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This is dumb because the difference between them and now, is that the majority of people still had a partner. Now? Men sexlessness has tripled while women’s has remained the same
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 09:09 AM
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You should value the n-count, but more importantly, you should value someone’s actions. It’s the modern world, high n-counts are going to come in this territory (unless you’re an average looking guy/below average/neurodivergent in some hindering way) . If you don’t like it, don’t play. If you can accept that, you should be more wary of how the person acts and what they value more so than their n-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 06:35 AM
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Honestly, just pay a surrogate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 06:29 AM
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Seriously. People approach all the time still. It's just dudes on Reddit who don't get out of their house to do things that puts them in contact with folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 12:12 AM
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When is the last time a guy approached you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 12:09 AM
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Giving a signal and recognizing a signal are both apparently fucking impossible according to everyone on Reddit, but I’ll entertain it. Giving a signal means you can’t come off desperate, but you still have to signal in an obvious and inviting away. This is usually easiest with eye contact and asking questions about/from an individual you’re interested in to open the door for light convo and flirting. Women just barely do this shit, so apparently this is difficult because God forbid you show int…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 06:58 PM
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Women's first move is actually signaling interest to let the man know she is open to approach. The man's first move is to recognize the signals and approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 06:03 PM
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Spend time on r/dating and r/dating_advice , and you'll see why this belief is so prevalent. It's because all the fucking people here use OLD! I absolutely loath reading these posts because no one tries to meet irl anymore. You can't even suggest that a guy actually approach because then they start making all these excuses exclaiming why they can't until you start breaking down how to approach and what situations to place yourself in, and even then the excuses start pouring out about how they ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 05:56 PM
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It depends how she approaches and asks you out. It's always in how the message is delivered, not in the message itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 05:31 PM
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You should keep your enjoyment of reading about those things because it makes you better able to connect with a wider range of individuals. No one is going to find a conversation where you get to expand on your knowledge on a subject "sexy." People are attracted to intelligence when it brings status. For instance, look at how many affairs and wives Albert Einstein had. A personal example: At one place I worked I was considered a guy who just knew his shit, so my name spread quickly as a go to in…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 03:55 PM
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I asked for their thoughts on some subs, not examples. Unsure of what classifies examples based on this subs rules, I’ll reread them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 03:37 PM
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What does that mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 03:30 PM
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Yeah that's pretty much any sub though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 11:18 AM
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Diabla is a gold digging forum That's why I find it refreshing. It's honest, and fits right in line with what women actually value which is a man with resources or the potential to earn resources (a certain degree, business he is building, etc... ). Of course he should be attractive to the woman, but having resources can sway things in his favor. If he's overly attractive or can talk a big game, he can sway her still too of course, but the point of valuing resources still stands. New money (aka …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 09:17 AM
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Liposuction for sculpting and implants. Yes, some men really get these.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 06:08 AM
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Well considering there's less than 40k members in total on both subs, I believe you're safe for starting a family lol. When I say natural inclinations, I'm referring to women's natural want for a good provider who is attractive. That's literally who women are naturally attracted to, and that's what these subs are trying to help them achieve. Not all of them have the skills and looks to do so. Let's face it, even women can be awkward and not as physically attractive as they could be, so working t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 05:50 AM
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Yes, but the blatant honesty is refreshing. It teaches you what to discuss prior to getting into a serious and what boundaries to draw. They are following their natural inclinations too as we would ours. To me, these are the true equivalents of female red pill, minus the gender hate b.s. Plus, some men are more than willing to be okay with this. They aren't being misandrists either.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 05:39 AM
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What's wrong with these subs?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 05:32 AM
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Eh, just lie like any other person should on their resume lol Seriously though, it's OnlyFans. Why care what they do? If anything you should be discussing how to get men to stop paying them for nudes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 03:27 AM
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It sucks honestly because I enjoy reading women's unfiltered opinions, but then I have to question if it is really a woman or not lol. I discovered two subs yesterday that are pretty legit from what I saw: r/Diabla and r/vindicta
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 11:41 PM
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Whenever I want to see delusion at its finest, I go read FDS. We don't need an MDS. There's already enough guys living in echo chambers of asshattery. ​ Edit: Apparently FDS is now private. I wonder why lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 08:09 AM
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Anyone put off dating for years until a certain timeframe, and then actively get back into it successfully?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 04:38 AM
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This is a shit post isn't it? You've been posting the same story since you created your account. This should be deleted.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 04:04 AM
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This is in response to that women don't owe men sex post isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 01:03 AM
