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Field ReportBenjiDread/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 06:30 AM
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That's a lot of shit you just made up to explain why women want to look sexy. Maybe they're trying to be as attractive as possible. Just because it makes *you* nervous doesn't mean they're doing it to make *you* nervous. But of course, if *you* can't function in the presence of a sexy woman, that's a pretty big red flag for her don't you think?
/r/askTRP05/06/18 07:21 PM
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You shouldn't fuck anyone you're not willing to die for Huh?
/r/TheRedPill28/12/16 02:41 PM
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I recently acquired a plate (friend of a male friend's plate). Met her for the first time when my friend invited me to go out to a restaurant with them. Got her number and called her a couple weeks later. We all went out again and because they both lived a bit far out of town, everyone ended up crashing at my place. Slept in clothes with the girl while rubbing her ass and spooning her. I invite her over the next day and Netflix and chill closes the deal. She grew up very shy and is a sexually co…
/r/TheRedPill23/12/16 03:38 PM
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It's not his fault you have the attention span of a fly.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/16 08:06 PM
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Horse shit. I can say the same thing to two different people. One is offended and the other is not.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/16 08:06 PM
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I don't think Trump is going to do jack shit about Feminism. If anything, Trump's win will galvanize the feminist movement. If you think feminists are belligerent now..... Just wait.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/16 05:58 PM
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This is where I get confused. How to I reconcile this idea about remaining fertile with the notion that "She's not yours, it's only your turn". Given AWALT, under what circumstances is it advisable to have a child with a woman? If I wore condoms for the rest of my life, how would it be any different from having a vasectomy. Same result. No kids. Personally, I have one child with a woman who's Hypergamy eventually discarded me. Now that I've swallowed the Red Pill, Why would I want to have anothe…
/r/TheRedPill28/10/16 05:47 PM
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That's an impressive amount of projection there. You made up a whole bullshit narrative around a guy getting a vasectomy. Cool story bro, but you have no idea what kind of women OP is fucking or whether or not anyone on this sub is a "Virgin alpha" The fact that this annoys you so much makes me wonder about YOUR alpha status (see how stupid that sounds?).
/r/TheRedPill28/10/16 12:37 AM
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WTF are you on about? He already has a kid and doesn't want anymore. He's made sure it doesn't happen and here you are shitting all over him for what? I swear, this alpha/beta thing, while useful for general principles is becoming ridiculous. What's beta about what he's done?
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 10:18 PM
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She couldn't help being a bitch and I couldn't help being her bitch.
/r/askTRP09/10/16 01:41 AM
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The OP and this comment sheds new light on my past situation with my ex. It's the resentment of unfulfilled Hypergamy. Looking back this is spot on!
/r/askTRP08/10/16 10:24 PM
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Wow. I'm sorry your dad (and you) are going through this. I think I just caught a glimpse of my future self if I had stayed with my LTR/pseudo marriage. I'm here chilling with my 4 year old daughter and I'm thankful that she has a father who isn't dying inside anymore. I hope things work out for the better. Try to be strong for your dad. You're probably the only support he has.
/r/askTRP08/10/16 10:20 PM
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Often women's masochism manifests as a yearning to be disciplined. They know they are petty and belligerent. They know they will do hurtful things if they can get away with it, but they'll be annoyed if you let them get away with it. Like, "Why is he letting me be crazy? I need him to stop me from being a bitch but he won't!" They want to fight and lose. Whether it be bdsm or an argument over the toilet seat.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/16 04:43 AM
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As a recovering nice guy, this has indeed been the biggest mindful of them all. I've now come to realize that women are masochists and I've accepted that I have to act out of character to keep them interested. It's completely mad.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/16 06:02 PM
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If you respect yourself, why wouldn't you expect respect from others. The way I read it wasn't like "All MUST respect me!" but it's more like, "If you don't respect me, I'm moving on till I find someone who does." The former is more of an entitlement, the latter is more of a healthy respect for oneself. Take it from someone who lacked the "entititled" mentality of expecting others to respect me. You will be ground to dust until you realize that the first person that you must have respect from is…
/r/TheRedPill07/10/16 05:49 PM
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You can't make her do anything. Do you want to be dealing with this childish, self harming behavior forever? Staying is how you deal with this forever. It's not going to get any better. She's got mental issues. Now it's time for you to take your meds (leave). You care about her well being more than she does. GTFO and find a sane person to hang out with. Not a chronic damsel in distress.
/r/askTRP07/10/16 05:16 PM
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That was my favorite quote. The last line really brings it home. So many women expecting a man to love them for no reason other than their feelings for him.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/16 06:03 PM
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Is she going to stop wearing makeup so she isn't too attractive? Somehow I doubt it.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/16 07:48 PM
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And I find the idea that you can speak for millions of people and declare that these things only happen in certain specific circumstances to be absurd. Do you think I'm the only person who has group sex that falls outside your imagined constraints? Continue to believe whatever you want. Makes no difference to me. You can have the last word if you like.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/16 07:34 AM
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If I could, I'd give you and OP gold for this. I never thought of anything like this before reading this post and now your comment. It works on so many levels.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/16 03:49 AM
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I've been having nothing but group sex since I broke up with my ex 8 months ago. My buddy brought a girl over to fuck, and since then, she's brought her cousin and two of her friends over. Plus she particpated with a new girl she didn't know. None of us go out very often. Your view of the world is very narrow minded.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/16 01:52 AM
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ITT: A legion of justice boners.
/r/askTRP10/09/16 12:30 AM
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This coming from someone who doesn't have 40 dollars and had to steal it. The entitlement is real.
/r/askTRP10/09/16 12:25 AM
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My thoughts exactly. My ex acted like me paying the rent and bills never happened...... Until she had to pay her own rent.
/r/askTRP10/09/16 12:23 AM
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This is my favorite answer. The hamster trips and starts spinning around with the wheel.
/r/askTRP06/09/16 02:46 AM
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Sigh. I seem to be misunderstood. I'm just talking in the context of this specific data. Perhaps I was lazy in my wording, but I'm not exactly writing a dissertation. I couldn't possibly know what any particular man's experience is from these stats, or men as a whole. I thought it was a given that we're really just talking about this data set and not the entire planet.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/16 02:24 AM
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I don't disagree with you. Not arguing against your point. By the way, I'm a black guy too. Just not American. So I don't take any stats from America and extrapolate them to the wider world. Where I live, black women overwhelmingly prefer black men. If my comment seemed to generalize it's because I wasn't specific enough. I thought it was assumed that we were talking about OKC data since that's literally what this comment thread is about.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/16 02:20 AM
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You're right about selection bias. But I wasn't extrapolating these stats to the general population. Just looking at the stats for what they are, namely black men's chances of getting responses on OKCupid.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/16 11:59 PM
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You're missing the point. What I'm saying here is that all ethnicities including black women have a low response rate to black men. So the black guy who dates exclusively black women is still on the lowest rung of the ladder in terms of getting responses from said black women.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/16 11:56 PM
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What's interesting to me here is the rates that black women respond to everyone is higher than black males. Among black women, their lowest response rate is to black males 28%. For black males, that 28% from black women is the highest of all ethnicities. In essence, black women will fuck anybody, with black men lowest on their radar. But black males have a hard time gaming anybody, with their best chance of success being with black females who want the other ethnicities more. Kinda sucks for bla…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/16 06:08 PM
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This hits home for me. I've been with a few women since I got out of my LTR and with a couple of hookers. Hardly any difference in the experience.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/16 09:05 PM
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Dude, do you want to give the best oral she's ever had or not? If you do it well for 30 mins, that bitch will never forget you. By that time she should be in fear of her next orgasm. If you don't truly enjoy eating pussy, don't bother. This advice is for the connoisseurs. It's not just about getting her off. The journey to orgasm is just as important. Also, don't stop at one orgasm. Make that chick cum over and over. The first one usually isn't the most intense one they'll have. By the time you'…
/r/askTRP26/08/16 07:25 PM
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I'm similar to you. I had a friend bring a girl over, ready to fuck just because she heard of my oral skills. I consider myself a true artist when it comes to eating pussy. That girl has since brought three different girls over to experience my iron tongue. I get no complaints regarding my dick game, but they don't fawn over my dick as much as my tongue. I'm okay with that though. I'm still having PIV sex with them, they enjoy it, I enjoy it. Plus the oral keeps them coming back for more. Win/wi…
/r/askTRP26/08/16 07:16 PM
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This guy knows what he's talking about. Source: I'm 39 and full of regret over time wasted. I'm still the guy who could but doesn't. I need this advice as much as OP does.
/r/askTRP23/08/16 11:44 PM
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This post is very appropriate for TRP. I'm sure you've noticed that most of us got here after being screwed over in relationships or by feminized society. I'm sure depression is rampant among the newly unplugged. How is a beaten down beta going to internalize TRP without also overcoming depression? This post was inspirational to me. I saved the original because it struck a chord that no other depression advice had. Things like this can help more than some of the shitty AWALT Field reports all ov…
/r/TheRedPill05/08/16 02:24 PM
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It's acknowledgments all the way down!
/r/TheRedPill07/07/16 06:14 PM
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But who would hold the shopping bags?
/r/TheRedPill04/07/16 07:31 PM
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If it was me and my GF said that shit. I'd never speak to her again. Instant next.
/r/askTRP19/06/16 07:07 PM
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I made this comment in the "My brain on porn results" post. Seems applicable here. I've been habitually jerking to porn for over 20 years with some breaks here and there lasting a few weeks before I got hooked again. I recently had an embarrassing experience where I would lose my erection and need foreplay to get it back up. It happened three times that night and I hated it. I knew that jerk in off affected my sensitivity and performance, but It had never been this bad. I felt a void where my di…
