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That isn't something I would try to change. It might not be every man's cup of tea, but I'd expect your innocent Disney Princess habits are more likely to be endearing and beneficial than not. And it sounds like your man likes it: his amusement is a good sign. Depending on the situation, it's good to be able to reign it in (he might find it amusing to be told to sit so as to not disturb the birds, but might not appreciate it if he was having guests), but I wouldn't recommend doing so in general.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 03:18 AM
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Tbh, none of the meds are great to be on long term. It's why I stopped fighting for a diagnosis once I figured out how to be mostly functional. My family is very cancer prone, so messing with my immune system is to be avoided if possible. But, of course, with arthritis, it's very possible to prefer being dead to any more pain, and at that point, it's hard to get too fussed about cancer. I don't have any insight into biologics, not having tried any. I do know they can be game changers, but don't …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 05:03 AM
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Oh, that's a weird one. I'd forgotten about it. Either way, are they trying treatments? Or do they not want to do anything without a diagnosis?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 08:38 AM
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That's a very tough situation. My family has autoimmune issues, and I have an unknown but fairly mild form of arthritis. I keep it under control with glucosamine chrondroitin and obscene amounts of fish oil (pretty much any anti-inflammatory that won't wreck my stomach. When I've got the budget, I'm adding turmeric. Aleve works well, but is stomach wrecking used long term). I was extremely out of it for about two years while sorting this stuff out though. Even so, under control isn't really the …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 12:56 AM
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My brother actually makes his living as a professional poker player, so I have some idea of what this entails. Your guy seems to be doing this all very responsibly. The stastical approach is a good sign - a successful pro gambler only puts forward money when he knows the odds are in his favor. Paying for everything up front is also crucial. Gambling leads to a highly variable income, and the more money you have available, the more successful you can be. So budgeting is a bit different than for a…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/17 09:40 PM
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Humans are all emotional to some extent. And there's considerable individual variation. Relationships are between individuals, not statistics. The word "illogical" has often been weaponized against women in unhealthy relationships, so it doesn't surprise me that someone claiming that men are logical and women illogical would face opposition. Your desire to find a logical man and to serve him is something to take into account when dating. It's not necessarily something that you'll benefit from ta…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 09:19 PM
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If I like the guy, I'll become physically attracted whether or not he's really handsome in a more objective sense (maybe not if he was truly hideous. But bald and fat apparently don't bother me). If I don't like him, I won't be attracted no matter how nice he looks. I do think physical attraction is important in a relationship, I'm just not sure that physical attraction is always all that closely linked with handsomeness. It's kind of individual.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 03:41 AM
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I think the goal with intelligence is to be in the same general ballpark, to facilitate communication. I'm slightly more intelligent than my husband, although he's no slouch. It's never been a problem. My mom's type is genius and that's really never gone terribly well for her. Genius simply isn't actually all that useful in real life, and it often pairs with terrible social skills. There's also the matter of common sense intelligence and academic brilliance. In general, I've noticed an inverse r…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/17 11:25 PM
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If she was passed out drunk and he had sex with her, I'd call that rape, particularly in the sense that he's liable for doing it. It doesn't make her not an idiot though. If she said yes while drunk beyond reason, I don't think it should be prosecuted as rape, but I think it would still be amoral unless they had a pre-existing arrangement.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 10:45 PM
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It can be very difficult. There's probably books and people that can offer advice for that though. Maybe /r/personalfinance could be a good starting point?