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I've never seen anyone on this sub say women owe them sex...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 11:42 PM
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I've never discussed or heard of any guy or girl irl talk about being a "prize." I honestly believe the whole prize b.s. is just something that ferments on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:46 AM
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19m at the time, and it was a one night stand (sort of) I'm guessing your theory is that women lose theirs earlier, and men who have sex with said women are not using Reddit or that would invalidate said theory. Thinking through Reddit demographics, I wouldn't use Reddit to make any kind of theory because it's going to be skewed towards introverted males.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:02 AM
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Cold approaching is not weird or shallow. Most people on Reddit are just socially anxious which is why they're on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 05:39 AM
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Ah, you sneaky dog
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 05:14 AM
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One Washing Stand?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 04:12 AM
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I think the point missed here is that we have A LOT of bullshit jobs. Back in the day, life inherently had purpose for men because communities and families were tighter which would incentivize them to work more demanding jobs that benefited society or ones protecting society/their communities. We could write books on the amount of bullshit jobs now. Men simply exist without the choice of adding value to anything or anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 10:28 PM
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Lmfao, this was a funny image to imagine. I read somewhere that cheating (not the sexual kind) is beneficial and easy so long as you don't over extend, and being honest only benefits those you are being honest with. I believe a lot of folks eat their cake. Practice makes perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 10:18 PM
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Everything you said no one disagrees with except one thing, and that is being judged. People should indeed be judged and ridiculed. If men never judged in the beginning then they could not discern if the child they would be raising is there's. That's just the plain biological and sociological truth of evolution and sex. Accept it or live life miserably. If tribes and cultures never bullied, judged, or hazed then how would they maintain any sort of standards and order long enough to grow into wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 10:10 PM
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Change marriage and child support laws to quit favoring women. Enact social policies similar to China: Limiting screen time for children which forces them to go outside and interact. More demanding physical education classes for children where they can actually learn a martial art or viable form of weightlifting. Nutrition classes that teach kids about the body, processed foods, and what to actually eat, so we can stop fucking up our hormones with all the processed bullshit. Shorten schooling ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 09:36 PM
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What do you want then? To start having the mods implement quotas for FDS to TRP? Affirmative action on a subreddit? What is the point of bringing this up?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 08:49 PM
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Ask a few fundamental questions of women's behavior, and you'll see that everyone has fragile egos. Who has the most cosmetic surgeries in the world by large margins? Who largely partakes in a $500b dollar industry to alter their face to enhance their appearance? Who's clothing market is valued over double what the other gender's is?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 12:29 AM
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Explain to them that you feel unheard. If you're a guy, get friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 01:49 AM
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I think it’s about getting men more social, but that requires a societal effort to get all men back on track compared to it just being anecdotal on an individual level. Unfortunately society is very “women good, men bad” at the moment, plus the government has literally replaced the need for fathers and families. They pretty much stripped away our sole roles in life: to protect and to provide. We’re just dealing with the societal repercussions with things such as incels and the growing virginity …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 07:54 PM
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That made no sense. You just said exactly what I said. You’re born into a community and family before you start/maintain/protect one
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 08:45 PM
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Men have a lack of direction because we have far less involvement in our local communities and families (or lack thereof) than ever before.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 07:54 PM
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That makes sense. Stalking is a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 05:00 PM
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Why do you frame it as a whole evening? Why not just grab coffee or a drink? You can easily walk away within 10-20 minutes of meeting someone. Now, if you live in LA. I get it. Fuck this place, fuck the traffic, fuck taking 30 minutes to go 2-3 miles, this place can burn
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 04:41 PM
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I’m just arguing that the average long term relationships would probably have those dynamics. For example, my sister is gay and raised me, so I saw all of her relationships for the past few decades. She was always the masculine one while the others were feminine
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 05:39 AM
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You’ll have to point out to me what was weird about any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 05:17 AM
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Not all, but on average, I’d argue the successful long term relationships would only work with each partner fulfilling their gender role. This doesn’t mean women being stay at home wives, but simply to bring feminine energy and behavior into the relationship. It doesn’t mean men have to give up video games, but he must bring masculine energy and behavior into the relationship..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 12:50 AM
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You do have to have a relationship before roles, so that’s true. Would you disagree with the need for romantic long term relationships these days?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 08:33 PM
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Agreed. Why have a relationship if there’s no goal with it except to be together? Edit: At least why stay in one after a certain time once the “honeymoon” phase wears off?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 08:19 PM
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Respectable decision to focus and get a foothold in the world prior to inviting the rollercoasters of dating and potential relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 08:11 PM