/r/TheRedPill19/06/16 04:27 PM
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I spotted that too. Like she passed out and woke up pregnant.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/16 04:07 PM
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No. I'm trolling you. Learn the difference.
/r/askTRP18/06/16 02:36 AM
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No need. Someone who actually did the program answered my question. Have a nice day.
/r/askTRP18/06/16 02:25 AM
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Your outlook on it is more important than the issue itself. In my experience, women will throw a couple of shit tests at you (for me, it's my height) and if you demonstrate that you don't give a fuck, they probably won't either. Usually when someone mentions my height, I say something like, "Yeah, I gave up being tall for a big dick. The extra inches had to come from somewhere." doesn't even matter if it's true.
/r/askTRP18/06/16 02:16 AM
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Ah! Someone who has actually done the program and knows about it's effectiveness. Thank you.
/r/askTRP18/06/16 01:08 AM
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So you don't know if it works. Got it.
/r/askTRP18/06/16 12:06 AM
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So you don't know. Just say so man. It's ok. I don't give a fuck about whoever that guy is. I want to know if doing the exercises he prescribes will get results. The exercises don't change because a "fat" guy wrote them down, doesn't make it an ineffective program. This should be common sense. As far as I've read, lots of people have achieved good results on the program. It's basically Stronglifts with accessories. I'm doing vanilla Stronglifts and I'm getting results, but I guess because a fat …
/r/askTRP17/06/16 11:49 PM
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Does that mean the program doesn't work?
/r/askTRP17/06/16 10:37 PM
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What does that have to do with YOU implementing the program? Usain Bolt's coach has a beer gut. Does that mean he's a shit trainer?
/r/askTRP17/06/16 10:11 PM
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Don't reply.... Ever. Seriously. Ignoring her completely will fuck with her more than anything you could say. Just block her and move on.
/r/askTRP17/06/16 10:08 PM
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Clearly there's more to TRP than that. If there wasn't, there would be no need for this sub. A meme would be just as effective. If you don't need this info, more power to you, but clearly OP wants to do more than condense TRP into a few sentences. He's trying to internalize it, and this is one method he uses that he's sharing with the community.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/16 03:18 PM
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I feel like I could have written this post. I've been habitually jerking to porn for over 20 years with some breaks here and there lasting a few weeks before I got hooked again. I recently had an embarrassing experience where I would lose my erection and need foreplay to get it back up. It happened three times that night and I hated it. I knew that jerk in off affected my sensitivity and performance, but It had never been this bad. I felt a void where my dick should be and couldn't cum. That was…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/16 01:26 PM
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Does being fat increase life span?
/r/TheRedPill15/06/16 04:41 PM
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I doubt it. Lifting isn't just about your body. It develops mental strength as well, something bodyweight and cardio never did for me. When you reach the point where you're facing more weight than you've ever lifted before, knowing that it was 5 pounds lighter last time and it drained your soul yet force yourself to get under that bar and push even harder, it has a big effect on the way you approach challenges. When every workout is a PR until you fail, deload and work your way past it to bigger…
/r/TheRedPill14/06/16 07:43 PM
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Agreed. I did the whole lifting then not lifting thing. I'm back at the gym after three months off and while I had to massively deload, after the first week, the weight was too easy even though I was adding weight. It feels like my body said, "Oh yeah! I remember this. Let's flip the switch back back to gain mode."
/r/TheRedPill14/06/16 07:28 PM
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This. I started lifting about 6 months ago after moving out of a cohabiting LTR. I swallowed the pill hard. I stopped jerking to porn too. I felt all the benefits of lifting and was getting good results. I lost about 20lbs had better posture, energy and more confidence. Abstinence from masturbating amplified those results. I felt sad, angry and confused after my breakup. I would look forward to gym day because I would leave the gym feeling totally calm. Then I got laid. I actually skipped a gym …
/r/TheRedPill14/06/16 07:19 PM
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These are the first two nooks that I read after swallowing the pill. NMMNG blew my mind and TRM put it back together again. They are treasure troves of RP knowledge.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/16 06:49 PM
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I've had similar experiences. I think there is a lot of merit to this post. The analogy that comes to mind is lifting. You don't start out deadlift in 300lbs no matter how much you read about technique. You start low and add weight gradually. Likewise, someone starting out practicing game would probably be better off gaming HB5/6s before gaming an HB8/9. The hotter women require better game. It's more difficult to learn what works and what doesn't if you're constantly crashing and burning trying…
/r/TheRedPill14/06/16 05:43 PM
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Great post. I moved out after 5 years living with my ex. Everything in OP's post speaks directly to my experience. I've been living alone for 6 months and while it was tough at first, I've learned to cook for myself and enjoy solitude. I'm lifting and breaking my porn habit on my own. I'm at the point where I'm enjoying being alone. I'm no longer afraid to be alone which will make it easier to next a girl that doesn't measure up even without an abundance of potential plates. A man needs to be se…
/r/TheRedPill14/06/16 10:41 AM
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The "her" you're talking about is the "her" that she lets you see. Why would you continue to be in a relationship with someone you can't stand to look at or talk to anymore?
/r/askTRP13/06/16 06:09 PM
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Move out. Do you really want to live with this person? What else has she done that she hasn't told you about? Get out now before it gets worse.
/r/askTRP13/06/16 06:07 PM
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I've been a habitual fapstronaut for over 20 years. The times when I stopped for a few weeks I've noticed that I have a bit more mental focus and energy. I'm trying to kick the habit again after an embarrassing night of losing and regaining my erection several times during sex. I know that I am a lot more sensitive and aroused when I don't fap. This experience gave me the kick in the pants I needed to stop. This time around, I did it differently. This may or may not work for everybody (I don't e…
/r/askTRP12/06/16 11:25 PM
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I've been doing Stronglifts for about 12 weeks. After doing heavy squats, deadlift warmup sets plus 1 work set leaves me completely drained. I can't imagine doing 5x5 on deadlift.
/r/askTRP12/06/16 04:05 PM
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I think he's talking about a vasectomy.
/r/TheRedPill12/06/16 03:48 PM
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In many states, any form of penetration is considered rape. Apparently CA is not one of those states so he got sexual assault.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/16 05:42 AM
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I've been in three epic but failed relationships in which I wanted to eventually get married. Total time wasted: approx 15 years. This last one put the final nail in the coffin regarding marriage. That ship has sailed. Now I'm just trying to catch up on my pussy deficit. Lucky for me, I have a very RP friend who has delivered 5 different women DTF on the first meeting. My perspective regarding women and relationships has completely changed. Living alone for the past 6 months has taught me that I…
/r/TheRedPill10/06/16 04:35 PM
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Good advice. We were engaged, but after a while, something just didn't sit right with me and I had nagging doubts about getting married to her. Turns out my gut was right. I dodged a bullet. I love my daughter though and while it's tough being a single/part time father, I'll never regret having her. She's the one good thing that came out of all this.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/16 04:09 PM
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She's a struggling single mother who is having difficulty maintaining her friendships due to her emotional impulsivity. She only just made the realization that she has a problem. We talk (mostly about our child) and I try to keep things light with her, but I keep my distance. I have my daughter 3 days per week and she seems to have adjusted well to the split. It was tough at first but I'm in a much better place now.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/16 03:56 PM
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Reminds me of when I tried to have the "Why won't you fuck me?" talk with my ex after 5 months of zero sex. She complains about the usual choreplay, etc and then says that I've haven't taken us out to a hotel even though she's been asking for it for months. With all our expenses, I couldn't justify the cost given that we had a small child and things were always tight at the end of the month. We both worked, but I paid all the major bills and for our child's health and education. We all traveled …
/r/TheRedPill10/06/16 02:59 AM
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With a limitless supply of fresh replacements that get cheaper by the day.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/16 02:23 AM
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This is spot on. I'm 6 months out of a 5+ year cohabiting LTR. I honestly thought I was unfuckable, especially since my GF couldn't bring herself to fuck me for the last 5 months of our relationship (once every month or two for years prior). I thought I had to lose weight and massively increase my SMV before women would even consider fucking me. Turns out, I'm more attractive than I thought (still lifting though). My already low self esteem had been further corrupted by her behavior toward me. T…
/r/TheRedPill10/06/16 02:19 AM
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Beware of a woman who sees a difference of opinion as a personal attack. She did you a favor.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 06:43 PM
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Wow. At least their hamsters are fit.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 12:52 PM
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If you haven't already, read No More Mr Nice Guy. It sounds like a good fit for what you've described about yourself. It was a huge eye opener for me.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/16 10:01 PM
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Trying to force myself to cum has the exact opposite effect. For me, relaxation is the key.
/r/askTRP08/06/16 08:25 PM
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It definitely helps. I had my first embarrassing sexual encounter last week where I would lose my erection and have to go back to foreplay to get hard again. I did NOT like that. I had been jerking off relentlessly for the past couple months. I knew that I lost some sensitivity and didn't get quite as hard when I was constantly jerking off, but this time it really showed. I couldn't cum either. Previously, I had gone nofap, for about 3 weeks and I found that when I finally had some real sex I wa…
/r/askTRP08/06/16 08:15 PM
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I was about to say that nobody in these pictures is jacked. Coincidence? I think not.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 11:25 PM
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This right here. I moved out 6 months ago after 5+ years living with my LTR. The loneliness of living with someone who doesn't care is worse than being isolated. Since I moved out, I'm still lonely, but I'm content. I'd much rather be alone than be relentlessley hen pecked in a dead bedroom relationship.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 11:03 PM
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I didn't see you mention it, but this sounds like a textbook case of Borderline Personality Disorder. My ex was on the low end of the spectrum, but your story sounds like full blown BPD crazy. Do some research and I'm sure you'll find the parallels quite eye opening.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 03:19 PM
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How about focusing on yourself and your goals instead of fuming every time you see some BP schmuck on the street.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/16 11:26 PM
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At least his username checks out.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/16 12:15 AM
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I second the recommendation of No More Mr. Nice Guy. It blew my mind