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 01:04 AM
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Would lower output be a problem? Are you commissioned to write something, or do you get paid after you're done? And could you just take on fewer projects? You might want to experiment a bit with how you approach work with a lighter load but no freedom to just drop everything to write. If you're around a lot (what with working from home), you could be the primary influence without changing every diaper. You'll have to figure out what your own lines are though. But there's some amount of parenting…
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 01:01 AM
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I'm actually totally unsuited to housewifery. I'm not a bad cook, but I come from a long line of slobs (my husband had to show me how to operate the vacuum cleaner), and I'm better in an office than with children. Happily, hubby is a genius when it comes to kids, and he's becoming a teacher, which can be pretty friendly to spending quality time with said children. Either way, how much is it that you're dreaming about being a housewife and how much are you practicing those skills? Not as much val…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 11:40 PM
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Definitely not. Was a virgin til engagement out of choice. On the other hand, as a married woman, I consider once a week somewhat low frequency. It is true that it's not difficult for an attractive young woman to have sex if she wants it. Although it still entails a certain amount of effort to find someone (particularly someone trustworthy), so it's not like it's effortless. But I don't think that many women really go for hookups anyway. It's just that TRPers, looking to get laid without commitm…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 11:17 PM
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No matter if you decide to become a SAHM or not, try to get the impulse spending under control. While you're both working, even if you switched to part time, it is good to have someone to do the housework. Maybe also provide even more help with organization and planning. But the impulse spending -- it doesn't matter how large the fortune, there's someone out there who could spend it. I don't know how best to fight that, but I expect there's people who do. You obviously don't need a frugal budget…
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 10:36 PM
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Do you need the crazy schedule, and can you work fewer hours? To be honest, if you can resolve the scheduling issue (not that babies have regular hours, but toddlers tend to be on a stricter schedule), you can probably make things work pretty well. Honestly, you might want to consider having full time help (actually, my mother recommends this for newborns anyway to combat postpartum depression). If it makes more sense to hire out all of the cleaning and cooking and so on, why not? It might also …
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 10:13 PM
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Eh. It's a preference thing. Hubby is 5'10", and I do like that. If I'm barefoot, I can tuck my head under his chin, and there's something about that that feels very safe. If I'd fallen for someone else though, I probably would have come to appreciate their height. My mom and sister are short too, and they actively prefer men who aren't too tall. My sister is the sort who could date pretty much anyone she wanted, and her BF is around 5'3", I think. Short is her type. She'd think you were too tal…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 02:20 PM
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I never dated enough to establish a serious type. I do consider tall a benefit, but I'm only 5'0", so everyone really is taller than me. Being comfortable in his own skin a hard requirement. Men who are reasonably confident seem to move differently, and it's vital to my interest. Fitness is nice, but hardly a must have (I'll admit that I'm rather out of shape myself, but working on improving). Salary/drive I thought was important, but my husband is not incredibly driven and is currently back in …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 09:15 PM
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Did all that at first. It was actually pretty similar except that it didn't end with him quitting. My husband has been unable to get through the physical withdrawal symptoms without having panic attacks. Slowly tapering it off makes a big difference, but you can't really do that so well with cigarettes.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 06:13 AM
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In general, I think it's rude to invite someone to dinner and not pay for their meal (unless you decide on the place together). If my mom invites people out, she grabs the check. If my uncle invites his siblings out, he does. If they all decide that it's deli time, they each pay for themselves. The person choosing the restaurant is the one with control over cost. Obviously, this typically leaves the man on the hook for the check for the first date. But it's also an opportunity for him to demonst…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 04:17 AM
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Not really sure soft power is that helpful for something crazy addictive like smoking. Which isn't to say that nagging is either, of course. Though I did try to get my husband to associate negative things with smoking. I used to let myself be a nag only while he was having a cigarette. But I made sure not to bother him about smoking when he wasn't in the act of doing it. My husband and I actually created a game plan. He switched to ecigs, and I mix the nicotine liquid. When I decide to, but not …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 03:47 AM
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I'm actually helping my grandma, who is a pretty hardcore hoarder, declutter (seriously, just walking into her old kitchen used to make me retch). Her semi-assisted living place threatened to evict her if things didn't get under control. And I was raised by milder hoarders, and have some of those tendencies. I didn't really realize that you got rid of cardboard boxes until around college. I still have to force myself to get rid of junk like broken electronics and nice cardboard boxes. Psychiatri…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 12:16 AM
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Yeah, I wouldn't worry about it then. And it's fine to have even a few crazy exes - so long as there were long lasting ones that aren't. It's fine that he's not in contact. It's more just that if they ran into each other, being friendlyish (a step nicer than how you treat strangers in your area. Which might be a smile, or it might be a quick conversation) is a good sign that there's no issues.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 11:42 PM
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Lack of sexual experience isn't likely to turn a guy off whether or not he has issues. A big gap in life experience is often a problem though, and that can be a concern when it comes to a large age gap. Did he usually only go for much younger women, or is he just not picky about age? How old are his exes? What's his relationship with them (amiable but not close is typically the ideal)? If he's got a thing about only dating young women, that'd be a problem. If he's just into you, then it's just a…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 06:25 AM
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Okay, so I actually went to an all girls school starting in elementary school and finished high school there. I loved it. Absolutely, making teenagers focus less on sex was helpful, and most of my classmates were more comfortable with themselves than I've typically seen with teenagers. And a lot more focused on academics. I actually also found it way less catty than coed situations (I'd say about 70% female is where you see maximum cattiness). I actually saw that we were less gender conforming w…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/17 05:09 AM
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What's your goal? Statistically speaking, women seem to experience much better sex within long term relationships than during short term flings., because trust and relaxation are such a huge part of being able to be sexually satisfied. Aside from that, getting good at sex is about learning your partner, not learning how to please some generic person. I waited until my husband and I got engaged to have sex. Because he cares, he made my first time good. He was careful and can locate a clitoris (he…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 08:44 PM
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I'm not going to say we never complained, but we never felt poor or deprived. And from about age 6 to 12 the only toys I had any lasting interest in were Playmobil, so it worked out pretty well. I ended up with a ton of Playmobil, so I felt more like I had an abundance, really. My brother usually asked for sports equipment, and I don't think he ever really felt deprived either. My parents did limit our TV access, so we did have much less exposure to advertisements. We could watch shows, but we h…
/r/RedPillWives06/02/17 12:34 AM
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My parents always favored giving us toys that were easy to be creative with. Blocks, fabric, legos, playmobil. That way, they weren't dictating our play. We could play like one would expect from our gender or not. We mostly did a mix. Seems like a pretty good way of dealing with individual variation between children. Also, mom got really fed up with the trendier stuff. Because we'd be super obsessed for months and then want nothing to do with those characters or that color or whatever. And toys …
/r/RedPillWives05/02/17 11:40 PM
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Warm leggings. My skin hates polyester, so I avoid fleece ones, but I have some that are particularly thick cotton and I love them. Leggings don't need the same stretch as tights, so it's easier for them to be warm enough, I think.