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Sticking to a traditional system is sometimes easier than trying to recreate one, but can be far more difficult given the changes in society as of late. Out of curiosity, and feel free to not answer if uncomfortable, are you currently in a relationship or have had a LTR before?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 08:03 PM
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That’s a pretty respectable way to look at things. If you’re comfortable with it, are you currently in a relationship or have had a LTR before?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 07:55 PM
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In essence, you execute a masculine and feminine framework, but with the attribute being applied by the opposite sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 07:54 PM
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Definitely easier following an old schematic then drawing up a new one. Out of curiosity, are you in a relationship currently or have had any LTR’s?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 07:52 PM
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I’d pay for a personal trainer and dietitian since he earns enough money to do so. Losing weight is his most optimal for attracting initially. Once he has lost weight, just work on approach game to get over rejection and build conversation skills. Approach every girl you find attractive as you go about your day. Don’t approach every girl in one small area of course ya creep, but approaching, getting over rejection, and building convo skills leads you to being able to actually ask someone out com…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 07:38 PM
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I can imagine washing the ace or fixing something to show my appreciation for a woman because I’ve done these things, but not reciprocating a back rub because there’s that stigmatism there about touching women unwontedly. Being MeToo’d or accused of something even if you’ve already been intimate. Just in regards to dropping off lunch it’s just seen as a submissive thing. Feminine. Which is the complete opposite of what OP likes about women apparently lol. It’s one thing to be in a relationship a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 04:54 AM
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Is that really how most relationships are nowadays for people in their 20’s and 30’s who’ve been together for less than 2 years? I’m asking because this seems more assumptive than factual. Edit: I didn’t mention folks married for a long time because you get a more representative view of societal values based off of those getting in fresher relationships and how their dynamics are. You may even be able to say less than 3 years, but it’s all to capture changes in societal standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 08:21 PM
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If husband, ex, boyfriend, or even friends/acquaintances knew you were taking such a survey and then saw the results skewing towards women cheat, you’d be judged harshly. How many terms does society have for women who cheat and sleep around? Slut, tramp, promiscuous (could apply to men too), whore, etc.. Men? Man whore? Fuck boi? Call a man any of those and he wouldn’t give two shits. We even have a title applauding men’s ability to sleep around: Casanova So, yes. Anonymous survey, that has cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 03:37 PM
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I’m not saying the average man cheats more. I’m saying that the numbers are skewed because most women would not admit to cheating and do one of the three mentioned above instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 03:26 AM
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I have a really hard time believing infidelity stats because women have far more to lose in admitting it. I’d bet a lot of women who get questioned either refuse to answer, drop out of the survey, or lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 03:16 AM
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Maybe women should make the first move towards men they want instead of waiting on men to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:25 AM
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That post just made a whole lot of assumptions about what women will do in a relationship vs a man. Go look at r/AMITA or r/relationshipadvice and both genders complain about all of these things. Women say they want emotional men, but it’s proven over and over and over and over that they don’t. Those emotional men are in a special place called the friend zone. Again just a heavy assumption that she’s going to be doing all the appointment making and looking at the details. Refer to the subreddits…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 03:33 AM
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What does patriarchy have to do with anything? Can you even back up such a ridiculous claim? I’m sure most men working under the sun doing roofing are wondering where there woman servant is. This is such an outlandish claim that no one can back up, but people LOVE throwing it around as though it makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 09:51 PM
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A lot of this is based off of multi-cultural observations (37 to be exact) not just the West. It’s also based off of observations from the 70’s and on. So, no this is just human nature at a base level with culture determining what is and isn’t allowed for cues and partners of both genders Edit: I agree though, men are lagging behind in the looks department to an extent, but we also don’t wear make up, pay 100’s for a sit down to do our hair, we use plastic surgery far less than women as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 09:47 PM
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Homo sapiens were having kids thousands upon thousands of years before the advent of marriage, it's not a stipulation to have a marriage to have children. The genus homo itself was having children for literally millions of years prior to the advent of marriage. Again, not a stipulation to have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 08:16 PM
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Thank you. There’s a lot both genders can learn, reaffirm, or open up to in it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 04:29 PM
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But, they’d see that before even getting to the trip, so you’d never make it to a trip to begin with. Also, people have different standards all around. Sure, men want generally physically attractive women or women want men with a good trajectory or status that looks good, but people settle for less all the time if that’s all they can get due to not being desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:54 PM
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You’re only focusing on one gender in your reply, so I’m guessing you’re approaching this from a biased view already given that it goes over both genders from a neutral perspective. Plus, this podcast is for EVERYONE not any specific ideology. I bring up the Red Pill in the title and post because it’s something this forum can relate to, if not it’ll probably be glossed over. The 37 cultures studies was apparently famous enough to be replicated quite a number of times. Literally science is just s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:52 PM
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True. *Marriage is trash for men and women, not for children
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 07:33 AM