/r/askTRP03/06/16 02:20 AM
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I do the same. Hardcore History is fantastic.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/16 05:05 AM
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I don't get it. She doesn't enjoy sex but slutted it up with 2 guys in one day. I smell bullshit. I think she's a damn liar and she's either really good at it or you're very naive. You say she's very "real" but I doubt it.
/r/askTRP01/06/16 05:56 PM
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Did they really say that? That seems so counterproductive. If RPW is about being a good women to a strong man, how can they leave out the most important part for a man.... The sex. If that's the stance of RPW, then it ain't what it's cracked up to be.
/r/askTRP01/06/16 03:31 PM
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Why is this bothering you? Why are you wasting time thinking about what this guy does with a video game character? This has absolutely no bearing on your life. Get over it and concentrate on things that matter.
/r/askTRP01/06/16 03:25 PM
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This is the part where you fully accept that the relationship is that over and you go no contact. It's only been 3 months. No need for closure. Go find new plates. If she does contact you, act as if her abandonment was of no consequence to you, but she has to earn your attention if she wants it.
/r/askTRP01/06/16 03:11 PM
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Are you here for advice and insight or are you here to argue? The man gave a perfectly sound analogy and you've completely misinterpreted it and now you're criticizing his advice. Go and figure it out on your own since you can't comprehend a simple analogy.
/r/askTRP01/06/16 03:00 PM
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This is why we do not talk about Fight Club (TRP). It is pointless arguing with people about TRP, and has the added benefit of people labeling you a misogynistic shitlord.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/16 03:21 AM
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Thanks for taking the time to answer my question. I think you're spot on. My ex was like that too. She would get upset over nothing just to make sure her hamster got exercise. I'm like you. All I want is peace and harmony. She thrives on conflict, even though she says she "Hates drama". Turns out she's on the BPD spectrum. I didn't think about the friend factor. It's amazing how much their actions within the relationship are dictated by validation from their peers. The same "bitches" they compla…
/r/TheRedPill26/05/16 12:49 AM
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She's always the victim and Billy never does anything wrong so she can't blame him for anything. I've heard a woman complain because she never has a good reason to be mad at her boyfriend. Every time she thinks she's caught him doing something wrong, he has a completely reasonable and innocent explanation. He's just a good guy. What kind of sick fuck WANTS their SO to do something wrong just so they can be righteously mad at them? It's as if they're already mad (for no reason), and get frustrate…
/r/TheRedPill25/05/16 08:32 PM
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This is what happens when the branch she's swinging from breaks before she can reach the next one. Panic ensues. The hamster gets a hit of adrenaline and goes buck wild.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/16 04:42 AM
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You put your dick BACK into crazy even after seeing undeniable evidence of crazy. You have to cut off all contact. This is BPD. There is no other escape. You recognize your mistake now go.
/r/askTRP24/05/16 05:06 PM
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LDRs are pointless in my opinion. Would you wait months to have sex with a woman who lives near you, all the while offering gratuitous amounts of emotional support with no physical contact while you wait? Too much effort with too little reward. I've tried it.... It sucks.
/r/askTRP20/05/16 09:14 PM
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Based on my limited TRP knowledge, women do this because this is what works on them. Women want to be with men that other way men want to fuck. If you gave off a vibe that other women want you, it would probably make her want you more. So they throw out these shit tests to make you jealous and want them more. Problem is, this has the opposite effect and turns us off. In my decidedly non-expert opinion: Next time she mentions something like this, say something like, "OMG I know what you mean. The…
/r/askTRP20/05/16 09:08 PM
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What is she to YOU? A fuck buddy or LTR? It sounds like she wants to be in an LTR with you. You need to decide if that's what you want. A point to note though. She is basically trying to be upgraded to LTR status by withholding sex. Let me rephrase that: She is trying to get more of what she wants from you by giving you less of what you want. Does that make any sense to you? What makes you think it won't be worse in an LTR?
/r/askTRP20/05/16 08:55 PM
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I did something like this. 5+ years and child later, I was a shell of my former self and had to move out for my own sanity. If you want to help her find a place, fine. Don't let her move in.
/r/askTRP20/05/16 08:45 PM
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Sounds like someone on the spectrum for BPD. Run as fast as you can. It will NOT get any better. In fact it will get worse than you can possibly imagine. Source: Was in a cohabiting LTR for 5+ years with a BPD woman.
/r/askTRP20/05/16 06:34 PM
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Does it matter? I don't care one way or the other. I figure, if there was a market for it, it would probably exist. I read through Pornhub's 2015 stats. The word cuckold is nowhere to be found. Sure there's women searching for black and BBC but I fail to see how this by itself degrades white men unless you assume that every scene with a white woman and a black man is an affront to white men. In that case I can't help you. You and I will never agree. And that's fine by me. Do what you feel is rig…
/r/TheRedPill19/05/16 07:11 AM
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Lol Blue pill? Wtf? I couldn't care less what colour you think my pill is. Go make your Mama goes White porn. Let us know how much money you make.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/16 06:33 AM
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And sometimes it's correctly used. Case in point.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/16 06:21 AM
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Nothing would happen. Because nobody cares.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/16 06:19 AM
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I'm too tired to argue now. But I'm still curious to know what should be done about it. I don't care enough either way.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/16 03:36 AM
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I am questioning the validity of your argument with y'know..... questions. Many of which you have not answered. I am also using your own logic to show that you have a bias by virtue of the fact that you gloss over the degradation of other groups in other genres of porn choosing only to focus on one group of which you happen to be a member. The vast majority of porn casts white males. I've watched enough to know. But somehow you're making it sound like it's BBC porn as far as the eye can see in a…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 08:08 PM
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Is the fact that Blacks dominate track anti-white or do black people just run faster? One could argue that the Jews are promoting black athletes to destroy whites or you could just measure how fast they run and put the fastest runners in the starting blocks. Same outcome, different cause. Wouldn't Ghetto Gaggers be Anti-black by the same logic? Where's your outrage over that?
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 07:52 PM
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I agree. But wouldn't that apply to porn depicting women sucking off dogs too? What about porn depicting normal women getting gangbang ed by midgets? Is that a conspiracy to degrade normal sized men? Is Bestiality porn degrading to human males? Where is the outrage over porn depicting nuns doing anal? Is it causing an epidemic of sodomy that will destroy the Catholic Church? Or maybe white women are being degraded by all the Brazilian Big Butt Orgy porn. The filter that you apply to the porn ind…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 07:35 PM
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Again. That's one man. You are making it sound like this one man controls the entire industry. Watching my mom go black is a clever way of getting two niches in one. Milf and interracial. Sounds like a smart business move.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 07:21 PM
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So you think white women who have been fucking black men prior to the invention of electricity are doing it because of the porn industry?
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 07:19 PM
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I didn't make any claim regarding the demographics of people who watch cuckold porn. I have no idea who's watching it. You are projecting those views onto me. Why would a porn producer invest in paying "actors", renting venues and post-production costs to produce a product that nobody wants?
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 07:16 PM
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First of all, TL;DR Seconnd: I can see the PC train running amok and all that. No arguments there. Yes, I see that there is an unfair backlash against straight white males. What I don't see is the degree to which you ascribe malice to the production of BBC porn. I think it's a reaction to the society rather than an attempt to alter society. White women have been fucking black men ever since the days of slavery. Did the Jews orchestrate that? Why are you turning a blind eye to other races being d…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 07:05 PM
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You said that. I didn't. What I am saying is that a business will follow the money wherever it takes them. If people are watching more BBC porn than BWC porn, you bet your ass I'll be making more BBC porn.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 06:55 PM
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Sounds a lot like whites hating Jews. Egg or chicken?
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 06:47 PM
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So what? Is there a rule somewhere that stops other people from promoting white studs? It's all free speech. Somehow you make it seem as if Dogfart represents the entire industry. Interracial porn is what they do. Do you think there would be so much BBC porn if it nobody wanted to watch it? What should be done about it in your opinion?
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 06:46 PM
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Maybe I should ask Darth Vader for advice on raising children. The fact that you are somehow able to rationalize the idea of a Jew conspiracy to emasculate white men by promoting BBC porn with quotes from HITLER tells me all I need to know.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 06:39 PM
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Of course! We should all be looking to HITLER for a healthy perspective on the world. /s I watched the whole thing. I still have no idea what this has to do with big black cocks in porn.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 06:29 PM
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Okay. Fine. That's one website. What's stopping you from creating a porn site that depicts hung white studs fucking all races of women. . . .wait...that's what MOST PORN ALREADY IS!!! There's no overlord deciding what genres can and can't be created. So someone created Blacked.com. Someone else can create Whitewashed.com f they want to. It's all free speech. Will it be successful? Who knows. The porn watchers are the ones who decide that. There's a genre of porn videos where white guys all weari…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 06:01 PM
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What agenda would that be? If they had an agenda, shouldn't we see BJC (Big Jew Cock) porn being promoted? Jokes aside, I'm curious to know what benefit it is to Jews to promote BBC porn?
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 05:22 PM
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By your logic, should black women "do something' about all the white women being banged by the black guys? Yes, there's cuckold porn. There's also scat and vomit porn. Porn depicting white men violently forcing their cocks down black women's throats (ghettogaggers). Why aren't you railing against black women being degraded turning into a white man's fetish? I think you've selected one genre of porn and because it makes YOU uncomfortable, your depicting it as some sort of evil conspiracy that wil…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 05:13 PM
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I get that. What I'm getting at is that the emotional damage from getting pumped and dumped is the whole reason why we avoid LTRs with high N-counts women. Low N-count women are considered more likely to be LTR material because of the emotional damage that the CC causes in women. The good part of all this emotional damage is that if you like sluts, It's a great time to be alive. We're currently living in the Slut Age where women wear sluttiness as a badge of honour.
