost after a year of emotional trauma 😣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:03 AM
11

Yes 😂. Thank you, next 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:02 AM
7

When he told me he had secret IG and Twitter accounts to look at porn and my pick-me ass ignored it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:01 AM
7

Thank you 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:56 AM
8

This. I was always told I was the priority while we barely saw each other once a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:55 AM
42

Yes. They met while studying abroad so reason for this being okay was that “she lives at another side of the world and we were never going to meet anyway” and “all of my friends did it so I don’t see what’s the problem” I mean dang what kind of friendship is this where you’re sending your “best friend” money for nudes? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:44 AM
5

Me too please 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 09:32 AM
4

THIS 🙌🏻 I’d go just to flirt with his friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:52 PM
1

Good, let the LVMs weed themselves out lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 06:17 AM
3

He says a lot. He screams LVM 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:39 PM
2

Scorpio, but only for sex, my ex was Sagitarius, but it didn’t work out and I’m currently dating a Pisces man lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:24 PM
7

You have no idea how much I needed to read this. Especially the texting part. Thank you sis 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 09:38 AM
12

I’m from the Czech Republic and can sadly confirm :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:08 PM
1

Question is: do you really wanna hangout with someone who needs to LIE to their spouse just for spending time with you? And yes, it’s straight people bs Edit: added sentence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:07 PM
9

Any in particular you’d recommend? Already saw the one where he talks about what makes women seem desperate - surprise surprise it’s typical “pickmesha” behaviour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:32 PM
2

I third this lol 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:26 PM
4

A true HVM would not ghost you just because of your physical appearance. And as others have suggested - I’d keep these things to myself until a proper relationship has been established and you can truly trust him. Frankly, it’s none of their business, which doesn’t affect them in any way, shape, or form (besides attraction, which should be less superficial than the physical one). You don’t own anyone an explanation based on those things. Also, there’s nothing wrong with you. Learn and practice s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:06 PM
8

This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:36 PM
14

Yeah, I thought so too. I’ve just discovered him today. Will have to check more of his videos, but this one was pretty spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:30 PM
7

I guess it depends... First of all, it’s none of their business and second of all, it doesn’t help the relationship in any way to know details about the other person’s dating history imho. However, if you’re for example re-covering from a NVM/LVM or an abuser and your current partner is understanding, secure, and mature enough, it could actually help you discuss these things with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 11:54 AM
2

Okay, I agree with all of them, but can please someone break 8. and 33. down for me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 11:51 AM
1

That sounds so interesting; please tell us more!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 11:45 AM
2

Amen. 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 12:05 PM
2

Oh yeah, I’ve read that one 🤢. Thanks for the link though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 10:16 AM
1

“If you’re not willing to fight for love, stay single” “Okay” “Wait, no... not like that!” 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:46 PM
2

Link please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:36 PM
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