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LMFAO, I really kept using queues. Thank you. Going to edit. This proves either people are too nice or didn’t read it (the most likely one)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 07:26 AM
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I believe he was just saying a select few kings who could did. Not all necessarily TRP definitely doesn’t base it’s self on science just articles lol. Someone said that David Buss’ work was a spark for TRP though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 05:04 AM
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No one should get married period lol. Average men barley have options that’s why they’d cheat if given the opportunity or at least have to fight temptation. Average women have a fuck ton in comparison, but they’ll grow unsatisfied with a man which is why most divorces are initiated by women. Bottom line. Marriage is trash for everyone involved and best not to do
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 05:01 AM
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What the hell are you talking about? Congrats on using personal attacks because you can’t argue a point. Let me slow clap for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 04:59 AM
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No where does it say that because they have a PHD it proves it. It says the discussion I listened to so far does in the title. That’s it. The fact that’s all you took away from what was written was only what the title says which even then you didn’t even read the title properly proves you did not even read or listen to anything because it’s a neutral talk on both genders based on decades of research, study, and watching statistics and papers from others. Please go read the notes or listen to the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 04:50 AM
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So you didn’t read anything but are judging them based off of their gender. Congratulations
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 04:44 AM
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If I didn’t put anything about Red Pill people would still come in here and dismiss it, cherry pick, confirm it as red pill, so what do you propose? Are what they saying a load of crap despite the studies? Are these men’s history in their fields of study in moot? Also, please provide an alternative view point or person of reference. Someone else mentioned Esther Perel whom I now need to check out. Edit: What is your problem with what they discussed? Was it bias? Did you even read it all the way?…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 04:42 AM
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You’re right. Thank you for checking me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 04:02 AM
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Nice, I had no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:26 AM
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I agree. You cannot point these things out to them. Read through the comments here, and it shows. They cherry pick very specific points while ignoring the other s that contradict the one they picked out next to it. OR they outright refuse to read the damn notes or listen to the podcast.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:17 AM
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I appreciate the criticisms and warnings of our vices. Men do beat men over the head with the same. If you really think it’s over for you, then you should be warning women not to make whatever mistakes you believe led to this point for you. All men get is criticism in our modern day. No one criticizes women except men who they invalidate because they are men. Hell, when other women criticize women they shout her down. I’d honestly still get out there and do things such as learning salsa or a mar…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:15 AM
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Thank you for actually reading it. Hell the age gap is even smaller than 30 wanting 23, it’d be more like 25-26. But, it’s true. Yet, they’ll swear up and down and cherry pick a guy like Leonardo Di Caprio as an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:07 AM
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To be honest from my perspective it sounds like your problem (which does not invalidate it). Young mens problem today is that they can’t get a girl at all. They don’t have enough status and money compared to the guys that they are competing against for girls they’re age or even younger. Sexless young men tripled between 2008 and 2018. That’s our problem. We aren’t looked at as options because young women have too many now, so they grow older thinking the plate is full until they look down one da…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:00 AM
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These are only notes of 46 minutes of a 2 hour show. You glossed over so many things in the notes and the podcast that invalidate EVERYTHING you just said. Please reread and listen to the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 02:46 AM
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I’ll do some listening of Ms. Perel. Her name sounds familiar.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 02:11 AM
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I apologize. I should have asked for clarification on what you were commenting on instead of jumping to a conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 02:09 AM
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Fair enough. I suppose any self-righteous person would make absurd statements
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 01:53 AM
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Jesus.Fucking Christ read the notes one listen to that section of the podcast. Dr. Buss literally says it’s rare for guys to be able to date like that. Only when there’s a cultural way to do so (being a king or a celebrity) can you really get away with it. He confirms that men desire to do so but culture qualms those desires I knownI’m asking you to put your bias aside for a second and listen to something that you’re not used to, but it helps to Dobson if you’re going to make baseless comments o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 01:51 AM
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I don’t see why. It’s basic logic if you look at evolution
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 01:41 AM
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You obviously didn’t read or listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 01:28 AM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 01:03 AM
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You’re discrediting their history and studies entirely by summating their worth to titles, so I’d argue that it may just be bias which we all have. Not you, just the need to be open before falling back on those you are already familiar with. Please share any good talks from either that would benefit the conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 12:18 AM
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From what I remember he did not. He just said those were the two leading ones; however his belief has shifted to the hypergamy side of things
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 12:12 AM
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Crazy how dating apps are changing the entire dating landscape much like agriculture did
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 12:10 AM
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Lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 12:09 AM