/r/TheRedPill17/05/16 11:00 PM
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But don't we talk about alpha widows and the "Thousand cock stare" here? Isn't that emotional damage caused by too many pumps and dumps? If it wasn't emotionally damaging then why do we avoid women with high N-counts?
/r/TheRedPill17/05/16 08:52 PM
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I consider Blue Valentine required watching for TRP. Perfectly illustrates Hypergamy and the plight of the BP male.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 10:27 PM
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I'm the same way. Don't worry about it. You're just introverted. It's not a bad thing. Think of socializing like mental weightlifting. You'll be exhausted, but it's good exercise and will make you stronger. And just like lifting, it's important to rest between workouts. Just take some time to mentally recharge and get back out there.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 10:13 PM
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All I see here is people saying g that marriage is a bad deal for men. Can you tell me what the benefits of marriage are for men? Can you give us any insight into why a rational man would want to get married? What are the pros that outweigh the cons?
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 04:05 PM
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We did it guys! We found the hamster's wheel!
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 08:13 PM
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Then why are you even here? You can't change your height. It is what it is. All you can change is your thoughts about it. In your comments you seem dismissive/hostile toward the advice given. In that case, do whatever you want. I give less than a fuck if you get over your insecurities. You and I are the same height and it seems to bother you far more than it bothers me. On the other hand, judging by your comments, you're probably in much better shape than I am. You're probably more attractive at…
/r/askTRP06/05/16 08:26 PM
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I came here to say this.
/r/askTRP06/05/16 07:57 PM
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Your insecurity about your height is hurting your chances with women FAR more than your actual height is.
/r/askTRP06/05/16 07:54 PM
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Amazing! I'm the one with the attitude while your noob self shits on TRP contributions. Im just calling you out on it. Peace bro. I hope you get what you need out of this sub. My advice: Ignore the stuff you know already lest you come across as a cynical prick.. . . Wait.... Nevermind.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/16 12:02 AM
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I agree. Why don't you start since you're the one bitching? Not seeing a whole lot of "new shit" in your post history. I guess your rather criticize other people's contributions than post something worthwhile yourself. Is this is good time for a fuck off or would you like more foreplay?
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 11:43 PM
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I already knew this shit, but I can appreciate another example or another person's take on it. Why don't we just make TRP into one big sidebar with the one rule: Read this. Then you won't have to hear any pesky information you already know. It should be easier to ignore a thread than to post shit in it, but I guess you like shitting.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 11:16 PM
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I quoted the same line in my comment before reading yours. You are absolutely right. I marveled at how the women I was fucking became totally submissive fuck dolls and let me do anything to them. I literally thought to myself, "This woman is happy to be a cock socket." Blew my little BP mind.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 10:23 PM
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Slutty women don’t want to deal with you as a person. People are hard. Sex is easy. Make it easy on her. This resonated with me big time after fucking three women who met me already down to fuck just because a friend told her that I eat pussy like a boss. The first one liked it so much, she brought her cousin, then her friend to get some. There's nothing like having a plate who will actively find more pussy for you to fuck (and I still don't know her last name). Having unplugged 5 months ago aft…
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 10:17 PM
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You may or may not have noticed that newly unplugged men are a large part of this sub. Just because you know this shit doesn't mean that it isn't helpful to others. Why don't you post something new and interesting instead of shitting on posts that may help some people.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 09:25 PM
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Look, I get where you're coming from and I'm fine with the whole idea of "do whatever it takes" mentality, but I don't think women obsess over the minutiae of a man's looks. I'd imagine that they have more of a total package way of seeing men. I know plenty of non-lifting, below average looking dudes pulling tons of hot women. I don't think that foundation and concealer are going to turn any man from 6 to an 8 in a woman's eyes. You'd do better with more confidence and better fashion than makeup…
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 11:38 PM
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I had this thought at the age of 7. Now I'm trying to get rid of the shitty man-boobs I eventually acquired. Oh the irony.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 06:28 PM
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So many people talking about shit they have no experience with and stating "facts" that they read somewhere and arguing vehemently that the personal experiences of others on this forum are either lies or misunderstandings on the part of those with first hand experiences. Reminds me of the stupid high school arguments about whether or not girls piss out of their vaginas. Those of us who knew better and stated correctly that they piss out of another hole (the urethra) got shouted down by ignorant …
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 06:09 PM
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Honestly, this is the first time I've considered unsubscribing from TRP. This whole thread is pathetic.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 01:51 PM
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Dude. You literally think you can speak for every woman on the planet? Some women squirt and some don't. Those that are capable of it usually don't squirt from a lackluster orgasm. For them, the intensity is a HUGE factor. I've had a 35 year old women squirt who was convinced that she was incapable of it. When it happened she said it was one of the most intense orgasm she'd ever had. You think that just because you say so, it discounts the personal experience of others on this sub? GTFO with you…
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 01:48 PM
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I made a woman literally pass out for 15 seconds, the wake up and continue cumming. This thread is fucking retarded. Reminds me if the arguments I used to have in high school.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 01:43 PM
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Agreed. This whole argument is pathetic.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 01:36 PM
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For an individual woman who can/does squirt/piss/whatever, the difference between a squirting orgasm and a non squirting orgasm is usually the intensity. That's been my personal experience. Regarding the exact chemical composition of the fluid, I don't care.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 01:34 PM
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Good on you for seeing clearly and being decisive. Too many people post here asking silly questions like, how do I make this slut love me again. Don't second guess yourself for a second. I know how the "feel like shit" phase feels. I'm just getting out of that phase. It gets better every day. What doesn't get better is spending more time in a relationship that is already over. Go forth and be awesome.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 02:40 AM
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I swear to God I nearly went insane with my LTR over shit like this. I seriously contemplated having a hidden mic in the house just so that I could play back own words to her just to have a conversation about what she said without her completely rewriting it. I'd end up thinking I'm the crazy one. Thanks to TRP, I eventually moved the fuck out.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/16 10:46 AM
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Another great post. I discovered that I was codependent and had issues due to childhood trauma and the death of my father when I was 12. You're right, the person who stays in a BPD relationship for a long time is mentally ill to some degree. And chances are, by the time a guys gets out, the relationship itself will amplify existing mental issues or introduce new ones. Reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy" was a breakthrough for me. I'm now on the slow path to healing. I'll definitely check out the book…
/r/TheRedPill10/04/16 01:29 PM
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I'll add another voice to the comments here. I got out of a 5-year LTR with a woman that is on the low end of the BPD spectrum. No violence, no self harm, drug use or insane meltdowns, and I was still left a shell of my former self. Even if they only BPD a tiny bit. RUN!
/r/TheRedPill10/04/16 12:59 PM
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Because she hates that fact that she has to lose face, especially in front of you. And guess what. . . Now she's mad at you because you made her feel that way. Think about that for a minute. She is mad at you because she was wrong.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/16 03:02 AM
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It's a power play. She feels like you owe her something and is trying to strong-arm you. Clearly she feels like she is providing more value than you are. I would simply spend less time there. If she asks you why you aren't sleeping over as often, tell her that you don't want to confuse her about where you live. I'd love to hear her reaction.
/r/askTRP07/04/16 07:34 PM
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This is the most accurate circle jerk on Reddit.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/16 04:00 AM
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It's like they're constantly experiencing dread 25x7 no matter what you do. They're permanently stuck in dread mode and alternate between fear of your abandonment and resenting you for the inevitable abandonment to come.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/16 03:54 AM
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Another sign is a persecution complex. The way she interprets benign texts as slights against her. Constantly complaining about things their friends have done to her or worse, haven't done FOR her. She'll make you feel like her friends are horrible people. And she'll do the same to you that she claims are being done to her. If you point out the hypocrisy you become the enemy. Bring up the lack of sex? It turns into everything that's wrong with you. Even disagreeing with her opinion on something …
/r/TheRedPill07/04/16 02:25 AM
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Just like rape jokes aren't funny to womyn, consent jokes aren't funny either. Not an overreaction in my opinion.
/r/askTRP06/04/16 06:14 PM
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When I was going through the breakup, I was surprised to find that every single man that I spoke to about it had an almost identical problem either in their current relationship or in the past. It's uncanny. That's what cemented TRP as the truth about women. Too many correlations to ignore.
/r/TheRedPill06/04/16 03:07 PM
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Agreed. She has impressive qualities, but her emotions fail her all the time. It's only since I left that I see how emotionally immature she really is. I no longer take her seriously when it comes to anything emotional. The best part is that I no longer seek her approval. In much the same way that I don't lose sleep over my daughter being mad at me. When I was with her I was like the grandparent who gives in every time a child cries or throws a tantrum.
/r/TheRedPill06/04/16 01:00 AM
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Objectively I'm in a better mental place now. Am I lonely sometimes? Yes. But I felt far more lonely when I was living with her. I've gone through the anger phase, got in a bit of depression recently, but again, I was far more depressed when I felt trapped in a dead bedroom relationship with all the blue pill woes staring me in the face. I feel like I'm emerging from the depression phase now. I've refocused my efforts at work and I'm slowly building a new social life. Overall I'm happier, but I'…
/r/TheRedPill06/04/16 12:53 AM
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Ghost her. Soft next. Go find other women. If she reaches out to you, fine. If not, whatever.
/r/askTRP05/04/16 07:44 PM