/r/RedPillWives05/02/17 02:07 AM
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Make a commitment that forces you into public situations. I was extremely shy in middle school. Barely talked. My teachers always complained about it, and I struggled to make friends, because I was just too quiet. For some reason, I decided to join debate team in high school. I never really did better than slightly above average at debate, but I learned to communicate more clearly and I finally started actually talking to people. By the time I graduated, I could give a full on speech in front of…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 11:08 PM
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Getting good at cooking frugally helps a lot. Many of the not wealthy SAHMs I know are amazing at thrifting and DIY, and that makes a beautiful home much more feasible. Yeah. $1000 a month rent is hell when you're not making much. I'm in the Midwest, and $600 a month rent doesn't even require searching. I can buy a nice house in a middle class area for 80k. My grandma lived in a smaller house in a town that was almost too far to be called a suburb (but was still commutable, because we don't get …
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:38 PM
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Getting middle class work is the norm for people fresh out of college. Entry level jobs are pretty much by definition meant for new grads. And trust me, it's a hell of a lot harder than you think to get anything reasonable without a college degree (had to leave my ultra-prestigious college for medical reasons. I have a very idea of what could have been and what is. On the other hand, a lot of the jobs my classmates got were mad stressful, which is kind of not ideal when trying to keep an autoimm…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:18 PM
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My brother is LA started doing tango partly because the odds favor him so strongly, even there (he's kept at it for years because he enjoys it).
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/17 01:53 AM
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Hmm. Maybe explore various churches? We took a while to find our ideal synagogue (and we got very lucky - it suits us far better than we could have even dreamed of). You want to find a place where you feel at home. So, my parents have always had a somewhat rocky marriage, and my mom knows this. She's always tried to point out good marriages to me (her judgment is a bit questionable, but it did help me figure out what I'm looking for). Maybe you could look to some of the older women at your churc…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 06:17 PM
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That's good! Therapy that includes a spiritual element has an advantage, I think. Hopefully you have a church you're comfortable at? Community is important, and a good fit can make a big difference. Role models could be older ladies, or even fictional characters. Just, someone you admire and try to think "how would she approach this situation?". That said, if you don't feel comfortable in your location, moving isn't bad. I love my home city, but I've definitely lived in cities that would have dr…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 04:10 AM
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Find good role models to talk to. Honestly, even a therapist might be a good idea, given that it sounds like your mother was terrible to you, on top of having destructive ideas. It's not too late to learn new things! My mom is a workaholic feminist, and while she's not actually a terrible role model in many ways (she's kind, generous, polite, and does her best to stay upbeat), I didn't learn anything about cooking, cleaning, makeup, or fashion from her. I've mostly learned as an adult, from the …
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 10:10 PM
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It seemed a bit pointless to me. A lot of it was protesting Trump (who I do think has expressed some pretty disgusting views of women), but that's a complete waste of time after an inauguration. I thought it was pretty strange that I know far more women who joined their local march than who canvassed before the election. I do think free contraception is probably good economic policy, as it's much cheaper for the government than a child, particularly one born to the sort of mother to whom free co…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 04:22 AM
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Body language matters a lot. I used to get approached all the time (specifically, got aggressively hit on by strangers every time I went more than half a mile off my college campus). I was a pretty enough college student, but I got hit on a lot more than my friends, some of whom were prettier, some of whom weren't. I think the biggest factor is smiling. If you look open and friendly, everyone will talk to you. Men will hit on you, women will often randomly start conversations, children will grav…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 06:13 AM
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