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I only know the Red Pill in terms of dating which is why I referenced it, I’ll add an edit to let folks know that it’s not anti-women or hate filled b.s.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 11:58 PM
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Let us know what you think when you do!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 11:33 PM
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Probably because those are mostly student led studies they are pulling from
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 11:32 PM
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No one is claiming Red Pill discovered it, but more folk know of the Red Pill, thus it’s easier to say the science supports the Red Pill than the Red Pill supporting the science. Also, “the science/studies” is a very broad term while Red Pill is more specific to a theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 11:24 PM
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Pretty much. It’s either throwing out your opinion with out reading/listening or only commenting on things that confirm your bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 11:07 PM
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He gives point blank answers. He doesn’t dress anything up? Did you listen to the podcast? Also, he looked at 37 different cultures. That’s pretty hard to refute. Especially given the study has been replicated…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 11:03 PM
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Gathering up anonymous ideology on internet boards will always bring out the worst in people. I fucking hate this place, but it’s also the only place you can “discuss” anything like this openly enough. It’s good to discuss irl too to keep expectations and views within the realm of reality, but you can’t let out any unbridled truths
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 10:53 PM
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By that logic all social dynamics do not matter despite how prevalent they are even if they do changes so why are you on a sub that deals with all things social at all? Maybe go to an engineering sub? Edit: words and stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 10:51 PM
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Try reading what I typed and listening to the podcast maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 10:48 PM
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If you’re attributing being child-like to emotional stability, Dr. Buss does allude to women valuing emotional stability more in men. You can draw from that what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 10:41 PM
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No, thus far it confirms what we see in the dating market and how selection works between men and women for long term and sexual encounters.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 10:30 PM
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She sounds jealous. Maybe people are talking about you to her when you’re not around just in general conversation and she’s growing bitter over it because there’s not enough attention on her
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 06:21 AM
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I never asked how many. He’d go out with a few different girls each month just to date different types, flew two Russian girls out at one point (dude is a millionaire), and had a few threesomes within the 7 months I knew him prior to his marriage to one of the chicks he had a threesome with
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 12:36 AM
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There’s too many variables to factor in here to come to any solid conclusion because it will greatly depend on what guys us other guys know as well to gage this off of. I had a friend who was constantly scraping the bottom of the barrel, and I never saw him with a 8+ I had another friend where he banged anything coming his way and he’s only date the 8+a Had another that only went for 8+s and dude was what many here would consider a Chad, and he was HIGHLY Successful
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 10:56 PM
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This is why we need to go back to community based living and governance. As people, it would be easier to form platonic and romantic relationships due to the lack of choice and greater empathy for those in the community. Most importantly though, everyone has value, can easily increase value, and a role to play. Men can stand out easier instead of being looked at as a corporate money drone. Grandparents can have their role of looking after the kids back as well instead of being locked up in a nur…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:14 AM
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BladeRunner
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:05 AM
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That's the toxic part of FDS for sure. It shocked the shit out of me when I read things like that and people were just going along with it. I wanted to make a post addressing it in that shit hole when I read it, but I knew it would get deleted or have a negative effect Red Pill toxic side is all the self loathing and blaming women. I just want to tell the dudes, jesus fuck go spend your time doing something else instead of in a damn echo chamber. You can still have the same mindset while not pos…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:19 AM
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FDS mindset is pretty much TRP for women. Take a gander at both communities and you can see they're all butt hurt. Better to not subscribe to either belief and just pick out tactics that may be beneficial. Kind of like reading a bunch of financial advice and then picking a strategy for investing that works for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:27 AM
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Y'all sound like friends
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:16 AM
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Duh, only neurotic, sociopathic, incompetent people are on reddit.. Okay, that's just me describing me, but I do believe the internet is one big echo chamber, so of course you're going to get a bunch of hard leaning views.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:32 AM
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No, there's people on all different social standings. The only time finding a date becomes hard is when you don't try.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:30 AM
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The problem with everyone’s comment is that they are using the wrong definition of average. You have average as in looks and social standing, and average as in the mathematical term of average. This post is looking at the latter definition. As in, if you picked out 10 women, on average how many would have high body counts. I’ll make an edit to clarify
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 06:27 AM
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If y’all were, I’d call y’all (k)night riders 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 11:05 PM
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I’d like to believe that is the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 10:37 PM
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Yeah, this crossed my mind while typing it out. But, none of this matters in the end, so I asked anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 10:36 PM
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Turn the world from individuals living in a giant society to community based living
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 10:29 PM