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The first thing you need to do is stop giving a fuck about her feigned anger. Anger is one of the most common tools that women use to manipulate men. You're showing her that it's working and she's repulsed by it. I've been there. My ex would get "offended" at anything I said or did (or didn't do) that was different from how she saw things. Being a person who prefers to keep the peace, I would cater to her every time. It led to a vicious cycle which chiseled away at my self-esteem and led to a de…
/r/askTRP05/04/16 07:32 PM
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You're probably right, the truth is that I sensed that something was wrong after about a year of living together, but my own BP conditioning led me to believe that if I tried harder, it would all work out. Took 4 more years to finally realize that it's never going to work out. So yeah, I'm not sure I would have done any better if she was worse than she is. Probably would have been even more charming in the beginning, thus locking me down harder.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/16 07:03 PM
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You're probably right, the truth is that I sensed that something was wrong after about a year of living together, but my own BP conditioning led me to believe that if I tried harder, it would all work out. Took 4 more years to finally realize that it's never going to work out. So yeah, I'm not sure I would have done any better if she was worse than she is. Probably would have been even more charming in the beginning, thus locking me down harder.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/16 07:02 PM
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Actually, although I've only just started to put TRP into practice (I've done enough TRP reading at this point), I've found myself second guessing myself less because I give a little less of a fuck. I'm learning to own my words and just talk. I'm tapping into a mindset that I use when I have to talk in front of a group. I've always found myself able to flow in public speaking scenarios by going into it head first and just allowing my words to come out naturally. I've been slowly incorporating th…
/r/TheRedPill05/04/16 06:15 PM
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Based the research I've done there is a spectrum. Many of these personality disorders such as BPD and NPD exist on a spectrum. Individuals can exhibit tendencies that match all or none of these disorders to varying degrees. I'm not a psychologist, but from what I've gathered, my ex was probably on the lower end of the BPD spectrum. Still enough to drive me insane after 5 years. If she was full blown batshit BPD, I'd probably have recognized it early and saved myself from a world of crap.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/16 01:10 PM
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What's immature and annoying to you may be playful and endearing to others. I'm pretty sure he won't cry if a girl doesn't like it and looks elsewhere. If he had to stop having fun to attract the a girl, what's the point? Those who can't hang can next. I don't think attracting women is a one size fits all affair. To me it's about attracting the girls who fit your personality and lifestyle. Personally I like playful women, so I'm gonna play with them. Those who aren't playful can find someone els…
/r/TheRedPill05/04/16 02:06 AM
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In fairness, from what I've seen, she is a good mother. Although there might be some issues down the road, she's taken very good care of our daughter. She stays by me 3 nights per week, on alternating days so I spend plenty of time with her. It's worked out better than I imagined when I was contemplating moving out. If there's one thing we have in common it's that we both love out daughter very much. I just can't be in a relationship or live with her again. Not good for my mental health.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/16 01:59 AM
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Man. Just get out. If what you're saying is true, you are basically digging a hole that you'll both be trapped in. It won't end well. Just go man. Seriously, leave! Both of you seem to be co-destructing each other. No man should be in that situation.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/16 01:03 AM
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This is true. At least you're doing something. Can't learn to skateboard without a few scraped knees. Keep working on it.
/r/askTRP05/04/16 12:49 AM
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IF you HAVE dated someone with BPD long term, you almost CERTAINLY are also suffering from one or several personality disorders. Typically narcissism with a mild or maybe even full blown codependency disorder. Dude, you are 100% correct. I turned into a codependent. I probably was before to an extent, but on 7 years, I had lost my personality and basically lived to take care of her and make her happy. Even though she knows what I've done for her she simply cannot escape her fucked up thinking. I…
/r/TheRedPill04/04/16 11:45 PM
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My recent ex had me at the end of my rope. After tons of research, I believe that she is on the Bpd spectrum, though thankfully not as overtly crazy as most Bpd women are described. It played out just the way you described. I moved out 5 months ago and since we have a child together, we still interact and sometimes make small talk. Recently, despite being as close to no contact as coparents can be, I've noticed her doing things like offering me food, calling without a real reason to call, etc ov…
/r/TheRedPill04/04/16 11:35 PM
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So you're saying that OP is lying about the success he's had doing what you say not to do?
/r/TheRedPill04/04/16 11:19 PM
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Sounds like you've been doing a good job improving yourself. Why do you want to fuck it up? You know nothing good will come of it. Why isn't that reason enough? What if you go see her and she's NOT okay? What will you do then? Try to save her? How do you think that will turn out? OK what about the other possibility? You see her and she's totally moved on and is happier than ever. Then what? You'll feel shitty and your obsessive thought about her will get worse. Just keep studying and go find som…
/r/askTRP03/04/16 05:03 PM
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Closure is for doors. Women don't benefit from it either.
/r/askTRP03/04/16 04:59 PM
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Personally nI don't think your choice of career nearly as important as how successful you are in it. Most of her impression of you is going to be what you do outside of work. Are you confident, interesting, have cool hobbies? Solid frame and game? If so, you could be an inflatable sex doll tester by trade and still attract women.
/r/askTRP03/04/16 04:56 PM
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The bit about brining her tea is supplicatiing behavior IMO. Just tell her to let u know when she feels well enough to hang out. Then go look for other girls to hang out with. If she does message you, ready for a date, give her one or two dates that you're available and don't change them. If she flakes again, move on.
/r/askTRP03/04/16 04:51 PM
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You know that dick washes out with a little toothpaste right? You're not going to catch penis cooties. Have you ever eaten pussy? If yes, then you and the girls you kiss are even. Just think of pussy and dick cooties fucking in your mouths when u kiss.
/r/askTRP03/04/16 04:44 PM
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Not a software engineer, but a hobbyist programmer turned professional network engineer. If anything TRP has improved my work due to the self-improvement focus advocated here. In terms of the advice on women, no impact on my work because I work with machines. I don't shit where I eat because I'll be damned if I'm going to let a woman distract me from my job, while I'm at said job. I have a certain amount of rank and respect among my subordinates, peers and senior management and I'll be damned if…
/r/askTRP03/04/16 04:32 PM
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I find questions like these annoying. Not that you shouldn't ask, but here's how I think of these kinds of things. Some people benefit from escorts. Some people don't. Right now, all you are to us is some text on a screen. There's no way anybody here can tell you if it will be good for you or not. The best advice I can give you is do it and find out for yourself. If you don't, you'll be asking this kind of question forever without a real answer.
/r/askTRP03/04/16 04:25 PM
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Do you find insecure women attractive? Nobody is attracted to that and it's 100x worse when it's an insecure man. Silly question.
/r/askTRP03/04/16 04:22 PM
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Dude. This is depressing. Just move on. If she does get her shit together and wants you back, it'll be clear in time. Would you rather sit at home and post questions to reddit, constantly wondering if she'll get it together and come back? Or would you rather go out and meet other women and have fun sex with them while you wait? The best part about the second option is that instead of wondering if your Ex is worth it, you'll actually have other girls to compare her to. Then you can decide if YOU …
/r/askTRP03/04/16 04:05 PM
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This is similar to my LTR. She had been with some real assholes in the past. I was the best thing that happened to her, but tingles dried up. All the same shit OP describes about being deprioritized and lack of intimacy, lost feelings, etc ensued. To OP: Move on. Even if you do get back with her, do NOT make that decision until you've spun a few plates at least. That will reduce the oneitis and you'll be able to make a more rational decision. That said, I don't think you'll ever get what you wan…
/r/askTRP03/04/16 03:56 PM
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Whatever makes you sleep at night. Next time respond to the text, set up a date and THEN you might find out more. But right now you're reasoning in your head to justify your fear of engaging this woman.
/r/askTRP03/04/16 03:45 PM
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You are your own worst enemy. Your interpretations of the most benign things is ridiculous. Ordering you to say hi? Lol! You just hamstered your way out of potential pussy for no reason.
/r/askTRP03/04/16 03:42 PM
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What the fuck are you complaining about? She's texting you about meeting up and you're ignoring it. Then you come here and try to hamster that you don't want to enter her frame? Wtf dude? Here is a woman who initiated contact with you after that night. The LEAST you could do is respond and find out where her head space is? Or set up another date. She's literally trying to see you again. And what do you do, stare at the text and complain to reddit. She's not the problem, you are. This is one of t…
/r/askTRP03/04/16 02:35 PM
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This makes a lot of sense to me. In my 5 year long LTR, my gf would criticize me and complain about things that she expected me to do (without telling me). I would sometimes respond by reminding her of all the good I've done for her (A whole lot of sacrifice to make her happy including helping her finish school by paying g for her last semester's tuition, among many other things). She said to me (paraphrased), "You always do that. Say stuff like Look at what I've done for you". As if it was a st…
/r/TheRedPill29/03/16 06:03 PM
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I am also INTP. When I first found this personality test/profile I was amazed that it described my personality so accurately. I'm ok with social interactions, I'm naturally witty when I'm comfortable, but talking to women has always been a problem for me. I analyze too much (classic INTP weakness). I've accepted the fact that I am introverted. I need alone time to recharge, but I'm working on making the most out of my social energy when I have it. Good to see another INTP here. I hear that we ar…
/r/TheRedPill23/03/16 09:57 PM
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I've read the comments here and your responses. I'm no expert, but I'm wondering why you're spending any time with her after that night. She's clearly acting out some weird emotional issue. She's your Ex-Gf right? Keep it that way and find other women to hang out with. Preferably women who actually want to fuck you. I think it was Rollo who wrote something like: It's better to put your time and energy into pursuing a new woman than try getting g an ex back. There's probably a good reason why she…
/r/askTRP22/03/16 10:58 PM
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These days, when I hear a girl say she wants someone intellectual, I interpret it to mean a guy who will sit and talk incessantly about whatever topic she's interested in. Spoiler: Most of those topics are anything but intellectual. Have you ever had a real honest to goodness intellectual conversation with a woman?
/r/askTRP22/03/16 08:37 PM
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I think the correct way to handle it is to stop giving so much of a fuck about it.
/r/askTRP22/03/16 08:34 PM
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The advice here is on point. Even if you're looking for revenge, ignoring her and leaving without an explanation is the best way to get back at her. U just don't get to see her suffer. Don't worry about it. Read the sidebar, channel your anger into lifting.
/r/askTRP22/03/16 08:21 PM
2

A good "Fuck Off" should suffice.
/r/askTRP16/03/16 11:50 PM
2

I call BS. Sure, natural Chad's will slay by just being themselves, but AFCs are also being themselves. And clearly it isn't working. If being yourself was all it took, there would be no need for TRP. Everyone would be getting laid. Obviously some "selves" are more attractive to women than others. If you want to attract women, you need to make yourself into that attractive person, only THEN will being yourself actually get you what you want. All my life I've been adamant about just being myself …
/r/TheRedPill15/03/16 11:54 PM
3

Remember. Just because she feels used doesn't mean you've done ANYTHING wrong. She could feel used because you didn't say "Hi" with enough enthusiasm or fucked her one day without kissing her first. Her feelings are not rooted in reality.
/r/askTRP09/03/16 11:28 PM
14

So true. If her tingles are satisfied, your dick magically grows. When she's mad at you, suddenly you've got a tiny penis. I just ignore the issue. If she enjoys the sex, it doesn't matter. If her vagina is so big that it can't feel my dick, next.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/16 11:03 PM
1

I like to use the popular "Loaded Gun" analogy. All women are capable of cheating, Hypergamy, branch swinging, hamstering, solipsism, etc. These traits manifest to varying degrees in different women. Some are worse than others. What I get out of TRP is the recognition that all women are capable of X. It is in a man's best interest to assume that they are all going to be this way for his own safety. When handling a gun, it's best to assume that the gun is ALWAYS loaded to ensure that you don't ac…
/r/askTRP07/03/16 05:00 PM
2

Anytime I see a women who can't leave their house without makeup it screams low self esteem and insecurity. I don't mind a little touch up some lip gloss, but if a woman isn't comfortable with her own face to the point where she has to paint a new one every time she leave a the house. There's deeper issues at hand.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/16 04:54 PM
3