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Big brain
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 10:28 PM
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I was under the impression that certain states in the US had laws that place a partner at fault if they quit showing affection. Forget the correct terminology, but this doesn’t just pertain to sex but also physical and emotional affection. It’s Abandonment in a sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 09:54 PM
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Like the username
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:13 AM
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They are not the same thing because literally, it’s not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 09:15 AM
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I wouldn’t say not commit, but don’t get married because it’s no longer a needed function. Plus, I don’t believe ALL women have high body counts. I just would not go around asking about it though. Body language, voice inflections, word choice, and actions can tell you enough. Also trusting your gut
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 06:21 AM
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If I was a chick, I’d lie my butt off if I had a lot of partners when asked or flip script into an attack on what benefit the person gains from knowing to make them start questioning their own methodology and self. Not saying it’s the “correct” thing to do, but that’s nature. There’s a lot of f’ed up ways animals go about getting their needs and desires fulfilled. Humans are no different
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 05:11 AM
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Look, we have too many options nowadays. There’s nothing wrong with settling because every choice you make is settling. Imagine if you had to choose a piece of fruit to eat for three months and the options were apple, tangerine or orange? They’re all fruit, juicy, and taste good with different benefits from nutrients, but you’ll settle for one and feel a lot better about the decision than if it was say an apple, grapefruit, jackfruit, orange, kiwi, banana, grape, blackberry, blueberry, strawberr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 05:03 AM
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I'd disagree with you. There are popular stories from reddit about women complaining because they tell their partner about their past, and the partner loses all interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 04:02 AM
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There are going to be more attractive people because they have the confidence to actually put themselves online thanks to all the irl attention they get that gave them that confidence compared to an average or below average person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 03:58 AM
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The only logical conclusion: remove yourself from the internet echo chamber
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:34 AM
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Just go ask someone out (19 years old or not), go on a date, and then repeat that process a few more times. Once done, come back to this question and answer it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 05:21 AM
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This really isn't a purple pill topic? Hypocrisy runs rampant everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:40 AM
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The ideal dating world would not involve the world or society, just community. If we went back to communal living where we provide for the community and those in it, then you’d naturally see a rise in empathy and better relationships because people will know how to form relationships naturally and treat others with respect because their well being depends on it as much as the other folk in the community. Plus, you’ll constantly be around the same people. Ask yourself this, how many people do you…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 08:34 PM
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I wouldn’t do this. I’d rather move to the city and immerse myself in activities, so I have a better chance year round of meeting multiple people through connections and being about everyday than traveling an hour to work on social skills for a day. You’ll get far more out of a year of living there than a day of frolicking around
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 04:56 AM
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I gave a scenario to someone else where she’d be primarily with them until 1-2 years old, then full 50/50 until teen years, then I’d be primarily with them from there. So, mom during the nurturing phase, and dad during the phase where more discipline (not beatings or anything just life lessons and keeping them on the straight and narrow) may be needed as they go. Specifically if she feels she took on a lot upfront and wants down time as they grow older. We’d definitely not just abandon each othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:57 PM
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I’ve heard somewhere that single dads have waaaay less assistance. Haven’t looked into it like myself the way you have though
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:52 PM
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The mentioned scenario makes full sense as to why a child would have an attachment to one and not the other
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:50 PM
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I considered that first part exactly as you said. I would still end up living with someone, but I see the difference as I have autonomy over my space and how things are done vice having a child with me where I still have autonomy and just adjust how they’re ruses off of what she may deem good ways of doing things for our child or if we both come to an agreement in specific ways of raising them. It’s that which the easiest way to not think about needing space or when I may need it is to just alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:49 PM
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Two questions for you because I believe all of us here are childless except you. Did you pick your partner correctly (or at least what you perceived as correctly at the time)? How old was your child during divorce? If these are too personal to answer, completely understandable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:40 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. Do you believe it’s create attachment issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:37 PM
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Oh, no worries. Please share your thoughts though, a lot of good points have been brought up on the difficulties and considerations of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:35 PM
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It’s not that I would not trust being able to live with someone, I’ve lived with others before, I’d just prefer not to live with someone. Having a pre agreement with someone on raising a child together requires a lot of trust, does it not?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:34 PM
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Why do you believe that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:32 PM
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I don’t think it works out for most celebrity couples, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:31 PM