I think it's the women she's jealous of. Old tired looking chick's simply can't stand young beautiful women. What's worse is that they're fucking men her age. You can feel her hatred toward the young beautiful women he's with. But, as usual, it's the man's fault. He should know better than to fuck hot women.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/16 11:27 PM
2

And when they're mad at you for being an 'asshole' the orbiters are right there to help her dry her tears so she can get back to fucking you.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/16 05:03 PM
1

I see where you're coming from. Crazy is crazy, no matter the notch count. It isn't necessary to obsess over the origin of the crazy. Identify the crazy through their behavior and adjust accordingly.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/16 04:57 PM
15

This list is spot on. Source: My life.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/16 06:53 PM
1

This is what happened in my LTR of 5 years. She simply couldn't stop herself from being a bitch and I couldn't stop myself from being her bitch. Eventually I grew some balls and moved out.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/16 06:14 PM
8

I think the reason women like muscular men isn't just visual. Muscles are a sign of strength. That's why I think women are attracted to in muscular men. Likewise, a non muscular guy with alpha traits also exhibits strength, albeit of the mental kind. This is also attractive. But muscles are much easier to see so it creates a favorable first impression.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 01:24 AM
2

I think the solution is to stop caring about a particular girl thinking of us as creepy. The list of things that are creepy is ever expanding and purely situational and conditional based on her emotional state. There is no way to decipher what actions will label us creepy, so I think it's better to just NGAF.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 02:17 PM
1

"Don't shit where you eat" is the one RP rule that I figured out early in life despite my pathetic BP existence.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 02:03 PM
1

I scored 139 I have no idea if this thing is accurate though.
/r/TheRedPill24/01/16 02:04 AM
9

I agree with you on this. At first, I found some of the comments here overly harsh toward people who were clearly emotionally vulnerable. But in my time here I've learned to appreciate the tough love. Only your friend will tell you your breath stinks. Others will tell everyone but you. I used to be nervous expressing myself here for fear that someone would harshly criticize me for it. But now that I've taken my ego out of it, I appreciate the honesty. I can trust that nobody is going to sugarcoa…
/r/TheRedPill22/01/16 10:02 PM
17

I'm no RP guru, but why not see those loads of other women and leave this one alone. At least go no contact for a while.
/r/askTRP20/01/16 09:44 PM
1

Agreed. I've seen oneitis play out all my life. Now that I'm conscious of it, I have the awareness to avoid it. TRP has really changed my perception, but I know how easy it is to slip back into my BP ways. I will keep your warning in mind.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/16 07:43 PM
1

This part of the OP spoke to me. I've been trying to find ways of getting my confidence up but I'm not sure where to start (yes, I even lift). Internalizing the alpha mindset has been a challenge. This gives me a game plan for starting out that leverages my pre-existing beta game and allows me to integrate RP knowledge as I go. I will keep your warnings in mind though.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/16 04:09 PM
3

This is the best analogy I've read so far to explain why a woman will look for an alpha, then try to tear him down until he's a shell of his former self, then dump him for another alpha.
/r/askTRP17/01/16 04:19 PM
2

I have recently swallowed the pill, so I will speak of TRP as I see it. This is not TRP canon. /s TRP does not require anything. It is not a special club that makes you swipe your anger card to get in. TRP recognises and respects anger as a legitimate emotion and allows men to express it freely without judgement. TRP often refers to the anger phase which many men go through as they learn harsh truths and see how they played out in their lives. Some men will get past their anger and reach an acce…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/16 07:07 AM
3

This. After years of neglect from my girlfriend, I had the talk of all talks, finally put my foot down and told her we're going to counseling to find out if there's hope or if it's hopeless. If things don't change, I have to leave. Things didn't change. The counselor had 3 sessions with us and said he has nothing g to work with and that it would be unethical for him to keep taking our money with the goal of repairing the relationship. I moved out. Ultimatums are ok. Bluffing is not ok.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/16 09:29 PM
0

Thank you. I really appreciate your kind words. I've accepted it all and just conduct myself accordingly. I don't attach a moral value to the word slut. I like being on the naughty side of the moral compass, so I have no problem with a woman who likes sex as much as me. However, I don't pursue slutty women for an LTR for the same reason that I wouldn't invite a virgin to a swinger party. But I very much enjoy their company and value them no less as human beings in more casual sexual relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 06:22 PM
3

Well doesn't that perpetuate the stud narrative even further? If a man hasn't had sex but a certain age, he's socially inadequate but if a woman hasn't had sex, she's described as pure, unspoiled, special for simply NOT having sex. Special virgin is her default state at birth. Hence, having sex implies that she loses some of what makes her so special. She is no longer pure. For she can no longer be a virgin. The more sex she has, the further from this ideal virgin state she goes. A man's default…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 05:52 PM
1

My theory is that since the pill simulates the hormones of pregnancy, women become more attracted to beta traits. Subconsciously looking for a committed beta for her impending child.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 05:33 PM
2

What is the reason why women virgin-shame men?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 05:23 PM
5

Well I'm not angry right now. I'll let you know next time I am. :) I understand you you don't see it as a double standard, but I see angry feminists flinging vitriol at men all the time, then turn around and make any display of anger by man into evidence of his insecurity or immaturity. A mature man gets angry sometimes. Childish men cry instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 05:22 PM
3

I think it stems from basic biology which women all too often want to deny. A man produces more sperm cells in 1 second than a woman will produce eggs in her entire lifetime. We suffer no impairment to our mobility and ability to physically survive as a result of sex. Whereas women carry far more risk and generally can have only one or two children at a time and are physically impaired for the better part of a year. Hence, they instinctively develop stronger commitments as a result. This is why …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 05:06 PM
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I don't need use anyone to justify my anger. If I'm angry there's a good reason for it. I just don't like double standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 04:54 PM
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Anger is a perfectly legitimate and very useful emotion. Why do feminists get to be angry at everything but men's anger makes them children? Stop anger-shaming asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 04:40 PM
1

My point is that women have more agency to prevent the child from being born in the first place. I think both RP and BP can agree that more single mothers isn't a good thing. If there is equal responsibility, there should be equal agency. Yes, both parties can choose not to have sex. But women don't get to blame the man for not using a condom or initiating by "asking" for sex and absolve themselves of their own bad choices. A woman who does not want to have a child out of wedlock cannot be legal…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 05:47 AM
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Why would an RP man want to create a single mother? How is that the best option for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 03:39 AM
1

But I thought "No means NO!" given that she's the one who has to carry the baby for 9 months and possibly be abandoned by the man, she'd take more responsibility for ensuring that pregnancy doesn't happen. Women carry more inherent risk when it comes to pregnancy and they have the full force of the law to say no. Women are the gatekeepers of sex. They have far more agency when it comes to preventing pregnancy than men do besides becoming permanently sterile or abstinent.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 03:33 AM
2

I think women are more likely to consider it "luck" because generally, women don't have to do much but wait for the "right' guy to approach them. The type of guy that approaches them is like the number drawn on the lottery. For men, every opportunity to find someone necessitates a leap of faith and the risk of overt rejection. A guy doesn't go to a bar, sit down and get women approaching them. They have to work for it. Hence, there is a direct correlation between the kinds of women he can date a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 03:08 AM
1

I may have misinterpreted your comment. No issues
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/16 11:10 PM
1

I get what you're saying. And I agree. This is the first time I've done something like this but it's far from ideal for me. I much prefer intimate 1 on 1 sex and I fully intend to pursue it on my own. I'm just in a bit of shock and intrigue at how different a woman's general demeanor and her sexuality can be. If anything, this was like bungee jumping. Dangerous, exciting, fun, novel, but not something one makes a lifestyle. I'm curious about what the three reasons are in your opinion.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 10:54 PM
1

Why is TRP responsible for how certain personality types feel? Especially if those people are NOT the intended audience?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/16 10:03 PM
0

Something that has no problem should be perfectly fine. What would stop it from being perfect if there are literally no problems? I don't see anything in your post that contradicts what I said. But I don't care enough to argue about it. It's your life do what you want. All the best on your red pill journey.
/r/askTRP13/01/16 05:33 PM
2

Why would you want to?
/r/askTRP13/01/16 05:11 PM
-1

You're a 22 year old virgin who freezes when trying to talk to attractive women but your social skills are perfectly fine. Ok dude.
/r/askTRP13/01/16 05:07 PM
1

It is possible for one to be in an LTR having only been official" for a week. The idea is that the people in the relationship consider it a long term relationship. The level of commitment and expected duration are bigger factors than actual time spent when defining an LTR.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 05:56 PM
2

I know where you're coming from. The advice below is sound. I chugged the red pill when I realized that I was miserable and losing my identity in my deadbedroom/BP relationship and broke up with my GF of 5 years. At first, even though I didn't want to be with her, I was obsessed with wanting her to want me back. I'd wonder if she'd found someone else that she actually wanted to fuck, and would stay at home constantly thinking about what she's doing, if she's missing me, etc. We had a brief momen…
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 04:49 PM
2

Great read. I had a similar epiphany recently (made a post about it). While I wasn't the one who initiated the event, it opened my eyes to just how slutty women can be. Instead of being mad about it (as I would be in my BP days), it was a relief to know that women aren't the prudes they pretend to be.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 04:35 PM
10

The key to communication is that your idea is effectively transferred to another person's consciousness. If someone says "Me and my LTR had a baby" is there really that much confusion about what that statement means? If I say I have a girlfriend, does that mean I'm in a platonic relationship with a minor? Pedantic rants over the proper use of LTR, etc don't add much to the overall TRP discussion. Wait. . . Should I have said TRP or RP discussion? Does it really matter?
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 04:19 PM
2

Wow. . . .Is adulthood even a thing anymore?
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 09:43 AM
2

Yeah. Sad but true. All I can do is loot the ship before it finally sinks.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 03:02 PM
7

I live in Kingston. You're right about your observations. It is a very complex culture with many levels. On the one hand there are many Jamaican women who would devote themselves to a kind provider male and fuck him constantly, cook, clean, etc. If they love you (not sure what that really means anymore), they can be remarkably traditional in their gender role. There are several socioeconomic classes in Jamaican society and the lower you go, the more these issues manifest themselves. Bottom line …
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 02:16 AM
16

Tell me about it. Frankly, in out culture, the way we dance isn't such a big deal. A girl will dance with a stranger (grinding on her ass) for a little bit, then move on without interest. Maybe that is evidence of our norms being skewed to the side of promiscuity, but we really don't make much of the dancing, even if it looks like a stripper lap dance to the rest of the world. Outside of that though, all of the social dynamics that are described here are amplified in Jamaica. Women cheat ALOT an…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/16 05:21 PM
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I live in Jamaica and I'm not surprised that we have the highest rate of female porn viewing. Jamaica could be a case study in Hypergamy run amok. Check my recent post for a bit of perspective on what some Jamaican women are capable of.
/r/TheRedPill10/01/16 02:30 PM
1

Good post. I am newly unplugged myself and I find that most of the field reports here are about successful interactions and don't really show the painful failures or awkward moments that are part of the journey. Congrats for stepping out of your comfort zone and putting yourself out there. I have a lot to learn socially as well. I'm a naturally witty, jovial person among familiar people but can't seem to shake the anxiety of meeting new people, women especially. The part of your report that I di…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/16 02:14 PM
3

Truth be told, I'm the wrong guy to ask about LTR right now. There are far more qualified contributors here that know what they're talking about. I'm still newly unplugged and my LTR track record is shit. This is just my observation having seen the grass on the other side. I might pursue an LTR again in the future, but it's too soon for me to have any sound wisdom in that area.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 11:12 PM
1

Sorry if it came across like that. Just wanted to convey the scene to anchor my conclusions about AWALT.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 11:10 PM
5

Sure feels good to be desired for earth shattering sex though. . . Especially after you've spent years begging for the privilege of giving your woman the same pleasures maybe once every month or two with no reciprocation and have it regarded as as an unwelcomed chore. I've lived the BB side and sampled the AF side. Guess what. . . AF is more fun for everyone involved.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 08:04 PM
6

Yup. He plans to "implement dread" while committing the rest of his life to her. His hamster has been lifting way more than he has.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 06:36 PM
13

I'm probably wrong, but I always thought MGTOW was about opting out of investing/committing to women, with un-committed sex as an option. I think they serve a valuable part of the greater Manosphere as there are many parallels between the MGTOW philosophy regarding the nature of women and TRP. I guess they choose to adjust to the reality of gender relations differently.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 06:12 PM
6

You're absolutely right. I'm not under the impression that the affection was truly loving, but whatever her motivation was, it manifested in a very sensual way. Maybe I should have worded it better. This isn't me pedestalizing a slut as much as it is a shocking, yet intriguing glimpse into female sexuality. Women can be alot of fun if they have tingles. The key for me is learning how to generate them. Would I get into an LTR with a woman like this? Hell no. If anything, this has made me less kee…
/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 04:02 PM
2

Wow, this is some eye opening shit right here: But if I am not attractive to her, how will I be attractive to others? I felt the same way before breaking off my relationship that was a CLEAR case of loss of attraction. I felt the same way you do now and was really scared to be alone. But I knew that the changes that I had to make and that she had to make to fix our problems could NOT be done while we were in the relationship. So I left her having not had sex in 6 months. Within 2 weeks of moving…
/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 03:09 PM
2

I said the same thing in OP's previous post. Deep down he gets off on being humiliated by his fiance and by the men here on TRP just the same. He even started a new post to receive more scathing criticism.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 02:35 PM
1

This. I've seen it with my own eyes.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 07:39 PM
1

Funny thing is, she's openly stated that she's a whore. This guy is gonna be posting home made cuckold videos of his beautiful slutwife (but only if he starts making enough money for her to stay in the first place.)
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 07:27 PM
2

And here OP is about to hand over the rest of his life in commitment to a woman who is ALREADY withholding sex. OP, you're doing it wrong. If you're going to make the mistake of getting married, you're supposed to be getting married when it's still good. Not when its already gone to shit. I envy your youth and the HUGE favour your fiance gave you by saying such unbelievably heartless things. She has to be the dumbest woman in the world to just lay it out like that (more money more sex). But then…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 07:19 PM
2

You are being emotionally abused and suffering from something like Stockholm syndrome. I guarantee you that all the pain of a breakup today will pale in comparison to the pain of infidelity, divorce and self loathing that will happen when she eventually divorces you and leaves you destitute. Next request after marriage...... Children. Oh boy. . . That's when the shit's gonna get REAL! Right now you actually have the gift of CHOICE. You will never have the opportunity to choose again without A SH…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 07:02 PM
1

Been there. Have the porn addiction to prove it. I just installed a porn blocker last week and haven't indulged since. It's difficult but it's getting easier.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 06:38 PM
6

I just went through an extremely difficult breakup. I had been with my ex for 7 years, 5 of those years we lived together and we have a 3 year old child. Within a year of first moving in, I knew something was wrong with the sex life. 4 years of denial later I had to walk away from everything we had built together, destroy the family I put all my self-worth into and walk away from my one and only child (I still get to see her on a fairly regular basis, but it absolutely crushed me to no longer li…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 06:15 PM
2

Absolutely this. When I discovered RP a few months ago, I was in a bad breakup of a 5-year cohabitation which sounds eerily similar to the one OP describes. She was naturally more aggressive than I am, but in my BP state there was no way I would be able to rise above my current submissive state and surpass her dominant mindset while living in the situation. As hurtful as it was I made the decision to break my own heart and move the fuck out. In an epiphany of rationality I knew that there would …
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 05:53 PM
1

This is something I've started to figure out in my short time on TRP. But this comment really brought it home for me. I've always struggled to motivate myself to do these little things, but I've improved greatly since taking the pill. Thanks for writing this.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/15 06:24 AM
17

Speaking as a newbie who swallowed the pill about 3 months ago, lifting has had more than just physical benefits. The mental aspects of lifting are often overlooked. I started stronglifts 9 weeks ago and besides changes in my body and better posture, the boost in confidence caught me off guard. I found myself suddenly more talkative and engaged at work. Far less awkward in new social interactions. I'm still anxious when it comes to talking to attractive women, but I can feel it slowly fading. Fu…
/r/TheRedPill30/12/15 02:10 PM
1

I can confirm. Lived in a dead bedroom for 3 of 5 years with my GF. I had to go nuclear and move out. Was offered sex a week after the move. I refused because by my logic, if this is what it takes to have sex with my woman, it's simply not worth it. It's like the reverse of the sunken cost fallacy. If I have to go nuclear to get her to make an effort to fix the relationship, we'd be fucking amidst radioactive rubble. Not healthy.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/15 09:28 PM
13

Regarding the bit about exercising the mind: Chess is a fantastic mental sport that will sharpen your mind. I've found that studying and playing chess has improved my mental acuity in much the same way as lifting has improved my physical strength.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/15 03:28 AM
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