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Mid-twenties. Doing well financially for most my age, and raised by a single parent. Edit: Thank you for asking (sincerely). I only bring up finances to show that I’m not couch surfing and being an armchair philosopher or anything. The single parent part because this might give insight for yourself into why I’d at the very least want my child to have two parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:28 PM
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I probably worded this wrong, so it seems like I would just want to be a lazy bum. Between early ages she has primary care for nurture, milk, etc… but we’d still work together, so she is not burnt out. Again, we still maintain a relationship. We don’t just abandon each other and only speak when it’s either’a time as if we went through some bitter divorce. It’s all in a preunderstood agreement which is unlike how most children are co-parented where it happens because divorce or out of wedlock chi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:27 PM
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Lmao, thank you for the laugh with the “normal people” line because the scenario I presented is definitely not normal. If I was married I’d go for just living together too honestly. It’s already a big commitment. I do like the duplex idea though, that is creative thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:15 PM
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That’s terrible advice. Also, you’re bringing this to a personal level as opposed to a discussion level and making insulations about me. I am guessing you aren’t here to discuss the question, but instead discuss my personal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:12 PM
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I don’t think two parents living separately provide the same benefit as both living together at all. I do believe it may be better than just one parent, but I haven’t done research into it and can see how it may create too much of a complication (posed the question for this reason though). Usually co-parenting is done when people have children by mistake or they divorce, not beforehand. In regards to your questions, I had pictured working together closely through the newborn stage and as the chi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:07 PM
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These are all really good scenarios and the reason I posed the question. It definitely has me thinking harder about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:01 PM
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It’s a scary thought for sure and can respect that decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:58 PM
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It could not be broken if that’s how it was made though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:55 PM
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Definitely agree it’ll be difficult. We’d still date and have a romantic relationship for as long as we could maintain it which sounds utterly ridiculous, but we are just not living together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:55 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:51 PM
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Do you believe it’s worse than having a single parent household?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:50 PM
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I can respect that and agree two parents are best, but if the marriage falls apart as you can see about half are these days, that would mess them up even more than just having an understanding beforehand
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:45 PM
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Could you be more specific with your question? Engineered? If referencing a systematic way of doing things that already happens in a normal monogamous relationship: Dating -> Relationship -> Marriage -> Kids -> Death Or how divorce works and the courts? They’re all systems to get to an end result. Regarding six years down the road, I did state my mindset could change.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:43 PM
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From my understanding male virginity into the 20’s is on the rise and males are having less sex overall compared to females. Which makes total sense given how things are. Generally only the most attractive or dominant males of any species reproduce. Some of the males of said species will die trying to get a piece of tail, no tail dies trying to get impregnated.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:07 PM
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The birth rate declining is specifically only concerning for the economy if we stopped importing workers who will have kids to feed into the low wage jobs and social security system. Until then, we're cherry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 07:05 AM
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You're really reaching for a personal attack here when this post had nothing to do with me. Nice try though. If you'd like to change my views on current dating practices in western society then be my guest.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 07:17 AM
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Of course. Same goes for men. I would not pretend human history was rainbows and butterflies until recent times. The whole post is just aimed at the dating climate not being suitable for anyone except for a window in time for each.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:28 AM
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Somoene else commented saying that a few men do this by living in San Diego and driving down to Tijuana. Many men who move overseas and shack up, do tend to marry and bring back wives. I did note that I believe in Switzerland or Sweden (cant remember which), there's an outcry there because a lot of men are marrying the Thai women that are immigrating to the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:55 AM
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You're right, I did lay out criteria of what men would look for in a woman when we lived in tribes. Generally speaking we would still look for the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:52 AM
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There has to be an economic shift, but I don't believe that will happen until a major change in society forces us to live in communities with communal governance where empathy can actually be had for those around you since you can actually build a relationship and vote with your dollar on where you shop if you find out there is mistreatment going on at a certain shop. Or who knows, maybe this labor shortage and being refusing to work will cause these massive corporations to wake up, and if not t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:06 AM
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That's a very good point, tribes meeting. I would include with that warring. If one tribe attacked the other, they generally do not kill the women but also take them in from my understanding. Agreed we are still in evolution, and we are kind of seeing this already: drop in testosterone for males, near sightedness becoming common, etc.. I would have to agree, far better to live in this era than chasing baboons for meat. Thank you for providing me with a new word as well: nadir!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:00 AM
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I actually responded to the literal interpretation of global dating. It can be literal, but it has more to do with the quick spreading of western dating standards through social media and hyperinflating these ideals through dating apps now that they're more common place. As opposed to comparing men and women based off of who's in your immediate area, you're comparing based off of men globally. I say men, because generally guys will take whatever, so we aren't really looking at social media think…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 04:54 AM
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Makes sense. I believe some folk are up in arms in Switzerland/Sweden because men are marrying a bunch of Thai women that are immigrating into the country. Whichever country it is has had people wanting restrictions placed on this whole fiasco one way or the other
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 03:11 AM
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Given that observation and belief in where we are in current society, what do you believe the social climate will be like in the immediate future?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 03:10 AM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:57 AM
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In terms of dating with the intent of building a relationship is that a good solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:53 AM
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Tinder is local, but people do go on vacation frequently enough these days to use Tinder elsewhere. Men and women do take business trips and definitely use dating apps as well. The biggest counter to saying Tinder is local though, is my pointing out of social media as well. Social media creates a community of millions (billions in Facebook’s case) that spans the globe. It’s the combination of dating apps and social media that have allowed dating ideas to spread through westernized countries as w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:48 AM
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I agree with your assertions; however, I offer the revelation that people’s attitudes are the product of our modern environment—we are far less communal than we’ve ever been before leading to narcissism in individuals since we no longer grow close connections. That may have been your point of the “we can choose based off of what’s as opposed to needs,” but I wanted to expand on why to see if we are in the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:41 AM
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Two things in regards to everything being global. In the literal sense, men and women can literally connect with someone globally and fly somewhere to meet them. However, relocation is huge now as well. Also, it’s common to see many new people each day giving you an endless buffet options. The more important reasoning is that, everyone is being compared to everyone else across the globe. So, if a woman knows she may be able to get xx kind of guy, it makes it harder to settle for those around her…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:36 AM
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I agree that the freeness of today’s society is liberating for individuals. My point is not that we should all be forced into relationships, but those who want LTRs/kids are HUGELY disadvantaged because of how things are. I’d argue against people being happier as well. Why are so many people on antidepressants? Why is depression, anxiety, and more (especially amongst women) skyrocketing? Better yet, why has the comorbidity of mental illnesses increased? It’s clearly gone up in the last few decad…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:22 AM
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I see your point, and it makes sense. I suppose conflating the two does not make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:18 AM
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Agreed it will only get worse until government intervention or collapse of the western’s societal model.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:16 AM
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Again though, how many of your average guys can afford to do so? Time and money wise. I agree that a man’s ability to travel would make him “elite,” but only in the country he is traveling to as well. My concern with this way of thinking though is that if a woman does not have to spend money to enjoy the fruits of the opposed sex right in her backyard and a man still has to spend a lot of money just to fly across the globe to have relations, that still shows the majority of men are at a disadvan…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:15 AM
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Someone else made this point, and I’m inclined to agree but the only thing that holds me back from agreeing is that looks wouldn’t matter if they didn’t care about legacy and just wanted to kids to care for, no? That’s my take on it at least. Looks would not matter at all if legacy were not involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:08 AM
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The ability to travel to hook up is a good point, but how feasible is that compared to the ability to just do so right in your hometown each week? Do you expect the majority of men to fly out every weekend to Thailand or something? Do the majority of men even have that kind of money? To your point of globalization benefiting men who are the most prosperous… Yes, it’s been that way throughout human history, and again, it does not benefit most men. Only the hyper elites in society. How many men ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:59 AM
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Just saying no doesn’t prove anything. Care to provide examples of your own? I never said there was a victory that was the whole point. Dating is screwed in developed countries due to us having a global dating market. In regards to alimony just take the sample size of celebrity divorces and see how many are men and the payments they make compared to the very few women paying alimony to their husbands. Couple that with women generally marrying those who earn more than them, and the higher earner …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:54 AM
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I can respect that POV. I believe they care about legacy because they do want children (both sexes do to an extent) and want someone above their level to have them with. If that does not show caring about legacy in some semblance not sure what does. I’d say they benefit up front but it comes with the downfalls of being unable to settle if they indulge too much which then becomes a drawback later.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:42 AM
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It’s not a matter of me liking them or not. You can literally use the same argument for social media-why get rid of it just because you don’t like it (thank you for confirming your bias,perhaps you enjoy all the attention and casual book us dating apps provide)? It’s a matter of getting rid of a global dating market in order to limit people’s opportunity to cheat or het pregnant outside of the relationship/marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 11:26 PM
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Cost of having children, having to balance career and kids in a system that wants you to work bullshit jobs with bullshit hours, without any break or incentive to have said kids. The fact that divorce rates are through the roof because everyone has too many options in partners now. Cheating is through the roof as well. So you’re more likely to end up in a. custody battle than ever before. If companies would quit the the BS work hours, pay people fairly, provide flexibility to parents, get rid of…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 08:24 PM
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Because they're sociopaths.
/r/BlackPillScience25/10/21 04:33 AM
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